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Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you. Here. It

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Speaker 1: is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you nephew. Subject, girlfriend, fiance

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Speaker 1: and sidechick. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a twenty nine year

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Speaker 1: old single female and I'm in love with a man

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Speaker 1: that I can't have. We started out as friends ten

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Speaker 1: years ago, and one thing led to another and we

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Speaker 1: made love. I must have the magic touch, because he

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Speaker 1: was stuck like glue to me. After that, I moved

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Speaker 1: to another city, and before I left, he asked if

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Speaker 1: I would be his girlfriend. He came to visit me

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Speaker 1: every weekend, so I never in a million years would

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Speaker 1: think he was cheating on me. I went back to

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Speaker 1: my hometown to visit my family, and I stayed at

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Speaker 1: his apartment on his couch. I found a few long

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Speaker 1: strands of hairweed and there was a tube of eyelash

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Speaker 1: glue in his kitchen junk drawer. I didn't mention it

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Speaker 1: to him. I went to stay at my mom's house instead,

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Speaker 1: and I ignored him the rest of the weekend. When

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Speaker 1: I got back to my city, I asked him if

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Speaker 1: he cheated on me, and he confessed to having a

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Speaker 1: girl at his place, but nothing happened. He said she

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Speaker 1: knows about me, and I told him I needed some

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Speaker 1: time to think about everything because I didn't believe him.

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Speaker 1: A monk went by without us being together, and I

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Speaker 1: only made me realize how much I loved my boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: I called my boyfriend and asked him to come see me.

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Speaker 1: He came the next day since it's only an hour's drive.

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Speaker 1: He bought me a big, beautiful diamond, and he asked

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Speaker 1: me to marry him. I said yes. Fast forward to

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Speaker 1: present day, which is three months after he proposed. I

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Speaker 1: with this man for two years and I've always been

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Speaker 1: the side chick. She was on speakerphone and he was there,

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Speaker 1: but he did not open his mouth. He won't talk

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Speaker 1: to me at all. Now, how could did he pull

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Speaker 1: all of this off without me knowing it? How could

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Speaker 1: he do this? I just want closure? Okay, Yeah, this

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Speaker 1: letter is crazy right here, But but this isn't hard

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Speaker 1: because everything you need for closure is right here in

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Speaker 1: this letter. You started out as a girlfriend, then he

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Speaker 1: out of town. You know you fell in love with him.

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Speaker 1: Did he fall in love with you? Nowhere in your

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Speaker 1: letter did you say that. Did you ever question where

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Speaker 1: about anything concerning him? It doesn't sound like you did,

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Speaker 1: because from the sound of your letter, he was just

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Speaker 1: a weekend boyfriend. Then you found evidence of another woman

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Speaker 1: at his house, and instead of asking him about it,

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Speaker 1: you ghosted him and waited until you got home to

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Speaker 1: check him. You didn't believe him, but you still accepted

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Speaker 1: his proposal of marriage when you called and asked him

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Speaker 1: to come and see you. And like you say, fast

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Speaker 1: forward to three months later, which is now, and here's

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Speaker 1: this woman calling you saying she's been with him for

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Speaker 1: two years and you're the side chick and always have

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Speaker 1: been the side chick. What Meanwhile, he's in the background,

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Speaker 1: quiet as a church mouse, not saying anything, and you asked,

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Speaker 1: how did he pull this off without you knowing? Because

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Speaker 1: it sounds like you just accepted whatever he told you

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Speaker 1: whenever he came by. You never asked him anything about himself.

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Speaker 1: Where was he going? You know, he could have he

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Speaker 1: told you anything and you just accepted it. However he

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Speaker 1: ditched it out. That's how you took it, no questions asked.

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Speaker 1: Your letter is aptly title girlfriend fiance sidechick because sorry

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Speaker 1: to say, you had all those roles in this relationship,

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Speaker 1: you just didn't know it at the time. Make sure

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Speaker 1: that you don't get caught up like this with another man. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you gotta find out stuff, what they do, if he's

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Speaker 1: with someone, if he's married any baby mamas, do some digging,

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Speaker 1: ask some questions, investigate. That's how you find out. Steve Well,

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Speaker 1: I think this could have all been avoided. But here

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Speaker 1: chests out a little bit on this letter, cause here

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Speaker 1: we go some things I've been accused of. Here we go,

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Speaker 1: twenty nine year old single female. I'm in love with

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Speaker 1: the man that I can't have. Here we go, we

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Speaker 1: started out as friends ten years ago. One thing led

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Speaker 1: friends y'all is now ended up making love? I'd haven't

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Speaker 1: told y'all your ass can't be friends. A man is

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Speaker 1: incapable of being a friend with a woman he's attracted to.

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Speaker 1: I'd have told you that. Now you can be friends,

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Speaker 1: but it will not stay that way. If the opportunity

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Speaker 1: of glasses of wine. It can't stay that way. I've

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Speaker 1: told y'all over and over. Now y'all gonna line and

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Speaker 1: talk about Uncle Steve like he old fashioned and stupid.

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Speaker 1: I may be old fashioned, but I ain't as stupid though.

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Speaker 1: I might be old fashioned, but I ain't stupid though.

