WEBVTT - Navigating The Emotions of Tragedy 0:00:00.440 --> 0:00:04.480 To think that a sickness from a personal perspective, it's 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:19.279 all about me, is a problem. If you want to 0:00:19.320 --> 0:00:22.680 catch me speaking, I have some engagements coming up, and 0:00:22.720 --> 0:00:27.880 that is starting February second at hoax Bluff, Alabama. I'm 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:31.040 going to be in Starkville, Mississippi, on March the eighth, Florence, 0:00:31.120 --> 0:00:35.080 Alabama on March the ninth, Colorado Springs, Colorado on March 0:00:35.120 --> 0:00:39.479 the twenty third, Carthage, Texas on April first, Orange County, 0:00:39.479 --> 0:00:44.440 California on April twenty ninth, Bismarkin, North Dakota, May third, 0:00:44.800 --> 0:00:46.839 and Franklin, Tennessee on May ninth. And then there'll be 0:00:46.880 --> 0:00:50.800 some more to get added to that. Lord Willing, So 0:00:51.800 --> 0:00:56.279 I wanted to welcome everybody to the podcast that hasn't 0:00:56.560 --> 0:00:59.400 been here, hasn't listened to it yet. What I do 0:00:59.480 --> 0:01:04.160 is I answer your questions and you email me podcast 0:01:04.200 --> 0:01:07.240 at grangersmith dot com and I just walk through it. 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:08.960 I don't have any notes in front of me. In fact, 0:01:09.200 --> 0:01:13.680 I haven't even seen these questions yet. So it's a 0:01:13.720 --> 0:01:16.280 little bit scary because I could just fall into anything. 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:18.880 I have no idea what I'm getting into. But I'm 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:21.600 just gonna answer it as if we're just friends and 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:26.120 we're walking through life together again. The email is podcast 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:29.920 at grangersmith dot com. The first question comes from Tommy. 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:34.080 It says, Hey, Granger, how did friends and family react 0:01:34.080 --> 0:01:37.959 to your decision to start preaching? Did you have to 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:40.200 cut ties with anyone? If so, do you have any 0:01:40.240 --> 0:01:43.640 advice to others on how to deal with that separation? 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:47.200 I enjoy listening to your podcast, Thanks Tommy, Yeah, man, 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:50.080 thank thank you for emailing Tommy. Then thanks for listening 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:53.960 to other episodes as well. And you know, the reaction, 0:01:54.040 --> 0:01:56.880 as you could probably imagine, was all over the map. 0:01:57.320 --> 0:02:01.600 There were people that said, man, are so encouraged, you know, 0:02:02.200 --> 0:02:05.320 this is amazing. Then we have the other people that said, 0:02:06.240 --> 0:02:09.000 I'm so sad you're not going to be playing music anymore. 0:02:09.040 --> 0:02:12.400 What will we do? I lived for your music. We 0:02:12.440 --> 0:02:15.680 had people that said, don't care, never liked you anyway, 0:02:16.919 --> 0:02:21.160 And then we had another group that was pretty interesting 0:02:21.200 --> 0:02:25.840 to me, the group that said, hey, Granger, if you 0:02:25.880 --> 0:02:28.920 ever need to talk, you ever need someone to just 0:02:29.400 --> 0:02:31.320 talk with, I just want to let you know I'm here. 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:35.919 And I thought to myself, Oh, those are the people 0:02:35.960 --> 0:02:40.280 that think I've gone crazy, so so those are the 0:02:40.280 --> 0:02:43.519 different kinds of groups and a lot of different reactions. 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:48.800 But it's all expected, right, you expect all these different 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:52.320 kinds of reactions. The next part of your question said, 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:55.800 did you have to cut ties with anyone? No, I 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:59.560 definitely didn't cut ties with anyone. But there are people 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:02.959 that I don't don't hear from anymore that maybe I 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:05.360 used to hear from a lot, and I actually have 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:08.880 a list. Maybe to help you answer your question, you said, 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:11.280 give any advice on how to deal with that separation. 