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Speaker 1: What's up, Y'all's your girl Lexp And it's your girls

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Speaker 1: Dray and the Cold and you are tuned in to

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Speaker 1: another episode of Poor Mine.

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Speaker 2: Where a drunk mind speaks sober thought.

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Speaker 1: We gotta guest today. We gotta guest today. Now, y'all

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Speaker 1: know I always gotta do like a good introduction. But

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Speaker 1: y'all know today is special for me, Draan No, oh

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Speaker 1: my god, I already knew this is special for me.

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Speaker 1: So like a OG listener of the show, you know

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Speaker 1: how happy I am. And I'm gonna tell you why

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Speaker 1: to me? But we got the one and only eighth

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Speaker 1: hood and a bill it. Now let me tell you

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Speaker 1: why I'm so comment today you all favor you have

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Speaker 1: made the one of the best songs in history. It

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Speaker 1: is literally my favorite song. And like every time, like

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Speaker 1: when I'm getting ready, I don't care where we know

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Speaker 1: d notes, I play this song cash flow fun and

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Speaker 1: my money, My Money. That is a song. When I

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Speaker 1: tell you, that is the greatest song ever made. And

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Speaker 1: I'm so nervous. That's my favorite song. And people know

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Speaker 1: watching the show, I talk about this song smer my

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Speaker 1: mone and my Mone, and it took me the chart. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: song when you was in the studio recording that did

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Speaker 1: you was like.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely exactly what was Yeah, we got one, we

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Speaker 3: got one for show because it.

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Speaker 1: Was that the first time like you and T Paint

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Speaker 1: had was that, like one of the first songs y'all.

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Speaker 4: Did was one of the first one that we had

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Speaker 4: did at the time.

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Speaker 3: And Pain had did a few records after that, but

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Speaker 3: that was the like the staple record, right and only

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Speaker 3: that that was my introduction to the world, saying.

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Speaker 4: So it was a hell of a way to come

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Speaker 4: into the game.

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Speaker 1: You know what I remember because you know, like they

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Speaker 1: used to play the videos on like MTV and up,

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Speaker 1: wake up and get your money.

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Speaker 3: And yah yah yeah not bang bang Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you it would wake me up in the morning.

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Speaker 1: I knew it was time to get up and get

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Speaker 1: that money. And that's when I worked at TGI Friday,

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Speaker 1: So I got.

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Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So talk about you know how long you were

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Speaker 1: rapping from that point to like you signing with DJ Kelly.

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Speaker 3: Oh man, I have been rapping. I picked you up

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Speaker 3: rapping like in middle school. Honestly, it was just me

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Speaker 3: rhyming put words together. Uh So prior to that time.

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Speaker 3: It probably was like what, I'm thirteen at that time.

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Speaker 3: I got my situation at about eighteen, you know what

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Speaker 3: I'm saying about five years in between that time and

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Speaker 3: I was rapping. Yeah, yeah, Honestly, the real reason I

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Speaker 3: feel like how I got my deal is the power

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Speaker 3: of prayer. I'm gonna keep it a g no cap like,

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Speaker 3: you know, like because I was going through a lot,

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Speaker 3: my family was going through a lot. Yeah, So like

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Speaker 3: it was really supernatural. Like I'm watching my mom, you know,

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Speaker 3: talk about you know, she got a brother's gathered in

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Speaker 3: we how could we come together so you guys can

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Speaker 3: help me. My mom had major surgery on her knee,

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Speaker 3: so she was looking for support. She couldn't go back

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Speaker 3: to work like that. So I'm watching this and it's

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Speaker 3: making me feel you know, helpless to some degree. You know,

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Speaker 3: I'm seventeen eighteen at this point. So literally, dog, it

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Speaker 3: was like me going into a space and just praying.

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Speaker 3: It was like, man, if I could, you know, God,

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Speaker 3: if you put me in a situation where I can

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Speaker 3: promise you and literally like six months after that, I

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Speaker 3: had my situation that guy thin.

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Speaker 1: God ignore me because I thought I was gonna be

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Speaker 1: a singer, and I was like, nah, not that one. No,

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Speaker 6: No.

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Speaker 2: I feel like you would have like when it got

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Speaker 7: Vocal training. Yeah, I can sing.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I'm on, I ain't gonna do it.

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Speaker 1: Feel like that.

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Speaker 6: Campaign she's gonna ask you here, y'all go to the

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Speaker 1: But anyways, okay, so how did you like in that

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Speaker 7: We gotta do some work.

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Speaker 3: Well, I had also two let me mention that I

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Speaker 3: was a mutual merbal agreement, right, so it's nothing contractual

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Speaker 4: But these are my guys. It was my dogs from

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Speaker 3: So we started had a compilation project that we put

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Speaker 3: at this point I was called I was my name

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Speaker 3: So when what I did, I heard Callen on the

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Speaker 3: He's giving away tickets. You can call a radio station

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Speaker 4: So it was it was that. So me, we took

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Speaker 3: My dog, you know, came to my crib when then

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Speaker 4: And then me, I'm thinking about what's the point to it.

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Speaker 3: So we pull up at the radio station and literally

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Speaker 3: as soon as I pull up, Cali pulled up.

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Speaker 4: Like five minutes later, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: And then I handled my CD, my bio everything I

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Speaker 3: what I'm saying. But I handed him that let him live,

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Speaker 3: and he was like, here, get back to me. I'm like, man,

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Speaker 4: Can he rap over this joint? And I was like, ship,

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Speaker 4: that's a test. Let's get it.

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Speaker 1: So when you got in the studio with Tea Pain,

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, oh man, I think like from the jump from

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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: So we in the you know, this is my first time,

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Speaker 4: We vibing big heavy so that you feel me.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, l a read you.

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Speaker 3: Know here across the way, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: I'm going in there to go turn up for him.

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Speaker 3: You know, I got my records that I had already recorded,

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Speaker 3: I'm on the desk, I want the table. I'm like, yo,

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Speaker 3: I'm on the table. I'm getting it to them, Pauls.

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Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, Like, you know, uh gotta

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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: We're talking you know, they talking money and all of

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Speaker 3: At that moment, I knew it was real.

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Speaker 1: So looking back on that, sorry, Dre'm do you feel like,

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Speaker 1: cause being eighteen and signing a deal like that, especially

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Speaker 1: do you feel like you made the right decision? Because

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Speaker 1: I mean musically you did, but I mean, like business wise,

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Speaker 3: Now, No, No, I wasn't. My only mindset was to

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Speaker 4: So that's the only thing that was on my mind.

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Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying also of contract, But what

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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. I want a fair deal.

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Speaker 3: I want to feel like I ain't being taken advantage

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Speaker 3: of right, but still at the same token, like this

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Speaker 3: like I you know, this is what I love to do.

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Speaker 4: And learning being around these guys.

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Speaker 3: So for me, like that was the moment, Like that

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Speaker 4: Did I answer that question?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Because I always wonder like when people are

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Speaker 1: be sometimes I'll be sitting down, I'll be looking at

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Speaker 1: these contracts and I'll be looking at chatting like.

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Speaker 7: What is going on?

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Speaker 1: So I can only imagine how an eighteen year old

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Speaker 3: On you I was being recommended, right, you know what

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Speaker 3: I'm saying. Let me say that that's important.

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Speaker 1: I mean, but I feel like sometimes they recommend you

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Speaker 3: That you know, you know, so it's really a conflict

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Speaker 3: of interest. You know, you don't maybe understand that at

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Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, because it's like, yeah, they handling

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Speaker 3: your business, but now they're also handling my business, right,

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Speaker 3: which is like that that was the start of like

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Speaker 3: the confusion, right saying of things.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, if you had to think of back during

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Speaker 1: that time though, like who is one person you felt

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Speaker 1: like like had your back and was like looking out

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Speaker 1: for you being.

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Speaker 4: That you were so young, I would say.

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Speaker 1: That you felt like was like smart and educated, was

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Speaker 1: like trying to do the best that.

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Speaker 7: They could to like support you.

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Speaker 3: That's a thin line because you know, I could also

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Speaker 3: say like my homie who was with me, my guy

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Speaker 3: you know, if we're talking about how much also does

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Speaker 3: learning and he don't know as much about a contract

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Speaker 7: When it shouldn't be like that.

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Speaker 4: So I was in love with that idea.

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Speaker 1: That's so real because I say this all the time.

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Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, grown men like taking that

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Speaker 1: from relationship, just yeah, just to clarify. So I wanted

441
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Speaker 1: to talk about that because I don't have any kids yet,

442
00:19:03,040 --> 00:19:05,480
Speaker 1: but I'm, like I said, I'm thirty four now. So

443
00:19:05,560 --> 00:19:08,160
Speaker 1: the men I do date, you know, even my boyfriend,

444
00:19:08,160 --> 00:19:08,760
Speaker 1: now you know he.

445
00:19:08,720 --> 00:19:09,359
Speaker 7: Has a child.

446
00:19:09,640 --> 00:19:11,560
Speaker 1: So I know, you know, you're gonna get eventually to

447
00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:13,440
Speaker 1: that point to where you know, you have to meet

448
00:19:14,240 --> 00:19:17,359
Speaker 1: the baby mama, yeah, or she has.

449
00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:18,720
Speaker 7: To meet me, or you know, meet the kid.

450
00:19:19,080 --> 00:19:22,160
Speaker 1: So I want to talk about navigating that space and

451
00:19:22,200 --> 00:19:25,959
Speaker 1: when you know, okay, it's time for her to meet

452
00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:29,600
Speaker 1: my child. So she's gonna have to meet the baby mama.

453
00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:32,440
Speaker 1: And I always felt like, before I meet your child,

454
00:19:32,680 --> 00:19:35,320
Speaker 1: I want to meet the mother of the child because

455
00:19:35,359 --> 00:19:37,639
Speaker 1: I want her to be comfortable with me being around

456
00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:40,679
Speaker 1: the child and because I feel like that that co

457
00:19:40,840 --> 00:19:44,960
Speaker 1: parenting can get real messy, really really Wick. So I

458
00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:47,680
Speaker 1: want you to talk about, you know, how you navigate

459
00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:49,760
Speaker 1: co parenting now today.

460
00:19:51,359 --> 00:19:56,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's been a journey, but now today, you know,

461
00:19:57,000 --> 00:19:59,480
Speaker 3: my kids are twelve and my son's ten.

462
00:19:59,560 --> 00:20:01,000
Speaker 4: My daughters twelve, my son's ten.

463
00:20:02,040 --> 00:20:06,320
Speaker 3: Now there's there's like, you know, there's open communication there.

464
00:20:07,320 --> 00:20:10,400
Speaker 3: You know, I also affirm her, I think, which is important.

465
00:20:10,440 --> 00:20:12,879
Speaker 3: I think that's what also changed to and navigated our

466
00:20:12,920 --> 00:20:16,199
Speaker 3: situation is having direct communication. We didn't always have that,

467
00:20:17,480 --> 00:20:20,040
Speaker 3: you know, being open and honest. That's where we are currently,

468
00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:23,280
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. The times that she have

469
00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:25,399
Speaker 3: the kids, we rotate. My kids are down here, so

470
00:20:25,440 --> 00:20:28,159
Speaker 3: it's like we rotate back and forth. The schedule is healthy,

471
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Speaker 3: you know, as long as she feels like she has

472
00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:33,720
Speaker 3: the things that she needs right you know, uh, she's

473
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Speaker 3: she's grand man, you know, and it's important that her

474
00:20:36,280 --> 00:20:38,439
Speaker 3: and my wife have conversations as well, you know what

475
00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:41,119
Speaker 3: I'm saying. So it's just really for me, how I

476
00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:43,760
Speaker 3: navigated is doing my very best to make all parties

477
00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:47,639
Speaker 3: feel safe and included, you understand. Yeah, So it's like

478
00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:50,280
Speaker 3: even if we're doing something. You know, you could randomly

479
00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:52,640
Speaker 3: call her and have her involved in it too, like hey,

480
00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:54,719
Speaker 3: show your mom, da da da was this or what

481
00:20:54,760 --> 00:20:57,840
Speaker 3: you got going on? Subconsciously that in the mind, it's

482
00:20:57,840 --> 00:20:59,199
Speaker 3: like I'm a part of what it is that they

483
00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:02,000
Speaker 3: have going on, and I feel excluded from it, you know,

484
00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:05,480
Speaker 3: and in that she still makes the decisions, you know,

485
00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:07,600
Speaker 3: and that uh, you know, my wife isn't trying to

486
00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:10,000
Speaker 3: take the spot of the mother or anything like that,

487
00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:12,960
Speaker 3: because that's you have a lot of that, you feel me.

488
00:21:13,400 --> 00:21:16,240
Speaker 3: So you know, it's just really saying and for men,

489
00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:18,400
Speaker 3: you know, we have to lead and navigate that situation,

490
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:19,840
Speaker 3: which is very big for us.

491
00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:20,360
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

492
00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:22,600
Speaker 3: We got to take accountability, We got to know how

493
00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:25,160
Speaker 3: to navigate that because it can get it can't get

494
00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:28,199
Speaker 3: very messy. But I'm grateful that now the situation is

495
00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:31,359
Speaker 3: much more like autopilot talk, you know what I'm saying. Okay,

496
00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:33,800
Speaker 3: we're dropping off this time, picking up all right, everything good,

497
00:21:33,960 --> 00:21:35,160
Speaker 3: all right, Okay, I'm gonna bring them.

498
00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:35,480
Speaker 4: Closer to you.

499
00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:37,520
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, all right, all right, I'm gonna take

500
00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:38,959
Speaker 3: them here. You can, you can grab me and take

501
00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:41,439
Speaker 3: them down to the crib the floor. I'm like, all right, you.

502
00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:41,880
Speaker 4: Know what I'm saying.

503
00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:48,280
Speaker 3: I'm saying you're good straight boom boom, like that type

504
00:21:48,280 --> 00:21:51,120
Speaker 3: of time, and like, you know, and even now we've

505
00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:54,000
Speaker 3: we've navigated to have a conversation where it's like, yo,

506
00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:55,479
Speaker 3: you know, the kids are starting a new school year.

507
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:58,000
Speaker 3: How about in August you have to I'm like, absolutely,

508
00:21:58,280 --> 00:22:00,280
Speaker 3: give you time to develop and do your thing, whatever

509
00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:01,840
Speaker 3: it is you want to do. You know, you know

510
00:22:01,840 --> 00:22:03,560
Speaker 3: what I'm saying, important to your love life or whatever

511
00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:06,879
Speaker 3: that looks like for you. But stuff like that, like

512
00:22:06,960 --> 00:22:09,760
Speaker 3: that allows her to have space and freedom to feel

513
00:22:09,760 --> 00:22:12,400
Speaker 3: like she ain't gonna be judged for doing anything. It's like, nah, man,

514
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:14,520
Speaker 3: it's all love. And you know, I got the kids,

515
00:22:14,520 --> 00:22:15,840
Speaker 3: and I know you got the kids.

516
00:22:15,720 --> 00:22:16,720
Speaker 2: Right, and it's not good.

517
00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:19,240
Speaker 6: And it's good that y'all had figured that out because

518
00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:21,639
Speaker 6: I think that it seems like y'all have found a

519
00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:24,080
Speaker 6: routine where it's like the kids come first, because I

520
00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:26,840
Speaker 6: think a lot of the time the problem is people

521
00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:29,639
Speaker 6: let their personal feelings get in the way of like

522
00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:33,120
Speaker 6: making sure that they do what's best for the kids right.

523
00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:36,040
Speaker 6: And that's what I think makes co parenting hard for

524
00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 6: a lot of people. It's because it's like the personal

525
00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:40,960
Speaker 6: emotions of the two parents, they not really thinking about

526
00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:42,160
Speaker 6: what's best for the child.

527
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Speaker 1: Dream right, Because I'm not speaking on your situation, but

528
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Speaker 1: I've been in situations before where it was just like

529
00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:52,159
Speaker 1: pulling teeth and it was like, I realized, I had

530
00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:53,879
Speaker 1: to take a step back and realize, it's not that

531
00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:56,320
Speaker 1: she don't like me, but you have to realize a

532
00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:59,720
Speaker 1: lot of times when you're dealing with the mother of

533
00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:04,840
Speaker 1: some one child, there's still feelings there. She burnt the

534
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:08,080
Speaker 1: whole humor for this person. So instead of me being like, girl,

535
00:23:08,119 --> 00:23:10,720
Speaker 1: I got your man now, he at home now, and

536
00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:13,480
Speaker 1: being combative, I realized I had to mature and you

537
00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:17,280
Speaker 1: know what, I'm gonna have sympathy for her and be

538
00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:20,320
Speaker 1: understanding because you have to realize sometimes people be in

539
00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:22,119
Speaker 1: a relationship with someone they have a kid, and they

540
00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:24,520
Speaker 1: thinking that this is my person, this is who I'm

541
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:25,919
Speaker 1: gonna spend the rest of my life with, And when

542
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:29,040
Speaker 1: that doesn't happen, you know, you're kind of grieving. You

543
00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:31,280
Speaker 1: gotta grieve a relationship with somebody that you had a

544
00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:33,919
Speaker 1: whole child. Yeah, So I think a lot of times

545
00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:38,080
Speaker 1: when I say we, because we don't have children.

546
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Speaker 7: So usually not usually most.

547
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:41,840
Speaker 1: One hundred percent of the time, we're the new girl

548
00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:44,360
Speaker 1: that comes in. Yeah, and we're ushering in and know

549
00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:47,200
Speaker 1: it's fun with us because we ain't got no head.

550
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:49,320
Speaker 1: We turned up, you know what I'm saying. We ain't

551
00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 1: went through you know, we in the gym. Body might

552
00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 1: be a little tighter, and it's all fun and games.

