WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Good Not Great Date

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, you will like wholesome content is Jemie and this

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<v Speaker 1>is your second Date podcast we got.

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<v Speaker 2>I have this pie ready to put in your face.

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<v Speaker 2>You're telling me they don't need it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's kind of wholesome too. Yesterday's awkward Tuesday phone call

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<v Speaker 1>just fired up the comment. Yeah what do you see? Alexe?

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<v Speaker 3>Lots of laughs on this one. It's so wholesome. I

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<v Speaker 3>want a skittish husband, now go on, Garrett. This man's amazing,

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<v Speaker 3>so funny. By far, my all time favorite episode. Keep

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<v Speaker 3>this type coming. Oh man, this is a good one.

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<v Speaker 3>That's so cute.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so many of this great, so many green flags

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<v Speaker 1>for that relationship.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a feeling we're not going to have quite

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<v Speaker 1>as many green flags today because we have a brand

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<v Speaker 1>new second date update for you are a little rarer. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>they're harder to come by. It all starts right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Second date Update. After a good but not great first date,

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<v Speaker 2>what are your options moving forward? You could give up

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<v Speaker 2>on dating and do absolutely nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>To give out No, it's okay date okay, Yeah, just

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<v Speaker 1>a good not a great date. It's gonna push you

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<v Speaker 1>over the edge to you finally just give up.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying that's an option you could go with B

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<v Speaker 2>play the waiting game and do absolutely nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, that's the same option as a option C.

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<v Speaker 2>Make up a story in your head about how that

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<v Speaker 2>person was probably some deranged psychopath, So it's justified that

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<v Speaker 2>you ghosted them and do nothing and then do nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>But today's listener, Abby went a different route after going

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<v Speaker 2>on a good not great first date, so let's talk

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<v Speaker 2>to her about it. Abby, welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 1>I thank you, So are we gonna do that? We're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna talk to you and then do nothing?

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<v Speaker 2>Is that the Yeah? We'll get to doing nothing in

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<v Speaker 2>a bit. But first, what's the name of this good

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<v Speaker 2>not great guy? Oh, Luke, that's a good not even

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<v Speaker 2>great name.

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<v Speaker 1>What a terrible intro. I think the name lucas nice

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<v Speaker 1>like he's mad.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, And I don't want to set him up either

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<v Speaker 5>as being like terrible. I just just.

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<v Speaker 2>Call it normal then right, normal in the middle, Sure, average, Luke, Average.

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<v Speaker 2>That sounds bad.

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<v Speaker 1>Honestly though, Like right at the beginning, I'm confused why

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<v Speaker 1>you would call this guy average? The date okay and

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<v Speaker 1>actually want to go out.

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<v Speaker 2>With Yeah, most first date's just good? Yeah, successfully, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I think we need to hear more of the story,

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<v Speaker 2>So tell us about how you and Luke met and

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<v Speaker 2>what you did for your date.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean he's a good dude. He has a good job.

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<v Speaker 5>He works in pharmaceutical industry, and I don't work in

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<v Speaker 5>the same industry, but I know people who work in it,

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<v Speaker 5>and kind of I have some clients that kind of

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<v Speaker 5>work in it. So like we connected, we have something

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<v Speaker 5>to talk about.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that how you guys met through mutual friends or

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<v Speaker 1>did you meet him online? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>No, we met on the dating app okay, and we

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<v Speaker 5>figured out that we live in the same part of town.

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<v Speaker 5>There's a kind of popular brewery, so we decided to

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<v Speaker 5>kind of just head there since it was close to

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<v Speaker 5>both of us.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it all sounds normal. Yeah, really good.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, average, trying to avoid that word. Man.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, how did the brewery go?

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<v Speaker 5>It was nice, Like we chatted, we had stuff to

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<v Speaker 5>talk about. You know, it didn't blow me away, but

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<v Speaker 5>that's okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, like what you mean by that is

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<v Speaker 2>like he checked all the boxes. He's got a good job,

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<v Speaker 2>easy convo, but nothing like stood out, is what you're

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<v Speaker 2>trying to say.