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:15.160 I have a list on my phone. I have an iPhone, 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:17.640 and I have on my notes. I just have a 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:22.200 long running list and it just keeps growing of people 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:27.880 that I need to reach out to. And I'm a 0:03:27.919 --> 0:03:31.160 big voice texture. I like the voice text, which shouldn't 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:32.639 be as surprised as I sit here in this chair 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:36.160 and talking to your microphone. But I have a running list, 0:03:36.200 --> 0:03:38.560 and there's a lot of people that I'll just reach 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:41.040 out and just be like, hey man, this is a 0:03:41.120 --> 0:03:43.320 voice text. I'll just say hey, thinking about you. No 0:03:43.440 --> 0:03:46.680 need to reply, but just thinking about you, man, and 0:03:47.800 --> 0:03:50.560 hope you get to connect soon. Right now, that's an 0:03:50.560 --> 0:03:54.160 open invitation. That message is open invitation to anyone that 0:03:54.200 --> 0:03:57.200 wants to come back, and you actually, yeah, man, I've 0:03:57.200 --> 0:03:59.160 been wanting to grab lunch or coffee or when's the 0:03:59.160 --> 0:04:02.240 next time you're through this town. And then for some 0:04:02.280 --> 0:04:05.880 of those, they don't reply at all, you know. And 0:04:05.920 --> 0:04:11.880 so it's interesting because as I've gone from country music 0:04:12.040 --> 0:04:15.080 into the guy that gives advice on a podcast and 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:19.000 has a radio show and travels around and preaches, I 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:23.000 don't ever want it to come across as man, I 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:26.279 haven't heard from Granger in a while. I wonder if 0:04:26.320 --> 0:04:30.200 that means that I'm just too far gone for him 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:33.200 or I'm just not I'm not good enough for Granger. 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:36.880 I don't ever want that to be to be a 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:41.520 conversation that has had. So that's why that's what motivated 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:43.320 me to start this list, Like, man, I better get 0:04:43.320 --> 0:04:45.520 this list going, and I do it. And I usually 0:04:45.520 --> 0:04:47.839 spend time every morning going down that list and hitting 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:50.680 somebody up and I don't always hear back. So yeah, 0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:55.200 it's just it's interesting. I appreciate you, Tommy. And let's 0:04:55.200 --> 0:04:57.400 go to the next question from Clayton says, Hey Granger, 0:04:57.480 --> 0:05:00.400 my name is Clayton. I'm twenty one years old. Question 0:05:00.520 --> 0:05:04.360 on the Apocrypha and its reliability and why it is 0:05:04.440 --> 0:05:08.640 excluded from the Bible. I was wondering if you knew 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:10.760 or had any books that would help with this sort 0:05:10.800 --> 0:05:14.280 of topic. I want to be better understanding about how 0:05:14.320 --> 0:05:17.520 we got the Bible and why things were excluded or included, 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:20.920 and I'm just now getting into apologetics and I absolutely 0:05:21.000 --> 0:05:25.520 love it. Please recommend any books on or videos as well. 