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Speaker 1: Hi, what's up, guys.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to the Unofficial Expert Podcast with Sydney and Marie.

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Speaker 3: Hey Hey, Hey.

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Speaker 1: Hey, hey Sidney. How you doing.

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Speaker 2: I see you got the mustard yellow one today. It's

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Speaker 2: fall fall into the Gap?

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Speaker 3: Is that gap? No, it's from a place called ten Spot.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what that is.

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Speaker 3: Ten Spot.

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Speaker 2: If you get two turtlenecks, you get them for five

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Speaker 2: dollars each.

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Speaker 3: So it's like rainbow for like hood people.

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Speaker 1: Hood people.

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Speaker 3: Yes, okay, so buy one. Get They got shirts that

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Speaker 3: say bibber girl.

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Speaker 1: Glitter.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like don't let the haters hate or something

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Speaker 2: like that. I see a lot of old people in

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Speaker 2: my neighborhood wearing those. Whenever I see like somebody's mom

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Speaker 2: or somebody's grandma in like a graphic tea with words,

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Speaker 2: I'd be like, oh.

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Speaker 1: I mean you do what's best for you.

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Speaker 2: I mean, graphic teas brings out the youth in you.

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Speaker 2: You know. Well, okay, so gravit t is something with

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Speaker 2: a picture on it, but I'm talking about like words

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Speaker 2: like it'll be like, h I hate it. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 2: suck my dick, And I'm like, you want you picking

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Speaker 2: up your granddaughter and that.

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Speaker 1: You ain't got no elses that.

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Speaker 3: You nobody's auntie is wearing that. And go outside my.

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Speaker 2: Building and stand in the corner and you'll see a

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Speaker 2: plethora of like yo, my pussy goods. You know when

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Speaker 2: they have the hats they say, uh, they say New

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Speaker 2: York and rhinestones.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, bitch, no like diva.

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Speaker 2: Diva Kwayne Kaway with a w queen q w W,

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Speaker 2: And I said, you can't give a nigga shit.

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Speaker 1: What is going on here? Quane? How you doing, Mariene?

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Speaker 1: I'm doing really well.

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Speaker 2: I feel like I've been looking in the mirror a

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Speaker 2: lot more because I have more time, and uh, my

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Speaker 2: skin just feels better.

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Speaker 3: I mean it's always been good. Yeah, You've always had

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Speaker 3: good skin since I've known you.

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Speaker 2: You know, I just had a birthday that this passed,

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Speaker 2: and every time I look in the mirror, I'm like

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Speaker 2: the older I.

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Speaker 1: Get it things more fine. How did you turn this here, Marie?

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Speaker 3: I turned to twenty two twenty something?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm so you know what the constant

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Speaker 2: question that's asked me about you, So, how old is Marie?

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Speaker 2: I'm like, listen, no, no, no, Sidney, don't lie to

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Speaker 2: the people listening. The constant question that people ask you is, hey,

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Speaker 2: got a little bit of money, Now, do you think

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Speaker 2: Marie will like me? No, they that's the second question,

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Speaker 2: but the first is how old is Marie? And you respond,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't know. I honestly don't know. I'm like,

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Speaker 2: that bitch is a vault. She's not telling nobody listen. Allegedly,

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Speaker 2: Chloe Kardashian is thirty two, Cardi b just turned twenty five,

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Speaker 2: Beyonce turned thirty six thirty six times, and they all

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Speaker 2: look to turn twenty two four times.

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Speaker 3: That's my business.

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Speaker 1: They're like, yeah, but Marie tells you everything. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: who told you that? Who told you that? Marie tell

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Speaker 1: me everything? Because she really don't a vault. I'll be

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Speaker 1: trying to get you drinks.

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Speaker 2: I'll be trying to get you a couple drinks, like summary,

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Speaker 2: what's what's your year you were born? How's that working

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Speaker 2: at for you? Do not even get a math here

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Speaker 2: to carry the one You'll be telling people in nineteen

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Speaker 2: ninety And I'd be like, wait a minute, it's actually

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Speaker 2: you know what it's actually.

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Speaker 1: It's actually ninety.

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Speaker 3: Shut up, Marie, what were you an expert in this week, you.

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Speaker 2: Know, Sydney, I feel like I'm trying to be a

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Speaker 2: good person. You know, I still stealing stuff, but like

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to be a better person. And this year

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Speaker 2: I was an ex this year today I was an

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Speaker 2: expert at just not being bitter, right, just letting go

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Speaker 2: of things that aren't meant for me. For the listeners,

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Speaker 2: I notice it's hitting home for y'all because people, hey,

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Speaker 2: bitter about everything, anything is not for you, right, Like,

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Speaker 2: what are some of the sayings when one door closes

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Speaker 2: another one opens? A no, you get three answers from God.

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Speaker 2: When you for something right, you get a not. Now

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Speaker 2: you get I got something better, and you got I

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Speaker 1: Yes, something like that.

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Speaker 2: But I feel like everybody, like sometimes you want something

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Speaker 2: really really bad, like a job or a man, and

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Speaker 2: then you find out later he got herpies, or you

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Speaker 2: find out that there's another job that pays more and

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Speaker 2: is closer.

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Speaker 1: To your house, right yeah.

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Speaker 2: Or sometimes you miss your train, like you get to

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Speaker 2: the train platform as it is pulling away and.

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Speaker 3: You're like, damn, that ain't not but the devil though,

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Speaker 3: and then.

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Speaker 2: Like a showtime person might have kick you in the face,

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean, like a dancer or a

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Speaker 2: homeless man poops and slides it on the window. So

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Speaker 2: I this opportunity had presented itself to me, this job,

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Speaker 2: and I did it, and they're like, we like you,

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Speaker 2: we want you to do it.

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Speaker 3: And then they were like, are you in the union?

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Speaker 2: And I was like, because every people don't know this,

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Speaker 2: but actors have unions too, write of course SAG but

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Speaker 2: of course Screen Actors Guild, and I'm not in that

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Speaker 2: because you got to pay like three thousand dollars a

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Speaker 2: year or something to be a member of that. I

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Speaker 2: don't have three thousand dollars extra to pay the academy

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Speaker 2: or whoever the hell gets that money.

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Speaker 1: Harvey, Harvey, I was gonna say, the won scenes.

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Speaker 2: So I didn't get this job because I'm not in

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Speaker 3: And everyone that I'm saying that too.

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Speaker 2: Was like, I don't think that's a thing, Like I

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Speaker 2: don't think that you actually have to be I mean,

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Maybe they didn't really let me that much because.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, it's their loss, because what are you hot to fire?

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Speaker 3: Do they know what kind of.

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Speaker 1: Year you had this year?

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Speaker 2: Okay, so it's their loss. They're gonna be waiting and

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Speaker 2: hoping that they get somebody like you later. I'm not

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Speaker 2: upset about it, I really I know it would have

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Speaker 3: Z money for a legit fifteen minutes.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, But I'm just saying like, whenever somebody doesn't

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Speaker 2: give me a job or you a job, I'm.

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Speaker 1: Like, what so dumb? So dumb?

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Speaker 3: Like do you not understand how many people love us?

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Speaker 3: I feel like they do. I feel like they do.

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Speaker 2: But at the same time, they're trying to like cut

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Speaker 2: corners because they're like, we can't have them love you

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Speaker 2: too much. And the budget they were like, we're gonna

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Speaker 2: have to get Maria home bunch of clothes.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm just gonna come.

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Speaker 3: Up in my regular clothes. I was gonna show up

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Speaker 3: and like a baggy shirt from fifth grade show pants.

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Speaker 3: Throw wouldn't bring Jack.

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Speaker 2: Why they had to get a budget for clothes for

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Speaker 2: you because they know the stunts that you would pull. Dude,

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Speaker 2: nothing about wardrobe was in the contract that I actually

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Speaker 2: signed already. So I'm gonna fow up with him and

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Speaker 2: be like, where's my first check from that thing that

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Speaker 2: I did two weeks ago, exactly because.

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Speaker 3: I need my money. Also, the person that they picked

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Speaker 3: instead of me.

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Speaker 2: Hot garbage, awful, Fred hot fries miss like a flaming

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Speaker 2: mess with dusty gravy on top, and he stay in

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Speaker 2: like a fitted you know what, I'm let's.

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Speaker 3: Not be bitter because we just go right.

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Speaker 1: Into this thing that you're experting.

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Speaker 3: Okay, blessed, blessed Billy more than me.

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Speaker 1: He got kids, exactly.

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Speaker 3: I don't even have a pet, okay, and we don't.

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Speaker 3: We want his edges to thrive. So he needs he

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Speaker 3: needs the job.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, he needs it more than me. Congrats boo. Okay, Sidney,

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Speaker 2: what were you an expert in this week? I was

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Speaker 2: an expert in touching too much? I'm sorry, Well you

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Speaker 2: already you do do that. I honestly was giving out

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Speaker 2: too many hugs. I was being way too you know, feely,

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Speaker 2: just very comfortable.

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Speaker 1: Let's get into it. Let's get into it.

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Speaker 2: And it has nothing to do with me being a lesbian,

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Speaker 2: even though I'd be like girl, your arms, but like

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Speaker 2: I am, just I grew up not getting hugs and

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Speaker 2: not saying I love you. So I am too much.

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Speaker 2: Now That's all I do is say I love you

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Speaker 2: and give hugs, Sidney, I also grew up not getting hugs,

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Speaker 2: and people in my family don't say I love you, yea,

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Speaker 2: yea yeah, and if only I received.

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Speaker 3: My parents touched one time, right, it was December.

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Speaker 2: This is about me, okay, So yeah, under that you're

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Speaker 2: thirty first, Like nineteen ninety nine, we were at church.

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Speaker 3: It was like about to be midnight. My parents touched

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Speaker 2: I was like, why to Okay, is raal because I

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Speaker 2: thought it was going this's the thing I've ever seen

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Speaker 2: my parents touch.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, go ahead, but you and go different ways.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it'd be super affectionate because you didn't get it,

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Speaker 2: or you can be just like your parents. I'm overcompensating

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Speaker 2: because that didn't happen in my home. So I first

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Speaker 2: thing I do is give my friends hugs.

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Speaker 3: Can you squeeze their butts?

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Speaker 1: I feel like I do, not real touchy feely Marie.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so this is what happened. The other day. We're

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Speaker 2: at a show. You know, my set wasn't amazing, but

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Speaker 2: I was just happy that, you know, Marie came to

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Speaker 2: see me.

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Speaker 3: I had a pleathar pants on.

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Speaker 1: I looked at the painting.

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Speaker 2: You know, great turtleneck, I mean red shoe, just fly

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Speaker 2: fly fly. And so you came and I give you

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Speaker 2: a hug and you were like okay. And then I

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Speaker 2: give you another hug and you're like okay. And then

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Speaker 2: the third hug, you were like Sidney stopped touching me.

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Speaker 2: And I felt like like I sexually assaulted you.

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Speaker 3: You're snipping hugs.

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Speaker 1: You were like touching my thorn. No, it was not

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Speaker 1: like you were like, oh, you have something on your

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Speaker 1: nose and like leak yourself. You were like my hand

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Speaker 1: around my name. I was like, lie, please.

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Speaker 3: Don't touch me.

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Speaker 2: Oh yo, But I don't understand you. Guys don't know.

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Speaker 2: But when Marie is for real about something, your soul

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Speaker 2: will jump out of your body and be like, oh

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Speaker 2: gotta go. It scared the hell out of me that

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Speaker 2: I was like, I'm not touching anybody anymore, like I

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Speaker 2: was trying to scare you.

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Speaker 1: I was.

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Speaker 2: I felt like Harvey Weinstein, like it was so bad.

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Speaker 3: I was like, is she going to report me to hr?

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Speaker 2: Like legit jumped on Twitter and was like hashtag me too.

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Speaker 3: And then and then my other friend I like touched

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Speaker 1: It was just.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she was like, oh my god, and leaned into

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Speaker 2: Like We'll be sitting in a car together and Sydney

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Speaker 1: I'm like you, Marie, yeah, Marie, you know what. Or

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Speaker 2: He's an avid listener of the podcast.

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Speaker 1: Yes. He is a performer.

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Speaker 2: He has an awesome monthly show, Yes, and an improv group,

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Speaker 2: Color People's Time cpt CT.

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Speaker 1: We've done this.

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Speaker 2: We both seene the show, and a bunch of people

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Speaker 2: it's a great show. You have to see it. It's

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Speaker 2: usually at the pit, I believe. But you'll get all

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Speaker 1: That's it. Uh.

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Speaker 3: Give it up for our online dating expert Lamar.

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Speaker 1: To get my name. No, no, no, I was checking.

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Speaker 3: I was checking no to get your last name.

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Speaker 2: That's what I figured, because I was like.

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Speaker 1: There's no reason. But I also feel like Lamar is

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Speaker 4: And the thing about that is white dudes like hipsters

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Speaker 1: In the world. I'm like, all right, cool, what's your

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Speaker 1: Oh Manhattan, yous?

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Speaker 4: This was this was actually five years ago when I

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Speaker 3: So hold on, you used to wear cowboy boots.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the podcast is over now, Yeah, I mean, what

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Speaker 4: But they had to they had to come higher than

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Speaker 3: Well, I know some people who don't wear socks with cowboy.

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Speaker 1: I don't wear any shoes without socks. That's weird, Sydney.

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Speaker 1: Can you concur we call that the patrick you in effect?

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Speaker 1: Like I can't patrick you in effect? Yeah, I can't

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Speaker 1: have ashy ankles out here in the street. Oh that's

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Speaker 1: my life. I think it's different for guys or something.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, but y'all say ashy and it's fine.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Men, men men are usually really I have to

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Speaker 1: stay most lives. Your hands are actually very nice, so

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, No, they are really nice and they're so

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Speaker 4: I mean like to get clown for that, because like

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Speaker 3: I guess yeah, but this is like extra all the time.

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Speaker 2: Lamar, you're the type of guy that gets angry but

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Speaker 3: Yes, angry and then you let your eyes well up

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Speaker 1: Yes. Like remembering Boys in the Hood and Kean Goodding Jr.

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Speaker 2: Was like so mad he started like hitting the hitting

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Speaker 1: That's you. I'm not I'm not going to deny that

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Speaker 1: that gift.

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Speaker 2: When he's just hitting the air, I'm like, that's you,

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Speaker 1: So lamar, let's let's get into this.

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Speaker 3: You're the online dating expert.

