1 00:00:05,640 --> 00:00:09,160 Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome back to the Psychology of Your Twenties, 2 00:00:09,680 --> 00:00:11,960 Speaker 1: the podcast where we talk through some of the big 3 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:15,880 Speaker 1: life changes and transitions of our twenties and what they 4 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:24,800 Speaker 1: mean for our psychology. Hello everybody, Welcome back to the show. 5 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:29,400 Speaker 1: Welcome back to the podcast. New listeners, old listeners, wherever 6 00:00:29,440 --> 00:00:32,360 Speaker 1: you are in the world, it is so great to 7 00:00:32,400 --> 00:00:36,800 Speaker 1: have you here. Back for another episode Today. On the agenda, 8 00:00:36,960 --> 00:00:40,400 Speaker 1: we have a highly requested episode from all you listeners 9 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:43,879 Speaker 1: out there. I ran a poll on my Instagram the 10 00:00:43,960 --> 00:00:47,400 Speaker 1: other day at that psychology podcast shameless plug if you 11 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:50,240 Speaker 1: want to give us a follow, and I essentially asked 12 00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:53,280 Speaker 1: what do you want to hear? Overwhelmingly you all wanted 13 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:56,640 Speaker 1: to hear about the psychology of Lucky Girl syndrome. And 14 00:00:57,320 --> 00:01:00,240 Speaker 1: guess what we are going to do it. We are 15 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:03,640 Speaker 1: going to dive into all of the nitty gritty science 16 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 1: and psychology of this trend. And spoiler alert, there are 17 00:01:07,720 --> 00:01:10,600 Speaker 1: a lot of theories to talk about today, so many 18 00:01:10,600 --> 00:01:14,840 Speaker 1: more than I anticipated. I think Lucky Girl syndrome has 19 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:18,800 Speaker 1: been doing the rounds across TikTok and Instagram in the 20 00:01:18,840 --> 00:01:21,920 Speaker 1: past few months. I am sure we have all seen 21 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:26,520 Speaker 1: viral videos of people recounting all of the good things 22 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 1: that have happened to them. The job offers the unexpected 23 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 1: fifty dollar note on the ground, free coffees, new love 24 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:36,880 Speaker 1: interests that have started to crop up once they've adopted 25 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:41,399 Speaker 1: this mindset that they are a lucky person. But how 26 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:45,960 Speaker 1: much proof is there that positive affirmations like the universe 27 00:01:46,160 --> 00:01:50,400 Speaker 1: is working in my favor and positive thinking actually creates 28 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:54,520 Speaker 1: tangible changes in our lives. Well, that is where the 29 00:01:54,560 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 1: psychology comes in. I think what sometimes bothers me about 30 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:01,960 Speaker 1: this trend is all the people putting it down to 31 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 1: luck or manifestation. We are here to bust that myth 32 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:12,880 Speaker 1: today by providing some pretty interesting explanations behind the workings 33 00:02:12,919 --> 00:02:16,040 Speaker 1: of lucky girl syndrome and all that comes with it. 34 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:20,960 Speaker 1: We are going to examine theories like self fulfilling prophecies, 35 00:02:21,200 --> 00:02:26,920 Speaker 1: confirmation bias, the external versus internal locus of control, the 36 00:02:26,919 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 1: Pygmalion theory, and even dive into some of our brain 37 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:37,600 Speaker 1: anatomy to explain why this idea of positive and lucky 38 00:02:37,680 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 1: manifestation may actually have some evidence behind it. So come 39 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:45,200 Speaker 1: along for the journey. We're going to reveal a lot 40 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:47,720 Speaker 1: of the truth and of course, the psychology behind this 41 00:02:47,880 --> 00:02:51,800 Speaker 1: trend and what it actually means for our lives. I 42 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:55,640 Speaker 1: will acknowledge there is also a dark side to lucky 43 00:02:55,639 --> 00:02:59,240 Speaker 1: girl syndrome. I don't think we can discuss this phrase 44 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:04,639 Speaker 1: or this without also talking about privilege, and that may 45 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 1: be controversial, but I do think that at a brief 46 00:03:07,800 --> 00:03:11,360 Speaker 1: glance of the most popular videos associated with this trend, 47 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 1: we will primarily see people who are very attractive, very wealthy, 48 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 1: well off, and healthy. And some of the controversy of 49 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:25,720 Speaker 1: this trend is that manifestation sometimes ignores things like wealth 50 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 1: and privilege in favor of a simple explanation, so I 51 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 1: think we should definitely proceed with caution. We will talk 52 00:03:33,200 --> 00:03:36,920 Speaker 1: about that later. This is probably one of my favorite 53 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:39,360 Speaker 1: episodes that I have ever done. I know I am 54 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:44,600 Speaker 1: setting the expectations high from the outset, but wow, when 55 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 1: I first started researching this, I had no idea what 56 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:52,320 Speaker 1: I would find, and it has blown my mind. So 57 00:03:52,400 --> 00:03:55,119 Speaker 1: I am really excited to be able to share. If 58 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 1: you have been confused or skeptical of this lucky girl trend, 59 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:02,440 Speaker 1: you're in the right place. We have a lot to 60 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:10,440 Speaker 1: discuss today, so let's jump right into it. For those 61 00:04:10,440 --> 00:04:13,320 Speaker 1: of you who are thinking what in the world is 62 00:04:13,720 --> 00:04:17,440 Speaker 1: lucky girl syndrome and have no idea what I'm talking about. 