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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, welcome to I Do Part two. If you

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Speaker 1: got love right the first time around, this is not

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Speaker 1: the podcast for you. We are here for the folks

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Speaker 1: who didn't get it right the first time. And maybe

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Speaker 1: you're on your second, go around, third, go around, fourth,

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Speaker 1: whatever it may be. But this is the place and

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Speaker 1: we are trying to help you find love again and

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Speaker 1: I have to say it, Jonna Kramer and Jenny Garth,

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Speaker 1: I have. This has been an absolute pleasure. When we

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Speaker 1: launched this, we were going to all do this together

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Speaker 1: this room as we were about to go party tonight.

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Speaker 2: That's the plan.

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Speaker 3: That is the plan. Y very excited. This is so funny.

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Speaker 4: It was fun to be in the room though, because

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Speaker 4: a lot of times it's over zoom all these podcasts

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Speaker 4: and the whole thing.

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Speaker 1: We are here now, we haven't We're not the only

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Speaker 1: one of the four of us here are sitting at

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Speaker 1: Mike's and the fourth person is the only one who

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Speaker 3: She's a model. You know, she's always showing like ready

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Speaker 2: I would do.

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Speaker 3: Nothing less, truly, nothing less.

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Speaker 1: But she's been one of our celebrity mentors. How has

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Speaker 1: this experience been for you? You we chatted with you

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Speaker 1: in New York not too long ago for an episode

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Speaker 1: and that was a blast. But since then, how have

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Speaker 5: It's been so incredible, Like this podcast couple with therapy

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Speaker 5: has been so unbelievably therapeutic, and I've changed so much

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Speaker 6: Which was like, oh my god, I'm getting emotional.

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Speaker 5: It's been very very cathartic for me, and just it's

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Speaker 5: also just nice to be around a community where people

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Speaker 6: So I've just been like, it's like a big hug.

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Speaker 4: Can I just ask a question because I just have

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Speaker 4: to Has anyone slid into your DMS?

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Speaker 6: Yes, yes, I've met a lot of really nice.

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Speaker 2: No, I mean like nice men.

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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, so like good people.

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Speaker 6: It's like not like a sliding.

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Speaker 2: In anybody of interest.

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Speaker 5: Yes, I've met like two really nice guys who were great.

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Speaker 5: they've just been really That's also been something else that's

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Speaker 6: Joy see more relaxed.

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Speaker 4: You take how do you are you beginning? Are you

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Speaker 6: Now, I'm not really trying to decide. I'm just open to.

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Speaker 6: It's great, and.

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Speaker 1: Tonight is going to be very intentional. We are out

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Speaker 3: Go out, Wait, wait, what is she helping them with?

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Speaker 1: She's going to help them flirt?

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Speaker 1: Really now you seemed confident. Are you a good flirt? Whoa?

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Speaker 2: No pause, no pause.

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Speaker 6: Zero pause, Like just yes, what makes you?

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Speaker 3: I was like, what makes you?

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Speaker 6: Just because I don't really flirt.

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Speaker 5: I'm just kind of chatty, lots of smiles, very engaging.

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Speaker 5: I asked a lot of questions, how are you a

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Speaker 4: I'm I'm a bad I think I'm a bad flirter

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Speaker 4: it comes to me. Actually, Like I remember seeing this

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Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm like, Sarah, please stop, stop, stop, stop, stop,

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Speaker 4: Sarah please. I ran down the stairs. I was like,

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Speaker 1: Oh, how that story end?

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Speaker 4: She ran downstairs and my friend Sarah, my friend Sarah

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Speaker 6: End of story.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, But I just think I'm a better wing woman

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Speaker 6: So this is that's why I'm going to be good

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Speaker 3: You were you a good back in the day.

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Speaker 2: Oh I had some game, did you. Yes, I'm going

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Speaker 1: Yes, what you said, you were both of you all

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Speaker 2: I just I'm confident in you know, I know how

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Speaker 1: What do you all say to women? Because there's so

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Speaker 6: Am I doing it right? Am I doing it right?