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Speaker 2: So what websites? I'm gonna run through a bunch and

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Speaker 2: then you tell me what I missed? Right, So there's

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Speaker 2: what there's like, Okay, cubid, there's match, there's hinge, there's coffee,

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Speaker 2: me's bagel, there's grinder, there's there's grinder, Uh, there's tender.

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Speaker 3: What what I'm missing?

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Speaker 2: Black people meet sowet isn't is it of people?

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Speaker 1: Uber? No, it's so so swipe is yeah dating for buf.

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Speaker 2: There's a lot of white women on that ye and

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Speaker 2: white men they will us thing so swepe. There's a McCafe,

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Speaker 2: the McDonald's appel that's not a dating app to basically

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Speaker 2: you soul swimry get out.

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Speaker 1: Yo.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever seen a McCafe commercial. There's always black

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Speaker 1: So so, lamar, let's talk a little bit about who

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Speaker 1: you are. Where are you from?

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Speaker 4: I'm okay, I'm from New York City, but I.

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Speaker 1: Lived in the specifics out. I lived in the Bronx

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Speaker 1: when I was ten. Okay, that's not New York City. Yeah, yea, yea,

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Speaker 1: yaya New York City. Are you talking about? What do

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Speaker 1: you mean? I mean it's one of the five boroughs,

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Speaker 1: but it's like the Joss No, it's not. I defy

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Speaker 1: you to prove that friends would come visit you in

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Speaker 1: the Bronx. Was we all lived? All his friends, everything

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Speaker 1: he knew was in the Bronx. Youdn't know if I

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not even I'm not gonna romanticize it. It was

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Speaker 4: like fifteen, I went, you know, how did we live here?

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Speaker 4: And we was? We were in a pre war building,

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Speaker 1: Did you hear that it was pre war? There's no

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Speaker 1: such thing as pre war in the Bronx. It's nothing

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Speaker 1: but building. You're right, right, that's perfect city.

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Speaker 3: I would high five want you to test me.

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Speaker 4: I know, I've lived in Brooklyn since ninety four, so

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Speaker 3: You're still there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, everybody else moved out and I stayed. So where

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I lived with my mom and my sister and

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Speaker 4: yeah they left. They moved back to Virginia, where my

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Speaker 3: What kind of Brooklyn were you in? You were in

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Speaker 2: The Cosby's type Brooklyn, or you're in Crookland Biggie Brooklyn

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Speaker 2: Bedst Okay, okay, so like smart Brooklyn.

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Speaker 3: But also you might get robbed for your shoes Brooklyn.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, Like.

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Speaker 4: I got robbed for my north face bag in seventh

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Speaker 3: Had a north face bag leaving a backpack. Yeah, yes,

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Speaker 1: North face Tope, that's what I thought. I was in

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Speaker 1: Weird where you were robbed by women. No, I was

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Speaker 4: So yeah, I grew up in Brooklyn, Sorda. But then

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Speaker 1: Where'd you go too? I went to boarding school when

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Speaker 1: I kind of see it. What Yeah, what is it?

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Speaker 4: There's a coonieses Now I'm looking at them.

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Speaker 2: But it's also they were like a smart dude, and

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Speaker 1: It seemed like you don't really need that. I only

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Speaker 4: I don't take pictures with my glasses on. Typically I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, boarding school, did your parents pay for that or

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Speaker 1: They paid me? My parents? Now, my parents. The school

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Speaker 2: They didn't have no black people that they needed you.

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Speaker 2: So not only did it let you go for free,

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Speaker 2: they also gave you money. Yeah, that's a little amazing.

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Speaker 1: It just a little bit. It's a little bit.

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Speaker 3: It's a little bit.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Your parents were taking most of it. It's legit, thirty

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Speaker 3: And he was like, they made twenty hours.

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Speaker 1: That's awesome. So what's dating like in boarding school? Did

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Speaker 4: Well number one, like you said, there were maybe of

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Speaker 2: Eight black people out of sound like the basketball was trash.

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Speaker 4: Like ten maybe, but it was it was lean. That's

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Speaker 4: I can't hear last day with three of us.

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Speaker 3: So what did you did you have anybody you could

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Speaker 1: It was weird.

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Speaker 4: I had friends because I mean, I think it's easier

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Speaker 1: So did you go to the same school as Blair?

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Speaker 4: I mean, Claire, I wouldn't. I would have known that

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Speaker 4: Boarding school in Delaware, Oh, Ship, the public school down

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Speaker 4: The basketball team had the football team.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, like it's that's that was a weird thing, like

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Speaker 4: So they were like lights and Ship Carl. So we

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Speaker 1: Because they really think that you had Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I think most people think that when when you hear

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Speaker 1: Absolutely absolutely. My dad was a trash man, so.

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Speaker 2: He also trash men be real confident, because they'd be

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Speaker 2: hollering from the truck.

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00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:15,240
Speaker 1: From the truck.

444
00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:18,840
Speaker 2: Well like ship, and they will get off the truck

445
00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:21,560
Speaker 2: and then approach you with trash in their hand.

446
00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:23,840
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yah yeah, he take my number down.

447
00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:27,640
Speaker 2: No, don't see this, don't worry about this trash.

448
00:20:27,680 --> 00:20:30,360
Speaker 1: It ain't mine. Great, maybe I got full benefits.

449
00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:33,000
Speaker 3: They screamed that to me from it's the back of

450
00:20:33,040 --> 00:20:33,640
Speaker 3: the training mess.

451
00:20:33,760 --> 00:20:34,680
Speaker 1: But shout out to your dad.

452
00:20:34,720 --> 00:20:36,960
Speaker 3: What's his name Jack?

453
00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:42,479
Speaker 4: It's no, no, no, like that, that's what everybody called him.

454
00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:44,560
Speaker 4: That's why that that's how this ship kind of started.

455
00:20:44,600 --> 00:20:46,879
Speaker 4: Like Lamar is my middle name, but nobody calls my

456
00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:49,359
Speaker 4: mother first name. We have the same first name my

457
00:20:49,359 --> 00:20:51,399
Speaker 4: father and I do. We're gonna have to tell you

458
00:20:51,400 --> 00:20:53,840
Speaker 4: his middle name is not what anybody calls him either.

459
00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:56,240
Speaker 1: It's it's to see though, right, is it?

460
00:20:56,280 --> 00:20:56,800
Speaker 3: Clarence?

461
00:20:57,040 --> 00:21:01,480
Speaker 1: No Ah? I can't. I can't imagine some hipster being

462
00:21:01,520 --> 00:21:02,840
Speaker 1: like Clarence. That is type bro.

463
00:21:03,960 --> 00:21:05,639
Speaker 2: I feel like it's got to be like an X

464
00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:08,360
Speaker 2: in there somewhere. I feel like it's just Clark.

465
00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:08,840
Speaker 1: Now.

466
00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:12,399
Speaker 2: No, it's something like like the c version of Bartholome.

467
00:21:12,600 --> 00:21:16,960
Speaker 1: I can tell you what me, Yeah, tell us it's clever. Okay,

468
00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:18,080
Speaker 1: I see why your name is Lamar.

469
00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:21,399
Speaker 2: Yelmar sounds like you could get hoes with Lamar.

470
00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:26,880
Speaker 3: You can't. Cleaver Cleaver Lamar definitely. Cleaver is a last name.

471
00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:28,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, middle name.

472
00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:31,040
Speaker 3: No, thank you to Clever. I'm okay with Lamar.

473
00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:35,960
Speaker 1: I got I know somebody like it. Let's rage cleve clean.

474
00:21:36,960 --> 00:21:38,679
Speaker 4: That was how it was back in the day, you know.

475
00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:42,920
Speaker 4: But dating in high school was weird because everything in

476
00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:45,399
Speaker 4: high school was weird. There were rules like we couldn't

477
00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:48,800
Speaker 4: go in each other's room obviously, like so the had

478
00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:50,320
Speaker 4: to be on the low in like.

479
00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:53,360
Speaker 2: A computer that's hot, though, like sneaky.

480
00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:56,800
Speaker 1: There's something about locker room after hours, which is not

481
00:21:56,840 --> 00:21:57,200
Speaker 1: the move.

482
00:21:57,640 --> 00:22:00,960
Speaker 2: Really, come on, la, surprised what I was getting into.

483
00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:05,480
Speaker 2: You'd be surprised I was getting into her.

484
00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:07,920
Speaker 1: I didn't get until like senior year. Everybody was scared

485
00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:08,119
Speaker 1: of me.

486
00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:10,679
Speaker 3: So why you like getting black?

487
00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:12,880
Speaker 1: I had long hair and I was surly.

488
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:18,320
Speaker 3: Long hair photo We gotta fro. You had a Jerry curl.

489
00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:20,680
Speaker 1: No, my dad had a Jerry Carole till I was on.

490
00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:24,680
Speaker 1: You had bundles. I just had had my haird braid

491
00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:27,120
Speaker 1: of all the time you had? Who was breading your hair?

492
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:32,800
Speaker 1: In boarding school? I will go home? You had corner rolls? No,

493
00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 1: because those didn't those didn't keep for as long.

494
00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:35,560
Speaker 3: Okay, so what did you have.

495
00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:39,160
Speaker 1: Had I had this situation?

496
00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:42,960
Speaker 5: I had Oh my god, I had the I had

497
00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:44,679
Speaker 5: the Maxwell Embry album.

498
00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:47,560
Speaker 3: That's why high school was so weird for you, dude.

499
00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:51,200
Speaker 2: They're they're like, also, lamar, you're bald. Now, I can't

500
00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:52,800
Speaker 2: even imagine.

501
00:22:52,200 --> 00:22:54,840
Speaker 4: You with My whole style was based on the sensibilities

502
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:58,200
Speaker 4: of a twenty six year old black woman in the nineties, like.

503
00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:06,720
Speaker 1: Did you look like Maxine from Yeah? No? No, no, No,

504
00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:09,800
Speaker 1: I didn't have the old dog from my God?

505
00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:13,960
Speaker 3: How many girls did you actually date in high In.

506
00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:16,640
Speaker 1: High school, I had two different girlfriends.

507
00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:19,840
Speaker 3: You had two girls.

508
00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:22,600
Speaker 1: Both the senior year because and I cut my hair

509
00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:23,240
Speaker 1: back by then.

510
00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:25,440
Speaker 3: That's why that's what your hair was holding you back.

511
00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 1: Well, it's fine.

512
00:23:27,160 --> 00:23:29,800
Speaker 3: Everything ain't for everybody, ain't.

513
00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 4: So yeah, And the second girlfriend I stayed with until

514
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:36,679
Speaker 4: I went to college, and that was not the best idea.

515
00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:37,680
Speaker 1: Were they black.

516
00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:48,359
Speaker 2: Boarding schooling? I just Spanish? No, they stopped asking questions. No, actually,

517
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:51,000
Speaker 2: there were no Asians on your boarding school.

518
00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:52,920
Speaker 1: There were a few.

519
00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:56,120
Speaker 3: I'm going to report this boarding school because this is bullshit.

520
00:23:56,280 --> 00:24:00,760
Speaker 4: Now they have they have since improved their admissions. Consider okay,

521
00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:04,640
Speaker 4: like the black kids still talk about this diversity problem

522
00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 4: and not like there are twenty of you in a class.

523
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:08,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't want to hear shit. Yeah, yea yeah

524
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:12,600
Speaker 1: ye yeah, but yeah, people they see what they want

525
00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:13,000
Speaker 1: to see.

526
00:24:13,119 --> 00:24:17,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you dated these women online dating blew up?

527
00:24:17,119 --> 00:24:18,919
Speaker 1: When what year? Would you say? What did?

528
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:23,240
Speaker 2: Like five years ago? But e harmony and like matching,

529
00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:25,480
Speaker 2: like the websites has been out for a long Yeah,

530
00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:29,080
Speaker 2: but people were embarrassed to be on them. I'm embarrassed now,

531
00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:30,760
Speaker 2: which is why I'm not on no no, no, But

532
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:34,199
Speaker 2: that's you I'm talking about. Back then, everybody, like the

533
00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:36,920
Speaker 2: chat rooms were more popular than actually going to eat

534
00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:39,080
Speaker 2: harmy age six, you could.

535
00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:42,639
Speaker 1: Holler on MySpace like that happened. People were hollering on

536
00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:46,680
Speaker 1: Black Planet and whatever. They he was on black phone.

537
00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:49,320
Speaker 4: So yeah, like around I guess when I got back

538
00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:55,159
Speaker 4: from college was like oh four, And I like the

539
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:56,800
Speaker 4: people that I was around, like when I was doing comedy,

540
00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:59,760
Speaker 4: doing improvment stuff, they either were just too awkward to

541
00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:01,720
Speaker 4: even talk to, or like they just weren't checking for me.

542
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 4: So I was like, all right, fine, And the internet

543
00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:07,360
Speaker 4: was the other place where I was when I wasn't performing,

544
00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:08,320
Speaker 4: you know what I mean.

545
00:25:08,440 --> 00:25:10,640
Speaker 1: I was going to bars and I had money like that. Yeah,

546
00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:13,000
Speaker 1: so and the internet was popping in two thousand four.

547
00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:15,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just want you to know, nobody had money

548
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:16,680
Speaker 2: back then. They would just go to the bar.

549
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:18,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I can't, no, no.

550
00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:19,640
Speaker 3: They would make friends with the bartender.

551
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:25,959
Speaker 2: They buy one drink in an Naa Jason like, they

552
00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:27,520
Speaker 2: come in to get free drinks all the time.

553
00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:29,920
Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, I'm trying to remember the first

554
00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:32,399
Speaker 4: website I went to a first date sight that I

555
00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:34,119
Speaker 4: that I joined and I can't but.

556
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:40,200
Speaker 1: It wasn't It wasn't match because I had this did

557
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:41,640
Speaker 1: you have to pay for match?

558
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:44,440
Speaker 4: There was a there was a paywall for certain privileges

559
00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:46,040
Speaker 4: like there are on a bunch of sites. There was

560
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:47,880
Speaker 4: one in like two thousand and six, two thousand and seven.

561
00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:50,680
Speaker 4: Then I joined called Nerves. They had Nerves Personal. Yeah,

562
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:51,760
Speaker 4: it was a it.

563
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:52,439
Speaker 1: Was a lot.

564
00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 2: Even got no nerve to approach her in real life.

565
00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 4: It was like a precursor to the buzz feed some or

566
00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:02,800
Speaker 4: some other website because they had articles and ship like

567
00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:04,240
Speaker 4: what how do you walk your dog?

