WEBVTT - Embracing your Confidence, Stop Second-Guessing Yourself 0:00:03.200 --> 0:00:06.760 Welcome to the show. I am your girl, Amada la Negra, 0:00:06.880 --> 0:00:10.440 and you're listening to exactly Amada. 0:00:09.760 --> 0:00:11.760 A production of iHeart and thank you so much for 0:00:11.800 --> 0:00:13.800 tuning in Mana. 0:00:13.880 --> 0:00:16.560 Thank you so much, brother, love and support for always 0:00:17.040 --> 0:00:17.759 being part. 0:00:17.600 --> 0:00:19.479 Of this experience, of this journey with me. 0:00:22.840 --> 0:00:26.200 Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on your favorite platform, 0:00:26.239 --> 0:00:27.120 whichever it may be. 0:00:27.640 --> 0:00:30.560 Also rate us those five stars because you know I 0:00:30.560 --> 0:00:32.960 deserve it. Come on now, show me some love and 0:00:33.200 --> 0:00:35.600 leave us a great review. Tell me what you like 0:00:35.640 --> 0:00:36.960 about the show, Tell. 0:00:36.840 --> 0:00:39.680 Me how I can improve, Tell me how you connect 0:00:39.720 --> 0:00:43.040 with my experiences with our guest. Tell me everything I 0:00:43.080 --> 0:00:47.320 want to know everything. Today we're talking about embracing your confidence. 0:00:47.600 --> 0:00:50.280 You know, stop second guesting yourself. And I know that 0:00:50.320 --> 0:00:53.000 we've all done it, been there, done that, But I 0:00:53.000 --> 0:00:57.400 wanted today to be more of a motivational, inspirational conversation 0:00:57.960 --> 0:01:00.360 because I've gone through so many things in my own 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:03.800 personal life. I'm not perfect. I'm far from being perfect. 0:01:03.800 --> 0:01:06.360 There is no part of my life that's perfect. You guys, 0:01:06.440 --> 0:01:10.839 get to somewhat somewhat seeing my life on TV, see 0:01:10.880 --> 0:01:14.320 my life being exposed on social media. You get to 0:01:14.360 --> 0:01:16.919 see so many things of me, but at the same time, 0:01:17.800 --> 0:01:21.080 you may not always see the occasions where my confidence 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:24.360 is low, where I'm not always that strong empowered woman, 0:01:24.680 --> 0:01:27.800 where I'm not always confident about my body and my curves, 0:01:28.080 --> 0:01:30.920 where I'm not always confident about you know, the decisions 0:01:30.920 --> 0:01:33.240 I make with my love life, with my career as 0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:35.600 a mother, etc. So I just want to take a 0:01:35.640 --> 0:01:37.520 moment and talk about, you know, what it is to 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:40.840 embrace your confidence. Where are you going in life? How 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:44.119 can you empower yourself? How can you break those cycles 0:01:44.480 --> 0:01:48.560 of self doubt? You know, trusting your instinct, living your 0:01:48.560 --> 0:01:52.120 best life, and enjoying the journey, because no matter how 0:01:52.160 --> 0:01:55.320 hard or how tough things are, the most important part 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:58.360 is to enjoy the journey with the good, with the bad, 0:01:58.440 --> 0:02:01.680 with all that it comes. Go through the motions of it, 0:02:01.920 --> 0:02:05.280 go through the motions of living the experience, whether it 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:08.000 is good, whether it's bading for that, because there's always 0:02:08.000 --> 0:02:10.800 a lesson to be learned in the process of things. 0:02:11.160 --> 0:02:15.799 And the first thing is, let's identify what second guest 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:19.040 seeing actually is. It's that little boys in your hand 0:02:19.160 --> 0:02:21.800 that creeps in every every so often whenever you have 0:02:21.840 --> 0:02:24.960 to make a real important decision or take action. That's 0:02:24.960 --> 0:02:28.240 telling you don't do it, you're not good enough, you know, 0:02:28.840 --> 0:02:32.079 think about it, there's competition. What about if you fail? 