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Speaker 2: Your first brand new episode of twenty six starts right now.
Speaker 4: When Brooke drives across the bridge from her home to
Speaker 4: work every morning, she considers her relationship officially long distance.
Speaker 4: Anything just from that point, different bros and different area codes.
Speaker 4: Am I right Brook?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 4: Lachris motto, that's Brook's way. Well, one of our listeners
Speaker 4: hopes that's not the case with his long distance partner, Caes.
Speaker 1: He go over two bridges.
Speaker 4: Oh no, maybe more And something has definitely changed in
Speaker 4: the last month. So we're going to try to help
Speaker 4: him get to the bottom of it in a special
Speaker 4: awkward Thursday phone call. Lovely, we'll do it next. It's awkward,
Speaker 4: it's Thursday. It's awkward Thursday phone call. It's only the
Speaker 4: highest quality. Yeah, And Teddy Roosevelts, the twenty sixth President
Speaker 4: of the United States and part time dating coach, once said,
Speaker 4: never knew that he was. He said, a healthy relationship
Speaker 4: is like a well run costco.
Speaker 1: The costco is, Yeah, you.
Speaker 4: Gotta have clear rules, members only, and if you behave right,
Speaker 4: they might let you sample the goods.
Speaker 2: I learned history on the show wows.
Speaker 4: But just like at Costco, all it takes is one
Speaker 4: tiny issue in your relationship. One gallon tub of mayo
Speaker 4: knocked off onto the floor, one receipt dropped at the
Speaker 4: hot dog food court before checkout, and next thing you know,
Speaker 4: they're calling managers. Suddenly you can't leave and the whole
Speaker 4: store is thrown into chaos. Oh, and nobody wants their
Speaker 4: relationship to be a chaotic receiptless costco go right, I.
Speaker 1: Mean, they won't let you out without the receipt. So
Speaker 1: I get what you're saying. That recep.
Speaker 4: Teddy Roosevelt jail so wise and that's why our listener,
Speaker 4: Coop has emailed us for help. Cooper, is that how
Speaker 4: you're feeling? Does that analogy work to describe your relationship?
Speaker 7: Uh?
Speaker 8: You know, it was very specific, and I.
Speaker 2: Appreciate It's like, I'm trying to figure out what it means.
Speaker 3: Yeah, spend some time on you and that's all.
Speaker 2: Yes.
Speaker 4: The bottom line is it sounds like there's an issue
Speaker 4: in your relationship and you're worried about it.
Speaker 8: That's true.
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, all right, So let's get into the details
Speaker 4: about that. Tell us what's going on.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so my girlfriend and I we've been together about.
Speaker 8: A year and a half.
Speaker 4: Okay, what's her name?
Speaker 8: Her name is Danelle.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 2: That's always like an important time period for a relationship,
Speaker 2: like a year and.
Speaker 1: A half, it is like, are we really doing this
Speaker 1: or is that fun?
Speaker 3: Your mark is big, and an year and a half
Speaker 3: you're like, we're.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay.
Speaker 5: So that's kind of how I felt about the year
Speaker 5: for sure, okay. And I felt like we were in
Speaker 5: a really good place, in a good enough place that
Speaker 5: when I saw a job opportunity come up that was
Speaker 5: in a different city, I thought that we could take it.
Speaker 5: And we've been doing long distance for this back half
Speaker 5: of our relationship to.
Speaker 3: Move with you. You moved and you're doing long distance.
Speaker 8: That's exactly right. No, we weren't there yet.
Speaker 1: Okay, I like temporary long distance or forever long distance.
Speaker 1: They don't know.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I'm hoping it's not forever, Like this
Speaker 5: was supposed to sort of be a transition period.
Speaker 1: Okay, I assume since you're still together. She was on
Speaker 1: board initially.
Speaker 5: Absolutely, and everything was going pretty well except for as
Speaker 5: of recently, just like the last couple of weeks, she's
Speaker 5: been acting different, I guess.
Speaker 4: Okay, different mean different.