568
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:05,679
Speaker 1: And it was like weird ship like people.

569
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:08,359
Speaker 4: And then they had a dating wing of that and

570
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:11,399
Speaker 4: there was a feature where you had to pay in

571
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 4: order to message somebody or why.

572
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 3: It's probably like a dollar ante or.

573
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:18,919
Speaker 4: Something like eight a month. Couldn't have been more than

574
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:20,520
Speaker 4: ten because I wasn't you know what I mean.

575
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:23,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, nobody was paying those types of prisons. People would

576
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:29,120
Speaker 2: rather be lonely, be poor. Look at all this money

577
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 2: keeping me company.

578
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:32,320
Speaker 1: Plenty of fish with trash, that's one of.

579
00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:37,680
Speaker 3: The plenty of fish was I thought that was for.

580
00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:40,240
Speaker 1: Like rich people. No, that's that app that I'm not

581
00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:42,879
Speaker 1: on that that came like, I don't even know what

582
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 1: the apps called. That's how after Tinder, No, no, no, no, no,

583
00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 1: the Raya Raya I don't know, for people who I

584
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:52,000
Speaker 1: think I know or something.

585
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:54,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's like the they call it the Soho House

586
00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:55,040
Speaker 2: of dating apps.

587
00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:56,720
Speaker 1: But you can also be on that ship if you

588
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:57,280
Speaker 1: build furniture.

589
00:26:57,280 --> 00:26:59,639
Speaker 2: I don't understand what they Wow, are you in a

590
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:01,199
Speaker 2: carpon that can't have no coins?

591
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:03,000
Speaker 4: Are you just I'm just saying what's the like that

592
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:05,640
Speaker 4: are you on rio? I'm not on any apps. I've

593
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:07,879
Speaker 4: been with the same woman for like two plus years.

594
00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:09,719
Speaker 4: I got off the games.

595
00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:11,359
Speaker 1: Where did you meet her? Okay?

596
00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:14,119
Speaker 3: Cup it okay? And you had to pay for OKAYQ

597
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:15,320
Speaker 3: did how much?

598
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 1: Like fifteen fifteen a month? Fifteen a month? I wasn't

599
00:27:18,960 --> 00:27:22,359
Speaker 1: on a vlow for three four months. My Spotify is

600
00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:23,639
Speaker 1: nine nine and nine.

601
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:28,720
Speaker 3: Yeah is it every day? If I'm mad about paying

602
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:30,600
Speaker 3: for I'm angry as hell.

603
00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:33,320
Speaker 4: Got to look at where your money, like where else

604
00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 4: your money will go? Like I'm looking at it, like

605
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 4: all right, that that's like sixty dollars. What would I

606
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:42,359
Speaker 4: be spending on a weekend and not hollering at any

607
00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 4: chicks but just drinking like that could be forty fifty

608
00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:46,880
Speaker 4: dollars a night.

609
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:48,800
Speaker 2: So you're like, I don't want to be wasted. I

610
00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:52,200
Speaker 2: want to be with somebody. Okay, we're playing for dinners

611
00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:54,199
Speaker 2: and stuff. So yeah, yeah, how does that work when

612
00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:57,280
Speaker 2: you go on online dates? What's the dating situation? Like

613
00:27:57,359 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 2: do you go there like I'm only getting one drink

614
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:01,359
Speaker 2: for this bitch, or you're like we're gonna get some.

615
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:04,119
Speaker 4: Apps, or it depends. I think and this is, this is,

616
00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:06,439
Speaker 4: this is for both parties. I think that there's a

617
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 4: there's a there's a negotiation that we both have to do.

618
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 4: We show up and there's a chance to like if

619
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:17,719
Speaker 4: I'm if I'm late or whatever. Like first thing and

620
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 4: this is the guys don't order a drink before your

621
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:22,359
Speaker 4: date gets there, Like, don't order.

622
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:26,159
Speaker 3: It for ok for them, don't do that. Okay, you

623
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:26,680
Speaker 3: don't know what I.

624
00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:29,560
Speaker 4: Like and like that's like, you know, it's like you

625
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:32,080
Speaker 4: might have put something in it that's not okay.

626
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:37,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, you don't know what I like. That's that's

627
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 1: not smart. It is what I want.

628
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:44,200
Speaker 4: I had to think about that later because I'm the

629
00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:46,040
Speaker 4: kind of guy if I'm there first and we're texting

630
00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:47,560
Speaker 4: them like, yo, I can order you a drink for

631
00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:48,560
Speaker 4: you for like what do you want?

632
00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:49,760
Speaker 1: It'll be here when you whatever.

633
00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 4: But as polite as that is, and it's thoughtful as

634
00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 4: that is, that's also a whole other thing that guys

635
00:28:55,840 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 4: don't really often happen.

636
00:28:57,120 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 2: The most drinks that I wanted when I was drinking

637
00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 2: had ice, and so it would be melted because you know,

638
00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:02,280
Speaker 2: a bit is coming late.

639
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 4: So I'm like, so it depends on how the conversation

640
00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 4: is going. Like if there's a report that's being built

641
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 4: during that first first drink, then I'll say something like

642
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:14,800
Speaker 4: I'll get the next round.

643
00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:19,840
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm not getting all the rounds.

644
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:22,560
Speaker 1: Nice Marie's anybody ever talk.

645
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 3: About I'll get that.

646
00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 4: But it's also saying like you can leave whenever you want,

647
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:30,840
Speaker 4: like this is the open yeah, Like if you are

648
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:33,160
Speaker 4: not feeling this, that's cool.

649
00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:36,800
Speaker 1: This has been pleasant enough by like, now how.

650
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:39,800
Speaker 2: Do you Okay, so let's step back. You see somebody

651
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 2: who has a profile.

652
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 1: That you like.

653
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:43,880
Speaker 2: Yep, you're interested in what's the what's the what's the

654
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:44,440
Speaker 2: what are you saying?

655
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:47,840
Speaker 1: How you how you opening it up? Study the profile?

656
00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:51,240
Speaker 1: It's a test. Yeah, study the profile.

657
00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:54,680
Speaker 4: If there's nothing interesting in it other than the picture,

658
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 4: I'm probably not gonna message you.

659
00:29:57,080 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 3: Really Wow, that was interesting, glasses. So that's why you

660
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 3: all Internet.

661
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:06,600
Speaker 2: That's me in my thirties, okay, like you and your

662
00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 2: twenties was like she got a fat ass.

663
00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:11,520
Speaker 1: In my twenties, I was on my Lawrence ship.

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Speaker 3: Lawrence from Insecure Listeners.

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Speaker 1: Just so, and I'm not a team Lawrence, dude. I'm like, yeah,

666
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Speaker 1: I've been that fuck, dude, I didn't you know. A

667
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Speaker 1: friend of mine just realized recently that they were Lawrence.

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Speaker 3: It was hilarious.

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Speaker 1: Some people don't think that's funny. Why are you? People

670
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Speaker 1: don't think that's hilarious.

671
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Speaker 2: And I knew who some of y'all marry not No,

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Speaker 2: I realized that she is Laurence.

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Speaker 3: You don't have any friends, so I don't know who

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Speaker 3: you're talking about.

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Speaker 2: I'm uh, yeah, we're done.

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Speaker 4: Here's another thing to consider though, is that for for

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Speaker 4: for men? And I hope this doesn't come off with

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Speaker 4: sexes because it's not. It's just it's just the math.

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Speaker 3: Do do it?

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Speaker 1: Do it? This is open, do what you want.

681
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:04,680
Speaker 4: So women get a lot more messages on some bullshit

682
00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 4: like from guyses and the other way around. So for

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Speaker 4: every like fifty messages, I said, like, I might get

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Speaker 4: one reply back like, that's just the math of it.

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Speaker 1: I did study what your.

686
00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 3: Profile pick looking like, right?

687
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Speaker 1: Is it the one with your brains in it? Like

688
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Speaker 1: real questions?

689
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 4: That's an important rule. Don't put childhood pictures on your

690
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 4: damn day profile. That's weird.

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Speaker 1: How photos is enough on an online profile?

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 4: I didn't feel I felt like five of me was

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Speaker 4: a good sample.

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Speaker 1: Five. I thought five was okay.

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Speaker 3: You're I mean, but you're a man, and I just

697
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Speaker 3: feel like, this is what you look like.

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Speaker 2: I feel like a woman. You got to hit you

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00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:48,760
Speaker 2: all the angles.

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00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 1: There's lighting.

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Speaker 4: The picture of myself on a boat with no shirt

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Speaker 4: on was in the motherfucker profile.

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Speaker 5: But it wasn't even your boat, right, it was not.

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Speaker 1: But he was on the dock next to the boat.

705
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Speaker 4: Somebody was gracious enough to let me gracious getting behind

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Speaker 4: the wheel of the boat.

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00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 1: That wasn't theirs either.

708
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:08,760
Speaker 3: We were both run.

709
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:13,640
Speaker 1: Did a rent a boat? Wow? You out there on.

710
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Speaker 4: The Wilamat River Poland, Oregon doing our thing for the

711
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Speaker 4: fourth it was it was lovely.

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Speaker 1: But had it was an enterprise of boats? Is what's

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Speaker 1: going on? Picture?

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Speaker 2: So I was like, yeah, so was your main photo

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Speaker 2: the shirtless one or was it?

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Speaker 1: Like yeah, no, no, No, you.

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Speaker 3: Don't start off with that because.

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Speaker 2: Immediately I think you're a douche an asshole, your show off,

719
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Speaker 2: Like I can't that's.

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Speaker 1: An inquiry within you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: I think you should end with that.

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Speaker 2: Like you've seen me in like in a sweater, you

723
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Speaker 2: see a blazer Okay, you saw me reading a book,

724
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Speaker 2: you saw me reading first, would be reading a book I'm.

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Speaker 3: Not, and it would be in the middle. It would

726
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Speaker 3: be in the middle.

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Speaker 1: Of the book.

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't start off with the first page. I'll be

729
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Speaker 2: in the middle of the I'd be a little bit

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Speaker 2: closer to the end. You know that I'll be reading

731
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Speaker 2: these chapter books for refinishing.

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Speaker 4: But I had flags, red flags for how I like

733
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Speaker 4: cold through women's profiles too.

734
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Speaker 1: What's the red flag if like, well, bride's made pictures?

735
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:19,959
Speaker 3: Was like, why, like for alert she's eager to get married.

736
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Speaker 1: It's like, I don't.

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Speaker 3: Know, that's the only picture you got it you looking

738
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Speaker 3: good photo?

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Speaker 4: That's like where in your especially especially if you're not

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Speaker 4: the only one in it.

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Speaker 3: Well, see, group photos are not good.

742
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Speaker 1: I don't like that.

743
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:35,360
Speaker 4: That's like that's cold red right there. I'm like, look,

744
00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 4: don't put me like I'm not Colombo. Don't have me

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Speaker 4: hunting down which one you are.

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Speaker 2: Okay, wait, I will end on a group photo to

747
00:33:42,880 --> 00:33:45,400
Speaker 2: let you know, like, this is the people I'm surrounded by.

748
00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:48,520
Speaker 2: So this is what I'm working with. I'm letting you

749
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Speaker 2: know what my life is like. I'm around nothing but tens.

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Speaker 4: Just group photos and it's just and like there might

751
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Speaker 4: be one that's crops strategically and you have to logic

752
00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 4: your way through who And at that point is that's

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Speaker 4: no deal.

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Speaker 2: I'm not here for the math of the sign of this,

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Speaker 2: like just be signing all your photos. Also, what if

756
00:34:08,200 --> 00:34:11,640
Speaker 2: your friends are cuter than you? Exactly right, I'm gonna

757
00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:17,240
Speaker 2: say impossible, but I am going to put a picture

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Speaker 2: up of all my friends and we all love it. Sydney,

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Speaker 2: you do have a lot of attractive friends. Like people

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Speaker 2: be like they got.

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Speaker 1: The sexiest friends of the world, and I'm like.

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Speaker 2: Well, look at Sydney, and you beat the main one.

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Speaker 2: In the photo of you're a photo and a deep squad.

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Speaker 2: I'm looking over my left shoulder. Yo. If I was

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Speaker 2: in the dating world right now, if I had a

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Speaker 2: profile pick, you would be in one of them.

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Speaker 1: Definitely.

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Speaker 2: You know, sometimes I call through my Instagram and I'm like,

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Speaker 2: in these last nine photos, Sydney's in twelve of them,

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00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:46,280
Speaker 2: Like it'd be like it'd be a lot of Sydney.

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Speaker 1: At the same time, though, I do need to know

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Speaker 1: that you have friends because.

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Speaker 4: Because my time is my own exactly, and so is

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Speaker 4: yours exactly. And that's why my girlfriend and I are

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Speaker 4: still together.

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Speaker 2: Right now, because we don't want talk about her yet anyway,

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Speaker 2: keep going with the And I think that's the thing,

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Speaker 2: right because sometimes people like I have friends or I

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Speaker 2: had a friend, were not calling more because she's terrible. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but she every time she dated somebody, she would drop

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Speaker 2: all her friends.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's not cool.

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00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:17,080
Speaker 2: And she'd be like at his house for days. At

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Speaker 2: the time she I would see her, she'd be wearing

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Speaker 2: his clothes. She was wearing boyfriend jeans before that was

786
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Speaker 2: a thing. I mean, but I feel like the first

787
00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:26,920
Speaker 2: six months people are engulfed in love, they want to

788
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Speaker 2: be in love so bad if they date. I don't

789
00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:32,680
Speaker 2: want to see you every day. You are called inside,

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Speaker 2: call me every day, shoot me it. Don't hit me

791
00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:37,360
Speaker 2: with the good morning, good night text, keep me on

792
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Speaker 2: my toes. Let me think you might be with some

793
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Speaker 2: other hoes. Really, just like, I don't anybody who likes

794
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:46,040
Speaker 2: me too much. I don't like like, I lose interest

795
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:48,520
Speaker 2: quick fast. Like if I'm attracted to somebody and I

796
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Speaker 2: find out they like me, I'll be like.

797
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Speaker 1: I've been there, I've done that. Yeah, I've done that.

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Speaker 4: And that's I mean, that's an insecurity thing for me,

799
00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:57,840
Speaker 4: like because I spent most of the twenties not liking myself,

800
00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:00,759
Speaker 4: so I would over compensate get in effect of being

801
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:03,800
Speaker 4: thoughtful and doing ship like people.