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:35.919 What about it? It's the what about if? That's really 0:02:35.919 --> 0:02:38.400 what it is to me, right, that second guess of 0:02:38.480 --> 0:02:41.400 what about? If things haven't even happened already, and you're 0:02:41.400 --> 0:02:45.000 already second guessing yourself and doubting yourself and looking at 0:02:45.040 --> 0:02:47.040 all the chances that you have of failing, and how 0:02:47.080 --> 0:02:49.000 things are not going to come through for you, and 0:02:49.040 --> 0:02:52.560 how you may not have the abilities to make something happen, 0:02:52.600 --> 0:02:55.760 whether it is you know, something that requires your physical 0:02:56.160 --> 0:03:00.000 your physical or your mental or financial or whatever decision 0:03:00.240 --> 0:03:00.600 it may be. 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:02.720 That's truly what it is. 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:06.640 It's that that voice that creeps in even while you're sleeping, 0:03:06.720 --> 0:03:09.760 even in the middle of silence. That's really important to 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:14.760 understand what that voice is because you have to fight it. 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:17.400 You have to fight that internal voice that tells you 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:21.560 that you can't make something happen, because honestly, most dreams 0:03:21.600 --> 0:03:24.720 and a lot of opportunities don't actually happen for you 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:29.440 because before it even happens, you're already questioning why, why 0:03:29.480 --> 0:03:34.640 it's not going to happen for you, AVEU. Sometimes in 0:03:34.680 --> 0:03:36.360 life you have to just throw yourself and do it. 0:03:36.600 --> 0:03:38.560 Whether you do it right, whether you do it wrong, 0:03:38.760 --> 0:03:40.800 at least you had the guts to make it happen. 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:43.280 Just go out there and do it. And like I say, 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:47.160 if you fail, if it doesn't work out, at least 0:03:47.160 --> 0:03:49.680 you can say you tried. Do you get where I'm 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:54.240 coming from, Midah. The first step into conquering self doubt 0:03:54.480 --> 0:03:58.160 is self awareness. It's important to know your surroundings, to 0:03:58.200 --> 0:04:02.520 know your body, to know yourself, to know also that instinct, 0:04:02.520 --> 0:04:06.600 that voice so important that you have to be aware 0:04:07.040 --> 0:04:09.720 of when it's really that you're not able to do 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:12.600 something or when it's just your brain telling you you 0:04:12.640 --> 0:04:16.200 can't do something right. Start by acknowledging when your second 0:04:16.240 --> 0:04:19.320 guessing yourself is the most important thing. It is crucial 0:04:19.640 --> 0:04:23.839 to recognize those moments. And you know what I've even said, 0:04:24.480 --> 0:04:27.360 sometimes your biggest enemy could even be your friend, and 0:04:27.400 --> 0:04:29.640 it can also be your best friend too. But if 0:04:29.680 --> 0:04:31.480 there's I know of a lot of situations that I've 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:34.880 been where I've you know, have self doubt of you know, 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:36.200 can I make this happen? 0:04:36.240 --> 0:04:37.080 Will this work out? 0:04:37.279 --> 0:04:38.760 And the first thing you do is tell you tell 0:04:38.800 --> 0:04:41.280 a friend or maybe even tell a family member, and 0:04:41.320 --> 0:04:43.680 those could be the first ones to tell you how 0:04:43.720 --> 0:04:45.479 everything is not going to work out for you. Just 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:47.480 because it didn't work out for you, it doesn't mean 0:04:47.480 --> 0:04:49.240 that it's not going to work out for me. And 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:54.920 sometimes all you need is that motivation, those words of encouragement, 0:04:55.160 --> 0:04:59.240 someone to just be like, you know what that come on, 0:04:59.520 --> 0:05:00.000 push through? 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:01.880 Ooh you got this, those. 