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Speaker 2: We've been back a whole week and we finally got

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Speaker 2: you a new episode.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I warm up a little bit.

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Speaker 2: It's very special because it is I don't want to

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Speaker 2: spoil it, but an awkward Thursday folkus.

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Speaker 4: Yes, spoil.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you definitely did. There's a lot more drama about

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Speaker 1: to happen.

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Speaker 3: That's true.

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Speaker 4: You'll get over it, but.

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Speaker 1: I hope you enjoy our first new one of twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty six. Yeah. No, thanks for being here. Yeah for sure.

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Speaker 1: And hey, comments, what do you got?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Leah said, I'm currently going through every single episode

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Speaker 5: on Spotify because I did it on Apple Podcast.

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Speaker 2: But they didn't do Wrapped at the end of the year,

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Speaker 2: so all my hard work was for nothing.

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Speaker 3: Apple doesn't do a wrap. They're the only company I've

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Speaker 1: I know if I started it, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: They really started it all like Instagrams like look at

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Speaker 3: your ear? I'm like yeah what?

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Speaker 1: And Uber did wrap too.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. By the way, I'm a top like five percent

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Speaker 2: Your first brand new episode of twenty six starts right now.

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Speaker 4: When Brooke drives across the bridge from her home to

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Speaker 4: work every morning, she considers her relationship officially long distance.

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Speaker 4: Anything just from that point, different bros and different area codes.

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Speaker 4: Am I right Brook?

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Speaker 4: Lachris motto, that's Brook's way. Well, one of our listeners

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Speaker 4: hopes that's not the case with his long distance partner, Caes.

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Speaker 1: He go over two bridges.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, maybe more And something has definitely changed in

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Speaker 4: the last month. So we're going to try to help

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Speaker 4: him get to the bottom of it in a special

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Speaker 4: awkward Thursday phone call. Lovely, we'll do it next. It's awkward,

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Speaker 4: it's Thursday. It's awkward Thursday phone call. It's only the

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Speaker 4: highest quality. Yeah, And Teddy Roosevelts, the twenty sixth President

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Speaker 4: of the United States and part time dating coach, once said,

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Speaker 4: never knew that he was. He said, a healthy relationship

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Speaker 4: is like a well run costco.

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Speaker 1: The costco is, Yeah, you.

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Speaker 4: Gotta have clear rules, members only, and if you behave right,

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Speaker 4: they might let you sample the goods.

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Speaker 2: I learned history on the show wows.

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Speaker 4: But just like at Costco, all it takes is one

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Speaker 4: tiny issue in your relationship. One gallon tub of mayo

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Speaker 4: hot dog food court before checkout, and next thing you know,

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Speaker 4: they're calling managers. Suddenly you can't leave and the whole

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Speaker 4: relationship to be a chaotic receiptless costco go right, I.

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Speaker 1: Mean, they won't let you out without the receipt. So

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Speaker 1: I get what you're saying. That recep.

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Speaker 4: Teddy Roosevelt jail so wise and that's why our listener,

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Speaker 4: Coop has emailed us for help. Cooper, is that how

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Speaker 4: you're feeling? Does that analogy work to describe your relationship?

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Speaker 8: You know, it was very specific, and I.

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Speaker 2: Appreciate It's like, I'm trying to figure out what it means.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, spend some time on you and that's all.

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Speaker 4: The bottom line is it sounds like there's an issue

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Speaker 8: That's true.

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Speaker 4: Okay, okay, all right, So let's get into the details

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Speaker 4: about that. Tell us what's going on.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so my girlfriend and I we've been together about.

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Speaker 4: Okay, what's her name?

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Speaker 8: Her name is Danelle.

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Speaker 2: That's always like an important time period for a relationship,

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Speaker 5: And we've been doing long distance for this back half

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Speaker 3: Move with you. You moved and you're doing long distance.

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Speaker 8: That's exactly right. No, we weren't there yet.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I like temporary long distance or forever long distance.

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Speaker 5: Absolutely, and everything was going pretty well except for as

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's nice to have a girl nagging you all

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Speaker 1: I don't think that's what he means.

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Speaker 7: I think that was a part of it, for sure.

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Speaker 2: Now she's not jealous, So now you're jealous that maybe

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Speaker 3: That's called a toxic relationship.

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Speaker 8: That something's off is all?

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Speaker 2: Here with you guys, because how can you say, why

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Speaker 1: I'm with other women?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and just saying everything Okay, it's too generic.

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Speaker 4: Okay, you need your girlfriend to really open up, and

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Speaker 8: Clearly what I'm doing isn't working. So yeah, okay.

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Speaker 2: And okill that Like you want to know if she's

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Speaker 4: You not want him to find that out if he's talking.

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Speaker 1: Is it just what changed? Or is it other people?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a cheating investigation. Yes, okay, what change?

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Speaker 3: And why are you cheating on me?

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Speaker 4: That's super clear. Now, okay, we'll come back. We will

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Speaker 4: And we'll do it in your special awkward Thursday phone

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Speaker 6: It's awkward.

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Speaker 4: It's Thursday.

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Speaker 3: It's awkward.

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Speaker 4: Third, why can't women be more possessive and untrusting of

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Speaker 3: So many girls are like preachable.

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Speaker 4: I've always thought this. If they were more controlling, then

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Speaker 1: Believe this is what he's asking for, but it's.

