WEBVTT - Checking In Replay: Our Plan for the New Year 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:03.000 Welcome to Checking In with Michelle Williams, a production of 0:00:03.000 --> 0:00:20.640 iHeartRadio and The Black Effect. Hey, y'all, welcome to another 0:00:20.800 --> 0:00:25.840 episode of Checking In. I have fun doing solo episodes, 0:00:26.239 --> 0:00:29.880 and I'm sure that they take on a different tone 0:00:30.360 --> 0:00:33.199 from when I have a guest. I feel when I 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:36.400 do my solo episodes, I don't have to be on 0:00:36.479 --> 0:00:44.159 my best behavior, although I still must be tactful and kind. 0:00:45.040 --> 0:00:49.239 Well I'm that anyway, So let's get right to it. 0:00:49.800 --> 0:00:52.879 First of all, I want to say that we are 0:00:53.080 --> 0:00:57.240 ending the second year of Checking In December twenty second. 0:00:57.400 --> 0:01:01.960 Twenty twenty two marked the second year of Checking In. 0:01:02.520 --> 0:01:08.000 Today's the twenty seventh, but I just wanted to acknowledge 0:01:08.400 --> 0:01:13.600 the second year of Checking In, and it looks like 0:01:14.600 --> 0:01:18.840 we'll be going into a third season of Checking In. 0:01:19.280 --> 0:01:23.679 I am excited. Thank you all so much for tuning in, 0:01:24.520 --> 0:01:29.440 listening week by week, sharing the episodes with your friends 0:01:29.480 --> 0:01:31.679 and loved ones or somebody you want to be petty 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:34.320 and you want to like kind of sub tweet them 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:37.080 and be like, you need to listen to this episode. 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:42.760 I know I'll be hearing what y'all be doing. I'm 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:47.520 just thankful that y'all just keep tuning in to hear 0:01:47.600 --> 0:01:50.240 what your girl has to say. I don't take it 0:01:50.280 --> 0:01:56.480 for granted. I'm blessed. I am so so so thankful 0:01:57.320 --> 0:02:01.240 that you guys keep tuning in and check it in. 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:07.280 So thank you again. We made it to two whole years, 0:02:07.880 --> 0:02:12.720 two seasons of checking in, and we're just getting started. 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:16.360 I've got some cool plans for the third season. I 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:24.400 want to well, you'll see, literally you'll see. I also 0:02:24.560 --> 0:02:30.120 want to acknowledge the positive responses of the episode last 0:02:30.160 --> 0:02:36.080 week on Grief around the Holidays. Wow, it was so 0:02:36.280 --> 0:02:42.800 many people that sent dms and comments on my Instagram 0:02:42.919 --> 0:02:46.720 and my Facebook, and even for the people that DM 0:02:47.200 --> 0:02:50.320 I sent them to my mother and she was just 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:54.560 so thankful. Matter of fact, I will read one of 0:02:54.600 --> 0:02:59.080 her messages. She said, Ah, such a sweet message. I 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:02.680 don't know her him, but I loved them already. So 0:03:02.760 --> 0:03:06.480 that's from my mama. And so she thanks y'all for 0:03:06.520 --> 0:03:09.840 the love. She loves to be loved and we all do, right, 0:03:10.360 --> 0:03:13.680 So it was kind for you guys to keep her 0:03:13.720 --> 0:03:18.639 in your prayers. My siblings, actually my dad, I think 0:03:18.680 --> 0:03:23.600 he only had two other first cousins. One just passed 0:03:23.639 --> 0:03:26.120 and if my dad were living, he'd only have one 0:03:26.480 --> 0:03:31.400 other first cousin. So I want to acknowledge our cousin. 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:36.480 Her name was ruth Nolan, and I'm trying to figure 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:41.000 out why we called her Aunt ruth Anne, and it 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:45.680 dawned on me, probably spent some years, but I said, 0:03:46.480 --> 0:03:49.840 Aunt Ruthanne is really our cousin. Why we been calling 0:03:49.840 --> 0:03:52.760 her Aunt Ruthane all these years? But because she was 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:56.400 I guess older and I'm like all these years, she 0:03:56.560 --> 0:03:59.280 never corrected us to say, y'all, don't have to call 0:03:59.320 --> 0:04:04.160 me Aunt Ruthie. I'm your cousin, all right, Rest her soul. 