0:05:01.680 --> 0:05:04.480 Words of motivations. We feed off each other, We feed 0:05:04.520 --> 0:05:07.400 off each other's energy. So being around people who doesn't 0:05:07.400 --> 0:05:10.039 have who don't have anything positive to say, who don't 0:05:10.040 --> 0:05:13.240 have anything to add value to your dreams, goals and 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:17.200 aspiration is your first que now. I know this. Sometimes 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:19.360 for example, if you've never gone to school and you're like, 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:21.039 oh my god, tomorrow I want to be an astronaut. 0:05:21.160 --> 0:05:23.680 Okay, no, that's not gonna work. And that's not me 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:24.320 being a hater. 0:05:24.640 --> 0:05:28.280 That's not me saying, you know, trying to defeat your 0:05:28.320 --> 0:05:31.000 dreams and goals and aspiration. No. But there's certain things 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:34.520 that require certain you know, tools, there's certain steps you 0:05:34.560 --> 0:05:37.440 have to take. I get that part, But it's not 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:39.920 so much about saying no. That's not gonna happen. It's 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:43.119 more about what can we do to make that work? 0:05:43.880 --> 0:05:46.400 And yes, a lot of dreams are very ambitious and 0:05:46.440 --> 0:05:49.039 are very big, but it's more about it's not that 0:05:49.080 --> 0:05:51.839 you can't make it happen, it's how can we make 0:05:51.880 --> 0:05:54.760 it happen? What can we do to make it happen? 0:05:55.080 --> 0:05:58.600 And if you can't do it yourself, who can we call? 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:01.839 Who has the not who can we reach out to? 0:06:02.240 --> 0:06:05.440 Who can we learn from? Who can I ask questions? 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:08.800 What video can I watch? What number can I call? 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:13.400 It's more about finding the route to the solution to 0:06:13.440 --> 0:06:16.920 the problem instead of automatically finding all the reasons why 0:06:16.960 --> 0:06:20.279 it's not going to work. Does that make sense because 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:23.719 I'm a big fan of that, Like whenever something comes, 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:26.160 a project comes to me or whatever, or I want 0:06:26.200 --> 0:06:28.200 to make a business decision. Even when I started my 0:06:28.240 --> 0:06:31.479 real estate I had never done that. My mom never 0:06:31.520 --> 0:06:34.279 taught me, I didn't have anybody around me. It was 0:06:34.320 --> 0:06:37.159 more about like, I don't know how to do this. 0:06:37.520 --> 0:06:40.479 I don't have good credit. I've never bought anything, I 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:43.280 don't have a credit card, I've never even done my taxes. 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:46.120 Well back then, I don't know how to go about it. 0:06:46.400 --> 0:06:48.760 I know what the end goal is, I know what 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:51.679 my vision is. I know what I want to accomplish. 0:06:51.839 --> 0:06:54.960 Now my question is how do I get there? That 0:06:55.160 --> 0:06:58.840 is the question, how do you get there? So getting 0:06:58.839 --> 0:07:01.359 there if you have no help or no resources is 0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:04.680 let's find out who has accomplished the mission that I 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:08.200 want to accomplish. And in many occasions there might not 0:07:08.279 --> 0:07:10.760 even be anybody. You may be the first one in 0:07:10.800 --> 0:07:14.280 the history of life to try something, and that's okay too, 0:07:14.480 --> 0:07:17.960 but there has to be some guidance towards that. You know, 0:07:18.240 --> 0:07:21.680 whether you're out here watching videos on YouTube, following pages 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:23.640 on Instagram where there's a lot of free help and 0:07:23.720 --> 0:07:26.080 motivation and all these other you know, people who have 0:07:26.160 --> 0:07:28.640 done things in life who are willing to give you know, 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:32.800 free tips and points when whatever it, baby, let's not 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:34.720 say no, it's not gonna happen. 