Speaker 1: Rooking jewels. Second dat up date the girl on the
Speaker 1: phone for a second date update today says that she
Speaker 1: went dancing on her first date with the guy that
Speaker 1: she wants to call So they went to a dance class.
Speaker 1: Didn't specify which kind, So I'm assuming probably out there
Speaker 1: learning all the new dance moves that the kids are
Speaker 1: doing out at the clubs, like the foxtrot and the
Speaker 1: Lindy Hop and the Charleston chew. Is that right, Denise?
Speaker 1: Is that what you hipcats were out there doing? Uh No,
Speaker 1: it was slatting a rug. She's like, no, you're idiot.
Speaker 1: It was just taking salsa. Okay, though that's a little
Speaker 1: more boring than what I thought. All Right, So, yeah,
Speaker 1: it says that you guys went, So you took a
Speaker 1: salsa class with the guy you want to call it
Speaker 1: a huh yeah? And what's his name? Mark? Mark? And
Speaker 1: how did you meet Mark? We actually met on a
Speaker 1: dating site. Were you both already interested in salsa? And
Speaker 1: that's how you guys linked up? Uh No, it kind
Speaker 1: of came about randomly because we were sort of bonding
Speaker 1: and joking about our past dates and how boring they were,
Speaker 1: like the usual dinner whatever, movie boring thing that never
Speaker 1: really works out to like a second date. So we
Speaker 1: kind of were like, if we went out, we would
Speaker 1: do something totally fun and salsa dancing is what we
Speaker 1: came up with. We would learn to dance of love.
Speaker 1: Was it fun? Yeah, I mean it was super fun.
Speaker 1: We decided to meet up like a half hour before
Speaker 1: across the street at a bar and had a couple
Speaker 1: of drinks. We laughed a lot, and you know, he
Speaker 1: was really funny and we had a great time, and
Speaker 1: we went in to do the dancing and we were horrible,
Speaker 1: Like we were both really bad, which could be awesome.
Speaker 1: I mean if you're both laughing at yourselves during the
Speaker 1: whole thing, like it could really be attractive. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1: And he had this really great laugh too, and awesome
Speaker 1: like hair too that I just wanted to touch all
Speaker 1: the time. But anyway, are you the creep that was
Speaker 1: smelling his hair? It was just like really like soft
Speaker 1: and fluffy. I don't know, that's get You know, we
Speaker 1: do a lot of these second date updates. We rarely
Speaker 1: have women fawn over a guy's hair, so he must
Speaker 1: have a fantastic haircutter. It was just like the right
Speaker 1: amount of curl. You know, do you like his personality
Speaker 1: at all or was it just the hair that did
Speaker 1: it for you? Oh? No, no, yeah, no he was great.
Speaker 1: If personality was awesome. He's really sweet and just like
Speaker 1: made me laugh. I mean, like I said, when we
Speaker 1: were dancing, we were so bad, and we just made
Speaker 1: each other laugh the whole time. It was great. And
Speaker 1: even though you're bad, I mean, there's still a lot
Speaker 1: of physical contact in dancing. Was there a good chemistry
Speaker 1: between you two? I thought so. I mean it wasn't
Speaker 1: like super mushy romantic, you know, like there wasn't like
Speaker 1: this huge spark. But at the same time, I feel
Speaker 1: like we were kind of just distracted by the fact
Speaker 1: that we were salted dancing and we suck. It's probably
Speaker 1: hard to be romantic and make a lot of eye
Speaker 1: contact when you're trying to count in your head two three, four, seven, ten,
Speaker 1: when you're awkwardly trying to dance. I can understand that.
Speaker 1: Did you guys do anything other than dance together? I mean,
Speaker 1: we danced, and then you know, we went home pretty
Speaker 1: much after right after that, I think it was like
Speaker 1: said good night, and that was the sort of weird
Speaker 1: thing about it. It was like I was totally down
Speaker 1: for a kiss, you know kiss on the first night,
Speaker 1: but he just gave me a hug. Did he make
Speaker 1: any plans with you to see you later? Like we
Speaker 1: got to take another class because we're so bad? I
Speaker 1: think we kind of were like, oh, yeah, let's meet
Speaker 1: up again, you know, sort of that casual thing you do.
