WEBVTT - Quarantine: A Love Story 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:06.439 Hell I Suck At Dating with Meungler and ar Radio podcast. 0:00:09.000 --> 0:00:11.640 All right, what is up, suck Army. We're all back 0:00:11.880 --> 0:00:14.800 with a brand new episode of Help I Suck At Dating, 0:00:14.840 --> 0:00:18.160 a very special episode for everyone because Jared is gone 0:00:18.320 --> 0:00:22.120 and we have two very special co hosts, Tommy Dorfman 0:00:22.239 --> 0:00:25.079 and Rainy Quality. Is it quality? I'm going to mispronounce 0:00:25.160 --> 0:00:29.000 that anyways. They're from the new hit show Love in 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:32.239 the Time of Corona. And who better to help co 0:00:32.360 --> 0:00:34.839 host this episode of Help I Suck At Dating than 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:37.800 these two because I've only seen episode one, you guys, 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:39.559 but I can tell there is a little bit of 0:00:39.800 --> 0:00:43.919 romantic tension between the two of you. Uh but if 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:45.840 you guys could just take a second and introduce yourselves 0:00:45.880 --> 0:00:50.840 to our listeners, would be awesome. Everybody. I'm Tommy Dorfman. Hey, everybody, 0:00:50.880 --> 0:00:53.920 I'm Ratty Quality. There we go, There we go. So 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:56.120 so for the listeners, when you hear the voices that 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:58.120 correspond to those names, you know he you're listening to. 0:00:58.280 --> 0:01:01.560 But Tommy, Rainy, you guys both start in this new show, 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:03.360 Love in the Time of Corona, And I think it's 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:06.280 pretty cool because we were talking about this off here 0:01:06.319 --> 0:01:08.559 a little bit. But this seems to me at least 0:01:08.560 --> 0:01:11.360 like the first show that was like conceptualized in the 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:13.880 midst of the pandemic and is now being aired. So 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:17.200 it's like it was it was ideated and then created 0:01:17.240 --> 0:01:19.280 and now being aired for us through the midst of 0:01:19.319 --> 0:01:21.680 this pandemic um and so it's got like a very 0:01:22.200 --> 0:01:26.240 fresh perspective for us. And there's like some weird filming 0:01:26.280 --> 0:01:28.160 tricks that you guys used for this, right, Like you 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:30.880 didn't really have filming crews. Well, first of all, it 0:01:30.959 --> 0:01:34.600 was actually filmed in your your house, your apartment, yes, 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:37.280 and then in yours Because you guys are are you 0:01:37.319 --> 0:01:40.480 guys quarantined together or were you quarantining for the duration 0:01:40.520 --> 0:01:42.959 of like the show was filming, we were in the 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:49.360 same quarantine quarantine yeah, yeah, clean up. I mean ever 0:01:49.440 --> 0:01:52.640 since I guess quarantine started, we've been we had like 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:54.400 a small group of friends, we're all hanging out, and 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:58.440 then when this came up, we had already been quarantined 0:01:58.480 --> 0:02:00.680 together and actually stayed at Tommy's why we were shooting. 0:02:00.720 --> 0:02:03.880 So yeah, we've been together this full time. And that's 0:02:03.960 --> 0:02:05.840 that must have been super interesting for you guys, right, 0:02:05.840 --> 0:02:08.040 because you guys have both acted in many other things before, 0:02:08.080 --> 0:02:10.920 and this was the first one where it's like you're 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:14.320 acting from your home essentially, right, Like that must have 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:17.240 been pretty strange. Yeah, it was super weird. I never 0:02:18.000 --> 0:02:20.640 I don't really like strangers in my house, so it 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:24.600 was quite a leap of faith to let UM viewers 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:28.880 into my house. But I guess because it wasn't it's 0:02:28.919 --> 0:02:33.079 not a reality show. Um, it's scripted, and I could 0:02:33.160 --> 0:02:37.160 hide all the things I wanted to hide. Give give 0:02:37.240 --> 0:02:40.720 us an example, what did you want to hide? Like, 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:43.280 I'm just kidding, I actually don't have any sex toys. Um. 0:02:43.840 --> 0:02:46.040 Saddest is that I had to hide my dogs because 0:02:46.080 --> 0:02:49.040 they just would not have cooperated with us. So what 0:02:49.080 --> 0:02:50.400 did you with them? You just put them in another 0:02:50.480 --> 0:02:54.480 room or something, or I put they went to summer camp. Okay, 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:56.720 they went to dogy camp. Did they come back a 0:02:56.760 --> 0:03:01.320 little bit more obedient? Yeah? They learned place. Okay, that's good. 0:03:01.720 --> 0:03:04.280 One trick is good enough, I think, right. Yeah, you know, 0:03:04.400 --> 0:03:07.480 you can't buy it off too much. You know, Rainy, 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:09.360 how is it for you? Because it wasn't necessarily your 0:03:09.400 --> 0:03:10.760 apartment that you were in, But I guess it was 0:03:10.760 --> 0:03:14.360 still I'm sure, a bit of a shift. Yeah, I 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:19.640 mean for me it was pretty nice because well, we 0:03:19.639 --> 0:03:22.000 were shooting we only we don't We shot all four 0:03:22.040 --> 0:03:24.680 episodes in three or four days, so it was a 0:03:24.720 --> 0:03:30.680 lot heavy workload, and it was really convenient staying at 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:35.720 Tommy's place. Yeah, there's like an extra apartment and Tommy's house, 0:03:35.800 --> 0:03:38.839 so I was staying down there and we'd run lines 0:03:38.880 --> 0:03:42.520 at night and go to sleep and wake up and 0:03:43.000 --> 0:03:44.920 make coffee there and then just work all day and 0:03:45.120 --> 0:03:48.040 kind of it was great to do scenes just in 0:03:48.120 --> 0:03:51.160 my bed. Yeah, I can't really imagine. All right, I've 0:03:51.200 --> 0:03:52.880 got a question for you guys, so and and don't 0:03:52.920 --> 0:03:54.760 spoil anything for me because I've only seen the first 0:03:54.800 --> 0:03:56.720 episode and Caitlin and I are going to binge the 0:03:57.000 --> 0:04:00.520 next three over the next couple of days. But this, uh, 0:04:00.600 --> 0:04:02.800 the shower guy, like the hot shower guy as you 0:04:02.840 --> 0:04:05.480 call them in episode one? Is he actually a neighbor 0:04:05.600 --> 0:04:08.280 or is he someone that you just knew that was 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:11.120 hot and you wanted to have in the show. That's 0:04:11.240 --> 0:04:15.080 I think based off of There are two guys who 0:04:15.080 --> 0:04:18.560 are actually writer director duo and they live below me 0:04:18.839 --> 0:04:22.640 in Los Fields, and they shower naked outside where they 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:25.200 rigged this hose, and I think I told Joanna about it, 0:04:25.240 --> 0:04:27.520 and she was like, oh, that's a funny idea. Let's 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:30.280 have a hot shower, hot naked shower guy. But they 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:34.080 wouldn't let us use their yard for filming, so we 0:04:34.200 --> 0:04:37.560 they rigged a shower in my courtyard. Um, and we 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:41.080 didn't ever really get to like meet that actor necessarily. 0:04:41.080 --> 0:04:42.800 It was just like acting from like a very big 0:04:42.839 --> 0:04:47.400 distance yea, like a random neighbor that they put into 0:04:47.400 --> 0:04:52.400 the show. No, I think he's another one of Joanna's shows, 0:04:52.920 --> 0:04:54.599 Got You, Got You. That was my main question was 0:04:54.640 --> 0:04:56.440 it could have just been some random shower guy. You're like, 0:04:56.440 --> 0:04:58.320 you know what, he's hot, Let's incorporate him into the 0:04:58.320 --> 0:05:01.200 show somehow. That would have been king. It would have been. 