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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need

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Speaker 1: advice on relationship, sex, dating, work, parenting, and more. Please

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Speaker 1: please please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot

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Speaker 1: your letter live on the air, just like we're gonna

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Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now. Hold on tight,

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Speaker 1: We got it for you. Here it subject. He's got

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Speaker 1: the sugar, but he's not being sweet, all right, Jay,

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Speaker 1: listen up. Dear Steve and Shirley. My husband and I

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Speaker 1: are in our late thirties and we've been together for

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Speaker 1: almost twenty years. We have four children, and we always

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Speaker 1: had a robust sex life until two years ago when

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Speaker 1: everything changed. My husband gradually lost interest in sex, and

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Speaker 1: whenever we try, he would stop in the middle of

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Speaker 1: think that he wasn't attracted to me anymore. One night,

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Speaker 1: when he told me no to sex, I started crying.

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Speaker 1: He finally came clean and admitted that he was diagnosed

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Speaker 1: with type two diabetes and it affected his ability to perform.

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Speaker 1: He didn't want to tell me because he knew I

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Speaker 1: would make him eat healthier meals and stop drinking. I

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Speaker 1: was mad as heck that he kept something like this

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Speaker 1: to change his bad lifestyle choices. So now he has

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Speaker 1: erectile dysfunction because of all the medicine. Because of all

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Speaker 1: his medicine, I've been suffering in a sexless marriage for

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Speaker 1: the past two years. I'm miserable without sex, and I

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Speaker 1: told him he is being selfish. All he has to

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Speaker 1: do is put down the fried chicken, sweet potato pie

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Speaker 1: and the bourbon and coke and we might be able

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Speaker 1: to have sex again. He is oblivious to my needs

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Speaker 1: and I'm growing more and more angry by the day.

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Speaker 1: Been a faithful woman for twenty years, but I can't

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Speaker 1: go another month without releasing some of this sexual tension.

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking about cheating, and I have someone in mind

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Speaker 1: that is willing to help me out. I don't feel

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Speaker 1: bad about it either. Before I do the unthinkable, How

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Speaker 1: can I get my husband to fix his health and

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Speaker 1: fix our sex life? Please help? Wow, A lot going

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Speaker 1: on in this letter. I don't know, because you know,

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Speaker 1: it's really hard to make grown people. You really can't

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Speaker 1: make grown people do what they don't want to do,

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Speaker 1: and in this situation, your husband don't want to do it.

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Speaker 1: I mean, if he would just make better food choices,

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Speaker 1: you know, he would be healthier and perhaps that would help.

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Speaker 1: You're right, he is very selfish. I think you know,

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Speaker 1: this is a man who doesn't want to change. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. He doesn't care about himself. He doesn't care

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Speaker 1: would try to at least eat better. That's a very

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Speaker 1: least he could do and trying, you know, try to

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Speaker 1: get healthy. A husband should never keep anything like this

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Speaker 1: from their wife. This is very serious. You know, why

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Speaker 1: didn't he tell you? Maybe he was embarrassed, or maybe

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Speaker 1: he just I don't know, but it is selfish and

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Speaker 1: he shouldn't have kept that from you because it's it's

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Speaker 1: a health situation and it could get worse. You guys,

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Speaker 1: are only in your late thirties. You're only in your

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Speaker 1: late thirties, So what are you supposed to do now

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Speaker 1: for sex for the rest of your life. You're only

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Speaker 1: in your late thirties. People have sex up until there's

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Speaker 1: seventies and eighties. Come on, you're just in your late thirties.

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Speaker 1: Got to say this though you and I know everyone

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Speaker 1: knows cheating is wrong. We all know that. But I

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Speaker 1: ask you, you know, what's a wife to do in

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Speaker 1: a situation like this, under the circumstances when her husband

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Speaker 1: with his selfish behavior. Yeah, I'm not condoning again, I'm

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Speaker 1: not saying she should, but I'm just saying I understand

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Speaker 1: where you're coming from. Your well, her husband with his

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Speaker 1: of another man. I just think that's what's happening because

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Speaker 1: right now. Steve, Wow, surely you almost said the unthinkable. Wow,

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Speaker 1: you what's gonna startle me? Girl? You came up just

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Speaker 1: I go. Now. I'm glad Shirley kept reiterating that you

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Speaker 1: almost twenty years. I was saying, damn, say him, dude,

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Speaker 1: You look at y'all ain't in jail anyway. Oh, we've

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Speaker 1: got four children. We've always had a robust sex life,

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Speaker 1: and to two years ago, everything changed. Now is the letter.

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Speaker 1: My husband gradually lost interest in sex, and whenever we try,

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Speaker 1: he would stop in the middle of it and tell

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Speaker 1: me he was tied. Now, hold on one, say, ain't

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Speaker 1: you supposed to be tied in the middle of it? Huh? Hello, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean sometimes, but this is an unusual circumstanced Steve.

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Speaker 1: You gotta admit, I mean you putting it in work.

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Speaker 1: But to stop though he stopped. No, No, that ain't

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Speaker 1: I ain't got there yet he tied. What the hell

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Speaker 1: he stopped? Because you're tired. You supposed to be tied.

