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Speaker 1: My wife tried to cover it up, but I just

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Speaker 1: found out I have a kid with another woman.

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Speaker 2: Okayop, this is OKAYOP.

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Speaker 3: I'm Samuel Donner and I'm John Fry and we tell

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Speaker 3: the funniest stories on the internet.

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Speaker 1: Sam, if you randomly had a child out there in

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Speaker 1: the world, how would you feel about, uh, the bang?

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Speaker 3: I would feel starting off with a bang, that's probably

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Speaker 3: how the kid came into being. I would feel weird.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I would feel like a little maybe a little scared.

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Speaker 3: I would definitely want to know.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, but lots of like terrible, strange, insane emotions

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Speaker 1: would run through.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I honestly don't know exactly how i'd act, but

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Speaker 3: I would be concerned at the very least about resolving it,

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Speaker 3: and like want to talk to whoever is bearing that child,

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Speaker 3: maybe meet the kid. The little Sam's run around the world.

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Speaker 1: Oh man, well today we have someone who's in that scenario.

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Speaker 2: But dare I say almost ten times worse ten times?

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Speaker 2: Let's yeah, it's pretty bad.

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Speaker 1: My wife tried to cover it up, but I just

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Speaker 1: found out I have a kid with another woman.

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Speaker 3: Wait another woman, Wait, another woman other than your wife.

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Speaker 3: And you didn't know about it.

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Speaker 2: That's right, and the wife tried to cover it up.

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Speaker 1: I'm confused. Let's hear it, let's do it. It's been almost

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Speaker 1: two weeks since I found out. We've done the tests

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Speaker 1: and the kid is mine. My exit sent a message

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Speaker 1: to me a couple weeks before giving birth telling me

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Speaker 1: about everything. But my then girlfriend and present wife saw

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Speaker 1: the message that my ex sent me, deleted it and

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Speaker 1: blocked her.

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Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, that wife is nothing but strife.

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Speaker 2: It's divorce. It's insane.

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Speaker 1: And apparently his now wife did all this without fully

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Speaker 3: Wow, bruh that I've said, Uh, yeah, that's that's suspicious.

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Speaker 2: Very suspicious.

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Speaker 1: The ex took this as me not wanting to be

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, for five freaking years. Five years we

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Speaker 1: My daughter is turning five in a month and I

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Speaker 1: haven't even him met her yet. Every time I think

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Speaker 1: about how much I've missed out on, I just lose it.

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Speaker 1: I know I must focused on what I've gained instead

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Speaker 1: of what I've lost, but it is freaking hard.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I can imagine. I mean, you just found out

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Speaker 3: you have a daughter. Yeah, that's insane. It's taken me

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Speaker 1: Don't even get me started on what my ex had

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Speaker 1: to go through and the desperation to reach out to

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 3: Wait, so the reason that he's finding out now is

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Speaker 3: because his ex reached out to his mother. It's like, hey,

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Speaker 3: I need help caring for this baby, and his mother's like,

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Speaker 3: wait what my son has a baby?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and apparently there's a there's some beef.

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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah yeah, mother in law beefeah never good, always there.

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Speaker 1: My now wife says she's remorseful for deleting the message,

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Speaker 1: that she was just very immature at the time and

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Speaker 3: I don't know if I completely believe that the wife

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Speaker 2: Yeah, why did you block her suspect? I don't know.

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Speaker 1: We'll we'll see what the how the story ends. But hmm,

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Speaker 1: I've never loved anyone more than my current wife. She

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Speaker 1: supported me through so much. I believe that she actually

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Speaker 1: feels bad and does regret it, But she's been pregnant

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Speaker 1: twenty one weeks with our first child together. So he's

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Speaker 1: oh no, now pregnant with another child trouble. We're currently

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Speaker 1: know how we'll move.

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Speaker 2: Forward after this. Yeah, I don't know either man's that's tough, sitch.

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Speaker 1: And to further elaborate, I found out through my mother

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Speaker 1: after my ex contacted.

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Speaker 2: Her about the daughter about how I go to her.

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Speaker 1: I was talking to my wife about this and then

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Speaker 1: she ended up infessing deleting and blocking it. So insane situation, but.

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Speaker 3: Woo so so she did confess to reading and deleting

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Speaker 2: Yes, so she read that. She read the text about she.

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Speaker 1: Confessed to deleting and blocking it, but allegedly didn't read it.

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Speaker 3: She deletes the text blocks her b to delete that text.

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Speaker 3: You have to know what contain Come.

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Speaker 1: On, Like, if someone sends you a text and you

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Speaker 1: know for something arbitrary? Is someone going to is your

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Speaker 3: Yeah, now that that seems your wife is lying to you. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: she ain't the one.

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Speaker 2: But there is an update.

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Speaker 1: Got some messages asking for updates since the post got

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Speaker 1: so much attention, so I thought i'd share it publicly.

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Speaker 2: Okay, let's hear it. Long story short.