Speaker 8: So she used to like, I mean, I don't sound bad,
Speaker 8: but like she's a check off on me, like.
Speaker 1: All the time, like via text or calls or whatever.
Speaker 9: Yeah, and like checking up on where I was, what
Speaker 9: I was doing, who I'm with. And then like it
Speaker 9: was like a switch flicked and now she hardly does
Speaker 9: it at all, and I kind of like I miss
Speaker 9: those check ins.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's nice to have a girl nagging you all
Speaker 4: the time. I don't trust you. Tell me what's going on.
Speaker 3: She's thinking about you every couple hours, you get, Hey,
Speaker 3: what you doing?
Speaker 1: You felt connected?
Speaker 4: Yeah, do a scan of the room right now and
Speaker 4: let me know there's no other women there.
Speaker 1: I don't think that's what he means.
Speaker 4: It's romantic.
Speaker 7: I think that was a part of it, for sure.
Speaker 8: It was some insecurity for sure.
Speaker 4: That you mean stopped because that's a good time.
Speaker 1: Has she been going to therapy and the therapy is working.
Speaker 4: Don't joke like that about his girlfriend broke? Come on,
Speaker 4: it's funny when I say it, but when you're doing
Speaker 4: it's too far. Okay, So you're saying that that change,
Speaker 4: that shift in her behavior started happening a couple of
Speaker 4: weeks ago. What's going through your mind now, like where
Speaker 4: are you at?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm wondering, like to what's going on or like
Speaker 5: the anxiety of it all. My worst fear is that
Speaker 5: there's like some other guys who's trying to step in
Speaker 5: and it's taking her focus.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, your girlfriend was jealous.
Speaker 2: Now she's not jealous, So now you're jealous that maybe
Speaker 2: something's going on with her.
Speaker 3: That's called a toxic relationship.
Speaker 8: That something's off is all?
Speaker 4: Something's off off?
Speaker 3: Did you know her more than anybody? So you feel a.
Speaker 1: Shift and so you haven't talked to her about this
Speaker 1: at all.
Speaker 8: I've tried.
Speaker 5: I mean I've tried to sort of like subtenly make
Speaker 5: that suggestion that something has changed. But I feel like
Speaker 5: I've not managed to gross the topic. And that's sort
Speaker 5: of why I'm.
Speaker 2: Here with you guys, because how can you say, why
Speaker 2: aren't you worried?
Speaker 1: I'm with other women?
Speaker 3: Yeah, and just saying everything Okay, it's too generic.
Speaker 4: The other way we used to have such a lack
Speaker 4: of trust.
Speaker 9: Well, I thought you guys.
Speaker 5: Could help me sort of like sort of do a
Speaker 5: harder push to open up and tell me like what's
Speaker 5: really going on?
Speaker 4: Okay, you need your girlfriend to really open up, and
Speaker 4: you're hoping that we the advice to make her do that.
Speaker 8: Clearly what I'm doing isn't working. So yeah, okay.
Speaker 2: And okill that Like you want to know if she's
Speaker 2: seen someone else?
Speaker 1: It sounds like do.
Speaker 4: You not want him to find that out if he's talking.
Speaker 2: The other I mean, my advice is different, So I
Speaker 2: need to know, like what's our angle here?
Speaker 1: Is it just what changed? Or is it other people?
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a cheating investigation. Yes, okay, what change?
Speaker 3: And why are you cheating on me?
Speaker 5: Accusation? I mean, I certainly hope she's not seeing other people,
Speaker 5: but I missed her possessiveness.
Speaker 7: I like that.
Speaker 1: We're just saying it out loud sentence.
Speaker 4: That's super clear. Now, okay, we'll come back. We will
Speaker 4: give you our advice and help you call your long
Speaker 4: distance girlfriend to find out why she's not being more
Speaker 4: clingy and more possessive over years.
Speaker 3: Whose phone is this?
Speaker 4: And we'll do it in your special awkward Thursday phone
Speaker 4: right after this.
Speaker 6: It's awkward.
Speaker 4: It's Thursday.
Speaker 3: It's awkward.