63 00:04:17,440 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 1: You're just along for the ride. Let me give you 64 00:04:20,400 --> 00:04:25,920 Speaker 1: a brief synopsis and overview. This idea has emerged largely 65 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:30,960 Speaker 1: on TikTok and trending videos in which people essentially explain 66 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 1: how by convincing themselves and believing that they are lucky, 67 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:40,160 Speaker 1: good things inevitably happen to them. It's often accompanied by 68 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 1: certain affirmations and positive thinking statements. One of the most 69 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:48,119 Speaker 1: popular audios that goes along with these videos is about 70 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:50,600 Speaker 1: how your life is supposed to go well and things 71 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 1: are meant to work out for you. These creators essentially 72 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:58,360 Speaker 1: say that their secret to a great life is assuming 73 00:04:58,920 --> 00:05:00,960 Speaker 1: and believing that the they will have a great life, 74 00:05:01,560 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 1: and with that they show how they have received all 75 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:09,000 Speaker 1: these amazing benefits like I mentioned, new jobs and unexpected 76 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:14,800 Speaker 1: money and new outfits and positive news. You will find thousands, 77 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:19,039 Speaker 1: maybe millions at this point of videos exactly like this, 78 00:05:19,400 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 1: all across TikTok and platforms like Instagram. Although this idea 79 00:05:23,800 --> 00:05:27,800 Speaker 1: of lucky girl syndrome really began to trend last year, 80 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:32,320 Speaker 1: it's not entirely a new concept. In fact, it's essentially 81 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 1: just manifestation, or the idea of manifestation that has been 82 00:05:37,560 --> 00:05:40,920 Speaker 1: wrapped up in fancy packaging and given a new name 83 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:43,560 Speaker 1: for this generation. Let's go back a little bit the 84 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:47,719 Speaker 1: origins of manifestation, which is essentially what Lucky Girls syndrome is. 85 00:05:48,480 --> 00:05:52,560 Speaker 1: It can be traced back to various philosophical and spiritual 86 00:05:52,600 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 1: traditions such as Hinduism, Buddhism, Greek philosophy, even Christianity, among others. 87 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:04,280 Speaker 1: But the idea that we now speak of and that 88 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:08,360 Speaker 1: we normally think of when we think of manifestation. It 89 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 1: was popularized in quite a few pop psychology books and 90 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:16,359 Speaker 1: publications that were released in the early two thousands, and 91 00:06:16,400 --> 00:06:19,880 Speaker 1: then the idea was scooped up by people like Oprah 92 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 1: and other inspirational thought leaders until it kind of trickled 93 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 1: down to everyday people like you and I. Vox wrote 94 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:32,480 Speaker 1: a really fascinating article on this topic. I will leave 95 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:36,680 Speaker 1: it in the description, and it essentially concludes that lucky 96 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:41,080 Speaker 1: Girl syndrome is just the latest revision of historical ideas 97 00:06:41,240 --> 00:06:45,560 Speaker 1: like the law of attraction or assumption, which essentially proposed 98 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: that our thoughts and our beliefs can alter our reality. 99 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 1: For example, believing that I will be rich will make 100 00:06:54,080 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 1: you rich, and you attract what you desire and what 101 00:06:57,680 --> 00:07:00,840 Speaker 1: you put out into the universe. I think this sounds 102 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:06,800 Speaker 1: very simplified and undervalues the power of individual action, hard work, 103 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 1: and agency. You are not the only one manifestation the 104 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 1: law of assumption attraction, and with that, trends like lucky 105 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:20,840 Speaker 1: Girl syndrome have been repeatedly criticized by many psychologists as 106 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:27,120 Speaker 1: being essentially a pseudoscientific self help trend with no basis 107 00:07:27,160 --> 00:07:32,040 Speaker 1: in actual science or traditional academic research to back it up. 108 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:36,920 Speaker 1: Of course, you can't make magical things automatically happen with 109 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:40,080 Speaker 1: your mind as far as we know, that's not physically 110 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:43,520 Speaker 1: possible at this stage. But when we dive deeper into 111 00:07:43,520 --> 00:07:47,559 Speaker 1: this science behind the impact of positive affirmations on our brain, 112 00:07:48,440 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 1: we might reach a different conclusion. And it doesn't have 113 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:56,760 Speaker 1: anything to do with abstract concepts like mind control or 114 00:07:56,800 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 1: fate or the power of the universe, but with how 115 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 1: our minds can be altered by our beliefs to approach 116 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 1: life in a way that does impact our decision making, 117 00:08:07,160 --> 00:08:11,120 Speaker 1: our outlook, our success, and therefore the outcomes of our 118 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:13,760 Speaker 1: lives at the end of the day. The power of 119 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:17,560 Speaker 1: lucky Girl syndrome is that it retrains our brain into 120 00:08:17,600 --> 00:08:21,680 Speaker 1: adopting a more positive mindset. Therefore, by believing you're a 121 00:08:21,760 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 1: lucky person, by repeating it as a lot of these 122 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:27,880 Speaker 1: videos instruct you to do and that you deserve good 123 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:31,080 Speaker 1: things and that