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:02.599 It would have been and I wouldn't have hated it 0:05:02.600 --> 0:05:05.240 too perfectly honest. Um. So in the first episode, we 0:05:05.320 --> 0:05:09.839 see that you guys are like basically bfs, right, and 0:05:10.279 --> 0:05:12.599 you guys, as many people in the midst of this 0:05:12.640 --> 0:05:14.880 pandemic are you start talking about like, well, how are 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:16.400 we going to meet someone? How are we gonna start 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:20.200 dating people? And I'm glad that we saught escalate quickly 0:05:20.279 --> 0:05:21.680 enough to the point where you guys were already doing 0:05:21.680 --> 0:05:23.800 with the Skype dates and everything too, because a lot 0:05:23.839 --> 0:05:25.160 of shows would have like draged that out over a 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:27.039 couple episodes, but we got right to it with you guys, 0:05:27.160 --> 0:05:30.880 and the skype dates were honestly pretty spot on, which 0:05:30.880 --> 0:05:32.560 is what I could, I think, what people can expect 0:05:32.640 --> 0:05:35.320 with Skype dates during all this kind of stuff. Um. 0:05:35.360 --> 0:05:38.880 But then what I found really interesting was that Rainy, 0:05:38.920 --> 0:05:42.599 your character, l right, was kind of throwing some some 0:05:42.600 --> 0:05:44.800 some sex eyes over at Oscar in the middle of 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:46.839 the bathtub. So I'm excited to see how that whole 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:49.560 relationship escalates a little bit, and I think that something's 0:05:49.560 --> 0:05:51.320 going to happen between the two of you. But again, 0:05:51.360 --> 0:05:52.880 don't spoil anything for me, but tell me what we 0:05:52.960 --> 0:05:57.760 might be able to expect with that difficult deciposed to 0:05:57.839 --> 0:06:05.400 not don't mean for my person, what's going to happen? Right, Okay, Like, 0:06:05.480 --> 0:06:08.479 if you're a person stuck in a house with someone 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:13.120 else who you love deeply as a friend, there's potential, 0:06:13.200 --> 0:06:16.080 especially if that person looks like Rainy, not I mean 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:17.839 even if they didn't look like Rainy, but especially like 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:22.039 I mean Rainy's my most beautiful friend. Um, things might 0:06:22.040 --> 0:06:25.760 go down. I mean, let's be honest, both of you 0:06:25.800 --> 0:06:28.760 guys are hot, so I think I think you have 0:06:28.839 --> 0:06:31.040 to you have to at least be willing to admit that, right, 0:06:31.080 --> 0:06:34.440 But yeah, I could see like, like what is does 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:35.880 this relate to your real life? But all I guess 0:06:35.920 --> 0:06:38.359 it's the question like are you guys quarantined with a 0:06:38.360 --> 0:06:41.880 significant other or are you skype dating people? Are you 0:06:42.279 --> 0:06:45.039 in this weird romantic fling thing with your roommates? What's 0:06:45.040 --> 0:06:49.760 going on? I mean, we did not have sex, but 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:52.280 I'm in an open marriage and I haven't gotten to 0:06:52.320 --> 0:06:54.520 have sex with anybody other than my husband this whole time. 0:06:54.520 --> 0:06:58.960 And that's been okay, that's been a bummer. And you're 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:02.320 pretty open about that. We talked about open relationships in 0:07:02.320 --> 0:07:06.920 the past on this podcast, and I guess I'm I'm 0:07:07.000 --> 0:07:09.240 kind of curious to hear more from your perspectivebout that 0:07:09.240 --> 0:07:11.000 if you willing to share about it, because it's like 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:14.680 it's it's it's an interesting thing to talk about, especially 0:07:14.800 --> 0:07:19.360 when it's um like a head or head sexual relationship. 0:07:19.360 --> 0:07:20.400 I feel like it might be a little bit more 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:23.240 challenging for for whatever reason. But how did you and 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:26.360 your husband have that conversation like about having an open relationship? 0:07:27.360 --> 0:07:29.560 Bestly just super young when we met, and I think 0:07:29.600 --> 0:07:32.080 we both were on the same page that you know, 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:35.160 we definitely wanted to spend our lives together in some capacity. 