Speaker 1: But you know, we had talked a lot on the website,
Speaker 1: so I guess I kind of assumed too, like we
Speaker 1: were gonna follow up. You said he gave you a
Speaker 1: hug at the end. Was it the kind of hug
Speaker 1: where it's like he moved slow or was it the
Speaker 1: kind of hug where he was just like done and
Speaker 1: didn't want to see you again? Hug? I know I
Speaker 1: should have like really paid attention to that. I guess
Speaker 1: I was probably too busy, like just wanting to kind
Speaker 1: of grab his hair and puts his hair, so went
Speaker 1: in for the hug, and you know it was like
Speaker 1: a hold and release. It was a hold and release, hold, release, Okay,
Speaker 1: so that could be just a moving, slow hug. Then
Speaker 1: you didn't ask him for like a lock of his
Speaker 1: hair and anything with it scared him off. Is there
Speaker 1: anything awkward that you could think of. I guess just
Speaker 1: like I was totally expecting to kiss. Like, there was
Speaker 1: a couple of moments even like when we were dancing
Speaker 1: that I thought, you know, like when we you know,
Speaker 1: you take breaks and you listen to the teacher or whatever.
Speaker 1: I thought said he was gonna kiss me, but he
Speaker 1: totally didn't. He was just like leaning into like say
Speaker 1: something funny. So that was kind of awkward, but nothing huge.
Speaker 1: You know, how long has it been since your date?
Speaker 1: Let's see, two weeks? Two weeks? And have you talked
Speaker 1: at all? No, you know, I sent him a couple
Speaker 1: of tacks messages or whatever, but I haven't gotten any response. Okay,
Speaker 1: well we'll play a song, come back call him and
Speaker 1: get your second date update and find out if something happened. Okay,
Speaker 1: thank you, all right, hanging up five brooking jubil in
Speaker 1: the morning. Second Update. Today's second date update is brought
Speaker 1: to you by passion. Yes, the kind of passion that
Speaker 1: comes with salsa dancing, the hips gyrating back and forth,
Speaker 1: and the fast paced movement of your legs creating eye
Speaker 1: contact and love that only two people can share when
Speaker 1: they salsa dance. Passion find it online or somewhere anywhere.
Speaker 1: Denise went salsa dancing on her first date with a
Speaker 1: guy named Mark, but Mark is not calling her back.
Speaker 1: That's why she's on the phone to day to do
Speaker 1: a second date update. Denise, anything you want to say
Speaker 1: to us before we call Mark? Uh? No, I guess
Speaker 1: that I'm nervous. You're nervous right now? Are you niverous
Speaker 1: he's gonna say something bad? Or what are you nervous about? No?
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean, I guess. I just hope he's
Speaker 1: not too embarrassed, but whatever, he'll get over it. Not
Speaker 1: too embarrass being on the radio and a second date update, yeah,
Speaker 1: or to embarrassed because we know he's a crappy dancer.
Speaker 1: That the radio thing. Yeah, okay, And if you're just
Speaker 1: tuning in for the second day update, they went sausa dancing.
Speaker 1: They had a fun night. At the end of the evening,
Speaker 1: he just gave her a hug when she wanted a kiss.
Speaker 1: But she's really not sure what happened. So let's find
Speaker 1: out right now by dialing his phone number, getting him
Speaker 1: on the phone. Okay, okay, sounds great, All right, here
Speaker 1: we go. Hello, Hi, is Mark there? Yeah? This is Mark.
