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Speaker 1: Hey, you will like wholesome content is Jemie and this

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Speaker 1: is your second Date podcast we got.

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Speaker 2: I have this pie ready to put in your face.

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Speaker 2: You're telling me they don't need it.

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Speaker 1: That's kind of wholesome too. Yesterday's awkward Tuesday phone call

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Speaker 1: just fired up the comment. Yeah what do you see? Alexe?

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Speaker 3: Lots of laughs on this one. It's so wholesome. I

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Speaker 3: want a skittish husband, now go on, Garrett. This man's amazing,

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Speaker 3: so funny. By far, my all time favorite episode. Keep

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Speaker 3: this type coming. Oh man, this is a good one.

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Speaker 3: That's so cute.

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Speaker 1: It's so many of this great, so many green flags

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Speaker 1: for that relationship.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I have a feeling we're not going to have quite

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Speaker 1: as many green flags today because we have a brand

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Speaker 1: new second date update for you are a little rarer. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: they're harder to come by. It all starts right now.

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Speaker 2: Second date Update. After a good but not great first date,

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Speaker 2: what are your options moving forward? You could give up

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Speaker 2: on dating and do absolutely nothing.

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Speaker 1: To give out No, it's okay date okay, Yeah, just

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Speaker 1: a good not a great date. It's gonna push you

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Speaker 1: over the edge to you finally just give up.

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Speaker 2: I'm saying that's an option you could go with B

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Speaker 2: play the waiting game and do absolutely nothing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's the same option as a option C.

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Speaker 2: Make up a story in your head about how that

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Speaker 2: person was probably some deranged psychopath, So it's justified that

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Speaker 2: you ghosted them and do nothing and then do nothing.

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Speaker 2: But today's listener, Abby went a different route after going

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Speaker 2: on a good not great first date, so let's talk

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Speaker 2: to her about it. Abby, welcome to the show.

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Speaker 1: I thank you, So are we gonna do that? We're

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Speaker 1: gonna talk to you and then do nothing?

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Speaker 2: Is that the Yeah? We'll get to doing nothing in

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Speaker 2: a bit. But first, what's the name of this good

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Speaker 2: not great guy? Oh, Luke, that's a good not even

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Speaker 2: great name.

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Speaker 1: What a terrible intro. I think the name lucas nice

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Speaker 5: Yeah, And I don't want to set him up either

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Speaker 5: as being like terrible. I just just.

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Speaker 2: Call it normal then right, normal in the middle, Sure, average, Luke, Average.

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Speaker 2: That sounds bad.

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Speaker 1: Honestly though, Like right at the beginning, I'm confused why

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Speaker 2: With Yeah, most first date's just good? Yeah, successfully, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think we need to hear more of the story,

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Speaker 2: So tell us about how you and Luke met and

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Speaker 2: what you did for your date.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I mean he's a good dude. He has a good job.

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Speaker 5: He works in pharmaceutical industry, and I don't work in

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: Is that how you guys met through mutual friends or

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Speaker 1: did you meet him online? Yeah?

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Speaker 5: No, we met on the dating app okay, and we

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Speaker 5: figured out that we live in the same part of town.

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Speaker 5: There's a kind of popular brewery, so we decided to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it all sounds normal. Yeah, really good.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, average, trying to avoid that word. Man.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, how did the brewery go?

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Speaker 5: It was nice, Like we chatted, we had stuff to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, like what you mean by that is

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Speaker 5: No, No, it was pretty normal, and I think so

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Speaker 1: Isn't just a quick thank you for the date like

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Speaker 1: a sign that you don't want anymore? I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It depends, I would say, because I'm like, oh my god,

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Speaker 5: He did ask me out and I kind of left

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Speaker 1: Oh so how long ago was that?

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Speaker 2: What's happened since then?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, So there was a weird thing that happened,

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Speaker 1: I guess who was there, Oh my god, lou was

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Speaker 5: Luke was also there on a date.

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Speaker 4: Now, well, I mean, yeah, awkward, but he's not doing

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Speaker 1: No, nobody's doing it. She just ghosted it, and now

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean we saw each other. We just kind

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Speaker 4: Smiley a little awkward.

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Speaker 1: Wait, did you think he was cuter when he was

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Speaker 3: I'm guessing your date didn't go that good.

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Speaker 2: How was the date with the new guy?

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Speaker 1: Nice, we'll call him in two weeks after this.

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Speaker 2: Okay, clearly you were eyeing Luke over in the corner

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Speaker 1: Well.

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Speaker 5: I think I also didn't have anything to compare it with.

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Speaker 5: I'm kind of new back into the dating pool, okay,

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Speaker 5: and Luke was the first person I had dated at.

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Speaker 2: That particular brewery.

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Speaker 1: It's like when you're in a competition and you have

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Speaker 2: Is that how you felt?

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Speaker 5: Maybe maybe maybe that's him?

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Speaker 2: Yeah conclusions. Okay, So where is your head at now?

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Speaker 5: I was kind of whatever, and it made me think

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Speaker 2: Luke was also whatever, but he's less whatever.