Speaker 4: Third, why can't women be more possessive and untrusting of
Speaker 4: their long distance boyfriends?
Speaker 3: So many girls are like preachable.
Speaker 4: I've always thought this. If they were more controlling, then
Speaker 4: we wouldn't even need to help. Our listener, Cooper today
Speaker 4: with his long distance lady Janelle, not.
Speaker 1: Believe this is what he's asking for, but it's.
Speaker 4: True because in the last few weeks, he says, Danelle
Speaker 4: has not been as possessive over him as before.
Speaker 1: Those are like not at all.
Speaker 4: Those are his words, not ours, And it feels weird
Speaker 4: to him because usually she's always checking in, like where
Speaker 4: are you, who are you with? Prove it to me,
Speaker 4: and that has not been the case as much anymore.
Speaker 1: Hold up a newspaper, show me the date.
Speaker 4: So naturally he's worried about it and concerned that maybe
Speaker 4: she could be interested in somebody else.
Speaker 2: I mean, I will say a shift in behavior at
Speaker 2: any in any way in a relationship can indicate.
Speaker 4: That, yeah, people need to stay the same forever. Is
Speaker 4: a good point, Broke.
Speaker 3: It's a drastic shift.
Speaker 4: The bottom line is long distance stuff is hard, and
Speaker 4: so we need to help him fix it. How do
Speaker 4: we do that, Brook, what's your advice?
Speaker 1: I think you smoke her out?
Speaker 2: Okay, no, not like that, like you know, like someone
Speaker 2: in a hole and you smoke may anyway, maybe use
Speaker 2: use the wrong analogy. Yes, Teddy Roosevelt, do the metaphors,
Speaker 2: but you scare her right like you, I'm serious. You
Speaker 2: bring up whatever it is to you that would bring
Speaker 2: your relationship to the next level. Maybe it's her moving
Speaker 2: to the town you're living in, or an engagement or
Speaker 2: getting an apartment.
Speaker 1: Together, because that shift in a relationship. If she is cheating,
Speaker 1: she'll back off like I can't do that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, smart?
Speaker 4: Does that advice make sense to you, Cooper or you
Speaker 4: as confused design?
Speaker 5: I kind of hear that, but I'm scared that if
Speaker 5: I do that, she'll lead into that because I'm definitely
Speaker 5: I don't know that. I'm like, oh, ready.
Speaker 3: Accidentally is getting married.
Speaker 1: I thought you were ready for her to like, Okay, he's.
Speaker 4: Trying to figure out where they're at in their relationship.
Speaker 4: Jose what's your advice?
Speaker 3: Bro? You just say, you know, what's funny living in
Speaker 3: a different city, especially the guys. They're way uglier here
Speaker 3: than the guys back at home. You're probably tempted, right right,
Speaker 3: then laugh and tell her I'm just kidding, But see
Speaker 3: what she says.
Speaker 4: Okay, you're trying to see if she's actually interested and
Speaker 4: they need the cute guys back home. She may say,
Speaker 4: how did you know framing it like a joke, Cooper,
Speaker 4: Do you see that emphasizes a joke.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I kind of see what you're saying. Maybe it's
Speaker 8: a good way to just like break the ice.
Speaker 4: I guess it. Yeah, I guess that's a different way
Speaker 4: to smoke her out.
Speaker 2: As Brooke would say, again, not what you think, Jose
Speaker 2: so funny.
Speaker 4: Anyway, we are going to call your girlfriend Nanell here.
Speaker 4: Do you feel ready? You feel prepared with the advice
Speaker 4: that we gave you, Cooper.
Speaker 8: I mean, it isn't going to be easy, but yeah,
Speaker 8: I mean I'm here to do bath.
Speaker 3: Okay, good luck, brother.
Speaker 4: We got your back. Whatever happens, I'm gonna dial it
Speaker 4: right now and let you call your girlfriend. Good luck.
Speaker 6: Hello. Hey, uh no, hey, hey, what what's up? What
Speaker 6: are you doing?
Speaker 7: Uh?
Speaker 8: I'm here calling you?
