1 00:00:02,720 --> 00:00:05,880 Speaker 1: Hi. This is Laura Vandercamp. I'm a mother of five, 2 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:10,200 Speaker 1: an author, journalist, and speaker. And this is Sarah Hart Hunger. 3 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 1: I'm a mother of three, a practicing physician and blogger. 4 00:00:13,480 --> 00:00:15,800 Speaker 1: On the side, we are two working parents who love 5 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 1: our careers and our families. Welcome to best of both worlds. 6 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:22,400 Speaker 1: Here we talk about how real women manage work, family, 7 00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:25,800 Speaker 1: and time for fun, from figuring out childcare to mapping 8 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:28,360 Speaker 1: out long term career goals. We want you to get 9 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:34,080 Speaker 1: the most out of life. Welcome to best of both worlds. 10 00:00:34,240 --> 00:00:37,080 Speaker 1: This is Laura. This is episode two hundred and three, 11 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:40,520 Speaker 1: which is first airing in late June of twenty twenty one, 12 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 1: which is the end of the second quarter, or possibly 13 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:48,480 Speaker 1: the beginning of the third quintile in Sarah's system. We're 14 00:00:48,520 --> 00:00:51,880 Speaker 1: reasonably into the third quintile, though, aren't we. I define 15 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:54,240 Speaker 1: the third quintile is the entire time that the kids 16 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 1: are off from school during the summer, So yes, we 17 00:00:56,480 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 1: are well into it by now, although I guess it's 18 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 1: regional depends on where you live. Yeah. Yeah, we have 19 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 1: just finished school as this is airing. My school goes 20 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:09,120 Speaker 1: till seventeenth, eighteenth of June. We don't start until I 21 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:13,240 Speaker 1: think it's like September eighth this year, so it's just well, 22 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 1: because there's Labor Day, we never start before Labor Day. 23 00:01:15,920 --> 00:01:19,320 Speaker 1: And then Rashashana is right after Labor Day this year, 24 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:21,399 Speaker 1: and so we have those days off as well. So 25 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:23,919 Speaker 1: I mean, it's a long way in before we start 26 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 1: in September. But anyway, sad to think of September when 27 00:01:28,080 --> 00:01:30,480 Speaker 1: it's only June. Now we're going to be doing a 28 00:01:30,760 --> 00:01:34,840 Speaker 1: mid year goal check in, so excited about that. But 29 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 1: before we talk about that, I want you to go 30 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:41,400 Speaker 1: listen to another podcast, Best Slide Plans. I know a 31 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:44,520 Speaker 1: lot of people also listen to Sarah's other podcasts, Bestlaid Plans, 32 00:01:44,880 --> 00:01:50,200 Speaker 1: and recently there was a special guest which was, oh, yes, 33 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 1: we decided to do a well. I decided to do 34 00:01:53,240 --> 00:01:56,000 Speaker 1: a Planner of Matchmaking, and I felt like Laura was 35 00:01:56,000 --> 00:01:59,360 Speaker 1: the obvious first victim since she has been using a 36 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:02,120 Speaker 1: spiral note book for her quote unquote planner for quite 37 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:04,600 Speaker 1: some time, and I thought she might enjoy thinking about 38 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 1: an upgrade. So it is a fun episode. I give 39 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:09,920 Speaker 1: her several options to choose from. We will have to 40 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,239 Speaker 1: update in the future. As to what she's actually using, 41 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:14,680 Speaker 1: because that is yet TBD as we are recording this, 42 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:16,799 Speaker 1: but it was really really fun. So if you want 43 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:18,960 Speaker 1: to listen to Laura on Bestilaid Plans, it is the 44 00:02:19,040 --> 00:02:22,400 Speaker 1: June thirteenth episode and we can try to link it 45 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:26,040 Speaker 1: up if we remember. Yeah, yeah, So Sarah recommended four 46 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 1: excellent planners for me, and so you'll just have to 47 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:31,880 Speaker 1: stay tuned to find out what I wind up choosing 48 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:36,240 Speaker 1: and using and turning myself into a well planned person 49 00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 1: as a result. But speaking of plans, we're going to 50 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:41,679 Speaker 1: talk about our twenty twenty one goals and how they're 51 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:44,640 Speaker 1: going and how any modifications we are making, or maybe 52 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:46,560 Speaker 1: we forgot what our goals were for twenty twenty one 53 00:02:46,600 --> 00:02:49,040 Speaker 1: and we started fresh. But anyway, Sarah, what are your 54 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:51,919 Speaker 1: when you do your goal process, especially when you're doing 55 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 1: a midyear check in, like what are you actually doing? 56 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 1: What are you making lists of? So I wanted to 57 00:02:58,360 --> 00:03:02,560 Speaker 1: go back and actually at my yearly goals, like what 58 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 1: had I decided to do in twenty twenty one, knowing 59 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 1: that by the time the sayers, half of the year 60 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:10,680 Speaker 1: sadly is over, and so I want to see if 61 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:13,120 Speaker 1: it's realistic and kind of where I am in terms 62 00:03:13,360 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 1: of reaching those and if anything needs to be tweaked. 63 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:18,560 Speaker 1: I'm not really looking to add a bunch of things 64 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:20,960 Speaker 1: because really, like you know, you made a yearly goals list. 65 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 1: Of course I'm going to add things to the month 66 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 1: or whatever things comes up, but that's not really my 67 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:26,440 Speaker 1: purpose of like when I do like a mid year review. 68 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 1: So primarily I went back to those lists, and I think, 69 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 1: partially inspired by you, I kind of divide my goals 70 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:35,640 Speaker 1: up into two sub areas of my life. I have 71 00:03:35,680 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 1: a family list, a blog and podcast lists, a real 72 00:03:39,640 --> 00:03:43,680 Speaker 1: work list, and a personal list, so we can decide 73 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:44,920 Speaker 1: how we want to do it. But I can go 74 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:48,320 Speaker 1: through basically things that are like already accomplished, things that 75 00:03:48,360 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 1: I maybe don't even want to do anymore, and then 76 00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 1: a couple of things I've decided to try to add 77 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 1: in as unexpected things came up. Well, let's talk about 78 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:58,680 Speaker 1: what you've done, what has gotten checked off in the 79 00:03:58,720 --> 00:04:02,680 Speaker 1: first half of twenty twenty one. Yeah, so, as you predicted, 80 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:07,680 Speaker 1: potty training Genevieve was a nice make check. There are 81 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:10,760 Speaker 1: no more diapers in the younger household. Well, that's for 82 00:04:11,200 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 1: DEA's all right for day exactly one nightly diaper is used, 83 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:16,200 Speaker 1: but I can. I can hang with that for a while. 