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Speaker 1: Wait, so you texted Luke.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so I texted him, was just like, haha, I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because you didn't respond to him when he said that.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I know, but now maybe.

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Speaker 4: You don't know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, sounds like you want what you can't have exactly.

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Speaker 2: You can't have him though, that's the thing. Well, we

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Speaker 2: don't know. Maybe Luke has moved on. Maybe Luke actually

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, Okay, Okay, I hope you were like

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Speaker 2: But not too much fun, or else Luke will be like, oh,

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Speaker 2: she really is having a great time with that other guy.

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Speaker 1: Kind of joking jealous.

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Speaker 2: With me anyway? Who says dating plays mine games on everybody,

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Speaker 2: not I. So we're gonna come back. We're gonna call

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Speaker 1: Yes, we won't use that as his nickname, we promise.

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Speaker 2: No, we'll come up with something better and do it

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Speaker 2: with your second date update right after this hold on

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Speaker 2: second date update. What's the famous saying you don't have

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Speaker 2: to outrun the bear, you just have to outrun the

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Speaker 2: other guy. And that's kind of how our listener Abby

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Speaker 2: on two average dates with two average guys. But it

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Speaker 2: wasn't until after she met the second one she realized, actually,

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Speaker 2: maybe guy number one, Luke was slightly better. I pick

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Speaker 1: Who's the bear in this analogy?

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Speaker 2: Brook? Obviously you're the bear, okay, and you're gonna maul

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Speaker 1: I always take the weakest link, you always do.

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Speaker 2: But that's how Abby ended up here looking for another

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Speaker 5: No, I'm gonna stick with.

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Speaker 2: Comit like average week Sundays. Yeah, on the weekend, whole

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Speaker 1: I guess it's pretty understanding though, Like you're back into

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's a big danger of playing the field

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Speaker 2: right now in modern dating is there always seems to

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Speaker 2: be a better option on the other side of the fense.

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Speaker 1: For you, Jeff, it hasn't been forever.

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Speaker 2: What's wrong to committing to the first man who approaches you? Actually? Okay,

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Speaker 2: maybe you keep that as an option for the next

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna dial his number right now. Lo Hey, is

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Speaker 2: this Luke?

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Speaker 4: Who's it?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jeff. I'm on a radio show called

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Speaker 2: Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.

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Speaker 1: Luke.

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Speaker 4: This is this is real This is this is real life.

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Speaker 2: You're asleep right now.

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Speaker 1: Dream.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're on the radio right now. Is that okay?

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Speaker 4: I mean depends on what what you need from me,

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Speaker 4: but sure, well understandable.

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Speaker 2: All we want to do is gently pry into your

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Speaker 1: What sounds fun.

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Speaker 2: It's more fun than it sounds. It's a segment we

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Speaker 4: Okay, Uh, you're the bear.

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Speaker 1: You're the bear in this analogy right now, Jeff, just

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Speaker 1: so you know the analogy.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, what's going on?

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Speaker 2: This is a segment where we try to help listeners

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, okay, are you upset with Abby?

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Speaker 4: I'm not that upset anymore. I mean that makes sense,

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Speaker 4: but you were, well, yeah, did she tell you what happened? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I'm assuming you're talking about when you two ran into

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Speaker 1: Oh really, I think he's talking about the text messages

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Speaker 4: I mean both were gut punches.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we're trying to do some investigative digging on Abby's

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Speaker 2: behalf because she's the last person that texted you and

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Speaker 4: Now how she didn't respond to me first?

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Speaker 1: Okay, so it is one of those make her feel

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Speaker 2: I told you mind game's not involved in dating at all.

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Speaker 4: She might be upset too because of the guy. Is

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Speaker 4: she upset because of the I mean I talked to

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Speaker 1: Wait what her guy?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? I ran into the guy in the bathroom like

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Speaker 4: the guy she was on the date with, and.

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Speaker 1: That what happened? What did you say?

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Speaker 4: I mean? I just told him the truth? You know,

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Speaker 4: I told him, if you go on a nice date,

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Speaker 4: she's going to ghost you. Probably he got ghosted. Why

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Speaker 4: wouldn't I tell the guy of the truth. I didn't

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Speaker 3: But he didn't ask you.

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Speaker 1: I know you would have appreciated it if somebody did that.

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Speaker 4: For you, more of a bro code kind of thing.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't okay, you you warned this other guy that

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Speaker 4: If he's not problem, it's just ghosting.

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Speaker 1: Well, it's not. It doesn't even matter because she's not

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Speaker 4: Yeah, does she really? Come on?

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Speaker 1: She texted you and asked you to go out.

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Speaker 2: I mean, the whole reason that she reached out to

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I thought she was just upset because of what

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Speaker 4: I told the guy. I didn't I thought she knew that.

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Speaker 2: Well, it didn't sound like she was upset because she

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, I guess. I mean, he

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Speaker 2: Well, here's the thing, now, she does know about it,

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Speaker 2: because the way this works is we have Abby quietly

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Speaker 4: Hey, you're telling me, you're telling that's.

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Speaker 1: That's Abby?

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Speaker 4: Say Hi, Are you joking right now?

