WEBVTT - The Playbook: Indecent Proposal

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<v Speaker 1>This is the most dramatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Chris Harrison and Lauren Zema coming to you from the

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<v Speaker 1>home office in Austin, Texas, where it is time so

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<v Speaker 1>once again open up the playbook and today, l Z,

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<v Speaker 1>we're talking about something we know something about marriage proposals.

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<v Speaker 2>Will you've been at a few of those, witnessed a couple?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I've been at a couple myself.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm okay, done a couple, a couple.

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<v Speaker 1>And then but just seen also see yeah, so literally figuratively,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been around many, many, many proposals. I have seen

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<v Speaker 1>them publicly, privately. And that's the topic today. When is

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<v Speaker 1>it okay? Where is it okay to propose to the

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<v Speaker 1>person you love? Well?

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<v Speaker 2>This started because we saw something on People Magazine's Instagram.

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<v Speaker 2>They asked the question is it okay to propose at

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<v Speaker 2>someone else's wedding? And I have heard of people doing this.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it's a surprise, you're at your friend's wedding

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<v Speaker 2>and love is in the air, and you will not

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<v Speaker 2>it's a surprise for the person, obviously but pre planned.

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<v Speaker 2>But you propose. I think this is so not okay

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<v Speaker 2>to propose at someone else's wedding. What is the phrase

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<v Speaker 2>we all say around a wedding, it's your day, it's

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<v Speaker 2>their day. They have been planning for this, paying for this.

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<v Speaker 2>They want this moment to be about them, and then

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<v Speaker 2>you've put them in this difficult situation. You've kind of

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<v Speaker 2>stolen the spotlight. But they can't really be mad at

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<v Speaker 2>you because it's a proposal. It's love and it should

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<v Speaker 2>be all joy. But now, what are people going to

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<v Speaker 2>remember about their wedding that you propose there? I'm a

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<v Speaker 2>big like, whatever it is on someone else's wedding, you

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<v Speaker 2>cannot like take the spotlight for yourself on that. Don't

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<v Speaker 2>cause any drama, don't pass out, don't propose.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the one time where as the paying customer, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not about your experience.

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<v Speaker 2>This is yes, this is not the show for you

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<v Speaker 2>to watch.

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<v Speaker 1>It is about the people. You're going to celebrate. Whatever

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<v Speaker 1>you can do to celebrate them, make them feel loved happy,

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<v Speaker 1>do that anything that comes in your little brain that

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<v Speaker 1>deters from that. It's a very simple litmus test. Will

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<v Speaker 1>Bob and Mary love this? If the answer is huh,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure, don't do it. Don't do it?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, well, First of all.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't be selfish enough to think that they would love

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<v Speaker 1>to see you propose and get engaged at their wady.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean you've got to be Am I thinking about

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<v Speaker 2>this wrong? Somebody tell me if I am that?

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<v Speaker 1>No, I don't think so, I mean leave your comments

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<v Speaker 1>because maybe people are like, look, hey, pal, we did

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<v Speaker 1>this and it was it was great? But was it

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<v Speaker 1>That's the other thing. Was it in your mind great?

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<v Speaker 2>Or did everybody really think it was? Because I got

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<v Speaker 2>to tell you, people probably aren't going to tell you

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<v Speaker 2>the truth. They're going to say, oh, yeah, it was

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<v Speaker 2>so awesome, but then they're going to stay behind your back.

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<v Speaker 2>That was not that was you bet. If you're doing it,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my gosh, you better approve it with the Brian

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<v Speaker 2>and Gruom in advance. It would be interesting to see

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<v Speaker 2>what they said if they were honest and said no,

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<v Speaker 2>please don't do that, or if they just tried to

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<v Speaker 2>be nice. But if you were going to do it,

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<v Speaker 2>the very least you can do is very well get

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<v Speaker 2>their approval and plan it out with them. Because also

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<v Speaker 2>what if you do the proposal and they were like

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<v Speaker 2>about to do the fireworks that minute, and then the

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<v Speaker 2>fireworks have to be on a set time, and then

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<v Speaker 2>the fireworks are really about you. There's a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>scheduling and planning and coordinating on the day of a wedding.

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<v Speaker 1>Now let's take this to a little different level, and

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<v Speaker 1>that is public proposals, I e. At a baseball game

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<v Speaker 1>on the jumbo tron, or at an NBA basketball game,

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<v Speaker 1>and I will move to the next one. At a

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<v Speaker 1>concert like Taylor.

