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Speaker 2: Charlotte is on the phone today for our first day
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Henry.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonnall him and see
Speaker 2: if he tell us why is ghosting her and maybe
Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Charlotte, how long has
Speaker 2: it beens as you heard from Henry?
Speaker 1: It's been a couple of weeks since I've heard from him,
Speaker 1: Which it's weird because we were friends before this, and
Speaker 1: we definitely texted now and again. So I'm just a
Speaker 1: little thrown. I'm curious and maybe a little hurt too.
Speaker 3: So, yeah, understandably, especially since you guys knew each other before. Yeah,
Speaker 3: what was your last interaction with him?
Speaker 1: Like? So, I actually planned on this whole day of
Speaker 1: events because of this kind of our first actual date,
Speaker 1: because we've been friends for a long time and i've been, uh,
Speaker 1: I've had a crush on him for kind of a while,
Speaker 1: and so I planned this day of dates. It wasn't
Speaker 1: too intense, but it was, you know, a bunch of
Speaker 1: different stuff. We went on a mini hike and then
Speaker 1: we got brunch at this place that I know both
Speaker 1: of us like, and then we recovered from brunch separately,
Speaker 1: we kind of slid up for a while, and then
Speaker 1: we met up for a concert in the park. So
Speaker 1: and you know, it was fun. I feel like we
Speaker 1: both had a really good time. So I just don't
Speaker 1: know what's going on. I mean, we didn't look at the.
Speaker 4: End, like we didn't kiss or anything, So I don't
Speaker 4: know if I'm supposed to read into that, but nothing
Speaker 4: bad happened, and so I just don't understand why I
Speaker 4: haven't heard from him at all.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So, when you guys decided to go on a date,
Speaker 3: was he also understanding that it was not a friend
Speaker 3: hangout and that it was a date. Did you guys
Speaker 3: have that conversation where like, oh, let's explore taking this
Speaker 3: to another level.
Speaker 1: I mean, we didn't like have that conversation, but I
Speaker 1: think it was pretty clear based on, you know, the
Speaker 1: way we were talking about it. And we've now hung
Speaker 1: out just the two of us that like for a
Speaker 1: whole day like that. I mean we have hung out
Speaker 1: the two of us, but not very often over the
Speaker 1: past several years. I mean, definitely not at this level,
Speaker 1: you know, I think, and he didn't ask. I think
Speaker 1: it was clear for both of us, you know. I
Speaker 1: mean that's what it feels like. I've had a crush
Speaker 1: on him, and I feel like probably he could tell
Speaker 1: at this point, you know, And so it just seems
Speaker 1: like we both knew and we both went out and
Speaker 1: we had a good time. I really I really wanted
Speaker 1: to work with him because I've just had feelings for
Speaker 1: him for a while and he's just kind of a
Speaker 1: special person to me. You know, he makes me laugh
Speaker 1: and he's he makes me feel safe and stuff, but
Speaker 1: also he's like guys guy, you know. So I feel
Speaker 1: it's just a good balance and we get along really well.
Speaker 1: You really like him.
Speaker 5: I really like him.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like how many times you text him or try
Speaker 1: calling him? Well, I texted I try to go overdo it.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: I've texted him a couple times over the past couple
Speaker 1: of weeks, but we used to text. I mean before
Speaker 1: this day, we would text pretty regularly, like at least
Speaker 1: two or three days a week. You know, we're I
Speaker 1: mean we've been in contact, you know, we're friends, and
Speaker 1: that we watched on the same shows and stuff that
Speaker 1: we talked about that. But I just haven't heard from him,
Speaker 1: and like it's been it's been over two weeks now,
Speaker 1: so I just feel like it's not normal, and I
Speaker 1: just don't know what happened. I mean maybe, look, I
Speaker 1: don't know if I messed up. I guess after brunch
Speaker 1: like I had, I had a few mimosas, and I
Speaker 1: didn't think I was acting weird or anything. And I
Speaker 1: just know that when I got to the park for
Speaker 1: the concert, you know, for to get some drinks before
Speaker 1: the show, like he seemed maybe a little annoyed because
Speaker 1: I was I was late. I wasn't that late, but
Speaker 1: I was a little late. And but I asked him
Speaker 1: if he was annoyed, and he said no, he was
Speaker 1: just tired because we had already like a whole day,
Speaker 1: you know. So I don't know if it was that.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure.
