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Speaker 1: Yeah, they talk better than they excited.

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Speaker 2: These are the radio blogs on the friendship who writing

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Speaker 2: in our diaries, except we say them aloud. We call

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Speaker 2: them blogs. Caitlin, you're ready, Yes, take it away.

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Speaker 1: Dear blog.

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Speaker 3: So I am very very curious what you guys think

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Speaker 3: about this, and I feel like everyone is going to

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Speaker 3: have their a different opinion in this room.

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Speaker 1: But how much weight do you put on.

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Speaker 3: Social media in general and also when you're in a relationship.

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Speaker 3: So recently it got back to me a friend of

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Speaker 3: mine mine told me that some people were talking about

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Speaker 3: my relationship and the difference between which my boyfriend posts

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Speaker 3: me on social media and I post him on social media. Okay,

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Speaker 3: which is interesting to be talking about in itself because like, hmm,

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Speaker 3: But basically, these people were saying that they were super

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Speaker 3: concerned for my boyfriend because he posts me a lot more.

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Speaker 3: He you know, expresses his feelings a lot more on

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Speaker 3: social and I don't really post him that much, and

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Speaker 3: so I must not like him. I must be hiding him.

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Speaker 3: They're concerned for him. Wow, very interesting. Who are these

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Speaker 3: people exactly? Very interesting?

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Speaker 1: And you would think of right.

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Speaker 3: Now, right, and you'd be interested to know that they

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Speaker 3: never once reached out to him to go, yo, I'm concerned.

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Speaker 3: You're just you're just running your mouths okay.

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Speaker 1: So I just think.

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Speaker 3: It's very interesting. We have these conversations all the time.

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Speaker 3: You know. Some people have their certain social media rules.

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Speaker 3: Some people are really into looking at who views your stories.

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Speaker 3: Some people some people want to be posted. I feel like, A,

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Speaker 3: if I was a dude who wasn't posting my girl,

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Speaker 3: I'd be like keeping it player, you know. And B

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Speaker 3: I've just never been like that.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 2: And so are you keeping a player?

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Speaker 1: Then I'm no, I'm because if you're a.

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Speaker 2: Guy that doesn't post, you're keeping a player. But you're

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Speaker 2: a girl who doesn't post that much, or you keeping

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Speaker 2: it plower.

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Speaker 3: Because I'm a girl that's not posting, I must be

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Speaker 3: hiding him or not liking him. I just feel like

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Speaker 3: it's a little bit of a double standard. I feel

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Speaker 3: like that's just my personal opinion. You don't have to

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Speaker 3: agree with me. First of all, I don't run his

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Speaker 3: social and I'm not a girl who's like, please post me.

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Speaker 3: It's just never been my thing. I don't really care.

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Speaker 3: He can post whatever he wants. If he wants to

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Speaker 3: post me, go for it. Never ask for that, don't

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Speaker 3: need that. Sometimes I just feel like a I move

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Speaker 3: a little slower and be I like to have something

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Speaker 3: just for myself. They would be happy to know I

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Speaker 3: have a close friend, story that I post him all

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Speaker 3: the time. Sometimes I just don't like to share every

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Speaker 3: little thing of what I'm doing.

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Speaker 2: Oh my, not a close friend because I don't see

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Speaker 2: him all the time. Oh that's good to know anyway.

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Speaker 2: I guess I'm a work friend. I'm just.

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Speaker 1: I'm just I'm just a work friend. Gotta earn it.

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Speaker 1: I gotta earn it. I got hell yeah, how long

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Speaker 1: did it take.

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Speaker 4: You?

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Speaker 2: Guys?

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Speaker 1: I don't think you have to.

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Speaker 2: I don't think you You don't have to post anybody

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Speaker 2: you don't want to post, especially if you guys have

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Speaker 2: discussed it. I mean, I guess if I were posting

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Speaker 1: Way about it.