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<v Speaker 2>Swift, you've seen a lot of people do.

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<v Speaker 1>The era's tour is going on, and obviously there's the

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<v Speaker 1>famous line in the song how he gets down on

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<v Speaker 1>one knee and proposes. Guys across the country have been

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<v Speaker 1>proposing to their significant others at Taylor Swift concerts.

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<v Speaker 2>I think, know your audience, maybe this is something really

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<v Speaker 2>special to you too. You met you know, this was

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<v Speaker 2>the song you first danced to together. It's your song

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<v Speaker 2>or something. This artist means a lot to you too.

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<v Speaker 2>I've seen it be very sweet. I think somebody proposed.

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<v Speaker 2>I could be wrong, but I think it was at

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<v Speaker 2>a Harry Styles concert and somehow they got Harry to help,

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<v Speaker 2>like he was involved in it, and that can be

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<v Speaker 2>super cool. But I guess I will say I picture

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<v Speaker 2>the moment. And if you're proposing at a Taylor Swift concert,

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<v Speaker 2>how is the person even hearing what you're saying? There's

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<v Speaker 2>no you can't hear any special words there. Right, you're

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<v Speaker 2>just getting down one knee because it's so screaming.

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<v Speaker 1>He kneels to the ground and pulls out a ring.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think of the concert proposal?

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<v Speaker 1>I've seen it work. Here's my thing is, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have a strong opinion one way or the other on this.

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<v Speaker 1>Very important to know your audience because I have seen

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<v Speaker 1>some of the women getting proposed to lose their minds.

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<v Speaker 1>This is clearly their dream. This is probably on their

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<v Speaker 1>vision board somewhere in their hope chest. And these these

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<v Speaker 1>women have just burst into tears and.

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<v Speaker 2>So wow, hope chest. That was a retrot. Does everybody

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<v Speaker 2>remember what a hope chest is? I think it was

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<v Speaker 2>something from like the days of when we had dowries

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<v Speaker 2>and in your hope chest was supposed to be. Was

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<v Speaker 2>it all the stuff you would take with you when

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<v Speaker 2>you got married and moved into your own home.

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<v Speaker 1>And all the things that you would hope for. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, you know, now we call it a vision board.

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<v Speaker 1>But the other thing I think of as the flip

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<v Speaker 1>side of this for the guy. If you really don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>you know the rundown the set list for Taylor Swift.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not sure when is it Marry Me Juliette? What's

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<v Speaker 1>the name of that song?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I know the chorus is marry Me Juliette. Whatever, But anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to wait for this song and then is

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<v Speaker 1>the guy. You got to know when that line is

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<v Speaker 1>coming out, because you got to be ready to not

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<v Speaker 1>only get that ring out of your pocket and propose,

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<v Speaker 1>you got to make sure, as Lauren just said, A,

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<v Speaker 1>she's in her seat, B she can see you because

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<v Speaker 1>she's clearly looking at Taylor Swift. A lot of things

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<v Speaker 1>have to happen to go right. So I'm not against

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<v Speaker 1>it at all, but man, that's a lot of choreography, And.

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<v Speaker 2>Isn't every proposal a lot of choreography? Though? Make sure

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<v Speaker 2>someone's real for shorting do it all? Actually, let me

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<v Speaker 2>ask you this, having I don't even know how many

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<v Speaker 2>proposals you've probably witnessed or been a part of at

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<v Speaker 2>this point, dozens. What would be a few tips on

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<v Speaker 2>a good proposal? A few must or a few do

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<v Speaker 2>not do this tips for proposing.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, again, I think important to know your audience, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>just because you are a Dodgers fan, a Dallas Cowboys.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I will tell you with my first marriage, Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I should have known that. The the ex mentioned to

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<v Speaker 2>me at one point like and it was almost like

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<v Speaker 2>you was testing the waters about me proposing on a jumboach.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh god me yeah, me, me a theater kid who,

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<v Speaker 2>for lack of a better word, pretty much hates sports.

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<v Speaker 2>I should have known then. I kind of laughed it

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<v Speaker 2>off again, making the mistake then thinking oh, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>he's just like young and he's not really likely. But really,

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<v Speaker 2>when I look back, I do think it was kind

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<v Speaker 2>of selfish. That was from what he wanted, what he

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<v Speaker 2>thought would be cool. So you're right, know your audience

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<v Speaker 2>and make it about the person you're proposing to.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's the thing. And I hate to say this

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<v Speaker 1>to anybody who's doing the proposing, men or women, but

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<v Speaker 1>you really want that moment to be about the person

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<v Speaker 1>you're proposing too. And I know that sounds kind of weird.