you will be successful, you actually have 124 00:08:31,120 --> 00:08:36,960 Speaker 1: a greater tendency to seek out experiences, situations, opportunities in 125 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:43,319 Speaker 1: which this is confirmed. There has been legitimate studies on this, 126 00:08:43,440 --> 00:08:46,480 Speaker 1: and it backs up some of those anecdotal experiences we 127 00:08:46,520 --> 00:08:50,800 Speaker 1: see on social media. One study in particular, it hypothesizes 128 00:08:50,880 --> 00:08:54,360 Speaker 1: that believing you are lucky or some other positive statement 129 00:08:54,360 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 1: about yourself, it promotes positive, goal oriented behavior, which produces 130 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:05,760 Speaker 1: those positive outcomes. It's not that we manifested these things, 131 00:09:05,800 --> 00:09:09,880 Speaker 1: but that because of our beliefs, we implicitly and unconsciously 132 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 1: work harder, we pursue more opportunities, and these actions are 133 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 1: what produces the outcomes associated with lucky girl syndrome. It's 134 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:22,880 Speaker 1: not so much spiritual, it's not so much to do 135 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:26,760 Speaker 1: with the universe or some intangible force. It really is 136 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:30,080 Speaker 1: based in the mind. This can be explained by the 137 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:34,839 Speaker 1: psychological concept of self fulfilling prophecies, otherwise known as the 138 00:09:34,880 --> 00:09:40,160 Speaker 1: pigmalion effect. In psychology, a self fulfilling prophecy revolves around 139 00:09:40,200 --> 00:09:45,160 Speaker 1: this idea that our expectations impact how we act, which 140 00:09:45,200 --> 00:09:48,319 Speaker 1: as a result, impacts the outcome so that it is 141 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:52,200 Speaker 1: the one that we expected. A self fulfilling prophecy. Just 142 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:55,600 Speaker 1: to give you more of a definition, it's basically a 143 00:09:55,720 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 1: belief or an expectation that an individual holds about something 144 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 1: in the future that manifests purely because the individual believes 145 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:08,839 Speaker 1: it and therefore it impacts their actions. There are some 146 00:10:08,880 --> 00:10:14,679 Speaker 1: real world and clinical examples that confirm this theory. The 147 00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:18,240 Speaker 1: first one that comes to mind is the placebo effect. 148 00:10:18,600 --> 00:10:22,640 Speaker 1: When we believe something like a medication will work, that 149 00:10:22,720 --> 00:10:26,600 Speaker 1: inadvertently alters how our mind perceives our response and our 150 00:10:26,640 --> 00:10:30,320 Speaker 1: reaction and the impact of the medication, making it so 151 00:10:30,480 --> 00:10:33,959 Speaker 1: that we either actually display a positive response or our 152 00:10:34,040 --> 00:10:38,120 Speaker 1: brains mimic positive symptoms in order to confirm our belief 153 00:10:38,160 --> 00:10:41,280 Speaker 1: that the medication is effective. I know that sounds like 154 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 1: a kind of a random example, but what it shows 155 00:10:45,200 --> 00:10:47,760 Speaker 1: is the power of the mind to actually alter our 156 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:51,360 Speaker 1: environment in some ways because of how strong it wants 157 00:10:51,400 --> 00:10:55,520 Speaker 1: to believe in something. That's why when they do clinical 158 00:10:55,600 --> 00:10:59,520 Speaker 1: trials with new medications, they give one group a placebo 159 00:10:59,720 --> 00:11:03,480 Speaker 1: and one group of medication that actually works to see 160 00:11:03,520 --> 00:11:07,040 Speaker 1: whether it's just purely the act of taking the medication 161 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:10,560 Speaker 1: and believing that it will work that helps people. In 162 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:14,840 Speaker 1: one particularly famous study that my fellow psychology students will 163 00:11:14,880 --> 00:11:19,120 Speaker 1: definitely know about, they examined the grades of children before 164 00:11:19,160 --> 00:11:23,480 Speaker 1: and after they wore fake glasses to see whether it 165 00:11:23,520 --> 00:11:26,559 Speaker 1: would influence how the teachers treated them or how these 166 00:11:26,600 --> 00:11:30,839 Speaker 1: students performed themselves. And what they found was that their 167 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:38,040 Speaker 1: grades actually improved because teachers implicitly associate glasses with intelligence. 168 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:42,120 Speaker 1: Therefore they treated the students better, they showed them more attention, 169 00:11:42,800 --> 00:11:46,760 Speaker 1: they were more involved in the academic success because they 170 00:11:46,800 --> 00:11:51,480 Speaker 1: held an implicit belief that glasses equals academic ability. So 171 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:55,280 Speaker 1: it shows how our belief system will unconsciously impact how 172 00:11:55,320 --> 00:11:57,800 Speaker 1: we choose to act and behave in a way that 173 00:11:57,840 --> 00:12:02,160 Speaker 1: will confirm our pre existing belief, resulting in our expectation 174 00:12:02,320 --> 00:12:06,079 Speaker 1: becoming a reality. This also occurs on an individual level 175 00:12:06,120 --> 00:12:10,640 Speaker 1: as well, as explained by the pigmalion effect, whereby our 176 00:12:10,720 --> 00:12:15,000 Speaker 1: self imposed expectations all to how we behave and therefore 177 00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:18,319 Speaker 1: where we end up. If you believe that you attract 178 00:12:18,480 --> 00:12:22,240 Speaker 1: good people, that you are magnetic and attractive and beautiful, 179 00:12:23,160 --> 00:12:26,559 Speaker 1: you will behave this way based on your belief system, 180 00:12:27,040 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: and people pick up on that energy and how you 181 00:12:29,679 --> 00:12:34,000 Speaker 1: hold yourselves and will react to that attitude. It's part 182 00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:37,520 Speaker 1: of the reason why we always say that confidence matters 183 00:12:37,640 --> 00:12:41,199 Speaker 1: more than conventional beauty, because people will react to how 184 00:12:41,240 --> 00:12:44,080 Speaker 1: you hold yourself and treat you accordingly. And it's an 185 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:47,079 Speaker 1: example of how the beliefs we hold about ourselves therefore 186 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:50,760 Speaker 1: impact how we act, which actually creates the