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Speaker 1: I was dating.

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Speaker 4: It was like yo, like like little ship like, oh

804
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:10,359
Speaker 4: I saw this on the way home from work.

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Speaker 1: I thought you would like it. Whatever. But I wasn't

806
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 1: doing it for the right reasons. I wasn't doing it

807
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Speaker 1: like you.

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00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:19,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I was doing it because it was like,

809
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Speaker 4: all right, look at look at how much I'm putting in.

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00:36:23,360 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 1: Hopefully at some point you're gonna be like that too.

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Speaker 1: I did, like I did that not in relationship.

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Speaker 4: That's it was. It's terribly unhealthy. It's still a starring experience.

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00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:34,279
Speaker 4: But at the same time, it did level set for

814
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:37,279
Speaker 4: what is sustainable with what is reasonable going forward.

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Speaker 3: What's good for you. It's not gonna work, that's fine.

816
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 1: Yeah.

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00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 2: So speaking of that, like, how many times should you

818
00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:53,400
Speaker 2: write somebody that you're courting.

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00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:48,799
Speaker 3: I.

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Speaker 4: Mean over the choice of a message exchange over the site?

821
00:36:57,760 --> 00:37:00,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, what's like how often somebody messages to be exchanged

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00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:02,360
Speaker 2: after there's a reply?

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Speaker 3: Uh huh?

824
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Speaker 4: I think arrangement for to meet for a drinking happen

825
00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 4: right away?

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00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:10,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, after one reply.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because at that point it's like, you know, because

828
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Speaker 4: the reply is it is I I accept the message

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00:37:17,760 --> 00:37:18,120
Speaker 4: you said.

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Speaker 1: It is clear that you are interested because you have

831
00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:21,239
Speaker 1: studied my profile. That's cool.

832
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:23,799
Speaker 4: Now we can talk more about that and learn about

833
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:27,680
Speaker 4: each other before the words getting away of like whether

834
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:28,400
Speaker 4: there's a vibe.

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Speaker 2: I feel like, Okay, see I haven't dated in a

836
00:37:31,080 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 2: long long time, but that's a long time. But I

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00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:36,879
Speaker 2: feel like like you text back and forth and then

838
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 2: like like app, you're like, oh your phone rings and

839
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:41,920
Speaker 2: you're like, oh my god again, and like you like

840
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:46,480
Speaker 2: you're checking for the text messages and then you hang

841
00:37:46,520 --> 00:37:47,080
Speaker 2: out well.

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Speaker 1: And okay on okay cup.

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Speaker 4: But it was they haven't they have an app like

844
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Speaker 4: swipe version now or they did.

845
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Speaker 1: Back in which is like twenty fifte like texting.

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00:37:54,920 --> 00:37:58,279
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I would go I would go to the

847
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Speaker 4: website and check my inbox and there would be like

848
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 4: it's the same thing. But if the messages are robust,

849
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 4: then there is a whole.

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Speaker 2: If it's not, is it abundance abundance of message, you know,

851
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:19,359
Speaker 2: if there's a.

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00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:21,040
Speaker 4: Lot in it, like it's not just a back and

853
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Speaker 4: forth like we you know, banter back and forth. If

854
00:38:23,160 --> 00:38:26,560
Speaker 4: it's not like that, by like can we can do this?

855
00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:28,359
Speaker 4: Whereas if it's like, oh do you see that game?

856
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:31,839
Speaker 4: I'm that ain't ship, then maybe for a little while

857
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Speaker 4: longer cool.

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Speaker 2: I want to create a dating app where you can

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00:38:35,719 --> 00:38:39,840
Speaker 2: only message some one five times, so you have to

860
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:44,239
Speaker 2: be able to get them within five messages, so five total, yes,

861
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:46,920
Speaker 2: or you can send five, they can send you could five.

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00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 4: I think that's that's that's a safety, Like that's protecting

863
00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:54,040
Speaker 4: people from from future disappointment and everything. Like I'm I

864
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,279
Speaker 4: completely understand the whole thing of like, yeah, I'm not

865
00:38:56,320 --> 00:38:58,680
Speaker 4: going to invest in this person in a pen pal

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Speaker 4: and then show up.

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Speaker 1: I'm not here for friends.

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00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:04,400
Speaker 4: And this guy who had a closed mouth smile was

869
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Speaker 4: doing it for a reason, you know what I'm saying,

870
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:08,399
Speaker 4: Like because how rude.

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00:39:08,880 --> 00:39:11,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I met a dude once recently.

872
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Speaker 2: We were talking at a bar because I went into

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Speaker 2: pee and he just happened to be there and we

874
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:18,360
Speaker 2: chit chatted and he was English.

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Speaker 3: He had an accent.

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Speaker 2: I was like, he said, his his tone sounded very egreased.

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00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 1: Like he sounded like, what was his name, Desmond?

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00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:26,600
Speaker 3: I don't know what his name was.

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00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:34,240
Speaker 1: Yes, yes you do. We're talking. We're talking.

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00:39:34,640 --> 00:39:36,920
Speaker 2: And then he asked me for my number and I

881
00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:38,960
Speaker 2: gave it to him. But then he smiled at me

882
00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:42,279
Speaker 2: and he didn't have no teeth. Oh yeah, you did

883
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:44,200
Speaker 2: say that. And I was like, but you know you

884
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:47,080
Speaker 2: have no teeth when you approached me, like you look

885
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:53,400
Speaker 2: at my teeth. But he's like, you know what, I

886
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:55,960
Speaker 2: don't have any teeth, but I still have to try.

887
00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:58,040
Speaker 1: I have to know. Don't try with me, try with

888
00:39:58,040 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 1: somebody else who go no, So what is a gummy

889
00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 1: British accents sound like what.

890
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 2: He sounded like? Elw No, Idris has teeth. There's no way,

891
00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:09,239
Speaker 2: but he sounded like that. And then he smiled and

892
00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:10,880
Speaker 2: I was like, but then you got the nerve to

893
00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:13,160
Speaker 2: smile at me, like you couldn't wait? Was it airy?

894
00:40:13,239 --> 00:40:15,239
Speaker 1: When he spoke like I'm sure there was no one?

895
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:25,000
Speaker 1: I mean, that's that's on brand for British people, right

896
00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:25,160
Speaker 1: like that.

897
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:27,480
Speaker 2: You know. When I left, When I left, I was like,

898
00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:31,239
Speaker 2: that made sense, Like I played myself. So, lamar, what

899
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:34,800
Speaker 2: kind of women were you going for on these dating?

900
00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:35,160
Speaker 1: Yeah?

901
00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 2: What's appealing, they look what they look like, and like

902
00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:38,880
Speaker 2: what kind of type they were?

903
00:40:38,960 --> 00:40:40,000
Speaker 3: What the profile said.

904
00:40:40,480 --> 00:40:45,080
Speaker 4: Appearance is important to everyone, right, and I respect that.

905
00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:50,000
Speaker 2: But appearance is relative because there was there was people

906
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:54,440
Speaker 2: that I thought were attractive several several years ago and

907
00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:58,080
Speaker 2: now that I can see clearly now the rain is gone,

908
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:04,920
Speaker 2: the hell going on. But we also go through we

909
00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:07,520
Speaker 2: grow as people, and we go through phases and what

910
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:09,719
Speaker 2: used to be attracted to you not attracted to you.

911
00:41:09,600 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 4: Know, and there's a range, like there's always the situation.

912
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:15,239
Speaker 4: I've had a situation where I have seen somebody that

913
00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:17,040
Speaker 4: I thought was very attractive and then I show up

914
00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:17,480
Speaker 4: and it's.

915
00:41:17,320 --> 00:41:18,040
Speaker 1: Like boogie man.

916
00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:21,160
Speaker 4: And so, yeah, you have to adjust for that. You

917
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:24,279
Speaker 4: have to filters, be fooling people. Yeah, and that and

918
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 4: I had to learn the hard way that that selfie

919
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:29,080
Speaker 4: from above, I know what the fuck that is.

920
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:37,319
Speaker 1: And I'm not against it. I mean, I'm just I'm

921
00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 1: just saying, if you, if you, if you big, that's cool, Like.

922
00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:43,239
Speaker 3: If you big, that's cool.

923
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 1: Like you don't you don't need to misrepresent yourself.

924
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:48,480
Speaker 2: No no, no, no no no, I pose it a way

925
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:50,759
Speaker 2: to make my butt look bigger. Listen, you have to

926
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:54,319
Speaker 2: dress for the job you want, so so.

927
00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:59,920
Speaker 4: Don't dress for the job of one date then, like

928
00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:01,399
Speaker 4: unless that's what you want.

929
00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 2: And I mean, I you, first of all, you're a man,

930
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:07,359
Speaker 2: and that's not There's not too much you can do

931
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:08,240
Speaker 2: to look better.

932
00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:09,960
Speaker 3: This is when we work women.

933
00:42:10,080 --> 00:42:13,759
Speaker 1: Well, men can't work out men. But I'm saying, for

934
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:14,520
Speaker 1: the most.

935
00:42:14,239 --> 00:42:16,840
Speaker 2: Part, men don't be putting filters on ship because they like,

936
00:42:17,040 --> 00:42:19,279
Speaker 2: first of all, this is make right because men don't

937
00:42:19,280 --> 00:42:21,920
Speaker 2: take me as men. Men don't know and they know

938
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:23,479
Speaker 2: that whatever they look like, there's gold.

939
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:27,359
Speaker 4: It's saying like that, I agree there is. I think

940
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:29,560
Speaker 4: that there is more that we could do. We just

941
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:32,839
Speaker 4: don't because privilege and y'all just gonna be out y'all gonna,

942
00:42:32,840 --> 00:42:36,040
Speaker 4: I mean, not use it. But women are gonna like

943
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:39,399
Speaker 4: they are going to accept be more acceptant of of that,

944
00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:42,680
Speaker 4: like of that laziness, and that sucks. I am sorry

945
00:42:42,719 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 4: about that exactly. And at the same time, because we

946
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:49,799
Speaker 4: were talked about this earlier, like I have five sisters

947
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:51,440
Speaker 4: and they're all older.

948
00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:53,400
Speaker 3: That's too many.

949
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:55,160
Speaker 1: I grew up with two of them, like most of

950
00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:58,600
Speaker 1: them I don't really know like that because they're older. Yeah, yeah,

951
00:42:58,640 --> 00:42:59,840
Speaker 1: I was gonna say because the older.

952
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:03,840
Speaker 4: Because now my oldest son, my older sister is fifty

953
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:07,279
Speaker 4: five and my dad was fifteen then like that's he

954
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:11,239
Speaker 4: was out here. Yeah, And but all that was to

955
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:13,880
Speaker 4: say was like there was a constant like are you

956
00:43:13,960 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 4: really going outside like that? No, you're not to me,

957
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,200
Speaker 4: you know, she said that to you. My like my

958
00:43:20,400 --> 00:43:23,240
Speaker 4: sisters dressed me okay growing up.

959
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:25,759
Speaker 3: But they let you get them braids though.

960
00:43:25,719 --> 00:43:29,000
Speaker 1: They did them. I'm telling you my ship was right.

961
00:43:29,440 --> 00:43:31,360
Speaker 1: My ship was I need.

962
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:33,239
Speaker 3: You to send us a picture and this is I

963
00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:33,879
Speaker 3: was doing it.

964
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:35,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to I want to see. Sure, I

965
00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:36,479
Speaker 1: want to see.

966
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:39,400
Speaker 2: And the thing is that men will be confident in

967
00:43:39,480 --> 00:43:41,120
Speaker 2: whatever thing they were doing.

968
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:44,319
Speaker 4: Like don't understand like this was this was this was

969
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 4: junior high and high school. Like this wasn't like oh

970
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:48,000
Speaker 4: that's a sexy kid.

971
00:43:48,080 --> 00:43:50,279
Speaker 1: This is like cute ship. Yeah, this is you.

972
00:43:50,520 --> 00:43:52,440
Speaker 2: I under see what you're saying because I remember junior

973
00:43:52,440 --> 00:43:54,560
Speaker 2: like people used to do crazy craft fro junior high. Yeah,

974
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:58,280
Speaker 2: I mean we trusted weird. I had amethyst color contact

975
00:43:58,360 --> 00:44:02,560
Speaker 2: you have purple hashtag? I did, and I had corn

976
00:44:02,640 --> 00:44:05,920
Speaker 2: rows going all the way back. I had too across.

977
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:07,239
Speaker 3: The front and then the rest of them went back.

978
00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:11,080
Speaker 1: There's going back to your going back to your question.

979
00:44:11,160 --> 00:44:13,080
Speaker 4: No, like there there are pictures you can look at

980
00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 4: and go like this person seems interesting at least, like because.

981
00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:19,480
Speaker 3: They got their hand on their chin like this that

982
00:44:19,600 --> 00:44:22,000
Speaker 3: inquisitive chin grass.

983
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:25,160
Speaker 4: There's there's style to to to consider.

984
00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 3: They're in a field of some flowers. Okay, yeah, I

985
00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 3: have to see. But I would want to take a

986
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 3: picture in the field of some flowers. But would you

987
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:33,400
Speaker 3: put that in a dating profile?

988
00:44:33,440 --> 00:44:36,360
Speaker 1: Though I'm not putting up if it's a hiking picture,

989
00:44:36,360 --> 00:44:36,680
Speaker 1: I'm like.

990
00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:40,040
Speaker 3: No, that's definitely a no.

991
00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 2: If it's a well, not like it's a lot of

992
00:44:42,200 --> 00:44:44,200
Speaker 2: people take the pictures with they dog, because.

993
00:44:43,960 --> 00:44:48,200
Speaker 4: Like I'm I'm still friends with dogs of women that

994
00:44:48,239 --> 00:44:49,839
Speaker 4: I used to date, and I'm not friends with them

995
00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 4: no more.

996
00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:53,359
Speaker 3: How because also, how are you friendly? You come by

997
00:44:53,400 --> 00:44:54,480
Speaker 3: and see the dog and don't say.

998
00:44:54,400 --> 00:44:58,000
Speaker 1: No, no, not like that. It's like your how's roads doing?

999
00:44:58,239 --> 00:45:01,000
Speaker 1: It's just like, I'm so tired of twenty and seventeen.