Speaker 5: Okay, well we'll try to figure it out for you.
Speaker 2: Play a song come back, and then call him and
Speaker 2: see if he'll tell us why is ghosting you and
Speaker 2: maybe get you another date? Okay, Okay, thanks, all right,
Speaker 2: we'll play song come back and get your first day
Speaker 2: follow up next.
Speaker 5: If you're just joining us for today's first.
Speaker 2: Date, follow up, Charlotte is on the phone and she's
Speaker 2: getting ghosted by a guy named Henry. So in a
Speaker 2: second we're going to call him and see if he'll
Speaker 2: tell us why is ghosting her. But before we do that, Charlotte,
Speaker 2: why don't you refresh our memory on your date with Henry.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So, Henry and I have been friends for a
Speaker 1: while for a few years, and we definitely texted regularly
Speaker 1: over time, and we finally took it to the next
Speaker 1: level and went on a date. But it was kind
Speaker 1: of a whole day of stuff, hike and brunch in
Speaker 1: the show. But I haven't heard from him since then.
Speaker 1: It's been over two weeks, and that's weird because we
Speaker 1: usually do text during the week, so I don't know
Speaker 1: if something happened, but I'm feeling nervous about it, and
Speaker 1: I I just want to find out what's going on.
Speaker 2: You can't think of a reason why he'd be ghosting you, No,
Speaker 2: I mean.
Speaker 1: Like I said, I said, I was a little bit
Speaker 1: late for the concert. But I even asked him if
Speaker 1: he said it was an issue, and he said no,
Speaker 1: he wasn't annoyed about it. So that's kind of the
Speaker 1: only thing I can think of.
Speaker 5: Really, well, you're ready for us to call him?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess so, Okay.
Speaker 5: Here we go. Hi, Ma, I speak to Henry please.
Speaker 6: Yeah, this is Henry.
Speaker 3: How are you?
Speaker 5: My name is Jubil. I'm calling from a radio show.
Speaker 5: It's called The Jebel Show.
Speaker 3: Hi, Henry, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi.
Speaker 5: I'm Victoria. How are you?
Speaker 1: What's up? Guys? I'm good.
Speaker 5: Do you listen to the show at all?
Speaker 7: Uh?
Speaker 6: Not really?
Speaker 5: No worries.
Speaker 2: We're calling you because somebody you know does listen to
Speaker 2: the show and they email us about you.
Speaker 6: Okay.
Speaker 2: We do a segment called the First Day follow Up.
Speaker 2: That's where if you go out on a date with
Speaker 2: somebody and you end up ghosting them, that person can
Speaker 2: email us to ask you why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 6: Really, okay, I have no idea who you're talking about.
Speaker 5: Have you gone any dates recently?
Speaker 3: Uh?
Speaker 6: Well, I'm a personal but yes? Was it Kelly by Champ?
Speaker 1: No, it's not Kelly, Okay, Donna.
Speaker 5: No, I want to keep trying to tell you anybody else?
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean that's really kind of it.
Speaker 6: I honestly don't know. Yeah, please don't me.
Speaker 3: You can't go to brunch or like a show with somebody.
Speaker 6: Okay, yeah, but you mean Charlotte.
Speaker 2: Yes, Charlotte emailed us and she wants to know why
Speaker 2: you're ghosting.
Speaker 8: Oh okay, I don't think I'm ghosting. I had no
Speaker 8: idea that was even a date, like what, because we're friends.
Speaker 6: I've known her for years. That was not a date?
Speaker 5: Was it was?
Speaker 3: She thought you were able to tell that she has
Speaker 3: had a crush on you for a long time?
Speaker 4: Wow?
Speaker 8: No, I thought we were just doing like a friend
Speaker 8: hanging sing all day, to be honest, like, and we
Speaker 8: spent the day which was super fun.