0:07:35.240 --> 0:07:38.880 But like sex can be separated from the sort of 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:41.880 emotional connection of love. And it's not to say that 0:07:41.960 --> 0:07:45.840 like we have emotionless sex with people they think it's 0:07:45.840 --> 0:07:48.560 always kind of emotional in some level. But there's definitely 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:50.440 a distinction to be made for me at least and 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:55.200 for him, um, between sort of you know, having a 0:07:55.200 --> 0:07:58.200 relationship with somebody else and just having like a sexual 0:07:58.480 --> 0:08:01.160 friendship with somebody else. Right, I guess there's gotta be 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:03.880 a clear distinction. Is there like a lot of the 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:06.920 sort of like burden off of each other to be 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:10.040 our only to be everything for one another, So there's 0:08:10.080 --> 0:08:13.440 there's more freedom there, and we don't hold each other 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:17.440 to such high expectations, right, Right? Is there any uh 0:08:17.560 --> 0:08:20.240 similarities between you and Oscar? Because Oscar in the show 0:08:20.280 --> 0:08:22.880 says that, uh, you know, I guess l always thought 0:08:22.880 --> 0:08:24.400 that he was only interested in men, but then she 0:08:24.480 --> 0:08:26.200 comes to find out that he might be interested in 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:30.640 women as well, So I think I think they're trying. Yeah, 0:08:30.680 --> 0:08:32.600 I think there's some similarities there because I've had some 0:08:32.679 --> 0:08:35.440 questioning things myself. But on the other side of things, 0:08:35.480 --> 0:08:38.240 like as you'll see throughout the show, Oscar turned Oscar 0:08:38.520 --> 0:08:41.480 is not a super trusting person and just sort of 0:08:41.480 --> 0:08:44.840 a jealous person, and I'm of those things when it 0:08:44.880 --> 0:08:47.960 comes to relationships. I'm pretty like, go do whatever you 0:08:47.960 --> 0:08:49.880 want to do and like come back home to me 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:54.640 and we're good. Yeah, Rainy, have you an open relationship? No, 0:08:55.120 --> 0:09:02.560 I am much too like jealous and possessive relationships. How, Rainy, 0:09:02.600 --> 0:09:04.400 how is dating for You've been in quarantine or do 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:07.560 you have a partner as well? Um, I don't have 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:14.360 a partner. There have been like some quarantine plings, I guess, 0:09:14.520 --> 0:09:20.360 but nothing nothing curious. You haven't had any superhero quizzes yet? 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:24.080 Superhero quiz? Yeah, you have a superhero. The guy's like 0:09:24.080 --> 0:09:26.160 trying to proposition you need to take a superhero quiz 0:09:26.160 --> 0:09:32.960 in the first episode. No, Um, I haven't kind of 0:09:32.960 --> 0:09:35.440 funny that you guys are on uh separate sides of 0:09:35.440 --> 0:09:37.400 the spectrum in a sense, I don't know which one 0:09:37.480 --> 0:09:40.960 is better. Work So I have my girlfriend Kalin, and 0:09:41.120 --> 0:09:44.480 we've been obviously quarantined since back in February, and it's 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:45.719 kind of one of those things where it's like you 0:09:45.760 --> 0:09:48.240 spend so much time in such a confined space with 0:09:48.280 --> 0:09:50.520 the other person that you almost kind of wish you 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:52.920 could just like have more alone time or like get 0:09:52.960 --> 0:09:54.520 away from them for a little bit, you know, in 0:09:54.559 --> 0:09:57.720 certain sense. But also if you're like alone during these times, 0:09:57.720 --> 0:09:59.080 it might be one of those cases we're like I 0:09:59.120 --> 0:10:01.040 just need some social interaction, you know what I mean. 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:02.480 So it's kind of like the grass is always greener. 