84 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:19,039 Speaker 1: I do not care. So yeah, that wasn't as hard 85 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:21,840 Speaker 1: as I maybe thought. I did accomplish having mommy days 86 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:24,240 Speaker 1: with each kid. I did that in March so that 87 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:26,960 Speaker 1: during their respective spring breaks they had different spring breaks, 88 00:04:26,960 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 1: so instead of doing everything as a family, I did 89 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:33,440 Speaker 1: dedicate three days to one each kid mommying. So that 90 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 1: was good. What else did I have checked off here? Well, 91 00:04:37,160 --> 00:04:39,560 Speaker 1: my habits. I've been kind of consistent with those, like 92 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 1: my headspace and duel lingo most days, and going outside 93 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 1: most days and reading, So I just put checks next 94 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:46,960 Speaker 1: to that because I don't see those things changing. I 95 00:04:47,040 --> 00:04:50,359 Speaker 1: was able to check off a better organization process for 96 00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:52,880 Speaker 1: our podcasts. I just feel like I now have like 97 00:04:52,880 --> 00:04:55,559 Speaker 1: a good like active spreadsheets going. I have a good, 98 00:04:55,720 --> 00:04:57,920 Speaker 1: easy way where I store all my questions. They're not 99 00:04:57,960 --> 00:04:59,720 Speaker 1: just stuck in my email inbox. I don't know why 100 00:04:59,760 --> 00:05:01,520 Speaker 1: it took four years to figure that out, but I did, 101 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 1: and I did. I was able to check off going 102 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:06,840 Speaker 1: to a virtual meeting. I wanted to go to one 103 00:05:06,839 --> 00:05:09,599 Speaker 1: meeting this year, although in retrospect. I hate virtual meetings. 104 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 1: I mean, like it's not it's you mean a conference, 105 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:16,160 Speaker 1: not Sarah's in like six meetings a day. No, I 106 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:22,159 Speaker 1: went to a virtual multi day conference. But the problem was, well, 107 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 1: number one, I personally found it really hard, if not impossible, 108 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 1: to decide to dedicate a weekend to that while I'm home, 109 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:33,080 Speaker 1: and it happened to be over one of Josh's call weekends. 110 00:05:33,320 --> 00:05:36,200 Speaker 1: So the question was, like, do I hire childcare all 111 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 1: day long so I can watch videos that are like 112 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 1: technically being recorded any way that I could watch later. 113 00:05:40,560 --> 00:05:42,560 Speaker 1: So no. So of course, now it's been like a 114 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 1: month and a half since and I've watched like maybe 115 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:47,599 Speaker 1: twenty percent of this conference, and it's just like the 116 00:05:47,640 --> 00:05:49,320 Speaker 1: whole part of the point of the conference is like 117 00:05:49,400 --> 00:05:52,359 Speaker 1: blocking off time where you're out of the workplace and 118 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:54,400 Speaker 1: out of your family place to focus on the content 119 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 1: of the conference and network with the people there, and 120 00:05:56,880 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 1: like basically none of that was achieved with this virtual conference. 121 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:02,599 Speaker 1: So I don't think I'm going to have that as 122 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 1: something I want to do often unless there's some compelling 123 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:07,680 Speaker 1: reason anymore. But I guess I can check it off. 124 00:06:07,680 --> 00:06:09,480 Speaker 1: You did it well, now you know I mean, and 125 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:13,920 Speaker 1: sometimes these things are about figuring out what isn't really 126 00:06:14,440 --> 00:06:17,239 Speaker 1: worth it and knowing and then you release the mental 127 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:19,920 Speaker 1: space of it. Do you have a duo lingo streak going? 128 00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 1: I have to ask no, No, I've told you I 129 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 1: don't like streaks. I had one for a while and 130 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:26,960 Speaker 1: then I like, sometimes I don't like to do it. 131 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:28,840 Speaker 1: I don't always do it on weekends. I'm going to 132 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 1: guess that I've done it. I don't know two hundred 133 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:34,440 Speaker 1: of the last two hundred and forty eight, you know 134 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:36,040 Speaker 1: what I mean. Like, so I'm pretty good with it, 135 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 1: and I will end up building streaks because sometimes I'll 136 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 1: do it like twenty thirty days in a row, but 137 00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: then I let it laps and I'm like comfortable with that. 138 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: Same with headspace. I never have streeks. So I have 139 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:49,080 Speaker 1: a little streak story here. My daughter was doing duo 140 00:06:49,160 --> 00:06:52,760 Speaker 1: lingo and had a streak of one hundred and seventy 141 00:06:52,800 --> 00:06:56,240 Speaker 1: five days. Perhaps there's a little bit of a genetic 142 00:06:57,160 --> 00:07:02,559 Speaker 1: interest in streaks there, But she had arranged a streak 143 00:07:02,600 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 1: freezer thought she had for a particular day, and we 144 00:07:05,279 --> 00:07:07,600 Speaker 1: had bad Wi Fi where we were and when we 145 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:11,840 Speaker 1: were traveling recently and it didn't go through or something, 146 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:13,480 Speaker 1: and so then when she opened it the next time, 147 00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:17,400 Speaker 1: her streak was at zero, and she, oh my god, 148 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:20,640 Speaker 1: it was so tragic. I mean, she was balling and 149 00:07:21,520 --> 00:07:25,040 Speaker 1: I felt so so bad about the whole thing. But 150 00:07:25,120 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 1: now she's just angry. She so she went from balling 151 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 1: to unhappy and to angry. And now she has told 152 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:36,120 Speaker 1: me she's on a duo lingo strike, not a duo 153 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 1: lingo streak, it is a dual lingo strike, and she 154 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 1: will have nothing more to do with the app. So 155 00:07:42,280 --> 00:07:45,240 Speaker 1: this is the downside of streaks for those of us 156 00:07:45,320 --> 00:07:48,880 Speaker 1: who are upholders. If we then lose the streak through 157 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:53,720 Speaker 1: something we didn't intend to, it can really be a thing. 