553
00:23:54,400 --> 00:23:57,600
Speaker 1: So it's like, instead of coming with that negative energy,

554
00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:00,480
Speaker 1: you're not helping. You're actually making it worse by having

555
00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:03,399
Speaker 1: this energy, like, well, fuck her, you just go just

556
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:05,520
Speaker 1: get custody of the kid. It's like, that's not helping.

557
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 6: Well, I think you shouldn't. I think you shouldn't have

558
00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:09,159
Speaker 6: that type of energy anyways. And a man should not

559
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:10,560
Speaker 6: want to be with a woman who has the type

560
00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:13,920
Speaker 6: of agree towards his towards his children or like.

561
00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:15,359
Speaker 2: The mother of his child.

562
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Speaker 7: Right, And I also that's.

563
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:19,760
Speaker 6: Petty, like you gonna pause you ultimately you gonna end

564
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 6: up pausing more drama for me having that type of

565
00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:24,439
Speaker 6: energy with my baby mama, even if we in a

566
00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 6: good space.

567
00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:28,000
Speaker 7: I think it's important for the man.

568
00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:29,920
Speaker 1: And I think and I like how you said that too,

569
00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:32,640
Speaker 1: you were like, you know, to give her that freedom,

570
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:35,399
Speaker 1: and a lot of times men don't want to step

571
00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:37,680
Speaker 1: in and like you don't ever want to get your kid.

572
00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 1: That's why a lot of times they be mad too.

573
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:40,760
Speaker 7: Your baby mama tied.

574
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:42,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, she needs a little break.

575
00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:43,119
Speaker 3: She need a break.

576
00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:44,920
Speaker 7: She heard you know what I'm saying.

577
00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:48,639
Speaker 1: So it's like she doesn't and it's aggravating for them

578
00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 1: because you outside, you dating, you having a good time.

579
00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:56,760
Speaker 1: She wake up a little tie tied and threw up

580
00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 1: on the coffee. He's shitting everywhere and she gotta get

581
00:24:59,840 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 1: on Instagram and see you on the Bahamas. Daddy loves.

582
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:16,879
Speaker 7: Baby girl buck.

583
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:19,000
Speaker 4: You know.

584
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:26,560
Speaker 1: A lot of times like we should sympathize with, you know,

585
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:28,679
Speaker 1: both sides. And I like how you said you were

586
00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:32,840
Speaker 1: open with communication and being inclusive with everything, because I

587
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:36,919
Speaker 1: do think it's you can't help but to think that, like, Okay,

588
00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:39,200
Speaker 1: he already has a mother. Who is this girl coming

589
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 1: in like and it's like I don't want to be

590
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:43,320
Speaker 1: I don't want to. I want to be a step mother,

591
00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:50,159
Speaker 1: you know, because I'm gonna treat your child, you know,

592
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 1: with the same respect as if it were my own.

593
00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 1: But you can't know that until the man makes that

594
00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:59,199
Speaker 1: space open for us to talk, I can't meet up

595
00:25:59,200 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 1: with you. I don't you know what I'm saying unless

596
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 1: you set that up. So I think that was a

597
00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 1: good point that you made, Like we need to make

598
00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:09,120
Speaker 1: these communication lines open, because I think it's very important

599
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 1: for the new wife or the new girlfriend to have

600
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:14,840
Speaker 1: a relationship with the baby mom.

601
00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:17,760
Speaker 6: I do believe that, but I think they have to

602
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:20,840
Speaker 6: be open to that too, and sometimes baby mamas don't

603
00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 6: be open today.

604
00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:24,200
Speaker 4: Yeah that shit, Yeah I agree.

605
00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:26,480
Speaker 3: But like I said, I like, you know, like all

606
00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:28,080
Speaker 3: of the things that you all the points you made

607
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:30,159
Speaker 3: were like very valle Its very true in terms of

608
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:33,119
Speaker 3: like a woman's grieving process of thinking, like them, we

609
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:35,960
Speaker 3: were gonna be together right now I'm feeling like you abandoned.

610
00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:39,120
Speaker 3: Yeah what I'm saying so like it's really like it's

611
00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:41,639
Speaker 3: a process and that heel was on its own, on

612
00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:44,480
Speaker 3: its own timing. I think that's what I've learned, especially

613
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:46,320
Speaker 3: being where I am now, I'm like, oh shit, like

614
00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 3: what took so long to get to like here, I'm

615
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:49,680
Speaker 3: like the JITs like you know what I mean, the

616
00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:53,240
Speaker 3: twelve about to go in, you know, teenage years and stuff.

617
00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:55,359
Speaker 3: I'm like, we you know what I'm saying, we should

618
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 3: be past this, but you can't. You know what I'm saying,

619
00:26:58,119 --> 00:27:01,000
Speaker 3: rush somebody else's process to heal. So I just think

620
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 3: it's tough as it is. As tough as it is,

621
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 3: it's like doing my best to have compassion in that

622
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 3: ship dog understanding, Like all right, I see where you are.

623
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:11,880
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, Like I see what you're doing,

624
00:27:12,080 --> 00:27:13,480
Speaker 3: like you know, as a mother and stuff.

625
00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:14,840
Speaker 4: I just all of that affirming.

626
00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:18,119
Speaker 1: It takes a lot of yes'm and I'm glad that

627
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 1: you made that a point too, because I think what

628
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:24,360
Speaker 1: we have to realize too is that like y'all are family,

629
00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 1: Like this is someone who gave birth to your child.

630
00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 1: Like I don't know if y'all ever seen childbirth, but

631
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:32,040
Speaker 1: that's a lot like this is your fancy.

632
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:34,120
Speaker 7: It's very intense.

633
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:37,639
Speaker 1: So I feel like there just should be a level

634
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 1: of respect on both ends.

635
00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:40,240
Speaker 2: I agree.

636
00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:43,400
Speaker 1: But a lot of times where the confusion comes in

637
00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:45,400
Speaker 1: is because niggas be lying.

638
00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 7: Now, nigga be lying.

639
00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:51,680
Speaker 1: You said, niggas be lying. Man, I don't know why

640
00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:53,960
Speaker 1: she's going crazy. That's because you dicked her down last

641
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:56,040
Speaker 1: But you ain't gonna tell me about that. You ain't

642
00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 1: gonna tell them about that, Like why y'all baby mama

643
00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:00,800
Speaker 1: blowing up your phone because she won't.

644
00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:04,480
Speaker 4: But you.

645
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:10,280
Speaker 1: So it's like, I think it's like accountability as well,

646
00:28:10,359 --> 00:28:13,879
Speaker 1: Like you have to hold accountability because I think blended

647
00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:16,639
Speaker 1: families like it's it happens. I don't think you should

648
00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:18,640
Speaker 1: stay with somebody just because y'all have a child, because

649
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:21,280
Speaker 1: sometimes that can be Sometimes it's worse for the children

650
00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:24,639
Speaker 1: to be with somebody and your child is witnessing y'all

651
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:26,879
Speaker 1: arguing every day. That's not healthy. That's not a healthy

652
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:30,480
Speaker 1: environment for the child. Sometimes it is better that y'all split.

653
00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 6: Because sometimes the relationship just does not work. And I

654
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 6: think that that's a problem that like older generations have had,

655
00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 6: they tried to stay together for the sake of the

656
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 6: children because they thought, oh, like, if we stay together,

657
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Speaker 6: the child is going to grow up in a two

658
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Speaker 6: parent household. But if y'all arguing every day and y'all

659
00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 6: not getting along and y'all hate each other, what is

660
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 6: that really teaching the child?

661
00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 7: They listen to way too much.

662
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Speaker 1: Okay, boy, hell now boy, hell Okay.

663
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Speaker 2: So I wanted to get into the next topic.

664
00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, man, all you did not do your you

665
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 1: at the song, but the message not times a good

666
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Speaker 1: bad boy fuck you.

667
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Speaker 6: So I really wanted to talk about like do you

668
00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 6: think marriage is more beneficial for men or for women?

669
00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 6: Because I saw a post a few weeks ago and

670
00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:26,120
Speaker 6: it basically said that in terms of like getting a divorce.

671
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 2: Marriage is more beneficial for women.

672
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 6: But I wanted to talk about it as a whole,

673
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:32,640
Speaker 6: like do you think that marriage is more beneficial for

674
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:34,200
Speaker 6: men or is it more beneficial for women?

675
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:35,400
Speaker 2: Or do you feel like it's equal.

676
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 3: I think it's beneficial for both. Okay, I think that's

677
00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 3: what I think. I think that's benefits because what's so

678
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:45,920
Speaker 3: dope about marriage is like that, you know, it's almost

679
00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:47,760
Speaker 3: like holding up a mirror, you know what I'm saying

680
00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:51,360
Speaker 3: with your partner like so or like I don't know,

681
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:53,720
Speaker 3: I'm speaking on my partnership that I have. Like it's

682
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:58,000
Speaker 3: a situation to where it's like, you know, we have

683
00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 3: an understanding with each other. I'm saying, we communicate about

684
00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:06,200
Speaker 3: everything and it's and it's open and honest, you know

685
00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:09,400
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. So for us, I feel like holding

686
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:12,760
Speaker 3: up that mirror right of knowing my expectation and who

687
00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:14,760
Speaker 3: I am telling her who I am as a man.

688
00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 3: She holds me to that standard, and I think that's

689
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 3: what beautiful. So to me, that is the benefit for

690
00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:22,960
Speaker 3: the man to be able to look at his insecurities

691
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:25,360
Speaker 3: or those challenges and to be able to go inward

692
00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:27,560
Speaker 3: and say, damn, like I thought I was this person,

693
00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 3: but I really want to operating on that.

694
00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 4: That's a chance to look at yourself.

695
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:33,040
Speaker 3: So that's where the benefit comes in if you're willing

696
00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 3: to do the work as a man.

697
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:35,080
Speaker 4: You see what I'm saying.

698
00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 7: I feel like she helped you become a better man.

699
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:41,400
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, absolutely absolutely, Because someone to hold you accountable

700
00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:44,480
Speaker 3: day in day out with the path that you're walking,

701
00:30:44,520 --> 00:30:47,080
Speaker 3: I think is important, you know what I'm saying. So

702
00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 3: that accountability allowed me the space to be able to say,

703
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 3: you know what, there's some things that I need to assess,

704
00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:54,280
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. Those some things that I

705
00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:56,080
Speaker 3: need to look at, some things that I need to

706
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:59,760
Speaker 3: change about myself, you know what I'm saying. And I

707
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:02,120
Speaker 3: made those changes, and I think, like who I was

708
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:04,080
Speaker 3: on the opposite end of that, I was like, oh yeah,

709
00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 3: I like this, yeah, like.

710
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 4: Solid, but he like he got it all.

711
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:11,080
Speaker 5: I'm like, okay, you feel me so like you.

712
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:13,520
Speaker 3: Know again like being in love with that idea of

713
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:16,560
Speaker 3: like highest sell type ship like you know to me,

714
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 3: that's that's why it's beneficial, Like most part is in

715
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 3: the same for her as well. You know, it gives

716
00:31:21,320 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 3: her opportunity to look back at that mirror of like

717
00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 3: the things that she could also change and improve on.

718
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:29,160
Speaker 3: Ways to communicate and speak with each other, learning language.

719
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Speaker 1: What's up, y'all?

720
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Speaker 2: Is your girl XP and it's sur garl drain and

721
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Speaker 2: a call.

722
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Speaker 1: And y'all know summertime is here. And one thing about

723
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Speaker 1: summer is that it can get super expensive. So we're

724
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725
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Speaker 6: Yes, and one of my favorite things about Chime is

726
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Speaker 6: the spot me feature. So basically spot me is when

727
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Speaker 6: if you overdraft your account, they will spot you the money.

728
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Speaker 2: Then when your next direct deposit coming, No, they gonna

729
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Speaker 2: need it.

730
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731
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Speaker 6: we ain't getting it for free, but spot me. But

732
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Speaker 6: I need to be Some people need to be pati

733
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Speaker 6: sometimes and that's what I love about Chime because every

734
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Speaker 6: bank don't do this.

735
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Speaker 2: I like that they won't say money and they won't

736
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Speaker 2: it now.

737
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Speaker 1: So what you're gonna do is go to Chime dot

738
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739
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740
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741
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742
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Speaker 1: I'm telling you the benefits of Chime are so amazing

743
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746
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747
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Speaker 1: Live it up this summer, and make progress towards your

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751
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Speaker 7: Chime feels like progress.

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Speaker 1: Banking services and debit card provided by the bank or

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758
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Speaker 6: That definitely obviously comes with like knowing each other and

759
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 6: being we together probably for a while, because I always

760
00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:05,520
Speaker 6: wonder how can you hold somebody accountable without making him

761
00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 6: feel attacked too?

762
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:11,200
Speaker 4: But it happens, right, So that's right, that's that's a

763
00:33:11,240 --> 00:33:11,960
Speaker 4: teaching lesson.

764
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:12,360
Speaker 2: Hm.

765
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:15,200
Speaker 3: So like the pain point is it? So we're gonna

766
00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:17,160
Speaker 3: lean into the pain point of Like, all right, that's

767
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 3: what makes you uncomfortable? Like, how about we look at

768
00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:22,960
Speaker 3: that more and see what's really underneath that and really

769
00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:24,520
Speaker 3: identify what's at the core of that.

770
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:27,440
Speaker 4: You feel me and to me, like you feel lighter,

771
00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:28,680
Speaker 4: you feel you could do.

772
00:33:28,640 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 3: More as a person, and to me, like being able

773
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:35,640
Speaker 3: to express the fullest parts of yourself. Dog is the

774
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 3: iller shit in the world, especially if you're living on earth.

775
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:41,280
Speaker 3: I want the highest pleasure, man, I want the highest love.

776
00:33:41,320 --> 00:33:43,800
Speaker 3: I want the deepest you know what I'm saying, Like

777
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:47,240
Speaker 3: like yeah, yeah, yeah, deepest abundance, all that type ship man,

778
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:49,440
Speaker 3: you know, but that means you gotta experience it on the.

779
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:50,680
Speaker 4: Opposite end of the spectrum.

780
00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 2: You gotta go to.

781
00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 1: In order to get there, because you know, it's crazy

782
00:33:57,200 --> 00:34:00,640
Speaker 1: because talking about this. Every time somebody's talks about is

783
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:03,400
Speaker 1: marriage more beneficial for men and women? And people always

784
00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:06,440
Speaker 1: bring it to like monetary things and always yeah, that's why.

785
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:12,160
Speaker 1: And when I think about marriage, money is like never

786
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 1: a thing that I think about. And I know marriage

787
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:19,040
Speaker 1: is a business essentially, but for me, it's like when

788
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:23,319
Speaker 1: I decide to get married and have someone's child, I

789
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 1: want to talk about it, like how you talked about it,

790
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:28,279
Speaker 1: because you did not mention money one time, but you

791
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:31,640
Speaker 1: mentioned how she made you feel, how you made her feel,

792
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:34,800
Speaker 1: and how you grew as a man and as a person.

793
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:36,880
Speaker 7: Because how old were you when y'all met?

794
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:41,239
Speaker 3: I was, Oh, man, I probably think I was like

795
00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:42,799
Speaker 3: twenty eight, I think when we met.

796
00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 1: So to be twenty eight, you're an adult, you're grown,

797
00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:49,040
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, And it's very hard to

798
00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:51,319
Speaker 1: change your ways, Like of course, being twenty eight, you

799
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:53,680
Speaker 1: still have a lot of growing to do. But to

800
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:57,879
Speaker 1: meet somebody and they really kind of change the trajectory

801
00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:01,000
Speaker 1: of your life. That's a lot to let somebody in,

802
00:35:01,440 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 1: especially like you know, being a rapper and being who

803
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:06,799
Speaker 1: you were, to really let somebody in and let your

804
00:35:06,840 --> 00:35:08,000
Speaker 1: guard down and allow that.

805
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:09,240
Speaker 7: But that's so beautiful.

806
00:35:09,719 --> 00:35:11,359
Speaker 1: And that's what I think about when I think about

807
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 1: marriage and love, and I say.

808
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:13,799
Speaker 7: That all the time.

809
00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 1: I feel like we've gotten so far away from that,

810
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:20,239
Speaker 1: because when you think about marriage, it shouldn't be this

811
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:22,360
Speaker 1: is not beneficial for me, it's beneficial for you. And

812
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:24,640
Speaker 1: it's like, no, if we love each other and the

813
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:27,960
Speaker 1: feelings are mutual, you see that it's beneficial for the

814
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 1: both of us. So you really gave low key the

815
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:35,280
Speaker 1: perfect answer, Like, because I think it's beneficial for both parties.

816
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:37,840
Speaker 1: We're doing this, not just because I want to do it,

817
00:35:37,880 --> 00:35:40,759
Speaker 1: because everybody always thinks it's the woman pressuring, But it's like,

818
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 1: if the love is there and it's real, he wants

819
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:44,919
Speaker 1: to do it just as much as you do because

820
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:48,360
Speaker 1: he sees the benefits. He sees the benefits of adding

821
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:50,280
Speaker 1: you to his life vice versa.

822
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:52,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, I agree, and I think if you

823
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 6: have a good wife, it's mutually beneficial. I think sometimes

824
00:35:56,360 --> 00:35:58,920
Speaker 6: when I see people online saying, oh, it's only more

825
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 6: beneficial for the woman, especially if you get a divorce,

826
00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:04,120
Speaker 6: because the woman used to leave with more than what

827
00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:06,160
Speaker 6: she had in a lot of cases. But I think

828
00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 6: if you're with a woman who is a good woman,

829
00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:09,760
Speaker 6: who's nurturing and caring.

830
00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:11,480
Speaker 2: She's gonna make your life easy.

831
00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:15,480
Speaker 1: Yes, right, And then y'all girl put pressure on everybody,

832
00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:17,760
Speaker 1: especially gave you that gift.

833
00:36:18,080 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 5: What was it the plaque?

834
00:36:19,960 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you couldn't get your nigga nothing at

835
00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:26,479
Speaker 1: that time because he was in the industry as well.