1000
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:08,319
Speaker 4: Please yeah, but that but the hiking example is like, oh,

1001
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:10,279
Speaker 4: that to me says you're the type to get up

1002
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:11,480
Speaker 4: at like a thirty and say like we have to

1003
00:45:11,480 --> 00:45:12,960
Speaker 4: get up, we're gonna waste a day, and I'm just

1004
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:14,160
Speaker 4: like no.

1005
00:45:13,960 --> 00:45:15,880
Speaker 3: Or maybe the person is just to let you know

1006
00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:16,839
Speaker 3: I'm active, I like to.

1007
00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:19,799
Speaker 1: Be out, and we'll give me that gym selfie. Then't No.

1008
00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:22,360
Speaker 2: What I get from a hiking photo is you're the

1009
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:24,960
Speaker 2: type of person that whatever you do, you have to

1010
00:45:25,000 --> 00:45:27,120
Speaker 2: document it and you're interesting.

1011
00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:29,400
Speaker 1: That's what I'm getting from that. Don't nobody want to

1012
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:30,200
Speaker 1: hike with you? Yeah?

1013
00:45:30,239 --> 00:45:34,920
Speaker 4: That's I'm not if if you love the outdoors, I

1014
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 4: hate you.

1015
00:45:35,560 --> 00:45:39,480
Speaker 1: We're done here, which done, which isn't even to say

1016
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: that I hate the out it's not. But if, like

1017
00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 1: you know, it's not for you. I love hiking, I

1018
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:44,200
Speaker 1: love to travel.

1019
00:45:44,280 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 4: It's like, oh, you have all these things in your

1020
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:49,600
Speaker 4: profile that seem interesting, but like, what's really going on?

1021
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:51,320
Speaker 3: What about a person on a bike?

1022
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:55,319
Speaker 1: I don't know? Oh yes, what are they wearing in

1023
00:45:55,360 --> 00:45:58,040
Speaker 1: this bike? Is it a Dutch bike with.

1024
00:45:57,080 --> 00:46:01,120
Speaker 6: The baskets or is it is it one of them

1025
00:46:01,160 --> 00:46:05,880
Speaker 6: Land's armstrong joints. Because I'm not doing no fifth, no

1026
00:46:06,080 --> 00:46:08,960
Speaker 6: five hundred mile rides with you, but we might you

1027
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:14,799
Speaker 6: do like a stark and have some bread, Like, I'm.

1028
00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:15,080
Speaker 2: So glad that you're in a relationship because it seemed

1029
00:46:15,080 --> 00:46:19,840
Speaker 2: like you real picky, you real specific.

1030
00:46:19,360 --> 00:46:21,960
Speaker 1: You know what? Fuck it? Yeah I am, but I

1031
00:46:22,040 --> 00:46:24,400
Speaker 1: think everybody should be. But you're allowed to be picky.

1032
00:46:24,400 --> 00:46:25,680
Speaker 3: You're allowed to be specific.

1033
00:46:25,719 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 1: I'm picky.

1034
00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:29,279
Speaker 3: I mean I'm dated dust. But also like, I.

1035
00:46:29,239 --> 00:46:32,359
Speaker 1: Have never been happier than like knowing what I want it.

1036
00:46:32,280 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 4: And just finding it and finding that because there's all

1037
00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:38,440
Speaker 4: there's a whole lot of years where it was just

1038
00:46:38,480 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 4: like yeah, but.

1039
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:42,279
Speaker 1: I'm trying to but a.

1040
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 2: Lot of us, they're all walking around not knowing what

1041
00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:46,520
Speaker 2: the hell we freaking want. We think we know what

1042
00:46:46,600 --> 00:46:48,319
Speaker 2: we want, and then we get what we thought and

1043
00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:50,880
Speaker 2: then we're like, fuck it, I don't want this. So

1044
00:46:50,920 --> 00:46:53,399
Speaker 2: it's like we're all walking around thinking that we want

1045
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:55,640
Speaker 2: something and we won't know until we get in a

1046
00:46:55,680 --> 00:46:58,200
Speaker 2: situation that challenges what we want.

1047
00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:03,279
Speaker 1: There's also not there is I don't know what. I think.

1048
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:05,360
Speaker 4: It's just how we interact with each other in the

1049
00:47:05,480 --> 00:47:06,839
Speaker 4: in the Dayton landscape or whatever.

1050
00:47:06,880 --> 00:47:09,440
Speaker 1: We like, we're terrible. We don't know how to talk

1051
00:47:09,480 --> 00:47:09,920
Speaker 1: to each other.

1052
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:12,600
Speaker 4: Like if people being honest about what they want is

1053
00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:15,360
Speaker 4: most immediately met with derigient.

1054
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:22,719
Speaker 5: Deridge like people like if somebody's like yo if and

1055
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:26,480
Speaker 5: and at least this is my experience, I never felt

1056
00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:29,319
Speaker 5: like it was okay to want what you want to say.

1057
00:47:29,400 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 1: Look, we can go for some drinks, have sex or whatever.

1058
00:47:33,960 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 2: Hang out, because that doesn't I'm sorry, Lamar, you can't

1059
00:47:36,719 --> 00:47:40,759
Speaker 2: say it doesn't sound good. Ever, hey, you want to

1060
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 2: get this dirty artini and then fuck?

1061
00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:45,600
Speaker 1: And now no, get this dirty artina, then it's dirty dick.

1062
00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:47,439
Speaker 1: I agree because if.

1063
00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:49,480
Speaker 4: Some if, if a woman had would have had approached

1064
00:47:49,480 --> 00:47:51,440
Speaker 4: me like that too, like I would be clutching my

1065
00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:54,400
Speaker 4: pros as well. But I think that that's a problem

1066
00:47:54,719 --> 00:47:56,080
Speaker 4: if that is what's going on.

1067
00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:58,880
Speaker 2: Every time I've told somebody straight up and down what

1068
00:47:59,000 --> 00:48:02,759
Speaker 2: I wanted, they're like, like, you have Herbie or Herbie.

1069
00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:08,239
Speaker 4: And I think that has more to do with with society.

1070
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:11,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's that's but I feel like that's

1071
00:48:11,600 --> 00:48:12,840
Speaker 2: what Tinder is now.

1072
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:15,279
Speaker 1: It's a hookup app. Oh yeah, you're like, I did

1073
00:48:15,280 --> 00:48:18,360
Speaker 1: all right? You three you three hundred yards from me.

1074
00:48:18,680 --> 00:48:20,799
Speaker 2: I have a crumpled friend that's doing all right on

1075
00:48:20,880 --> 00:48:22,360
Speaker 2: tender like exactly, that's.

1076
00:48:22,160 --> 00:48:23,040
Speaker 1: What I mean.

1077
00:48:23,320 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 4: I I I two there were two women that I

1078
00:48:28,080 --> 00:48:30,600
Speaker 4: met on Tender that I actually spent time with. Yeah,

1079
00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:33,080
Speaker 4: and you know, liked and it was it was cool.

1080
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:35,399
Speaker 1: It wasn't. I never used it as a hookup ap.

1081
00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:38,280
Speaker 2: I know, people when we had that snowstorm in January,

1082
00:48:38,280 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 2: they were like, I need a.

1083
00:48:39,520 --> 00:48:41,920
Speaker 3: Little cuddle, buddy. Yeah.

1084
00:48:42,040 --> 00:48:45,960
Speaker 2: Tinder was like at like uh searge hours or whatever,

1085
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:47,040
Speaker 2: search pressing.

1086
00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:48,080
Speaker 1: I'm just not.

1087
00:48:48,680 --> 00:48:50,399
Speaker 4: I had to come to grips like I'm not. I wasn't.

1088
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:52,759
Speaker 4: I'm not built for that. I never was like I

1089
00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:55,279
Speaker 4: wanted to be in a relationship like yeah, I know,

1090
00:48:56,239 --> 00:48:57,880
Speaker 4: like I know the feeling the hooking up with somebody,

1091
00:48:57,880 --> 00:49:00,359
Speaker 4: and it's empty as fuck, like it's never as fun

1092
00:49:00,400 --> 00:49:00,719
Speaker 4: as it is.

1093
00:49:01,200 --> 00:49:03,800
Speaker 2: It's different when a woman says like, yeah, I'm looking

1094
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:06,200
Speaker 2: for marriage, You're like, uh, you clinging you too much?

1095
00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:08,759
Speaker 2: Like I'm just chilling. But when a man says, yeah,

1096
00:49:08,960 --> 00:49:12,000
Speaker 2: I'm willing to settle down, people like, oh, he's you know,

1097
00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:15,440
Speaker 2: he knows what he wants. That's right, that's great, like and.

1098
00:49:15,560 --> 00:49:17,960
Speaker 1: And it's so people are so like that.

1099
00:49:18,040 --> 00:49:20,239
Speaker 4: It's so bad that the dudes would just say that

1100
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:22,680
Speaker 4: ship because they know it's a popular thing and not me,

1101
00:49:22,920 --> 00:49:23,520
Speaker 4: you know.

1102
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:26,680
Speaker 3: Man, you see, I'm not in the dating.

1103
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 1: Oh here's another thing. I don't have the time. There's

1104
00:49:29,200 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 1: something important that I think God should know.

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00:49:31,680 --> 00:49:32,320
Speaker 3: Okay, what's that?

1106
00:49:32,920 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 1: And it's when considering because.

1107
00:49:35,920 --> 00:49:39,959
Speaker 4: I think you you have to be sensitive to some

1108
00:49:40,000 --> 00:49:43,440
Speaker 4: concerns that might not be yours when you when you

1109
00:49:43,480 --> 00:49:45,719
Speaker 4: absolute absolutely.

1110
00:49:45,320 --> 00:49:47,480
Speaker 1: For instance, oh, let's get into this.

1111
00:49:47,680 --> 00:49:51,480
Speaker 4: There are conversations like if and I've typically dated women

1112
00:49:51,480 --> 00:49:52,919
Speaker 4: who are older than me anyway.

1113
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:54,920
Speaker 1: But if.

1114
00:49:57,160 --> 00:49:58,719
Speaker 4: There's certain things you have to think about when a

1115
00:49:58,719 --> 00:50:02,640
Speaker 4: woman is have some damn kid between thirty three and

1116
00:50:02,719 --> 00:50:03,840
Speaker 4: forty maybe thirty.

1117
00:50:03,719 --> 00:50:06,200
Speaker 1: Especially clock tickets. Yeah, which isn't.

1118
00:50:05,960 --> 00:50:07,800
Speaker 4: To say that you should be like, man, I am trying,

1119
00:50:07,840 --> 00:50:08,719
Speaker 4: like she's like.

1120
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:11,520
Speaker 3: No, that means don't waste her fucking exactly. That's what

1121
00:50:11,560 --> 00:50:11,839
Speaker 3: that means.

1122
00:50:11,840 --> 00:50:12,479
Speaker 1: That's what that means.

1123
00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:15,840
Speaker 4: And I think I don't think it's wrong to consider

1124
00:50:15,880 --> 00:50:17,880
Speaker 4: that stuff like if you have to if, like and

1125
00:50:17,960 --> 00:50:20,080
Speaker 4: the thing about okay, cooping and I don't work for them,

1126
00:50:20,360 --> 00:50:23,200
Speaker 4: but they have a category that says I mean they

1127
00:50:23,239 --> 00:50:24,239
Speaker 4: have you know, you.

1128
00:50:24,200 --> 00:50:26,879
Speaker 1: Know that says details I want to have some kids.

1129
00:50:26,960 --> 00:50:30,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, I wants kids, likes kids, want them, doesn't have

1130
00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:32,920
Speaker 4: them whatever, wants to get married, all this other stuff.

1131
00:50:32,920 --> 00:50:38,000
Speaker 1: Somebody wants kids. We're done here. It's sark. You know,

1132
00:50:38,080 --> 00:50:38,759
Speaker 1: if somebody you.

1133
00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:42,239
Speaker 3: Know, because you don't want to have kids right ever?

1134
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:44,680
Speaker 1: No, your girl now don't want to have kids either.

1135
00:50:44,920 --> 00:50:45,040
Speaker 2: No?

1136
00:50:45,800 --> 00:50:46,960
Speaker 1: Oh maybe are.

1137
00:50:46,800 --> 00:50:47,439
Speaker 2: You not.

1138
00:50:49,480 --> 00:50:51,239
Speaker 1: Well at this point? Science would preclude it.

1139
00:50:51,960 --> 00:50:55,560
Speaker 3: And I mean, y'all stay with no.

1140
00:50:55,640 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 4: She got second no, no, no, no, no no, she went

1141
00:51:00,719 --> 00:51:01,640
Speaker 4: through the chains.

1142
00:51:01,680 --> 00:51:05,319
Speaker 1: She's older than I am, so she likes no.

1143
00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:07,520
Speaker 3: But Janna Jackson is having babies, so.

1144
00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:11,319
Speaker 1: She doesn't want children. Okay, I don't want to. I'm

1145
00:51:11,320 --> 00:51:15,560
Speaker 1: not putting she's not here to finish.

1146
00:51:15,640 --> 00:51:17,239
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, can we take a step back and talk

1147
00:51:17,280 --> 00:51:19,560
Speaker 2: about the worst online date you've ever been on?

1148
00:51:20,239 --> 00:51:22,080
Speaker 1: What did that look like? She came in, she didn't

1149
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:23,239
Speaker 1: look the right way.

1150
00:51:23,080 --> 00:51:27,440
Speaker 2: She's I don't think that's automatically. I feel like, if

1151
00:51:27,440 --> 00:51:29,839
Speaker 2: you're on a dating app, people be lying so when

1152
00:51:29,840 --> 00:51:32,399
Speaker 2: they show up that if they show up and they

1153
00:51:32,440 --> 00:51:35,600
Speaker 2: look halfway decent, I'm like, no, no, I didn't double

1154
00:51:35,640 --> 00:51:37,240
Speaker 2: tap because you look halfway decent.

1155
00:51:37,560 --> 00:51:39,080
Speaker 1: I need on your profile.

1156
00:51:39,120 --> 00:51:39,680
Speaker 3: You look tall.

1157
00:51:39,719 --> 00:51:41,920
Speaker 1: You took the picture from the floor, you took it

1158
00:51:42,000 --> 00:51:42,640
Speaker 1: from the knees.

1159
00:51:44,680 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 3: They had a little box underneath them, Apple box.

1160
00:51:50,520 --> 00:51:52,759
Speaker 4: I wish I had a nightmare story just for the

1161
00:51:52,800 --> 00:51:54,279
Speaker 4: sake of the show, But I don't like.

