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Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if

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Speaker 1: Thank you nephew. Subject he's hiding money in our raggedy house.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a forty nine year old married

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Speaker 1: woman and my husband is fifty nine. We've been married

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Speaker 1: for six years and this is my first marriage and

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Speaker 1: his second. We dated a good while before he asked

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Speaker 1: me to marry him, and when I accepted his proposal,

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Speaker 1: I told him that I didn't want to live in

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Speaker 1: the house that he and his wife and kids lived in.

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Speaker 1: He rented out his house and we bought a fixer

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Speaker 1: upper house in a great neighborhood. I wanted a new house,

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Speaker 1: or at least one that was in great condition. He

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Speaker 1: promised me that he had some great contractors that would

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Speaker 1: make my dream a reality. The house is so old

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Speaker 1: that we still have linoleum tie linoleum tiles on the

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Speaker 1: kitchen floor. I contacted a professional company to get a

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Speaker 1: flooring estimate, and I wanted to replace all the laminate

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Speaker 1: countertops in the kitchen. It had been six years, and

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Speaker 1: I saved up money to do a few little things.

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Speaker 1: He hemmed and hawed, but he eventually helped me pick

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Speaker 1: out our flooring. He didn't offer to help me pay

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Speaker 1: for anything, because he said it was my impatience that

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Speaker 1: led to the renovation. A few weeks later, we were

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Speaker 1: packing up to go to my parents' home temporarily while

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Speaker 1: our floors are getting installed, and I just happened to

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Speaker 1: be peeking in at him in the bedroom. He carefully

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Speaker 1: pulled out a big envelope, pulled a big envelope out

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Speaker 1: of a shoe box, and I saw hundreds of dollars.

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Speaker 1: I ran into the room and tackled him and grabbed

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Speaker 1: the envelope. All he could say is that he had

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Speaker 1: to keep a stash because I love spending his money.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how he thought it was okay to

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Speaker 1: hide this large sum money from me. I'm wondering if

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Speaker 1: he planned to leave me in this raggedy house. Is

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Speaker 1: that why he's not interested in doing any upgrades? What

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Speaker 1: is he up to? Well, before we get to that,

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Speaker 1: I just got to say the visual of you busting

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Speaker 1: in the bedroom and tackling your husband, but it's just

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Speaker 1: a little funny. Okay, that visual is funny, And I

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Speaker 1: mean you asked the question what is he up to?

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Speaker 1: Who knows what mister secretive is up to? And why

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Speaker 1: is he being so shady with his money? I'm all

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Speaker 1: for having all for having your own money and not

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Speaker 1: having to always ask someone your husband in this case,

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Speaker 1: for cash, and of course there's also the house money

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Speaker 1: and the bill money. But just something about this doesn't

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Speaker 1: sit well with me. I mean, first, you say, it's

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Speaker 1: been six years since you've been in this fixer upper

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Speaker 1: and nothing has been fixed up. And didn't you all

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Speaker 1: so say that you saved the money yourself with no

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Speaker 1: help from your husband. He said it was your impatience

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Speaker 1: that led to the renovation. I don't understand that statement.

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Speaker 1: What is he talking about. It's been six years since

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Speaker 1: you guys have been in that house and nothing has

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Speaker 1: been done. I mean it is his house too. He

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Speaker 1: seems like he would want it remodel. I mean, especially

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Speaker 1: the linoleum floors. You know, the only explanation he had

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Speaker 1: for stashing is that you love to spend his money.

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Speaker 1: His money, I mean, it's our money. You guys are married.

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Speaker 1: You know you're spending money on the house. You saved

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Speaker 1: the money for the house. Is he trying to say,

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Speaker 1: if you knew he had the secret money, you would

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Speaker 1: have spent that on the house or something else. I'm

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Speaker 1: so confused with that statement. I mean, what is his

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Speaker 1: stash money for if it's not for the house. He

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Speaker 1: sounds just very cheap to me, very selfish to me.

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Speaker 1: And he doesn't have any into tensions after six years

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Speaker 1: of fixing this house up, I don't see that. So,

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Speaker 1: so now that you know you've caught him with this money,

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Speaker 1: you need you need to find out what he's up to.

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Speaker 1: We don't know what he's up to. Insists you know,

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Speaker 1: if you guys are going to stay married on a

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Speaker 1: joint bank account for the house, for the renovations, it's

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Speaker 1: been six years, let's go. You know, both of you

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Speaker 1: should be contributing, not just you. Uh, it's his house too,

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Speaker 1: and it's his chievement, is his cheapness? Why his first

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Speaker 1: marriage fails? These are some of the questions you need.