positive outcome 187 00:12:50,840 --> 00:12:53,880 Speaker 1: that we expected in the first place. Of course, this 188 00:12:53,920 --> 00:12:59,200 Speaker 1: doesn't always happen voluntarily or on a conscious level, hence 189 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:01,720 Speaker 1: why we don't always attribute the fruits of our labour 190 00:13:01,880 --> 00:13:06,200 Speaker 1: to our actions, but rather this idea of manifestation. Essentially, 191 00:13:06,240 --> 00:13:08,960 Speaker 1: we are stubborn creatures and we don't like to be wrong, 192 00:13:09,440 --> 00:13:12,280 Speaker 1: so our minds work behind the scenes in order to 193 00:13:12,320 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 1: make our beliefs a reality, so that we avoid the 194 00:13:15,080 --> 00:13:19,760 Speaker 1: pain of being embarrassed or questioning ourselves and therefore injuring 195 00:13:19,760 --> 00:13:23,640 Speaker 1: our self esteem. That is essentially the psychological basis behind 196 00:13:23,720 --> 00:13:28,720 Speaker 1: lucky girl syndrome and behind positive affirmations. In another vein, though, 197 00:13:29,080 --> 00:13:32,360 Speaker 1: this idea of confirmation bias can also be used to 198 00:13:32,440 --> 00:13:37,320 Speaker 1: explain this phenomena whereby our brains will unconsciously work to 199 00:13:37,520 --> 00:13:42,600 Speaker 1: affirm your belief by ignoring instances or experiences that don't 200 00:13:42,600 --> 00:13:45,360 Speaker 1: align with your idea of being lucky, like getting a 201 00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:48,040 Speaker 1: parking fine or slipping on the street, and it will 202 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:51,680 Speaker 1: amplify the events that confirm the idea that you are lucky, 203 00:13:51,800 --> 00:13:55,840 Speaker 1: such as something favorable happening for you, and we end 204 00:13:55,960 --> 00:13:59,600 Speaker 1: up having an altered view of our reality. Confirmation bias 205 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:05,000 Speaker 1: essentially refers to our tendency to process information by looking 206 00:14:05,040 --> 00:14:09,520 Speaker 1: for or interpreting information that is consistent with our values 207 00:14:09,920 --> 00:14:14,080 Speaker 1: and what we expect and ignoring counter evidence. And all 208 00:14:14,120 --> 00:14:17,479 Speaker 1: of this offers a deeper insight into the underlying psychology 209 00:14:18,040 --> 00:14:21,520 Speaker 1: of lucky Girl syndrome and the broader idea of manifestation. 210 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:26,680 Speaker 1: Our brain is phenomenal. It is a very very powerful tool, 211 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:30,560 Speaker 1: and what we tell it will impact our reality, not 212 00:14:30,840 --> 00:14:34,480 Speaker 1: in some hidden way, but because our brains will alter 213 00:14:34,560 --> 00:14:37,360 Speaker 1: how we act. Maybe I'm getting repetitive with that, but 214 00:14:37,400 --> 00:14:40,600 Speaker 1: I really think it's an important link or kind of 215 00:14:40,680 --> 00:14:45,320 Speaker 1: thought to follow through. But it doesn't mean that positive 216 00:14:45,320 --> 00:14:51,480 Speaker 1: affirmations and positive self talk aren't actually highly beneficial. Regardless 217 00:14:51,560 --> 00:14:55,680 Speaker 1: of some of the flimsy scientific reasoning and the impact 218 00:14:55,840 --> 00:15:00,400 Speaker 1: of self fulfilling prophecies and confirmation bias, I do truly 219 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 1: believe in the psychological power and impact of affirmations on 220 00:15:04,120 --> 00:15:07,640 Speaker 1: our life, particularly how we interpret the world. I have 221 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:11,320 Speaker 1: talked about affirmations before in my confidence episode and in 222 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:14,880 Speaker 1: some of my other episodes. They've worked for me, and 223 00:15:15,080 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 1: there are a number of scientific explanations that confirm this. 224 00:15:20,040 --> 00:15:23,200 Speaker 1: I'm going to dive into them in just a second. 225 00:15:28,160 --> 00:15:32,400 Speaker 1: Let's discuss some of the evidence for lock of your syndrome, manifestation, 226 00:15:32,680 --> 00:15:36,120 Speaker 1: whatever you want to call it. Like I mentioned before, 227 00:15:36,840 --> 00:15:39,640 Speaker 1: much of the evidence for this trend rests upon the 228 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:43,720 Speaker 1: power of affirmation and positive thinking or self talk. I'm 229 00:15:43,760 --> 00:15:46,680 Speaker 1: going to use an explanation from the Berkeley Institute to 230 00:15:46,720 --> 00:15:49,840 Speaker 1: explain this, because they said it very well. When we 231 00:15:49,880 --> 00:15:54,560 Speaker 1: repeat positive affirmations enough, we begin to integrate these statements 232 00:15:54,600 --> 00:15:58,560 Speaker 1: into our belief system, which in turn creates a more 233 00:15:58,600 --> 00:16:03,480 Speaker 1: positive mindset. And a more positive mindset is associated with 234 00:16:03,520 --> 00:16:08,800 Speaker 1: things like greater resilience and optimism, problem solving and as 235 00:16:08,840 --> 00:16:13,400 Speaker 1: a result, life satisfaction, less stress, and better coping skills. 236 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:16,600 Speaker 1: That is the mechanism behind this technique. There are a 237 00:16:16,680 --> 00:16:19,880 Speaker 1: number of affirmations associated with Lucky Girl's syndrome that I 238 00:16:19,920 --> 00:16:23,160 Speaker 1: want to pause and talk about for just a second. 239 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:26,080 Speaker 1: Here are a few of my favorites. I really did 240 00:16:26,200 --> 00:16:30,720 Speaker 1: do my research. I was very interested when I started 241 00:16:30,720 --> 00:16:33,480 Speaker 1: seeing all these tiktoks come up on my feed. I 242 00:16:33,520 --> 00:16:35,640 Speaker 1: may or may not have written some of them down 243 00:16:35,760 --> 00:16:38,200 Speaker 1: before I really looked into it, but these were the 244 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:40,280 Speaker 1: ones that I actually had in my notes app and 245 00:16:40,320 --> 00:16:43,080 Speaker 1: I thought they were interesting to share. So some of 246 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:46,240 Speaker 1: the affirmations you will see in these trending videos you 247 00:16:46,280 --> 00:16:49,600 Speaker 1: maybe have already seen them, are things like great things 248 00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:55,359 Speaker 1: are always happening to me. I am so lucky. Everything 249 00:16:55,600 --> 00:16:59,720 Speaker 1: is always working out for me, The universe is working 250 00:16:59,800 --> 00:17:03,000 Speaker 1: in my favor. There's something that these all have in common. 