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Speaker 1: Good morning and welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour.

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Speaker 1: friends is here a special special thank you Nancy for

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Speaker 1: joining us today.

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Speaker 2: Nance.

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Speaker 3: Hi, good morning, how are you good?

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Speaker 4: Afternoon? Here?

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Speaker 3: It's morning there, it's afternoon. It's all good.

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Speaker 2: It's middle of the night for me.

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Speaker 4: So goodness you girls.

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Speaker 3: What's happening in your life right now? Nancy?

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, well so much. I mean, since the

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Speaker 4: show ended, I have just signed up for a golf

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Speaker 4: like true golf camp.

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Speaker 3: I'm excited.

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Speaker 2: Wait, you're going to learn to play golf.

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Speaker 4: I'm going to learn how to play golf. My short

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Speaker 4: game is good, which I consider a putt putt. I

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Speaker 4: my friends are going to go to North Carolina and

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Speaker 4: it's a week long golf instruction, intense golf instruction for

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Speaker 2: And it sounds that sounds fabulous. We might have to

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Speaker 2: go with you on that one, know.

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Speaker 3: What I'm thinking of. It definitely a threesome.

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Speaker 1: We're going to be playing and traveling the world playing golf.

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Speaker 3: Now. I like it.

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Speaker 2: I like it a lot. Okay, So nance speaking of trips,

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Speaker 2: we took a trip. Oh yes, we did, just Saint Martin,

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Speaker 2: and we did have a great time. But I want

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Speaker 2: to know, we want to know that's our nation wants

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Speaker 3: We could be here for a while because there was

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Speaker 1: Oh, I can't even just what's the first thing that

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Speaker 2: Trip or just one of the fun things that we've

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Speaker 4: I loved the going to Penel Island and you know,

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Speaker 4: picking out our lobster and eating it. But one of

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Speaker 4: the funniest was when Susan burned the toaster and they

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Speaker 1: It melted the cord weight and I still wanted to

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Speaker 1: But the funny, even funnier is when I went to

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Speaker 3: I didn't even know it, and then.

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Speaker 2: Tell you, I was just chronicling it for future generations.

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Speaker 2: So nance tell us though, I thought you were going

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Speaker 2: Do you remember no, Oh, of.

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Speaker 4: Course I do. Yeah, I was holding on for dear life.

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Speaker 3: I have one.

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Speaker 1: How about when I went shopping and you too, stopped

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Speaker 1: Three hours later, I come back to the store. They've

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Speaker 3: You remember, we had so much fun.

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Speaker 2: What's our next trip, Nancy? Where are we going next?

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Speaker 4: I think Europe? I'm thinking there's a lot of guys

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Speaker 2: Well, you want a guy with an accent.

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Speaker 4: Nancy absolutely love that. Love that.

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Speaker 1: So hell is the love life going? Have we dated

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Speaker 4: Not really?

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Speaker 4: I did, but nothing so to speak up as far

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Speaker 2: It sounds like it sounds like you're on your way

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Speaker 4: What do you think I'm doing?

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Speaker 2: I know, I think it's brilliant.

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Speaker 1: I'll take your shop and we'll get cute golf outfits.

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Speaker 4: That's what I'm excited about.

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Speaker 4: I think since the show, honestly, and the reason one

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Speaker 4: reason I told you all that is because I am

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Speaker 4: more open and more excited and you know, certainly refreshed

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Speaker 4: I've been a widow. I am a widow, but my

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Speaker 4: as you know, and you've heard from other people, and

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Speaker 4: Kathy you know firsthand as well that once you go

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Speaker 4: through well, there's a poet, Naomi Shi Bob who wrote

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Speaker 4: about sorrow and she says in her poem, like the

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Speaker 4: only thing you can do when you've gone through losing

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Speaker 4: and now you do no kindness. You do you are kinder.

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Speaker 4: I think I'm a more compacts person then I used

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Speaker 2: That's hard to believe, Nancy, you are pretty it's hard

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Speaker 2: to believe. You're one of the most compassionate people I know.

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Speaker 4: Thank you no. And I'm saying I think that happens

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Speaker 4: have it in perspective of what's important and what's not.

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Speaker 4: And so I'm looking forward to, you know, going on

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Speaker 4: this journey and hopefully meeting someone and if not, the

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Speaker 4: true blessing from the whole experience of Golden Bachelor was

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Speaker 4: meeting you.