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Speaker 6: You know that was an individual like it doesn't right

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Speaker 1: It was not really gay in that respect. I'm with

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Speaker 6: And smile and be open.

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Speaker 4: I feel like that's so much easier said than done, though,

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Speaker 1: With your friend, Sarah Yeap, what then was the right move?

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Speaker 1: How do you let a guy know you're interesting?

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Speaker 4: Well, so I was confident. I was more confident than

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Speaker 4: That's where I'm at now in my forties, right. But besides,

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Speaker 4: so now there's that confidence piece, but before you know,

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Speaker 4: I think it's and that's all I earned that through

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Speaker 4: the things that I've gone through.

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Speaker 1: You will both married now.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, talking me about flirting is a little weird for

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Speaker 2: me because I've been married for forever, like to someone, right,

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Speaker 2: I don't think there was a day I wasn't married

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Speaker 2: or pregnant or something. So flirting was a little weird

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Speaker 2: just talking about it. I'm like, I don't flirt anymore

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Speaker 6: Really do that.

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Speaker 2: But I mean I probably should do more than that.

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Speaker 2: Maybe we should do an episode about that.

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Speaker 1: How do you let a guy know that you if

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Speaker 2: Eye contact, like you said, Kelly, a smile and a

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Speaker 4: So I ignored my husband for like three weeks, and

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Speaker 4: I personally always say less is more, don't do the

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Speaker 6: I totally think that less is more.

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Speaker 4: So I've completely stopped doing filters on like the story things.

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Speaker 2: I think I do that too.

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Speaker 5: You can tell it guys height by they're standing next

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Speaker 2: Who doesn't? But I think you're we have a point

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Speaker 1: How do you know when a guy is interested in you?

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Speaker 3: I think from or from like when you first meet.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, listen, it's it's okay to listen to somebody.

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Speaker 4: Answer exactly, but I wish you'd give us the answer.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, But Jenny, was it.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, let me think back. Did I I

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Speaker 4: Right.

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Speaker 5: but there And they'll see like if when I'm texting

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Speaker 5: it's just you're so much blue. Oh my god, you're

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Speaker 6: Question? You know, I'm like I'm like no, no, no, no.

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Speaker 4: so yeah it should be. Then that's where like the

440
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Speaker 4: game thing comes with it. But yeah, they should. That

441
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Speaker 4: shows that.

442
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Speaker 3: It's more interest if there's more from them.

443
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Speaker 2: But that's confusing because my ex husband sends me paragraphs.

444
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Speaker 3: Well maybe he.

445
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Speaker 1: Don't do that.

446
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Speaker 2: I don't think that's the case.

447
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Speaker 5: But also, you know, some people are telling people are

448
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Speaker 5: good over the phone and some people are textures. So like,

449
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Speaker 5: you know, I would never like randomly FaceTime someone, but

450
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Speaker 5: some people like to do that or they like to

451
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Speaker 5: like be on the phone. I mean, I'm not a

452
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Speaker 5: I'm not a phone person just because in my work life,

453
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Speaker 5: like I'm always on the phone, so I'm not gonna

454
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Speaker 5: I'd rather be like, hey, I'm thinking of you, which

455
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Speaker 5: is my way of being nice. And some guys are like,

456
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Speaker 5: you don't even call me. I'm like, well, I'm kind

457
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Speaker 5: of on the phone, but I was trying to be

458
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Speaker 5: nice and so it's just like I feel like there's

459
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Speaker 5: like you can't really win. You kind of have to

460
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Speaker 5: like feel out the person and get a sense of

461
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Speaker 5: like where they are. But I guess over texting and

462
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Speaker 5: it's not good or over sharing is not good to

463
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Speaker 5: well over text But.

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Speaker 1: How do you do you do you monitor? Do you

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Speaker 1: find yourself editing your text? Like you're right there? Okay,

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Speaker 1: wait say that the right way? Is that the right emoji? Should?