251 00:17:03,160 --> 00:17:05,320 Speaker 1: They all concern things that have to do with some 252 00:17:06,000 --> 00:17:11,080 Speaker 1: external source of power or fate. And although they may work, 253 00:17:11,680 --> 00:17:15,679 Speaker 1: if you truly want to use affirmations and unlock their 254 00:17:15,720 --> 00:17:19,480 Speaker 1: psychological power, you need to change them to be focused 255 00:17:19,520 --> 00:17:23,119 Speaker 1: on your strength and your power, and your agency and 256 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:28,720 Speaker 1: your qualities rather than some external, intangible force that's acting 257 00:17:28,800 --> 00:17:31,960 Speaker 1: beyond your control. So let me give you some examples. 258 00:17:32,359 --> 00:17:34,959 Speaker 1: Instead of saying things like great things are always happening 259 00:17:34,960 --> 00:17:37,840 Speaker 1: to me, or everything always works out for me, say 260 00:17:37,880 --> 00:17:42,119 Speaker 1: things like I am always moving towards something better, I 261 00:17:42,200 --> 00:17:48,080 Speaker 1: am an intelligent and strong person, I deserve love, I 262 00:17:48,280 --> 00:17:53,040 Speaker 1: work to attract good things into my life. These affirmations 263 00:17:53,160 --> 00:17:57,080 Speaker 1: are all about how you see yourself, and at the 264 00:17:57,160 --> 00:17:59,720 Speaker 1: end of the day, that is the only factor you 265 00:17:59,760 --> 00:18:05,320 Speaker 1: really have control over. When we routinely use affirmations concerning 266 00:18:05,359 --> 00:18:08,639 Speaker 1: things beyond our control, it can often lead to a 267 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:12,840 Speaker 1: negative or toxic mindset, whereby we blame all of the 268 00:18:12,840 --> 00:18:15,240 Speaker 1: good things in our lives all of the bad things 269 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:19,440 Speaker 1: on elements beyond our control. And there is a slight 270 00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:22,240 Speaker 1: problem with that because it rests on this idea of 271 00:18:22,280 --> 00:18:28,000 Speaker 1: an internal versus an external locus of control. I'm going 272 00:18:28,040 --> 00:18:30,000 Speaker 1: to give you a summary if you've never heard about 273 00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:35,160 Speaker 1: this before, but essentially, people who believe that external forces 274 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:39,119 Speaker 1: like luck and fate or the universe determine their outcomes, 275 00:18:39,520 --> 00:18:43,560 Speaker 1: they have an external locus of control, whereby there are 276 00:18:43,560 --> 00:18:46,960 Speaker 1: things beyond their power, that are acting beyond their kind 277 00:18:46,960 --> 00:18:51,160 Speaker 1: of mindset or vision, that are truly responsible for what's 278 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:55,840 Speaker 1: happening in their life. Hence the term external. In comparison, 279 00:18:56,040 --> 00:18:59,840 Speaker 1: those who hold themselves responsible for their successes, they have 280 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:05,280 Speaker 1: internal locus of control. Internal meaning individual having an external 281 00:19:05,440 --> 00:19:10,720 Speaker 1: locus of control has been repeatedly associated with things like 282 00:19:11,359 --> 00:19:17,040 Speaker 1: less motivation, more problematic behaviors, even in some studies criminal behavior, 283 00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:20,920 Speaker 1: not saying that that's always the case, but people who 284 00:19:20,960 --> 00:19:23,879 Speaker 1: have an external locus of control, they're more likely to 285 00:19:23,920 --> 00:19:27,240 Speaker 1: be quite pessimistic, and they're more likely to be inactive 286 00:19:27,800 --> 00:19:31,480 Speaker 1: in the face of adversity. And that makes sense, right, 287 00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:34,919 Speaker 1: because if you truly believe that everything is outside of 288 00:19:34,920 --> 00:19:38,040 Speaker 1: your power and outside of your control, you're going to 289 00:19:38,080 --> 00:19:41,160 Speaker 1: act accordingly, so when things are happening in your life 290 00:19:41,240 --> 00:19:44,000 Speaker 1: that you might actually be able to change. Your whole 291 00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:47,159 Speaker 1: mindset is focused on things moving without you needing to 292 00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:51,119 Speaker 1: do anything, so you become inactive and therefore some of 293 00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:55,000 Speaker 1: your life outcomes might be declining or become worse. This 294 00:19:55,040 --> 00:19:57,639 Speaker 1: is why I really recommend that if you are someone 295 00:19:57,640 --> 00:20:01,880 Speaker 1: who uses affirmations, that they be about your own abilities, 296 00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:05,640 Speaker 1: like I said, the only thing that you can control 297 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:09,440 Speaker 1: in your life is your own actions, is yourself. So 298 00:20:09,480 --> 00:20:13,160 Speaker 1: it's important to reinforce that, thereby enabling you to feel 299 00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:16,639 Speaker 1: more successful when good things happen, but also understand that 300 00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:20,400 Speaker 1: you can change your reality when bad things happen. I'm 301 00:20:20,480 --> 00:20:22,440 Speaker 1: very sorry I've gone on a bit of a tangent there. 302 00:20:22,520 --> 00:20:25,600 Speaker 1: I realize that now I've just gone way of course, 303 00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:30,080 Speaker 1: so let's get back on track. Why do affirmations work 304 00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:33,320 Speaker 1: on a neurological level, Well, it has a lot to 305 00:20:33,320 --> 00:20:36,639 Speaker 1: do with one brain structure in particular, it's called the 306 00:20:36,680 --> 00:20:40,840 Speaker 1: reticular activating system, and this part of the brain is 307 00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:45,600 Speaker 1: located just above the mid brain. It's pretty small, it's 308 00:20:45,880 --> 00:20:48,760 Speaker 1: kind of tiny, actually, but it is responsible for a 309 00:20:48,840 --> 00:20:53,960 Speaker 1: lot of really important things like wakefulness, our ability to focus, 310 00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:59,439 Speaker 1: but most importantly in this topic, how we perceive the world. 311 00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:03,199 Speaker 1: Its main function is to choose what information in our 312 00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:07,080 Speaker 1: environment to process and which stuff that we can disregard 313 00:21:07,119 --> 00:21:09,959 Speaker 1: as irrelevant and we can filter it out. Consider it 314 00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:13,640 Speaker 1: like a metal detector for our brain. It only buzzes, 315 00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:16,760 Speaker 1: for lack of a better word, when we come across 316 00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:20,480 Speaker 1: something that we deem as important, So it filters things out. 317 00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:23,600 Speaker 1: It says, you know, that random thing on the sidewalk. 