Speaker 6: Okay, I mean I know I'm at work right now.
Speaker 8: Oh yeah, no, I know. I just I wanted to
Speaker 8: connect with you. I I had this funny thought.
Speaker 6: Okay.
Speaker 7: You know the people in the city where I'm at now,
Speaker 7: especially the guys, they are a lot uglier than back home.
Speaker 7: What just you You must be tempted all the time
Speaker 7: with the guys in our back home, right, what are.
Speaker 8: You talking about?
Speaker 6: I'm sorry? What are you talking about?
Speaker 8: I'm sorry? I thought it would be a fun way
Speaker 8: to like to jump into like a harder topic.
Speaker 6: I mean, okay, I don't know. What do you want
Speaker 6: to talk? I'm fine? What do you want to talk about?
Speaker 8: Yeah?
Speaker 5: No, I just feel like, uh, like things between us
Speaker 5: that been feeling.
Speaker 8: A little different lately, and I don't know why.
Speaker 5: I just wanted to like to say, before anything else happens,
Speaker 5: like I don't want them to be different.
Speaker 8: Really yeah, really, so why do you sound like that?
Speaker 8: It's like you don't trust me. You're like you're thinking
Speaker 8: about somebody else or something.
Speaker 6: Okay, you know what, I didn't really want to do
Speaker 6: this right now, but I do think we just need
Speaker 6: to be honest. We see each other and say what's
Speaker 6: happening exactly?
Speaker 8: Yes? No, thank you?
Speaker 2: What? So?
Speaker 7: Like?
Speaker 8: What is happening?
Speaker 6: Here's what's happening. A few weeks ago, I was trying
Speaker 6: to call you in you weren't answering, okay, and you
Speaker 6: know we share a location with each other, so I
Speaker 6: knew you weren't at the apartment.
Speaker 8: I know we yoh no, we alread talked about this.
Speaker 8: I was at my coworker's place. It's Corey, you remember,
Speaker 8: mm hmm, I remember.
Speaker 6: And that's why I found Corey's email at your work
Speaker 6: and I sent him a message asking if you were there,
Speaker 6: and he answered me the next day and said, no,
Speaker 6: you weren't.
Speaker 8: Oh what sorry? Why would you email him without asking me?
Speaker 6: That's that's what that's your response. You don't think a
Speaker 6: better question? Why would you lie to me?
Speaker 8: Okay? I don't know why Corey's not telling you the truth.
Speaker 6: You're the one not telling you the truth? You like,
Speaker 6: have you been with someone else?
Speaker 8: No? I mean double not anymore?
Speaker 3: What happened? No more?
Speaker 6: What is happening? Why are there other people on this line?
Speaker 4: Was cheating?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Danell?
Speaker 4: Hey, you're on the radio right now with a show
Speaker 4: called Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. This is called
Speaker 4: an awkward Tuesday phone awkward Thursday phone call.
Speaker 3: Good morning, Cooper.
Speaker 6: What the hell are you doing calling a radio station
Speaker 6: about this exactly?
Speaker 4: Why would you ask for her help?
Speaker 8: What are you doing checking my location and invading my
Speaker 8: personal faith.
Speaker 4: That you said she wasn't possessive enough.
Speaker 3: I told you they were talking.
Speaker 1: You have a girl who tracks you that thought you.
Speaker 3: Could get away with cheating.
Speaker 1: Did you cheat, Cooper?
Speaker 9: It wasn't like that.
Speaker 8: It was just a one time.
Speaker 5: There was a one time day. That is, Cory did
Speaker 5: lie to her. I was with him.
Speaker 6: So you cheated with though you were with the guy.
Speaker 6: Is that what you were saying?
Speaker 5: Yes, one time, that's it was. It's never gonna happen again.
Speaker 2: Okay with your coworker, Corey.
Speaker 8: I don't like that term cheating. Okay, we were experimenting.
Speaker 4: But didn't you say at the start of this the
Speaker 4: guys in your new town aren't as hot as the
Speaker 4: guys in your.