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Speaker 2: So that so, so that is that brings up a

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Speaker 2: question for me. Nancy. You know you were married a

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Speaker 4: Well? I think I think it's different to start with

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Speaker 4: because when you meet someone new at our age, you know,

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Speaker 4: preschools and college and all of those things. So I

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Speaker 4: think I'd like someone who has a sense of adventure,

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Speaker 4: someone who bottom line makes me laugh and I'm all in,

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Speaker 4: oh yeah, and is trustworthy and a gentleman. I'd really

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Speaker 4: I love a true gentleman.

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Speaker 3: I agree, Yeah, yeah, it's well said.

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Speaker 1: So Nancy, can I ask you what has your favorite

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Speaker 1: age of your life been so far? When did you

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Speaker 1: feel most confident, most like yourself?

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Speaker 4: I think, well, it goes back in my probably in

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Speaker 5: But Okay, now I think I've gained a lot of confidence.

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Speaker 5: I I assume you guys have too, from doing the show,

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Speaker 5: being exposed to different things, and you know, trying new things.

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Speaker 4: And I think I think now I'm as confident as

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Speaker 2: Okay, So I want to bring up something here. Susan

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Speaker 2: and I were talking about, you know, how people can

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Speaker 2: be cruel on the internet. I have been told or

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Speaker 2: accused many times on the Internet and Instagram of having

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Speaker 2: had a facelift and cheek implants in the last six months.

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Speaker 2: That is not the case. You, Nancy, decided to go

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Speaker 2: So all right, so props to you on that because

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Speaker 2: that speaks to confidence.

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Speaker 3: I'll never forget the night in the mansion. We didn't

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Speaker 3: expect it. She popped up, like, no, I remember that

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Speaker 2: But Nancy, those kinds of things, like what are the

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Speaker 2: things in your life? I know you've had some health challenges,

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Speaker 6: You know?

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Speaker 2: When you're young and in love and the young bachelor

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Speaker 2: and baucherettes, they're just gorgeous thin, you know, they seemingly

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Speaker 2: any of that, I would love to hear your thoughts.

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Speaker 4: No, I am, thank you. A little known fact is

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Speaker 4: that I have diabetes. I have Type one diabetes. I

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Speaker 4: take insulin, and I mean the producers and people on

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Speaker 4: someone who I dated very I mean three days, no

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Speaker 4: anyone who has chronic health issues.

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Speaker 4: Well, that's true. But what I'm my point to that is,

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Speaker 4: I think as we all get older. I'm sixty one,

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Speaker 4: more people have I have diabetes. Nothing I can do

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Speaker 4: great life. I can ski, I do pilates. I manage

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Speaker 4: that's a life you can't do anything about it. All

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Speaker 4: doesn't mean that you have to hide or stop. And

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Speaker 4: move forward and be open about having diabetes. And I'm

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Speaker 4: also because of her getting a small pomp that I'll

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Speaker 4: wear on my arm or somewhere on my leg, which

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Speaker 4: is no big deal, and it makes managing diabetes even easier.

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Speaker 3: Much easier.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, because how many people in this world have it.

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Speaker 1: It's a very common yes.

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Speaker 3: Yes.

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Speaker 2: And the thing that I love, Nancy is, you know,

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Speaker 2: we talk a lot about being our age and beat

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Speaker 2: best life. But you are absolutely proof positive that you

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Speaker 2: can be confident. It doesn't stop you. Nancy. You live

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Speaker 2: your life. And as people get older, I think sometimes

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Speaker 2: And I love that.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for sharing that, because everybody that is listening

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Speaker 1: that have that same diabetes or any other thing just

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Speaker 1: goes to show you look at Nancy as beautiful as

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Speaker 1: There and as our best friend. Right, do you have

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Speaker 2: Us we need help? Nancy, let me be more clear,

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Speaker 2: You don't believe in loved first sight. I do.

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Speaker 1: But there's so many men that I've met over my

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Speaker 2: Well, I do think as you get older, you know, Nancy,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I do think that's one of the most

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Speaker 1: Can I ask a question in both of you, what

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Speaker 3: Don't you think that's a little bit different?

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Speaker 1: Well, don't you think it's because we, as parents, adult

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Speaker 4: I think it's, as you know, parenting is such a

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Speaker 2: I will say, it never ends.