Speaker 1: Hey Mark, how are you? My name is Jubil. Oh okay,
Speaker 1: Hi Mark. I don't know if you know who I
Speaker 1: am or not. I host a morning radio show. It's
Speaker 1: called Brook and Jubil in the Morning. What's going on? Well,
Speaker 1: I'm actually calling you today because one of our listeners
Speaker 1: sent us an email about you. Okay. Her name is Denise,
Speaker 1: and you guys recently went salsa dancing together. Whoa what? Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's a segment we do on our show. It's called
Speaker 1: the second Date Update. So if somebody goes out on
Speaker 1: a date and then they get blown off, they ask
Speaker 1: us to get that person on the phone and ask why.
Speaker 1: So Denise wants to know why you're not calling her back?
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you call her radio station? Yes, she did.
Speaker 1: I knew this was a bad idea. You knew you
Speaker 1: knew what was a bad idea? Going out with Denise? Uh?
Speaker 1: Well sort of. I mean, I just, I mean I
Speaker 1: feel guilty. I just there's just like really no future
Speaker 1: for she and I as things. Why do you say that? Look,
Speaker 1: I really rather not like get into it. But if
Speaker 1: you you know, I mean, if you talk to her
Speaker 1: or whatever, definitely tell her she's cool and great, but
Speaker 1: like nothing's going to happen. So you thought she was
Speaker 1: cool and great, but there's no future between you two
Speaker 1: for sure. Yeah, can you give me anything more than that?
Speaker 1: And I don't know, I don't know. You said just
Speaker 1: a second ago that you feel guilty. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: like it's just that she's probably not the only girl
Speaker 1: that like feels that way. And what do you mean,
Speaker 1: it's just that she Like, there have been a lot
Speaker 1: of sort of one and done kind of dates that
Speaker 1: I've been on recently from with like a bunch of
Speaker 1: different girls, and you're dating around a lot. No, No,
Speaker 1: what do you mean? No? You just you just said
Speaker 1: that you're taking lots of girls out on dates and
Speaker 1: not calling any of them back. I mean that's fine,
Speaker 1: like date dates. I mean it's not like it's not
Speaker 1: a date date that sounds exactly like a date date.
Speaker 1: Well even from the get go, like from even beforehand,
Speaker 1: I don't plan on calling any of them back, Like,
Speaker 1: so why go on dates and then they're not dates?
Speaker 1: I mean they're not dates. I use the site. Well,
Speaker 1: all right, basically I'm married. What what did you just say?
Speaker 1: I'm married. I'm very happily, very happily married. You are
Speaker 1: not obviously very happily married if you're on a dating
Speaker 1: website going out on dates that you refuse to call
Speaker 1: dates like, I promise you that my wife and I
Speaker 1: are very much in love and I'm not cheating, Like
Speaker 1: I don't kiss any of these girls, I don't hook
Speaker 1: up with them. You just lonely or something, and you
Speaker 1: want companionship when your wife's at workers. No, no, no, no no,
Speaker 1: So my wife and I are five year is coming
Speaker 1: up right? Your five year anniversary? Yeah? Yeah, our five
Speaker 1: year anniversary. So I had this whole idea that I
Speaker 1: wanted to do this big surprise for her where basically
Speaker 1: I've been going out and I've been taking dancing lessons
Speaker 1: with different women, and these girls are helping me practice. Essentially,
Speaker 1: they're like dancing partners. You are so full of crap.