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Speaker 1: It's called work, homie. You gotta get back at it.

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Speaker 1: But he stopped and say he tied, and no idea

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Speaker 1: what was wrong? And then you thought he wasn't attracted

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Speaker 1: to you. Then one night when he told you now

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Speaker 1: the sex and you started crying. He can't clean and

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Speaker 1: said he got typed you diabetes and affected his ability

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Speaker 1: to perform. He won't tell me because he knew I

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Speaker 1: was gonna make him eat healthy meals and stop drinking

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Speaker 1: all dog. So if you eat healthy field to stop drinking,

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Speaker 1: you can get ridio diabetes. You like food and drinking

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Speaker 1: that damn much if you kept from the information from

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Speaker 1: the one person who can help you get healthy. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and you refuse to do it even though it's affecting

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Speaker 1: your sex life. How much do food mean to your

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Speaker 1: fat as? No, al, really, you would prefer food and

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Speaker 1: alcohol over sex? This is crazy, all right, Steve, hold

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Speaker 1: on to that thought. Okay, we're gonna have part two

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Speaker 1: of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after

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Speaker 1: the hour's subject of today's strawberry letter, he's got the sugar,

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Speaker 1: but he's not being sweet. We'll get back into it

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Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve, Come on,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. He's got the sugar, but

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Speaker 1: he's not being sweet. Tie. It is dude that messed

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Speaker 1: the one person that was help. And then the reason

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Speaker 1: he didn't tell her because he knew she was gonna

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Speaker 1: make him eat healthier meals and stop drinking. What that

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Speaker 1: was your reason for not telling your wife? No, it wasn't.

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to worry her you know, I didn't

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Speaker 1: want her to stop doing what she was doing. Now

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Speaker 1: my chunky ass wants to keep eating pie and drinking liquor.

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Speaker 1: So now the lady was mad as heck that he

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Speaker 1: two years. Two years and I'm miserable without sex. And

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Speaker 1: I told him he's being self. All he gotta do

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Speaker 1: able to have sex again. Somebody making some good ass chicken.

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Speaker 1: That's all I care. You man that's got the good

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Speaker 1: He all in line, lady night, waiting on it. If

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Speaker 1: you stop doing that, you can have sex again. He's

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Speaker 1: Two years without sex, faithful for twenty years, folk kid,

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Speaker 1: fat boy want to keep eating pie and chicken and

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Speaker 1: drinking brebbit and coat. Let his fat ass sit over

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Speaker 1: there and eat the pie and the chicken. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: tell you what Shelly, don't do. I say, going to

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Speaker 1: Hollight your boy, whoever this is, that you've been thinking

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Speaker 1: to help you out. Let him help you go and

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Speaker 1: do you girl? Bill free yourself, gonna get you something

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Speaker 1: because I'm gonna tell you something right now. And the

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Speaker 1: reason I'm saying you gotta go ahead and do it.

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Speaker 1: And the lady said, I don't feel bad about it either,

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Speaker 1: And you shit, because let me explain something to you

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Speaker 1: that ain't no man nowhere gonna let you sit over

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Speaker 1: there with whole sex for two years and don't go

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Speaker 1: get it somewhere withhold something for your man for two

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Speaker 1: I bet he ain't. Two years and you all have

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Speaker 1: disgusting you didn't have this man crying over some sex.

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Speaker 1: A man started crying. I mean, you won't give me that.

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Speaker 1: I want to Steve, Still you still no like that?

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Speaker 1: Shut up crying with your park for two years. Ain't

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Speaker 1: no man to do that, and possibly the rest of

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Speaker 1: her life. She's in her late thirties. What she's supposed

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Speaker 1: to do, call the dude, but stick yourself in arrangement,

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Speaker 1: go get you. But if you just go get you,

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Speaker 1: just go free yourself for a minute, you'll feel better.

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Speaker 1: You come back and deal with it. What Well, I'm

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Speaker 1: just saying, we have an expert on the show. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna die. Yeah, I mean the first my thing

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Speaker 1: is just it just hop and I've eaten a lot

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Speaker 1: has gone way past man. Yeah, how how much chickens

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Speaker 1: do you? Where you eat, where you stay? You know,

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Speaker 1: I don't want sex no more because this chicken is

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Speaker 1: just too damn good. Okay. The other place chicken yeah yeah, yeah, Steve.

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Speaker 1: And the other thing is if he stops in the

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Speaker 1: middle of six, he got chicken on it, man, it

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Speaker 1: ain't it ain't got nothing. He says, wait a minute, baby,

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Speaker 1: hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. It is

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Speaker 1: ten forty five pop out of glue cooler, and let

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Speaker 1: if I leave right now, I can't get bloopie and

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Speaker 1: a biscuit. Ya crazy? And last but not leave just

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Speaker 1: Chicken Sandward is breaking up home because it is it

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Speaker 1: is man if people standing in line waiting for the

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Speaker 1: damn Chicken Sandward, which means that make it that the

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Speaker 1: after the hour, Junior Sports Talk, New Orleans, Pelican Zion

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