158 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:57,480 Speaker 1: This is why I don't like streak. Yes, yeh, I 159 00:07:57,600 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 1: felt really bad in that situation to oh, well, I 160 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:04,720 Speaker 1: guess it. We live, and we learn, We'll find some 161 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:10,880 Speaker 1: other way to practice Spanish. Sorry all right, but is 162 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 1: too funny. There's so much psychology there. I mean, like, 163 00:08:14,440 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 1: did you learn any less Spanish if you practice three 164 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:20,000 Speaker 1: hundred and sixty four days three hundred and sixty five 165 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:22,560 Speaker 1: And I know they have streak freezes anyway, So then 166 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:25,200 Speaker 1: it's like then it becomes really dicey, because like, if 167 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:27,239 Speaker 1: you set up a streak freeze and you didn't practice, 168 00:08:27,240 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 1: you don't you didn't really have a streak. I mean, 169 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:30,360 Speaker 1: I'm sorry you didn't. You just set up a streak 170 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:32,000 Speaker 1: freeze on a game. That's true, there were there were 171 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:34,280 Speaker 1: no streak freezes in my running streak. I will point 172 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:37,439 Speaker 1: that out. Yes, because real streaks don't have freezes. I'm 173 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 1: not even saying real streaks are great, but like the 174 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 1: duo lingo streaks are are questionable. Yes, all right, well 175 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:46,440 Speaker 1: then it's her strike, all right. So those are the 176 00:08:46,559 --> 00:08:49,280 Speaker 1: things you've done. Is there anything you've decided you don't 177 00:08:49,400 --> 00:08:52,280 Speaker 1: want to do anymore that you've you know, removed from 178 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:54,440 Speaker 1: the rest of your year or of your goals as 179 00:08:54,480 --> 00:08:58,679 Speaker 1: you're pairing these down, Yes, I would say yes. So 180 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:03,760 Speaker 1: one it is that I wrote time block plan on there. 181 00:09:04,720 --> 00:09:07,120 Speaker 1: I don't really feel like I need to change the 182 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:10,480 Speaker 1: way I do my I think I'm really efficient and 183 00:09:10,520 --> 00:09:12,760 Speaker 1: like it's not like textbook time block planning, but what 184 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:14,360 Speaker 1: I do is sort of a version of that, and 185 00:09:14,400 --> 00:09:17,160 Speaker 1: I just I don't feel the need to like formally 186 00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:19,679 Speaker 1: change it. So I'm just going to not care about that, 187 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:23,000 Speaker 1: and then oh, I pivoted with my fitness. So I 188 00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:25,360 Speaker 1: was doing the another mother runner thing, but I honestly 189 00:09:25,400 --> 00:09:27,000 Speaker 1: felt like I was just getting slower and slower and 190 00:09:27,040 --> 00:09:29,640 Speaker 1: it was annoying me. So I just to switch to 191 00:09:29,720 --> 00:09:32,840 Speaker 1: like a more speed focused running program. And I'm doing 192 00:09:32,880 --> 00:09:36,000 Speaker 1: like the Daniel No not yeah, Daniel's running formula like 193 00:09:36,080 --> 00:09:38,920 Speaker 1: red Plan or something. My husband he is like a 194 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 1: he like ran, you know quickly, like like he's went 195 00:09:41,880 --> 00:09:43,800 Speaker 1: one races and stuff, and so he's like, if you 196 00:09:43,880 --> 00:09:45,839 Speaker 1: actually want to get faster, this is what you should 197 00:09:45,840 --> 00:09:47,559 Speaker 1: look at. So I was like, oh, and it actually 198 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:50,160 Speaker 1: I feel like it. It does work a little bit. 199 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:52,680 Speaker 1: And I also was thinking I might do like the 200 00:09:52,720 --> 00:09:55,640 Speaker 1: add obsession again, and instead I discovered the Peloton workouts, 201 00:09:55,679 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: which not the biking I have. No, I just don't 202 00:09:58,160 --> 00:09:59,920 Speaker 1: want to spend, but I do like their strength work 203 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:01,880 Speaker 1: and their bar and their yoga and they're greats and 204 00:10:01,920 --> 00:10:04,840 Speaker 1: you can get those without having the equipment, right correct, 205 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:06,880 Speaker 1: you know, it's an app that costs basically the same 206 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:08,720 Speaker 1: as Beach Buddy did. It was like and I canceled 207 00:10:08,720 --> 00:10:10,360 Speaker 1: that one. So it's like twelve dollars a month for 208 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:13,600 Speaker 1: full access to everything. It's it's really nice. I like it. 209 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:16,960 Speaker 1: And what are you doing to get faster in terms 210 00:10:17,000 --> 00:10:19,679 Speaker 1: of the running up? Yeah, So the current phase I'm in, 211 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:22,200 Speaker 1: it's like there's like different parts of it. There's four 212 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:24,920 Speaker 1: workouts a week. Two of them have like built in 213 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 1: speed work, and I set my garments. What really disciplines me, 214 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:29,840 Speaker 1: Like if I'm going too slow during the speed sections, 215 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:34,079 Speaker 1: It'll start saying too slow, too wow, and like the 216 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:37,120 Speaker 1: current and it repeats, so I'm able to see if 217 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:39,200 Speaker 1: I'm making progress. And I was like really excited because 218 00:10:39,360 --> 00:10:43,200 Speaker 1: yesterday my workout was three miles at tempo. So you 219 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:45,120 Speaker 1: do like ten minute warm up, then you try to 220 00:10:45,160 --> 00:10:46,599 Speaker 1: run a mile with your watch yailing at you, and 221 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:48,440 Speaker 1: then you get a minute to like break, like take 222 00:10:48,480 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 1: a walk of recover, and then you do another mile 223 00:10:50,080 --> 00:10:52,520 Speaker 1: a minute walk recover, then cool down. And when I 224 00:10:52,559 --> 00:10:54,800 Speaker 1: first started the program, I looked back at my garment 225 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 1: and I like, wasn't able to meet the target, And 226 00:10:56,720 --> 00:10:59,480 Speaker 1: yesterday I was. It was hard, but I was able 227 00:10:59,520 --> 00:11:01,240 Speaker 1: to meet the tar. So it's nice to actually see 228 00:11:01,280 --> 00:11:04,199 Speaker 1: like some progress. The target is not that I'm still 229 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:08,080 Speaker 1: like very slow compared to like my version of in shape, 230 00:11:08,080 --> 00:11:11,480 Speaker 1: but I don't care. I'm like happy. That sounds great. Well, 231 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:13,080 Speaker 1: let's take a quick ad break and we'll be right 232 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:27,720 Speaker 1: back to hear more about Sarah's goals. Well, we're back 233 00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:31,000 Speaker 1: doing our mid year goal check in. Sarah just said 234 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 1: that she is getting faster meeting her tempo speed run 235 00:11:34,920 --> 00:11:39,199 Speaker 1: goals with her new program. Anything else that's that's been 236 00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:41,440 Speaker 1: changed in the course of the year, No, those are 237 00:11:41,480 --> 00:11:43,600 Speaker 1: the main changing ones, you know. I put on there 238 00:11:43,640 --> 00:11:45,959 Speaker 1: that I the quintessential goal that I always am like, 239 00:11:46,280 --> 00:11:48,160 Speaker 1: nevermind is like, oh, I'm going to throw together an 240 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:51,120 Speaker 1: ebook and I don't know, I still don't know. It's okay. 241 00:11:51,120 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 1: If you don't want to do anything, you don't have 242 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:54,600 Speaker 1: to do any I know it was going to be 243 00:11:54,600 --> 00:11:56,360 Speaker 1: like the best laid plans, like Highlight one. So I 244 00:11:56,360 --> 00:11:57,719 Speaker 1: set the bar really low. I was just going to 245 00:11:57,760 --> 00:11:58,920 Speaker 1: be like, let me just like look at the show 246 00:11:58,920 --> 00:12:02,360 Speaker 1: notes and basically put together or like some stuff. So listen, 247 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:04,640 Speaker 1: if somebody wants to write that form now, I'm totally kidding. 248 00:12:05,080 --> 00:12:07,480 Speaker 1: I don't know, We'll see. I'm not entirely convinced that 249 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:09,480 Speaker 1: I will do that. Well, you could hire a virtual 250 00:12:09,600 --> 00:12:11,960 Speaker 1: US think about it for a set number of hours 251 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:14,080 Speaker 1: and have that person kind of pull it together, and 252 00:12:14,120 --> 00:12:16,560 Speaker 1: then you'd go in and edit it a ghost written 253 00:12:16,600 --> 00:12:21,400 Speaker 1: e book, maybe just throwing it out there. It's true, 254 00:12:21,480 --> 00:12:25,760 Speaker 1: it's possible. Well, we will see, we will see. But otherwise, 255 00:12:25,800 --> 00:12:28,920 Speaker 1: pretty much everything that I wanted to do is either 256 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:31,720 Speaker 1: in progress or I still want to do it, And 257 00:12:31,960 --> 00:12:34,320 Speaker 1: this looks fairly manageable. I actually think. I was like, 258 00:12:34,360 --> 00:12:35,840 Speaker 1: I kept it till like four or five things in 259 00:12:35,840 --> 00:12:37,920 Speaker 1: each category, which I guess adds up to a lot. 260 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:41,720 Speaker 1: But the categories do feel pretty separate, so I think, 261 00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:43,560 Speaker 1: and then what's coming up in the rest of the 262 00:12:43,640 --> 00:12:47,320 Speaker 1: year that you're still looking forward to? So it's mostly 263 00:12:47,360 --> 00:12:49,319 Speaker 1: stuff that just needs to be finished. Oh well, I 264 00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:51,760 Speaker 1: want to hear what I'm not looking forward to. If 265 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:56,600 Speaker 1: we still haven't finished our estate planning. Still, it's so boring. 266 00:12:56,720 --> 00:12:59,080 Speaker 1: I just I anytime. I mean, my husband was like, 267 00:12:59,120 --> 00:13:00,880 Speaker 1: maybe we can do it on our time away, but 268 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:02,959 Speaker 1: then wo would you want to know? No? No, no, 269 00:13:03,600 --> 00:13:05,200 Speaker 1: So we didn't. But then if we're not doing it, 270 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:07,800 Speaker 1: then then when are we anyway, So that should at 271 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:09,800 Speaker 1: some point, but we should, We totally should. And it's 272 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:12,679 Speaker 1: half done. And it's like half paid for whatever. One 273 00:13:12,760 --> 00:13:13,959 Speaker 1: of my things was to try to do like a 274 00:13:14,040 --> 00:13:18,760 Speaker 1: date weekend every quarter, so that's like in progress. We well, 275 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:20,160 Speaker 1: it's not really in progress, so I don't think we 276 00:13:20,200 --> 00:13:21,959 Speaker 1: did anything with the first quarter, but I will count 277 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:23,880 Speaker 1: what we just did as the second quintile, and I'm 278 00:13:23,880 --> 00:13:25,920 Speaker 1: going to try to do it for the rest of 279 00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:28,800 Speaker 1: the year. And then my newsletter goal that's kind of 280 00:13:28,800 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 1: a fun one. My goal was twenty five hundred subscribers 281 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:32,560 Speaker 1: by the end of the year, and I think I 282 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:35,199 Speaker 1: was at seventeen hundred at like December, and I'm at 283 00:13:35,200 --> 00:13:37,400 Speaker 1: like twenty one twenty three, so I feel like that's 284 00:13:37,640 --> 00:13:40,480 Speaker 1: kind of like in target. Yeah, anyone listening to this, 285 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:43,720 Speaker 1: go subscribe now, let's get her up over twenty five hundred. 286 00:13:43,960 --> 00:13:48,080 Speaker 1: It's or at least don't unsubscribe. She sends a nice 287 00:13:48,360 --> 00:13:53,000 Speaker 1: monthly update on her life, new things that she's excited about, 288 00:13:53,240 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 1: and he check ins, and I think that's just a 289 00:13:55,160 --> 00:14:00,640 Speaker 1: fun extra Sarah blogging. But that is the secret blog. Yes, 290 00:14:00,640 --> 00:14:02,719 Speaker 1: maybe I need to reveal some more secrets and tease them. 291 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:05,160 Speaker 1: We'll see, we'll see. And that's pretty much. I mean, 292 00:14:05,160 --> 00:14:06,800 Speaker 1: I have some work projects, I don't need to talk 293 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:09,240 Speaker 1: about the details, but they're like in progress. They're cooking, 294 00:14:09,280 --> 00:14:12,000 Speaker 1: and I feel like they're on track. And oh, family 295 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:15,440 Speaker 1: playdates I wanted to do like outdoor playdates, pandemic friendly 296 00:14:15,440 --> 00:14:18,360 Speaker 1: playdates with multiple families. And I think we've done too 297 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:20,440 Speaker 1: if I really think about it. So I just want 298 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:21,920 Speaker 1: to do one more and then I will have met 299 00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:25,720 Speaker 1: that goal. Yeah sounds good. Well, so far our successful year. 300 00:14:25,960 --> 00:14:28,280 Speaker 1: I just hoping that the rest will be too. So 301 00:14:28,400 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 1: the way I did this is just a lot of 302 00:14:31,560 --> 00:14:35,240 Speaker 1: my stuff is ongoing. There are several big things that 303 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:38,880 Speaker 1: need to be accomplished this year. Professionally, my main goal 304 00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 1: is writing Tranquility by Tuesday. That is my next book, 305 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:44,920 Speaker 1: which will be about probably the back to school sort 306 00:14:44,960 --> 00:14:48,680 Speaker 1: of August September twenty twenty two, so stay tuned for that. 307 00:14:49,400 --> 00:14:53,400 Speaker 1: My writing plan. I did the research over the course 308 00:14:53,560 --> 00:14:55,400 Speaker 1: of the year. I did a pilot project in the 309 00:14:55,400 --> 00:14:59,400 Speaker 1: fall and then the bigger project in the spring. Had 310 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:04,320 Speaker 1: many people follow these nine time management rules, talk about 311 00:15:04,320 --> 00:15:07,040 Speaker 1: how they worked in their lives, you know, rate give 312 00:15:07,080 --> 00:15:10,520 Speaker 1: themselves a time satisfaction score before and after. You know, 313 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:15,560 Speaker 1: see the difference. It's exciting, is self help helpful, Let's hope. Anyway, 314 00:15:15,600 --> 00:15:17,160 Speaker 1: I've got all my results, and so now I am 315 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:20,640 Speaker 1: writing the book, and I've set myself a timeline over 316 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:24,240 Speaker 1: the summer. Each week I do one chapter, not for 317 00:15:24,360 --> 00:15:27,280 Speaker 1: the weeks where I'm on vacation or have limited childcare, 318 00:15:27,400 --> 00:15:31,760 Speaker 1: so it's a steady but manageable chunk through the summer. 