1 00:00:12,039 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 1: You all know you're a secretary to your kids. The 2 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:16,960 Speaker 1: other day, I get off a flight and I had 3 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:19,840 Speaker 1: booked a weekend that I wasn't gonna go visit Paul, 4 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:23,160 Speaker 1: my fiancee, because we had to be here. Brent had 5 00:00:23,239 --> 00:00:26,239 Speaker 1: a party, a kids party about Mitzvah party, and she 6 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:28,080 Speaker 1: has to go. And it's the outfits and it's the 7 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:30,040 Speaker 1: whole thing. And she's pretty chill. She'll do her own makeup, 8 00:00:30,040 --> 00:00:32,280 Speaker 1: her own hair. I see kids getting their hair done 9 00:00:32,320 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 1: all the ship. She's totally totally chill, cute, age appropriate dress. 10 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:38,280 Speaker 1: I'm so lucky in that apartment. But then she tells 11 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:39,519 Speaker 1: me she's going to the movies. That can she go 12 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:41,440 Speaker 1: to the movies on Friday? And then can she has 13 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:42,680 Speaker 1: to go to the movies? We have to change And 14 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:44,159 Speaker 1: she said she wasn't going to the Botto miz fun. 15 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:46,600 Speaker 1: She wanted could we go to go visit Paul? And 16 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 1: he has his own plans in his own goddamn life. 17 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:50,839 Speaker 1: And I found myself. I found myself as if it's 18 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:52,880 Speaker 1: like a speaking engagement or I'm doing the Today's Show, 19 00:00:52,960 --> 00:00:55,440 Speaker 1: or I'm talking about relief work on Fox or whatever 20 00:00:55,480 --> 00:00:57,640 Speaker 1: it is. I'm talking in circles. I'm like looking at 21 00:00:57,680 --> 00:00:59,720 Speaker 1: my assistant, like you need an assistant for your kids. 22 00:00:59,760 --> 00:01:01,680 Speaker 1: I'm like her, I'm like, we have to change Friday 23 00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 1: because Saturday, and now we're gonna go here and she 24 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:04,959 Speaker 1: wants to go there and we're not doing about Mitzvah, 25 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 1: but that's gonna happen. And then Paul said his kids 26 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:09,760 Speaker 1: had a thing going on, and I'm circulating with his 27 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:12,679 Speaker 1: kids and what's going on with that schedule of their 28 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:15,039 Speaker 1: sports and my daughter's sports. And then she has a 29 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:16,480 Speaker 1: movie and we're not going to the party, and then 30 00:01:16,520 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 1: it changed the whole weekend. I would have been in 31 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: the Hamptons, but now instead I'm not in the Hamptons 32 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:22,120 Speaker 1: and I'm in Connecticut because we're not going to the 33 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 1: fucking going to the bat mitzpun She's doing a movie 34 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 1: because she's got her own social schedule. I'm like, I 35 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:31,080 Speaker 1: am a secretary, Like I couldn't believe it. I was 36 00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:34,880 Speaker 1: a secretary with a a typewriter and a headset. Like 37 00:01:35,080 --> 00:01:37,880 Speaker 1: they used to make fun on Saturday, like hello, welcome 38 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:39,600 Speaker 1: to that, and you have that or Carol Bonetta thing, 39 00:01:39,800 --> 00:01:41,640 Speaker 1: you have this line out coming off a hair coll 40 00:01:41,800 --> 00:01:44,720 Speaker 1: caller moving that moving moving those chords. I'm using my 41 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:47,760 Speaker 1: hands furiously moving those little chords on a switchboard. I 42 00:01:47,840 --> 00:01:50,720 Speaker 1: was a switchboard operator. And then I said to Brian. 43 00:01:50,760 --> 00:01:54,800 Speaker 1: I said to my child, Hi, I have a life too, okay, 44 00:01:54,840 --> 00:01:56,680 Speaker 1: because she was like, wait, well, I want to go 45 00:01:56,720 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 1: to the movie right after school, but then after that, 46 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 1: if you could come get me, I'm like, oh, five 47 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 1: o'clock traffic coming from the city going to Connecticut. So 48 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:06,920 Speaker 1: you t me to go in the fucking eye of 49 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 1: the storm two and a half hours where should normally 50 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:12,359 Speaker 1: be forty minutes. No problem, I am a life too. 51 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 1: Now you have to live in the city. You booked 52 00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:17,200 Speaker 1: something on a Friday and rush our traffic. No, you're 53 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: moving there. Get a job, rent an apartment, hire a secretary. 54 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:25,120 Speaker 1: Whoever you're going to the movie with. Let him you're 55 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:27,880 Speaker 1: his problem. Now it's a it's a little tween, Dave. 56 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:31,120 Speaker 1: Tell him to rent you an apartment, or you can 57 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 1: move into his house. Three boys and girls can live 58 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:38,359 Speaker 1: together and happy harmony. Harmony. You you listen, you're a tween. 