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Speaker 2: No? No, I'm sorry, But why don't you talk to her?

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Speaker 5: I'm actually wondering if you're the one that's joking. Are

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Speaker 5: you being serious? So you talk to my date? Why

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Speaker 5: would you tell him that I was going.

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Speaker 4: To ghost him? Well, didn't you ghost in?

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Speaker 5: I mean I haven't exactly.

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Speaker 1: I mean you obviously told him that because that's what

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Speaker 5: Okay, but i mean, first of all, it's not of

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Speaker 5: no Offensely, it's not that's not your business, and I'm

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Speaker 5: genuinely I would do it because I'm interested in going

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Speaker 4: I have to ask, are you planning on seeing him again?

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Speaker 4: I guess you're calling on the radio about me.

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Speaker 5: No, I'm not going to see this other guy. And yeah,

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Speaker 5: I reached out to the radio because look like I'm

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Speaker 5: a lot of messages on the dating apps. And I'm

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Speaker 5: not like saying that to like toot my own horn,

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Speaker 5: but I'm realizing. I'm realizing that a good first date

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Speaker 5: doesn't have always have to be like sparkled and magic

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Speaker 5: and great, and I think it's a great building block.

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Speaker 5: And so I was interested in you.

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Speaker 4: I mean that's nice, But like, if you're ghosting him again,

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Speaker 4: this is a pattern. No, if she sees him on

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Speaker 4: a date with someone else, you'll text him again.

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Speaker 1: She's only been in the dating world yet. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if she's even been in it long

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Speaker 4: P learn not to ghost eventually, Like, you know what,

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Speaker 4: that's that's true. I guess you've seen sincere about it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay. I mean there's kind of an awkwardness happening

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Speaker 2: between you two, Like is this what the conversation on

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Speaker 2: your guys' date was like? Because now I can kind

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Speaker 2: of understand what you were saying or some downs? Yeah, okay, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I have an okay time.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you can at least tell him that you're

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Speaker 1: not ghosting him anymore, because this counsels out that ghost

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Speaker 1: you texted him.

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Speaker 2: And yeah, hey yeah, so go ahead.

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Speaker 5: I mean, look like I'm realizing something. So here, I

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Speaker 5: should write this other guy and just say thank you.

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Speaker 5: I don't think it's a good fit.

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Speaker 1: That's good look at that learning from mistakes?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I am genuine I'm being on it here.

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Speaker 2: What do you think of that? Bro? Do you believe her?

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Speaker 4: Luke? I believe her. I think my expectations are still

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Speaker 4: going to be low. If that's okay with you should

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Speaker 4: be Oh.

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Speaker 2: What a romantic thing to say.

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Speaker 1: That's so good. I would love low expectations.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I might expect absolutely nothing from you going forward.

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Speaker 1: You can impress him with anything.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gonna cry now that we've set the bar

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Speaker 2: way way down. We would like to offer to send

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Speaker 2: you to on another date, and we would pay for it.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna give the option to Luke first, since you're

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Speaker 2: the person that we were calling.

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Speaker 4: Buddy, I will say yes, but I have to say

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Speaker 4: I expectations are low, and I expect you to ghost

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Speaker 4: me after the second day.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, is it disappointing if she doesn't now, Hey,

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Speaker 1: we can only go up from here.

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Speaker 2: That's there. You go, Abby, you scored a date with Luke.

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Speaker 2: This will be the only time a high five a

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Speaker 2: date and it'll be a good thing. Yeah, it will

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Speaker 2: be if you still want it, that is, are you

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Speaker 5: No? No, no, I'm interested in Luke. I want to go

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Speaker 5: on another date.

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Speaker 2: Right, same brewery for a third time in a row.

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Speaker 2: You're going to run into the other guy.

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Speaker 1: That bartender is gonna be like, what is happening?

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Speaker 2: Looking Jeffrey in the morning. I gotta say I'm kind

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Speaker 2: of proud of Abby on that one, because she had

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Speaker 2: every right to be upset after learning Luke had talked

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Speaker 2: to her date in the bathroom. She totally could have

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Speaker 2: changed her mind, but no, she stuck to her guns

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Speaker 2: and said, I don't care if Luke is bad mouthing

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Speaker 2: I committed to him early on and I am sticking

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she really did.

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Speaker 2: I hate to say he didn't bad mouth, because he

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Speaker 2: kind of did, but he was just like, hey, she

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Speaker 2: didn't call me back, just a warning, like is that yeah?

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Speaker 1: But finally the truth, finally someone said, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: you're right. I shouldn't have done that. She even said

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Speaker 1: she's gonna tell the other guys she's not interested. Didn't No, guy,

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Speaker 1: bathroom talk is like that each other's.

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Speaker 2: Oh, our backs, We got each other's fronts. It gets

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Speaker 2: crazy in there when together. Sometimes we're not actually talking,

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Speaker 2: we're just having each other's backsh and it's a good time.

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Speaker 2: All I'm asking, though, is blind loyalty too much to ask?

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Speaker 1: Yes, you should be blindly loyal to anyone?

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Speaker 1: what they're in for.

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