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Speaker 2: Charlotte is on the phone today for our first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Henry.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonnall him and see

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Speaker 2: if he tell us why is ghosting her and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Charlotte, how long has

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Speaker 2: it beens as you heard from Henry?

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Speaker 1: It's been a couple of weeks since I've heard from him,

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Speaker 1: Which it's weird because we were friends before this, and

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Speaker 1: we definitely texted now and again. So I'm just a

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Speaker 3: So, yeah, understandably, especially since you guys knew each other before. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: what was your last interaction with him?

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Speaker 1: Like? So, I actually planned on this whole day of

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Speaker 1: because we've been friends for a long time and i've been, uh,

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Speaker 1: I've had a crush on him for kind of a while,

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Speaker 1: and so I planned this day of dates. It wasn't

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Speaker 1: too intense, but it was, you know, a bunch of

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Speaker 1: different stuff. We went on a mini hike and then

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Speaker 1: we got brunch at this place that I know both

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Speaker 1: of us like, and then we recovered from brunch separately,

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Speaker 1: we kind of slid up for a while, and then

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Speaker 1: we met up for a concert in the park. So

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Speaker 1: and you know, it was fun. I feel like we

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Speaker 4: End, like we didn't kiss or anything, So I don't

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Speaker 4: know if I'm supposed to read into that, but nothing

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So, when you guys decided to go on a date,

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Speaker 3: was he also understanding that it was not a friend

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Speaker 3: have that conversation where like, oh, let's explore taking this

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Speaker 1: I mean, we didn't like have that conversation, but I

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Speaker 1: think it was pretty clear based on, you know, the

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Speaker 1: way we were talking about it. And we've now hung

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Speaker 1: whole day like that. I mean we have hung out

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Speaker 1: past several years. I mean, definitely not at this level,

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Speaker 1: you know, I think, and he didn't ask. I think

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Speaker 1: like we both knew and we both went out and

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Speaker 1: we had a good time. I really I really wanted

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Speaker 1: to work with him because I've just had feelings for

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Speaker 1: him for a while and he's just kind of a

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Speaker 1: special person to me. You know, he makes me laugh

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Speaker 1: and he's he makes me feel safe and stuff, but

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Speaker 1: also he's like guys guy, you know. So I feel

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Speaker 1: it's just a good balance and we get along really well.

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Speaker 1: You really like him.

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Speaker 5: I really like him.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like how many times you text him or try

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Speaker 1: calling him? Well, I texted I try to go overdo it.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 1: I've texted him a couple times over the past couple

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Speaker 5: Okay, well we'll try to figure it out for you.

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Speaker 2: Play a song come back, and then call him and

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Speaker 2: see if he'll tell us why is ghosting you and

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Speaker 2: maybe get you another date? Okay, Okay, thanks, all right,

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Speaker 2: we'll play song come back and get your first day

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Speaker 2: follow up next.

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Speaker 5: If you're just joining us for today's first.

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Speaker 2: Date, follow up, Charlotte is on the phone and she's

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Speaker 2: getting ghosted by a guy named Henry. So in a

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Speaker 2: second we're going to call him and see if he'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why is ghosting her. But before we do that, Charlotte,

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Speaker 2: why don't you refresh our memory on your date with Henry.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So, Henry and I have been friends for a

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Speaker 1: while for a few years, and we definitely texted regularly

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Speaker 1: over time, and we finally took it to the next

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Speaker 1: It's been over two weeks, and that's weird because we

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Speaker 1: if something happened, but I'm feeling nervous about it, and

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Speaker 1: I I just want to find out what's going on.

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Speaker 2: You can't think of a reason why he'd be ghosting you, No,

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Speaker 1: Like I said, I said, I was a little bit

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Speaker 1: he said it was an issue, and he said no,

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Speaker 1: he wasn't annoyed about it. So that's kind of the

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Speaker 1: only thing I can think of.

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Speaker 5: Really, well, you're ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess so, Okay.

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Speaker 5: Here we go. Hi, Ma, I speak to Henry please.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, this is Henry.

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Speaker 3: How are you?

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Speaker 5: My name is Jubil. I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 5: It's called The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 3: Hi, Henry, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi.