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:29.640 Any recommendations are greatly appreciated. Hey, Clayton, appreciate the question. Man, 0:05:29.760 --> 0:05:34.160 I love this for anyone that's wondering. Apologetics is the 0:05:36.560 --> 0:05:42.960 It is the way that we well. I don't want 0:05:42.960 --> 0:05:45.480 to say this wrong way, because what it really means 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:47.880 is defending the faith, but it doesn't mean it in 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:54.279 like a military or aggressive type way. It's giving people 0:05:55.480 --> 0:05:59.560 the reason for the hope that is within us. Right, 0:05:59.600 --> 0:06:06.360 So be ready with a defense, which is in Greek apologia, 0:06:07.120 --> 0:06:09.359 So that's where that word apologetics comes from. So be 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:15.919 ready with a defense for anyone that asked you about 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:20.440 the hope that's in you. That's the gist of where 0:06:20.440 --> 0:06:26.120 that idea comes from. And then that defense, which comes 0:06:26.160 --> 0:06:33.119 with patience and love and salt and light, it comes 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:39.359 from it could defend any any piece of our faith, 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:44.440 including his question, which is I had questions about the Apocrypha, 0:06:45.360 --> 0:06:51.000 which is the extra books that are in the Catholic Bible. 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:53.919 I think that's the best, the easiest way for me 0:06:53.960 --> 0:07:00.360 to say it. These books were added in the sixteenth century, 0:07:00.520 --> 0:07:03.200 so it's not an ancient thing. It's not really old. 0:07:03.839 --> 0:07:06.839 It didn't start that way, and then Protestants took books 0:07:06.839 --> 0:07:09.960 out of the Bible. In fact, the Apocryphy was added 0:07:10.520 --> 0:07:16.040 as a response to the Protestant Reformation. So the Protestant said, hey, 0:07:16.040 --> 0:07:18.360 we're going to go back to the Bible because we 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:22.360 think that things are things aren't being taught from the 0:07:22.400 --> 0:07:26.960 Bible itself, from Scripture itself, and so they broke That 0:07:27.040 --> 0:07:30.880 was essentially a big reason why they broke They broke off, 0:07:32.280 --> 0:07:35.760 and then Catholic leadership came back and said, well, in 0:07:35.840 --> 0:07:38.000 response to you leaving saying you're just going to go 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:42.239 to scripture alone, because we want to we we believe 0:07:42.280 --> 0:07:45.640 in the authority of the Church that is equal to 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:49.200 the authority of Scripture. So if you're going to go 0:07:49.240 --> 0:07:50.640 do that, we're gonna go ahead and just tell you 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:52.000 that we're going to add some more books to this, 0:07:54.320 --> 0:08:01.960 I'm making it sound worse. I'm making it I'm not 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:06.400 telling the full spectrum of the story because I'm trying 0:08:06.400 --> 0:08:10.480 to make it quick. Here's the thing about the apocrypha. 0:08:10.760 --> 0:08:14.280 You said, is it reliable? Yeah, the apocrypha is actually 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:19.600 not false. It's not like false doctrine or bad truth 0:08:19.760 --> 0:08:23.000 or fake history. It's not that at all. In fact, 0:08:23.440 --> 0:08:28.360 the apocrypha, I would say, is reliable, Yes, that's your question. 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:31.640 And it is historical and a lot of it fills 0:08:31.640 --> 0:08:34.240 in the gaps between that, that four hundred year gap 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:39.400 between Malachi and the New Testament. Matthew. So you have 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:44.280 stories of books ancient text that fill in that gap 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:49.439 that are historically reliable, but they are not considered scripture, 0:08:50.280 --> 0:08:54.880 which means they're not considered divinely inspired. They are not 0:08:55.040 --> 0:08:58.520 considered the word of God, which makes it different. That's 0:08:58.559 --> 0:09:02.200 the difference between being reliable is a historical document where 0:09:02.200 --> 0:09:03.760 you can go, yeah, yeah, we could, we could see this, 0:09:04.200 --> 0:09:06.199 we could, we could trace this back, and then saying 0:09:06.640 --> 0:09:09.120 not only is it reliable historical document, but it's also 0:09:09.280 --> 0:09:11.760 the word of God. There's a big difference, and that's 0:09:11.800 --> 0:09:15.600 the cutoff there, because scripture is an errant meaning it 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:24.240 is it is the truth. The apocryphy is stories, real stories, 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:28.040 but not in ERRt okay, does that make any sense? 