0:10:02.520 --> 0:10:07.840 I feel like, for sure I finally left you finally, 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:09.880 Like just what went for a walk or what? No, 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:14.240 I'm in Montana? Oh yeah, I like I went far 0:10:15.800 --> 0:10:17.560 just just to get away for a little bit or 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:19.760 what was the reason? Yeah, I just needed a break 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:23.120 from the house. And also I think from my husband, 0:10:23.559 --> 0:10:27.280 like I love him. That's a long time sweet peet, 0:10:28.080 --> 0:10:30.240 and sweet Pep needs a break from me. I'm so annoying. 0:10:30.280 --> 0:10:32.719 Oh my god, Yeah, that's so funny that you say 0:10:32.760 --> 0:10:34.600 that we're my girlfriend and I are about to take 0:10:34.640 --> 0:10:37.000 our first big break since quarantine started, and we were 0:10:37.040 --> 0:10:39.240 like even to her I was like, dude, you should 0:10:39.240 --> 0:10:40.559 be so excited to get away from you for a 0:10:40.600 --> 0:10:42.240 little bit, and she's like sad about it. But I'm like, 0:10:42.280 --> 0:10:44.280 you're you definitely need a break from me because I'm 0:10:44.280 --> 0:10:47.599 annoying as hell too. Um, that's funny. I'm gonna be 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:49.960 up in Montana too. Maybe we could link up like 0:10:49.960 --> 0:10:52.520 a hike or something. Like the only place our whole 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:55.920 group has gone during quarantine. My brother lives Montana's. I've 0:10:55.960 --> 0:10:57.360 been up a couple of times with our little group 0:10:57.400 --> 0:11:00.240 of friends too. It's so funny. I don't know live 0:11:00.360 --> 0:11:02.760 like everyone just goes to Montana very quarantineous. I feel 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:04.439 like Montana has got to be like the best place 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:07.199 in America to socially distance, just because there's so much 0:11:07.240 --> 0:11:20.960 like openness up there, you know, open and beautiful. Tell me, 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:22.760 I'm curious to know more about the show. So you 0:11:22.800 --> 0:11:24.840 guys we talked about a little bit at the beginning. 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:27.160 It wasn't like your full on production in your house 0:11:27.200 --> 0:11:29.560 with you. There was like remote cameras set up right 0:11:29.559 --> 0:11:32.559 and they were controlling in the front. What was that 0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:36.000 like acting acting with that? Because I'm sure it's got 0:11:36.000 --> 0:11:39.480 to be incredible to go from like having this director 0:11:39.480 --> 0:11:41.679 producer on set with all these camera people too, then 0:11:41.880 --> 0:11:43.960 you're probably setting up the camera right and then they're 0:11:43.960 --> 0:11:45.840 controlling them from a distance. Was that weird for you 0:11:45.840 --> 0:11:49.160 guys to handle it all? Well, Tommy has a roommate 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:54.240 that they trained to be uh pa. So fortunately, like 0:11:54.320 --> 0:11:56.199 before we started shooting, I was like, oh my god, 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:58.040 I am how I don't know how to do a 0:11:58.040 --> 0:12:00.920 camera and it was very into medating. But luckily they 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:04.400 taught Quinn. He was he was like moving the camera 0:12:04.440 --> 0:12:07.360 everywhere and slating. But we did have to like take 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:09.280 on a bunch of more roles than we typically would have, 0:12:09.360 --> 0:12:14.280 just as as actors normally grown hair and makeup and 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:18.360 costumes and put our on our own mics and um. Yeah. 0:12:18.400 --> 0:12:21.040 So it's like at the start, I was kind of 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:24.080 apprehensive about how it was going to actually go down 0:12:24.120 --> 0:12:25.560 because I felt like there's a lot of pressure to 0:12:25.559 --> 0:12:28.480 do things that I didn't feel capable of. But after 0:12:28.520 --> 0:12:31.760 the first day, everything kind of settled in and we 0:12:31.760 --> 0:12:34.439 were actually able to get a lot more done, taking 0:12:34.440 --> 0:12:37.440 on so much more than we typically would. Um. But yeah, 0:12:37.440 --> 0:12:40.440 then like outside, all the different departments had separate little 0:12:40.480 --> 0:12:43.560 tents and were wearing masks