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Speaker 3: It never ends.

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Speaker 4: Correctly, that person who we're talking about, who hasn't had

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Speaker 2: So that doesn't bother me as much. But I agree

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Speaker 1: Would you compare it to like an only child? You

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Speaker 2: I would have liked to have been an only child.

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Speaker 2: I was one of seven. I had to fight for breakfast.

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Speaker 3: Oh you weren't one of the first. I was the

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Speaker 2: I was the baby. You're supposed to be spoiled when

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Speaker 4: I think, tell me you didn't get to be spoiled then,

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Speaker 2: I like Nancy, And can I just say that is

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Speaker 1: Can I say something Kathy that brings to mind that

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Speaker 1: Whenever in your vocabulary you say the word not or no,

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Speaker 1: just stop right there and go back. Everything has to

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Speaker 1: don't the universe doesn't get English, you know what I'm saying, Like,

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Speaker 3: You have to believe it's going to come. We have

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Speaker 4: I Yeah, I've been picturing Colin Firth for my life,

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Speaker 2: I remember that.

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Speaker 4: A tree somewhere in London. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Wait, is he married?

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Speaker 4: No, he's divorced.

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Speaker 3: Us out there, get on.

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Speaker 2: It, Nancy, I make the first call, make the first call.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I think it's not even on social media anyway.

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Speaker 2: To have a question though. That what Susan just said,

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Speaker 2: That's how you really couldn't be.

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Speaker 4: I'm cheering that.

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Speaker 2: Why am I around?

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Speaker 3: I cried like a baby when it all happened at

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Speaker 3: I don't think we have enough time.

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Speaker 1: And he shared how they met and this glow that

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Speaker 2: I was like bawling. Wait, I just want to say,

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Speaker 2: I'm to think it's me. I'm around Susan. She cries,

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Can we have a few laughs.

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Speaker 3: She's crying because he didn't faller yet.

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Speaker 2: What is the biggest Nancy, truly, what is the biggest

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Speaker 2: Golden Bachelor.

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Speaker 3: I could answer.

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Speaker 6: That all of the friendships, all of the new friendships

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Speaker 6: That's what I was good to say, and the other

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Speaker 6: I mean I never expected it to be like this and.

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Speaker 4: I'm still hoping for more. So everybody needs to keep

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Speaker 3: You're never getting rid of us, baby.

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Speaker 2: And do you know what she said? It's putting the

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Speaker 3: I love it.

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Speaker 2: So what do you think?

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Speaker 3: It's game time?

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Speaker 2: We're going to play game, Nancy. You know we love

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Speaker 1: Okay, Nancy and everybody. We're going to play a little

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Speaker 1: relationship game. It's relationship Would you rather? Are you ready?

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Speaker 2: All?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 2: Here we go, Nancy. Here's the first one. Your date

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Speaker 2: Which would you rather?

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Speaker 4: That's a tough one, Homide.

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Speaker 1: If he's a builder, and he's going to build me

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Speaker 3: If not, they buy me some.

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Speaker 2: Come on, people, I want a piece of jewelry, preferably

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Speaker 2: diamonds and solid gold. Let's be honest here.

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Speaker 1: Oh god, let's try another one. Date someone with an

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Speaker 1: unfortunate piercing or an unfortunate tattoo. Unfortunate like a piercing

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Speaker 1: and a bad place.

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Speaker 2: Is that?

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Speaker 4: Yes, that's yeah. I would say piercing because they could

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Speaker 2: That's that's the logical man, I like it.

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Speaker 3: I guess I would agree.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't think a tattoo is unfortunate to me, and.

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Speaker 4: Especially if it means something.

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Speaker 1: So when I say I'm fortunate, the only first thing

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Speaker 2: Where is it? And we're not going there? Okay, all right,

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Speaker 2: too early, all right, Nancy? Speaking of relationships, would you

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Speaker 4: A snore?

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Speaker 2: Why, they'll keep you up all night.

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Speaker 3: Let's they could get their own.

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Speaker 4: Round them a lot, and they smell bad, that's deal breaker.

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Speaker 2: You give them a bottle, You give them some toothpaste

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Speaker 3: Sometimes bare breath comes from within it. It's like a thing.