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:31.240 I'm trying to use the best, my best choice of words. 0:09:31.280 --> 0:09:35.000 That makes make this a very difficult conversation easier to 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:41.600 digest the the canon itself, which is a cold We 0:09:41.640 --> 0:09:45.840 can do an entire podcast on this is when you say, well, 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:49.240 if that's reliable and the Bible is reliable, where did 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:51.640 the canon come from? Why were why were those books 0:09:51.679 --> 0:09:55.120 excluded in the first place. Well, the best and easiest 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:59.280 way to just explain that is that we look back 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:02.800 not because of the Council of Nicea, where it's like 0:10:02.840 --> 0:10:06.120 a bunch of men got together and decided, of all 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:09.640 the books in the world, let's choose these and this 0:10:09.640 --> 0:10:13.199 will be the canon. That's a false representation of the 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:17.000 Council of Nicia. Instead, it was a group of men 0:10:17.040 --> 0:10:20.040 that got together and said, we know what the books 0:10:20.080 --> 0:10:24.680 are because they've been passed down through the church through 0:10:24.960 --> 0:10:28.400 We know these books, and so we need to fence 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:32.280 this off and put it in stone, put it in 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:35.920 writing that these are the books, in order to defend 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:38.480 it against heresy that's coming in saying this is what 0:10:38.520 --> 0:10:40.520 about this book? What about this book? What about this book? 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:43.320 You see, so there's a big difference between men coming 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:45.120 in and going, let's get all the books on the 0:10:45.120 --> 0:10:47.160 table and see which one we should pick for the canon, 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:49.760 and a group of men that said, we know the canon, 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:52.520 but we need to actually put it in writing that 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:55.560 this is the canon. Let's officially do that and close 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:57.679 it so that no more of these people could say 0:10:57.679 --> 0:11:00.800 what about this Book of Thomas? Here there's a bunch 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:03.680 of reasons why we wouldn't include the Book of Thomas 0:11:03.679 --> 0:11:08.600 and the cannon. Great conversation and so so exciting, and 0:11:08.679 --> 0:11:12.160 so finally some straight up Indiana Jones stuff. When you 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:16.040 really get into that kind of the scripture and narrancy, 0:11:16.320 --> 0:11:20.240 Apologetic is really really fun in a deep rabbit hole, 0:11:20.720 --> 0:11:24.920 and like I said, could take an entire podcast to 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:29.760 go through. Where should you go? If I was going 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:34.640 to suggest a few things quickly here? That's a great question. 0:11:34.800 --> 0:11:39.600 And there is a quick little book by Greg Gilbert 0:11:39.679 --> 0:11:44.760 called Why Trust the Bible? Very short book, easy to understand. 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:47.560 Why Trust the Bible? You can find it on Amazon. 