318 00:21:23,960 --> 00:21:26,439 Speaker 1: We might see it, our eyes might pick up on 319 00:21:26,520 --> 00:21:29,840 Speaker 1: it as something in our environment, but we probably can't 320 00:21:29,880 --> 00:21:34,080 Speaker 1: remember it because our brain, particularly our recticular formation, has 321 00:21:34,320 --> 00:21:38,080 Speaker 1: chosen to ignore it. That's how it works, and our mindset, 322 00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:42,399 Speaker 1: our outlook, our set of beliefs and expectations about the world, 323 00:21:43,080 --> 00:21:47,199 Speaker 1: is what the recticular activating system enlists to undertake this 324 00:21:47,359 --> 00:21:52,760 Speaker 1: filtering process. And surprise, surprise, guess what can greatly impact 325 00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:57,560 Speaker 1: that belief system. You guessed it. Positive self talk and affirmations. 326 00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:01,479 Speaker 1: When we believe we are strong and intelligent, when we 327 00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:05,639 Speaker 1: believe we are lucky, this system, this part of our 328 00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:09,159 Speaker 1: brains will confirm that for us, it might not be 329 00:22:09,200 --> 00:22:12,280 Speaker 1: objectively true that we are lucky or that we are strong, 330 00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:16,040 Speaker 1: but when we believe it, we feel it, we see it, 331 00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:19,680 Speaker 1: So that's what really matters. That is basically a very 332 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:22,919 Speaker 1: roundabout way of saying that there may be some truth 333 00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:25,679 Speaker 1: in Lucky Girl syndrome. When we break it down to 334 00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:29,760 Speaker 1: its core components. It's not mystical, it's not some magical thing. 335 00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:34,560 Speaker 1: It's very much neurological and psychological, whereby it's based in 336 00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:38,400 Speaker 1: the kind of systems and patterns of behavior and habits 337 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:41,840 Speaker 1: that our brain enlists to protect us in some ways 338 00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:45,119 Speaker 1: and to sort out the information in our environment. So 339 00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:48,120 Speaker 1: it can be very powerful. It can be very impactful 340 00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:51,600 Speaker 1: on our lives. However, I don't think I would be 341 00:22:51,640 --> 00:22:55,320 Speaker 1: doing this topic justice if I didn't mention the inherent 342 00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:59,240 Speaker 1: privilege associated with lucky girl syndrome. I think it is 343 00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:01,840 Speaker 1: very easy, like I said, to believe that you are 344 00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:05,360 Speaker 1: lucky and destined for greatness and that everything works out 345 00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:08,439 Speaker 1: for you when you are already coming from a place 346 00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:13,400 Speaker 1: of extreme wealth and opportunity, and particularly privilege in many 347 00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:17,119 Speaker 1: Western societies. I can admit that I am one of 348 00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:19,840 Speaker 1: these people. You know. I grew up in Australia, which 349 00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:23,480 Speaker 1: is a relatively safe place. I'm well educated as of 350 00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:25,719 Speaker 1: my parents. I have a nice job, and yes, I 351 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:28,320 Speaker 1: did work hard to get to this place. But it 352 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:30,720 Speaker 1: doesn't mean that there weren't a lot of factors in 353 00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:33,920 Speaker 1: my favor from day one, from the day I was born. 354 00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:35,719 Speaker 1: Now that I think about it, I don't think I 355 00:23:35,720 --> 00:23:39,280 Speaker 1: have seen any videos of people claiming that lucky girls 356 00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:43,160 Speaker 1: in during works for them. Out of developing countries or 357 00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:47,920 Speaker 1: places with famine or drought or war. It feels particularly 358 00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:52,160 Speaker 1: elitist to suggest that just believing good things will make 359 00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:55,440 Speaker 1: your life good. You know, if it was that simple, 360 00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:59,639 Speaker 1: we wouldn't see so much suffering in the world. It 361 00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:02,320 Speaker 1: looks it's like to me, at least, that this trend 362 00:24:02,640 --> 00:24:07,520 Speaker 1: is very much reserved for individuals who, the majority of 363 00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:11,000 Speaker 1: which already have all the tools that would have enabled 364 00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:15,120 Speaker 1: their success. Anyways, it's not luck that has given them 365 00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:18,760 Speaker 1: a good life. It's not positive self talk. It's this 366 00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:26,200 Speaker 1: kind of global systemic, ingrained system of wealth distribution and inequality. 367 00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:31,040 Speaker 1: Maybe that's an inconvenient truth. It might upset some people, 368 00:24:31,960 --> 00:24:34,720 Speaker 1: but I do think that it deserves some focus. We 369 00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:38,480 Speaker 1: can't be blind to some of the reasoning behind this stuff. 370 00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:42,200 Speaker 1: I think trends like lucky Girl syndrome have a habit 371 00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:47,359 Speaker 1: of becoming these huge Internet sensations and attracting a lot 372 00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:51,280 Speaker 1: of craze whilst minimizing a lot of the crucial truths 373 00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:56,440 Speaker 1: and kind of pushing sometimes a dangerous narrative that simply 374 00:24:56,480 --> 00:25:00,440 Speaker 1: believing is going to fix all of your problem when 375 00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:02,679 Speaker 1: we know when we look at the world that it 376 00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:06,359 Speaker 1: probably doesn't. Of course, no singular individual or creator or 377 00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:10,080 Speaker 1: person who supports this trend is to blame. It's not 378 00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:13,760 Speaker 1: about shaming people and being like you should be embarrassed 379 00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:16,679 Speaker 1: or you should be ashamed that you believe this. I 380 00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:19,200 Speaker 1: really don't think that's the case on an individual level. 