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Speaker 1: No, I would definitely agree with you. And at this

447
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Speaker 1: stage of the game, the house is big enough. He

448
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Speaker 1: can have his own room and I could have mine.

449
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Speaker 1: Oh now she's changing it.

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Speaker 3: Uh.

451
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Speaker 4: Wait, he's a builder, so he can't check.

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Speaker 3: That's right.

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Speaker 1: Do you enjoy watching TV shows together or perhaps movies together?

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Speaker 4: Movies?

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Speaker 2: I would agree with that. I like a nice romantic

456
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Speaker 2: movie series. You know what, I liked it.

457
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Speaker 1: How many adult people told us that they watched The

458
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Speaker 1: Bachelor together Golden Bachelor and their husbands were involved.

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Speaker 2: That's like new. But wait, Nancy, I want to go back.

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Speaker 2: You said a series. I want to know why a

461
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Speaker 2: series instead of a TV show? Is this to keep

462
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Speaker 2: the guy on the couch or one come back every night?

463
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Speaker 4: It's always about that.

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Speaker 2: I'm kidding, all right, what do you think? All right,

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Speaker 2: here's one more dance date someone who has a lot

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Speaker 2: of female friends or no friends at all?

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Speaker 4: A lot of friends? I think?

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Speaker 2: Wait, a lot of friends or a lot of female friends.

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Speaker 4: Oh, female friends? Sorry, a lot of friends.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't think that would bother me.

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Speaker 2: Wait, I wait, I want to get why not female friends?

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Speaker 2: Do you not trust him. Nancy.

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Speaker 1: No, so if he had a lot of female friends,

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Speaker 1: I would be their friends. I'd get new girlfriends. That

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Speaker 1: would be fine, Okay, I think go with it.

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Speaker 2: I'd be jealous. I I just know me. I mean,

477
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Speaker 2: you guys sound so pure, and I'm gonna when you

478
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Speaker 2: date that guy and he's got fifteen girlfriends calling him

479
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Speaker 2: to go offer pizza on Friday, I'm going to see

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Speaker 2: how you feel that.

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Speaker 4: I would not like that. I agree.

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Speaker 3: Oh yes, this is my favorite one.

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Speaker 1: Get flowers from your partner every week, or diamonds once

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Speaker 1: a year.

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Speaker 3: I want a little one.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna surprise you guys. Willy, are you going

487
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Speaker 2: with the diamonds? Nancy, yeah, you two.

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Speaker 3: Susan No, I like flowers. They make me happy.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so you know what I you know, I'm going

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Speaker 2: with the flowers because well, no, because this where I'm

491
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Speaker 2: sort of a little romantic that way sentimental. If someone

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Speaker 2: thing takes enough time to order flowers for me once

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Speaker 2: a week, he knows the flowers, I like he's thinking

494
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Speaker 2: about me. Diamonds you know, you call up a jeweler

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Speaker 2: and say, hey, it doesn't take as much thought if

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Speaker 2: you will.

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Speaker 4: But I think you know, Mark and I used to

498
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Speaker 4: do this thing. We would leave each other. He started it.

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Speaker 4: We would leave each other on a torn out piece

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Speaker 4: of paper, a little note. Not every day, maybe once

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Speaker 4: a week ish, but you I'd find it somewhere in

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Speaker 4: my car, in my and he would say. He would say,

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Speaker 4: I'll miss you, or I loved our dinner last night,

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Speaker 4: or just a little thing. It meant so much to me.

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Speaker 4: It does, and I thought, kind of like what you

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Speaker 4: were saying about the flower. It is. It is nice

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Speaker 4: to be thought of and loved. And you know, even

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Speaker 4: when during all of our busy lives, just to have

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Speaker 4: a little note or some flowers, I mean, that is nice.

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Speaker 2: I know. Okay, I've got I've got a better idea.

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Speaker 2: I'd like Nancy Dancy.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I agree.

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Speaker 2: Here's what we do. We tell the guy we love flowers,

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Speaker 2: and then oh, a couple of times a year he

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Speaker 2: winds a diamond bracelet or necklace in the floor.

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Speaker 3: I like the way you think. I like the way

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Speaker 3: you thinks.

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Speaker 1: All right, so let me share something that I've done

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Speaker 1: over the years being single, because flowers do make me happy.