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:53.600 There's a great YouTube page called Apologia Studios could also 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:58.840 say it. Apologia. That's how it looks. Apologia Studios, great 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:03.120 YouTube page and there's a great video on that YouTube 0:12:03.160 --> 0:12:10.000 page about the that's deconstructing the idea that Constantine decided 0:12:10.160 --> 0:12:12.400 the canon. Like there's a lot of people when I've 0:12:12.400 --> 0:12:15.240 heard this heresy many times and it came from the 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:19.000 I believe it came from the movie Da Vinci Code 0:12:19.480 --> 0:12:22.520 that Constantine, the Emperor of Rome, got together, he became 0:12:22.559 --> 0:12:25.360 a Christian and he's the one that decided the canon. 0:12:26.280 --> 0:12:31.000 And it's completely false. It never happened. So look up 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:35.040 on YouTube Apologia Studios Constantine. Just type in that and 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:37.640 there's a there's there's a two part series. It's a 0:12:37.880 --> 0:12:41.000 great historical two part series. It's going to just guide 0:12:41.000 --> 0:12:45.920 you through facts and not not hearsay and not fiction. 0:12:46.640 --> 0:12:49.480 So dude, email back. This is like I said, this 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:52.680 is there's so much in this email, but email back 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:55.280 and I'd be happy to walk through this again with 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:57.200 you if you haven't done it in a while. Go 0:12:57.280 --> 0:13:00.480 to eeye dot com. That's her apparel company. Me and 0:13:00.520 --> 0:13:03.360 my two brothers, Tyler and Parker, and I'd love for 0:13:03.400 --> 0:13:04.719 you to see the new stuff we have. We have 0:13:04.800 --> 0:13:07.440 the winter launch come out a few weeks ago and 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:09.760 we're gearing up for the spring launch, so we're right 0:13:09.800 --> 0:13:11.280 in between it. 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Can 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:50.080 can you give him a video saying yeee and I 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:52.120 saw you at the concert a few years ago and 0:13:52.160 --> 0:13:53.920 he loves EARLD Dibbles Junior. Can you give him a 0:13:53.920 --> 0:13:56.760 shout out? Whatever you want me to say, I'll say 0:13:56.760 --> 0:13:58.880 it for you and I'll shoot you that video message again. 0:13:58.880 --> 0:14:03.000 That's at cameo dot com slash Granger Smith. Next question 0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:05.840 comes from Anonymous. Hey Granger, I'm a big fan of 0:14:05.880 --> 0:14:09.320 yours since the country music days. The podcast is amazing 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:11.040 and it's been great to see how God is using you. 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:16.120 I have been in a six year long relationship with 0:14:16.240 --> 0:14:22.440 a guy who ultimately knew it wasn't who I ultimately 0:14:22.520 --> 0:14:27.720 knew wasn't God's best. I think I know what that means. Unfortunately, 0:14:27.800 --> 0:14:33.400 I was hurt, blindsided, ultimately heartbroken, but I let fear insecurity, etc. 0:14:34.080 --> 0:14:37.920 Keep me from moving on. After tons of back and forth, 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:41.560 I just realized we needed to end, and most importantly 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:45.520 for me to let go. Although it's been a difficult process, 0:14:45.960 --> 0:14:50.320 it has helped me reprioritize my relationship with God. What 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:53.400 would you advise me to do moving forward to heal 0:14:53.440 --> 0:14:57.520 from this and gain back my confidence slash trust in God? 0:14:57.760 --> 0:15:01.760 Lots of love, Anonymous. Let me recap so I understand 0:15:01.800 --> 0:15:09.240 what you're saying here. Six year relationship that was probably bad. 0:15:09.400 --> 0:15:16.120 I'm assuming you were blindsided, you were hurt, heartbroken, but 0:15:16.280 --> 0:15:22.240 after that you couldn't move on. Then it probably broke up. 