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Speaker 1: It is strong, very letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject He's

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Speaker 1: amazing to himself and his mama. Dear Stephen Shirley. The

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Speaker 1: title right, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm writing to you because

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Speaker 1: Steve gives a lot of advice that some people take

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Speaker 1: the wrong way. My husband is one of the people

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Speaker 1: that heard what Steve said, but he doesn't quite understand it.

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Speaker 1: I get that it's okay if you are in your

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Speaker 1: mid forties and you're still trying to pursue your dreams,

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Speaker 1: but I believe you have to be honest with yourself.

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, my poor husband is only amazing to himself

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Speaker 1: and his mama. I can't even tell you what he thinks.

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Speaker 1: He's good at because his mama listens to the show

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Speaker 1: daily and she's messy enough to tell him on me.

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Speaker 1: We are both forty seven years old, and he's never

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Speaker 1: never given up on his dream to become famous. His

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Speaker 1: a kid at a house party. We've been at a

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Speaker 1: our table, and she looks at him so proudly, while

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Speaker 1: I avoid eye contact with people around us because I

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Speaker 1: know they're trying not to laugh at him. The performances

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Speaker 1: He's also he also thinks he's amazing in the bedroom,

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Speaker 1: But that's my fault because I started lying to him

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Speaker 1: years ago about that. The fact that he is still

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Speaker 1: builds him up and she won't. She would never forgive

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Speaker 1: me if I tell them how I really feel about

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Speaker 1: his so called god given talent. I think if he

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Speaker 1: he'd find joy in that. So do I start with

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Speaker 1: his mama and make her realize he's not getting a

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Speaker 1: big break. Or should I tell him that he doesn't

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Speaker 1: need to hire another manager because he's not talented. Should

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Speaker 1: I be a dream killer? Or let this play out?

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Speaker 1: Another ten years? Wow? Another ten years? I say, listen,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna have to let this play out. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I mean, because so many people say, never give up

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Speaker 1: with him and all that you're tired of him embarrassing

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Speaker 1: to take it well coming from you. And when you

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Speaker 1: he singing? Is he dancing? Is he rapping or trying

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Speaker 1: Because if he was really serious about his entertainment career,

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Speaker 1: sure way to find out is for him to perform

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Speaker 1: because that's her baby, and everything he does is perfectly perfect.

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Speaker 1: That's her, you know, And if you say something about

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Speaker 1: to letter started me. I'm writing you because Steve gills

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Speaker 1: a lot of advice that some people take the wrong weight.

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Speaker 1: My husband is one of the people that heard what

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Speaker 1: that it's okay if you and your mid parties and

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Speaker 1: you have to be honest with yourself. Now wait a minute,

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Speaker 1: hold up. So it sounds to me like what you're

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Speaker 1: you're trying to put that on me. I don't know

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Speaker 1: your husband. I don't know what his professor talent seems

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Speaker 1: what I'm gonna sue. I'm assuming it is. It ain't dancing,

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Speaker 1: it's singing it. He thinks he's all around performance. What

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Speaker 1: that guy doing? I said, pursue your dreams. I've also

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Speaker 1: said on this show that your dreams should be attached

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Speaker 1: to your guilt. I've also said your gift is a

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Speaker 1: thing that you do absolute best with the least the

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Speaker 1: on the show. So obviously the only one thank his gift.

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Speaker 1: It's what he do best is him and his mama.

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Speaker 1: That's it. So when we come back, I'm gonna straighten

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Speaker 1: it all out for you. All right, Thank you, Steve.

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of your response coming up to

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letter at twenty three minutes after be our

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Speaker 1: The subject is He's amazing to himself and to his mama.

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Speaker 1: We'll be back right after this. You're listening, all right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letter and get

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Speaker 1: to your response part two. He's amazing to himself and

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Speaker 1: his mama is Well, that title right there is just ugly.

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Speaker 1: It's ugly because we've all seen this before. My baby

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Speaker 1: cute this baby is. That baby is mama cute? That

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Speaker 1: baby is only cute to the mama. Let me explain

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Speaker 1: something to you, and I'll get to that in a minute. Now.

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Speaker 1: What you're not gonna do is Steve said on the

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Speaker 1: show give a lot of advice. Some people take it wrong.

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Speaker 1: Steve say follow your dreams even if you're in your

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Speaker 1: forty I didn't say that, but I also said your

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Speaker 1: dreams should be attached to your guilt. I also said

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Speaker 1: all that, so I don't drag No One census out

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Speaker 1: and then all this siding this is that about me?

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Speaker 1: Because I'm gonna tell you right now, I've been to

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Speaker 1: hurt your feeling because I'm taking a little non forty

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Speaker 1: he telling is amazing to himself and his mama. I

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Speaker 1: can't even tell you what he thinks he good at

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Speaker 1: because his mama listened to the show, Dana, she mess

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Speaker 1: One of the two ain't. Either one of them gonna

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Speaker 1: Ain't no new forty Samuel old singer. You could be

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Speaker 1: already been out the odd No new forty seven year

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Speaker 1: old singers nowhere. You got to take this to the church. Okay,

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Speaker 1: stop all this right here. Now we're both forty seven

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Speaker 1: years old, and he's never given up on his dream

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Speaker 1: It has nothing to do with your wants, your talent,

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Speaker 1: your gift, nothing. You become famous because other people admire

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Speaker 1: of these damn songs. Now, he like a little kid,

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. Anybody can get a manager

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Speaker 1: because if you don't have talent, you can find somebody

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Speaker 1: that thank you due. And now you're really going nowhere

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Speaker 1: because you didn't hide somebody that's a poet. George of

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Speaker 1: capt in Talent, Should I be a dream Killer? Letters

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Speaker 1: play out another ten years? The ain't no where in him.

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