836
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:28,160
Speaker 5: I couldn't get that nigga up.

837
00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 7: Well a hood girl.

838
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 5: You see what she did? Shit, because she did.

839
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:36,120
Speaker 7: A big one, that did.

840
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:40,560
Speaker 1: And I will say, I feel like y'all, Okay, obviously

841
00:36:40,640 --> 00:36:42,839
Speaker 1: y'all are a lot of relationship goals, and I don't

842
00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:44,839
Speaker 1: think y'all did that on purpose. I think what y'all

843
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 1: have done is just document y'all's love. And I think

844
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:50,840
Speaker 1: the way you're so you love her out loud and

845
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 1: she does the same for you. So now that y'all

846
00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:55,640
Speaker 1: because y'all accidentally became a couple of.

847
00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 2: Goals and it seems like a really healthy relation, is

848
00:36:58,120 --> 00:36:58,879
Speaker 2: it does? Yeah?

849
00:36:59,120 --> 00:36:59,520
Speaker 5: It does.

850
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:02,640
Speaker 1: So do y'all feel like, did y'all start feeling like

851
00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 1: pressure at any time to create content as a couple?

852
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:06,759
Speaker 4: Nope?

853
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:11,640
Speaker 3: Never, because you know, I like real life, man, you know,

854
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:13,879
Speaker 3: and like really doing it and being that in real life.

855
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:14,879
Speaker 4: You know, we don't.

856
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:17,239
Speaker 3: We didn't accept the title of a couple goals or

857
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:20,359
Speaker 3: nothing like that. We just living literally like living and

858
00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:24,120
Speaker 3: being and doing things that our heart desires, you know

859
00:37:24,160 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 3: what I'm saying, expressing ourselves fully.

860
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:30,240
Speaker 4: But nah, it was it was never no plan.

861
00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:33,000
Speaker 3: Like you know, people have always, which is interesting, have

862
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:35,319
Speaker 3: pitched ideas about like us as a couple, like y'all

863
00:37:35,320 --> 00:37:37,239
Speaker 3: can do this, y'all can do that, And I do

864
00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:39,759
Speaker 3: believe that thing is gonna come, whatever that thing might be,

865
00:37:39,880 --> 00:37:41,360
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, for us to do together.

866
00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:45,839
Speaker 3: But but yeah, man, I think for us, it's like

867
00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:48,719
Speaker 3: as long as we stay true, like meaning like doing

868
00:37:48,719 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 3: the work with us, you know what I'm saying, like

869
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 3: showing up for each other, going to therapy, breaking things

870
00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:57,120
Speaker 3: down like you know, having those uncomfortable conversations, so in

871
00:37:57,200 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 3: real life and not just like you know what I mean,

872
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 3: We not trying to model be anything for anybody, Like

873
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:05,320
Speaker 3: we're just trying to simply show you of the power

874
00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:07,560
Speaker 3: of love and what that can do and how amazing

875
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:09,360
Speaker 3: it is. And like for me as a man, like

876
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:11,359
Speaker 3: you said, you know, coming from the industry, I didn't

877
00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:12,440
Speaker 3: have that, you know what I'm saying.

878
00:38:12,520 --> 00:38:13,800
Speaker 4: So even allowing.

879
00:38:13,400 --> 00:38:16,200
Speaker 3: Myself to do that took a lot of unlearning, took

880
00:38:16,239 --> 00:38:18,120
Speaker 3: a lot of ego death for me to arrive to

881
00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:20,280
Speaker 3: this space, you know what I'm saying, because I was different.

882
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:21,640
Speaker 4: I was different, you know.

883
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:25,839
Speaker 3: So I'm just I'm grateful, you know what I'm saying,

884
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:29,799
Speaker 3: really really grateful. But nah, it's you know, we're gonna

885
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:31,880
Speaker 3: do something at some point, but like it's never no

886
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:33,960
Speaker 3: pressure with us anything and feel like we need to

887
00:38:34,000 --> 00:38:36,719
Speaker 3: do something. It's like it's always natural, like and we're

888
00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 3: just doing this thing and let's feel it. She have

889
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:41,920
Speaker 3: to like if for her, Like people get more of

890
00:38:42,160 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 3: a perspective of me because I don't film, you know

891
00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 3: what I'm saying, And like she she'll film the stuff

892
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:49,600
Speaker 3: so and people are enjoying it to just be like

893
00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:51,440
Speaker 3: regular stuff like oh, I ain't know that was gonna do.

894
00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:52,720
Speaker 4: That's so good.

895
00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 1: Because like we get to see you like in a

896
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:57,400
Speaker 1: different light. And that's why I say, because one thing

897
00:38:57,440 --> 00:38:59,000
Speaker 1: about me, and people know I'm a big hater.

898
00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:00,440
Speaker 7: I love, I hate.

899
00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:02,080
Speaker 1: I wake up early in the morning to make sure

900
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:03,960
Speaker 1: I have extra time to be a hater. You know,

901
00:39:04,160 --> 00:39:06,840
Speaker 1: I just feel like it's more fun. But I cannot

902
00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:10,360
Speaker 1: hate on y'all's cup like it's cute and it's not forced.

903
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:12,360
Speaker 1: And one thing I hate couple's content and.

904
00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:17,759
Speaker 6: I hate it it be like very it would they

905
00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:22,120
Speaker 6: be setting up the tropod and they be like and

906
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 6: then they give each other kids.

907
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:28,560
Speaker 2: Act like y'all just.

908
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:31,320
Speaker 7: Woke up up be looking for you.

909
00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:33,360
Speaker 4: Stop.

910
00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 6: But I hate that type of content, like it's so

911
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:39,759
Speaker 6: cringey because I feel like it's ways to document your

912
00:39:39,840 --> 00:39:42,320
Speaker 6: journey and it's ways to document yourself as a couple

913
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:45,480
Speaker 6: without making it look too forced are fake and to me,

914
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:47,319
Speaker 6: that's fake. Like I hate when I watch the type

915
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:48,880
Speaker 6: of content where people are like for seeing it, like

916
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 6: they watch or like they walk into the car and

917
00:39:52,719 --> 00:39:55,240
Speaker 6: they got like you have the tropods watching?

918
00:39:55,280 --> 00:39:56,080
Speaker 5: Know what's crazy?

919
00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 6: What's the I will prefer you to record yourself in

920
00:39:58,560 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 6: the car.

921
00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:02,040
Speaker 1: But what's the guy's name? Is it? Like, what's his name?

922
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 5: Drew Walls?

923
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:04,120
Speaker 1: Is that his name? The TikTok oh?

924
00:40:04,160 --> 00:40:05,120
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah yeah.

925
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:08,320
Speaker 1: So everybody was literally he was going viral because people

926
00:40:08,320 --> 00:40:11,439
Speaker 1: were making fun of him so bad only for Dre.

927
00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:16,319
Speaker 6: Ended up posting him and tagging I mean making like

928
00:40:16,400 --> 00:40:18,400
Speaker 6: a funny video trying to mock him, and then he

929
00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:23,240
Speaker 6: tagged him. So I mean, sometimes it works favor sometimes

930
00:40:23,239 --> 00:40:24,279
Speaker 6: it ended up working out for.

931
00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:26,120
Speaker 4: You, I think if you don't take yourself too seriously.

932
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:26,800
Speaker 2: Yeah.

933
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:28,520
Speaker 1: And I think for him, like when everybody was making

934
00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:29,520
Speaker 1: fun of him, he just didn't stop.

935
00:40:29,600 --> 00:40:30,399
Speaker 7: He was like, I don't care.

936
00:40:31,080 --> 00:40:32,960
Speaker 1: It was like he was him, still doing it. But

937
00:40:33,239 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 1: I guess his is a little different though, because he

938
00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 1: does it by himself, you know, like sometimes he'll have

939
00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:38,920
Speaker 1: his daughter, you know, he'll be combing her hair a

940
00:40:38,960 --> 00:40:41,479
Speaker 1: little stuff like that. But I do like the fact

941
00:40:41,480 --> 00:40:44,120
Speaker 1: that I don't feel like y'all fell into that whole

942
00:40:44,160 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 1: TikTok thing of like forcing content, you know what I mean,

943
00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:51,240
Speaker 1: because that that definitely gets forced at times.

944
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:54,040
Speaker 6: Okay, I definitely wanted to ask you to I wanted

945
00:40:54,040 --> 00:40:56,000
Speaker 6: to touch a little bit more on therapy because I

946
00:40:56,000 --> 00:40:58,560
Speaker 6: know you said therapy, So like where y'all going to

947
00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:02,000
Speaker 6: therapy before y'all got me and then y'all continue to go.

948
00:41:02,120 --> 00:41:04,200
Speaker 6: So can you touch on like the important the therapy

949
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 6: and the relationship.

950
00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:11,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, look chet this out for anybody in the relationship

951
00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 3: on me. If you want a healthy and successful relationship,

952
00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:15,480
Speaker 3: go to therapy, dog.

953
00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:16,840
Speaker 2: And this is prior to me.

954
00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:19,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is prior to marriage. So we had done

955
00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 3: a few sessions even before marriage. Like that's how intentional

956
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:24,279
Speaker 3: it was for us, because we like, man, if this

957
00:41:24,400 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 3: marriage is gonna last and we really gonna be with

958
00:41:26,160 --> 00:41:29,880
Speaker 3: each other, like there's some things that's gonna need real bad.

959
00:41:30,280 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 4: Yeah man, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah damn yeah yeah yeah.

960
00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:36,600
Speaker 4: What was up through that?

961
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:40,080
Speaker 3: Yeah man, you know yeah yeah, childhood ship and all

962
00:41:40,120 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 3: that good stuff and and uh, finding someone where you

963
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:45,799
Speaker 3: really really that can really see your value in you

964
00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:48,600
Speaker 3: and that appreciates you. Uh, it's it's a breath of

965
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:50,480
Speaker 3: fresh air, man, you know what I'm saying when somebody

966
00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:51,759
Speaker 3: can see that greatness in you too.

967
00:41:51,960 --> 00:41:53,360
Speaker 1: So did y'all go to therapy because like y'all were

968
00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:55,280
Speaker 1: kind of having problems or y'all were just like let's

969
00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:55,800
Speaker 1: just make.

970
00:41:55,680 --> 00:41:59,200
Speaker 3: Sure, uh both you know what I'm saying. Not that

971
00:41:59,239 --> 00:42:01,600
Speaker 3: we were having every day problems, but for us, we

972
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:04,400
Speaker 3: knew that, like we just knew like period for the

973
00:42:04,480 --> 00:42:06,799
Speaker 3: relationship to work like that, we have to go to

974
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 3: therapy now. And started that was just it, like because

975
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:12,200
Speaker 3: we couldn't operate within our own knowledge. We don't have

976
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:14,399
Speaker 3: the tools to be able to deal with each other,

977
00:42:14,480 --> 00:42:17,399
Speaker 3: to understand each other, to not be triggered, to not

978
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:19,360
Speaker 3: want to fight, to not want to walk off Like

979
00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:22,120
Speaker 3: I used to be the type like you mad I'm leaving,

980
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:25,120
Speaker 3: Like I don't, like I could, I could care so less,

981
00:42:25,239 --> 00:42:28,240
Speaker 3: Like I was a savage with that, Like I'm atarist.

982
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:29,839
Speaker 4: Yeah, I would have been right behind you.

983
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:34,319
Speaker 3: And not even kept like you know and walk off, man,

984
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:37,040
Speaker 3: ain't I won't speak to me in a week or whatever,

985
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:39,400
Speaker 3: like yeah, Like that's the type of time, you know

986
00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. So it took Like that's why therapy

987
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:43,920
Speaker 3: was important, because you know, even getting you know, getting

988
00:42:43,920 --> 00:42:46,320
Speaker 3: married and stuff like that, Like I was nervous, you

989
00:42:46,360 --> 00:42:46,920
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying.

990
00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:48,719
Speaker 4: I was nervous. That was the point where you know

991
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:49,759
Speaker 4: that the you know.

992
00:42:50,080 --> 00:42:51,600
Speaker 3: They had to find me, you know what I'm saying,

993
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:53,640
Speaker 3: We had to find me because it got real, you

994
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:55,760
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, Like before us actually getting married

995
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 3: and stuff, it was nerve wrecking, you know what I'm

996
00:42:58,000 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 3: saying for a short time, just a little bit. Yeah, yeah,

997
00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:05,480
Speaker 3: I didn't listen. I just didn't answer the phone. It

998
00:43:05,520 --> 00:43:07,399
Speaker 3: was like a five six hours life.

999
00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:08,160
Speaker 4: I was nervous.

1000
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:10,800
Speaker 3: I was nervous because you know, I'm stepping into something,

1001
00:43:10,920 --> 00:43:13,239
Speaker 3: into an environment or an unknown space that I've never

1002
00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:15,520
Speaker 3: been and that shit's scary, you feel what I'm saying.

1003
00:43:15,800 --> 00:43:17,880
Speaker 3: And to me, it's like it's a big deal be

1004
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:19,360
Speaker 3: getting married and all of that. I take care of

1005
00:43:19,400 --> 00:43:21,040
Speaker 3: my family, my people, Like I'm the guy.

1006
00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:21,799
Speaker 4: You feel what I'm saying.

1007
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:24,200
Speaker 3: So it's like to now be taking you know what

1008
00:43:24,239 --> 00:43:26,160
Speaker 3: I mean, and to be looking out and to be

1009
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 3: supporting someone else, Like it looks different.

1010
00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:29,000
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

1011
00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:30,640
Speaker 3: When you when you have a wife and then you

1012
00:43:30,640 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 3: know all that which your parent, mother, mom and dynamic

1013
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:36,960
Speaker 3: and all of that is wicked. But but yeah, we

1014
00:43:37,040 --> 00:43:38,960
Speaker 3: felt like yeah, so we did the therapy and we

1015
00:43:39,000 --> 00:43:41,759
Speaker 3: did from there. We did all type of therapy, all

1016
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 3: type not just that therapy but EMDR like tapping therapy.

1017
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:49,279
Speaker 3: We did you know what I'm saying, Oh man, uh uh,

1018
00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:51,440
Speaker 3: like childhood therapy.

1019
00:43:51,520 --> 00:43:52,160
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

1020
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:55,680
Speaker 3: Well, we would regress, go back and visit parts of ourselves.

1021
00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:58,640
Speaker 3: We did now more so of integrational healing is what

1022
00:43:58,680 --> 00:43:59,520
Speaker 3: I'm working on now.

1023
00:43:59,840 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 4: It's like, you know, so.

1024
00:44:00,760 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 3: I feel like like if I could imagine and explaining them,

1025
00:44:03,680 --> 00:44:06,719
Speaker 3: like it's almost like a bomb in the facility and

1026
00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:09,319
Speaker 3: it's full of mirrors and like it exploded in like

1027
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:12,239
Speaker 3: all of the pieces everywhere, and you got to analyze

1028
00:44:12,239 --> 00:44:15,359
Speaker 3: each individual piece and then once you understand it, then

1029
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 3: you can integrate it all back together as a full

1030
00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:20,040
Speaker 3: of self. So that's where I am currently, or more

1031
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:22,840
Speaker 3: so on the integrational and bringing these those greater parts

1032
00:44:22,840 --> 00:44:23,680
Speaker 3: of myself together.

1033
00:44:24,680 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 4: But it all just took. It took therapy, you know,

1034
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 4: breaking up.

1035
00:44:29,920 --> 00:44:30,520
Speaker 2: No, it's okay.

1036
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:32,839
Speaker 6: Was that your first time going to therapy, like once

1037
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 6: y'all started dating or had you already.

1038
00:44:34,440 --> 00:44:37,400
Speaker 4: Like no, no, no, I ain't never go to therapy, you know.

1039
00:44:37,680 --> 00:44:39,400
Speaker 3: But I had always been a man of face, So

1040
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:41,640
Speaker 3: I always knew that God wanted me to do something

1041
00:44:41,680 --> 00:44:42,080
Speaker 3: in life.

1042
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:43,480
Speaker 4: Don't you want me to do something special?

1043
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 3: I didn't know what it was, so I always had

1044
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:49,480
Speaker 3: that certain level of like discernment. But I never like

1045
00:44:50,040 --> 00:44:51,960
Speaker 3: where I come from, Like, you know, I grew up

1046
00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:54,880
Speaker 3: in Deerfield, So we ain't never think like working on

1047
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:56,880
Speaker 3: yourself as a thing. Like if somebody came to the

1048
00:44:56,880 --> 00:44:58,800
Speaker 3: hood and be like, well you need to work on yourself.

1049
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:03,000
Speaker 3: It's about nigga. They might be like, man, we need

1050
00:45:03,040 --> 00:45:04,719
Speaker 3: to get money. What you're talking about?

1051
00:45:04,840 --> 00:45:05,480
Speaker 4: Like you feel me?

1052
00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:08,719
Speaker 3: Like real talk, It's like how I am you think

1053
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:09,760
Speaker 3: about self development?

1054
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:11,719
Speaker 4: What you like? What do you mean like running? Like

1055
00:45:11,960 --> 00:45:14,120
Speaker 4: training with me? Like working out? I don't understand, Like

1056
00:45:14,320 --> 00:45:14,759
Speaker 4: we ain't know.

1057
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:15,799
Speaker 5: I ain't know what that was.

1058
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:18,200
Speaker 4: So I went.

1059
00:45:18,080 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 3: Into a total different space to everything that I knew,

1060
00:45:22,320 --> 00:45:25,480
Speaker 3: everything that I thought I knew, Like that's the space.

1061
00:45:25,360 --> 00:45:27,279
Speaker 1: She had to convince you to do it though, like

1062
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:29,759
Speaker 1: because that's what I be feeling like a lot of

1063
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:30,560
Speaker 1: so you was ready.