1162
00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:57,400
Speaker 2: Because you're so damn picky and specific. That's what you

1163
00:51:57,440 --> 00:52:00,600
Speaker 2: probably got to get. That exactly what he wanted to get.

1164
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:03,520
Speaker 4: Every day that I've been on has been at the

1165
00:52:03,640 --> 00:52:05,920
Speaker 4: very least a pleasant time with a stranger that I

1166
00:52:05,960 --> 00:52:06,520
Speaker 4: don't have to do.

1167
00:52:06,480 --> 00:52:11,560
Speaker 1: It so boring. Yeah, there was this woman who.

1168
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:14,880
Speaker 3: That's that's so boring.

1169
00:52:15,400 --> 00:52:22,920
Speaker 1: I can't she was. I mean, she was larger than

1170
00:52:22,920 --> 00:52:23,400
Speaker 1: she led.

1171
00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:27,200
Speaker 2: One photo, like she had gained some weight, or like

1172
00:52:27,239 --> 00:52:28,960
Speaker 2: the photos were old, or like she took it from

1173
00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:32,359
Speaker 2: like the chi pleasantly plump or bb W.

1174
00:52:32,560 --> 00:52:36,919
Speaker 1: No, no, no, I wasn't. No, she wasn't. Was it rubenesque?

1175
00:52:38,760 --> 00:52:42,320
Speaker 2: We got write that down, Google it it was. I

1176
00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:44,120
Speaker 2: thought that was a sandwich.

1177
00:52:46,520 --> 00:52:51,800
Speaker 1: Sandwich, it was. It was more the It was jarring

1178
00:52:51,840 --> 00:52:52,680
Speaker 1: at first.

1179
00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:55,799
Speaker 3: Oh, like she really shocked you.

1180
00:52:56,000 --> 00:52:59,200
Speaker 1: I was like, oh what, And then I say, but

1181
00:52:59,239 --> 00:53:00,440
Speaker 1: I didn't, you know.

1182
00:53:00,880 --> 00:53:03,560
Speaker 2: I met somebody who's like a friend of a friend

1183
00:53:03,880 --> 00:53:07,560
Speaker 2: in public and I saw their picture on Facebook and

1184
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:12,000
Speaker 2: I'm looking for this person at the bookstore, and when

1185
00:53:12,040 --> 00:53:15,080
Speaker 2: the person rolled up, I was like, no, no, no, no,

1186
00:53:15,280 --> 00:53:17,600
Speaker 2: this is not this person.

1187
00:53:18,200 --> 00:53:22,240
Speaker 3: And I almost looked at her like sting.

1188
00:53:22,880 --> 00:53:26,719
Speaker 2: I was like, how many filters did you put on?

1189
00:53:26,960 --> 00:53:29,000
Speaker 3: Like when you met somebody at a bookstore?

1190
00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:31,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, at the bookstore.

1191
00:53:32,239 --> 00:53:34,160
Speaker 3: We're meaning up about some work stuff.

1192
00:53:34,840 --> 00:53:39,040
Speaker 1: I did have a traumatizing date. But I found ruben esque.

1193
00:53:39,160 --> 00:53:41,360
Speaker 2: But they look it's a lot of roles and like

1194
00:53:41,480 --> 00:53:42,720
Speaker 2: doey squeishye boddies.

1195
00:53:42,880 --> 00:53:44,680
Speaker 1: Well, there's nothing wrong with Ruben.

1196
00:53:44,760 --> 00:53:45,840
Speaker 3: It's a type of painting.

1197
00:53:46,200 --> 00:53:53,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, it predates stuttered, but it's it's a Picasso type.

1198
00:53:54,080 --> 00:53:56,279
Speaker 1: They got like squeshe baddies. That was like, oh girl, girl,

1199
00:53:56,360 --> 00:53:59,040
Speaker 1: she got money. That was being a weird place, you

1200
00:53:59,080 --> 00:54:02,800
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Okay, so you wait, who's just no?

1201
00:54:02,920 --> 00:54:04,879
Speaker 1: He said that he had had I had a date

1202
00:54:04,920 --> 00:54:05,239
Speaker 1: there was.

1203
00:54:05,280 --> 00:54:08,200
Speaker 4: It was a traumatizing experience, and that's more because of

1204
00:54:08,239 --> 00:54:17,240
Speaker 4: my hang ups. No, no, no, she was really really hairy,

1205
00:54:18,080 --> 00:54:21,919
Speaker 4: Like really, where what that means in one specific place?

1206
00:54:21,960 --> 00:54:23,440
Speaker 3: Oh you like it to be bald?

1207
00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:24,239
Speaker 1: No.

1208
00:54:24,960 --> 00:54:28,359
Speaker 4: But I also wasn't ready for this, like, oh, you're

1209
00:54:28,400 --> 00:54:30,760
Speaker 4: not here for the retro for this, like second wave

1210
00:54:32,400 --> 00:54:35,000
Speaker 4: shining feminism ass.

1211
00:54:34,320 --> 00:54:38,160
Speaker 1: She had a black panther uh fro down air.

1212
00:54:38,280 --> 00:54:41,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was the reason and like on it on

1213
00:54:41,760 --> 00:54:46,080
Speaker 4: its face, I'm not against that, but it looked like

1214
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:47,280
Speaker 4: too much.

1215
00:54:47,520 --> 00:54:51,640
Speaker 1: It looks like your hair from nineteen deliberate, like like

1216
00:54:51,719 --> 00:54:55,120
Speaker 1: she added some pieces, like she shaved her legs, but

1217
00:54:55,280 --> 00:54:57,880
Speaker 1: was also like, this is what the fuck I'm gonna

1218
00:54:57,880 --> 00:55:01,480
Speaker 1: do down here? You're gonna it was deliberate also, like

1219
00:55:01,520 --> 00:55:03,040
Speaker 1: if you know that you're gonna hook up with somebody,

1220
00:55:03,040 --> 00:55:07,160
Speaker 1: you're not gonna be like trimming. That's what she wanted

1221
00:55:07,160 --> 00:55:08,919
Speaker 1: you to get, That's what.

1222
00:55:08,840 --> 00:55:11,200
Speaker 3: She Why does they need to start with this?

1223
00:55:11,360 --> 00:55:15,560
Speaker 2: Women need to shave because men don't be shaving everything.

1224
00:55:15,560 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 3: I'm not I'm not going to be trimming, not at all.

1225
00:55:17,680 --> 00:55:20,000
Speaker 3: They didn't hit it with a clipper or nothing, not

1226
00:55:20,040 --> 00:55:22,319
Speaker 3: like number shape up up here? But what about your

1227
00:55:22,320 --> 00:55:23,239
Speaker 3: shape up down there?

1228
00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:23,400
Speaker 2: Bro?

1229
00:55:23,960 --> 00:55:26,800
Speaker 4: I don't think anyone has to do anything.

1230
00:55:27,040 --> 00:55:29,719
Speaker 3: Okay, you do need to wash your ass.

1231
00:55:32,840 --> 00:55:36,040
Speaker 4: I'm not saying that women need to do anything. I'm

1232
00:55:36,120 --> 00:55:38,680
Speaker 4: just talking about like how I reacted to.

1233
00:55:38,719 --> 00:55:44,040
Speaker 1: What did you gasp out loud? Nah? And and the

1234
00:55:44,160 --> 00:55:44,880
Speaker 1: date didn't end.

1235
00:55:44,920 --> 00:55:47,239
Speaker 3: It was just like oh what And she was like,

1236
00:55:47,360 --> 00:55:48,200
Speaker 3: is there a problem?

1237
00:55:48,400 --> 00:55:50,640
Speaker 1: Right? And I was like, nah, she.

1238
00:55:50,640 --> 00:55:53,000
Speaker 3: Put another leg on the dresser, like you got a problem.

1239
00:55:53,440 --> 00:55:54,920
Speaker 4: I'm not saying it was like before we before we

1240
00:55:54,920 --> 00:55:56,759
Speaker 4: get into this. Let you know, it's not like that.

1241
00:55:57,440 --> 00:55:58,640
Speaker 1: So wait was was she?

1242
00:55:59,239 --> 00:56:03,120
Speaker 2: So she was hairy but she wasn't thick right wait

1243
00:56:03,160 --> 00:56:06,719
Speaker 2: wait the hair she was just a regular thin chick,

1244
00:56:07,320 --> 00:56:08,080
Speaker 2: just harry. Yeah.

1245
00:56:08,160 --> 00:56:10,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was like she had she had a Mike

1246
00:56:10,040 --> 00:56:11,960
Speaker 4: Woodson goategue, Oh go.

1247
00:56:12,000 --> 00:56:14,560
Speaker 3: Gotta google this too, so you should send us these

1248
00:56:14,560 --> 00:56:15,200
Speaker 3: notes for you got it?

1249
00:56:15,320 --> 00:56:21,640
Speaker 1: She had old boy from the from the Yeah, that

1250
00:56:21,680 --> 00:56:23,920
Speaker 1: doesn't sound that it was. It was it was it was.

1251
00:56:23,960 --> 00:56:26,400
Speaker 1: It was did she smell? Because that's like it was

1252
00:56:26,600 --> 00:56:29,200
Speaker 1: like it was it was fine, like I'm I'm taking

1253
00:56:29,200 --> 00:56:34,480
Speaker 1: I'm owning all this. Yeah, like that was my reaction.

1254
00:56:34,560 --> 00:56:37,960
Speaker 1: I was like, oh god, okay, oh god, Mike Woodson,

1255
00:56:38,680 --> 00:56:39,719
Speaker 1: he just got that thick ass.

1256
00:56:40,120 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, like there's no there's no sign of flesh behind it.

1257
00:56:44,640 --> 00:56:46,760
Speaker 2: Okay, So now can you talk about like the best

1258
00:56:46,800 --> 00:56:48,840
Speaker 2: state that you'd ever been on that you thought was

1259
00:56:48,840 --> 00:56:51,719
Speaker 2: gonna go somewhere and then it did it? His girlfriend

1260
00:56:52,200 --> 00:56:55,000
Speaker 2: because she didn't where you thought you were like this

1261
00:56:55,239 --> 00:56:56,640
Speaker 2: this and then she never hit you back.

1262
00:56:56,719 --> 00:56:59,800
Speaker 4: See, I'm in like my idea on ghost in this

1263
00:56:59,840 --> 00:57:02,959
Speaker 4: completely like my space on that is completely different because

1264
00:57:02,960 --> 00:57:05,760
Speaker 4: I've been ghosted by people that I like knew.

1265
00:57:06,520 --> 00:57:08,239
Speaker 2: Oh what do you mean that you know, like you

1266
00:57:08,600 --> 00:57:11,920
Speaker 2: work with people that like you were friends of friends

1267
00:57:11,960 --> 00:57:12,640
Speaker 2: like I've.

1268
00:57:12,400 --> 00:57:14,560
Speaker 1: Been, like I've been ghost people.

1269
00:57:15,480 --> 00:57:20,480
Speaker 2: Listeners, When you post somebody who's like a six separations

1270
00:57:20,640 --> 00:57:23,920
Speaker 2: of somebody, you know, six degrees, I think that's like

1271
00:57:24,080 --> 00:57:26,320
Speaker 2: you playing it real close because you don't see that

1272
00:57:26,360 --> 00:57:27,000
Speaker 2: person again.

1273
00:57:27,080 --> 00:57:29,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, getting like getting ghosted after Alex, but getting ghosted

1274
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:32,800
Speaker 4: after a date like charge it to the game. Yeah,

1275
00:57:31,960 --> 00:57:35,960
Speaker 4: and that's for everybody. But there was someone another person

1276
00:57:36,000 --> 00:57:37,720
Speaker 4: I didn't meet online, like I just ran into it.

1277
00:57:37,800 --> 00:57:42,560
Speaker 4: We went to college together and we went on like

1278
00:57:42,600 --> 00:57:45,280
Speaker 4: we we went out, hung out at the park, you know,

1279
00:57:45,320 --> 00:57:48,240
Speaker 4: and then we were hooking up and we hooked up

1280
00:57:48,240 --> 00:57:52,160
Speaker 4: another time at her place and then.

1281
00:57:52,360 --> 00:57:55,200
Speaker 3: Y'all hooked at meaning had sex, Yes, and.

1282
00:57:55,760 --> 00:57:59,040
Speaker 2: We and it was good or yeah, yeah it was

1283
00:57:59,120 --> 00:58:00,760
Speaker 2: it was it was a it was pleasant.

1284
00:58:00,920 --> 00:58:05,240
Speaker 1: Was it good for you? Do it in both ways?

1285
00:58:05,880 --> 00:58:08,720
Speaker 3: I don't, you said, I thought I put it down.

1286
00:58:11,080 --> 00:58:15,680
Speaker 1: Survey says, I must not have.

1287
00:58:16,240 --> 00:58:20,120
Speaker 4: But but I was like, you know, it was like, okay,

1288
00:58:20,360 --> 00:58:22,400
Speaker 4: we should like, let's let's hang out again.

1289
00:58:23,360 --> 00:58:25,480
Speaker 1: She was like coul cool, cool. Yeah. The whole time

1290
00:58:25,480 --> 00:58:27,600
Speaker 1: she's texting on her phone like come pick me up.

1291
00:58:27,760 --> 00:58:30,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, and it was but this was like we were

1292
00:58:30,680 --> 00:58:33,400
Speaker 4: making plans at some point like after that, you know,

1293
00:58:33,480 --> 00:58:35,800
Speaker 4: back and forth, She's like yeah, cool, cool, cool. And

1294
00:58:35,840 --> 00:58:40,400
Speaker 4: then she canceled on the day and I was like, oh,

1295
00:58:40,440 --> 00:58:42,280
Speaker 4: that's a bummer. And then she was like thanks for understanding.

1296
00:58:42,320 --> 00:58:45,640
Speaker 3: And I was like wait, no, no, no you read it

1297
00:58:45,680 --> 00:58:46,160
Speaker 3: like that.

1298
00:58:46,560 --> 00:58:48,040
Speaker 1: No, no, no understanding.

1299
00:58:49,440 --> 00:58:54,480
Speaker 4: She confirmed that she was being sarcastic, and it was

1300
00:58:54,480 --> 00:58:56,520
Speaker 4: just like wow, so what happened?

1301
00:58:56,800 --> 00:58:57,160
Speaker 1: Nothing.