319 00:15:31,800 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 1: And on the weeks when I'm writing, I try to 320 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:36,600 Speaker 1: do most of the draft Monday or Tuesday, or if 321 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:39,720 Speaker 1: it's a shorter week, you know, Tuesday Wednesday, and then 322 00:15:40,040 --> 00:15:42,600 Speaker 1: edit on the other days. And that tends to be 323 00:15:42,680 --> 00:15:46,040 Speaker 1: pretty sustainable for me. I can crank out, you know, 324 00:15:46,080 --> 00:15:49,680 Speaker 1: a five thousand word chapter draft in a week fairly easily. 325 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:52,400 Speaker 1: So you know, do nine chapters plus an intro and 326 00:15:52,440 --> 00:15:54,600 Speaker 1: a conclusion that way, and I'll have a book by 327 00:15:54,760 --> 00:15:57,280 Speaker 1: late August. So far, so good. I mean, as I'm 328 00:15:57,280 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 1: recording this, I've only done the intro in chapter one. 329 00:15:59,720 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 1: But I have in fact done the intro in chapter one, 330 00:16:01,920 --> 00:16:05,960 Speaker 1: so I feel like this should work. I mean, things 331 00:16:05,960 --> 00:16:09,440 Speaker 1: can always go wrong, but it's not my first rodeo, 332 00:16:09,560 --> 00:16:11,560 Speaker 1: so I do feel if I can stick with this schedule, 333 00:16:11,600 --> 00:16:13,280 Speaker 1: and I should be able to stick with the schedule, 334 00:16:13,320 --> 00:16:15,960 Speaker 1: I will have something at the end of the summer. 335 00:16:16,240 --> 00:16:19,000 Speaker 1: Just good. I'm super excited for this one because it 336 00:16:19,040 --> 00:16:21,440 Speaker 1: seems like it's more It's like, it's like, I love 337 00:16:21,480 --> 00:16:23,920 Speaker 1: all your time focused stuff, but the fact that there's 338 00:16:23,960 --> 00:16:26,560 Speaker 1: like a research component to it, I think is like 339 00:16:26,600 --> 00:16:29,320 Speaker 1: adding another dimension. So in a way, it's probably like 340 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:32,000 Speaker 1: already more done than some of your other works where 341 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:33,280 Speaker 1: you had to like come up with it. This is 342 00:16:33,280 --> 00:16:35,920 Speaker 1: more like, Okay, I've I've actually discovered some stuff, like 343 00:16:35,920 --> 00:16:38,520 Speaker 1: how do I like describe it and communicate it? But yeah, 344 00:16:38,560 --> 00:16:40,600 Speaker 1: it's gonna be awesome. Yeah. No, it reminds me of 345 00:16:41,040 --> 00:16:43,880 Speaker 1: I know how she does it that way that that's true. 346 00:16:43,920 --> 00:16:47,720 Speaker 1: I was doing research a lot of timelog analysis, but 347 00:16:47,760 --> 00:16:52,360 Speaker 1: then once I had that, it was, you know, put in. 348 00:16:52,400 --> 00:16:55,840 Speaker 1: Writing the book itself was fairly straightforward. It was it 349 00:16:55,880 --> 00:16:58,480 Speaker 1: was collecting the data that was more the big part 350 00:16:58,520 --> 00:17:01,760 Speaker 1: of it. And it's also helpful because I feel more 351 00:17:01,800 --> 00:17:04,119 Speaker 1: relaxed in a writing schedule like this because I know 352 00:17:05,119 --> 00:17:07,320 Speaker 1: that there is a time for future chapters, so I'm 353 00:17:07,320 --> 00:17:09,680 Speaker 1: not feeling like, oh, I'm behind, I should be writing 354 00:17:09,760 --> 00:17:11,399 Speaker 1: chapter six or something. I think, No, No, I know 355 00:17:11,480 --> 00:17:13,760 Speaker 1: when I'm going to be writing chapter six and that's 356 00:17:13,800 --> 00:17:17,399 Speaker 1: not now, so I don't need to worry about that. 357 00:17:18,000 --> 00:17:20,000 Speaker 1: Like I know, if I stick to this schedule, I 358 00:17:20,000 --> 00:17:22,960 Speaker 1: will finish in time. I have extra space at the end, 359 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:26,240 Speaker 1: so I don't have to I really like the idea 360 00:17:26,280 --> 00:17:29,719 Speaker 1: of sustainable pacing, which is that you set a minimum bar, 361 00:17:29,840 --> 00:17:31,400 Speaker 1: like I do need to write a chapter a week, 362 00:17:31,960 --> 00:17:34,080 Speaker 1: but I don't need to write more than a chapter 363 00:17:34,119 --> 00:17:35,439 Speaker 1: a week. And I think what happens is a lot 364 00:17:35,440 --> 00:17:39,160 Speaker 1: of long term projects is people overshoot at the beginning 365 00:17:39,240 --> 00:17:42,479 Speaker 1: and then get burned out or can't keep going, or 366 00:17:42,600 --> 00:17:44,400 Speaker 1: something else makes them fall behind. It's harder to show 367 00:17:44,440 --> 00:17:46,560 Speaker 1: break up. You are so much better at doing measurable 368 00:17:46,840 --> 00:17:50,560 Speaker 1: steady progress, not going over what you can sustainably do, 369 00:17:50,840 --> 00:17:54,199 Speaker 1: but never going under a certain amount either. So that's 370 00:17:54,560 --> 00:17:58,560 Speaker 1: in progress. My main personal goal is to finish the house, 371 00:17:59,200 --> 00:18:02,640 Speaker 1: which is also in progress. Everything is ripped up right now, 372 00:18:02,640 --> 00:18:06,000 Speaker 1: it's really something looking in there, and then sell this 373 00:18:06,200 --> 00:18:09,200 Speaker 1: current house and move in the course of the rest 374 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:12,960 Speaker 1: of the year. So that's you know, another one that's 375 00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:17,080 Speaker 1: just big and going to happen, but very big, you know, 376 00:18:17,480 --> 00:18:20,160 Speaker 1: moving on with that. But then I wanted to add 377 00:18:20,200 --> 00:18:23,280 Speaker 1: a new goal, which I don't think I mentioned as 378 00:18:23,640 --> 00:18:29,720 Speaker 1: much earlier, but asking more from my kids. And this 379 00:18:29,800 --> 00:18:33,280 Speaker 1: had started to come up because you know, we had 380 00:18:33,520 --> 00:18:40,240 Speaker 1: a childcare change recently. We had also gotten weekend childcare again, 381 00:18:40,440 --> 00:18:42,600 Speaker 1: and then that person I knew it was a limited 382 00:18:42,640 --> 00:18:44,600 Speaker 1: time thing. She was trying to get a different sort 383 00:18:44,600 --> 00:18:46,800 Speaker 1: of professional job and so she was not going to 384 00:18:46,800 --> 00:18:51,119 Speaker 1: be available and so that ended too. And now that 385 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:55,000 Speaker 1: we have the dog, like the housework has increased. I 386 00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:58,199 Speaker 1: mean it's just the dirt comes in, I don't know 387 00:18:58,240 --> 00:19:00,280 Speaker 1: what it and things need to be picked up because 388 00:19:00,280 --> 00:19:03,200 Speaker 1: he'll chew it if they're on the floor. So anyway, 389 00:19:03,640 --> 00:19:06,480 Speaker 1: long story short, there are needs of things to do, 390 00:19:06,560 --> 00:19:09,080 Speaker 1: and the question is will do I hire more help 391 00:19:09,160 --> 00:19:13,280 Speaker 1: for these things or can I distribute some of this 392 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:17,440 Speaker 1: to the other members of my household who are old 393 00:19:17,560 --> 00:19:21,240 Speaker 1: enough to be shouldering more of it. And so, I mean, 394 00:19:21,240 --> 00:19:23,520 Speaker 1: I have a fourteen year old and eleven year old 395 00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:25,440 Speaker 1: who's almost twelve, a nine year old who's almost ten. 396 00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:28,479 Speaker 1: Those are ages where you can start doing some of 397 00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:31,840 Speaker 1: those things. So like I'm obviously not going to leave 398 00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:33,960 Speaker 1: the fourteen year