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Speaker 1: I'm real smart dude. And you listening to these dudes

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Speaker 1: can have a girl that's your friend, show me, show

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Speaker 1: me how that works. So now here we go, you friends.

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Speaker 1: Now all of a sudden, y'all love us. Oh okay,

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Speaker 1: Now y'all made love and I must have a magic

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Speaker 1: touch because he stuck on me like glue afterwards and

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Speaker 1: asked me to be his girlfriend. That don't mean you

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Speaker 1: had a magic touch, do you think so? Oh? But

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Speaker 1: if you want credit, all right, you can hand the

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Speaker 1: magic magic touch. Man. He might uh fifty cent say

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Speaker 1: he got a magic stick. He could had a magic

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Speaker 1: stick because you did say you be his girlfriend. So

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Speaker 1: everybody in the relationship got a magic show. We'll come

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Speaker 1: back everywhere. I'm gonna tell you what else has happened

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Speaker 1: to your sister? All right, We'll have part two of

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Speaker 1: Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.

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Speaker 1: Today's subject is girlfriend fiance and side check will get

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Speaker 1: back into the Strawberry Letter right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: to come on, Steve. Let's recap today's Strawberry Letter subject

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Speaker 1: girlfriend fiance. Inside chick. Here, this twenty nine year old

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Speaker 1: girl was friends with a man started out as friends

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Speaker 1: ten years ago. I was once again skin just pruves.

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Speaker 1: Pruves what I've been saying that everybody online want to

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Speaker 1: beat the old uncle Steve. Like I said before, you know,

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Speaker 1: he old fashioned and stupid. No, no, no, I may

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Speaker 1: be old fashioned, but I'm a far stretch and a

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Speaker 1: long way away from stupid. I can promise you. I'm

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Speaker 1: not stupid, ain't ever been stupid. So now here we go.

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Speaker 1: Oh they're friends now. Now she thinks she got the

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Speaker 1: magic to us because he sprung on her and ask

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Speaker 1: him to be a girlfriend. Uh, then you moved to

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Speaker 1: another city, but before you left, he asked you to

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Speaker 1: be his girlfriend. Okay, that ain't nothing. He can't to

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Speaker 1: to visit you every weekend. That's two days. It fired

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Speaker 1: on accounted for you got to two somebody, you don't

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Speaker 1: think nobody else got to getting them five? He just

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Speaker 1: waiting on the weekend. Oh I forgot. That's right, you

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Speaker 1: got the magic. Tells my bad, My bad? Anyway. Uh,

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Speaker 1: I went back to your hometown to visit your family,

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Speaker 1: and you stayed at his apartment on his couch. I

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Speaker 1: found a few long strands of hair weed and that

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Speaker 1: junk junk drawer. Now, when stuff gets in the junk drawer,

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Speaker 1: it's cost it's got brushed in that one. Everybody got

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Speaker 1: a drunk drawer. When you grab stuff right quick and

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Speaker 1: throw it in there. You threw that in there because

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Speaker 1: you was coming to town. They couldn't get the we've

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Speaker 1: cracks real good. So we've have gonna know what to do.

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Speaker 1: Started checking crack. Were donna do cracks? Coop, And so

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Speaker 1: I didn't mention it to him when you found this

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Speaker 1: ever cheated on me? Now, listen to this. He confessed

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Speaker 1: The reason he confess it is because he don't know

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Speaker 1: the information you have. So, yeah, I had a girl

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Speaker 1: But the only reason he admitted that was because he

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Speaker 1: mama's house, he knows something is up, he said. Not

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Speaker 1: so now he confessed to having the girls in his

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Speaker 1: place with nothing. Help he said, he said, she knows

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Speaker 1: believe him. Well, a month with mine without us being together,

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Speaker 1: day and he wasn't here. What the whole letters about,

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Speaker 1: side chick. She was on speaker phone and he was there,

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Speaker 1: tell you how it happened. She busted him with YO

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Speaker 1: number in his phone. She got his phone and called

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Speaker 1: that that's why here in the background ain't saying nothing

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Speaker 1: because I've been in that spot before. I just went home.

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Speaker 1: But now you got this call from this woman saying

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Speaker 1: she'd been with this man for two years and I've

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Speaker 1: always been the side chick. She was on speaker phone.

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Speaker 1: He was there, but he did not open his mouth.

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Speaker 1: He won't talk to me at all. Now, Well, because

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Speaker 1: he busted Gig up, he got to stay with his

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Speaker 1: girl he'd been with for two years. How could and

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Speaker 1: Because Shirley said, you didn't do your research. And in

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Speaker 1: this day in time, y'all got too many items at

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Speaker 1: your fingertip. Facebook, you can Facebook, anybody, follow the Instagram,

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Speaker 1: get on social media. Google, you can start looking up information.

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Speaker 1: You can track their friends on Facebook. You could do

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Speaker 1: stuff like that for forensic science. It's all it took.

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Speaker 1: And you wouldn't even be in this. And you, twenty nine,

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Speaker 1: I know you text have it. You could do this.

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Speaker 1: So ladies, all of you have the ability to explore

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Speaker 1: and research handle your business right, whether you have an

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Speaker 1: you're dating, right. I just want closure. Men don't do closure.

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Speaker 1: He would have woman? How Did he pull all this

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