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Speaker 2: To ask him.

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Speaker 1: If you find out the answers to this, maybe you'll

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Speaker 1: find out what you know the money he stashed is

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Speaker 1: all about. Other than that.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: This is crazy. You know he needs your you need

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Speaker 1: his help, Steve.

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Speaker 2: I don't know about this letter right here. I'm a

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Speaker 2: little bit throwing off. See he's had money in our

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Speaker 2: raggedy house. But the name of this letter to me

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Speaker 2: is somebody learning flash. We ain't hearing the whole truth.

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Speaker 1: I don't think so.

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Speaker 2: See, we're just not hearing this whole story. I don't

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Speaker 2: think because something is missing in this story. It don't

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Speaker 2: set right with me. But you know, one of Uncle

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Speaker 2: Steve's favorite things to do at one of my skill

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Speaker 2: sets is to dig under the surface to find out

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Speaker 2: what's really going on. Ladies and gentlemen, let's go under

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Speaker 2: the skinIn to find out what's going on. Now, she

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Speaker 2: forty nine, She her husband is fifty nine. That's a

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Speaker 2: ten year difference. Been married six years, my first marriage,

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Speaker 2: his second. M that's a little telltale right there. This

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Speaker 2: is your first time he didn't done this before. He's

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Speaker 2: seen the movie before. In other words, we dated a

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Speaker 2: good while before he asked me to marry him. When

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Speaker 2: I accepted his proposal, I told him I didn't want

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Speaker 2: to live in the house that he and his wife

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Speaker 2: and kids lived in. So guess what he did. He

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Speaker 2: rented out his house. He honored that request. That was

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Speaker 2: a big one. This man already owned the house, but

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Speaker 2: you didn't want to live there, he said. Cool. He

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Speaker 2: rented out the house and he bought a fixer upper

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Speaker 2: house in a great neighborhood. I wanted a new house,

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Speaker 2: or at least one. Dad was in great condition. He

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Speaker 2: promised me that he had some great contractors and he

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Speaker 2: would make my dreams of reality. The house is so old.

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Speaker 2: We got linoleum tiles on the kitchen floor. I contracted

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Speaker 2: a professional company to get a flowing estimate. I wanted

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Speaker 2: to replace all the lemoned countertops in the kitchen. And

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Speaker 2: after this, I'll tell you what happened. Why you ain't

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Speaker 2: got no kitchen.

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Speaker 1: In all right? Steve hold On, Part two of your

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Speaker 1: responses coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour

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Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry Letters subject He's hiding money in our raggedy house.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters.

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Speaker 1: Subject he's hiding money in a raggedy house.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, hiding money you raggedy house. Because we don't

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Speaker 2: know the whole story. But you've been married now for

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Speaker 2: six years. Hell, he rented out the house. You told

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Speaker 2: him you didn't want to live in with his former

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Speaker 2: wife and kids had so he rented it out, as

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Speaker 2: a good husband would doing. He bought a fixer upper.

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Speaker 2: You kind of wanted a new house. He told you

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Speaker 2: that he has some friends and stuff and he get

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Speaker 2: it fixed up. Well, you wanted it. He said he

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Speaker 2: had some contractors and the house is so old that

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Speaker 2: y'all got linoleum floors on the kitchen, so you contact

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Speaker 2: a professional, come to get a floor next min And

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Speaker 2: I want to replace all the laminate countertops. It's been

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Speaker 2: six years. I've saved up money to do a few

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Speaker 2: little things. He hemmed and hard, but he eventually helped

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Speaker 2: me pick out the flooring. He didn't offer to help

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Speaker 2: me to pay for anything, because he said it was

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Speaker 2: my impatience that led to the renovation. Now less, it's

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Speaker 2: where the letter gets tricky. It's your impatience that led

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Speaker 2: to the renovation or was it his lie that led

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Speaker 2: to you having to save up to get the renovation?

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Speaker 2: See now we're about to peel back some of the

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Speaker 2: skin on this onion right here and put tears in

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Speaker 2: your eyes. I think it's because of the fact that

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Speaker 2: he's been married before, and you ain't he seen this

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Speaker 2: movie before. Now you're telling me that you've been saving

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Speaker 2: up a little bit of money for this laminated flo right,

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Speaker 2: and he wasn't gonna go for that. Whose kitchen is

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Speaker 2: that big? How much that flow costs? So I don't

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Speaker 2: know how much you had to save. But it's a

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Speaker 2: kitchen flow. I don't know what you saved on my

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Speaker 2: passing judgment. I don't like to do that, but you

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Speaker 2: saved up your little bit of money. But we talking

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Speaker 2: six years though, So what have you been doing and

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Speaker 2: what have y'all been doing with the money for six years? See,

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Speaker 2: you've been buying something, and I think you may be

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Speaker 2: buying some stuff that ain't got nothing to do with nothing.