467
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Speaker 2: I thank god they made that edit option. Now you can,

468
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Speaker 2: you can and you can undersend right right? Wait, Like

469
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Speaker 2: I love it.

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Speaker 5: I mean I like you exactly.

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Speaker 1: But you don't find yourself doing that. You don't trying.

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Speaker 5: I'm like, you know what if you if you don't

473
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Speaker 5: like me the way that I am, then you're never

474
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Speaker 5: gonna like me. I mean, like I'm not gonna like

475
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Speaker 5: start to like change things up and like so I'll

476
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Speaker 5: probably forget.

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Speaker 6: So.

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Speaker 2: So, say you've met someone and you're feeling the vibes, right,

479
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Speaker 2: what happens at the end of the night, Like do

480
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Speaker 2: you give him your digits?

481
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Speaker 6: Is that what they still say?

482
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Speaker 4: Now?

483
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Speaker 2: Do you give him your number or do you give

484
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Speaker 2: him your email addressed?

485
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Speaker 3: Or what?

486
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Speaker 2: How does that work? Because I you, guys, if I

487
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Speaker 2: told you how I met my husband, it's the exact

488
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Speaker 2: opposite way of well, who told you?

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Speaker 4: He told you?

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Speaker 2: Wasn't anything. When we met, I was I didn't like him,

491
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Speaker 2: but at the end of the night.

492
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Speaker 1: Didn't.

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Speaker 6: No, no, no no.

494
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Speaker 2: He was tall and actory looking, and.

495
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Speaker 1: I was like, oh, he was handsome and that was

496
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Speaker 1: a problem and young.

497
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Speaker 2: So I he said at the at the valet, we

498
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Speaker 2: were waiting for our cars at the end of the

499
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Speaker 2: awkward dinner, and he said, so, what should I call you?

500
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Speaker 2: And I said no. And I said, but you can

501
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Speaker 2: follow me? And he goes, you mean like on Instagram?

502
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Speaker 2: I said, no, idiot, follow me. Get in your car

503
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Speaker 2: and follow me like home.

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Speaker 7: No, not home, okay, I told you when I want something,

505
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Speaker 7: I get it, but no followed me to it.

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Speaker 2: I went to another bar. I didn't tell him where.

507
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Speaker 2: I just said follow me and I zoomed off. So

508
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Speaker 2: I had to see if he could keep up with me.

509
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Speaker 2: I wanted to see, like Gauge his like adventures because

510
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Speaker 2: I like adventure. And he kept up with me, and

511
00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:09,080
Speaker 2: we went to another bar, and that's where we got

512
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Speaker 2: to know each other without the people who had set

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Speaker 2: us up. So we were we were at a double

514
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Speaker 2: date before we needed to have some time. I needed

515
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Speaker 2: to have some time just one on one with them

516
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Speaker 2: to know what's who was interested?

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Speaker 5: You know, so are you supposed to you know, people

518
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Speaker 5: are like, this isn't the dating is like an interview,

519
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Speaker 5: so you have to have your interview questions.

520
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Speaker 6: I'm like, what are my interview questions?

521
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Speaker 4: Like?

522
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Speaker 5: I just kind of like let men like tell me

523
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Speaker 5: their story. I just kind of listen. I asked them

524
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Speaker 5: like I asked them like leading questions. But I don't

525
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Speaker 5: say like why were you married, who were you married,

526
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Speaker 5: how long was it divorced?

527
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Speaker 6: What's your five years?

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Speaker 4: I don't care about that, But the other stuff that's

529
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Speaker 4: I'm the like it too. I'm like, what, like I

530
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Speaker 4: do those questions?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

532
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Speaker 1: Right?

533
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Speaker 6: Telling me I should do much?

534
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Speaker 1: I can't.

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Speaker 3: What do you want? Like, what do you what are

536
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Speaker 3: you interested?

537
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Speaker 1: Yeah?

538
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Speaker 3: Because I'm always.

539
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Speaker 5: See anything I feel so awkward. I feel like, oh

540
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Speaker 5: my god, and that would make me feel uncomfortable. They

541
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Speaker 5: were like I was like leading the dance.