old with the baby all day on 399 00:19:34,359 --> 00:19:36,840 Speaker 1: a weekend or anything like that. But could he watch 400 00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:39,359 Speaker 1: his six year old little brother for an hour? Yes, 401 00:19:39,520 --> 00:19:42,520 Speaker 1: he can do that. You know, could the kids sweep 402 00:19:42,680 --> 00:19:45,119 Speaker 1: the kitchen floor where the dirt has gotten tracked in 403 00:19:45,119 --> 00:19:47,520 Speaker 1: from the backyard. Yes, and they should be doing that 404 00:19:47,560 --> 00:19:50,399 Speaker 1: instead of mommy doing that. And then you know, I 405 00:19:50,440 --> 00:19:54,040 Speaker 1: don't necessarily need to hire more of the cleaning service 406 00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:57,120 Speaker 1: coming in to do it, or have a babysitter for 407 00:19:57,440 --> 00:20:00,480 Speaker 1: small spots of time on the weekend. So that's the goal. 408 00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:04,600 Speaker 1: Wish me luck because it's always, you know, a matter 409 00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:09,200 Speaker 1: of continuing to ask for what you need. And I 410 00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:13,280 Speaker 1: don't think our guests. kJ del Antoni, Sorry I always 411 00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:16,320 Speaker 1: say your name wrong. But kJ talked about in her 412 00:20:16,320 --> 00:20:19,280 Speaker 1: book How to Be a Happier Parent that there's a 413 00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:22,560 Speaker 1: difference between getting your kids to do chores and getting 414 00:20:22,560 --> 00:20:24,639 Speaker 1: the kids to do chores without being asked. And a 415 00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:26,600 Speaker 1: lot of people think that, oh, I should be aiming 416 00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:28,639 Speaker 1: for the second one, like they should be doing the 417 00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:32,520 Speaker 1: chores without being asked, which may never happen, and then 418 00:20:32,520 --> 00:20:35,800 Speaker 1: you'll just be resentful because the stuff isn't getting done 419 00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:38,000 Speaker 1: because you think you shouldn't have to ask. But if 420 00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:41,280 Speaker 1: you just ask, it will probably get done. And so 421 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:44,359 Speaker 1: if you can decide that that's not as good, and 422 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:46,240 Speaker 1: that's fine, But if you want the work done, you 423 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:48,600 Speaker 1: can also just decide that I'm going to keep asking 424 00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:51,560 Speaker 1: and that's what's going to happen. So I'm kind of 425 00:20:51,920 --> 00:20:55,639 Speaker 1: sticking with that and wish me luck on getting this 426 00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:59,120 Speaker 1: all done. There was actually a recent Mom hour episode 427 00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:01,719 Speaker 1: How to find Out that was a lot about this, 428 00:21:01,840 --> 00:21:03,920 Speaker 1: a lot about how we like underestimate what our kids 429 00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:06,879 Speaker 1: are capable of, and how summer tends to kind of 430 00:21:06,920 --> 00:21:09,080 Speaker 1: like be a time when it sneaks up on us 431 00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:10,919 Speaker 1: that like, hey, our kids are a year older, and 432 00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:13,840 Speaker 1: in some cases, because the last couple of years were 433 00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:17,199 Speaker 1: so weird, they felt like they just missed like they 434 00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:19,200 Speaker 1: were thinking they still little kids, and they like didn't 435 00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:20,560 Speaker 1: do you know what I'm saying, Like that it kind 436 00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:22,159 Speaker 1: of snuck up on them in a way, and that 437 00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:24,879 Speaker 1: you know, our bigger kids are capable of probably a 438 00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:28,840 Speaker 1: lot more than we think they are. Yeah, so there 439 00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:32,240 Speaker 1: we go. Well, we'll be working on that goal for 440 00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:35,159 Speaker 1: the rest of the year, probably for the rest of 441 00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:39,040 Speaker 1: the time I have children in this house. But we 442 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:40,760 Speaker 1: always love doing our goals. We'd love to hear about 443 00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:44,240 Speaker 1: your goals. If you're achieving big things this year, things 444 00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:46,280 Speaker 1: that you thought you would that are checked off, great 445 00:21:46,320 --> 00:21:49,040 Speaker 1: things that you've added to the list, or things that 446 00:21:49,119 --> 00:21:52,600 Speaker 1: you you know are no longer interested in. Those there 447 00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:54,320 Speaker 1: are all great things. Feel for you to reach out 448 00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:58,560 Speaker 1: to us and let us know. So now our question, Sarah, 449 00:21:58,560 --> 00:22:02,560 Speaker 1: why don't you read this one? Sure, she writes, she 450 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:05,520 Speaker 1: thought we might be interested in this very planning scheduling 451 00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:09,280 Speaker 1: centric question. She writes. My company is allowing summer flex 452 00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:11,680 Speaker 1: hours this year. I can choose to flex a half 453 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:14,439 Speaker 1: day every other week on a consistent weekday for the 454 00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:17,280 Speaker 1: months of June, July, and August by working four nine 455 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:20,040 Speaker 1: hour days in advance of the flex. This cannot be 456 00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:22,600 Speaker 1: used during holiday weeks or weeks where I'll be using PTO, 457 00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:25,119 Speaker 1: and I do have a few long weekends planned. I 458 00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:27,720 Speaker 1: was initially thinking about doing this and using it every 459 00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:30,560 Speaker 1: Monday morning. Every other Monday morning, I could start the 460 00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:32,520 Speaker 1: week off with a long run or bike ride and 461 00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:34,919 Speaker 1: make headway on my reading project for the year or 462 00:22:34,920 --> 00:22:37,280 Speaker 1: in peace. I like the idea of flexing a morning 463 00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:39,680 Speaker 1: instead of an afternoon, as mornings tend to be slow 464 00:22:39,760 --> 00:22:42,080 Speaker 1: and meeting free to begin with, I could easily get 465 00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:44,000 Speaker 1: through my work in an afternoon and my backup person 466 00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:47,160 Speaker 1: wouldn't need to do much. I might be the overthinking 467 00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:49,320 Speaker 1: the logistics of this and was hoping you could weigh in. 468 00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:52,240 Speaker 1: If this policy was working for ten hour days with 469 00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:53,960 Speaker 1: one full day off per week, it would be a 470 00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:56,879 Speaker 1: no brainer for me, or even for nine hour days 471 00:22:56,920 --> 00:23:00,119 Speaker 1: with half hour of flex day every week. But this 472 00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:03,919 Speaker 1: is every other week half day with