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:24.080 You broke up, I'm assuming, and then you just kind 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:25.720 of like it lingered and you got back together and 0:15:25.760 --> 0:15:29.720 you broke up again. That that happens, and then you 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:32.840 realized in the end that you needed to completely cut 0:15:32.840 --> 0:15:35.360 it off cold turkey. I'm recapping for my own brain, 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:39.840 and it's helped you now re prioritize your relationship with God. 0:15:39.880 --> 0:15:41.720 So your question, I'm trying to get your question. Your 0:15:41.800 --> 0:15:46.800 question is how do you move forward to heal from 0:15:46.840 --> 0:15:51.520 this and gain back your confidence slash trust in God. 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:58.440 So you're implying that you lost trust in God through 0:15:58.440 --> 0:16:00.200 this relationship. I think that, like, that's that's what I 0:16:00.200 --> 0:16:02.680 would question. If we were riding in the truck together 0:16:02.720 --> 0:16:04.800 and you brought this up, I would say, you're trying 0:16:04.840 --> 0:16:07.880 to gain back confidence in God because you lost it 0:16:08.040 --> 0:16:13.040 in that relationship. Or were you just so into that 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:17.480 relationship that you moved away and you feel that distance, 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:21.840 Because look, a relationship with God is like this. It's like, 0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:27.160 imagine God is an island, and you are the canoe 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:30.360 and you roll around and you use your oars and 0:16:30.400 --> 0:16:33.160 you drift with a tide, and you go up and 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:38.080 down with the storms, and you feel distant from the island. 0:16:38.120 --> 0:16:42.760 Sometimes the island seems so small. Sometimes it seems unreachable. 0:16:43.080 --> 0:16:46.720 Sometimes the island is hazy and hard to see it all, 0:16:46.960 --> 0:16:49.680 and then sometimes it's very present and you're right up 0:16:49.720 --> 0:16:55.440 against it. But in reality, the island never moves, only 0:16:55.520 --> 0:16:58.720 you do as you drift. So we could think of 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:02.880 that as our relationship with God. God is not going anywhere. 0:17:02.920 --> 0:17:06.520 He is unchanging. He is the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow. 0:17:06.920 --> 0:17:12.200 He is unmovable. It is us that drift and bounce 0:17:12.240 --> 0:17:17.080 with the tide constantly. So there's your first step in 0:17:17.160 --> 0:17:20.520 regaining this confidence. He didn't go anywhere. In fact, he 0:17:20.600 --> 0:17:24.280 was always there in the same place. It was you 0:17:24.359 --> 0:17:28.840 that drifted. Okay, totally happens. I totally get it right. 0:17:30.240 --> 0:17:34.280 And then you're wondering how to move forward. One just 0:17:34.320 --> 0:17:37.760 piece of practical advice in this is stay out of 0:17:37.880 --> 0:17:41.000 relationships for a bit. It's time to take a break. 0:17:42.400 --> 0:17:45.320 The worst thing you could do, my counsel, would be 0:17:45.359 --> 0:17:47.400 the worst thing you could do, is go back into 0:17:47.440 --> 0:17:51.480 another relationship with someone else, because you have your vulnerable 0:17:51.560 --> 0:17:55.080 right now to be open to Prince Charming to come 0:17:55.080 --> 0:17:57.800 in and say the right things and he's a man 0:17:57.840 --> 0:18:00.600 of God, or whatever might happen, or you meet them 0:18:00.600 --> 0:18:04.159 at church, or your family introduces you, and that is 0:18:04.200 --> 0:18:09.280 possible to happen, but most likely that's a vulnerability because 0:18:09.280 --> 0:18:12.200 you're open. Now, You've got an open wound that has 0:18:12.280 --> 0:18:17.640 not healed right, So be very careful with that. Pump 0:18:17.680 --> 0:18:20.280 the brakes. Don't give your heart away. Do not give 0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:25.679 your heart away soon, keep it guarded. Be careful with that. 0:18:26.400 --> 0:18:32.080 And through time as you how do you rekindle