0:07:35.000 --> 0:07:37.320 Let's not say no that's not gonna work. 0:07:37.600 --> 0:07:41.160 Let's figure out how to make it happen and how 0:07:41.200 --> 0:07:43.760 to get there. Remember that it's okay to doubt yourself 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:46.360 by at the end of the day, because we were 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:49.440 none of us is perfect. We all question ourselves and 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:52.200 our capability of accomplishing things in life because we really 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:54.800 don't know what we got inside of us and how 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:57.360 far we can go till we have no other option 0:07:57.480 --> 0:07:58.160 but to get there. 0:07:58.240 --> 0:08:00.560 Does that make sense? So you know, it's okay to 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:01.440 diet yourself. 0:08:01.160 --> 0:08:04.680 But it's not okay to let that control you, to 0:08:04.800 --> 0:08:07.720 let that stop you from accomplishing your goals and dreams 0:08:07.720 --> 0:08:11.720 and aspiration. Self awareness is the key to knowing when 0:08:11.760 --> 0:08:14.920 those doubts are trying to take over your decision, and 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:25.920 that's what you can allow to happen. Now, let's also 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:29.160 talk about building your confidence. And confidence is the ultimate 0:08:29.200 --> 0:08:32.720 weapon against you know, second guessing, and it's something that 0:08:32.760 --> 0:08:34.120 we all do at some point. 0:08:33.960 --> 0:08:37.400 In life, you know. But with that being said, you 0:08:37.559 --> 0:08:38.840 have to build yourself up. 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:41.320 In many occasions, you're waiting for somebody else to come 0:08:41.320 --> 0:08:43.960 tell you that you're capable of doing this, that you're amazing, 0:08:44.040 --> 0:08:46.280 that you're smart, that you're this, and you're oh, you 0:08:46.400 --> 0:08:50.360 look at the way the scene. Nobody, nobody is going 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:53.080 to tell you what you need to hear besides yourself. 0:08:53.320 --> 0:08:54.720 Yes, your mother can motivate you. 0:08:55.000 --> 0:08:57.920 Yes, your sister, your brother, your cousin, your girlfriend, your boyfriend, whatever, 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:00.800 they can tell you how great you are, but no 0:09:00.840 --> 0:09:04.720 one can make you believe it besides yourself. Only you 0:09:04.920 --> 0:09:09.840 have the power and the control to believe in yourself. 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:13.120 And sometimes that comes from looking at yourself in the mirror, 0:09:13.120 --> 0:09:16.120 in the bathroom, by yourself, talking to yourself, having a 0:09:16.160 --> 0:09:18.760 moment for yourself, if you're in your car, and maybe 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:20.840 in your car is your happy place, like it is 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:23.679 for me, and many occasions where I cry, I talk 0:09:23.760 --> 0:09:27.640 to myself, I motivate myself, I question myself, whatever it is. 0:09:28.240 --> 0:09:30.800 The most important thing that I've noticed about successful people 0:09:30.920 --> 0:09:34.120 is that they have a very strong connection with themselves. 0:09:34.120 --> 0:09:37.360 They're very in tune with themselves, and that is being 0:09:37.400 --> 0:09:40.680 able to become your best friend, being able to inspire 0:09:40.720 --> 0:09:44.319 and motivate yourself, being able to hype yourself up, hype 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:47.840 yourself up, tell yourself how amazing you are, how good 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:51.800 you look, how confident you really are, how unique you are, 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:55.679 how powerful and how capable you are, How God has 0:09:55.720 --> 0:09:58.000 brought you and sent you into this world to make 0:09:58.040 --> 0:10:00.760 a difference. You were born with the talent, with a 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:05.040 a capability that nobody else has. You know, and if 0:10:05.040 --> 0:10:06.760 somebody else has it, they can't do it in the 0:10:06.760 --> 0:10:09.360 way that you can, because that's the amazing thing about 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:12.000 how there's eight billion human beings on this planet, but. 0:10:11.960 --> 0:10:13.120 We're all different. 