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Speaker 1: be negative, but a distraction can be positive. Hey, everyone,

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Speaker 1: welcome back to Our Purpose, the number one health podcast

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Speaker 1: in the world, where we're talking about your personal, emotional, psychological, physical,

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Speaker 1: and financial health. And I love diving into different topics

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Speaker 1: with research, science, practical takeaways, and real insights that you

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Speaker 1: can start to create an impact in your daily life.

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Speaker 1: I take you on a journey through stories, through science,

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Speaker 1: through strategies, and through steps that you can start applying

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Speaker 1: right away. Thank you so much for being here. I

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Speaker 1: love expressing my gratitude to you because I remember when

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Speaker 1: I used to do events and maybe five people would

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Speaker 1: much joy. And I appreciate each and every one of

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Speaker 1: you because you are helping me live my purpose and

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Speaker 1: I hope I'm helping you live yours as well. Now,

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Speaker 1: one of the things that gets in the way of

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Speaker 1: the things that disturbs our relationships, our productivity, our effectiveness,

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Speaker 1: life is distractions. We talk a lot today about the

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Speaker 1: importance of presence, the importance of actually being where we are,

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Speaker 1: who we're with, and what we're talking about. But the

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Speaker 1: distractions study show that seventy to ninety nine percent of

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Speaker 1: Study show that we have around fifty six disruptions per day,

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Speaker 1: and what are some of our biggest distractions? Fifty five

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Speaker 1: these distractions, and psychology shows that there are a few

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Speaker 1: types of distraction. The first is a distraction that is

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Speaker 1: caused by your own mind. This is a Vedic idea

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Speaker 1: I said this years ago. My biggest realization around this

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Speaker 1: is that the real cure to distraction is not focused

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Speaker 1: or productivity or efficiency. It's attraction. When you're attracted to something,

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Speaker 1: you can't be distracted from it. If you've ever seen

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Speaker 1: someone that you're attracted to, no matter how many people

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Speaker 1: walk in the way, no matter how far they are.

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Speaker 1: You're just glued to that person, right. You know what

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Speaker 1: that feels like. When you're attracted to something, you can't

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Speaker 1: take your eyes off that person. It's a beautiful experience

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Speaker 1: that we all have. You can't be distracted when you're attracted. Right,

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Speaker 1: When you're attracted to someone, you're not distracted by what

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Speaker 1: else is going on around you. Just glue to them.

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Speaker 1: Even if there's a conversation, you can't hear it. If

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Speaker 1: someone is saying something really mean to you won't be

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Speaker 1: able to hear it because you're so fixated. We're looking

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Speaker 1: for fixation in our work. When you feel you're too distracted,

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Speaker 1: ask yourself, how can I become more attracted to this

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Speaker 1: What do I need to do? How do I need

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Speaker 1: to think about this task to become more attracted to it.

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Speaker 1: I'll give an example. You can convince yourself either through

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Speaker 1: the opportunity you're getting. You can convince you convince yourself

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Speaker 1: through the financial gain. You can convince yourself through the

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Speaker 1: purpose and the meaning behind the task you're doing. Don't

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Speaker 1: give up. Keep looking for attraction, and slowly but surely,

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Speaker 1: you will overcome distraction. I wish you all the best

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Speaker 1: on this journey. I'm sending you so much love makes

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Speaker 1: you Tag me on Instagram with your biggest takeaways from

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Speaker 1: this episode, the biggest headlines, the biggest statements that connect

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Speaker 1: with you, the practices that you're going to employ this week,

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Speaker 1: And I'll see you again next week. Thanks for joining me, Lee,