and was very lots of 0:12:43.600 --> 0:12:48.040 protocol in place. Um, but yeah, yeah, I think it 0:12:48.040 --> 0:12:50.760 turned it out pretty well. It was so nice not 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:54.600 having like a hundred people do you have to pretend 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:57.040 aren't there while you're acting and just have two cameras 0:12:57.320 --> 0:13:00.960 and then getting directed through was so it was very liberating, 0:13:01.000 --> 0:13:03.400 and um, I kind of wish every experience could be 0:13:03.400 --> 0:13:05.959 like that. Yeah, I can only imagine, and I bet 0:13:06.000 --> 0:13:07.120 you too. The fact that you guys like how to 0:13:07.120 --> 0:13:08.720 do your own makeup and hearing all those things kind 0:13:08.760 --> 0:13:11.880 of added to the authenticity of being in quarantine, you 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:16.760 know what I mean. Yeah, that's exactly what I was 0:13:16.800 --> 0:13:18.680 referring to. Yeah, you looked really bad and I just 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:20.880 wanted to make still the other day and I was like, 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:23.480 oh my god, I look busted. No one told me, 0:13:25.080 --> 0:13:27.000 But that makes it more naturally, you know, we're like, oh, 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:32.800 this guy actually just quarantined. Yeah. Um sweet, Well you guys. 0:13:32.800 --> 0:13:34.920 So typically what we do with this podcast is we 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:38.880 have listeners email us in their questions, right, like they've 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:40.880 got these dating questions. It's called help by Sucker Dating 0:13:40.880 --> 0:13:43.400 for a reason because we all suck a dating and 0:13:43.440 --> 0:13:44.560 we want to be able to help the people out 0:13:44.559 --> 0:13:46.719 sucker dating with us. So I was thinking it might 0:13:46.720 --> 0:13:50.080 be fun if you guys help me answer some of 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:52.280 these questions from our listeners. Are you down for that? 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:58.199 I'm definitely not on how to be good at dating right? 0:13:58.800 --> 0:14:00.600 And what I always tell the list there's two is 0:14:00.640 --> 0:14:02.959 to do the opposite of what we recommend for them, 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:06.320 because you never want to follow someone's advice if they 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:09.880 suck a dating, right. Um, So, Mark, if you're there, 0:14:10.440 --> 0:14:14.439 can you read us some emails from Anneka? Maybe? Well, sure, 0:14:14.480 --> 0:14:16.560 I'd be happy to This was actually sent in last 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:19.000 week during the live virtual help I Suck a Dating 0:14:19.040 --> 0:14:21.720 we did. This was from Julia. She asked, what was 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:25.680 the worst dating advice you've ever received? Oh my gosh, 0:14:26.000 --> 0:14:27.600 I'll have one of you guys handle this one first. 0:14:27.960 --> 0:14:30.320 So I'm supposed to say the opposite of what the 0:14:30.320 --> 0:14:33.720 worst dating advice like, actually give your best advice. Give 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:36.120 your best advice. But I just want the listeners to 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:39.000 know that everything that we say just needs to be 0:14:39.040 --> 0:14:45.160 taken with the biggest grain of salt possible. Yeah, yeah, yeah, Okay, 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:46.920 So what do you think? What is your worst dating 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:50.160 advice you guys have ever received? Play games. And by that, 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:53.320 I mean I've had friends to be like, well, if 0:14:53.360 --> 0:14:56.120 they wait thirty minutes to text you back, wait an hour. 0:14:56.840 --> 0:14:59.640 I know that's that's so stupid, like the double the 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:03.680 time if they take twenty minutes, take do you seem more? Like? 0:15:03.880 --> 0:15:05.400 I don't. I don't even know the point of that. 0:15:05.520 --> 0:15:07.280 Like I'm just such a like I want to marry, 