0:10:13.320 --> 0:10:15.680 So only you have the power to look at yourself 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:18.200 and be like, you know what, you got this? Come on, now, 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:21.640 you got this. You're powerful, You're capable. I trust in you, 0:10:21.720 --> 0:10:24.720 I believe in you. You got to build your own confidence. 0:10:24.920 --> 0:10:26.920 And I'll tell you something else that does help me, 0:10:27.400 --> 0:10:28.960 because I'm not gonna lie. 0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:30.880 Sometimes we need a little bit of extra help. 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:34.000 And extra help can come from taking therapy if you 0:10:34.040 --> 0:10:36.000 really feel that you have to take it there, and 0:10:36.080 --> 0:10:38.920 an extra help when you financially aren't there and you 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:39.760 don't know what. 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:42.400 Resources to reach out to to build you up and 0:10:42.440 --> 0:10:43.719 help you out. 0:10:44.200 --> 0:10:47.800 The simplest thing that helped me push through during COVID 0:10:48.240 --> 0:10:52.439 during the pandemic was motivational apps. This app called Motivation 0:10:52.840 --> 0:10:54.640 and I hear it in my car while I'm driving 0:10:54.840 --> 0:10:56.920 whenever I'm down or whenever I feel like I need 0:10:56.960 --> 0:11:00.520 that extra boost because I do many jobs. I'm currently 0:11:00.520 --> 0:11:03.239 doing the Dancing with the Stars, you know, the Latin franchise, 0:11:03.559 --> 0:11:05.720 and that is taking a toll on my body. My 0:11:05.840 --> 0:11:09.400 feet are sore, they're swollen, my body hurts is aching, 0:11:09.720 --> 0:11:11.800 but that doesn't stop me from getting up and going 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:15.040 every day to my rehearsals. I'm doing, you know, another 0:11:15.120 --> 0:11:19.040 show called Mables, and that took a lot of time 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:19.560 on my day. 0:11:19.720 --> 0:11:21.360 I'm doing love and hip hop right now. 0:11:21.480 --> 0:11:24.400 I have my podcast exactly, I have my Eternal Beauty 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:26.720 by a Moto cosmetic and beauty line. I have my 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:29.600 children's book, I have my girls stuff. I have two 0:11:29.640 --> 0:11:32.400 babies under two. I have so much going on my 0:11:32.520 --> 0:11:34.720 real estate. I have so much going on that I 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:36.640 don't even know how I do it sometimes, and I'm 0:11:36.679 --> 0:11:38.880 not perfect. I wake up some days that all I 0:11:38.880 --> 0:11:40.800 want to do is cry because I don't have any 0:11:40.840 --> 0:11:43.200 time for myself. All I want to do is lay 0:11:43.240 --> 0:11:45.959 down in bed. I don't want to work anymore. I'm exhausted, 0:11:46.280 --> 0:11:48.880 like I'm only but human, and I'm also young, you know. 0:11:49.280 --> 0:11:50.760 I want to go out and have fun. I want 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:52.200 to travel. I want to do all those things with 0:11:52.240 --> 0:11:54.720 my friends, and I barely have time for friends. And 0:11:54.760 --> 0:11:57.000 even my friends, a lot of them have left me, 0:11:57.280 --> 0:11:59.080 are gone about and do their own thing, or have 0:11:59.160 --> 0:12:02.040 felt some type of way me because I'm never there 0:12:02.080 --> 0:12:04.120 to you know, hang out and be part of them. 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:07.760 But something I also learned from Michael Jordan was that 0:12:08.120 --> 0:12:11.439 in order to become successful, you have to become selfish. 