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Speaker 2: And he saw his money slipping away like he did

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Speaker 2: with his previous wife, so he started stashing money before

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Speaker 2: she get our hands on this right here too. That's

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Speaker 2: what I think happened, you know. And then I see,

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Speaker 2: here's what led me to say that. A few weeks later,

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Speaker 2: we were packing up to go to my parents' home

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Speaker 2: temporarily while your flaws were getting installed, which means the

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Speaker 2: floors was in the process of getting done, right, I

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Speaker 2: just have to be peeking in at him in the bedroom,

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Speaker 2: he carefully pulled a big envelope out of a shoe box,

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Speaker 2: and I saw hundreds of dollars. You, being the gold

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Speaker 2: digger that you are, ran into the room and tackled

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Speaker 2: and grabbed the envelope. Dove on the man Now he

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Speaker 2: was surprised because obviously you blindsided him. He didn't see

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Speaker 2: it coming. He make his head jerk back slab or

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Speaker 2: wrapped around his head a little bit. He didn't know

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Speaker 2: what was happening because you tackled him in his lower back.

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Speaker 2: Because he had that envelope down low count that money.

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Speaker 2: All he could say is he had to keep a

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Speaker 2: stash because I love spending his money. That's the key. See,

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Speaker 2: for six years, he been watching you spend money on

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Speaker 2: all types of stuff. Now you come up, but you

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Speaker 2: on a floor. Now this man going away? Manute man,

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Speaker 2: Hold up, I've been chipping in. We've been doing this.

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Speaker 2: You got me renting out this house that I already

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Speaker 2: paid for. Now you over here. We were trying to

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Speaker 2: do something else, but you just spending money. You mess

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Speaker 2: around after six years and save the money for the flow,

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Speaker 2: and now you in here tackling me for cash. See

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Speaker 2: how they look. He thought it was okay. I don't

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Speaker 2: know how he thought it was okay to hide this

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Speaker 2: large sum of money for me. I do because he

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Speaker 2: didn't want you to spend it. That's why he was

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Speaker 2: hiding it. I'm wondering if he planned to leave me

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Speaker 2: in this raggedy house. Is that why he's not interested

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Speaker 2: in doing any upgrades? What's he up to? Well, it

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Speaker 2: seemed to me like he's up to what you ain't

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Speaker 2: a man will do that. A man will hide some

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Speaker 2: money if he thinks you're gonna spend it all. Every

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Speaker 1: What about the line about her impatience led to the renovation?

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Speaker 1: What does that mean? They've been in the house for

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Speaker 1: six years and they still haven't gotten it renovated.

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Speaker 2: I said when I read the letter, I don't think

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Speaker 2: it's her impatience that's led to the renovation. More it

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Speaker 2: is his lie that led to her wanting to do

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Speaker 2: the rest of renovation. The woman got every right to

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Speaker 2: want to fix her house up. Most women like living

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Speaker 2: in nice homes, and it's a representative of a woman

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Speaker 2: when people come over your house and your house ain't right,

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Speaker 2: the woman takes the blame for that, not the man.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, girl.

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Speaker 2: What's she in here doing? How she got all this food?

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Speaker 2: And how she who decorated this right here? What's she

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Speaker 2: she tripped. I understand what that's not her fault. He

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Speaker 2: But what happened was as he was trying to save,

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Speaker 2: he was just watching her spend. So now, hold up,

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Speaker 2: I can't take what I'm saving and renovate this house

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Speaker 2: because she spending all the other money. Let me save

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Speaker 2: some of this money, which would I be spending on

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Speaker 2: renovating the house. But since she spending all the money,

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Speaker 2: we ain't gonna have no money. That's how she found

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Speaker 2: him hiding the money in the envelope. But now she

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Speaker 2: didn't manage to save up a little bit of money

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Speaker 2: to get this flow done after six years. But he

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Speaker 2: got to flow money in that box. He got to

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Speaker 2: what happened here is we have a spending problem which

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Speaker 2: leads to more divorces financed than even infidelity. And y'all

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Speaker 2: will get you will get left in that ragged house

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Speaker 2: if you keep spending money like that. Holding letters. Your

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Speaker 2: fault made.

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Speaker 1: He needs to help her fix up that house, all right,

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Speaker 1: so she can make him a home. Please leave your

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