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<v Speaker 5>No, No, it was pretty normal, and I think so

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<v Speaker 5>normal that it kind of made me hesitate. After I

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<v Speaker 5>didn't reach out to him other than like, thank you

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<v Speaker 5>for the date, but you know, I didn't set anything

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<v Speaker 5>up afterwards.

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<v Speaker 1>Isn't just a quick thank you for the date like

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<v Speaker 1>a sign that you don't want anymore? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>It depends, I would say, because I'm like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>thank you. That was awesome. But I guess that's hard

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<v Speaker 2>to read over text, right, Yeah, I mean, was he

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<v Speaker 2>responding back to you and trying to initiate a second date? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>He did ask me out and I kind of left

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<v Speaker 5>him on red.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh so how long ago was that?

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<v Speaker 4>This was two weeks ago? Okay, okay, talking to us.

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<v Speaker 2>What's happened since then?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, okay, So there was a weird thing that happened,

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<v Speaker 5>and so that's why I wanted to chat. So after that,

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<v Speaker 5>I was a little unclear about Luke and I went

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<v Speaker 5>on a different date the following week and we went

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<v Speaker 5>to the same brewery.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess who was there, Oh my god, lou was

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<v Speaker 1>also there on a date.

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<v Speaker 5>Luke was also there on a date.

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<v Speaker 4>Now, well, I mean, yeah, awkward, but he's not doing

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<v Speaker 4>anything wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>No, nobody's doing it. She just ghosted it, and now

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<v Speaker 1>she's back at the same room with a new date.

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<v Speaker 2>What was the interaction between you two, Like, was there

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<v Speaker 2>an interaction? Uh?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I mean we saw each other. We just kind

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<v Speaker 5>of like waved and I told the date, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>it's just a friend of mine.

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<v Speaker 4>Smiley a little awkward.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, did you think he was cuter when he was

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<v Speaker 1>sitting with another girl? I mean, honestly, yeah, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>to be honest, I was kind of like, oh, and.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm guessing your date didn't go that good.

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<v Speaker 2>How was the date with the new guy?

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<v Speaker 5>Fine?

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<v Speaker 1>Nice, we'll call him in two weeks after this.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, clearly you were eyeing Luke over in the corner

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<v Speaker 2>with his other date and something was happening with you emotionally.

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<v Speaker 1>Well.

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<v Speaker 5>I think I also didn't have anything to compare it with.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm kind of new back into the dating pool, okay,

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<v Speaker 5>and Luke was the first person I had dated at.

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<v Speaker 2>That particular brewery.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like when you're in a competition and you have

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<v Speaker 1>to go first, and the judges score you lower because

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<v Speaker 1>they don't know what else is coming up next. They

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<v Speaker 1>want to leave some room. Yeah yeah, and then he

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<v Speaker 1>got screwed in the judging, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that how you felt?

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<v Speaker 5>Maybe maybe maybe that's him?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah conclusions. Okay, So where is your head at now?

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<v Speaker 2>With Luke and this new guy.

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<v Speaker 5>I was kind of whatever, and it made me think

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<v Speaker 5>that Luke might be a good match. Actually, so I him.

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<v Speaker 2>Luke was also whatever, but he's less whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, so you texted Luke.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, so I texted him, was just like, haha, I

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<v Speaker 5>was funny, you know, just like kind of laughed it off,

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<v Speaker 5>made a joke, and then said that we should hang

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<v Speaker 5>out again. And he has not responded.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because you didn't respond to him when he said that.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I know, but now maybe.

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<v Speaker 4>You don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, sounds like you want what you can't have exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>You can't have him though, that's the thing. Well, we

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<v Speaker 2>don't know. Maybe Luke has moved on. Maybe Luke actually

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<v Speaker 2>did have a good time with the new girl that.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, Okay, Okay, I hope you were like

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<v Speaker 1>laughing a lot and looking like you were having lots

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<v Speaker 1>of fun on your other dates.

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<v Speaker 2>But not too much fun, or else Luke will be like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>she really is having a great time with that other guy.