0:12:11.720 --> 0:12:15.040 And I know that that sounds terrible to each his own, 0:12:15.200 --> 0:12:18.040 but you have to become selfish with your time. You 0:12:18.120 --> 0:12:20.440 have to become selfish with your focus. You have to 0:12:20.440 --> 0:12:23.120 become selfish with your drive. You have to become selfish 0:12:23.200 --> 0:12:25.679 with your body. That means that sometimes you can't eat 0:12:25.720 --> 0:12:28.920 certain things. Sometimes you can't go out. Sometimes, you know what, 0:12:29.000 --> 0:12:31.040 I can't hang out because tonight I need to focus 0:12:31.080 --> 0:12:32.880 on my vision or my goal, on my dream or 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:36.120 my aspiration. I need to put in that work today. 0:12:36.240 --> 0:12:38.920 Today I can't go out. I can be with my boyfriend, 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:40.040 I can be with my girlfriend. 0:12:40.040 --> 0:12:40.520 I can't. 0:12:40.960 --> 0:12:43.440 You have to learn in many occasions that in order 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:46.199 to become successful, that in order to accomplish your dreams, 0:12:46.280 --> 0:12:49.480 that in order to do whatever it is, you have 0:12:49.559 --> 0:12:52.480 to become selfish. You have to become driven, you have 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:58.360 to become so focused, so like zombie mode, like like vision, 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:01.560 tonal vision. And I know that is very hard, because 0:13:02.400 --> 0:13:04.360 that's why I feel like in life, we're not all 0:13:04.400 --> 0:13:06.720 meant to be successful. We're not all meant to be bossed. 0:13:06.760 --> 0:13:08.920 Some of us have to become employees, and that's just 0:13:09.120 --> 0:13:11.840 you know, the way of life. We all could have it, 0:13:12.040 --> 0:13:15.120 but we don't all have it because that's part of 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:17.960 a sacrifice that you have to do when you want 0:13:18.000 --> 0:13:21.360 to become you know, successful, and when you want to 0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:24.320 be able to achieve those goals and dreams, and part 0:13:24.360 --> 0:13:29.599 of becoming you know selfish with yourself is that confidence 0:13:29.640 --> 0:13:31.760 that you have to have, that confidence that you have 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:34.800 to build within yourself up how amazing and powerful you 0:13:34.880 --> 0:13:37.920 are that you're going to sacrifice anything and everything you 0:13:38.000 --> 0:13:42.280 have to in order to succeed and accomplish that goal. 0:13:42.360 --> 0:13:45.760 Does that make sense? Come on now, let me keep preaching. Also, 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:49.520 something that's very important is just trying to set up small, 0:13:49.920 --> 0:13:54.080 small steps towards those goals. Also, understand that it's not 0:13:54.080 --> 0:13:57.160 going to happen overnight, right, You have to be grateful 0:13:57.400 --> 0:14:00.760 for the small victories, even if it's the small victory 0:14:00.840 --> 0:14:02.800 as of like I'm going to wake up every day 0:14:02.840 --> 0:14:04.040 at five o'clock in the morning. 0:14:04.320 --> 0:14:06.880 If you have been able to accomplish that, that. 0:14:06.920 --> 0:14:09.959 Alone should make you feel like I am working towards 0:14:10.000 --> 0:14:10.600 the right direction. 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:13.280 Don't think that things are gonna happen zero to a thousand. 0:14:13.520 --> 0:14:16.480 Take baby steps towards whatever goal it is, even if 0:14:16.480 --> 0:14:18.640 it's for your body. You know what, I want to 0:14:18.679 --> 0:14:21.120 lose twenty pounds. But if you're willing to wake up 0:14:21.160 --> 0:14:23.680 every day and at some point in your day, I 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:24.800 don't believe in I don't. 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:26.200 Believe in rules and regulations. 0:14:26.400 --> 0:14:28.040 Whether it is that you work out in the morning, 0:14:28.240 --> 0:14:30.200 you work out in the afternoon, or you work out 0:14:30.240 --> 0:14:31.160 at night before. 