1302
00:58:57,240 --> 00:59:00,560
Speaker 4: I never saw her again and then like, well been

1303
00:59:00,640 --> 00:59:02,080
Speaker 4: like a year and a half later she texted me

1304
00:59:02,120 --> 00:59:04,560
Speaker 4: like yo, how you been, And I'm like really.

1305
00:59:05,560 --> 00:59:08,000
Speaker 2: But you wrote her back though I don't know if

1306
00:59:08,040 --> 00:59:13,240
Speaker 2: I did, I have to go to the chat logs.

1307
00:59:13,680 --> 00:59:15,080
Speaker 2: This is what I would have done. I would have

1308
00:59:15,120 --> 00:59:18,120
Speaker 2: wrote back. I would have met up, I would have talked,

1309
00:59:18,520 --> 00:59:20,760
Speaker 2: she would have tried to hook up. I would have

1310
00:59:20,760 --> 00:59:22,760
Speaker 2: hooked up, and then I would have ghosted. I'm like,

1311
00:59:22,800 --> 00:59:25,680
Speaker 2: you don't ghost me without me going that's the long

1312
00:59:25,880 --> 00:59:26,840
Speaker 2: time the.

1313
00:59:29,640 --> 00:59:29,920
Speaker 1: Damnure.

1314
00:59:29,960 --> 00:59:32,320
Speaker 4: I wasn't gonna wipe again behind that bullshit. I might

1315
00:59:32,360 --> 00:59:33,880
Speaker 4: have just said, hey, yeah, I'm good, like I hope

1316
00:59:33,920 --> 00:59:35,280
Speaker 4: you're good, and that was the end of it.

1317
00:59:35,320 --> 00:59:38,320
Speaker 2: But yeah, because what happened to Sidney is you say yeah,

1318
00:59:38,320 --> 00:59:40,280
Speaker 2: I'm good, and then you ask a question and then

1319
00:59:40,320 --> 00:59:40,920
Speaker 2: she got responded.

1320
00:59:40,960 --> 00:59:42,200
Speaker 3: You get ghost on the second.

1321
00:59:42,400 --> 00:59:44,240
Speaker 1: I'm not doing that. I'm not doing that.

1322
00:59:44,600 --> 00:59:46,240
Speaker 3: No, I'm not doing that either.

1323
00:59:46,560 --> 00:59:47,880
Speaker 1: You had that picture of you on a boat.

1324
00:59:47,960 --> 00:59:50,840
Speaker 2: She was like, how you doing I know you still

1325
00:59:50,880 --> 00:59:52,720
Speaker 2: got that boat for the weekend?

1326
00:59:53,360 --> 01:00:01,520
Speaker 3: That timeshare boat? Man, Oh my goodness.

1327
01:00:01,720 --> 01:00:04,360
Speaker 2: Okay, so can you give us I think you were

1328
01:00:04,360 --> 01:00:05,560
Speaker 2: giving us tips one.

1329
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:09,520
Speaker 3: You don't want to see on a dating profile. Let's

1330
01:00:09,560 --> 01:00:12,680
Speaker 3: just touch on your little relationship right now.

1331
01:00:14,960 --> 01:00:19,840
Speaker 1: Why do you have to your little relationship? So, so

1332
01:00:19,920 --> 01:00:20,800
Speaker 1: what you guys met on?

1333
01:00:20,840 --> 01:00:23,200
Speaker 4: What app We met on? OKAYQ But we went out.

1334
01:00:23,560 --> 01:00:25,400
Speaker 4: We met at the bar and had a drink. And

1335
01:00:25,680 --> 01:00:29,520
Speaker 4: the thing that I that excited me about her was

1336
01:00:29,520 --> 01:00:31,400
Speaker 4: that she said she was she like said she was

1337
01:00:31,440 --> 01:00:35,240
Speaker 4: a writer, not for a living, but she was working

1338
01:00:35,280 --> 01:00:37,760
Speaker 4: on something. And then at that point it was like,

1339
01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:40,720
Speaker 4: go on, like I was interested. She's you know, she's

1340
01:00:40,760 --> 01:00:43,640
Speaker 4: the same kind of nerdy that I am on like

1341
01:00:43,680 --> 01:00:46,440
Speaker 4: science fiction and stuff like that. So at that at

1342
01:00:46,440 --> 01:00:48,920
Speaker 4: that point, I was already like, okay, I at least

1343
01:00:49,000 --> 01:00:53,280
Speaker 4: want to keep talking to this woman about this. And

1344
01:00:53,480 --> 01:00:56,000
Speaker 4: so it wasn't, you know, we didn't. I didn't go

1345
01:00:56,040 --> 01:00:57,240
Speaker 4: home with her, she didn't come home with me.

1346
01:00:57,320 --> 01:00:57,680
Speaker 1: It wasn't.

1347
01:00:57,720 --> 01:01:01,160
Speaker 4: It was just like, Okay, this was a nice first situation.

1348
01:01:01,480 --> 01:01:05,240
Speaker 4: We agreed in principle to go out again. And at

1349
01:01:05,240 --> 01:01:08,120
Speaker 4: the time I had and I went on I had

1350
01:01:08,120 --> 01:01:09,439
Speaker 4: to go out of town for a wedding or whatever.

1351
01:01:09,480 --> 01:01:11,840
Speaker 4: And I came back and she asked me what I

1352
01:01:11,920 --> 01:01:14,800
Speaker 4: was doing that week, like some weekend, and I said, oh,

1353
01:01:14,800 --> 01:01:16,080
Speaker 4: I have I haven't.

1354
01:01:16,160 --> 01:01:18,680
Speaker 1: I'm going to this wrestling show. I was going to

1355
01:01:18,880 --> 01:01:19,720
Speaker 1: a w W show.

1356
01:01:19,800 --> 01:01:21,439
Speaker 3: And she hid you with, oh, I love to come.

1357
01:01:21,560 --> 01:01:23,200
Speaker 1: She was like table ladders and chairs.

1358
01:01:23,560 --> 01:01:30,080
Speaker 4: She did not understand, like like that sounds fun now.

1359
01:01:30,120 --> 01:01:33,240
Speaker 4: She The funny thing about that was that she had

1360
01:01:33,280 --> 01:01:35,760
Speaker 4: no context for it, like she never been to one,

1361
01:01:36,920 --> 01:01:39,560
Speaker 4: so she it was more like a i'll go kind

1362
01:01:39,560 --> 01:01:39,840
Speaker 4: of thing.

1363
01:01:39,920 --> 01:01:41,600
Speaker 1: Where was that was that? Like the Barclays, Yeah, it

1364
01:01:41,600 --> 01:01:42,240
Speaker 1: was at Barclay's.

1365
01:01:42,280 --> 01:01:42,440
Speaker 2: It was.

1366
01:01:42,480 --> 01:01:43,439
Speaker 1: It was our second date.

1367
01:01:44,160 --> 01:01:46,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I would I would like to do something

1368
01:01:46,160 --> 01:01:46,360
Speaker 3: like that.

1369
01:01:46,440 --> 01:01:46,600
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1370
01:01:46,640 --> 01:01:49,040
Speaker 4: And it was like a cultural exchange type of thing, boy,

1371
01:01:49,120 --> 01:01:51,400
Speaker 4: because we like our one of our fifth day to something.

1372
01:01:51,400 --> 01:01:53,040
Speaker 4: We went to opera something like that's the range, like

1373
01:01:53,080 --> 01:01:56,800
Speaker 4: she's more on that higher end of stuff. So it

1374
01:01:56,840 --> 01:02:01,960
Speaker 4: was like, okay cool and so we we did that

1375
01:02:02,240 --> 01:02:05,560
Speaker 4: and it was you know, we we've been we've been

1376
01:02:05,640 --> 01:02:07,480
Speaker 4: rocking like that since am I still plugged in?

1377
01:02:08,320 --> 01:02:10,280
Speaker 3: You know what's happened in Cidny's moving around a lot.

1378
01:02:10,360 --> 01:02:15,760
Speaker 4: She's real and yeah, we you know, there be times

1379
01:02:15,800 --> 01:02:17,040
Speaker 4: when we call each other like Yo, what you're doing

1380
01:02:17,040 --> 01:02:17,280
Speaker 4: to night?

1381
01:02:17,320 --> 01:02:18,840
Speaker 1: Nothing? What you're doing? Nothing cool? I talked to you

1382
01:02:18,880 --> 01:02:21,880
Speaker 1: later and we said we just like being at home.

1383
01:02:22,040 --> 01:02:24,479
Speaker 1: I like that, you know, and as.

1384
01:02:24,720 --> 01:02:26,880
Speaker 3: Sounds like something you would like, Mari And you just

1385
01:02:26,920 --> 01:02:29,680
Speaker 3: heard me say I like that, Yeah nothing, would you

1386
01:02:29,720 --> 01:02:30,240
Speaker 3: do it? Nothing?

1387
01:02:30,400 --> 01:02:32,280
Speaker 1: Great? Yeah, I just want to make sure you are lot.

1388
01:02:32,360 --> 01:02:32,800
Speaker 1: Talk to you.

1389
01:02:33,520 --> 01:02:39,600
Speaker 4: Sometimes it's like yo, sometimes like Yo, it's too hot.

1390
01:02:39,640 --> 01:02:42,600
Speaker 4: I am it's too hot, Like I see you tomorrow,

1391
01:02:42,680 --> 01:02:43,760
Speaker 4: like I get with you later now.

1392
01:02:43,800 --> 01:02:46,480
Speaker 2: When So when you're dating somebody that you like that

1393
01:02:46,520 --> 01:02:49,160
Speaker 2: you meet on social and whatever do you.

1394
01:02:49,120 --> 01:02:51,000
Speaker 3: Are you also dating other people to see if you

1395
01:02:51,040 --> 01:02:51,760
Speaker 3: like somebody else?

1396
01:02:52,080 --> 01:02:53,280
Speaker 1: Are they dating other people?

1397
01:02:53,320 --> 01:02:55,439
Speaker 3: When do y'all have the the talk talk.

1398
01:02:55,880 --> 01:02:59,880
Speaker 4: I didn't feel comfortable with dating multiple people at one.

1399
01:03:00,440 --> 01:03:02,840
Speaker 3: Don't surprise me at all of the art. Well, it

1400
01:03:02,880 --> 01:03:04,320
Speaker 3: also sounds like you don't want to spend.

1401
01:03:04,120 --> 01:03:04,680
Speaker 1: A lot of money.

1402
01:03:07,360 --> 01:03:09,680
Speaker 4: The funny thing is I was, you know, I was

1403
01:03:09,720 --> 01:03:12,040
Speaker 4: doing that when I could afford to do that.

1404
01:03:12,400 --> 01:03:17,840
Speaker 2: Then you're like, now I've settled down with my podcast coins.

1405
01:03:17,880 --> 01:03:20,680
Speaker 4: Man, it didn't take like there was there was another

1406
01:03:20,720 --> 01:03:22,040
Speaker 4: woman that I had been out with a couple of

1407
01:03:22,080 --> 01:03:25,720
Speaker 4: times before, or like, you know, while I was dating

1408
01:03:25,880 --> 01:03:30,000
Speaker 4: early in my girlfriend now and there was a point

1409
01:03:30,040 --> 01:03:34,040
Speaker 4: pretty soon where I told my current girlfriend and I said, look,

1410
01:03:34,280 --> 01:03:37,520
Speaker 4: I don't want to keep dating anybody else.

1411
01:03:37,760 --> 01:03:39,560
Speaker 1: But you were like, I got somebody.

1412
01:03:40,840 --> 01:03:41,160
Speaker 2: I didn't.

1413
01:03:41,240 --> 01:03:45,800
Speaker 1: I didn't say that. I didn't say that just tonight.

1414
01:03:46,840 --> 01:03:48,680
Speaker 3: Okay, So now I have a question.

1415
01:03:49,360 --> 01:03:51,720
Speaker 2: What do you do when you want to do something

1416
01:03:51,920 --> 01:03:54,160
Speaker 2: cash right, and the person that you want to go

1417
01:03:54,160 --> 01:03:57,400
Speaker 2: out with is just super expensive out there dates?

1418
01:03:57,720 --> 01:03:59,720
Speaker 3: Like how you shut that down?

1419
01:03:59,720 --> 01:04:03,320
Speaker 4: I'm just saying, wait, but just like game, this off

1420
01:04:03,320 --> 01:04:06,360
Speaker 4: of me to describe for me this scenario you like.

1421
01:04:06,360 --> 01:04:10,760
Speaker 2: Surf and turf she wants and please stop talking for me.

1422
01:04:10,800 --> 01:04:13,160
Speaker 3: I don't know who this Marie that youre talking, but.

1423
01:04:13,200 --> 01:04:15,120
Speaker 2: I'm saying, like, if you like, because it sounds like

1424
01:04:15,160 --> 01:04:16,480
Speaker 2: a lot of times it's like let's meet for a drink,

1425
01:04:16,520 --> 01:04:18,280
Speaker 2: let's get a coffee, let's go blah blah blah blah,

1426
01:04:18,320 --> 01:04:19,800
Speaker 2: let's do something super cash.

1427
01:04:20,040 --> 01:04:22,200
Speaker 1: But we had our classy black man expert on here.

1428
01:04:22,240 --> 01:04:23,680
Speaker 2: He was like, I'm not taking all these people to

1429
01:04:23,720 --> 01:04:26,120
Speaker 2: get food, Like I'm not investing in a meal.

1430
01:04:26,240 --> 01:04:27,520
Speaker 3: If I don't really know, I.

1431
01:04:27,480 --> 01:04:29,440
Speaker 4: Don't think anybody should invest in a meal. I don't

1432
01:04:29,440 --> 01:04:31,200
Speaker 4: think a woman, even if she's not paying for the meal,

1433
01:04:31,240 --> 01:04:32,360
Speaker 4: should invest in that time.

1434
01:04:32,520 --> 01:04:33,760
Speaker 1: Right, But what if a chick.

1435
01:04:33,680 --> 01:04:37,800
Speaker 2: Is like I got time for a garlic parmisan gets out.

1436
01:04:37,640 --> 01:04:38,640
Speaker 1: Of food I'm not paying for.

1437
01:04:39,240 --> 01:04:41,520
Speaker 2: But what if you meet a chick and that's what

1438
01:04:41,560 --> 01:04:42,840
Speaker 2: she wants to do, how do you.

1439
01:04:42,760 --> 01:04:45,240
Speaker 1: Like diffuse that or just like do you just walk

1440
01:04:45,280 --> 01:04:49,000
Speaker 1: away because you're like, nacis that's what she wants to do? Yeah,

1441
01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:50,000
Speaker 1: she's like, let's go get some food.