a 0:18:32.119 --> 0:18:35.640 relationship with God? Or if you think of that island scenario, 0:18:36.800 --> 0:18:39.400 or he doesn't go anywhere, but you're going to try 0:18:39.440 --> 0:18:42.760 to find anchors to that island. So in your canoe, 0:18:42.880 --> 0:18:44.440 you got to get your ropes out, You got to 0:18:44.480 --> 0:18:46.600 get your anchor out, you got to get your hooks out, 0:18:46.600 --> 0:18:48.399 and you got to do everything. You get your oars 0:18:48.520 --> 0:18:50.880 and you stick them in the sand. And those come 0:18:50.880 --> 0:18:52.680 in all the kinds of ways. It comes with a 0:18:52.760 --> 0:18:57.840 spiritual discipline of prayer, of reading your Bible consistently, make 0:18:57.880 --> 0:19:01.880 it a daily habit, take notes. It comes with planting 0:19:01.920 --> 0:19:04.800 yourself with your feet in the sand right at the 0:19:04.800 --> 0:19:08.359 shore of the island, in a local church, showing up 0:19:08.400 --> 0:19:10.200 on a Sunday. I don't care if you sit in 0:19:10.240 --> 0:19:12.600 the back. I don't care if you don't know anybody there. 0:19:12.640 --> 0:19:14.120 I don't care if you show up a little bit late. 0:19:15.280 --> 0:19:17.800 But as long as you're showing up, it's kind of 0:19:17.840 --> 0:19:20.720 like trying to run a marathon. How do you run 0:19:20.760 --> 0:19:23.399 a marathon? Granger? Will you start by putting your shoes 0:19:23.400 --> 0:19:27.720 on and going outside and going some distance. It doesn't 0:19:27.760 --> 0:19:30.359 have to be it shouldn't be really a marathon the 0:19:30.400 --> 0:19:34.200 first day, but any kind of distance, you just become 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:38.320 a creature of a habit of moving towards that goal. 0:19:38.720 --> 0:19:41.960 And the goal is the marathon. The goal is knowing God, 0:19:42.040 --> 0:19:44.000 and that's a journey we're all going to be on 0:19:44.440 --> 0:19:46.560 for a lifetime. But it's really going to start with 0:19:46.600 --> 0:19:48.639 putting your running shoes on and getting out there and 0:19:48.720 --> 0:19:51.359 hitting the pavement. And a big piece of that is 0:19:51.840 --> 0:19:57.760 showing up in church right, consistently being poured over with 0:19:58.320 --> 0:20:02.320 good leadership, joining a small grip or a Bible study, 0:20:03.119 --> 0:20:11.280 doing having lunches or coffees coffee with fellow sisters in 0:20:11.320 --> 0:20:14.160 the faith. These are things that will ground you. These 0:20:14.200 --> 0:20:16.919 are your ropes and your hooks and your oars and 0:20:16.960 --> 0:20:19.800 your heels in the sand of the island. And this 0:20:19.840 --> 0:20:23.919 is something I would encourage you to do to to 0:20:24.040 --> 0:20:26.720 keep you accountable and to keep you away from that 0:20:29.000 --> 0:20:33.199 probably selfish desire to jump into another relationship quick, to 0:20:33.240 --> 0:20:36.320 try to heal something that needs to be healed by 0:20:36.400 --> 0:20:41.720 God and consistent time with him. Next question comes from 0:20:41.760 --> 0:20:44.000 Kyle says, Hey Granger, I'm thirty two years old and 0:20:44.040 --> 0:20:47.919 recently diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. My question 0:20:48.000 --> 0:20:50.679 to you is how, in difficult times do you handle 0:20:50.720 --> 0:20:56.480 the fleshly desire of self, pity, selfishness, and pride. I 0:20:56.520 --> 0:20:59.760 know this is a broad question, but any advice that 0:20:59.800 --> 0:21:05.760 you have I would appreciate it. Oh, Kyle, I'm so sorry, buddy, 0:21:06.800 --> 0:21:13.280 I'm so sorry, And you know what I want to 0:21:13.280 --> 0:21:16.080 say right off the bat. First of all, I don't 0:21:16.560 --> 0:21:21.199 I don't know what it's like in your shoes. And 0:21:21.240 --> 0:21:22.720 because I don't know what it's like in your shoes, 0:21:22.760 --> 0:21:28.119 I don't know how to appropriately answer that question. But 0:21:28.280 --> 0:21:32.800 I will walk with you as though we're having this 0:21:32.840 --> 0:21:38.000 conversation around a campfire. And what's difficult about that, and 0:21:38.080 --> 0:21:41.520 the essence of this podcast is me answering your questions casually. 