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Speaker 2: The other thing is, are you know I know that

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Speaker 2: he has a public job, but we have a more

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Speaker 2: public job. And I've had this argument in really, I'm

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Speaker 2: not docing him. I'm not docing him. I'm just saying

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Speaker 2: our listeners are very into our lives. They're they're very

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Speaker 2: connected to us. And I've had this argument with people

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Speaker 2: I've dated before too, where it's like, well, I post

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Speaker 2: many of whom you've met, but you don't post me

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Speaker 2: on your public social media. And I think those are

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Speaker 2: two different things. Now, the people I there was one

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Speaker 2: on them. It was like, Okay, well then I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: stuff in the comments and they're you're not gonna like it. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: And they're gonna either gonna friend you on you know,

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Speaker 2: they're gonna request you on all these platforms that you

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Speaker 2: don't want. You don't you don't know these folks, and

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Speaker 2: you may not want to approve them, and so we'll

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Speaker 2: go ahead and do that. Me though, not posting you

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Speaker 2: is more of a protection mechanism than it is me

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Speaker 2: not being, you know, wanted to be with you. Because

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Speaker 2: I talk about relationships that I'm in all the time.

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Speaker 2: I just think there's a it's just two different things. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I also think like so the people that we're talking

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Speaker 3: us together, never seen.

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Speaker 1: Us together, which is where you should be.

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Speaker 3: Able to tell if someone like someone right, right, And

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Speaker 3: so we're putting more weight on social media than we

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Speaker 3: are on like real life interactions.

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Speaker 1: And I just think it's interesting.

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Speaker 3: You know, everyone in this room posts a different level

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Speaker 3: of their significant other.

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Speaker 1: Kiki doesn't post at all. Big Tim, Well.

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Speaker 2: That's because she's singles.

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Speaker 4: So that's right, my girl, say, and I won't until

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Speaker 4: I'm married because Big Tim, as you know today, might

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Speaker 4: be another Big Tim.

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Speaker 1: He might decide on Friday.

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Speaker 2: Well he could be because I've never seen the real

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Speaker 2: Big Tim, So you could bring another guy.

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Speaker 1: Can at least be close friends on that post? Everybody's

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Speaker 1: my close friend? That's my problem. I think everybody's a

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Speaker 1: close friend. Clearly not. But for Big.

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Speaker 4: Tim, Yeah, he will never see the light of social

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Speaker 4: media because you know, for what what?

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Speaker 1: What's the reason you don't need to be on my

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Speaker 1: social media?

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Speaker 4: It doesn't dictate how I love him though, you know

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Speaker 4: he has a great life with me.

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Speaker 1: That's your toys and has a choice. Can you post me, babe?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, Now he actually stopped.

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Speaker 4: He took away his whole social media, like he's just

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Speaker 4: off social media altogether.

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Speaker 1: Any girl, And I love that as easily, I guess

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Speaker 1: exactly on my birthday. I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, dang, like I kind of wish my man,

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Speaker 4: would you know, because he used to be he sup

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Speaker 4: post me all. You look at his old pages all me,

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Speaker 4: so you know, I'm like, I kind of missed that.

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Speaker 4: But I can't have the best of up for us, Like, well.

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Speaker 2: That's because you were running his social media.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 4: Not so.

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Speaker 5: I used to one of those girls that would truly

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Speaker 5: believe like, oh, if you don't post, your're just gonna

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Speaker 5: make it other then you guys, I don't know one

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Speaker 5: likes more than the other or whatever.

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Speaker 1: Right. I used to believe that wholeheartedly. But what I've

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Speaker 5: That these people, especially when it comes to that anniversary

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Speaker 5: post and it's like two pages long, there's usually a

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Speaker 5: lot of stuff under that, like it's not what it

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Speaker 5: seems the whole like we've been through hell and back.

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Speaker 1: They're going through hell.

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Speaker 5: And that there.

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Speaker 3: The more you write, the more it's not doing well. No, Like,

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Speaker 3: the longer the caption, the more problems you're going through.

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Speaker 2: In my experience, social media appearances are not what they seem.

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Speaker 4: And we've all admitted that we read into people's relationship

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Speaker 4: based off their social media posts, like you just say it,

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Speaker 4: like we judge you off of your social media post.

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Speaker 1: So sometimes it's safer to just not do it.

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Speaker 2: For what right?

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Speaker 1: Can anything just be right anymore? No?

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Speaker 2: No, actually no, I'm more concerned with why none of

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Speaker 2: us are well. I should say none of us.

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Speaker 1: I should just wait to hear who's the worst talking

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Speaker 1: smack Fred.

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Speaker 2: Oh, so that'll be nice