Speaker 1: I can't even believe it. You're trying to tell us
Speaker 1: that you're just learning how to dance by being on
Speaker 1: a dating website. St Yeah, you're Oh my god, I
Speaker 1: want to custle bad. It's the truth. Look, I mean,
Speaker 1: I start talking to these girls whatever we if it's
Speaker 1: I only go with people that I think I would
Speaker 1: have a good time with and then you know, we
Speaker 1: go out, we dance, and half the time I even
Speaker 1: tell them what I'm up to. You know, why have
Speaker 1: to say why not tell everybody? Why not just go hey,
Speaker 1: I need a partner to dance with because I want
Speaker 1: to learn to dance for my wife for anniversary. Because
Speaker 1: it's about my wife. It's not about like bringing somebody
Speaker 1: else in on this thing. You know, like I'm not
Speaker 1: trying to like include some girl in like my five
Speaker 1: year thing. Why are you on a dating website? Because
Speaker 1: it's an easy way to meet people. It's people who
Speaker 1: are willing to go out and have fun. They want
Speaker 1: to engage with somebody. And you know, like I could
Speaker 1: put up some ad on Chryslist, but I might get
Speaker 1: some creep or some you know, weirdo. What are you
Speaker 1: talking about? You can go to a dancing studio and
Speaker 1: they find a partner for you. Well, I've been to
Speaker 1: classes before where they have an number of people and
Speaker 1: I just end up standing in the corner like anthing
Speaker 1: by myself. So would you say exaccurate that you're faking
Speaker 1: going on datestan? No, because I don't think that there's
Speaker 1: anything that I'm doing on the date. That is anything
Speaker 1: that would like lead these girls to believe that there's
Speaker 1: like a romantic thing. Person on a dating website thinks
Speaker 1: that there's going to be a romantic thing. That's why
Speaker 1: they're on the dating website. Dude. Look, I'm telling you,
Speaker 1: these girls have really fun times. I have a really
Speaker 1: fun time. I'm not a jerk. I don't treat them poorly,
Speaker 1: And in my opinion, I think what I'm doing is
Speaker 1: way better than what most of these guys are doing
Speaker 1: on these apps and on this stuff anyway, where they're
Speaker 1: just trying to get hookups. Like on my profile too,
Speaker 1: it doesn't say I'm looking for a relationship. It says
Speaker 1: I'm just looking to have fun. So what should I
Speaker 1: tell Denistan, Like, oh, hey, sorry, he's married. If you're
Speaker 1: going to talk to her, I would hope that you
Speaker 1: would include that I thought she was really great and
Speaker 1: I hope that she can know I'm sure she's going
Speaker 1: to find a really great guy because she was really cool. Well,
Speaker 1: you know you could actually talk to her because she's
Speaker 1: actually on the phone listening. Yeah, you are a liar
Speaker 1: and you're crazy. Yeah I need mental health. What is
Speaker 1: going on here? Denise is actually on the phone listening,
Speaker 1: so she's heard this entire conversation. Yeah, you used me.
Speaker 1: You made me believe that you were taking me out
Speaker 1: on the date. You made me believe that. Well, if
Speaker 1: you think back on the conversation, I didn't allude to
Speaker 1: us dating or anything like that. You know, there was
Speaker 1: no leading me dating website. Every conversation you have on
Speaker 1: a dating website is alluding to you dating. What do
Speaker 1: you think the point is just to be friends? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't just talk about like hooking up with a
Speaker 1: guy the entire time. You're trying to get to know
Speaker 1: each other. There's so much more to do it. You're
Speaker 1: crazy and you're a complete Thanks for ruining my dating experience. Look,
Speaker 1: you are pitting this all on me, and this is
Speaker 1: not my fault. Okay, Like, if you had asked me
Speaker 1: at all, I would have been totally upfront with you.
Speaker 1: You just said, hey, like, are you are you seeing
Speaker 1: other people? Are you you know? What's what's your deal?
Speaker 1: Are you married? Like I would have totally been like, yes,
Speaker 1: I am married. I love my wife. That is ridiculous.
Speaker 1: That is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Yeah, Well,
Speaker 1: other girls asked and I told them. So what are
Speaker 1: you going to tell your wife? All, honey, just for you,
Speaker 1: I signed up for a dating website and I have
Speaker 1: been going out with random women learning how to dance. Well,
Speaker 1: I'll probably, you know, won't tell her that's part of it.
Speaker 1: But what I will say is that I took four
Speaker 1: months of dance classes for her. It went and spent
Speaker 1: all this time and energy trying to do something romantic. Hey,
Speaker 1: I have to ask a question, no matter what, So, Mark,
Speaker 1: would you like to go out on a second date
Speaker 1: with niece? We'll send you guys out again for another
Speaker 1: salsa dancing class or something. I mean, I need to
Speaker 1: take more classes. Are you kidding me? No, I'm not kidding.