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<v Speaker 1>Kind of joking jealous.

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<v Speaker 2>With me anyway? Who says dating plays mine games on everybody,

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<v Speaker 2>not I. So we're gonna come back. We're gonna call

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<v Speaker 2>this good not great guy Luke and hopefully convince him

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<v Speaker 2>to give you a second chance.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, we won't use that as his nickname, we promise.

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<v Speaker 2>No, we'll come up with something better and do it

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<v Speaker 2>with your second date update right after this hold on

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<v Speaker 2>second date update. What's the famous saying you don't have

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<v Speaker 2>to outrun the bear, you just have to outrun the

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<v Speaker 2>other guy. And that's kind of how our listener Abby

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<v Speaker 2>decided she likes a dude named Luke because she went

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<v Speaker 2>on two average dates with two average guys. But it

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't until after she met the second one she realized, actually,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe guy number one, Luke was slightly better. I pick

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<v Speaker 2>him instead.

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<v Speaker 1>Who's the bear in this analogy?

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<v Speaker 2>Brook? Obviously you're the bear, okay, and you're gonna maul

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<v Speaker 2>the slower man.

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<v Speaker 1>I always take the weakest link, you always do.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's how Abby ended up here looking for another

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<v Speaker 2>chance with guy number one. But who knows, maybe after

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<v Speaker 2>this she'll change your mind again and next week we'll

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<v Speaker 2>be calling average guy number two. Do you want us

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<v Speaker 2>to keep a spot open for you Abby next week

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<v Speaker 2>just in case.

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<v Speaker 5>No, I'm gonna stick with.

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<v Speaker 2>Comit like average week Sundays. Yeah, on the weekend, whole

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<v Speaker 2>lineup of average men for you to choose for.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess it's pretty understanding though, Like you're back into

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<v Speaker 1>the dating world. You kind of want to see what's

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<v Speaker 1>out there a little bit, and it just happened to

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<v Speaker 1>be your very first one was better than you realize.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but that's a big danger of playing the field

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<v Speaker 2>right now in modern dating is there always seems to

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<v Speaker 2>be a better option on the other side of the fense.

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<v Speaker 1>For you, Jeff, it hasn't been forever.

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<v Speaker 2>What's wrong to committing to the first man who approaches you? Actually? Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe you keep that as an option for the next

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<v Speaker 2>guy you meet. Okay, Okay, Okay. For now, we'll focus

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<v Speaker 2>on Luke and see if he picks up the phone.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna dial his number right now. Lo Hey, is

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<v Speaker 2>this Luke?

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<v Speaker 4>Who's it?

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<v Speaker 2>My name is Jeff. I'm on a radio show called

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<v Speaker 2>Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Luke.

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<v Speaker 4>This is this is real This is this is real life.

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<v Speaker 2>You're asleep right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Dream.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you're on the radio right now. Is that okay?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean depends on what what you need from me,

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<v Speaker 4>but sure, well understandable.

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<v Speaker 2>All we want to do is gently pry into your

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<v Speaker 2>personal life.

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<v Speaker 1>What sounds fun.

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<v Speaker 2>It's more fun than it sounds. It's a segment we

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<v Speaker 2>do called Second Date Update.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, Uh, you're the bear.

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<v Speaker 1>You're the bear in this analogy right now, Jeff, just

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<v Speaker 1>so you know the analogy.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, what's going on?

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<v Speaker 2>This is a segment where we try to help listeners

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<v Speaker 2>with their dating life. If they've gone out with somebody

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<v Speaker 2>and they're not getting a call back, we can try

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<v Speaker 2>and help figure out the reason why. And the girl

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<v Speaker 2>who reached out to us about you is Abby, like

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<v Speaker 2>two weeks ago.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, okay, are you upset with Abby?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not that upset anymore. I mean that makes sense,

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<v Speaker 4>but you were, well, yeah, did she tell you what happened? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm assuming you're talking about when you two ran into

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<v Speaker 2>each other again like a week later at the same brewery.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh really, I think he's talking about the text messages

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<v Speaker 1>that she didn't answer.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean both were gut punches.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, we're trying to do some investigative digging on Abby's

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<v Speaker 2>behalf because she's the last person that texted you and

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<v Speaker 2>you haven't responded to her.