1064
00:45:30,560 --> 00:45:34,520
Speaker 3: It was like certain certain certain types of therapy. I

1065
00:45:34,560 --> 00:45:36,800
Speaker 3: had to be a little bit persuaded. Okay, you know

1066
00:45:36,840 --> 00:45:46,359
Speaker 3: what I'm saying, Like if it was like, uh.

1067
00:45:43,440 --> 00:45:43,760
Speaker 4: Hey.

1068
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 2: That work, did that work?

1069
00:45:47,480 --> 00:45:47,880
Speaker 7: Let me know?

1070
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:54,640
Speaker 4: Want to go down? Yeah?

1071
00:45:55,000 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 3: So pe right, So so I'm joining y'all know what

1072
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:06,040
Speaker 3: I'm saying, y'all. Yeah so so yeah, So the tapping

1073
00:46:06,120 --> 00:46:10,759
Speaker 3: so MDR works with like so it's it's almost like

1074
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:13,560
Speaker 3: a pain point healing. So there's a particular particular point

1075
00:46:13,600 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 3: to where you go back in your childhood trauma. Uh,

1076
00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:19,160
Speaker 3: and there's an experience so with your partner in front

1077
00:46:19,200 --> 00:46:21,200
Speaker 3: of you. I'm sitting here, she's sitting in front of

1078
00:46:21,280 --> 00:46:23,920
Speaker 3: me the same way, and I have my two fingers

1079
00:46:24,000 --> 00:46:26,319
Speaker 3: on her thigh and she has her two fingers on

1080
00:46:26,360 --> 00:46:32,600
Speaker 3: my thigh. And what we proceed to do from there is.

1081
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:31,400
Speaker 4: Is we.

1082
00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 3: Like we read like we we give ourselves a chance

1083
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:39,400
Speaker 3: to like clear out the trauma and have a new experience.

1084
00:46:39,840 --> 00:46:40,000
Speaker 4: Right.

1085
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:42,320
Speaker 3: So, if all we knew at childhood or that particular

1086
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:45,080
Speaker 3: moment was like I was unworthy, I didn't feel good enough,

1087
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:46,680
Speaker 3: I felt like I was a liar. I felt like

1088
00:46:46,680 --> 00:46:48,840
Speaker 3: I want to appreciate it. What the tapping does for

1089
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:51,560
Speaker 3: that moment, It's like you are worthy, Like you know

1090
00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:55,800
Speaker 3: what I'm saying, Like like like it's okay, you know

1091
00:46:55,840 --> 00:46:59,120
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. You were young, I love you, I

1092
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:02,920
Speaker 3: appreciate you, right, you know what I'm saying, Uh, you're amazing,

1093
00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:05,200
Speaker 3: like like those things. You know what I'm saying. You

1094
00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:07,319
Speaker 3: are wanted, you are worthy. You know what I'm saying,

1095
00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 3: You are valuable. And the tapping, what tapping does to

1096
00:47:11,280 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 3: the body, it's almost like you know, everything is a

1097
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 3: consciousness and it's like a rhythm. So as you reprogram that,

1098
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:19,239
Speaker 3: you start to feeling in your body. You know how

1099
00:47:19,280 --> 00:47:21,279
Speaker 3: people do this and just and move their leg or

1100
00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:24,279
Speaker 3: like some people get rocked to sleep. It's the same way,

1101
00:47:24,280 --> 00:47:26,720
Speaker 3: the same thing. So that's how it shows up in EMDR.

1102
00:47:27,520 --> 00:47:32,120
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, it's fired. It's yeah, yeah yeah. Eye contacting.

1103
00:47:32,200 --> 00:47:34,240
Speaker 3: You do it and it like it'll it'll bring something

1104
00:47:34,280 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 3: for it. So it's that you can stare in each

1105
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:41,120
Speaker 3: other's eyes like that type of stuff. Yeah, it gets.

1106
00:47:41,400 --> 00:47:45,720
Speaker 1: It gets because I feel like sometimes like I'm a runner.

1107
00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:48,279
Speaker 1: So when I say that, like you talking, how you

1108
00:47:48,400 --> 00:47:50,399
Speaker 1: was like oh it was like five or six hours

1109
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:53,480
Speaker 1: or I might not talking to you. I will hold

1110
00:47:53,520 --> 00:47:55,239
Speaker 1: it out and like try to work through it. But

1111
00:47:55,280 --> 00:47:57,160
Speaker 1: once I run, I'm a run, I'm a track star.

1112
00:47:58,040 --> 00:48:01,000
Speaker 1: So how did you like see maybe like a red

1113
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:03,400
Speaker 1: flag of hers or vice versa, and you were like,

1114
00:48:03,440 --> 00:48:05,120
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm gonna stick out. I'm want to

1115
00:48:05,160 --> 00:48:07,760
Speaker 1: work through it. Like when did you know like, Okay,

1116
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:11,120
Speaker 1: it's worth working through because like, how do you know

1117
00:48:11,200 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 1: It's like a red flag is like this is something

1118
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:15,520
Speaker 1: I can work through and she's worth it versus this

1119
00:48:15,560 --> 00:48:16,160
Speaker 1: is the red.

1120
00:48:15,960 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 7: Flag that I need to leave.

1121
00:48:17,320 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Because everybody has their red flag.

1122
00:48:19,960 --> 00:48:22,680
Speaker 1: But when do you know, like this is the red

1123
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:23,799
Speaker 1: this is worth the flight?

1124
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:29,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's a good question. You know, well

1125
00:48:29,880 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 3: there was a point where, you know, every every now

1126
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:34,880
Speaker 3: and again, like my wife would deal with like the

1127
00:48:34,920 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 3: anxiety thing and for me, and I say this with

1128
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:41,600
Speaker 3: so much compassion too, So with me, that was a

1129
00:48:41,680 --> 00:48:46,239
Speaker 3: real struggle for struggle for me because I couldn't. I

1130
00:48:46,239 --> 00:48:48,800
Speaker 3: would always look at it as being irrational, you know

1131
00:48:48,840 --> 00:48:53,239
Speaker 3: what I'm saying, but not looking at it it's like, well,

1132
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:56,239
Speaker 3: this is her experience, and how can I first under

1133
00:48:56,280 --> 00:48:59,920
Speaker 3: her experience before judging that experience? So I think, to me,

1134
00:49:00,320 --> 00:49:02,279
Speaker 3: that was a real pain point for me, you know

1135
00:49:02,320 --> 00:49:06,000
Speaker 3: what I'm saying, because I just can't take the excess

1136
00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:08,520
Speaker 3: or the whatever or just the because I'm very calm,

1137
00:49:08,520 --> 00:49:11,640
Speaker 3: I'm very tired. I'm very calm and very like logical

1138
00:49:11,719 --> 00:49:14,240
Speaker 3: with things in my mind and that's how I operate.

1139
00:49:14,440 --> 00:49:18,560
Speaker 3: But I operate logically. She operates in her body, And

1140
00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:22,000
Speaker 3: that's what I'm saying. Even that I had to understand

1141
00:49:22,040 --> 00:49:24,920
Speaker 3: that shit too of like, okay, so we operate differently,

1142
00:49:24,960 --> 00:49:27,080
Speaker 3: doesn't mean that one is better than the other. You

1143
00:49:27,080 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 3: see what I'm saying, So that right there allowed me

1144
00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 3: to say, oh, okay, I got that. I got that.

1145
00:49:32,160 --> 00:49:34,680
Speaker 3: That makes sense. So if I approach it like this,

1146
00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:37,080
Speaker 3: then I could conjure up a different response and then

1147
00:49:37,080 --> 00:49:39,080
Speaker 3: she could feel supported and this goes away.

1148
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:41,879
Speaker 4: Let's try this. I did it a couple of times

1149
00:49:41,880 --> 00:49:42,440
Speaker 4: and it worked.

1150
00:49:42,760 --> 00:49:44,759
Speaker 3: And that was one of them situations where at one

1151
00:49:44,760 --> 00:49:46,799
Speaker 3: point it was a red flag for me, but then

1152
00:49:46,840 --> 00:49:48,920
Speaker 3: it was something that I've learned that I'm more than

1153
00:49:48,960 --> 00:49:50,440
Speaker 3: capable of working through it.

1154
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:51,799
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. You just have to have

1155
00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:53,319
Speaker 4: the desire to want to do it.

1156
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:56,480
Speaker 7: So that was gonna be a wife after this episode.

1157
00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:00,000
Speaker 1: I've read it.

1158
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:02,799
Speaker 6: You don't know how I feel about astrology, Like I

1159
00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:05,640
Speaker 6: definitely think astrology is accurate in a lot of ways.

1160
00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:08,439
Speaker 6: So I'm wondering, like, as a tourist, do you think

1161
00:50:08,440 --> 00:50:10,560
Speaker 6: because I know for me and like my boyfriend actually

1162
00:50:10,560 --> 00:50:13,040
Speaker 6: said this to me before, like he was like, I

1163
00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:15,719
Speaker 6: think it's sometimes it's hard for you to look at

1164
00:50:15,760 --> 00:50:18,440
Speaker 6: things from other people's perspective if it's something that you

1165
00:50:18,520 --> 00:50:20,440
Speaker 6: don't agree with or it's something that you wouldn't do,

1166
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:23,239
Speaker 6: like with what you were just saying with the anxiety situation.

1167
00:50:23,640 --> 00:50:25,160
Speaker 6: Do you think it was like hard for you to

1168
00:50:25,239 --> 00:50:27,600
Speaker 6: understand it because it wasn't something that you actually have

1169
00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:28,359
Speaker 6: dealt with.

1170
00:50:28,440 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 2: Or been through.

1171
00:50:30,120 --> 00:50:33,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true that Yes, I felt like that at

1172
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 3: the time. But then I started recognizing too, like you know,

1173
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:39,319
Speaker 3: sometimes us as men, we can be hypocritical. It's just

1174
00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:43,360
Speaker 3: our anxiety. Our anxiety. Anxiety looks different. M So let

1175
00:50:43,440 --> 00:50:45,000
Speaker 3: me give you an example. So this is where I

1176
00:50:45,080 --> 00:50:47,760
Speaker 3: knew that all we have the same experiences, just different.

1177
00:50:48,280 --> 00:50:49,920
Speaker 3: That's when I learned are we more than the same

1178
00:50:50,120 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 3: than not a light?

1179
00:50:51,800 --> 00:50:51,920
Speaker 2: Right?

1180
00:50:52,400 --> 00:50:54,879
Speaker 3: We were going we were going to like on our

1181
00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:56,560
Speaker 3: healing trips, and we were out. We were somewhere, I

1182
00:50:56,600 --> 00:50:58,760
Speaker 3: think we were in Costa Rica somewhere, were zip lining,

1183
00:50:59,400 --> 00:51:01,240
Speaker 3: and I was so nervous.

1184
00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:04,080
Speaker 4: I was asking so many questions, Bro, So.

1185
00:51:04,000 --> 00:51:04,520
Speaker 5: What are we gonna do?

1186
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:04,680
Speaker 1: Bro?

1187
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:06,440
Speaker 4: You're hold this shit.

1188
00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:08,080
Speaker 3: Bro, but don't let me grow I'm telling you, bro,

1189
00:51:09,320 --> 00:51:11,200
Speaker 3: hold on, hold on, let me just hold on, brother,

1190
00:51:11,200 --> 00:51:12,480
Speaker 3: Just let me give me a few seconds.

1191
00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:16,280
Speaker 2: That's anxiety, right, Yeah.

1192
00:51:14,480 --> 00:51:16,080
Speaker 1: It just showed up.

1193
00:51:16,120 --> 00:51:18,600
Speaker 3: But that motherfucker showed up right there, and in that moment,

1194
00:51:18,640 --> 00:51:21,680
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, this is what she deal with. Okay,

1195
00:51:21,719 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 3: But I'm judging her to you feel what I'm saying.

1196
00:51:24,360 --> 00:51:26,640
Speaker 3: So once I learned that, I'm like, okay, cool, So

1197
00:51:26,719 --> 00:51:28,719
Speaker 3: like all right, we're gonna change our approach to that.

1198
00:51:28,840 --> 00:51:30,680
Speaker 3: So I'm like I experienced it the same way. It's

1199
00:51:30,719 --> 00:51:32,480
Speaker 3: just very different. Even if it's not on the day

1200
00:51:32,520 --> 00:51:34,719
Speaker 3: to day, it's like at some point we all going

1201
00:51:34,760 --> 00:51:37,319
Speaker 3: to have that experience. So it's that's the thing about

1202
00:51:37,320 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 3: people and even in relationships, is that ultimately, even when

1203
00:51:40,640 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 3: there's a disagreement or an argument, like we both are

1204
00:51:42,680 --> 00:51:44,520
Speaker 3: asking for the same thing, it just looks different.

1205
00:51:44,719 --> 00:51:45,920
Speaker 7: Yes, it really is.

1206
00:51:46,120 --> 00:51:48,160
Speaker 1: I think that's a lot of times when you have

1207
00:51:48,320 --> 00:51:51,839
Speaker 1: arguments with someone, a lot of times there is no

1208
00:51:52,040 --> 00:51:56,200
Speaker 1: right or wrong. It's all about wanting that compromise. And

1209
00:51:56,239 --> 00:51:59,120
Speaker 1: that's one thing I like how you speak on your

1210
00:51:59,160 --> 00:52:01,080
Speaker 1: relationship because it seem like she got you out of

1211
00:52:01,080 --> 00:52:03,480
Speaker 1: your shell of doing like the typical things you do.

1212
00:52:03,800 --> 00:52:04,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, because I mean.

1213
00:52:04,880 --> 00:52:07,520
Speaker 7: You was in Costa Rica's zipline and talking about some.

1214
00:52:10,280 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 1: Like you know, it seems like she brought you, introduced

1215
00:52:12,640 --> 00:52:15,080
Speaker 1: you to things that you never probably would have tried,

1216
00:52:15,600 --> 00:52:18,960
Speaker 1: you know, in other relationships that you were So I

1217
00:52:18,960 --> 00:52:21,080
Speaker 1: think that was probably like how long did you say,

1218
00:52:21,080 --> 00:52:22,840
Speaker 1: like y'all were together when you like knew, Okay, this

1219
00:52:22,920 --> 00:52:23,359
Speaker 1: is the one.

1220
00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:30,640
Speaker 3: Oh man, I think, I I think honestly, you know,

1221
00:52:30,640 --> 00:52:32,759
Speaker 3: I know it sounds cliche, but I think I I

1222
00:52:32,760 --> 00:52:35,759
Speaker 3: think I've all I always knew. Yeah, like honestly, like

1223
00:52:35,840 --> 00:52:39,640
Speaker 3: our relationship was was like with something just very different.

1224
00:52:39,719 --> 00:52:42,879
Speaker 3: Like when I seen her and met her, like energetically,

1225
00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:45,360
Speaker 3: I felt full. I felt like whoa, Like you know

1226
00:52:45,400 --> 00:52:47,719
Speaker 3: what I'm saying, Like I I think I want to

1227
00:52:47,760 --> 00:52:51,080
Speaker 3: consider like imagine being in like deep water or ocean.

1228
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:53,920
Speaker 4: It's like, oh man, like this is a big feeling.

1229
00:52:54,360 --> 00:52:54,839
Speaker 1: She's fine.

1230
00:52:57,719 --> 00:52:58,560
Speaker 7: I felt that too.

1231
00:52:58,840 --> 00:53:01,400
Speaker 4: I feel she got big emotions to you know what

1232
00:53:01,440 --> 00:53:03,680
Speaker 4: I'm saying. And that's honestly what I fell in love

1233
00:53:03,719 --> 00:53:04,000
Speaker 4: with too.

1234
00:53:04,280 --> 00:53:06,879
Speaker 3: I was like the emotional side because I went tapped

1235
00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:09,120
Speaker 3: into my emotions. I was just a bunch around you

1236
00:53:09,120 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, like hard heads, and we were

1237
00:53:10,960 --> 00:53:13,400
Speaker 3: just on some different type timing, so we never allowed

1238
00:53:13,440 --> 00:53:15,759
Speaker 3: ourselves to be vulnerable and do none of that extra shit.

1239
00:53:16,160 --> 00:53:17,960
Speaker 3: So when I started tapping in parts like that, like

1240
00:53:18,000 --> 00:53:20,479
Speaker 3: before I went going out and doing all that. Every

1241
00:53:20,480 --> 00:53:22,880
Speaker 3: time I'm moving like it's ten to fifteen people with me.

1242
00:53:23,160 --> 00:53:24,840
Speaker 3: If I'm at the house, it's a bunch of homies

1243
00:53:24,880 --> 00:53:26,879
Speaker 3: with me. Like anything we're going to do, Like I'm

1244
00:53:26,880 --> 00:53:29,080
Speaker 3: not going out to go hang out like no, no, no.

1245
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:30,440
Speaker 4: Like we active like we hey up.

1246
00:53:30,640 --> 00:53:33,120
Speaker 3: And it's like so even if we travel, were going

1247
00:53:33,160 --> 00:53:35,960
Speaker 3: there for business and handle the business and out, yeah.

1248
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:36,480
Speaker 4: Now it's different.

1249
00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:38,840
Speaker 3: It's like, all right, we're gonna like I had Literally

1250
00:53:38,880 --> 00:53:41,440
Speaker 3: I was like, I'm telling you, bro, like like almost

1251
00:53:41,800 --> 00:53:44,879
Speaker 3: had to be born again to step out because coming

1252
00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:46,879
Speaker 3: from that, you know, that's how I felt. Man, it's

1253
00:53:46,920 --> 00:53:49,400
Speaker 3: so like afraid in so many ways of like I

1254
00:53:49,440 --> 00:53:51,080
Speaker 3: can't do it. I gotta keep my pistol on me,

1255
00:53:51,160 --> 00:53:52,879
Speaker 3: I gotta keep my dogs on. We got a boom

1256
00:53:52,920 --> 00:53:55,120
Speaker 3: boom and move and MiB a certain way. So I

1257
00:53:55,120 --> 00:53:57,760
Speaker 3: started to see like, Okay, this is not really true.