0:15:07.360 --> 0:15:09.520 let's move in together person and like either that scares 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:15.640 you or it doesn't. No games, no game? Yeah that's good. 0:15:15.680 --> 0:15:17.440 That's good, nanny. What about you? What's the worst dating 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:19.680 advice you've ever received? My mom has given me a 0:15:19.680 --> 0:15:21.520 bunch of weird dating advice. It's not that bad. And 0:15:21.640 --> 0:15:23.720 I'm just like, what is what do you? What are 0:15:23.760 --> 0:15:27.920 you thinking? Like like last week she was telling my 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:32.040 sister like, oh, make sure you wear some pretty virginal dresses, 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:34.000 and I'm like, what the hell, mom, what do you mean? 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:38.200 So I honestly got to know what is it? Do 0:15:38.240 --> 0:15:41.680 we know what it is? Like I think like pretty 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:45.440 slow a dresses too, I don't. I don't know. Okay, okay, 0:15:45.680 --> 0:15:49.120 to attract a mate, I mean, I mean I do 0:15:49.200 --> 0:15:51.840 love a good sun dress. I gotta be honest. I guess, 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:56.920 but I would say the worst dating advice I've ever received. Again, 0:15:56.960 --> 0:15:58.320 it's kind of hard when you just have to think 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:01.000 about it on the spot. But a lot of my 0:16:01.120 --> 0:16:03.320 friends they're always like, like, let's say you just got 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:06.040 over a breakup, And I think the worst advice friends 0:16:06.080 --> 0:16:07.960 always give each other is just like that you need 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:10.000 to go out and like hook up with as many 0:16:10.000 --> 0:16:12.800 people as you can to get over your ex, and 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:14.800 it just never really seems to work. It might work 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:18.000 like short term, but I think long term you just 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:20.320 kind of look back and you kind of feel maybe 0:16:20.360 --> 0:16:22.680 like a little icky about it. And I think that's 0:16:22.720 --> 0:16:25.680 just like very common advice, especially amongst my friend groups. 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:28.160 So that's probably the worst advice I've ever gotten and 0:16:28.400 --> 0:16:33.120 not what I would recommend anyone else do. But let 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:35.280 me one to the next one. Mark you got Anika here? Yeah, 0:16:35.320 --> 0:16:37.400 do you want to read that one for us? I 0:16:37.480 --> 0:16:40.440 was wondering what your thoughts are about wanting more independence 0:16:40.480 --> 0:16:43.360 in your relationship without hurting or offending your significant other. 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:45.360 I'm kind of like Dean in the sense that I 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:47.000 want to do what I want when I want to 0:16:47.040 --> 0:16:49.680 do it. At the beginning of my relationship, my boyfriend 0:16:49.680 --> 0:16:51.760 and I hung out all the time. I started using 0:16:51.800 --> 0:16:53.920 Bumble for friends, and I want to start hanging out 0:16:53.960 --> 0:16:56.560 with my girlfriends more as well. Every time I want to, 0:16:56.760 --> 0:16:58.960 I feel like I'm offending him, but I'm not trying to. 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:02.640 All his relationships are of wives, so anytime we hang 0:17:02.640 --> 0:17:04.560 out with them, it's all of us together, and he 0:17:04.600 --> 0:17:07.239 doesn't get together with them as much without me. I 0:17:07.280 --> 0:17:08.879 was wondering if you have any advice on this and 0:17:08.920 --> 0:17:11.160 how I said to be more independent again without him 0:17:11.160 --> 0:17:13.560 getting hurt, or how to explain it to him nicely 0:17:13.960 --> 0:17:16.600 that I need more alone time by myself and with friends. 