quite a few exclusions, 473 00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:05,800 Speaker 1: she said, I'm looking at the calendar and thinking this 474 00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:08,159 Speaker 1: is requiring a lot of coordination and planning for what 475 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:12,080 Speaker 1: will probably amount to like three free Monday mornings. Also, 476 00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:14,480 Speaker 1: I have six weeks of PTO each year and I've 477 00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:17,320 Speaker 1: only used four days so far, so I have plenty 478 00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:19,240 Speaker 1: of time I could just schedule off without needing to 479 00:23:19,280 --> 00:23:22,399 Speaker 1: coordinate longer days prior would it be totally crazy to 480 00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:25,199 Speaker 1: keep with my regular schedule? Am I overthinking this? What 481 00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:31,919 Speaker 1: do you think? Yes? I think this doesn't apply to 482 00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:36,000 Speaker 1: you because you have all this PTO to use that 483 00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:38,560 Speaker 1: it would make sense to just use that first before 484 00:23:38,560 --> 00:23:42,400 Speaker 1: committing yourself to this uber structured like longer day thing 485 00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:44,520 Speaker 1: during your summer. Now, one thing I think we should 486 00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 1: both give you credit for is I love how you 487 00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:49,639 Speaker 1: thought about how you would use it. Like the idea 488 00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:52,199 Speaker 1: that you're going to like schedule these nice fun mornings 489 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,359 Speaker 1: for yourself and read into a bike ride. You can 490 00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:59,280 Speaker 1: keep that, but instead of plunging it into this structure 491 00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:03,520 Speaker 1: stag just schedule a PTO day. You could schedule one 492 00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:05,440 Speaker 1: every week and not make a DNT in your six 493 00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:08,399 Speaker 1: weeks with PTO for the summer. Yeah, especially if you 494 00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:10,800 Speaker 1: already have some of the stuff scheduled. And yeah, don't 495 00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:12,679 Speaker 1: take half a day. I'm Monday, take the whole Monday. 496 00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:14,440 Speaker 1: And if you were only going to be getting three 497 00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:17,439 Speaker 1: of them, like take those three Mondays as PTO and 498 00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:19,760 Speaker 1: like throw two others in there too. That's five days 499 00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:23,440 Speaker 1: of PTO. If she's got thirty of PTO, Like, you're 500 00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:24,959 Speaker 1: not going to use all of that by the end 501 00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:28,040 Speaker 1: of the year if you're not careful. So definitely, yeah, 502 00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:30,439 Speaker 1: don't overthink this. I mean I want to give a 503 00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:33,400 Speaker 1: shout out to this company that is at least thinking 504 00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:36,520 Speaker 1: of trying to do this. Now many kinds of work, 505 00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:39,040 Speaker 1: it's like what on earth, Like you could just you know, 506 00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:41,160 Speaker 1: take a half day off and make up the time later, 507 00:24:41,280 --> 00:24:43,720 Speaker 1: like things are flexible anyway, particular people who've been you know, 508 00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:45,879 Speaker 1: working from home over the pandemic. I assume that this 509 00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:48,600 Speaker 1: is a very structured like somebody has to be in 510 00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:51,600 Speaker 1: this chair dealing with certain things, like because she's got 511 00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:53,639 Speaker 1: a backup if she's not there. So it's in this 512 00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:57,399 Speaker 1: case it is a set like hourly in a place 513 00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:01,040 Speaker 1: kind of job. And so her company is thinking, well, 514 00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:04,320 Speaker 1: how could we be flexible given that our workers are 515 00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:07,600 Speaker 1: hourly in a chair doing a certain thing that needs 516 00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:09,399 Speaker 1: a backup if someone isn't there, And this is a 517 00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:12,400 Speaker 1: great idea, like saying, okay, well you could choose you know, 518 00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:15,399 Speaker 1: half days off and do longer days than others instead 519 00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:17,800 Speaker 1: of saying it has to be five eight hour days 520 00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:21,240 Speaker 1: each time. So shout out to them for trying. But yes, 521 00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:24,120 Speaker 1: in her case, she should just take the PTO. Yes, 522 00:25:24,160 --> 00:25:26,000 Speaker 1: I feel like they're trying to make summer fridays, but 523 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:29,879 Speaker 1: in like a bed in like an overwrought way. But yes, 524 00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:31,760 Speaker 1: I guess you're right. They get a little credit because 525 00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:34,119 Speaker 1: they could do nothing they could do next, but they're trying. 526 00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:38,760 Speaker 1: So love of the week. So readers of my blog 527 00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:41,920 Speaker 1: well know. I went on a shorts rampage slash tangent 528 00:25:42,119 --> 00:25:44,880 Speaker 1: trying to decide if I can still wear like dune 529 00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:48,760 Speaker 1: them cutoffs. And I decided, and my readers validated that, 530 00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:51,919 Speaker 1: especially in the land of South Florida and probably in 531 00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:54,760 Speaker 1: some other regions. Why the hell not? Somebody wrote, I 532 00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:58,600 Speaker 1: think the cutoff age is late sixties, so I have 533 00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:01,440 Speaker 1: plenty of time. And I I ordered the egg old 534 00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:04,479 Speaker 1: loose fit denim shorts that I read about on I believe, 535 00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:06,920 Speaker 1: I don't even know anymore some fashion blog. I'm sorry 536 00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:10,440 Speaker 1: that I don't remember which. And they're great. I really 537 00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:12,479 Speaker 1: like if I wore mom on vacations, and I am 538 00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:15,720 Speaker 1: wearing them with my like birkenstocks that I bought that 539 00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:18,280 Speaker 1: are basically the same shoes I had in the mid nineties, 540 00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:20,680 Speaker 1: And so I honestly feel like my outfit is something 541 00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:22,520 Speaker 1: I probably would have worn as a teen, and I don't. 542 00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:25,959 Speaker 1: It's fine, that's fine, why not? And the nineties are