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<v Speaker 1>You're like, Hey, this is just much a part of

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<v Speaker 1>me in my relationship about.

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<v Speaker 2>Something you've shared. I mean it makes if it's a

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<v Speaker 2>special place for both of them, right, It certainly shouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>be about what you think would be a cool proposal, like.

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<v Speaker 1>I love the Dallas Cowboys. The thought of putting Lauren

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<v Speaker 1>in a suite or in a football game and putting

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<v Speaker 1>her up on the jumbo tron, let's take proposal out

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<v Speaker 1>of it. Just on any given day, it's just a

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<v Speaker 1>terrible idea. And so I see some of these and

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<v Speaker 1>it's just like, oh, this is so painful. You're with

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<v Speaker 1>eighty thousand people, then what do you do enjoy the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of the game. It's just weird. And so I

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<v Speaker 1>I just am so against them anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>But oh, you're just fully against a jumbo tron.

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<v Speaker 1>I am. I'm and I'll just I'll just put it

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<v Speaker 1>out there. I am against them all together. It's just

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<v Speaker 1>why are you doing this to us? I'm just here

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<v Speaker 1>trying to enjoy the game.

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<v Speaker 2>Experience.

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<v Speaker 1>But look, I understand that there are couples that this

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<v Speaker 1>is this is what they bond over. So yes, sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>it does work, just as anywhere else. So I'll give

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<v Speaker 1>you that the eras tour Taylor Swift doesn't bother me.

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<v Speaker 1>I won't be such a Scrooge to say publicly, it's

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<v Speaker 1>just know your person, Okay. Tip number one, yeah, tip

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<v Speaker 1>number two, you know I don't. I don't really have

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<v Speaker 1>a tip number two put you on the spot. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I was just saying, I mean there are I would.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd say Tip number two is plan and choreograph in advance.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, for sure, I mean I think you kind of

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<v Speaker 1>have to. I hope that's not everybody does.

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<v Speaker 2>And then you're like, oh my gosh, you didn't you

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<v Speaker 2>think this doesn't happen. One hundred percent of this happens that,

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<v Speaker 2>especially guys propose. And then the woman looks back and says,

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<v Speaker 2>you didn't have anyone record it. There are no photos.

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<v Speaker 2>You didn't have anybody there to take a picture or

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<v Speaker 2>a video or anything. Think about the time of day.

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<v Speaker 2>Are we going to be hot, are we going to

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<v Speaker 2>be sweaty? Will we be comfortable? I know someone who

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<v Speaker 2>their fiance was going to propose, and he got lost

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<v Speaker 2>on his way to the location and they wound up

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<v Speaker 2>biking around for about an hour, and then by the

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<v Speaker 2>time he proposed, she was all sweaty and mad. Maybe

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<v Speaker 2>tip number three is if it's not going well, rethink.

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<v Speaker 2>At that point he shouldn't have proposed at that moment.

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<v Speaker 2>He should have just rethought the time in the location.

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<v Speaker 1>I just realized proposals are a lot like having sex.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe don't think so much about the act of when

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<v Speaker 1>it's happening. Think more about how both of you are

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<v Speaker 1>feeling the second it's over. As soon as it's over,

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<v Speaker 1>where are you? What can you do to enjoy this.

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<v Speaker 2>Month in a minute? You don't think that you're not

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<v Speaker 2>thinking about how people are if people are happy during sex.

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<v Speaker 1>No, you're going to enjoy that moment, right, Everyone's going

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<v Speaker 1>to enjoy the climax of like, here's a ring, we're

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<v Speaker 1>getting married. But as soon as it's over, are we

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<v Speaker 1>now sitting on a sticky stadium floor? Are we now

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<v Speaker 1>sitting with eighty thousand people we don't know? Are we

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<v Speaker 1>now stuck on a glacier?

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<v Speaker 2>You're saying, think about the aftermath of the proposal.

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<v Speaker 1>Think about the aftermath of the proposal, Like the moment

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<v Speaker 1>we were done with our proposal, we had a beautiful bottle,

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah we got we had an amazing sunset.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you had a dinner reservation?

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<v Speaker 1>What is the afterglow like? And maybe I guess that

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<v Speaker 1>would be my tip is think about it like sex. Sure,

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to enjoy the act of it, what is

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<v Speaker 1>the immediate.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I don't know what he's gonna say. He just

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<v Speaker 2>said that would be my tip. Think about it like sex.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean that's a sentence you just said.