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Speaker 1: Once a week I would go and buy a bunch

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Speaker 1: of flowers and go home, and it would take my

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Speaker 1: whole Friday night of arranging them and my vases around

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Speaker 1: the house, having fresh flowers.

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Speaker 2: Wait, did I just hear you spent your whole Friday night? Yes,

525
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Speaker 2: you need to get a life.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I went to produce Junction and bought gathers and

527
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Speaker 1: lots and lots of flowers and I made bakes this

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Speaker 1: and they were beautiful.

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Speaker 3: And they make me happy.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So if nobody is buying them for you, we

531
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Speaker 1: could either a buy them for each other when you

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Speaker 1: put a diamond brace, putting the diamonds in there, maybe

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Speaker 1: Cubics or Connia.

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Speaker 2: All right, Nancy, we know the world doesn't but we

535
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Speaker 2: know that you have a fabulous dog named Max who

536
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Speaker 2: is your best bud and we love Max. You. But

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00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 2: now I'm going to put you forward. You're dating someone.

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00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 2: Would you date someone who doesn't like pets? Or wait

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Speaker 2: a minute, wait, the alternative is much better, Nancy, Or

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Speaker 2: date someone with ten pets?

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Speaker 3: Red flag?

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Speaker 1: I see the red flag flag.

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Speaker 3: The first thing that comes to mind is hair all

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Speaker 3: over the house.

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Speaker 4: Of course it does.

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Speaker 2: So let me give you, ladies, the solution. You date

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Speaker 2: a guy with no pets and you get data guy

548
00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:37,959
Speaker 2: with no pets, and then if it turns into something,

549
00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 2: you get the pet you want and he has to

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Speaker 2: learn to deal.

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Speaker 3: But he says it doesn't like Sorry who asked what?

552
00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:47,360
Speaker 2: It doesn't matter what he likes, not when it comes

553
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 2: to pets. If you want a pet in charge, you're

554
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:52,880
Speaker 2: in charge, right you know what? He can do the

555
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Speaker 2: cooking and the cleaning. While we're at it. Gee, I

556
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Speaker 2: wonder why I'm not dating.

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Speaker 1: You will clean the dis I'll do the cooking. Nancy,

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Speaker 1: I'll do the cooking.

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Speaker 3: That you have to do.

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00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 2: The Nancy is going to be all busy walking Max.

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Speaker 4: I'm and looking for Colin wherever he is.

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Speaker 2: Oh God, bless so Nancy. Question for you. I have

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Speaker 2: to be honest. I have not been on a dating

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Speaker 2: site since The Golden Bachelor. Are you wonder you're not

565
00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:24,880
Speaker 2: on dating sites and not? What about what about your

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Speaker 2: d ms? Are they blowing up since the show?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 3: Oh, du see, come.

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Speaker 4: On, it is different than I thought it would be.

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Speaker 4: I thought, oh, just you know, unfortunately Gary and I

571
00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 4: you know, didn't make it right.

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00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 3: Friend zone.

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00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:48,600
Speaker 4: We're in the friend zone. But I was I thought,

574
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Speaker 4: you know, the exposure would be great and I'm you know,

575
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 4: I'm sure people will reach out. So I've had people

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Speaker 4: who are much older than me.

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Speaker 5: I e eighty.

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Speaker 4: And I've had most mostly older men. And then I

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Speaker 4: had this one guy. He sent a picture and he said,

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Speaker 4: I would love to be your golden bachelor, but I'm

581
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Speaker 4: not golden. He was born.

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Speaker 2: So did you wait a minute? Wait a minute? Would

583
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Speaker 2: you do it? Would you go out with it?

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Speaker 4: I wouldn't. I would date with someone younger, but not

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Speaker 4: that much younger.

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Speaker 1: Do you have a gap, like, do you have a

587
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Speaker 1: specific amount of years or just.

588
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Speaker 2: Because let me just say to Susan ahe does matter.

589
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Speaker 2: So Nancy talk convince her.

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Speaker 4: I wouldn't have to have I think I don't know,

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00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 4: five years younger, maybe three years younger.

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Speaker 3: Well, you know what I think. The problem is feel

593
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Speaker 3: like that.

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Speaker 1: But I do go in too young because you can't

595
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Speaker 1: even relate about life, you know, things that already happened

596
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:00,720
Speaker 1: for you, especially when you get into fifteen. Your gap,

597
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:02,960
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? The music you listen to

598
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:06,640
Speaker 1: is not the same. Everything is different, right, Nancy.