0:21:42.040 --> 0:21:45.439 But what's difficult in this kind of scenario is that 0:21:46.200 --> 0:21:48.840 I would listen to you way more than I talk 0:21:50.320 --> 0:21:53.760 and Unfortunately, in this kind of setting, it's just me 0:21:53.760 --> 0:21:58.760 in a microphone. So my first thought that comes to 0:21:58.800 --> 0:22:03.159 my mind is if you're asking the question, how do 0:22:03.200 --> 0:22:07.000 you handle the fleshly desire of self pity, selfishness, and 0:22:07.119 --> 0:22:11.240 pride being diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. First 0:22:11.280 --> 0:22:14.840 I just hear I say, brother. The fact that you 0:22:15.119 --> 0:22:19.800 even label it as a fleshley desire, the fact that 0:22:19.840 --> 0:22:23.720 you even bring it up as an enemy that you 0:22:23.840 --> 0:22:28.760 need to eradicate, gives me so much hope and encouragement 0:22:29.600 --> 0:22:33.600 that you're on a really good path because I think 0:22:34.119 --> 0:22:42.800 recognizing that that that could be an enemy, self pity, selfishness, pride. 0:22:43.480 --> 0:22:45.440 The fact that you could recognize that that's an enemy, 0:22:45.480 --> 0:22:49.159 I think is a huge mountain that most people don't 0:22:49.200 --> 0:22:53.560 get to. We see so many people that just just 0:22:53.920 --> 0:22:58.879 wallow in their self pity, they wallow in their selfishness. 0:23:00.040 --> 0:23:01.600 This is why it's difficult for me to answer this 0:23:01.680 --> 0:23:03.760 question with you, because I haven't been in your shoes. 0:23:03.960 --> 0:23:09.639 But so please forgive me when I speak of selfishness 0:23:10.119 --> 0:23:14.720 on your behalf, because I don't know you and I 0:23:15.359 --> 0:23:19.000 don't want to unfairly label you as someone that's selfish, 0:23:19.000 --> 0:23:22.959 But I'm just going by what you told me. And 0:23:24.200 --> 0:23:28.359 to think that it's all to think that a sickness, okay, 0:23:28.880 --> 0:23:31.760 stepping out on a limb, to think that a sickness 0:23:31.920 --> 0:23:38.760 from a personal perspective, it's all about me, is a problem, right, 0:23:40.320 --> 0:23:44.400 And to say anything, say I get this, I get 0:23:44.840 --> 0:23:48.919 a stomach bug. And my tendency, my human tendency, is 0:23:48.960 --> 0:23:54.239 to think, oh poor me, my day is ruined. I 0:23:54.280 --> 0:23:57.640 have lost all this time of the last I've lost 0:23:57.680 --> 0:24:00.480 the last two days because I've got the stum bug. 0:24:00.880 --> 0:24:06.040 Oh poor me. Right, And that's a very light example 0:24:06.160 --> 0:24:12.320 of how we could turn everything inward on ourselves and 0:24:12.400 --> 0:24:15.359 be so selfish and just think it's all about me. 0:24:15.720 --> 0:24:20.720 I look, I see this when couples are fighting and 0:24:20.720 --> 0:24:23.760 they're on the brink of divorce, and so many times 0:24:23.880 --> 0:24:27.080 when these couples are at each other, they're at each 0:24:27.119 --> 0:24:31.640 other's throat and they're fighting through something. I just think 0:24:31.880 --> 0:24:34.159 in my mind and I try to tell him in 0:24:34.200 --> 0:24:36.080 the nicest way I can. I try to tell him, 0:24:36.400 --> 0:24:40.200 both of you are just making everything all about you. 0:24:42.680 --> 0:24:45.840 I have been dealing with this relationship for so long, 0:24:46.240 --> 0:24:49.600 and I have put up with his crap for so long. 0:24:49.640 --> 0:24:54.679 And his narcissism. And he doesn't do this or I 0:24:54.720 --> 0:24:57.560 ask him to do he doesn't recognize this and this 0:24:57.640 --> 0:25:00.399 and this, and then the guys over here going. She 0:25:00.800 --> 0:25:03.359 just nags and nags and nags. She doesn't understand my 0:25:03.400 --> 0:25:06.919 sensitivity towards her nagging. And she doesn't even know that 0:25:07.040 --> 0:25:10.680 I'm actually going through this and work, and I come 0:25:10.720 --> 0:25:12.560 on from work and she nags me at this and 0:25:12.600 --> 0:25:16.080 she has no sensitivity towards us. And I'm going, both 0:25:16.080 --> 0:25:20.240 of y'all are just being selfish. Look. Look another example. 0:25:20.240 --> 0:25:22.200 I tell my kids Lincoln in London, when they start 0:25:22.200 --> 0:25:25.320 fighting and they do this, he said this, she said this, 0:25:25.480 --> 0:25:29.119 he said, And I go, who's gonna quit first? Quit? What? 0:25:29.880 --> 0:25:33.800 Quit the selfishness? Who's gonna stop first? Who's gonna break 0:25:33.880 --> 0:25:35.840 the selfishness? And go? You know, what's not all about me? 0:25:37.160 --> 0:25:39.960