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:20.199 For context, I'm twenty six, he's thirty. I feel like 0:17:20.240 --> 0:17:22.480 we're very blessed to have Tommy on for this question 0:17:22.520 --> 0:17:24.880 because I think this kind of just fits in kind 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:27.480 of almost what we talked about earlier. Yeah, I mean, 0:17:27.840 --> 0:17:30.800 here's the thing that's on him if he's feeling sad 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:33.280 about like you wanting independence and like he needs to 0:17:33.320 --> 0:17:36.359 figure that out on his own. In my opinion, like 0:17:36.960 --> 0:17:38.679 there's I think as long as you're honest and you 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:42.400 communicate like hey, I need my own time, I need 0:17:42.440 --> 0:17:47.320 a loan time, that's gonna make our relationships stronger, and 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:50.120 if he has a problem with you needing independence, then 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:54.480 like he's not the one period, Like move on. It's 0:17:54.520 --> 0:17:58.240 just like that's so controlling. If your husband were to 0:17:58.280 --> 0:18:00.399 ever say anything along the lines of I don't want 0:18:00.400 --> 0:18:03.320 you to go to Montana, how would you what would 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:07.080 you reaction be granted, okay, cool? Why? And if he 0:18:07.160 --> 0:18:09.560 was like, it's a lot of responsibility to have two 0:18:09.560 --> 0:18:11.720 of the dogs right now, and I'm really busy with work. 0:18:11.880 --> 0:18:13.640 I just really need you here to help, and I'd 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:16.720 be like, okay, fun fair, right, But like if it 0:18:16.800 --> 0:18:21.280 was because I'm gonna be lonely, I'd say, maybe you 0:18:21.320 --> 0:18:23.639 need to be lonely and work some things out and 0:18:23.640 --> 0:18:26.840 I'll see you in two weeks. Yeah, I agree. I 0:18:27.200 --> 0:18:30.520 agree with that. I think that especially when the president 0:18:30.600 --> 0:18:33.280 is set early on, when Caitlin and I first started dating, 0:18:33.280 --> 0:18:35.040 that was one of the big things that I was 0:18:35.280 --> 0:18:37.520 made sure that she knew that what she was getting 0:18:37.520 --> 0:18:39.359 herself into. Essentially, I was like, look, I like, like 0:18:39.920 --> 0:18:41.520 go out on my own for a couple weeks at 0:18:41.520 --> 0:18:42.760 a time. It's just like one of the things that 0:18:42.760 --> 0:18:46.159 I need to do to recharge my own bat And 0:18:46.359 --> 0:18:49.520 we've lost bean. You know you guys might not know this. 0:18:49.680 --> 0:18:52.840 Dean does the show from his van, so we deal 0:18:52.920 --> 0:18:55.520 with this at a regular basis, Just so you know 0:18:55.960 --> 0:19:01.240 behind the scenes it did look vand why he steals 0:19:01.240 --> 0:19:04.240 WiFi from area hotels and coffee shops. Anyway, here's another 0:19:04.280 --> 0:19:07.600 email for you. I'm currently seeing someone who I've been 0:19:07.640 --> 0:19:09.159 with for the past two and a half years and 0:19:09.280 --> 0:19:12.680 relationship has never had any problems. However, this past year, 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:15.240 I'm finding we have lost the spark in our relationship 0:19:15.320 --> 0:19:17.040 and feel like the love I feel is more of 0:19:17.040 --> 0:19:20.000 a friend love that a romantic love. He doesn't feel 0:19:20.000 --> 0:19:22.600 this way. I've brought it up. I'm twenty one and 0:19:22.640 --> 0:19:24.680 wondering if you have any advice. Is it wrong to 0:19:24.720 --> 0:19:27.200 break up with someone just because of that reason alone? 0:19:27.640 --> 0:19:29.680 I am scared there will not be a good guy 0:19:29.720 --> 0:19:31.320 out there to treat me this well, and I don't 0:19:31.359 --> 0:19:34.440 want to lose my best friend. Help. I would say, 0:19:34.600 --> 0:19:37.680 if you are old and you're feeling like you've lost 0:19:37.760 --> 0:19:42.520 the romantic spark in relationship, it's it's only fair to 0:19:42.640 --> 0:19:47.239 like be honest and communicate that probably you should break up. 0:19:47.280 --> 0:19:52.560 You're young and you should like explore and hopefully if 0:19:52.600 --> 0:19:55.800 you're honest with each other, you can remain friends and 0:19:55.880 --> 0:19:58.000 who knows them the line where will happen if it's 0:19:58.040 --> 0:20:01.920 like a true connection whatever. Also, like life is sure, 0:20:02.000 --> 0:20:04.160 you should have a good time, find someone like that 0:20:04.280 --> 0:20:06.800