1258
00:53:58,040 --> 00:54:00,640
Speaker 3: So we're taking trips and doing things and feeding the

1259
00:54:00,680 --> 00:54:02,920
Speaker 3: stand and we're doing all of these activities and stuff,

1260
00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:05,440
Speaker 3: which I've always been on a nice luxury travel thing,

1261
00:54:05,560 --> 00:54:08,319
Speaker 3: but you know, just doing it more and doing it

1262
00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:11,960
Speaker 3: more freely, you understand, really allow myself to have full experiences.

1263
00:54:12,160 --> 00:54:15,640
Speaker 3: Go seek check out, go invest in the culture. People

1264
00:54:15,840 --> 00:54:18,279
Speaker 3: go to the schools, in the community, pouring to them,

1265
00:54:18,520 --> 00:54:21,000
Speaker 3: see them, love on them, kids, like, all of this

1266
00:54:21,080 --> 00:54:22,600
Speaker 3: type of stuff we started experiencing.

1267
00:54:22,640 --> 00:54:24,520
Speaker 4: And that was the thing.

1268
00:54:24,560 --> 00:54:26,640
Speaker 3: I was like, Man, you know what, I've been missing

1269
00:54:26,640 --> 00:54:28,799
Speaker 3: out so so much of life because I was just

1270
00:54:28,800 --> 00:54:30,920
Speaker 3: so narrow in terms of just who I felt like

1271
00:54:30,960 --> 00:54:32,360
Speaker 3: I needed to be for the industry.

1272
00:54:32,719 --> 00:54:35,160
Speaker 6: Then you feel like you have like influenced any of

1273
00:54:35,200 --> 00:54:37,279
Speaker 6: your friends now, like because you said it used to

1274
00:54:37,320 --> 00:54:38,920
Speaker 6: be with your friends a lot, and then they started

1275
00:54:38,920 --> 00:54:41,160
Speaker 6: seeing your relationship with your girl. Do you feel like

1276
00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:43,759
Speaker 6: you've experienced, i mean, influenced them to like live life

1277
00:54:43,760 --> 00:54:45,680
Speaker 6: a little bit more and be open to different things

1278
00:54:45,680 --> 00:54:46,640
Speaker 6: that y'all didn't.

1279
00:54:46,400 --> 00:54:47,240
Speaker 4: Grow up around.

1280
00:54:47,719 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. A lot of my home isn't motivated.

1281
00:54:50,840 --> 00:54:53,480
Speaker 3: A lot of them are motivated. If it's not one thing,

1282
00:54:53,520 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 3: it's the other. If it's not the relationship, it's to fit,

1283
00:54:56,000 --> 00:54:59,360
Speaker 3: not the fitness, it's the mindset, it's the approach of things,

1284
00:54:59,360 --> 00:55:00,520
Speaker 3: it's the way of life, you.

1285
00:55:00,520 --> 00:55:04,080
Speaker 4: Know what I'm saying. Like, so uh yeah, yeah, yeah.

1286
00:55:03,960 --> 00:55:06,080
Speaker 3: You got some home homies that want to what they're

1287
00:55:06,080 --> 00:55:08,359
Speaker 3: stubborn and stuck in their way. Yeah, we all shift

1288
00:55:08,440 --> 00:55:10,359
Speaker 3: and change on our own time, you know what I'm saying. So,

1289
00:55:11,480 --> 00:55:13,480
Speaker 3: but yeah, I love being a you know, a light

1290
00:55:13,560 --> 00:55:15,759
Speaker 3: beacon to my homies anytime, you know what I'm saying

1291
00:55:16,200 --> 00:55:18,000
Speaker 3: somethore they can pull from it and be like, yeah, man,

1292
00:55:18,000 --> 00:55:18,600
Speaker 3: they did that.

1293
00:55:18,680 --> 00:55:19,680
Speaker 4: Man I can do that too, bro.

1294
00:55:19,880 --> 00:55:23,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, we need some more husband material out there, you

1295
00:55:23,800 --> 00:55:27,719
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Okay, So now it's time to

1296
00:55:27,760 --> 00:55:36,520
Speaker 1: get into the bed. Ow bow bow bow bow bow bow. Okay,

1297
00:55:36,680 --> 00:55:39,200
Speaker 1: So for the bed today, I want to talk about

1298
00:55:39,239 --> 00:55:43,600
Speaker 1: this because to me, be like, I've been a fan

1299
00:55:43,680 --> 00:55:46,720
Speaker 1: of yours, you know what I'm saying, So watching you,

1300
00:55:46,719 --> 00:55:49,840
Speaker 1: you know, come from you know, being a rapper and

1301
00:55:49,920 --> 00:55:52,400
Speaker 1: you know, being that man to like now being a

1302
00:55:52,520 --> 00:55:54,920
Speaker 1: husband and like, you know, a family man, someoney who

1303
00:55:54,960 --> 00:55:57,160
Speaker 1: cares about fitness and all that stuff. You've had such

1304
00:55:57,200 --> 00:56:01,080
Speaker 1: a journey and I know the way you've probably viewed

1305
00:56:01,200 --> 00:56:04,520
Speaker 1: women when you were eighteen versus how you women now

1306
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Speaker 1: is totally different. So I wanted to talk about this

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Speaker 1: because I feel like, honestly, me Andrea have to deal

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Speaker 1: with this a lot, and I feel like women in general,

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Speaker 1: especially Black women, have to deal with this a lot.

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Speaker 1: So I wanted to talk about do you feel like

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Speaker 1: Black women are over sexualized or do we over sexualize ourselves?

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Speaker 1: And I'm gonna let you answer because I'm a little

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Speaker 1: on both sides, but I want to hear what you

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Speaker 1: have to say first before I give my answer.

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Speaker 3: I do think people over sexualize black women because there's

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Speaker 3: a stigma or something subconsciously that people look at black

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Speaker 3: women as its property, right, That's honestly, That's what I

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Speaker 3: would say.

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Speaker 4: In terms of the.

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Speaker 3: Other way, you should also feel confident and feel you know,

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Speaker 3: have the space to be able to be free, to

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Speaker 3: feel as sexy as you want to feel as a woman.

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Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, I salute and not applaud

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00:57:12,680 --> 00:57:13,920
Speaker 3: and I want mine. I want you to be as

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Speaker 3: sexy as possible. And because it ain't got nothing to

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Speaker 3: do with me, I don't. I don't have ownership or

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Speaker 3: anything over you. You know what I'm saying. It's a

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Speaker 3: choice that we decide to do this. But yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: I definitely will say people over sexualized Black women both,

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Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. So, nah, I don't think

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Speaker 3: Black women just didn't start this thing of like where

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Speaker 3: they just deserve to be over sexualized.

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Speaker 4: Hell nah, Hell Nah, no, no, nah.

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Speaker 3: Just because they have amazing bodies, you know, it doesn't

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Speaker 3: give you the right to over sexualize a woman, you

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Speaker 3: know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: So I feel like, like I said, I'm a little

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Speaker 1: bit on both sides with it, because when I was

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Speaker 1: in high school, I was always like curveer, but I

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00:57:56,960 --> 00:57:59,320
Speaker 1: was to me, I was small, but you know, I

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00:57:59,360 --> 00:58:04,000
Speaker 1: went I was busty. So it was like I would

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Speaker 1: like when me and my friends we used to match

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Speaker 1: going to school. You know how I used to match

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00:58:06,760 --> 00:58:08,919
Speaker 1: with your friends and I would literally get pulled into

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Speaker 1: the office and I would get in trouble, and I'm like,

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Speaker 1: we got on the same thing.

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Speaker 7: Why is she not in.

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Speaker 1: Trouble just because I had a bigger chess, you know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Or I was thicker, or whatever the

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Speaker 1: case may me, my pants might have fit a little different.

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Speaker 1: So I definitely think a lot of times Black women

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Speaker 1: are very so much like we're over sexualized. Like I

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Speaker 1: can wear something that I'm not even trying to turn

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Speaker 1: you on or nothing, like this is just what I

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Speaker 1: have on just because you look at me and you

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Speaker 1: feel some type of way, and your little pants that

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00:58:37,160 --> 00:58:39,360
Speaker 1: don't got nothing to do with me. That doesn't mean

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Speaker 1: I'm asking for it to be sexualized. Sometimes I'm just

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Speaker 1: showing up. Nigga, I can't help it.

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Speaker 4: I'm six.

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Speaker 8: I can't.

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Speaker 1: But going into what you said, it's crazy that you

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Speaker 1: said it, because I saw a post the other day

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Speaker 1: and it was what Jonathan Finesse, Yeah, he said. He

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Speaker 1: cut a clip from his podcast and he was saying,

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Speaker 1: if I'm dating a woman, why are you on Instagram

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Speaker 1: and a swimsuit or and a bathing suit? Or like,

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Speaker 1: why are you doing all that and all this stuff?

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Speaker 1: But it's like, to me, you should be happy, like

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Speaker 1: you have an attractive woman, and I'm pretty sure nine

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Speaker 1: times out of ten she was doing that before you

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Speaker 1: got with her. That may be what attracted you to her. Now,

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Speaker 1: for me, if I post a picture on Instagram and

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Speaker 1: I have on like, you know, a cute dress or

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Speaker 1: a swimsuit, you know, I'm showing the experience. But when

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Speaker 1: somebody that's a finn model gets to be in a swimsuit,

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Speaker 1: it's like, oh, this is high fashion. But just cause

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Speaker 1: I got a little extra meat on my bones, I'm

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Speaker 1: trying to do with this for attention and I'm looking

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to get me a nigga. But when she

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Speaker 1: puts on a bathing suit and she's like somewhere, it's like.

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Speaker 7: Oh, look how cute she looks Ain't fair?

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Speaker 6: Two sides to everything, because I definitely feel like black

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Speaker 6: women are overly sexualized, coming from a space of like

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Speaker 6: when I used to work in corporate America. We talked

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Speaker 6: about these before, Like when I used to work at

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Speaker 6: this oil and gas company in Houston, when I was

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Speaker 6: like twenty two twenty three, I used to wear like

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Speaker 6: what they would have in the handbook, pencil skirts, knee

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Speaker 6: length blazers. But because I was curvy, yeah, and I

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Speaker 6: would get and I had hips, so I would get

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Speaker 6: in trouble for wearing the same thing that the girls

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Speaker 6: sitting next to me in the cubicles. She got on

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Speaker 6: the same outfitdom near but she not. Nobody is saying

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Speaker 6: anything to her because she up and down. Oh oh,

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Speaker 6: I definitely, Well, I'm just saying she's given SpongeBob. But no,

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Speaker 6: but I'm in trouble, Like that's not fair, right, But

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Speaker 6: I think that's an example of like being over sexualized.

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Speaker 6: But sometimes I think when it comes to like the

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Speaker 6: Instagram posting stuff like Okay, you're gonna post a picture

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Speaker 6: in a swimsuit, but if you posting a picture in

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Speaker 6: a swimsuit and it's from a certain angle, or if

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Speaker 6: you posting a video twerking, you're overly sexualizing your suit.

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Speaker 1: Now that's a different Now I can get the twerking thing.

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Speaker 6: Or if you're bent over, Yeah, it's like you you're

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Speaker 6: trying to garner certain attentions stuff.

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Speaker 2: It's like you can't be mad when you get it.

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Speaker 6: And that's coming from a space of me, and you

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01:02:27,720 --> 01:02:30,120
Speaker 6: don't post it like when we were younger. We don't

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Speaker 6: post the videos in like a swimsuit, like twirking.

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Speaker 1: I don't know about that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, maybe not twirking, but like, y'all.

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Speaker 7: I'm a lady.

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Speaker 6: You are post posting things before that are suggestive and

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Speaker 6: I don't suggest And I feel like, you know what

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Speaker 6: type of potention you're gonna get if you post something

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Speaker 6: that's like a little suggestive versus like if you just

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01:02:52,320 --> 01:02:53,960
Speaker 6: posting a picture in a swim suit, like if you

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Speaker 6: post a picture standing up and it's just a picture,

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01:02:56,440 --> 01:02:58,680
Speaker 6: of course, like some people gonna golf can be like,

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Speaker 6: oh her body fire and they gonna leave.

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Speaker 2: Inappropriate communis versus youth working.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so I'll say I've never posted a video of

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Speaker 1: me working. That's all a bit.

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Speaker 2: We was Miami.

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Speaker 1: That was on close friends.

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Speaker 5: See how you take it too far?

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Speaker 1: But okay, so I do agree with you on that,

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Speaker 1: but I will say I feel like a bikini post

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Speaker 1: they look at it. When with curveer women, we get

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Speaker 1: sexualized for absolutely no reason, and it's just because we're

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Speaker 1: curvier and you are attracted to me, period. And when

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Speaker 1: you see skinnier women. And I'm not saying skinny women

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Speaker 1: aren't attractive, of not, that's not what I'm saying. But

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Speaker 1: I feel like certain type of men if they see

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Speaker 1: a woman in bikini that they're not attracted to, they're

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Speaker 1: not overly sexualizing her because they don't find her attractive.

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Speaker 7: And that's not fair.

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Speaker 1: So why am I being punished for being sexy? That

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Speaker 1: ain't fair.

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Speaker 2: That ain't fair.

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Speaker 1: That ain't fair. And this ghost and this goes to

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Speaker 1: another point I want to make because I get tired

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Speaker 1: of seeing things of like people saying Black women are

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Speaker 1: the most undesired demographic in the world, and that's just

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Speaker 1: simply not true because if we were so undesired, things

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Speaker 1: like this wouldn't be a topic. That's why we're overly sexualized,

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Speaker 1: because literally all of y'all are attracted to us worldwide.

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Speaker 1: We have to deal with this. The first time I

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Speaker 1: went to Europe was in twenty sixteen, and I was

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Speaker 1: actually with a guy I was dating, and it was

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Speaker 1: so weird that so many men were just like coming

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Speaker 1: up to me and hitting on me like he wasn't

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Speaker 1: even there. And that's what I'm saying, Like y'all want

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Speaker 1: to feel like we are not wanted. These niggas love

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Speaker 1: a worldwide I'm attract the worldwide, baby, I can't.

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Speaker 5: Help that they love it.

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Speaker 1: So I do feel like Black women are over sexual

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Speaker 1: over sexualized, because even with me being in my thirties,

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Speaker 1: I don't feel like I post suggestive things anymore.

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Speaker 7: I'm fine, you don't see it.

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Speaker 2: I don't feel like I post it anymore either, you know.

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Speaker 1: What I mean? Because I feel like even with your

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Speaker 1: with your girlfriend, I mean, I'm sorry your wife. She's curvy, beautiful,

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Speaker 1: but men are gonna look at her page and be like, goddamn, But.

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Speaker 4: You can't help it.

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Speaker 1: I mean, she naturally has a small ways, she looks good,

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Speaker 1: so it's like I cannot help it.

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01:05:24,960 --> 01:05:26,800
Speaker 7: How you perceive me and you look at me.

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Speaker 1: If I'm posting a picture and a dress and I'm

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Speaker 1: at dinner and I'm literally with my man, y'all be

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Speaker 1: knowing I'm with my man. I don't give a damn

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Speaker 1: about you finding me attractive.

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Speaker 7: I don't care.

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Speaker 2: I'm worried about my man.

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Speaker 1: I'm worried about my man. This is just for you know.

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Speaker 1: I am on Instagram. I'm posting pictures just like everybody else.

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Speaker 1: Just because you find this attractive does not mean that

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to fish or find a nigga like And

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Speaker 1: I think that's that comes with security too. A lot

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Speaker 1: of these men, y'all get the woman that you like,

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Speaker 1: but you can't handle.

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Speaker 6: It, or they want to change you like you already

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01:05:58,320 --> 01:05:59,920
Speaker 6: been in this way. You was already posting this type

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Speaker 6: of content. He was already who you were. But now

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Speaker 6: this y'all are in a relationship. He wants you to

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Speaker 6: stop or he wants you to.

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Speaker 1: Not do because it's insecurity.

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Speaker 6: But it's the same thing that attracted you to the girl.

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Speaker 6: Now you want her to not be that way no more.

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Speaker 1: And it's like I get growth in a relationship too,

1518
01:06:15,680 --> 01:06:18,080
Speaker 1: Like you're supposed to be respectful on x y Z.

1519
01:06:18,800 --> 01:06:20,680
Speaker 1: But I do feel like at the end of the day,

1520
01:06:20,680 --> 01:06:23,920
Speaker 1: if you trust and know your woman, when I tell

1521
01:06:23,920 --> 01:06:25,880
Speaker 1: you my nigga, do not care, he no, I ain't

1522
01:06:25,880 --> 01:06:29,200
Speaker 1: going you know what I'm saying, Like, I feel like

1523
01:06:29,200 --> 01:06:35,320
Speaker 1: it's a level of trust there and understanding because it's like, yeah,

1524
01:06:34,120 --> 01:06:37,160
Speaker 1: I'm that's what I'm saying. I feel like you're supposed

1525
01:06:37,200 --> 01:06:39,400
Speaker 1: to be rooting for your woman, like yeah, that's mine.

1526
01:06:40,120 --> 01:06:43,800
Speaker 6: It depends on it's person by person base, Like I

1527
01:06:43,840 --> 01:06:45,880
Speaker 6: think it depends on your men. Because even I know

1528
01:06:45,960 --> 01:06:48,440
Speaker 6: y'all both probably saw that post recently. It was like

1529
01:06:48,440 --> 01:06:51,480
Speaker 6: a picture of Beyonce and jay Z and Beyonce had

1530
01:06:51,520 --> 01:06:54,320
Speaker 6: on like this see through lace to dress and you

1531
01:06:54,360 --> 01:06:57,600
Speaker 6: could like see like her underwear or whatever, and people

1532
01:06:57,640 --> 01:07:00,960
Speaker 6: were like, oh, a high value and shouldn't want these

1533
01:07:01,040 --> 01:07:03,160
Speaker 6: or a high value men don't want to date women

1534
01:07:03,200 --> 01:07:04,400
Speaker 6: who dress a certain way.