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Speaker 4: True because in the last few weeks, he says, Danelle

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Speaker 4: are you, who are you with? Prove it to me,

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Speaker 4: and that has not been the case as much anymore.

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Speaker 1: Hold up a newspaper, show me the date.

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Speaker 4: So naturally he's worried about it and concerned that maybe

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Speaker 2: I mean, I will say a shift in behavior at

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Speaker 4: That, yeah, people need to stay the same forever. Is

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Speaker 4: a good point, Broke.

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Speaker 3: It's a drastic shift.

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Speaker 4: The bottom line is long distance stuff is hard, and

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Speaker 4: so we need to help him fix it. How do

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Speaker 4: we do that, Brook, what's your advice?

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Speaker 1: I think you smoke her out?

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Speaker 2: Okay, no, not like that, like you know, like someone

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Speaker 2: but you scare her right like you, I'm serious. You

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Speaker 1: Together, because that shift in a relationship. If she is cheating,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, smart?

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Speaker 4: Does that advice make sense to you, Cooper or you

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Speaker 3: Bro? You just say, you know, what's funny living in

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Speaker 4: how did you know framing it like a joke, Cooper,

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Speaker 4: Anyway, we are going to call your girlfriend Nanell here.

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Speaker 4: Do you feel ready? You feel prepared with the advice

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Speaker 8: I'm here calling you?

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Speaker 7: You know the people in the city where I'm at now,

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Speaker 6: Okay, you know what, I didn't really want to do

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Speaker 8: Yes? No, thank you?

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Speaker 7: Like?

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Speaker 8: What is happening?

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Speaker 6: Here's what's happening. A few weeks ago, I was trying

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Speaker 6: And that's why I found Corey's email at your work

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Speaker 8: Oh what sorry? Why would you email him without asking me?

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Speaker 6: That's that's what that's your response. You don't think a

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Speaker 8: No? I mean double not anymore?

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Speaker 3: What happened? No more?

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Speaker 6: What is happening? Why are there other people on this line?

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Speaker 4: Was cheating?

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Speaker 4: Hey, you're on the radio right now with a show

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Speaker 4: called Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. This is called

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Speaker 3: Good morning, Cooper.

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Speaker 6: What the hell are you doing calling a radio station

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Speaker 4: Why would you ask for her help?

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Speaker 8: What are you doing checking my location and invading my

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Speaker 4: That you said she wasn't possessive enough.

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Speaker 3: I told you they were talking.

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Speaker 1: You have a girl who tracks you that thought you.

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Speaker 3: Could get away with cheating.

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Speaker 1: Did you cheat, Cooper?

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Speaker 9: It wasn't like that.

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Speaker 8: It was just a one time.

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Speaker 5: There was a one time day. That is, Cory did

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Speaker 6: So you cheated with though you were with the guy.

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Speaker 6: Is that what you were saying?

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Speaker 5: Yes, one time, that's it was. It's never gonna happen again.

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Speaker 2: Okay with your coworker, Corey.

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Speaker 8: I don't like that term cheating. Okay, we were experimenting.

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Speaker 4: But didn't you say at the start of this the

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Speaker 1: I think it's more concerned it's a coworker.

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Speaker 4: There's a lot of concerns that have been said, Cooper.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, I mean obviously that's why she had a shift,

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I didn't know she knew anything. It was it

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Speaker 2: Would you be okay if we called her and she's like,

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Speaker 4: No big deal with her female co worker.

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Speaker 8: I would totally forgive her for that.

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Speaker 6: Honestly, I just was curious to see how long it

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Speaker 2: Okay, what are you interested in forgiving him?

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Speaker 6: I need some time to process. But like, I don't

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Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, it's just a long distance. Do you get

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Okay, Cooper, I look, it's safe to say that you

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Speaker 6: I think it's safe to say we're definitely done.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, okay, that's not the ending that Cooper was looking.

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Speaker 5: All right.

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Speaker 4: Look, I know this probably feels really bad right now,

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Speaker 4: but it's not the worst thing. You're in a new city. Clearly,

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Speaker 1: What I know.

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Speaker 4: I'm a shocked.

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Speaker 1: I thought that was really optimistic. I thought that was

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Speaker 1: a good post breakup speech.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think he's texting Corey right now. Liked you

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Speaker 4: You might just need some time to really just let

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Speaker 8: The right way.

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Speaker 8: It's just such a bummer, like she was gonna come

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Speaker 1: But you did bring this on yourself though, Remember I agree.

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Speaker 8: I mean, I have some tickets to a show coming up.

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Speaker 8: I mean maybe I could see if Cooreo go.

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Speaker 4: Yeah he moved fast?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, idiot?

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Speaker 4: God, what's the show that you have tickets to?

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Speaker 1: It just so weird. Why contact us if you're trying

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Speaker 3: You have dumb cheter and think they're never gonna get caught.

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Speaker 4: A lot of time it's fine. If you think your

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Speaker 3: I've been one of those relationships too. I'm like, why

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Speaker 4: Because I get it. Another person wrote in it doesn't

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Speaker 4: to you, not according to Cooper, one time is a

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Speaker 4: one time only thing. This one says what city did

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Speaker 2: It sounds funky, ugly people, I mean, sounds like quite

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Speaker 4: Sure different type of team building happening now, but definitely

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Speaker 4: an awkward ending there to your awkward Thursday. We only

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Speaker 4: do those for special occasions. Definitely one of them. So

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Speaker 4: make sure to follow our podcast for more wholesome content

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