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:31.600 You go to sleep. 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:34.960 The fact that you actually accomplish the goal of doing it, 0:14:35.480 --> 0:14:38.000 that alone should make you feel I am working myself 0:14:38.000 --> 0:14:41.240 towards the right direction. The smallest thing of like I 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:43.120 am not going to eat that cookie, I'm not eating 0:14:43.200 --> 0:14:45.800 that bread. The fact that you didn't eat it should 0:14:45.880 --> 0:14:49.360 make you feel proud of yourself. Give yourself props. You know, 0:14:50.360 --> 0:14:53.840 don't beat yourself up so hard because that will really 0:14:53.880 --> 0:14:58.280 destroy your motivation, That will really destroy your confidence. Little 0:14:58.280 --> 0:15:02.440 things start start that the small things that you accomplished, 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:05.680 cleaning your room, organizing your office, your car, you're this 0:15:05.840 --> 0:15:08.760 your that you know, signing yourself up for a class. 0:15:08.920 --> 0:15:12.320 But my thing is whatever it may be. Give yourself 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:15.960 props for the smaller accomplishments that you that you've accounted. 0:15:16.480 --> 0:15:19.840 Don't think that because you didn't become For example, I 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:23.440 love Beyonce, Can I become Beyonce tomorrow? No? You know 0:15:23.480 --> 0:15:29.640 why because it takes years of dedication of discipline. Besides talent, obviously, 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:33.120 but in many occasions, let's also talk about that talent 0:15:33.200 --> 0:15:35.880 is a beautiful thing, but also discipline. 0:15:36.000 --> 0:15:39.280 Your work ethic can sometimes destroy talent. 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:42.000 There's a lot of talented people out there that haven't 0:15:42.000 --> 0:15:44.400 been able to make it because they're not disciplined, because 0:15:44.400 --> 0:15:46.920 they don't have to work ethic because of many things. 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:50.040 But those that do may not be as talented, but 0:15:50.080 --> 0:15:52.280 will be able to accomplish all those things. Do you 0:15:52.320 --> 0:15:55.920 get what I'm saying. Good. All I'm saying is keep 0:15:55.960 --> 0:15:59.640 pushing and give yourself props for the things that you've accomplished. 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:11.120 All that goes, likee is surround yourself by people that 0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:14.640 encourage you, by people that boost up your confidence, by 0:16:14.680 --> 0:16:17.520 people that believe in you, by people that give you. You 0:16:17.320 --> 0:16:20.120 know what, here's a tip. Even your friends, the smallest 0:16:20.120 --> 0:16:22.400 little thing. If you have a business and your friends 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:24.960 are posting you supporting you, that's the type of people 0:16:24.960 --> 0:16:26.760 you have to be around. If you will have an 0:16:26.760 --> 0:16:29.520 idea concept and your friend all of a sudden decides 0:16:29.560 --> 0:16:33.040 to dm you something related to the you know, the concept, 0:16:33.040 --> 0:16:34.920 the thing that you're trying to accomplish. 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:37.640 Be thankful for that person in your life. You need 0:16:37.720 --> 0:16:38.320 people like that. 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:41.400 If you have people around you, they're full of negativity 0:16:41.440 --> 0:16:43.320 and telling you all the time why you're not going 0:16:43.360 --> 0:16:45.680 to accomplish that and why you should stop, and trying 0:16:45.680 --> 0:16:48.760 to distract you while they know that you're being focused 0:16:48.800 --> 0:16:51.720 on something and like, let's say, you know what, tonight, 0:16:51.760 --> 0:16:54.200 I can't leave because I'm studying. I'm studying and I'm 0:16:54.200 --> 0:16:56.480 doing this, And they're like, no, let's go out. 0:16:56.680 --> 0:17:00.520 May you can do it tomorrow. You you don't need 0:17:00.560 --> 0:17:01.280 that type of people. 