1535
01:07:04,640 --> 01:07:06,680
Speaker 2: And then they started pulling up pictures of Jeff Bezo.

1536
01:07:06,760 --> 01:07:10,160
Speaker 6: It's a new girlfriend who had on a similar dress,

1537
01:07:10,240 --> 01:07:12,680
Speaker 6: and they were like, it's only black men that be

1538
01:07:12,800 --> 01:07:16,360
Speaker 6: okay with their women dressing like this and being overly sexualized.

1539
01:07:16,640 --> 01:07:19,040
Speaker 6: One thing about black women, they still are gonna overly

1540
01:07:19,080 --> 01:07:22,440
Speaker 6: sexualize themselves, even if they have a lot of money,

1541
01:07:22,480 --> 01:07:24,160
Speaker 6: even if they reach And so they were pulling up

1542
01:07:24,200 --> 01:07:26,880
Speaker 6: the pictures of those girlfriends.

1543
01:07:26,320 --> 01:07:29,000
Speaker 4: Because you want to spice it up.

1544
01:07:29,400 --> 01:07:31,720
Speaker 3: And even when you when you're in a situation or relationship,

1545
01:07:31,800 --> 01:07:35,760
Speaker 3: like you role play, you play games, you like, you know,

1546
01:07:35,920 --> 01:07:39,480
Speaker 3: have some fun and gets so insecure. It's like, loosen

1547
01:07:39,560 --> 01:07:42,040
Speaker 3: up on me, you know what I'm saying. So you

1548
01:07:42,080 --> 01:07:43,600
Speaker 3: want to see her in an element, You want to

1549
01:07:43,640 --> 01:07:46,680
Speaker 3: see her shine and do her thing like yeah, yeah, absolutely,

1550
01:07:46,720 --> 01:07:48,840
Speaker 3: and like you want to be you can do all

1551
01:07:48,840 --> 01:07:51,720
Speaker 3: this other stuff Helen traveling boom boom boom. But you know,

1552
01:07:52,080 --> 01:07:54,560
Speaker 3: sometimes man, you might want to look, you might want

1553
01:07:54,600 --> 01:07:59,439
Speaker 3: a little slow activity. I'm keeping it. I'm like, look,

1554
01:07:59,480 --> 01:08:02,800
Speaker 3: sometimes I want with that gangster shit. I don't want.

1555
01:08:03,920 --> 01:08:05,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I want to.

1556
01:08:05,640 --> 01:08:08,000
Speaker 1: Get a woman and her everybody wants a woman to

1557
01:08:08,000 --> 01:08:10,880
Speaker 1: be in her soft era when you find a woman

1558
01:08:10,920 --> 01:08:14,640
Speaker 1: in her divine energy, it's because she feels sexy and

1559
01:08:14,760 --> 01:08:19,440
Speaker 1: she feels wanted, she feels confident because she feels beautiful.

1560
01:08:19,760 --> 01:08:21,560
Speaker 1: How is she gonna feel all those things. I'm not

1561
01:08:21,600 --> 01:08:23,120
Speaker 1: saying she got to be on the internet showing her

1562
01:08:23,160 --> 01:08:25,760
Speaker 1: ass for that. But if she feels confident in her

1563
01:08:25,800 --> 01:08:27,600
Speaker 1: swim suit and she's having fun with you, when she

1564
01:08:27,600 --> 01:08:28,160
Speaker 1: want to take a.

1565
01:08:28,120 --> 01:08:29,559
Speaker 7: Picture, better her do that.

1566
01:08:30,400 --> 01:08:31,479
Speaker 2: I wonder why it is.

1567
01:08:31,479 --> 01:08:36,080
Speaker 6: Though, that like when people get deeper into a relationship,

1568
01:08:36,120 --> 01:08:39,280
Speaker 6: they want to control a person or change them, because

1569
01:08:39,280 --> 01:08:41,559
Speaker 6: it seems like at the beginning of the relationship they

1570
01:08:41,640 --> 01:08:43,680
Speaker 6: be so cool with who the person is, and they

1571
01:08:43,720 --> 01:08:44,479
Speaker 6: buck with you for that.

1572
01:08:45,560 --> 01:08:47,559
Speaker 1: I have no idea, Like I said, I think that

1573
01:08:47,680 --> 01:08:51,600
Speaker 1: goes with insecurity because I've been in a relationship like

1574
01:08:51,640 --> 01:08:55,559
Speaker 1: that where you remember, I damn near deleted everything off

1575
01:08:55,600 --> 01:08:58,559
Speaker 1: of my Instagram, and I'm realize it wasn't me, it

1576
01:08:58,680 --> 01:08:59,040
Speaker 1: was him.

1577
01:08:59,240 --> 01:09:00,599
Speaker 7: He was controlled and he wanted.

1578
01:09:00,439 --> 01:09:03,599
Speaker 1: To control every aspect of my life because he knew

1579
01:09:04,320 --> 01:09:07,360
Speaker 1: this is what it is though the beginning. No, it

1580
01:09:07,360 --> 01:09:09,439
Speaker 1: wasn't like that at the beginning, But a lot of

1581
01:09:09,479 --> 01:09:14,280
Speaker 1: times men be surprised that they pulled you yes, and

1582
01:09:14,360 --> 01:09:17,639
Speaker 1: let me tell you what it is. Men be surprised

1583
01:09:17,680 --> 01:09:20,000
Speaker 1: that they pulled you and they'd be like, fuck, how

1584
01:09:20,040 --> 01:09:22,479
Speaker 1: did I get this girl? And if I got her,

1585
01:09:23,120 --> 01:09:25,120
Speaker 1: I know it's a nigga that they know, they low

1586
01:09:25,160 --> 01:09:27,719
Speaker 1: key know that they don't deserve you, so they really

1587
01:09:27,720 --> 01:09:30,479
Speaker 1: trying to keep you away from the niggas that they

1588
01:09:30,479 --> 01:09:33,479
Speaker 1: know probably deserve you. So that's why I say it

1589
01:09:33,520 --> 01:09:37,040
Speaker 1: gets down to all of that insecurity, because a real

1590
01:09:37,160 --> 01:09:39,400
Speaker 1: nigga that know he deserves you and treating you right,

1591
01:09:39,800 --> 01:09:44,320
Speaker 1: he gonna be like he gonna be taking food that

1592
01:09:44,479 --> 01:09:47,519
Speaker 1: ship because she right here with me. If you can

1593
01:09:47,560 --> 01:09:49,800
Speaker 1: take her good, good fucking look, that's what a real

1594
01:09:50,080 --> 01:09:52,880
Speaker 1: good look because they know she's not going nowhere. And

1595
01:09:52,880 --> 01:09:55,479
Speaker 1: we as women, when we have a solid man, it

1596
01:09:55,520 --> 01:09:58,639
Speaker 1: don't matter what we got on where we're going home.

1597
01:09:58,560 --> 01:10:00,640
Speaker 2: Because that's no indication of if you going to.

1598
01:10:01,120 --> 01:10:04,000
Speaker 1: Like don't meant nothing, It don't mean nothing. So I

1599
01:10:04,000 --> 01:10:06,400
Speaker 1: do feel like that controlling shit. It's because they know

1600
01:10:06,400 --> 01:10:09,600
Speaker 1: they ain't got no business being with a woman like that.

1601
01:10:09,600 --> 01:10:10,519
Speaker 7: That's all that is.

1602
01:10:10,600 --> 01:10:11,240
Speaker 2: That's a good point.

1603
01:10:11,360 --> 01:10:13,679
Speaker 7: Let me, Ma'm gonna put you all on some game, period.

1604
01:10:13,840 --> 01:10:16,800
Speaker 3: And sometimes you know men be powerless for real in

1605
01:10:16,840 --> 01:10:20,360
Speaker 3: real life. So they want to do this whole power

1606
01:10:20,400 --> 01:10:22,879
Speaker 3: control with a woman. You know what I'm saying. Sometimes

1607
01:10:22,880 --> 01:10:25,120
Speaker 3: you might not be feeling valuable in other areas, whether

1608
01:10:25,200 --> 01:10:28,800
Speaker 3: that's finances, whether that's just appreciation, whether that's whomever you

1609
01:10:28,840 --> 01:10:30,719
Speaker 3: think that you are as a man, and you're showing

1610
01:10:30,760 --> 01:10:32,599
Speaker 3: up in the world and people don't appreciate that thing,

1611
01:10:33,040 --> 01:10:35,960
Speaker 3: and you want to exercise that powerlessness into your relationship

1612
01:10:36,000 --> 01:10:38,479
Speaker 3: with your woman. And then you know you can't do this,

1613
01:10:38,600 --> 01:10:40,679
Speaker 3: You can't do that, take that down all of that shit.

1614
01:10:41,120 --> 01:10:42,840
Speaker 4: Man. Listen, man, go grow up.

1615
01:10:42,880 --> 01:10:45,120
Speaker 2: Man, you know what I mean, Because you can't control

1616
01:10:45,840 --> 01:10:46,760
Speaker 2: It's like this the one thing.

1617
01:10:47,040 --> 01:10:49,920
Speaker 3: It's the one thing that I can control. Beautiful, She's this, that,

1618
01:10:49,960 --> 01:10:51,439
Speaker 3: and the third. And you want to just hold on

1619
01:10:51,520 --> 01:10:53,360
Speaker 3: to that and you tell it when it move, tell

1620
01:10:53,400 --> 01:10:54,760
Speaker 3: it when to sleep, telling when to do this.

1621
01:10:54,800 --> 01:10:56,760
Speaker 4: It's like, yeah, you fear me.

1622
01:10:58,400 --> 01:11:01,320
Speaker 1: I want to go, but I feel I mean, this

1623
01:11:01,479 --> 01:11:03,120
Speaker 1: is true. That's what they be doing.

1624
01:11:03,800 --> 01:11:11,519
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1640
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1644
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1645
01:12:05,479 --> 01:12:09,519
Speaker 1: Okay, So now it's time to get into the about

1646
01:12:09,720 --> 01:12:15,799
Speaker 1: bow Bow Bow.

1647
01:12:16,720 --> 01:12:21,120
Speaker 2: Background, that little.

1648
01:12:21,800 --> 01:12:27,200
Speaker 4: Up that is.

1649
01:12:27,240 --> 01:12:29,360
Speaker 7: Grown as sexy convo today.

1650
01:12:30,439 --> 01:12:34,839
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, So for my bop of the week this week, y'all,

1651
01:12:36,200 --> 01:12:38,840
Speaker 1: I feel like okay, So, first of all, let me

1652
01:12:38,880 --> 01:12:41,639
Speaker 1: say this I went and saw the movie, the One

1653
01:12:41,680 --> 01:12:44,519
Speaker 1: Love Movie, the Bob Marley Movie, and I know a

1654
01:12:44,560 --> 01:12:47,360
Speaker 1: lot of Jamaican people they didn't like it because they

1655
01:12:47,360 --> 01:12:49,639
Speaker 1: didn't they felt like they weren't telling the true story

1656
01:12:49,640 --> 01:12:53,920
Speaker 1: of Bob Marley. But I mean they were showing the

1657
01:12:53,920 --> 01:12:55,920
Speaker 1: the good side, you know. But I feel like the

1658
01:12:55,960 --> 01:12:59,920
Speaker 1: Marley family, that's what they've done. They that's why Bob

1659
01:13:00,080 --> 01:13:03,160
Speaker 1: Marley is like a staple. Like when you go to Jamaica,

1660
01:13:03,520 --> 01:13:06,960
Speaker 1: you think of Bob Marley. There's Bob Marley figurines. Everything

1661
01:13:07,040 --> 01:13:09,519
Speaker 1: is Bob Marley when it comes to Jamaica. But that's

1662
01:13:09,600 --> 01:13:12,160
Speaker 1: because of the things that Rita Marley and the family

1663
01:13:12,200 --> 01:13:15,840
Speaker 1: has done to make sure he was remembered in a pristine,

1664
01:13:16,320 --> 01:13:19,760
Speaker 1: positive image. So a lot of the people who grew

1665
01:13:19,880 --> 01:13:22,280
Speaker 1: up in Jamaica, they felt like they didn't tell, you know,

1666
01:13:22,320 --> 01:13:23,000
Speaker 1: the true story.

1667
01:13:23,680 --> 01:13:25,360
Speaker 7: Anyways, I enjoyed it.

1668
01:13:25,640 --> 01:13:25,960
Speaker 4: Baby.

1669
01:13:26,000 --> 01:13:31,719
Speaker 1: I was walking out the babe, I had a good time,

1670
01:13:31,960 --> 01:13:34,920
Speaker 1: right so I leave. I'm like having my little uh

1671
01:13:35,280 --> 01:13:36,920
Speaker 1: you know, I was playing like the you know, the

1672
01:13:37,040 --> 01:13:39,160
Speaker 1: music and going through because I like to let my

1673
01:13:39,280 --> 01:13:42,360
Speaker 1: music play the introduce me to new things. So my

1674
01:13:42,400 --> 01:13:45,040
Speaker 1: playlist was playing, you know, I love me some decks

1675
01:13:45,040 --> 01:13:47,680
Speaker 1: to that. So I started playing my desk to Dave.

1676
01:13:49,040 --> 01:13:49,519
Speaker 5: Window.

1677
01:13:50,479 --> 01:13:53,439
Speaker 1: Yeah. But anyway, so my clay list was playing, right,

1678
01:13:54,000 --> 01:13:56,560
Speaker 1: So the song comes on and I'm like, bob in

1679
01:13:56,640 --> 01:13:58,920
Speaker 1: my hand. I'm like, damn, this hole is fired. I'm like,

1680
01:13:59,120 --> 01:14:01,120
Speaker 1: who is this y'all. I looked at my phone and

1681
01:14:01,160 --> 01:14:04,680
Speaker 1: it was Jada Kingdom, Okay, And it really surprised me

1682
01:14:04,720 --> 01:14:06,519
Speaker 1: because I'm not gonna lie. I don't judge people. I don't,

1683
01:14:06,520 --> 01:14:08,639
Speaker 1: but I've never you know, stopped and listened to her music.

1684
01:14:08,720 --> 01:14:10,639
Speaker 1: I just because every time I, like, the first time

1685
01:14:10,640 --> 01:14:12,920
Speaker 1: I really really saw her was like in the Balls

1686
01:14:12,920 --> 01:14:15,280
Speaker 1: when she was like arguing with Steph lon Don and

1687
01:14:15,320 --> 01:14:16,639
Speaker 1: all that stuff. So I didn't know what was going

1688
01:14:16,680 --> 01:14:17,839
Speaker 1: on because I couldn't understand.

1689
01:14:18,000 --> 01:14:18,160
Speaker 5: You know.

1690
01:14:18,400 --> 01:14:20,120
Speaker 1: All I know is wa gwan. Yeah, I didn't know

1691
01:14:20,160 --> 01:14:21,120
Speaker 1: what they was talking about.

1692
01:14:21,280 --> 01:14:22,120
Speaker 4: It say, like.

1693
01:14:22,320 --> 01:14:28,040
Speaker 6: Real quick, speaking of Jamaican's my Vinz fred is Jamaki

1694
01:14:28,160 --> 01:14:30,479
Speaker 6: my Vitz free Lynn shout out told and she wanted

1695
01:14:30,479 --> 01:14:31,919
Speaker 6: me to mention her on this episode.

1696
01:14:32,040 --> 01:14:32,400
Speaker 5: Okay.

1697
01:14:32,640 --> 01:14:34,719
Speaker 6: When I told her we was having you on the episode,

1698
01:14:34,760 --> 01:14:37,000
Speaker 6: she said she had the biggest, the biggest crush on

1699
01:14:37,040 --> 01:14:39,160
Speaker 6: you in high school. She was like, make sure I

1700
01:14:39,240 --> 01:14:40,720
Speaker 6: mentioned her, So Helen.

1701
01:14:40,680 --> 01:14:42,759
Speaker 5: Shout out to it was falling up dressed.

1702
01:14:42,760 --> 01:14:46,120
Speaker 6: She like you were sending me all her tweets from

1703
01:14:46,160 --> 01:14:50,200
Speaker 6: like twenty twelve all about acehud Wait.

1704
01:14:53,240 --> 01:14:53,639
Speaker 2: Hailey.

1705
01:14:54,400 --> 01:14:56,240
Speaker 1: So yeah, shout out to lend because when Lynn to

1706
01:14:56,320 --> 01:15:01,320
Speaker 1: getting mad, that pat come out real. So anyways, my

1707
01:15:01,360 --> 01:15:03,439
Speaker 1: bop of the week long story short, my bop of

1708
01:15:03,479 --> 01:15:05,120
Speaker 1: the week because it came up after I saw the

1709
01:15:05,160 --> 01:15:07,720
Speaker 1: movie is Jada Kingdom. It's called What's Up. I guess

1710
01:15:07,760 --> 01:15:10,800
Speaker 1: that's her single that dropping it. She's actually a really

1711
01:15:10,800 --> 01:15:12,840
Speaker 1: dope artist and maybe kind of go in like a

1712
01:15:12,880 --> 01:15:15,120
Speaker 1: little and I was listening to all her stuff. I

1713
01:15:15,160 --> 01:15:18,400
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, I get it, like she she's actually

1714
01:15:18,920 --> 01:15:21,880
Speaker 1: not bad and it's been on repeat. So that's my

1715
01:15:21,960 --> 01:15:24,400
Speaker 1: bop of the week. Jada Kingdom, What's Up?

1716
01:15:24,560 --> 01:15:25,080
Speaker 7: It's abob.

1717
01:15:25,200 --> 01:15:29,240
Speaker 6: I like it, Okay, So my bob is sixteen carriages by.