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Speaker 5: I'm Victoria. How are you?

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Speaker 1: What's up? Guys? I'm good.

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Speaker 5: Do you listen to the show at all?

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Speaker 7: Uh?

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Speaker 6: Not really?

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Speaker 5: No worries.

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Speaker 2: We're calling you because somebody you know does listen to

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Speaker 2: the show and they email us about you.

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Speaker 6: Okay.

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Speaker 2: We do a segment called the First Day follow Up.

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Speaker 2: That's where if you go out on a date with

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Speaker 2: somebody and you end up ghosting them, that person can

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Speaker 6: Really, okay, I have no idea who you're talking about.

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Speaker 5: Have you gone any dates recently?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 6: Well, I'm a personal but yes? Was it Kelly by Champ?

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Speaker 1: No, it's not Kelly, Okay, Donna.

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Speaker 5: No, I want to keep trying to tell you anybody else?

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean that's really kind of it.

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Speaker 6: I honestly don't know. Yeah, please don't me.

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Speaker 3: You can't go to brunch or like a show with somebody.

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Speaker 6: Okay, yeah, but you mean Charlotte.

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Speaker 2: Yes, Charlotte emailed us and she wants to know why

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Speaker 8: Oh okay, I don't think I'm ghosting. I had no

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Speaker 6: I've known her for years. That was not a date?

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Speaker 3: She thought you were able to tell that she has

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Speaker 4: Wow?

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Speaker 8: No, I thought we were just doing like a friend

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Speaker 6: It was fine. I had no idea she was interested

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I think so. I mean I she definitely too.

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Speaker 8: I never thought of her like that, like you know

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Speaker 6: You know, we had sort of like boundaries and your

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Speaker 7: And like I said, we hung off that day.

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Speaker 3: She reached out to you though, after you guys hung

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I like most too.

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Speaker 8: I mean I caught up at work or like when

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Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, well she definitely thought it was a date,

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Speaker 2: and Henry, she's on the phone right now and I'll

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, what's up? Oh wow? Hey, Okay, this

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Speaker 1: has been very much a roller coaster. I'm like kind

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Speaker 7: I really couldn't tell. No, Like it was super obvious.

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Speaker 7: We didn't get her anything, so there was no hearts.

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Speaker 1: Me, but we were flirting now, oh my.

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Speaker 1: Like, I mean, like it sounds like, what do you

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Speaker 7: God, no, you know, I know this is crazy, This

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Speaker 8: I mean, so you're yes, I mean, if you want

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Speaker 7: You are?

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Speaker 1: I mean, do you want to not to me? Do

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Speaker 6: I do want to?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? And I feel like an idiot for like not

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Speaker 6: I'm like super stoked, like because I.

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Speaker 8: Don't thought you were super too too, but like I

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Speaker 8: never want to cross that friendship line.

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Speaker 1: And oh my gosh, yeah.

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Speaker 6: Of course, because once you cross that friendship line.

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Speaker 1: And someone's on into you, then you look like an

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Speaker 5: You're embarrassed and the friendship is and you have to

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Speaker 1: I'm oh my god, this is crazy.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, so yeah, I yes, I'm super excited.

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Speaker 8: Yes, yes, yes, like I'm in totally totally totally okay.

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Speaker 2: Well I didn't even need to ask, but I have

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Speaker 2: to because that's what happens in the segment. So, Henry,

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Speaker 2: would you like go on another day with Charlotte?

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Speaker 5: Will pay for it?

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Speaker 3: Hell?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 7: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: The fourth Well, congratulations Charlotte, you got another date?

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Speaker 1: Wow, thank you? This is amazing And maybe I'll need

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Speaker 1: a copy of this in the future, so I might

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Speaker 1: ask you for it to play at.

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Speaker 3: Your wedding, Okay, but not to put pressure on it.

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Speaker 3: Just a little advice. Right when you guys get together

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Speaker 3: for that next date, just kiss right away because it'll

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Speaker 3: take away all the anticipation and all the awkwardnesses to

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Speaker 3: it right away.

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Speaker 5: I mean, it just breaks it down away, you know. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Jubile's first Date follow up