0:17:01.560 --> 0:17:03.000 You need the type of friends and the type of 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:05.639 family and the type of boyfriend, girlfriendor whoever it may be. 0:17:05.640 --> 0:17:08.399 That's like, you know what, I respect that you know. 0:17:08.640 --> 0:17:10.440 If you can't do it tonight, we'll do it in 0:17:10.480 --> 0:17:13.399 another occasion. How can I help you? Do you need me? 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:15.800 Do you need me to help you with something? How 0:17:15.800 --> 0:17:18.320 can I be there for you? Because as much as 0:17:18.480 --> 0:17:20.600 we want people to be there for us, we also 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:23.600 have to be that friend and be that person for 0:17:23.640 --> 0:17:26.720 somebody else. Shout out, Let me preach is not just 0:17:26.800 --> 0:17:29.080 about you. By the way, the same way that you 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:32.560 want somebody to be there for you, please remember to 0:17:32.680 --> 0:17:36.800 be that same positive energy for somebody else. Okay, it 0:17:36.840 --> 0:17:40.000 could be the smallest little thing, the smallest little thing, 0:17:40.160 --> 0:17:42.639 just to let that person know that you are rooting 0:17:42.680 --> 0:17:43.080 for them. 0:17:43.440 --> 0:17:44.160 We need that. 0:17:44.440 --> 0:17:47.280 There's nothing more that can kill your confidence, your drive, 0:17:47.640 --> 0:17:50.800 your your self, love, your everything, that can even put 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:52.639 even more doubt in your mind and your body and 0:17:52.640 --> 0:17:55.840 your spirit and your soul than having a family member, 0:17:56.160 --> 0:17:59.120 a girlfriend or boyfriend, a friend, or whoever the heck 0:17:59.160 --> 0:18:02.239 it may be telling you consistently why that's not going 0:18:02.280 --> 0:18:05.280 to work. Hi, ass, so I know, don't do it. 0:18:05.480 --> 0:18:07.320 What are you talking about? That's not going to work. 0:18:07.480 --> 0:18:09.520 You don't have the money, you're not smart enough, you 0:18:09.560 --> 0:18:11.560 don't have the body, you don't have it though, you know, 0:18:11.800 --> 0:18:13.479 Oh yeah, leave me alone. 0:18:13.920 --> 0:18:15.679 You know why? Because you have to think about it 0:18:15.720 --> 0:18:18.879 this way. God or the universe. 0:18:18.560 --> 0:18:22.560 Puts things in your mind and puts visions in your 0:18:22.720 --> 0:18:25.920 mind that are meant for you to be able to accomplish. 0:18:26.200 --> 0:18:29.080 If you feel that you want to do something or 0:18:29.119 --> 0:18:32.600 that you can do something. That idea and that concept 0:18:32.880 --> 0:18:36.639 was only put in your mind for a reason. Now 0:18:36.680 --> 0:18:39.360 it's up to you to be willing to work your 0:18:39.400 --> 0:18:42.560 butt off to make it happen, whether you're capable of 0:18:42.600 --> 0:18:45.240 doing it right now or five ten years from now. 0:18:45.400 --> 0:18:48.399 But that vision was put in your mind for you 0:18:48.880 --> 0:18:51.639 because you are able to accomplish it. So if you 0:18:51.880 --> 0:18:54.760 feel that there is something that you can do but 0:18:54.840 --> 0:18:56.840 you don't know how to do it or you're scared 0:18:56.880 --> 0:19:00.280 to do it, trust me, you can do it. That's 0:19:00.320 --> 0:19:04.159 why that idea, that vision was meant and sent only 0:19:04.280 --> 0:19:08.960 exclusivity just for you. So stop doubting yourself. And sometimes 0:19:08.960 --> 0:19:12.000 you just have to take a deep breath and remind 0:19:12.040 --> 0:19:15.320 yourself that it's okay to make mistakes. That that's part 0:19:15.320 --> 0:19:17.960 of growth. That you can become better and you become 0:19:17.960 --> 0:19:21.639 better through experiences. You become better through challenges. You become 0:19:21.680 --> 0:19:25.000 better through going through hard moments in life. You only 0:19:25.080 --> 0:19:27.800 know how tough and how strong you are in life 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:32.200 when everything goes wrong. When everything goes wrong, you become creative. 0:19:32.359 --> 0:19:35.000 You figure out other avenues, other ways to go around 0:19:35.040 --> 0:19:37.960 a situation, come out of your comfort zone. If you're 0:19:38.000 --> 0:19:40.080