542
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Speaker 4: TJ your best advice for the winners Elizabeth and Rebecca

543
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Speaker 4: tonight because they are at the concert in the VIP section.

544
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Speaker 4: So I mean, what is your best advice from a

545
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Speaker 4: man for them when.

546
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Speaker 1: You take advantage of the opportunity. You don't get this

547
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Speaker 1: enough to be And it's one thing to be in

548
00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:22,280
Speaker 1: a social setting, but this is a closed social setting,

549
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Speaker 1: meaning most of the people in the room are there

550
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Speaker 1: for one reason. They've kind of been vetted already. They

551
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Speaker 1: know somebody who knows somebody.

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Speaker 4: You know.

553
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:31,680
Speaker 1: Everybody's here for the same reason, right, walk up, meet

554
00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:34,520
Speaker 1: talk to everybody. That guy might not be single, but

555
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Speaker 1: he might have a friend who is. That woman might

556
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Speaker 1: not be I mean she might not have a friend

557
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Speaker 1: available with her. She has her sisters. You've got to

558
00:23:42,119 --> 00:23:44,879
Speaker 1: take advantage of the opportunity and do not pass it

559
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:46,879
Speaker 1: up tonight. You gotta be out there. You got to

560
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:48,119
Speaker 1: be open, You got to be a company.

561
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Speaker 2: You might meet a guy that has a really wonderful

562
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Speaker 2: wife and you could have a new friend.

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Speaker 6: Look at it that way.

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Speaker 5: That's why I say to my friends too, I'm like,

565
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Speaker 5: go on to a lot of different dates because they

566
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Speaker 5: also might know people that you might be like, oh,

567
00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:01,879
Speaker 5: you know, really like you, but your friend is hot, right.

568
00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, but are you supposed to ask them about their phone?

569
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Speaker 3: K Like right out of the.

570
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Speaker 1: You don't follow No, I don't do that.

571
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Speaker 3: I just am like, what do you want?

572
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:15,520
Speaker 2: Care about the money?

573
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Speaker 6: She said?

574
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Speaker 3: I don't care about the money?

575
00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:17,960
Speaker 6: No, she cares about no.

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Speaker 5: But I mean I could never say, like, oh, you

577
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Speaker 5: were a divorce, how long are you? I would feel

578
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Speaker 5: like I was literally like bulleting question that.

579
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Speaker 2: You just make them feel like you're talking and you're

580
00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:30,919
Speaker 2: not grilling them, right, you know, like just be easy

581
00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 2: on the questions and listen.

582
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Speaker 5: Yeah, but I have gone a couple of days sorry

583
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:38,480
Speaker 5: quickly where the guys talk so much and they tell

584
00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 5: me so many stories and they're trying to like get

585
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:43,480
Speaker 5: like the sympathy from me, and I'm just like, wow,

586
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Speaker 5: that's really great.

587
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Speaker 6: I'm saying. I'm like, oh my god, Like what like,

588
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Speaker 6: way another story?

589
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Speaker 4: Wait?

590
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Speaker 6: How many stories do I have to listen to in

591
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Speaker 6: like a two hour dinner?

592
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Speaker 1: You will be there with Elizabeth. We will continue to

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Speaker 1: check in. But yeah, we're this is gonna be a

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Speaker 1: fun night. Yeah, So folks, we want all of you

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Speaker 1: to keep checking in here with us. Do not give

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Speaker 1: up on finding your person. Hey, maybe you'll find them

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Speaker 1: by using this podcast. If you need dating advice, want

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Speaker 1: four four four I do pod. That's eight four four

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Speaker 1: idpod at iHeartRadio dot com. That's idpod at iHeartRadio dot com.

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Speaker 1: All this is going to be in the show notes.

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Speaker 1: You can rate and review the podcast as well. I

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Speaker 1: do part two. It's an iHeartRadio podcast. We're falling in

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Speaker 3: It's so fun.

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Speaker 4: I'll be sure to get an update on how the

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