Speaker 1: I think it's more concerned it's a coworker.
Speaker 4: There's a lot of concerns that have been said, Cooper.
Speaker 2: Sorry, I mean obviously that's why she had a shift,
Speaker 2: is because she caught you.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I didn't know she knew anything. It was it
Speaker 8: was one time.
Speaker 2: Would you be okay if we called her and she's like,
Speaker 2: it was one time, Cooper.
Speaker 4: No big deal with her female co worker.
Speaker 8: I would totally forgive her for that.
Speaker 2: Understanding boyfriend, you know, Why did you wait to accuse
Speaker 2: him and confront him about this?
Speaker 6: Honestly, I just was curious to see how long it
Speaker 6: would take him to realize they messed up.
Speaker 2: Okay, what are you interested in forgiving him?
Speaker 6: I need some time to process. But like, I don't
Speaker 6: really see us coming back to this.
Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, it's just a long distance. Do you get
Speaker 1: that trust back?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Okay, Cooper, I look, it's safe to say that you
Speaker 4: and your girlfriend are probably done after this.
Speaker 6: I think it's safe to say we're definitely done.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, okay, that's not the ending that Cooper was looking.
Speaker 5: All right.
Speaker 4: Look, I know this probably feels really bad right now,
Speaker 4: but it's not the worst thing. You're in a new city. Clearly,
Speaker 4: you're discovering things about yourself, and you have a lot
Speaker 4: to figure out. It might actually be the best thing
Speaker 4: that's ever happened to you going forward in your life.
Speaker 1: What I know.
Speaker 4: I'm a shocked.
Speaker 1: I thought that was really optimistic. I thought that was
Speaker 1: a good post breakup speech.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think he's texting Corey right now. Liked you
Speaker 3: blew it?
Speaker 2: You might.
Speaker 4: You might just need some time to really just let
Speaker 4: all the emotions process.
Speaker 8: The right way.
Speaker 2: Both.
Speaker 8: It's just such a bummer, like she was gonna come
Speaker 8: visit in like a week. We were we had all
Speaker 8: these plans and just the suck.
Speaker 1: But you did bring this on yourself though, Remember I agree.
Speaker 8: I mean, I have some tickets to a show coming up.
Speaker 8: I mean maybe I could see if Cooreo go.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I say, why not?
Speaker 4: Yeah he moved fast?
Speaker 6: Yeah, idiot?
Speaker 4: God, what's the show that you have tickets to?
Speaker 8: By the way, we I mean we were going to
Speaker 8: see Hello Dolly, that was a plan.
Speaker 4: And how we didn't see the signs of this earlier. Okay,
Speaker 4: point five Rook and Jeffrey In the morning, we're getting
Speaker 4: text coming into seventy five nine two. A lot of
Speaker 4: people are in shock over this one. I'll just read
Speaker 4: a few. This one says, OMG, what this guy gets
Speaker 4: what he deserves?
Speaker 1: It just so weird. Why contact us if you're trying
Speaker 1: to hide something because.
Speaker 3: You have dumb cheter and think they're never gonna get caught.
Speaker 1: He doesn't seem too sad though. No.
Speaker 4: A lot of time it's fine. If you think your
Speaker 4: significant other is cheating on you, it's a projection because
Speaker 4: you know, deep down you want to cheat or you
Speaker 4: have cheat.
Speaker 3: I've been one of those relationships too. I'm like, why
Speaker 3: do you always accuse me of this?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 4: Because I get it. Another person wrote in it doesn't
Speaker 4: matter if it's a one time experiment. If you're in
Speaker 4: a relationship, it counts as being unfaithful. Yeah, okay, according
Speaker 4: to you, not according to Cooper, one time is a
Speaker 4: one time only thing. This one says what city did
Speaker 4: he move to?
Speaker 2: It sounds funky, ugly people, I mean, sounds like quite
Speaker 2: the workplace. Yeah, I mean, Cooper's bringing the office te.
Speaker 4: Sure different type of team building happening now, but definitely
Speaker 4: an awkward ending there to your awkward Thursday. We only
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