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Speaker 1: I met with my ex last week just to properly

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Speaker 3: Now, Wow, I mean, there's so much explaining to do

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Speaker 3: or is there It's like, yo, my wife deleted the text.

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Speaker 2: I didn't see it.

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Speaker 1: It's it's it's a hard, very hard conversation to happen.

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Speaker 1: You know, he's never met his daughter, like I mean.

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Speaker 3: But like didn't like wouldn't the girlfriend have thought like maybe,

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Speaker 2: To the house five years? Yeah, it is a long time.

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Speaker 3: I would if if I was, if I was pregnant

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Speaker 3: with my ex lover's kid, I would be like, Yo,

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Speaker 3: I'm coming to your house. Yeah, like there's a banker

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Speaker 3: that is ours.

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Speaker 1: Our chat did not end up being productive and mostly

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Speaker 1: filled with awkward silences and a few miniature arguments. Towards

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Speaker 1: be seeking full custody of our daughter with no visitation,

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Speaker 1: as well as suing me for back child support and

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Speaker 1: getting me on future child support.

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Speaker 2: So that was fun.

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Speaker 3: What So he goes and is like, yo, like, I

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Speaker 3: am so sorry. I want to make things right, and

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Speaker 3: she's like, you're not seeing this kid. You're paying child

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Speaker 2: It's definitely fishy.

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Speaker 1: Like also like why wouldn't she press those charges earlier

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Speaker 1: in the five years? But also at the same time,

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Speaker 1: if I'm in her shoes, I'm like, I'm mad.

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Speaker 2: I'm mad, dude.

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Speaker 1: And the ex explanation of like my wife deleted it

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: So the wife didn't read it and then she deleted

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Speaker 2: What, Yeah, I don't get it. I don't get it.

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Speaker 1: To be clear, I was always planning to provide more

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Speaker 1: really don't know how any of this works, but I

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Speaker 1: it could have just been a threat, but she seemed serious. Regardless,

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Speaker 1: I decided to find myself a lawyer to help me

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Speaker 1: instead of just waiting around, and eventually got linked with

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Speaker 1: which I guess is great. Okay, my wife and I

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Speaker 1: but my wife's pastor offered to provide marriage counseling for us.

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Speaker 1: We only had two sessions before the family drama spilled

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Speaker 1: and broke out and we had to put a temporary

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Speaker 1: pause on the counseling.

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Speaker 3: Oh wait, it's lasted like a couple of sessions, and

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Speaker 3: the pastor's like, Yo, this shit's so crazy, I gotta

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Speaker 3: step back.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if the pastor said that, but basically,

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Speaker 1: like I think it was. Oh maybe it was the pastor,

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Speaker 1: but it basically whoever decided to call it off, things

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Speaker 1: the thing about my wife to leading the messages leaked

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Speaker 1: led to my wife getting very uncivil messages from a

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Speaker 3: My love may be deserved, maybe deserved, maybe deserved, but

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Speaker 3: who's leaking it is the pastor?

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Speaker 2: Like talking shit spreading that hot gossip, that hot tea.

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Speaker 2: Did you hear what's going?

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Speaker 1: My lovely older sister also decided to add to the

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Speaker 1: fire by posting this publicly on her Facebook.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, gotta love the Facebook family members.

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Speaker 3: Oh god, Facebook family is the worst parts of your family.

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Speaker 2: I'm good.

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Speaker 1: My wife has locked herself at home and is taking

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Speaker 1: distanced themselves from her. Yeah, I mean, you kind of

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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, maybe out of her break or because you're pregnant,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it sucks.

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Speaker 1: I'm actually quite worried about it, but at least her

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Speaker 1: When I'm not thinking about my five year old daughter,

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking about my ex. When I'm not thinking about

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Speaker 1: I'm not thinking about that, I'm thinking about my marriage

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Speaker 1: and the pregnancy with my unborn child. Man has a

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Speaker 2: So it's been a really terrible week to say the least.

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Speaker 3: I can imagine finding it hard to maintain. Way this

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Speaker 3: has only been a week. This is all within a while.

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Speaker 2: Oh my God's life is no.

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Speaker 1: I'm finding it hard to maintain optimism and excitement from

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Speaker 1: a way to vent so sorry about that. I probably

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Speaker 1: won't give another update in the future unless there's any

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Speaker 1: good news, So just thanks for the support.

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Speaker 2: Man, that is intense.

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Speaker 3: I guess like it's gonna be really hard to move

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Speaker 3: past that thing with your wife. I would definitely get

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Speaker 2: All right, what wait?

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Speaker 3: Don't tell your family to stop just like air and

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Speaker 3: all the dirty laundry out in the open.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and your pastor.

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Speaker 3: Don't talk to your pastor about these family issues too. Three,

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Speaker 3: your wife and you have to have some really hard conversations.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if that's something y'all can move past.

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Speaker 3: It seems like a major character flaw and now I'm wondering, like,

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Speaker 3: what else has she kept from you? And then three

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Speaker 3: with the ex girlfriend. Make sure you're legally prepared for

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Speaker 3: anything that she might throw at you, because again, it

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