1718
01:15:29,120 --> 01:15:32,439
Speaker 1: Being loudy yes y'all.

1719
01:15:32,479 --> 01:15:35,720
Speaker 2: First of all, y'all know I'm from Houston. We might be.

1720
01:15:38,080 --> 01:15:46,120
Speaker 6: All gotta strot that out there and it makes it

1721
01:15:46,200 --> 01:15:48,839
Speaker 6: even worse. So I'm from Houston, so it's like Houston

1722
01:15:48,920 --> 01:15:51,240
Speaker 6: born and raised. I grew up on country music. Grew

1723
01:15:51,320 --> 01:15:54,800
Speaker 6: up on everything country. I love sixteen Carriages. I feel

1724
01:15:54,840 --> 01:15:56,600
Speaker 6: like it's a really good song. And I actually had

1725
01:15:56,680 --> 01:15:58,759
Speaker 6: seen somebody's tweet the other day. They was like sixteen

1726
01:15:58,840 --> 01:16:00,800
Speaker 6: Carriages for people who like pray you.

1727
01:16:00,920 --> 01:16:02,320
Speaker 7: Kidch me like you like that?

1728
01:16:02,600 --> 01:16:07,160
Speaker 6: Yeah, I feel like, yeah, I agree, because I feel

1729
01:16:07,200 --> 01:16:08,920
Speaker 6: like they're both acquired tastes.

1730
01:16:09,560 --> 01:16:10,760
Speaker 2: Can I say you might not like.

1731
01:16:10,800 --> 01:16:12,680
Speaker 6: It if you were beyond safe and but if you

1732
01:16:13,160 --> 01:16:14,880
Speaker 6: if you like something a little different when she try

1733
01:16:14,920 --> 01:16:17,080
Speaker 6: to venture out and step outside of her box, you

1734
01:16:17,120 --> 01:16:17,800
Speaker 6: will fuck with it.

1735
01:16:18,280 --> 01:16:20,599
Speaker 7: I like both of the country songs Beyonce released.

1736
01:16:20,720 --> 01:16:22,280
Speaker 2: Can I say you like Texas? Hold Them?

1737
01:16:22,400 --> 01:16:24,280
Speaker 1: I love Texas Hold Them? And you know I'm a

1738
01:16:24,360 --> 01:16:26,920
Speaker 1: country girl. Yeah, you know I grew up on that

1739
01:16:27,080 --> 01:16:31,559
Speaker 1: faith hell Shanna Twain, Okay right. The only thing Beyonce

1740
01:16:31,800 --> 01:16:35,360
Speaker 1: was missing from these songs is she needed that that Twain.

1741
01:16:36,240 --> 01:16:38,519
Speaker 1: So you gotta realize, well, Beyonce first came on the scene,

1742
01:16:38,560 --> 01:16:41,160
Speaker 1: they took that away from her because they were like,

1743
01:16:41,200 --> 01:16:43,240
Speaker 1: you're doing these interviews and you singing and you sound

1744
01:16:43,320 --> 01:16:46,160
Speaker 1: too Texas. So she needed.

1745
01:16:47,439 --> 01:16:49,760
Speaker 7: She don't got that it was sixteen.

1746
01:16:51,000 --> 01:16:53,719
Speaker 1: But that's what I want to hear that Miley Cyrus,

1747
01:16:53,880 --> 01:16:56,920
Speaker 1: but I don't know it's good, but it was sounding.

1748
01:16:57,479 --> 01:17:00,599
Speaker 1: It was sounding a little R and B is write song.

1749
01:17:01,240 --> 01:17:04,080
Speaker 1: I've been I've list literally it's on replay. This is

1750
01:17:04,200 --> 01:17:06,400
Speaker 1: not shade because I'm a Beehive member.

1751
01:17:06,520 --> 01:17:08,640
Speaker 2: But see, I'm here for a little R and B

1752
01:17:08,800 --> 01:17:09,920
Speaker 2: country mixing.

1753
01:17:09,960 --> 01:17:12,479
Speaker 1: I mean it's cool. But like when you listen to

1754
01:17:12,640 --> 01:17:16,280
Speaker 1: like a k Michelle, Michelle does her country music right

1755
01:17:16,560 --> 01:17:21,240
Speaker 1: that it's that Twain I talk about Tanner Odell. Yeah,

1756
01:17:21,960 --> 01:17:24,600
Speaker 1: you know, I love me some buckle Buty that she

1757
01:17:24,720 --> 01:17:27,519
Speaker 1: got that twain. Beyonce just need to bring her twin.

1758
01:17:27,600 --> 01:17:28,040
Speaker 2: It's in there.

1759
01:17:28,720 --> 01:17:29,280
Speaker 7: It's in there.

1760
01:17:29,720 --> 01:17:31,800
Speaker 1: It's deep. They but they've buried it because you know,

1761
01:17:31,840 --> 01:17:33,560
Speaker 1: people used to be to make fun of her, to

1762
01:17:33,640 --> 01:17:35,720
Speaker 1: make her for how she talked. So I think she

1763
01:17:35,840 --> 01:17:37,360
Speaker 1: just needs to bring that twang out.

1764
01:17:38,080 --> 01:17:38,559
Speaker 5: Heextious.

1765
01:17:39,600 --> 01:17:40,639
Speaker 1: I need, That's what I need.

1766
01:17:40,720 --> 01:17:41,360
Speaker 7: I need to hear it.

1767
01:17:41,920 --> 01:17:46,920
Speaker 5: We still got it, we do. So what you been

1768
01:17:46,960 --> 01:17:47,880
Speaker 5: listening to this week?

1769
01:17:48,800 --> 01:17:51,080
Speaker 4: It ain't gonna lie. I've been on that uh afro

1770
01:17:51,240 --> 01:17:52,519
Speaker 4: bat I'm a piano sound.

1771
01:17:52,680 --> 01:17:53,599
Speaker 1: I know that's right.

1772
01:17:53,800 --> 01:17:54,560
Speaker 4: What been on?

1773
01:17:54,880 --> 01:17:57,559
Speaker 3: I traveled up. I was by for like a week

1774
01:17:57,960 --> 01:18:02,000
Speaker 3: a few days ago, and I did I did a record,

1775
01:18:02,240 --> 01:18:04,400
Speaker 3: I'm a piano record, which is phenomenal. I'm excited for

1776
01:18:04,560 --> 01:18:07,760
Speaker 3: the release. But yeah, that's what I've been banging. So

1777
01:18:07,880 --> 01:18:09,720
Speaker 3: one of the artists to the artists, one of them

1778
01:18:09,840 --> 01:18:12,320
Speaker 3: name is Omaha La Dead.

1779
01:18:13,320 --> 01:18:15,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah he is fired.

1780
01:18:15,120 --> 01:18:18,280
Speaker 3: Yeah he's fired. He's fired. So I love listening to

1781
01:18:18,360 --> 01:18:23,840
Speaker 3: that right now. That and r P COASTERA stitch, big

1782
01:18:23,920 --> 01:18:24,400
Speaker 3: flex Si.

1783
01:18:24,640 --> 01:18:25,240
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

1784
01:18:29,120 --> 01:18:33,200
Speaker 8: Times in sex and yeah and the being that being

1785
01:18:33,320 --> 01:18:40,479
Speaker 8: swerve and that ship swinging God.

1786
01:18:40,720 --> 01:18:43,360
Speaker 4: So that's where I'm at right now. That's the clock.

1787
01:18:43,560 --> 01:18:46,840
Speaker 4: I like it. It make me feel happy and I'm

1788
01:18:46,960 --> 01:18:49,800
Speaker 4: excited to explore the space too. Yeah. Yeah, the record

1789
01:18:49,880 --> 01:18:51,200
Speaker 4: is crazy too that we did together.

1790
01:18:51,320 --> 01:18:53,800
Speaker 3: So like it's gonna release soon, man, but it's crazy

1791
01:18:53,800 --> 01:18:55,880
Speaker 3: and I'm excited to just like tap into the space

1792
01:18:55,920 --> 01:18:56,680
Speaker 3: and just see what's going on.

1793
01:18:56,920 --> 01:18:57,120
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1794
01:18:57,640 --> 01:18:59,960
Speaker 1: Afrobethis when I tell you, when you want to get

1795
01:19:00,080 --> 01:19:02,960
Speaker 1: the club jumping. That's why Chris Brown I love it

1796
01:19:05,479 --> 01:19:07,640
Speaker 1: is an accent.

1797
01:19:11,439 --> 01:19:13,439
Speaker 7: But that when you got when you hear that, after

1798
01:19:13,960 --> 01:19:15,400
Speaker 7: you gotta you got an accent.

1799
01:19:15,520 --> 01:19:18,000
Speaker 1: All of a sudden, I wasn't even mad at her

1800
01:19:18,080 --> 01:19:22,880
Speaker 1: I wouldn't that afroas when you feel I'm telling you,

1801
01:19:23,120 --> 01:19:24,880
Speaker 1: I'm excited that that you like that.

1802
01:19:25,439 --> 01:19:28,439
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, me too. My dog's hand, my guy DJ

1803
01:19:28,680 --> 01:19:29,200
Speaker 4: Cash too.

1804
01:19:29,280 --> 01:19:31,559
Speaker 3: It's funny because you know it's funny how spirit worked man,

1805
01:19:31,640 --> 01:19:33,680
Speaker 3: Like he was telling me about it in January, Like

1806
01:19:33,720 --> 01:19:35,800
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, how he shifted and he's

1807
01:19:35,840 --> 01:19:37,880
Speaker 3: really been in the space and for me to go

1808
01:19:38,000 --> 01:19:40,120
Speaker 3: and do the record and for the all playing out

1809
01:19:40,120 --> 01:19:40,599
Speaker 3: how it did.

1810
01:19:40,920 --> 01:19:42,360
Speaker 4: And I just been on that vibe lately.

1811
01:19:42,439 --> 01:19:45,040
Speaker 3: Man, I'm like, yeah, I'm doing I'm just feeling you

1812
01:19:45,120 --> 01:19:48,080
Speaker 3: feel like I wanted to hear that life music man, life,

1813
01:19:48,160 --> 01:19:50,400
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, Like right, trees, green grass,

1814
01:19:51,240 --> 01:19:55,519
Speaker 3: flowers colored, it's about to be summertime. I'm ready ready

1815
01:19:55,880 --> 01:20:00,400
Speaker 3: for summer. Come on, that's what we coming, Okay, tell

1816
01:20:00,439 --> 01:20:02,320
Speaker 3: me that already. We're gonna get it together.

1817
01:20:02,680 --> 01:20:05,120
Speaker 2: Beast is really like that just feel good music like

1818
01:20:05,200 --> 01:20:05,680
Speaker 2: it just make you.

1819
01:20:06,040 --> 01:20:07,880
Speaker 1: I talked what everybody always say, you know what a

1820
01:20:07,880 --> 01:20:10,559
Speaker 1: bitch on vacation? This is the piece that you cannot

1821
01:20:11,640 --> 01:20:13,320
Speaker 1: That's how you know a bitch on vacation.

1822
01:20:14,560 --> 01:20:17,320
Speaker 7: I'm telling you gonna let them know every time Free mind.

1823
01:20:17,600 --> 01:20:22,439
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm telling you they love a good TIMS record.

1824
01:20:22,840 --> 01:20:28,760
Speaker 4: Okay, already, you.

1825
01:20:28,800 --> 01:20:31,519
Speaker 5: Can't bitch is the moment.

1826
01:20:33,720 --> 01:20:36,160
Speaker 1: It is talking about. This is the piece you cannot find.

1827
01:20:36,439 --> 01:20:37,600
Speaker 7: It's run away from you.

1828
01:20:38,880 --> 01:20:44,040
Speaker 6: Talk starts to get into our favorite segment of the show,

1829
01:20:44,439 --> 01:20:46,120
Speaker 6: which is pour your heart out. So you know, if

1830
01:20:46,160 --> 01:20:48,280
Speaker 6: you have any questions, you can always send them to

1831
01:20:48,360 --> 01:20:51,600
Speaker 6: ask for Minds at gmail dot com. That's a s

1832
01:20:51,720 --> 01:20:53,479
Speaker 6: k p O. You are in my n d s

1833
01:20:53,680 --> 01:20:56,760
Speaker 6: at gmail dot com. Send us your questions, send us

1834
01:20:56,880 --> 01:20:59,040
Speaker 6: your testimonials to because we didn't give you all some

1835
01:20:59,080 --> 01:21:04,519
Speaker 6: bad advice. So yes, I need the questions, y'all. Oh

1836
01:21:04,560 --> 01:21:07,519
Speaker 6: they're right there, Thank you toys.

1837
01:21:08,960 --> 01:21:12,880
Speaker 2: Okay, So all right, oh we're gonna have you answer

1838
01:21:12,960 --> 01:21:14,160
Speaker 2: some questions with this afe.

1839
01:21:15,040 --> 01:21:20,160
Speaker 6: Okay, So question number one, Hey, Lex Andrea, love y'all

1840
01:21:20,240 --> 01:21:23,960
Speaker 6: and love watching y'all growth and flourish. Long story short,

1841
01:21:24,040 --> 01:21:26,200
Speaker 6: I'm praying by my baby daddy for the third time.

1842
01:21:26,439 --> 01:21:29,920
Speaker 6: The relationship, in my opinion, has run its course of

1843
01:21:30,800 --> 01:21:34,040
Speaker 6: a lot of them, a lot of trucks lost on

1844
01:21:34,200 --> 01:21:38,000
Speaker 6: both sides, and while compromises can be made, neither one

1845
01:21:38,040 --> 01:21:40,200
Speaker 6: of us wants to feel like we're putting in more

1846
01:21:40,280 --> 01:21:43,280
Speaker 6: effort than the other. My question is should I chalk

1847
01:21:43,360 --> 01:21:45,880
Speaker 6: this up to the game and move on or work

1848
01:21:45,960 --> 01:21:48,800
Speaker 6: things out. It's not like I'm hurting for niggas, but

1849
01:21:48,920 --> 01:21:50,920
Speaker 6: I chose to have a family with this man for

1850
01:21:51,040 --> 01:21:54,640
Speaker 6: a reason. I don't mind letting the holes go. But

1851
01:21:55,000 --> 01:21:58,000
Speaker 6: this needs to be one band, one sound. It's a

1852
01:21:58,040 --> 01:22:00,240
Speaker 6: lot of gaps in this, but I know how y'all

1853
01:22:00,280 --> 01:22:01,439
Speaker 6: feel about long litters.

1854
01:22:01,520 --> 01:22:02,280
Speaker 2: Thanks so much.

1855
01:22:03,840 --> 01:22:07,680
Speaker 1: Talk about you get niggas and you pregnant with your

1856
01:22:07,800 --> 01:22:09,120
Speaker 1: third baby is crazy.

1857
01:22:09,680 --> 01:22:10,080
Speaker 7: One thing.

1858
01:22:10,160 --> 01:22:11,040
Speaker 1: This is how I feel.

1859
01:22:11,120 --> 01:22:11,599
Speaker 7: I'm sorry.

1860
01:22:13,560 --> 01:22:15,599
Speaker 1: If a man ever hit on me and he got

1861
01:22:15,760 --> 01:22:18,960
Speaker 1: three kids by the same lady, go work that out. Yeah,

1862
01:22:19,120 --> 01:22:21,439
Speaker 1: because you fuck with us, you with her? You don't

1863
01:22:21,479 --> 01:22:25,920
Speaker 1: got her pregnant. We trying to figure it out. Oh bitch,

1864
01:22:25,960 --> 01:22:27,200
Speaker 1: y'all done figured it out.

1865
01:22:28,960 --> 01:22:31,400
Speaker 2: And eliminate me. Just take me a teguas.

1866
01:22:31,560 --> 01:22:35,479
Speaker 1: I don't. Yeah, No, that's crazy. Now, I will say this,

1867
01:22:35,640 --> 01:22:39,960
Speaker 1: I'll get I'll give a man one, I get it.

1868
01:22:40,320 --> 01:22:43,080
Speaker 7: You know what I'm saying. People, I'll give you one.

1869
01:22:43,840 --> 01:22:46,960
Speaker 1: But if it's like you had two babies or three

1870
01:22:47,400 --> 01:22:50,519
Speaker 1: kids by this one girl and you I don't fuck

1871
01:22:50,560 --> 01:22:52,360
Speaker 1: with her like that, Oh you fuck with her like that?

1872
01:22:53,080 --> 01:22:55,080
Speaker 1: So I feel like, don't try to make it seem

1873
01:22:55,200 --> 01:22:56,639
Speaker 1: like don't try to make it seem like that. It's

1874
01:22:56,680 --> 01:23:00,320
Speaker 1: something that's holding y'all together. And we did say this earlier.

1875
01:23:00,439 --> 01:23:03,120
Speaker 1: Just because y'all have kids together doesn't mean y'all are

1876
01:23:03,160 --> 01:23:06,240
Speaker 1: meant to be together. But obviously you keep having kids

1877
01:23:06,280 --> 01:23:08,680
Speaker 1: for him, So there's some type of love to a

1878
01:23:08,800 --> 01:23:09,519
Speaker 1: certain extent.

1879
01:23:09,920 --> 01:23:11,920
Speaker 2: Because she says she's pregnant, right, Yeah, she said she

1880
01:23:12,040 --> 01:23:12,519
Speaker 2: was pregnant.

1881
01:23:13,560 --> 01:23:14,439
Speaker 1: What do you think about that?

1882
01:23:14,840 --> 01:23:32,080
Speaker 3: I meant, right now, I do want to say you

1883
01:23:32,160 --> 01:23:32,760
Speaker 3: deserve better.

1884
01:23:33,200 --> 01:23:34,719
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, you deserve better.