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<v Speaker 4>Now how she didn't respond to me first?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so it is one of those make her feel

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<v Speaker 1>what you felt moment.

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<v Speaker 2>I told you mind game's not involved in dating at all.

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<v Speaker 4>She might be upset too because of the guy. Is

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<v Speaker 4>she upset because of the I mean I talked to

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<v Speaker 4>the guy in the bathroom?

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<v Speaker 1>Wait what her guy?

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<v Speaker 2>Like her date?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah? I ran into the guy in the bathroom like

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<v Speaker 4>the guy she was on the date with, and.

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<v Speaker 1>That what happened? What did you say?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean? I just told him the truth? You know,

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<v Speaker 4>I told him, if you go on a nice date,

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<v Speaker 4>she's going to ghost you. Probably he got ghosted. Why

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<v Speaker 4>wouldn't I tell the guy of the truth. I didn't

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<v Speaker 4>go in there to tell him. He just happened to

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<v Speaker 4>be there.

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<v Speaker 3>But he didn't ask you.

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<v Speaker 1>I know you would have appreciated it if somebody did that.

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<v Speaker 4>For you, more of a bro code kind of thing.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't okay, you you warned this other guy that

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<v Speaker 2>he was going to run into problems with Abby.

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<v Speaker 4>If he's not problem, it's just ghosting.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it's not. It doesn't even matter because she's not

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<v Speaker 1>interested in that guy. Like, honestly, I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if she responded to him or not. But

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<v Speaker 1>like she doesn't like that guy, she likes you.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, does she really? Come on?

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<v Speaker 1>She texted you and asked you to go out.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, the whole reason that she reached out to

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<v Speaker 2>our show to call you was because there is genuine

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<v Speaker 2>interest in what you two had going on.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I thought she was just upset because of what

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<v Speaker 4>I told the guy. I didn't I thought she knew that.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it didn't sound like she was upset because she

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<v Speaker 2>didn't bring that up to us. I don't even think

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<v Speaker 2>she knows that happened.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, I guess. I mean, he

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<v Speaker 4>didn't say anything.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, here's the thing, now, she does know about it,

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<v Speaker 2>because the way this works is we have Abby quietly

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<v Speaker 2>listening on the other line, waiting to talk to you.

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<v Speaker 4>Hey, you're telling me, you're telling that's.

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<v Speaker 1>That's Abby?

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<v Speaker 4>Say Hi, Are you joking right now?

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<v Speaker 2>No? No, I'm sorry, But why don't you talk to her?

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<v Speaker 2>By the way, Yeah, that's all right.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm actually wondering if you're the one that's joking. Are

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<v Speaker 5>you being serious? So you talk to my date? Why

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<v Speaker 5>would you tell him that I was going.

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<v Speaker 4>To ghost him? Well, didn't you ghost in?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean I haven't exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean you obviously told him that because that's what

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<v Speaker 1>you did to him.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, but i mean, first of all, it's not of

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<v Speaker 5>no Offensely, it's not that's not your business, and I'm

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<v Speaker 5>genuinely I would do it because I'm interested in going

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<v Speaker 5>out with you again.

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<v Speaker 4>I have to ask, are you planning on seeing him again?

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<v Speaker 4>I guess you're calling on the radio about me.

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<v Speaker 5>No, I'm not going to see this other guy. And yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>I reached out to the radio because look like I'm

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<v Speaker 5>new to this and I liked you, and I get

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<v Speaker 5>a lot of messages on the dating apps. And I'm

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<v Speaker 5>not like saying that to like toot my own horn,

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<v Speaker 5>but I'm realizing. I'm realizing that a good first date

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<v Speaker 5>doesn't have always have to be like sparkled and magic

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<v Speaker 5>and great, and I think it's a great building block.