381 00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:22,159 Speaker 1: I think it can be really really beneficial. Like I 382 00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:26,480 Speaker 1: do genuinely believe in the power of a positive mindset, 383 00:25:26,640 --> 00:25:30,439 Speaker 1: but I do think it's important to believe and recognize 384 00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:32,320 Speaker 1: both things at once. That it is based in a 385 00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:35,240 Speaker 1: system of privilege. Not everyone is going to have a 386 00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:39,640 Speaker 1: lucky Girl syndrome experience, but for some individuals it can 387 00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:42,920 Speaker 1: be pretty life changing to shift to a positive mindset 388 00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:46,959 Speaker 1: for the pursuit of your own goals and your ambitions 389 00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:50,040 Speaker 1: in life. Also, we haven't mentioned this yet, but whether 390 00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:55,119 Speaker 1: you are in innately pessimistic or optimistic person also seems 391 00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:58,720 Speaker 1: to matter when we discuss manifestations or lucky Girl syndrome, 392 00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:03,680 Speaker 1: and it's very important and relative to the quote unquote 393 00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:09,040 Speaker 1: success of these mechanisms and these tools for manifesting a 394 00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:13,440 Speaker 1: lucky and a happy life. A pretty brief explanation, but essentially, 395 00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:17,120 Speaker 1: there is a difference between people who are optimistic and pessimistic. 396 00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:20,119 Speaker 1: I feel like most people know that. But an optimistic 397 00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:24,640 Speaker 1: person they see good things everywhere. They're really confident and 398 00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:27,560 Speaker 1: hopeful about what the future holds. They believe that things 399 00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:31,119 Speaker 1: will work out for them. They are very happy and 400 00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:35,400 Speaker 1: have a great outlook on the potential opportunities that will 401 00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:39,960 Speaker 1: come their way. The pessimist, on the other hand, they 402 00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:45,440 Speaker 1: observe mainly the negative aspects of everything around them. They 403 00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:48,960 Speaker 1: are always prepared for the worst, They always expect the worst. 404 00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:53,680 Speaker 1: They see the world as kind of a scary, dangerous, 405 00:26:54,119 --> 00:26:57,560 Speaker 1: ambiguous space. I think it's common sense, but we can 406 00:26:57,560 --> 00:27:00,880 Speaker 1: see that a positive mindset and a perception of our 407 00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:04,080 Speaker 1: inherent luckiness is going to be a lot harder for 408 00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:09,120 Speaker 1: someone who is generally pessimistic, and pessimism is not always 409 00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:13,560 Speaker 1: something that you can change. Attributes like pessimism and optimism, 410 00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:17,119 Speaker 1: they obviously fall on a spectrum, but they are a 411 00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:19,960 Speaker 1: core part of our personality and our temperament that we 412 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:22,159 Speaker 1: are born with, so they can be very hard to 413 00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:26,280 Speaker 1: shift or to alter. So saying to a friend who 414 00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:29,879 Speaker 1: is pessimistic that in order to secure their future or 415 00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:32,320 Speaker 1: they need to do is manifest good things or have 416 00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:36,080 Speaker 1: a positive outlook or repeat a certain number of affirmations 417 00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:40,160 Speaker 1: every day. I don't think it's going to be entirely helpful. 418 00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:44,600 Speaker 1: If anything, it could potentially be quite patronizing. Of course, 419 00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:47,080 Speaker 1: there are some things you can do to break out 420 00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:50,560 Speaker 1: of a pessimistic mindset. I actually think that's an entirely 421 00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:53,200 Speaker 1: separate episode that's going to make such a good episode. 422 00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:55,399 Speaker 1: I should really do that. But I think it just 423 00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:58,560 Speaker 1: goes to show that distinction between people who are optimistic 424 00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:02,639 Speaker 1: and pessimistic, that the application of being a lucky girl 425 00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:06,360 Speaker 1: is going to be very nuanced and differ from person 426 00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:10,400 Speaker 1: to person. It's a nice thing to believe and probably 427 00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:13,440 Speaker 1: very easy if you are naturally optimistic. I'm going to 428 00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:16,040 Speaker 1: call myself out here, that's what I'm like. But it's 429 00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:19,480 Speaker 1: not as simple as the trending TikTok sounds and viral 430 00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:24,240 Speaker 1: videos make it. See, so what have we learned today? 