1885
01:23:35,800 --> 01:23:37,600
Speaker 1: And I do feel like that though, because it's like,

1886
01:23:37,680 --> 01:23:39,679
Speaker 1: if you were pregnant with somebody's child and you're trying

1887
01:23:39,680 --> 01:23:41,280
Speaker 1: to figure out if you want to move on, why

1888
01:23:41,320 --> 01:23:42,439
Speaker 1: would you get pregnant again?

1889
01:23:43,320 --> 01:23:43,519
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1890
01:23:43,880 --> 01:23:46,960
Speaker 1: I agree, you should not when you're pregnant. You should

1891
01:23:46,960 --> 01:23:50,519
Speaker 1: be enjoying and be like, this is like, oh my god,

1892
01:23:50,560 --> 01:23:52,800
Speaker 1: we're bringing another life into this world. You're supposed to

1893
01:23:52,800 --> 01:23:57,080
Speaker 1: be enjoying your pregnant right into two bitches, bo ain't

1894
01:23:57,080 --> 01:24:00,680
Speaker 1: got kids, asking us ibody's a child. I can't help you.

1895
01:24:00,720 --> 01:24:01,799
Speaker 1: I don't pop up babies.

1896
01:24:01,840 --> 01:24:04,599
Speaker 7: But these niggles save yourself, you know what I'm saying.

1897
01:24:04,800 --> 01:24:08,040
Speaker 1: So good luck to you. But I would say, figure out,

1898
01:24:09,080 --> 01:24:12,320
Speaker 1: figure something out. Maybe they therapy, tap tap tap yeah

1899
01:24:12,520 --> 01:24:13,559
Speaker 1: yeah yeah yeah yeah.

1900
01:24:14,120 --> 01:24:17,360
Speaker 3: Well, well you gotta agree. You know it takes two,

1901
01:24:17,560 --> 01:24:19,519
Speaker 3: takes two, It takes two. You know you need consent

1902
01:24:19,600 --> 01:24:20,400
Speaker 3: from both parties.

1903
01:24:20,479 --> 01:24:21,120
Speaker 1: So let's say that.

1904
01:24:21,280 --> 01:24:23,840
Speaker 7: We'll give them that advice. Y'all should try some type

1905
01:24:23,880 --> 01:24:24,400
Speaker 7: of therapy.

1906
01:24:24,560 --> 01:24:28,320
Speaker 1: Definitely try to figure it out. They both be open,

1907
01:24:28,400 --> 01:24:29,320
Speaker 1: they need to both be open.

1908
01:24:29,400 --> 01:24:32,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, but you're on the kids. Yeah, that's the third one.

1909
01:24:33,040 --> 01:24:33,439
Speaker 4: I'm saying.

1910
01:24:33,760 --> 01:24:35,639
Speaker 3: You don't make too many like you know what I'm saying.

1911
01:24:36,040 --> 01:24:39,919
Speaker 3: I mean, great choices. Yeah yeah yeah, to be unsure.

1912
01:24:40,320 --> 01:24:40,519
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1913
01:24:41,760 --> 01:24:44,160
Speaker 1: Question number two, I just want to say I absolutely

1914
01:24:44,479 --> 01:24:47,320
Speaker 1: love you lovely ladies, but I need some advice. I'm

1915
01:24:47,360 --> 01:24:49,680
Speaker 1: a twenty eight year old female and I've been with

1916
01:24:49,800 --> 01:24:53,519
Speaker 1: my child's father for eleven years. I love him dearly,

1917
01:24:53,640 --> 01:24:56,120
Speaker 1: but I'm no longer interested in having sex with him.

1918
01:24:56,520 --> 01:24:58,840
Speaker 1: No matter how many toys I use, no matter how

1919
01:24:58,920 --> 01:25:02,559
Speaker 1: much four play we have, I still end up drying up.

1920
01:25:03,040 --> 01:25:05,760
Speaker 1: He stated that he doesn't know my body, but I

1921
01:25:05,800 --> 01:25:08,240
Speaker 1: feel like, after so long, how do you still not

1922
01:25:08,439 --> 01:25:11,600
Speaker 1: know my body? I know how to make him come instantly,

1923
01:25:11,840 --> 01:25:14,320
Speaker 1: but when it comes to me, he doesn't know. No

1924
01:25:14,439 --> 01:25:17,759
Speaker 1: matter how much I teach him, it still sucks. Everything

1925
01:25:17,800 --> 01:25:21,400
Speaker 1: about the sex is horrible. It's been eleven years. He's

1926
01:25:21,439 --> 01:25:24,160
Speaker 1: a good man and a fabulous father, but I'm not

1927
01:25:24,439 --> 01:25:27,439
Speaker 1: sure how much more of this bad sex I can take.

1928
01:25:28,000 --> 01:25:30,320
Speaker 7: Ps I love you, ladies, or we.

1929
01:25:30,360 --> 01:25:34,280
Speaker 2: Love you too, but the fuck eleven years a bad sex.

1930
01:25:36,080 --> 01:25:39,519
Speaker 1: Earlier eleven you're not getting eleven days out of meat.

1931
01:25:41,760 --> 01:25:44,320
Speaker 1: But that's a long time.

1932
01:25:44,360 --> 01:25:47,120
Speaker 6: And especially considering that you said you've done the work

1933
01:25:47,240 --> 01:25:49,439
Speaker 6: to figure out what he likes and you try to

1934
01:25:49,479 --> 01:25:52,519
Speaker 6: please him. I just feel like that's very inconsiderate that

1935
01:25:52,600 --> 01:25:54,560
Speaker 6: he han't tried to figure out what you like and

1936
01:25:54,680 --> 01:25:57,760
Speaker 6: go to great lengths to make sure that you're satisfied. Yeah,

1937
01:25:58,080 --> 01:25:59,560
Speaker 6: I feel like a man, a man that does not

1938
01:25:59,680 --> 01:26:01,599
Speaker 6: try to make sure that you're satisfied in the bed.

1939
01:26:01,680 --> 01:26:02,680
Speaker 2: He don't really care about you.

1940
01:26:02,840 --> 01:26:04,680
Speaker 1: But I don't even know if that's the case of her.

1941
01:26:04,760 --> 01:26:08,120
Speaker 1: Remember what we talked about earlier, the chakras. Maybe something

1942
01:26:08,240 --> 01:26:13,559
Speaker 1: is blocked off and it's not the Whitney. Yeah, maybe

1943
01:26:13,640 --> 01:26:17,519
Speaker 1: something is not connecting her because he could be trying chakra.

1944
01:26:17,760 --> 01:26:20,120
Speaker 1: I don't know, chap get a little too deep for

1945
01:26:20,280 --> 01:26:21,680
Speaker 1: me because my.

1946
01:26:21,800 --> 01:26:22,800
Speaker 7: Chakra wide open.

1947
01:26:28,840 --> 01:26:32,240
Speaker 1: But I do think that if he is trying, because

1948
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Speaker 1: I'm going to say the opposite of you, because I

1949
01:26:34,320 --> 01:26:36,320
Speaker 1: feel like you've been with somebody for eleven years, they

1950
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Speaker 1: should be trying. I think if you're telling him what's wrong.

1951
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Speaker 1: So if he is trying and it's the effort is

1952
01:26:42,800 --> 01:26:46,160
Speaker 1: still not working, something may be blocking you mentally. I

1953
01:26:46,280 --> 01:26:48,920
Speaker 1: say this all the time. Sex with women is a

1954
01:26:49,000 --> 01:26:53,080
Speaker 1: lot more mental than we would like to admit. So

1955
01:26:53,360 --> 01:26:56,280
Speaker 1: something has happening with you mentally that you're just completely

1956
01:26:56,360 --> 01:26:59,000
Speaker 1: checked out. Because you know what, if my man was trying,

1957
01:26:59,520 --> 01:27:02,080
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna that would turn me on to see

1958
01:27:02,160 --> 01:27:04,800
Speaker 1: him making an effort that he trying to and that

1959
01:27:04,880 --> 01:27:06,000
Speaker 1: that instilled a sahara.

1960
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Speaker 7: It's something It might be.

1961
01:27:08,240 --> 01:27:13,360
Speaker 1: It might be you that little countability, a little accountability.

1962
01:27:12,640 --> 01:27:13,679
Speaker 5: Might go a long way.

1963
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Speaker 1: What advice because eleven.

1964
01:27:15,200 --> 01:27:16,120
Speaker 7: Years is a long time.

1965
01:27:16,360 --> 01:27:19,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, so some keeping her there? You know what I'm saying.

1966
01:27:19,800 --> 01:27:23,000
Speaker 3: It's crazy, eleven years of bad sex is terrible. But

1967
01:27:23,360 --> 01:27:28,280
Speaker 3: maybe they could do something to prioritize or to stimulate

1968
01:27:28,360 --> 01:27:30,519
Speaker 3: the moment. You know what I'm saying, create the you know,

1969
01:27:30,600 --> 01:27:33,439
Speaker 3: maybe it's creating the environment or the landscape. You know,

1970
01:27:33,560 --> 01:27:37,280
Speaker 3: there's things that you can try. You know what I'm saying. Uh,

1971
01:27:37,680 --> 01:27:40,519
Speaker 3: you know again, that could be that can be intimate

1972
01:27:40,840 --> 01:27:43,719
Speaker 3: as opposed to just sexual. That can just be solely touching.

1973
01:27:44,120 --> 01:27:45,760
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, Let's get more familiar with

1974
01:27:45,880 --> 01:27:48,280
Speaker 3: each other's body. That's actually where I start at. It's

1975
01:27:48,320 --> 01:27:50,679
Speaker 3: just getting more familiar with the body. So everything ain't sex.

1976
01:27:50,760 --> 01:27:54,200
Speaker 3: So sometimes it's just like touching. It's just rubbing. It

1977
01:27:54,280 --> 01:27:56,840
Speaker 3: might be massaging, it might be stretching, you know what

1978
01:27:56,880 --> 01:27:59,960
Speaker 3: I'm saying. But just get more familiar with the body.

1979
01:28:00,040 --> 01:28:02,400
Speaker 3: You do touches and feel certain places and you get

1980
01:28:02,439 --> 01:28:05,920
Speaker 3: certain reactions and you start to learn, I'm fascinated with it.

1981
01:28:06,040 --> 01:28:07,800
Speaker 4: So like you know, I have alas.

1982
01:28:09,479 --> 01:28:10,840
Speaker 1: But I do but that is true.

1983
01:28:10,960 --> 01:28:13,479
Speaker 2: But no, seriously, you have to the person's body, and

1984
01:28:13,560 --> 01:28:13,800
Speaker 2: then you.

1985
01:28:13,840 --> 01:28:16,200
Speaker 1: Have to say things out of the bedroom. Sometimes the

1986
01:28:16,400 --> 01:28:19,120
Speaker 1: things that will turn you on will surprise you. You know,

1987
01:28:19,320 --> 01:28:21,519
Speaker 1: like maybe y'all might need a date night, you know

1988
01:28:21,560 --> 01:28:24,360
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Maybe y'all might need to just get outside.

1989
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Speaker 7: It's been eleven years.

1990
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Speaker 6: You know.

1991
01:28:26,560 --> 01:28:29,200
Speaker 1: I think that a lot of times you get comfortable.

1992
01:28:29,360 --> 01:28:32,439
Speaker 1: And I was in my last situation for seven years,

1993
01:28:32,479 --> 01:28:34,599
Speaker 1: so I get it. But one thing about me, I'm

1994
01:28:34,600 --> 01:28:36,640
Speaker 1: gonna keep it spicy in that bedroom now. But I

1995
01:28:36,720 --> 01:28:39,040
Speaker 1: feel like it's because, like you said, we have to

1996
01:28:39,080 --> 01:28:43,600
Speaker 1: do different things. Sometimes it's not all about the actual intercourse.

1997
01:28:43,920 --> 01:28:45,720
Speaker 7: It's about the things that lead up to that.

1998
01:28:46,080 --> 01:28:46,639
Speaker 4: That's the fact.

1999
01:28:46,720 --> 01:28:49,360
Speaker 7: So you know, try to think outside the boxes. Maybe

2000
01:28:49,400 --> 01:28:52,599
Speaker 7: the things that you think turn you on, they probably

2001
01:28:52,600 --> 01:28:53,799
Speaker 7: don't turn you on anymore.

2002
01:28:53,920 --> 01:28:56,519
Speaker 1: Because the things that turn me on at twenty four

2003
01:28:57,120 --> 01:28:58,519
Speaker 1: don't turn me on at thirty four.

2004
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Speaker 6: So you know, maybe y'all can work it out and

2005
01:29:02,400 --> 01:29:04,479
Speaker 6: maybe just figure out your own body too. I feel

2006
01:29:04,479 --> 01:29:06,080
Speaker 6: like you have to know what you like in order

2007
01:29:06,200 --> 01:29:07,960
Speaker 6: to want somebody else to know what you like.

2008
01:29:08,000 --> 01:29:10,920
Speaker 1: Because if he's trying and it's still like working, maybe.

2009
01:29:12,080 --> 01:29:13,720
Speaker 5: Yeah, good luck.

2010
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Speaker 1: Hopefully y'all make it to year twelve. Looks like they are, okay,

2011
01:29:21,640 --> 01:29:24,519
Speaker 1: So let us know where we can find you. Everything

2012
01:29:24,600 --> 01:29:26,160
Speaker 1: that you got coming up and all.

2013
01:29:26,040 --> 01:29:26,679
Speaker 4: That good stuff.

2014
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Speaker 3: Uh ace hood all, text, Facebook, Instagram, uh YouTube, at

2015
01:29:32,560 --> 01:29:37,000
Speaker 3: ace Hood, my fitness and health and wellness brand, is

2016
01:29:37,760 --> 01:29:40,679
Speaker 3: a hashtags shreddit dot com. You know what I'm saying.

2017
01:29:40,720 --> 01:29:44,360
Speaker 3: You can log onto there too as well. Uh but yeah,

2018
01:29:44,400 --> 01:29:45,320
Speaker 3: those are all my handles.

2019
01:29:45,640 --> 01:29:47,760
Speaker 7: Let me go to shreddit dot com because you see me.

2020
01:29:47,800 --> 01:29:54,240
Speaker 4: I'll got a little good see pistol, a little pistol.

2021
01:29:54,680 --> 01:29:57,120
Speaker 1: Well, I have fun today. Thank you, this is a

2022
01:29:57,200 --> 01:29:59,479
Speaker 1: great so much for joining us. And I know we

2023
01:29:59,560 --> 01:30:01,400
Speaker 1: got the care yokey on the way and we'll see

2024
01:30:01,439 --> 01:30:05,960
Speaker 1: y'all next week. Are y'all y'all already we finish set

2025
01:30:06,000 --> 01:30:09,680
Speaker 1: the vibe in this motherfucker. I know that's right.

2026
01:30:10,400 --> 01:30:13,320
Speaker 4: Everybody, Just ride back and for yo.

2027
01:30:16,439 --> 01:30:22,000
Speaker 1: You all ready. Every time I see you, I get

2028
01:30:22,160 --> 01:30:31,920
Speaker 1: a bath pun just thinking somewhere else in between your

2029
01:30:32,320 --> 01:30:36,280
Speaker 1: te mm hmmmm.

2030
01:30:37,040 --> 01:30:41,240
Speaker 5: And you thought you were sleep and tricks up your sleep.

2031
01:30:45,720 --> 01:30:48,320
Speaker 1: Put them sick of your stupid acc and I know

2032
01:30:48,520 --> 01:30:52,080
Speaker 1: your tide of me. You gotta say.

2033
01:30:53,600 --> 01:30:54,599
Speaker 7: This's why I say.

2034
01:30:55,000 --> 01:30:56,280
Speaker 4: When we were.

2035
01:30:56,360 --> 01:31:02,160
Speaker 1: Together, we never turn our backs on each other. Oh

2036
01:31:02,439 --> 01:31:03,640
Speaker 1: but now but.

2037
01:31:03,920 --> 01:31:09,800
Speaker 8: Now that we separated, we can't stand on another.

2038
01:31:12,439 --> 01:31:13,840
Speaker 4: I don't want to be with you.

2039
01:31:14,320 --> 01:31:23,960
Speaker 1: Put down everything. I can't believe I stayed around.

2040
01:31:23,760 --> 01:31:30,680
Speaker 5: That damn long he was mad. If I seed you

2041
01:31:30,680 --> 01:31:31,719
Speaker 5: will see you again.

2042
01:31:32,040 --> 01:31:33,599
Speaker 1: Don't be mad at.

2043
01:31:33,760 --> 01:31:43,519
Speaker 4: All, you bettern'most a minute, do my die fall.

2044
01:31:45,120 --> 01:31:47,720
Speaker 5: You didn't be wrong, You don't be wrong.

2045
01:31:47,880 --> 01:31:48,920
Speaker 4: You didn't be wrong.

2046
01:31:50,640 --> 01:31:53,880
Speaker 5: You word you there now that life.

2047
01:31:53,960 --> 01:31:56,400
Speaker 4: But now I'm so throughing you.

2048
01:31:57,880 --> 01:32:02,160
Speaker 5: I wanted you to be there righting.

2049
01:32:03,479 --> 01:32:03,519
Speaker 6: Me.

2050
01:32:06,360 --> 01:32:11,639
Speaker 5: When we together, we never turn our bags on each other.

2051
01:32:12,760 --> 01:32:18,920
Speaker 8: Oh but out and now that we separated, we can't

2052
01:32:19,040 --> 01:32:20,559
Speaker 8: stand on another.

2053
01:32:21,320 --> 01:32:23,040
Speaker 1: I can't stand your ask.

2054
01:32:23,880 --> 01:32:26,120
Speaker 7: I can't stand your gass nick.

2055
01:32:26,160 --> 01:32:27,919
Speaker 5: I'm gonna put you one blast.

2056
01:32:28,520 --> 01:32:32,720
Speaker 1: Honey, carry it, give it a Facehold God, damn in

2057
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Speaker 1: the honeys to get the like