Speaker 6: It was fine. I had no idea she was interested
Speaker 6: in me, though.
Speaker 3: Does that change things for you?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I think so. I mean I she definitely too.
Speaker 8: I never thought of her like that, like you know
Speaker 8: what I mean. We never really went went that way.
Speaker 6: You know, we had sort of like boundaries and your
Speaker 6: friendship boundaries.
Speaker 7: And like I said, we hung off that day.
Speaker 1: Was totally fine.
Speaker 6: I just thought it was just a friendly hang I
Speaker 6: didn't know she had more like there's like feelings. This
Speaker 6: is like crazy.
Speaker 5: Okay.
Speaker 3: She reached out to you though, after you guys hung
Speaker 3: out that day and you didn't respond to her.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I like most too.
Speaker 8: I mean I caught up at work or like when
Speaker 8: friends text you don't get back to run away anything
Speaker 8: anything of it.
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, well she definitely thought it was a date,
Speaker 2: and Henry, she's on the phone right now and I'll
Speaker 2: talk to you.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, what's up? Oh wow? Hey, Okay, this
Speaker 1: has been very much a roller coaster. I'm like kind
Speaker 1: of embarrassed honestly, but also Henry, like, really, you really
Speaker 1: didn't know. You really couldn't tell.
Speaker 7: I really couldn't tell. No, Like it was super obvious.
Speaker 7: We didn't get her anything, so there was no hearts.
Speaker 1: Me, but we were flirting now, oh my.
Speaker 9: Gosh, honestly, like I thought, I've been so obvious recently
Speaker 9: that there was no way that that you would have
Speaker 9: ever not thought that was a date, Like we haven't
Speaker 9: hung out that that much.
Speaker 1: Like, I mean, like it sounds like, what do you
Speaker 1: want him? Should it be a date? Should we? I mean,
Speaker 1: what do you think? You don't have to tell me
Speaker 1: right now? Oh my gosh, you don't have to tell
Speaker 1: her right now. I just I have fun and I
Speaker 1: don't know. Well, I mean, oh my.
Speaker 7: God, no, you know, I know this is crazy, This
Speaker 7: is totally crazy.
Speaker 8: I mean, so you're yes, I mean, if you want
Speaker 8: to go out like a real date, like make it
Speaker 8: official like a day, yes, hell yeah, I'm into it.
Speaker 7: You are?
Speaker 1: I mean, do you want to not to me? Do
Speaker 1: you want to?
Speaker 6: I do want to?
Speaker 1: Yeah? And I feel like an idiot for like not
Speaker 1: even realizing this.
Speaker 6: I'm like super stoked, like because I.
Speaker 8: Don't thought you were super too too, but like I
Speaker 8: never want to cross that friendship line.
Speaker 1: And oh my gosh, yeah.
Speaker 6: Of course, because once you cross that friendship line.
Speaker 1: And someone's on into you, then you look like an
Speaker 1: idiot and now.
Speaker 5: You're embarrassed and the friendship is and you have to
Speaker 5: call a radio station to call them.
Speaker 1: I'm oh my god, this is crazy.
Speaker 6: Yeah, so yeah, I yes, I'm super excited.
Speaker 8: Yes, yes, yes, like I'm in totally totally totally okay.
Speaker 2: Well I didn't even need to ask, but I have
Speaker 2: to because that's what happens in the segment. So, Henry,
Speaker 2: would you like go on another day with Charlotte?
Speaker 5: Will pay for it?
Speaker 3: Hell?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 5: The fourth Well, congratulations Charlotte, you got another date?
Speaker 1: Wow, thank you? This is amazing And maybe I'll need
Speaker 1: a copy of this in the future, so I might
Speaker 1: ask you for it to play at.
Speaker 3: Your wedding, Okay, but not to put pressure on it.
Speaker 3: Just a little advice. Right when you guys get together
Speaker 3: for that next date, just kiss right away because it'll
Speaker 3: take away all the anticipation and all the awkwardnesses to
Speaker 3: it right away.
Speaker 5: I mean, it just breaks it down away, you know. Yeah.
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