431 00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:27,560 Speaker 1: I think lucky girl syndrome is a very attractive idea. 432 00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:31,560 Speaker 1: It is very attractive to be told that you can 433 00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:33,680 Speaker 1: sort your life out, you can have an amazing life 434 00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:37,840 Speaker 1: by doing something really simple like repeating to yourself a 435 00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:41,720 Speaker 1: series of phrases or words every day. And I do 436 00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:44,959 Speaker 1: really see the benefit in that. From a psychological perspective, 437 00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:49,600 Speaker 1: like we mentioned, having a positive mindset is very indicative 438 00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:53,400 Speaker 1: of later on life satisfaction and success because it will 439 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:57,240 Speaker 1: subjectively change how you perceive the world, how you act, 440 00:28:57,720 --> 00:29:01,480 Speaker 1: and how you see your successes versus your failures. But 441 00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:04,920 Speaker 1: when we dig deeper into it, we can see that 442 00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:10,480 Speaker 1: lucky girl syndrome or manifestation, the law of attraction, all 443 00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:13,160 Speaker 1: of those things. It doesn't really have anything to do 444 00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:18,479 Speaker 1: with some mystical, higher up source of infinite wisdom and power. 445 00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:22,200 Speaker 1: It's not about the universe. It's not about some abstract idea. 446 00:29:22,760 --> 00:29:27,200 Speaker 1: It's really about our brains and how our brains are 447 00:29:27,240 --> 00:29:32,560 Speaker 1: taught to process information and how they implicitly impact our 448 00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:36,880 Speaker 1: actions and our behavior to create positive outcomes and confirm 449 00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:41,160 Speaker 1: our expectations and our biases. So it is a very 450 00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:46,760 Speaker 1: complicated interaction, I think, a very interesting interaction, one that 451 00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:49,720 Speaker 1: I am very glad we talked about today and will say, 452 00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:54,080 Speaker 1: if you are someone who believes in lucky girl syndrome, congratulations. 453 00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:56,880 Speaker 1: That is amazing. People are allowed to have their own 454 00:29:56,920 --> 00:30:00,280 Speaker 1: opinions and are allowed to view their lives a certain way. 455 00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:05,760 Speaker 1: If you've had a really amazing, wonderful, like inexplicable experience 456 00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:09,320 Speaker 1: with lucky girl syndrome. Can you let me know, because 457 00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:11,360 Speaker 1: I really do want to hear about it. I find 458 00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:14,600 Speaker 1: it really interesting watching these tiktoks and being like, wow, 459 00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:17,360 Speaker 1: how did she do it? Because I'm even sold on 460 00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:20,440 Speaker 1: it sometimes having investigated this and looked at the science 461 00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:24,640 Speaker 1: and the psychology. But like I said, we cannot discuss 462 00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:28,520 Speaker 1: this idea or this trend without also acknowledging privilege thinking 463 00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:31,520 Speaker 1: about it on a deeper level. Maybe that was a 464 00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:34,360 Speaker 1: controversial thing to say, but of course we cannot talk 465 00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:38,520 Speaker 1: about something like lucky girl syndrome, or a trending sound 466 00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:43,360 Speaker 1: on TikTok, or something like positive affirmations without also having 467 00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:47,240 Speaker 1: a look into the deeper reasons behind why it's so compelling. 468 00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:52,400 Speaker 1: And sometimes that does force us to acknowledge hard controversial 469 00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:55,920 Speaker 1: truths like privilege. I'm sorry if it offended you, but 470 00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:59,120 Speaker 1: I do just think it's a valuable skill to think 471 00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:02,320 Speaker 1: about things like lucky Girl syndrome, like anything in our lives, 472 00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:07,080 Speaker 1: from different perspectives. So I really enjoyed this episode. It 473 00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:11,040 Speaker 1: is probably one of my favorites. I really enjoyed looking 474 00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,640 Speaker 1: into all the research and the science. I found so 475 00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:17,280 Speaker 1: many unexpected things. Maybe you already knew all of this, 476 00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:19,960 Speaker 1: in which case you are much smarter than me and 477 00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:22,720 Speaker 1: you should be running my podcast. Please get in touch. 478 00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:26,520 Speaker 1: But I really do hope that you learn something and 479 00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:29,600 Speaker 1: that you're able to apply some of the things that 480 00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:33,280 Speaker 1: we talked about today to your own life. That is 481 00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:35,960 Speaker 1: always the aim of the show, and I am so 482 00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:39,520 Speaker 1: glad if you've listened this far, as I always say, 483 00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:42,520 Speaker 1: if you feel cool to do so, if you feel compelled, 484 00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:45,800 Speaker 1: if you enjoyed this episode, please feel free to leave 485 00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:50,080 Speaker 1: a five star review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, wherever you 486 00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:53,840 Speaker 1: are listening right now. It really does help the show 487 00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:57,080 Speaker 1: to reach new people. 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