59 00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:42,080 Speaker 1: You're becoming a young woman. It's an arranged marriage. Um, 60 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 1: you're not coming home at five o'clock in rough rush 61 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 1: hour traffic. So I don't care how we do this 62 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 1: goddamn thing, but that's what's happening. You're not going or 63 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:54,399 Speaker 1: you're moving there. Make a choice, fucking secretary, you live 64 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:57,720 Speaker 1: there now. I was like, I found myself, go to 65 00:02:58,080 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 1: change this, go to that. We gotta do this, we 66 00:03:00,320 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: need the outfit, can't the bub And I was like, wait, what, 67 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 1: I have a life too, well, why can't we do 68 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:09,919 Speaker 1: with this? And they always want to give you the 69 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:13,560 Speaker 1: They now work in the calendar, you know, scheduling that. 70 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:15,520 Speaker 1: Why can't you just do that? Well, I know I'm 71 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 1: gonna explain myself to you and the rest of my staff. 72 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:19,240 Speaker 1: I have to do this Today show on Monday, so 73 00:03:19,280 --> 00:03:21,520 Speaker 1: we can't do that that way. I have this on Friday. 74 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:23,800 Speaker 1: I have a podcast. I have a life too, girl, 75 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:27,399 Speaker 1: but I don't. And you know, we don't have a life. 76 00:03:27,400 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 1: So that's also a fucking scam. We don't have a 77 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:31,680 Speaker 1: life because our whole life is spent book in their 78 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:33,919 Speaker 1: god damn activities and everything that go with it. Oh 79 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:36,200 Speaker 1: my god, a sport. I need the short choice, I 80 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:38,200 Speaker 1: need the kneepads, I need this, play dates, I need 81 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:39,920 Speaker 1: that this, I need that that and then we go 82 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 1: into the next thing. What's the next thing? Then the 83 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 1: birthday party, and the car trip and this and the 84 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 1: homecoming and the Halloween and the costumes and the bake sales, 85 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 1: and we're secretaries. You know you are, you know yourself. 86 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:53,000 Speaker 1: If you're doing a good job, you feel like a 87 00:03:53,040 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: switchboard secretary the family and X of the family that 88 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 1: I used to discuss a lot on here, I am 89 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 1: not discussing because I'm on a cleanse. I'm not feeding 90 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 1: any beasts that I don't want to go in the 91 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:16,240 Speaker 1: media sphere. So I'm not feeding those beasts. It will 92 00:04:16,279 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 1: be hard. I already feel lighter and brighter, my skin 93 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:22,360 Speaker 1: feels better, I feel healthier. It's a detox. I will 94 00:04:22,400 --> 00:04:26,599 Speaker 1: be not following anything overly filtered or talking about the 95 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:29,440 Speaker 1: beasts that we put into power. But we feed the beasts, 96 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:32,360 Speaker 1: and then the beast becomes so powerful, and then they 97 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:35,680 Speaker 1: say something or do something and it really bothers us 98 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:38,200 Speaker 1: and we wonder why. And it wouldn't have been such 99 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:41,600 Speaker 1: a big powerful statement if we didn't keep feeding the beasts. 100 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 1: So I'm not feeding the beasts. I am not talking 101 00:04:44,320 --> 00:04:45,919 Speaker 1: about some of the things I used to talk about 102 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:49,560 Speaker 1: because I don't want to be feel toxic by feeding 103 00:04:49,640 --> 00:05:03,839 Speaker 1: the beast. I need you to know that when I 104 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: watch television or movies, I look at their homes like i'll, i'll, 105 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:11,600 Speaker 1: we'll be what we could be watching Yellowstone or that three, 106 00:05:11,640 --> 00:05:13,520 Speaker 1: the prequel to which is actually I like it. It's long, 107 00:05:13,600 --> 00:05:15,480 Speaker 1: and I like long winded shows that like a drag 108 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:17,000 Speaker 1: out because I need them to drag out, because I 109 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:19,479 Speaker 1: want them to last. But they don't pay off right away. 110 00:05:19,760 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 1: You have to be patient. But they're all like horses 111 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:26,560 Speaker 1: on the prairie, like covered wagons, and I just keep 112 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 1: thinking about how dirty they are. I'm preoccupied about how 113 00:05:29,960 