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<v Speaker 1>Just the tip.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, stop, Oh my gosh. Audience doesn't want

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<v Speaker 2>to hear you this way.

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<v Speaker 1>Lauren is sweating, Laura is sweating.

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<v Speaker 2>This I feel as awkward as if I just said

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<v Speaker 2>as if I just said no to a proposal.

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<v Speaker 1>But it is definitely I think, to get back to

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<v Speaker 1>the very beginning of this, A no no at someone

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<v Speaker 1>else's wedding. I think that's I think that's tantamount to

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<v Speaker 1>like proposing at a funeral. It's just like, no, it's

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<v Speaker 1>just not a good time to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you think someone's ever proposed at a funeral? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Sure?

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<v Speaker 2>Gosh, if you please send us people.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't have such bad judgment. You just you'd be shocked.

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<v Speaker 2>Please send us your bad proposal stories. I would love

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<v Speaker 2>to hear like things you've witnessed you.

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<v Speaker 1>It's probably a girlfriend or a boyfriend or whatever that

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<v Speaker 1>you're like, I heard this story.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to hear the bad proposal stories or someone

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<v Speaker 2>ever said no one, it was really awkward.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a show. By the Let's do an entire show.

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<v Speaker 1>Please get a hold of us. Go to at the

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<v Speaker 1>most dramatic pod ever. Give us your a quick synopsis,

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<v Speaker 1>don't go crazy, and we are going to chase you down.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to do a show of the worst proposals ever.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, So our tips are one, know your audience,

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<v Speaker 2>two plan ahead, and three think about the aftermath. I

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<v Speaker 2>think these are very good tips.

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<v Speaker 1>They're great tips, and it's something that you look when

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<v Speaker 1>you do it a couple of times, multiple times. It

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<v Speaker 1>changes as you get older, you know. I think when

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<v Speaker 1>we're younger, we are trying to get to just fulfill

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<v Speaker 1>this fantasy or just trying to fill this idea of

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<v Speaker 1>getting engaged, so we're probably worse at it, Like I

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<v Speaker 1>would probably venture to guess that yours and mine. The

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<v Speaker 1>first time we went through this was very different than

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<v Speaker 1>when we went through this together the second time.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a question, how involved do you think family

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<v Speaker 2>should be in proposal engagement moments?

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<v Speaker 1>Again, tough call, because what does the person you are

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<v Speaker 1>proposing to think? Would they want your mom there, their

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<v Speaker 1>mom there? Sister. Whatever I thought about that with us,

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<v Speaker 1>I went deep into that. I know you are so

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<v Speaker 1>close to your family, and I thought, would it be

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<v Speaker 1>great to have them there at dinner? And I still

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<v Speaker 1>think it probably would have been a great idea to

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<v Speaker 1>have them all waiting for at dinner. But I was

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<v Speaker 1>a little selfish in that I just wanted you to myself, Oh, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Think you made the perfect call because we were in

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<v Speaker 2>Napa and it's a romantic place and we had like

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<v Speaker 2>a super romantic weekend. But I think it's very sweet

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<v Speaker 2>when people like propose somewhere locally and then maybe they're like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>we've got a dinner reservation and you go to the

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<v Speaker 2>restaurant and your whole family's there and you're celebrating.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a really fun well, it's funny interesting. We were

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<v Speaker 1>just in Cabo this last week from my birthday and

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<v Speaker 1>we were kind of walking down dinner dinner ish time,

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<v Speaker 1>and we heard some screaming on the beach, joyous screaming,

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<v Speaker 1>not like there's a shark in the water screaming. There

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<v Speaker 1>was this joyous screaming, and I realized what had happened

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<v Speaker 1>was there was this kind of cliff and a bunch

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<v Speaker 1>of people were hiding behind this cliff. Clearly they had

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<v Speaker 1>been waiting for a proposal. We couldn't see because the

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<v Speaker 1>rocks are blocking it. And they all went sprinting out

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<v Speaker 1>with flowers and champagne, and so you know, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>do you want your significant other to kind of have

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<v Speaker 1>a moment to breathe all in and take in the

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<v Speaker 1>fact that you've just gotten engaged and share this moment

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<v Speaker 1>looking into each other's eyes, crying, talking, because immediately these

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<v Speaker 1>people went rushing in and now it's about everybody. And

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<v Speaker 1>so does that take away from your experience getting proposed?