1442
01:04:50,000 --> 01:04:51,920
Speaker 3: You're not You're not gonna feed me and you were

1443
01:04:51,920 --> 01:04:53,680
Speaker 3: like no, and she's like if.

1444
01:04:53,520 --> 01:04:56,360
Speaker 4: Someone says, yeah, let's get dinner, well let's let's have dinner,

1445
01:04:56,400 --> 01:04:59,280
Speaker 4: that's fine, but like we're not going to the goddamn

1446
01:04:59,640 --> 01:05:01,040
Speaker 4: ab see kitchen or something.

1447
01:05:01,040 --> 01:05:05,200
Speaker 2: If the woman and that means she gotta split, she

1448
01:05:05,280 --> 01:05:08,640
Speaker 2: gotta go half. I don't even think what have you

1449
01:05:08,680 --> 01:05:10,280
Speaker 2: ever going on to date with somebody who said that

1450
01:05:10,320 --> 01:05:11,800
Speaker 2: they were cool with splitting it and they were like,

1451
01:05:11,840 --> 01:05:13,320
Speaker 2: I don't have my wallet.

1452
01:05:13,400 --> 01:05:14,560
Speaker 1: We have not dated Marie.

1453
01:05:17,080 --> 01:05:23,120
Speaker 4: If man, Marie, you seem like the kind of person

1454
01:05:23,120 --> 01:05:25,680
Speaker 4: where it's like if if, if if we were dating now,

1455
01:05:25,680 --> 01:05:27,720
Speaker 4: I'd be like my friends like, yo, why treat you

1456
01:05:27,760 --> 01:05:27,960
Speaker 4: like this?

1457
01:05:30,560 --> 01:05:32,320
Speaker 1: And they're like do you see her? And I just

1458
01:05:32,440 --> 01:05:34,800
Speaker 1: like nah, but y'all, I'm like, y'all no, but y'all understand.

1459
01:05:34,800 --> 01:05:37,440
Speaker 1: All they understand. I'm like, you see her? And then

1460
01:05:37,480 --> 01:05:39,680
Speaker 1: it's just an ellipses. It's like nah, but I'm saying

1461
01:05:39,800 --> 01:05:41,920
Speaker 1: it's just that, and then they never send a message

1462
01:05:41,960 --> 01:05:45,439
Speaker 1: you like, but I love her, But I'm saying, y'all

1463
01:05:45,640 --> 01:05:47,640
Speaker 1: like you, why you treat you like that?

1464
01:05:47,680 --> 01:05:47,880
Speaker 2: You know?

1465
01:05:48,040 --> 01:05:51,200
Speaker 3: Probably yeah, everybody, if I know, they'd be like Sidney,

1466
01:05:51,200 --> 01:05:52,320
Speaker 3: why you let Marie treat you like that.

1467
01:05:52,680 --> 01:05:55,640
Speaker 2: Oh no, they're looking at my sister. They'd be like,

1468
01:05:55,680 --> 01:05:59,600
Speaker 2: why you like, Marie ain't gonna put nothing on the

1469
01:05:59,680 --> 01:06:03,240
Speaker 2: uber Like no, I.

1470
01:06:03,160 --> 01:06:04,480
Speaker 1: Said, that's why I'm taking the train now.

1471
01:06:05,600 --> 01:06:08,200
Speaker 3: I didn't suck your uber fun dry shut up your face.

1472
01:06:08,480 --> 01:06:10,400
Speaker 1: But it's a numbers game, you know.

1473
01:06:10,840 --> 01:06:13,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, so you look happy, and you know I see

1474
01:06:13,440 --> 01:06:14,120
Speaker 3: you out here.

1475
01:06:14,120 --> 01:06:15,120
Speaker 1: You're doing what you're doing.

1476
01:06:15,280 --> 01:06:18,960
Speaker 2: You obviously she supports supports your comedy support.

1477
01:06:19,080 --> 01:06:21,600
Speaker 1: Yeah. One thing is y'all been together for two and

1478
01:06:21,640 --> 01:06:24,640
Speaker 1: a half years and I haven't never met her. She's

1479
01:06:24,680 --> 01:06:26,240
Speaker 1: been to the shows. I think you did meet her

1480
01:06:26,240 --> 01:06:28,040
Speaker 1: one time. We were still doing Producers.

1481
01:06:27,600 --> 01:06:31,280
Speaker 4: Club, okay, man, but we didn't know each other like that,

1482
01:06:31,960 --> 01:06:33,439
Speaker 4: so we didn't know each girl.

1483
01:06:33,560 --> 01:06:36,680
Speaker 1: It wasn't she introduced me to your girl, Lamar, Lamar.

1484
01:06:36,720 --> 01:06:39,040
Speaker 2: I really felt like we should go out with your girl.

1485
01:06:39,880 --> 01:06:42,000
Speaker 2: My girl will be home, but I feel like we

1486
01:06:42,040 --> 01:06:44,120
Speaker 2: should all meet your girl and hang out.

1487
01:06:44,520 --> 01:06:45,560
Speaker 1: Just keep bringing her to shows.

1488
01:06:45,600 --> 01:06:47,600
Speaker 4: She's low key fancy. She's like, she's a down to

1489
01:06:47,640 --> 01:06:48,840
Speaker 4: earth person with a spenser taste.

1490
01:06:48,920 --> 01:06:51,280
Speaker 1: Okay, well, I feel like I know her like that

1491
01:06:51,360 --> 01:06:54,240
Speaker 1: means she wears like evening gloves is she Nah, she

1492
01:06:54,280 --> 01:06:54,720
Speaker 1: did get.

1493
01:06:54,880 --> 01:06:59,000
Speaker 4: She just got a whole big ass to me rolling

1494
01:06:59,040 --> 01:07:01,200
Speaker 4: bag for her trip to She's in Italy right now.

1495
01:07:01,200 --> 01:07:03,000
Speaker 3: She's in Italy right now without you on.

1496
01:07:02,960 --> 01:07:05,400
Speaker 1: A yoga retreat. Like I wasn't going to a yoga retreat.

1497
01:07:05,840 --> 01:07:06,760
Speaker 3: You're gonna go to Bali.

1498
01:07:07,160 --> 01:07:11,080
Speaker 1: She's going to Bali in April. Yeah, yeah, I'm not

1499
01:07:11,120 --> 01:07:14,240
Speaker 1: doing that. That's how that's why this works. I'm telling

1500
01:07:14,320 --> 01:07:16,400
Speaker 1: you she might be meaning a nigga on Southwest.

1501
01:07:16,440 --> 01:07:21,480
Speaker 2: I don't know, don't go to Italy. Southwest one hundred

1502
01:07:21,520 --> 01:07:23,960
Speaker 2: percent doesn't go to Italy. But she might be meaning

1503
01:07:23,960 --> 01:07:26,160
Speaker 2: a little freaky Italian man. That's like you, Bella.

1504
01:07:26,920 --> 01:07:28,840
Speaker 1: She flew first class on air France.

1505
01:07:29,960 --> 01:07:33,120
Speaker 2: She's gonna leave you without you, without me, Labar, You're

1506
01:07:33,200 --> 01:07:34,040
Speaker 2: way too comfortable.

1507
01:07:34,960 --> 01:07:40,120
Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm happy like profile, I'm not comfortable. I'm confident.

1508
01:07:42,120 --> 01:07:44,440
Speaker 1: You in that hoodie. You got a lot of confidence,

1509
01:07:45,040 --> 01:07:47,560
Speaker 1: a lot of nerve. All right, Well, tell people who

1510
01:07:47,600 --> 01:07:48,960
Speaker 1: are listening where they can catch you.

1511
01:07:49,240 --> 01:07:53,480
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, so CPT comedy people's time, Colored people's time, comedy,

1512
01:07:53,480 --> 01:07:54,000
Speaker 4: people's time.

1513
01:07:54,160 --> 01:07:56,240
Speaker 1: At the pity, I thought it was colored people's time.

1514
01:07:56,760 --> 01:07:59,000
Speaker 3: That's what CPT is.

1515
01:07:59,720 --> 01:08:01,600
Speaker 4: It's a it's a great show. We're monthly at the

1516
01:08:01,600 --> 01:08:03,480
Speaker 4: pit right now and next show is on November eleventh.

1517
01:08:03,560 --> 01:08:04,920
Speaker 4: The reason why you should come to the show is

1518
01:08:04,920 --> 01:08:07,440
Speaker 4: not for me, actually, like I'm the least funny person

1519
01:08:07,480 --> 01:08:09,120
Speaker 4: on the show. The reason why show is great is

1520
01:08:09,160 --> 01:08:11,960
Speaker 4: because it's just women of color killing.

1521
01:08:11,760 --> 01:08:14,040
Speaker 1: It like women. Oh, you have such an awesome people.

1522
01:08:15,480 --> 01:08:18,559
Speaker 1: Amber performs us actually called black performer Amber Refferend from

1523
01:08:18,680 --> 01:08:23,559
Speaker 1: Late Night with Seth Myles Ashley from with Samantha Bee.

1524
01:08:24,000 --> 01:08:30,080
Speaker 3: You Amber is freaking rushes, sketches are amazing.

1525
01:08:30,200 --> 01:08:32,200
Speaker 2: Invited us to her house and we've been like trying

1526
01:08:32,200 --> 01:08:33,200
Speaker 2: to steal art out of there.

1527
01:08:34,040 --> 01:08:34,639
Speaker 1: She's awesome.

1528
01:08:34,680 --> 01:08:36,320
Speaker 2: I was never able to make it, but the next

1529
01:08:36,320 --> 01:08:41,040
Speaker 2: time she invites me, but definitely next. The important thing

1530
01:08:41,080 --> 01:08:44,040
Speaker 2: to know is that be invited invited. I just haven't

1531
01:08:44,040 --> 01:08:47,920
Speaker 2: gotten there yet. Okay, soho remember eleventh. But if this

1532
01:08:47,960 --> 01:08:50,040
Speaker 2: comes out later than that, when's the December.

1533
01:08:49,800 --> 01:08:53,200
Speaker 4: December first and we already have our stand ups lined

1534
01:08:53,280 --> 01:08:56,920
Speaker 4: up for that one. Rashida from Chicago. You might have

1535
01:08:56,960 --> 01:08:59,639
Speaker 4: seen her on the first episode of second season of Insecurity.

1536
01:08:59,680 --> 01:09:01,040
Speaker 4: She was one came up with the heill ma shirt

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Speaker 4: on like I got kids, okay, and so she's gonna

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Speaker 4: be doing stand up and Khaleid Rock mand Gentrification that's

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Speaker 4: his post his post surgery again goal training for that.

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Speaker 3: That's our crippled friend that I was telling you. He

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Speaker 3: kills it on Gentrification Expert.

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Speaker 1: And so so I'm looking forward to that too.

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Speaker 2: And then what's your social media? What's your tender profile name?

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Speaker 2: Like where can people find you?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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01:09:28,479 --> 01:09:29,920
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, but what's your Twitter and stuff?

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01:09:30,400 --> 01:09:30,799
Speaker 1: Everything?

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01:09:30,880 --> 01:09:33,120
Speaker 4: Everything is Lamar mcclaan l E m A R m

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Speaker 4: c L Yeah, yeah, on Twitter, on Instagram, and that's

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Speaker 4: where I stay.

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Speaker 1: And at him.

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Speaker 3: Act him, tell him that what he's saying is right

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Speaker 3: or wrong?

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Speaker 1: You got question? Yeah, hit him up.

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Speaker 4: Do people get heat after the show in the social media?

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01:09:46,200 --> 01:09:48,800
Speaker 4: Do they tell you about people be getting booked on

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Speaker 4: other shows?

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01:09:49,400 --> 01:09:51,680
Speaker 1: Yeah? People get heat this shot. I mean he in

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Speaker 1: a bad way. I mean I mean like, do people roasted?

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Speaker 2: No, No, we do. Nobody else gets roasted. It's just

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01:09:59,439 --> 01:10:02,200
Speaker 2: us doing it. I'm cool with any engagement on social

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Speaker 2: media at this point because I putting these tweets down

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Speaker 2: I think are hilarious.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and then like.

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Speaker 4: Then I'll like I'll have my my one tweet with

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Speaker 4: the type of winning and that's the one that like everybody,

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Speaker 4: I'm like, nah, people.

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Speaker 3: Be like, people be like asterix, Actually it's.

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Speaker 1: Your Yeah, I'm like like, where's my edit option? Family?

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Speaker 1: That's what it is. That's what that's what it is.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, CPT Comedy People's Time is a great show

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Speaker 4: and I hope everybody comes to it.

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Speaker 1: It is good. You have to go see it.

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01:10:32,960 --> 01:10:39,479
Speaker 2: Please support live comedy comedy shows. We gotta support the

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01:10:39,560 --> 01:10:43,840
Speaker 2: comedy US live. We do what we do like we

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01:10:43,880 --> 01:10:46,080
Speaker 2: do it for TV. If you want to know like

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Speaker 2: exact dates of where Sitdney and I are on any

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Speaker 2: given week or day or night, find us online. I'm

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Speaker 2: Rezy on Instagram are e e e z y and

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Speaker 2: then make sure you follow the unofficial expert Paige on Instagram.

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Speaker 3: It's just an official expert Sydney.

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Speaker 1: Where are you at?

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Speaker 2: Follow me on Instagram just said b W j U

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Speaker 2: if you want to tweet me your thoughts or your

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Speaker 2: concerns or your questions, you can find me on Twitter

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Speaker 3: E E.

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Speaker 2: E Z Y as always hollered comedy hype for all

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Speaker 2: your comedy news.

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01:11:23,040 --> 01:11:23,800
Speaker 1: Yes, and make.

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01:11:23,720 --> 01:11:25,639
Speaker 3: Sure if you see us in these streets you say hello.

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01:11:25,840 --> 01:11:29,679
Speaker 2: Don't touch us, don't hug Mary, don't touch me. I'm okay,

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01:11:29,720 --> 01:11:33,479
Speaker 2: well hugged. Make sure you like our Facebook page as well.

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01:11:33,640 --> 01:11:37,840
Speaker 2: We need more likes, We need more people following us.

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Speaker 2: Comment and review on iTunes as well.

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Speaker 1: And play this podcast on speaker when you're on the train.

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Speaker 1: Thanks so much, guys, By bye,