back, 543 00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:28,159 Speaker 1: The nineties are back. Who we live through them the 544 00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:31,760 Speaker 1: first time? We'll celebrate them again. Yeah, I have not 545 00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:34,760 Speaker 1: been so successful on finding shorts that like. I just 546 00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:36,480 Speaker 1: do not like the way I look in shorts. So 547 00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:38,879 Speaker 1: maybe I should just admit this and wear skirts or 548 00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:42,680 Speaker 1: jeans for the summer, but I keep tryings are hot, yeah, 549 00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:45,640 Speaker 1: but skirts are good. Yeah, skirts would probably be good, 550 00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:47,520 Speaker 1: but you know, you can't really wear skirts to an 551 00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:50,320 Speaker 1: amusement park, and so then it's like, you know that 552 00:26:50,480 --> 00:26:53,320 Speaker 1: kind of activity. I don't know, a skirt. You could 553 00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:55,920 Speaker 1: wear an athletic skirt that might be really cute. Maybe, 554 00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:59,639 Speaker 1: I don't know. It's a long topic of why I 555 00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:02,840 Speaker 1: never like wave shorts look on me. But I tried 556 00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:05,239 Speaker 1: ordering some and they've come in the mail, and I 557 00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:07,040 Speaker 1: really reminded me that I really need to go to 558 00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:09,399 Speaker 1: stores to try on shorts like this is you're going 559 00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:13,080 Speaker 1: to have to return everything. Well, this is a good 560 00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:16,359 Speaker 1: point to shout out Lannie in Linder and her company. 561 00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:19,719 Speaker 1: She said her business is booming right now, so that's 562 00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:21,920 Speaker 1: I'm not saying to necessarily use her as a consultant. 563 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:23,800 Speaker 1: It sounds like she's got lots of people working with her. 564 00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:25,560 Speaker 1: But she said she's going to have a blog post 565 00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:28,879 Speaker 1: very soon about shorts alternatives, so maybe that'll be a 566 00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:31,760 Speaker 1: good thing to look at. Yes, probably what I should 567 00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:33,840 Speaker 1: be doing. Well. So my love of the week then 568 00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:36,879 Speaker 1: I'll do something that is clothes as well, but is 569 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:41,480 Speaker 1: not really summary my American Giant hoodies. So I heard 570 00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:44,880 Speaker 1: about American Giant on the Frugal Girl blog. People want 571 00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:47,040 Speaker 1: to go check out the Frugal Girl. Kristen writes about 572 00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:51,760 Speaker 1: all her money saving hacks, cheerfully living unless and you 573 00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:54,440 Speaker 1: know the thing is, so she's very frugal, as one 574 00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:56,560 Speaker 1: would be with the name the Frugal Girl. And I 575 00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:59,080 Speaker 1: went and looked at these hoodies and they're one hundred 576 00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:01,639 Speaker 1: and eighteen dollars. I'm like, huh, So, if the Frugo 577 00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:04,879 Speaker 1: Girl is willing to pay one hundred and eighteen dollars 578 00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:07,359 Speaker 1: for a hoodie, it must be really good. And you 579 00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:11,080 Speaker 1: know what they are. They're really good. They're nice and thick, 580 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:16,879 Speaker 1: they are warm, they are sturdy, And so I bought 581 00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:20,520 Speaker 1: one in black this winter and was wearing it a lot, 582 00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:22,680 Speaker 1: And so I wound up with a credit for them 583 00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:25,879 Speaker 1: because they got caught in that whole usps ridiculousness of 584 00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 1: shipping and so stuff didn't showup what it was supposed to, 585 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:29,080 Speaker 1: so I got a credit for them. So I wound 586 00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:31,800 Speaker 1: up getting a second hoodie that's a nice pink one. 587 00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,800 Speaker 1: That they were doing spring colors. So I'm still wearing 588 00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:37,920 Speaker 1: them now because it's June and in Pennsylvania it's still 589 00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:40,440 Speaker 1: cold in the morning or at night in June. Actually 590 00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:43,160 Speaker 1: that will happen for the entire year, but so you 591 00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:45,360 Speaker 1: get a lot of use of your hoodies. For those 592 00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:48,200 Speaker 1: who do not live in South Florida, or maybe you 593 00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:50,000 Speaker 1: live in South Florida, but you get cold and air 594 00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:52,280 Speaker 1: conditioning and you're like, what should I wear? You could 595 00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:55,160 Speaker 1: go get an American Giant hoodie and yes, it is 596 00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:58,240 Speaker 1: one hundred and eighteen dollars, so you could definitely find 597 00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:00,000 Speaker 1: a cheaper hoodie. But I think they were really good, 598 00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:04,040 Speaker 1: So shout out to Kristen for talking about them and 599 00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:06,640 Speaker 1: forgetting me to get one, and I'm really happy with it. 600 00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:09,719 Speaker 1: Josh actually has one that I bought him for a 601 00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:12,520 Speaker 1: birthday gift and I totally got the idea from Kristen 602 00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:15,400 Speaker 1: as well. There you go, thank you, thank you. All right, well, 603 00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:17,400 Speaker 1: this has been best of both worlds. We've been doing 604 00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:20,320 Speaker 1: a midyear goal check in. We will be back next 605 00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:22,280 Speaker 1: week with more on making work and life fit together. 606 00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:27,040 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening. You can find me Sarah at the 607 00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:31,440 Speaker 1: shoebox dot com or at the Underscore shoebox on Instagram, 608 00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:35,800 Speaker 1: and you can find me Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. 609 00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:39,480 Speaker 1: This has been the best of both worlds podcasts. Please 610 00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:42,120 Speaker 1: join us next time for more on making work and 611 00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:43,360 Speaker 1: life work together