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<v Speaker 2>To know your audience? What is your person like? What

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<v Speaker 2>are they into?

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<v Speaker 1>I knew you a not public and I'm not a

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<v Speaker 1>public person either, so that was also on me, the

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<v Speaker 1>two of us. We don't want it. We wouldn't have

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to do it at a restaurant in the middle

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<v Speaker 1>of dinner a tink tink or whatever. Obviously sports is

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<v Speaker 1>out of the question, but you know, at the theater, like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you're you're theater and I'd take you to Harry Potter

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<v Speaker 1>on Broadway. Still not the place of the time to

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<v Speaker 1>do it.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I think what I loved about when we got

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<v Speaker 2>engaged was that the whole moment was about that. It

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't about some other event that was going on. It

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<v Speaker 2>was just about us in a place that we loved,

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<v Speaker 2>and we had a really romantic weekend that was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, it was a perfect weekend, but it was

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<v Speaker 2>just us together, and there really aren't, Especially when you

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<v Speaker 2>get busy with life and kids and friends and all that,

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<v Speaker 2>you kind of look back and realize, oh, it was

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<v Speaker 2>really valuable to have just a few days that were

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<v Speaker 2>just about us. Because probably the older I've gotten, the

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<v Speaker 2>more I realized that as much as you're close to

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<v Speaker 2>your family and it's important to have great family and

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<v Speaker 2>great friends and all that, your relationship the two of

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<v Speaker 2>you is really what has to be like good for

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<v Speaker 2>it to last. And you can't factor in other people

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<v Speaker 2>into that.

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<v Speaker 1>So when you've become all of a sudden, you went

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<v Speaker 1>from everything being about you and you're still being celebrated,

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<v Speaker 1>but you've become a host. Now you're hosting everybody. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>when your friends are there, when family's there, and so

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<v Speaker 1>now immediately you're just telling stories that you probably don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to be telling about. Oh, tell me about the

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<v Speaker 1>first time y'all kissed or whatever. It's like, you're the

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<v Speaker 1>vibe changes, and what I liked about when we got

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<v Speaker 1>engaged was I wanted it to be just about us,

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<v Speaker 1>in our relationship and our love and just our vibe.

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<v Speaker 2>Are there any other places you should never propose?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, like you said the funeral?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh you said that.

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<v Speaker 1>At work? That's a bit. It seems like a really

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<v Speaker 1>bad place.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, where'd you propose? Conference room?

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<v Speaker 1>By via zoom? What do you think about holidays? Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>proposing on Christmas? Proposing on New Year's is a big one.

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<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of people want to propose at

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<v Speaker 1>midnight on New Year's I'm kind of into that. That's okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you are outcome. Oh no, I just I see it.

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<v Speaker 1>I see the flipping of a page a new chapter.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, something you'll always remember is proposing at midnight.

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<v Speaker 1>We were in Times Square.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll be honest. I don't like it. Here's why. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>whether you propose, we're getting or get married on a holiday.

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<v Speaker 2>And again, I'm sure people have had great experiences, so

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<v Speaker 2>shoot me a DM about it. But you do run

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<v Speaker 2>into the problem of your anniversary, and your memory of

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<v Speaker 2>that thing is always tied into the other thing. Like

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<v Speaker 2>if you get married at New Year's then your anniversary

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<v Speaker 2>is always on New Year's and you're never separating it

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<v Speaker 2>celebrating it separately. If you propose at Christmas, what you

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<v Speaker 2>always remember you got engaged on Christmas, but it's never

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<v Speaker 2>So maybe he proposals a little easier because you're not

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<v Speaker 2>going to perpetually celebrate the day you got engaged. Your

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<v Speaker 2>anniversary will become the day you got married. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I think getting married, especially on Christmas or New Year's

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<v Speaker 2>it makes celebrating messy in for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, and I'm sure there are plenty of

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<v Speaker 1>people that would wrap up a gift, you know, and

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<v Speaker 1>you open it up and it's a ring ah clever,

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<v Speaker 1>and so I tread I tread lightly in that area.

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<v Speaker 1>But I just was wondering your thoughts on you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and look, maybe there's other holidays. Do it on Groundhog Day,

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<v Speaker 1>do it on ourbor Day. These are days you're not

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<v Speaker 1>going to have to worry too much about in the future.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think at the end of the day, the

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<v Speaker 1>biggest takeaway know that person, Make it about that person.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you're at someone else's wedding, please make it

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<v Speaker 1>about them and not you, and if you're going to

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