Speaker 1: I mean now everything's out in the open, and it'd be,
Speaker 1: you know, like friends going for a dance class. I
Speaker 1: think Denise would rather kill you. I hope your wife
Speaker 1: leaves you seriously. So is that a no? Yeah? I
Speaker 1: think that's a very strong no. Mark. Thanks for your
Speaker 1: time though, I appreciate it. Yeah. Yeah, good luck on
Speaker 1: your dance classes. Okay, I hope your wife loves it.
Speaker 1: Thank you? Married Will and Denise. There you go. That's
Speaker 1: why you're not getting a call back. Wow, I'm glad
Speaker 1: I found out at least, well you should have asked
Speaker 1: to begin with. Apparently, Denise. Apparently. Yeah. For now on,
Speaker 1: I'm going to ask every day, I going are you married?
Speaker 1: Are you just hearing for your wife? Yeah? I think
Speaker 1: that's a good idea. In the morning text in at
Speaker 1: seven eight, five to nine two that says, see that
Speaker 1: second date update is proof never do anything to try
Speaker 1: to impress your wife, because no matter what you do,
Speaker 1: you'll always lose. Talking of course, about the second date
Speaker 1: update from today, this girl named Denise want to call
Speaker 1: a dude name Mark. They met online, they were going out,
Speaker 1: they went out to a salsa dancing class, had a
Speaker 1: fun time, and all of a sudden, he just kind
Speaker 1: of dropped off the face of the earth. Well, it
Speaker 1: turns out Mark has been dating a lot of women
Speaker 1: off of this website and taking them to salsa classes. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and he doesn't actually think that they're dates. He's just
Speaker 1: going with these women so that he can learn to
Speaker 1: dance salsa to surprise his wife for their anniversary. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Never mind the fact that he doesn't tell anybody that
Speaker 1: he's married or that he leads them on. Well, that's
Speaker 1: not true. He said that there was one girl that
Speaker 1: asked if he was married, and he was honest and
Speaker 1: he said, yes, I am married, and I'm doing this
Speaker 1: for my wife. Other than that, he's just duping girls
Speaker 1: into going on dates so that he can have dance
Speaker 1: partners because he can't do it with somebody that he
Speaker 1: already knows because they might tell his wife. And so
Speaker 1: he's basically going on dates yea, with women to learn
Speaker 1: sal stuff for his wife. That is the most elaborate
Speaker 1: excuse for cheating I've ever heard in my life. But
Speaker 1: he's not. But he's not cheating. Cheating going on a
Speaker 1: date with someone else's cheating, you, guys, It doesn't matter
Speaker 1: if there's a physical I don't know. I mean, he's not.
Speaker 1: He's not calling him back, he's not carrying on a relationship.
Speaker 1: He's just going out doing some dance lessons and then
Speaker 1: going home. He didn't even he didn't do anything with
Speaker 1: her at the end of the night, didn't even like
Speaker 1: pretend that they were going to go on another day.
Speaker 1: He did, not telling his wife about it and not
Speaker 1: telling her how he learned how to solve the dance.
Speaker 1: She should be flatter than her husband. Work it is
Speaker 1: to plan all these dates and go out with people
Speaker 1: to learn to dance at A text in at seven
Speaker 1: eight five nine two says, OMG, I think I danced
Speaker 1: with Mark once we took a class. He stepped on
Speaker 1: my foot and broke my toe, just saying his wife
Speaker 1: should watch out. Another text in at seven eight five
Speaker 1: nine two that says, hey, Marky boy, for your next anniversary,
Speaker 1: just do what most of us guys do. Throw some
Speaker 1: jewelry at her and call it a day. Hey see,
Speaker 1: just proof. Stop putting in the effort. Guys, you're just
Speaker 1: gonna get you in trouble. I remember, if you want
Speaker 1: to do a second day update, I have to do
Speaker 1: an email of the show and we will call the
Speaker 1: person who didn't call you back