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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: advice on relationships, on dating, on work, on sex, on parenting,

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Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey

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Speaker 1: FM and click submit Strawberry a Letter. We could be

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Speaker 1: reading your letter live on the air, just like we're

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Speaker 1: gonna read this one right here, right now. Let's go.

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Speaker 1: Let's go buckle up a hole on tight. We got

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Speaker 1: it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. Oh

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Speaker 1: lord subject A father should never have to see that.

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Speaker 1: Dear mister Harvey and miss Strawberry. I am a twenty

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Speaker 1: two year old guy and my girlfriend is twenty one.

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Speaker 1: She still lives at home and she's a virgin, so

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Speaker 1: we've been taking it slow in the sex department. I

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Speaker 1: am falling in love with this girl, and I think

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Speaker 1: she loves me. My birthday was two weeks ago and

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Speaker 1: she treated me to dinner. As I was dropping her

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Speaker 1: I got to her house so she could give me

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Speaker 1: a surprise for my birthday. I over a block away

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Speaker 1: and then she leaned in and gave me a very

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Speaker 1: special birthday present. It was something I had never received before,

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Speaker 1: if you know what I mean. While this was happening,

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Speaker 1: listen to this though. While this was happening, I wasn't

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Speaker 1: I certainly didn't notice that her dad had pulled up

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Speaker 1: behind my card. Yes, yeah, yes, okay, I'll read it again. Okay, yeah, yeah, no,

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Speaker 1: all right. So, like he said, he wasn't paying attention

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Speaker 1: through my car window. I screamed, I need a scream

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Speaker 1: from you right here, Steve. Please, you can't scream much.

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Speaker 1: I love the way you scream. Come on, I screamed,

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Speaker 1: My girlfriend screamed, and her dad yelled for her to

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Speaker 1: my white as Excuse me, but that's what he said.

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Speaker 1: I'm a white guy and my girlfriend is black. So

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Speaker 1: do you think he had a problem with the fact

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Speaker 1: his daughter was doing to me. I have been dating

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Speaker 1: her for a few months and race has never been

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Speaker 1: an issue. We have snucked to see each other once. Uh,

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Speaker 1: we have snucked to see each other once since this happened.

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Speaker 1: But I don't want to get hurt because my girl

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Speaker 1: She won't admit to her dad that it was her idea,

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Speaker 1: and I don't blame her, but I don't want to

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Speaker 1: from her? Please? Help? Well, you ask what is he

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Speaker 1: mad about? Is he mad about the fact that you're white?

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Speaker 1: Or was it what she was doing to you? And

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Speaker 1: I say to you all of the above. He's mad

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Speaker 1: at everything. He's mad at the fact that you were white.

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Speaker 1: He's mad at the fact of what she was doing

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Speaker 1: to you. You gotta put yourself in her dad's shoes,

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Speaker 1: if you can. You roll up on your daughter and

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Speaker 1: she's pleasuring some guy okay, in her car. I guarantee

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Speaker 1: you you would feel some kind of way to see

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Speaker 1: kind of shock and hurt and disappointment from a parent.

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Speaker 1: That you can't even imagine. I can't say that it's

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Speaker 1: just one thing that her pops was upset about. Again,

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Speaker 1: I think he's mad about everything. The fact that you're white.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure hadham shook and I'm not gonna lie to

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Speaker 1: But again, all of this is just something. You know,

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Speaker 1: you don't want to see your child doing this, just

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Speaker 1: like children say they don't ever want to see their

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Speaker 1: parents getting busy, well, their parents certainly don't want to

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Speaker 1: see it from their kid busting up in the dodey.

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Speaker 1: Excuse me, I'm sorry, Okay, a little personal for you,

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Speaker 1: can do now. You know, there's a saying that as

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Speaker 1: time heals all wounds, maybe sometime in the future you

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Speaker 1: my suggestion, my advice to you, is to stay away

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Speaker 1: this is a boy. Boy, boy boy, we got daughters. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you have crazy. I understand everybody in this letter. I

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Speaker 1: understand the boy, I understand the father. We have a situation.

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Speaker 1: Yet the girl gave you a birthday surprise a block

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Speaker 1: received before. If you know what I mean, I'm going

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Speaker 1: back in my mind right now, Boy, I know exactly

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Speaker 1: what you mean. While this was happening, I wasn't paying

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Speaker 1: much attention to what's going on around. You can't. You

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Speaker 1: can't you focus this ship, focus shot. Your guys are

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Speaker 1: back of your head. You're actually looking at your brain

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Speaker 1: with your eyes and you ain't never seen that before,

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Speaker 1: so you don't even realize it. But your eyes is well,

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Speaker 1: but you can't see nothing but your Damn'm praying. I

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Speaker 1: knew you were gonna sing? Is happening? All right? Listen,

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of Steeves response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three after the hour. Subject of today's strawberry letter

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Speaker 1: A father should never have to see that? Right after

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Speaker 1: this you're listening show, all right, Steve, come on, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's strawberry letters. Subject to father's should never have

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Speaker 1: to see that. This boy been dating this girl. He

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Speaker 1: love with this girl things she falling in love with you.

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Speaker 1: Your birthday was two weeks ago. She treated me to dinner.

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Speaker 1: We started making out, and here this way all hell,

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Speaker 1: very special birthday press. You keep reading that over and

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Speaker 1: over again, very very very special first time sure, and

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Speaker 1: The world doesn't stop turning for you. The car engine

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Speaker 1: we know exactly what you. You can't pay attention. You

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Speaker 1: can't pay too much of nothing right now. You don't

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Speaker 1: you're saying things that you speaking in a language similar

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Speaker 1: to what church folk do back. Damn, careful, liberally good.

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Speaker 1: All of this is going on. And then while you

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Speaker 1: worst possible moment is to try to clamp the water holes. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: while you washing the car. But the first yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: what he's said, because I'm a white guy, my girlfriend black.

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Speaker 1: He didn't have to bring it up before, but now

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Speaker 1: months down race has never been an issue? What is? Why? No?

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