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 1: every inch of their body, all the crevices are dirty, 114 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:35,359 Speaker 1: and how even when they wash in like a river 115 00:05:35,520 --> 00:05:38,560 Speaker 1: or stream, they're closes are like then still dirty clothes 116 00:05:38,640 --> 00:05:41,880 Speaker 1: and I can't and like how the trimming of the 117 00:05:41,920 --> 00:05:44,000 Speaker 1: hair and the nails, like it's almost obsessive. I'm literally 118 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:46,479 Speaker 1: cringing and scratching myself right now, like the cuticles. I 119 00:05:46,520 --> 00:05:48,600 Speaker 1: think about it. And when I watched TV shows, I'll 120 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 1: think about the clutter and the behind and the desk, 121 00:05:51,279 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 1: and like their apartment in the way they live and 122 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:55,040 Speaker 1: how messy it is, and even real people, when real 123 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:57,839 Speaker 1: people are on zooms, I'm like, that is disorganized. I'm 124 00:05:57,839 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 1: not enjoying this. I have a hard time watching movies 125 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:09,039 Speaker 1: without thinking about people's disorder, clutter, and filth. I've realized 126 00:06:09,080 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 1: that in shopping with a lot of us, and particularly 127 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:15,960 Speaker 1: with online shopping, and particularly with social media, we're buying 128 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 1: to buy, and it's like eating to eat. You ever 129 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 1: just snack, and you're buying crappy You're eating crappy junk food. 130 00:06:22,520 --> 00:06:25,600 Speaker 1: We're watching crappy television. You're like, it's not satisfying, it's 131 00:06:25,600 --> 00:06:29,919 Speaker 1: not making you feel better. We're absorbing crappy social media. 132 00:06:29,960 --> 00:06:34,640 Speaker 1: We're absorbing crappy TV and absorbing crappy news about crappy people, 133 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 1: and you just don't feel good after it. You feel 134 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 1: a little gross, and you feel like you have a 135 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:40,559 Speaker 1: headache from looking at your phone. Or you're buying ship 136 00:06:40,560 --> 00:06:42,360 Speaker 1: then you look at your closet. You have too much crap. 137 00:06:42,839 --> 00:06:44,840 Speaker 1: It's the same thing with food. It's like when you're 138 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 1: eating just to eat, eat something good. Let's start consuming good. 139 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:51,120 Speaker 1: Let's start That's what I've talked about, like doing a 140 00:06:51,240 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 1: cleanse of garbage and all these beasts and these people 141 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:59,280 Speaker 1: that don't deserve attention. Let's consume only good food if 142 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:02,480 Speaker 1: we can, and we can, Let's also only buy what 143 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:04,799 Speaker 1: we really need and what's really good. It's a quality 144 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:11,440 Speaker 1: versus quantity model. And let's only consume quality media versus quantity. Like, 145 00:07:11,800 --> 00:07:14,200 Speaker 1: let's not just be like doom scrolling and just like 146 00:07:14,280 --> 00:07:16,760 Speaker 1: looking at stuff and then going into the Lincoln bio 147 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:19,080 Speaker 1: and then reading about it and its gossip about some 148 00:07:19,160 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 1: garbage person whose garbage life you don't really care about, 149 00:07:22,440 --> 00:07:24,920 Speaker 1: you know, Let's try to shift it and instead of 150 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:27,040 Speaker 1: just saying how much we don't like it, let's change 151 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 1: the conversation and be on a cleanse and consume and 152 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:34,840 Speaker 1: buy and watch and read only things that are good 153 00:07:34,840 --> 00:07:37,480 Speaker 1: and that are good for us. So that means and 154 00:07:37,520 --> 00:07:40,520 Speaker 1: I'm also doing an eight o'clock tech cleanse, and I'm 155 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 1: limiting my time on social media. I want to do 156 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:48,320 Speaker 1: a cleanse where we're reducing the toxic where were I 157 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 1: want to do a cleanse where we're reducing the media 158 00:07:52,680 --> 00:07:56,800 Speaker 1: toxins in our bodies. The things we're consuming and reading 159 00:07:57,240 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 1: and caring about and posting and sharing and commenting on. 160 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:03,200 Speaker 1: I want to reduce those toxins, and I want to 161 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:06,280 Speaker 1: reduce the toxins and what we like and what we 162 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:09,360 Speaker 1: think about and what we give air, and I want 163 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:11,920 Speaker 1: to only buy good and try to try to do 164 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:13,360 Speaker 1: better in the way that we eat. I want to 165 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:15,800 Speaker 1: put it all. It's just a good move in the 166 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:19,120 Speaker 1: right direction, because we're all a little toxic right now, 167 00:08:19,280 --> 00:08:23,360 Speaker 1: noticing it around every single medium, and we have to 168 00:08:23,400 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 1: take it down much