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Speaker 4: That's what I've heard about the older men, like men

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Speaker 4: who are you know, seventy or seventy five, and then

601
00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:16,680
Speaker 4: want to date a thirty year old. Well after the

602
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 4: honeymoon part of the relationship. They don't have anything in common.

603
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:23,720
Speaker 4: They haven't experienced the thirty year old hasn't lived any life.

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Speaker 4: How can that work?

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Speaker 3: Don't don't you think it's a arm candy?

606
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Speaker 1: Like they just want a nice, young looking, nice hard

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Speaker 1: body woman on their arm.

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Speaker 2: You know what, go buy them a rubber doll.

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Speaker 4: I mean, come on, here's my arm candy.

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00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:41,640
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, do those pilates golfriend?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:46,200
Speaker 3: Oh, guys, I have such a good time talking to you.

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Speaker 2: Guys.

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00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:48,640
Speaker 4: I'm missing guys. I can't wait to see you.

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Speaker 2: Well, we're going to be on that golf trip.

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Speaker 3: Well that's not untill September. We're going to see her

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Speaker 3: before that.

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Speaker 2: Wait, we're letting everyone know now we are going back

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Speaker 2: to Saint Martin.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, only this time. We're staying two weeks. Right,

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Speaker 1: one week I don't think was enough.

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Speaker 4: No, because once you get in the groove, and we

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Speaker 4: went to different beaches, but we didn't get to all

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Speaker 4: of them, I think. And we were only at the

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Speaker 4: jewelry store one day and.

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Speaker 1: The whole day, may I add the whole will then

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Speaker 1: I was spending one thousand bucks.

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Speaker 4: Well, and you have to tell everybody that we you know,

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Speaker 4: of course we'd befriended the owner who loves all of

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Speaker 4: us and you can make any jewelry you want, and

631
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Speaker 4: so we need to go back and hang out with him.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Wait, Nancy, that's a great idea. We'll bring the flowers

634
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Speaker 2: and tell him to put the diamond in the flowers

635
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Speaker 2: and we'll see him once a year.

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Speaker 1: It's a parfect write that down, Cathy, because I may forget.

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Speaker 4: Goy friend, just one. I'm not greedy, just one good one,

638
00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:53,960
Speaker 4: and then they can go to Saint Martin with us

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Speaker 4: and meet our friend.

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Speaker 2: That's a great idea, Nancy. But since you'll be the

641
00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 2: woman with the boyfriend, could you ask if he has

642
00:34:01,040 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 2: an older brother for me? Susan can get her own.

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Speaker 3: Oh thanks, These are my friends. You hear that, everybody,

644
00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:11,480
Speaker 3: These are my friends. They're throwing me to the wolves.

645
00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:13,440
Speaker 4: Now you'll just find Susan.

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Speaker 3: Well.

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Speaker 1: That does it for this episode of Bachelor Happy Hour's

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Speaker 1: Golden Hour. And I can't thank you enough for our

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Speaker 1: beautiful Nancy joining us today, and we'll have you back again.

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Speaker 3: Nancy.

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Speaker 2: We love you Nancy, and we can't wait to have

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Speaker 2: you back again. Thank you all for joining us, and

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Speaker 2: please be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour as we

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Speaker 2: have new episodes coming out every week. Remember go to

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Speaker 2: Bachelor Happy Hour and then search for the show Golden

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Speaker 2: Hour and that's where you'll find us.

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Speaker 1: And make sure to submit your questions. I'm dying to

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Speaker 1: answer some real questions. We did just a touch of

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Speaker 1: it the other day and they were fabulous questions, by

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Speaker 1: the way, and Kathy and I were on opposite ends

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Speaker 1: of the spectrum for some of them and.

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Speaker 3: Others we agreed with.

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Speaker 1: But just go to bachelornation dot com, forward slash Golden Hour,

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Speaker 1: hit us up on social Bachelor Happy Hour.

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Speaker 3: I look forward to hearing from you.

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Speaker 2: That is absolutely true. We can't wait to hear from you.

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Speaker 2: But in the meantime, please listen to Bachelor Happy Hours

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Speaker 2: to podcasts until next week. See you then,