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<v Speaker 5>And so I was interested in you.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean that's nice, But like, if you're ghosting him again,

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<v Speaker 4>this is a pattern. No, if she sees him on

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<v Speaker 4>a date with someone else, you'll text him again.

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<v Speaker 1>She's only been in the dating world yet. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if she's even been in it long

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<v Speaker 1>enough to be a.

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<v Speaker 4>P learn not to ghost eventually, Like, you know what,

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<v Speaker 4>that's that's true. I guess you've seen sincere about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, okay. I mean there's kind of an awkwardness happening

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<v Speaker 2>between you two, Like is this what the conversation on

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<v Speaker 2>your guys' date was like? Because now I can kind

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<v Speaker 2>of understand what you were saying or some downs? Yeah, okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I have an okay time.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you can at least tell him that you're

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<v Speaker 1>not ghosting him anymore, because this counsels out that ghost

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<v Speaker 1>you texted him.

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, hey yeah, so go ahead.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, look like I'm realizing something. So here, I

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<v Speaker 5>should write this other guy and just say thank you.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't think it's a good fit.

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<v Speaker 1>That's good look at that learning from mistakes?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I am genuine I'm being on it here.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think of that? Bro? Do you believe her?

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<v Speaker 4>Luke? I believe her. I think my expectations are still

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<v Speaker 4>going to be low. If that's okay with you should

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<v Speaker 4>be Oh.

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<v Speaker 2>What a romantic thing to say.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so good. I would love low expectations.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, I might expect absolutely nothing from you going forward.

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<v Speaker 1>You can impress him with anything.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm gonna cry now that we've set the bar

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<v Speaker 2>way way down. We would like to offer to send

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<v Speaker 2>you to on another date, and we would pay for it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna give the option to Luke first, since you're

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<v Speaker 2>the person that we were calling.

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<v Speaker 4>Buddy, I will say yes, but I have to say

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<v Speaker 4>I expectations are low, and I expect you to ghost

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<v Speaker 4>me after the second day.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, is it disappointing if she doesn't now, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>we can only go up from here.

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<v Speaker 2>That's there. You go, Abby, you scored a date with Luke.

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<v Speaker 2>This will be the only time a high five a

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<v Speaker 2>date and it'll be a good thing. Yeah, it will

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<v Speaker 2>be if you still want it, that is, are you

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<v Speaker 2>still interested? Don't change your mind now or have you

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<v Speaker 2>gone back to guy number two again?

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<v Speaker 5>No? No, no, I'm interested in Luke. I want to go

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<v Speaker 5>on another date.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, same brewery for a third time in a row.

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<v Speaker 2>You're going to run into the other guy.

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<v Speaker 1>That bartender is gonna be like, what is happening?

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<v Speaker 2>Looking Jeffrey in the morning. I gotta say I'm kind

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<v Speaker 2>of proud of Abby on that one, because she had

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<v Speaker 2>every right to be upset after learning Luke had talked

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<v Speaker 2>to her date in the bathroom. She totally could have

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<v Speaker 2>changed her mind, but no, she stuck to her guns

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<v Speaker 2>and said, I don't care if Luke is bad mouthing

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<v Speaker 2>me behind my back to the other guys that I'm dating.

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<v Speaker 2>I committed to him early on and I am sticking

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<v Speaker 2>with it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she really did.

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<v Speaker 2>I hate to say he didn't bad mouth, because he

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<v Speaker 2>kind of did, but he was just like, hey, she

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<v Speaker 2>didn't call me back, just a warning, like is that yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>But finally the truth, finally someone said, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>you're right. I shouldn't have done that. She even said

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<v Speaker 1>she's gonna tell the other guys she's not interested. Didn't No, guy,

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<v Speaker 1>bathroom talk is like that each other's.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, our backs, We got each other's fronts. It gets

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<v Speaker 2>crazy in there when together. Sometimes we're not actually talking,

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<v Speaker 2>we're just having each other's backsh and it's a good time.

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<v Speaker 2>All I'm asking, though, is blind loyalty too much to ask?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, you should be blindly loyal to anyone?

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