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:09.560 She was a firecracker, meaning she said what she said. 0:04:09.640 --> 0:04:15.200 She wasn't like loud with it. She was just firm. 0:04:15.760 --> 0:04:19.800 She would cuss you out, like literally, this is my 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:22.279 dad's side of the family. It ain't gonna be too 0:04:22.360 --> 0:04:26.880 much cussing out on my mama's side well lately. Yeah, 0:04:26.920 --> 0:04:30.839 So back to my cousin and Ruthan. Aunt Ruthan was 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:34.080 somebody that you could go to if you feel like, hey, 0:04:34.920 --> 0:04:39.400 I need you to give me perspective on something, and 0:04:39.440 --> 0:04:43.520 she did. So that was my dad's first cousin. Like 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:46.680 I said, my dad had two first cousins literally and 0:04:46.760 --> 0:04:51.920 one has passed away. So I just wanted to acknowledge that. 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:55.200 That being said, again, thank you, thank you, thank you, 0:04:55.279 --> 0:04:59.760 thank you, and hopefully since that episode, you have been 0:05:00.400 --> 0:05:04.000 taking stuff step by step, day by day, hour by hour, 0:05:04.160 --> 0:05:06.000 minute by minute if you have to. I know we 0:05:06.080 --> 0:05:09.080 say one day at a time, but depending on where 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:12.279 you are around the holidays. But I want to share this. 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:17.039 Someone was saying they lost their dad some years ago 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:21.800 and how they are. They still find themselves in a 0:05:21.920 --> 0:05:26.880 depression when they think of him, And I don't know 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:34.560 if it's necessarily depression or grieving specific moments that you 0:05:34.720 --> 0:05:39.560 do not have with that loved one anymore. You know 0:05:39.600 --> 0:05:43.640 what I mean. That's a different type of adulting. How 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:47.440 we can actually grieve this is beyond loss of a 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:53.080 loved one. As an adult. You will grieve decisions that 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:57.400 you made that may be detoward you. You'll sit and 0:05:57.440 --> 0:06:05.280 you'll grieve time, law lost. You'll sit and grieve opportunity wasted. 0:06:06.080 --> 0:06:11.840 But I believe when you acknowledge that and you make 0:06:12.000 --> 0:06:17.760 right with certain situations, God will redeem the time. What 0:06:18.040 --> 0:06:23.799 does redeem the timing? I believe that it's like God 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:28.240 steps in. It's like, I know this happened, but there 0:06:28.480 --> 0:06:34.200 is a time and a place for everything. And I 0:06:34.360 --> 0:06:39.520 feel like sometimes in life, if ways Google Maps or 0:06:39.560 --> 0:06:44.279 whatever GPS system we use, if that app can get 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:48.560 us back on the right track, even if okay, you 0:06:48.720 --> 0:06:52.920 lost some time, but to me, time is redeemed when 0:06:52.920 --> 0:06:56.000 you get to the destination. So I feel like, if 0:06:56.000 --> 0:07:00.040 an app can do that, why can't our creator do that? 0:07:00.760 --> 0:07:05.440 Why can't our creator? And he has get us back 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:10.040 on the right path from whatever mistake we made, whatever 0:07:10.240 --> 0:07:14.920 thing we did that hurts someone, or we took advantage 0:07:15.000 --> 0:07:17.760 or took for granted time like oh I got time, 0:07:17.800 --> 0:07:20.000 I'm fine, And then before you know it, you're forty 0:07:20.080 --> 0:07:23.160 years old, fifty years old, thirty years old, and you're like, oh, man, 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:27.360 So I just wanted to acknowledge how sometimes we can 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:31.440 grieve differently. Grieving is not always the loss of a 0:07:31.480 --> 0:07:36.160 loved one. Grieving can sometimes be man, what would my 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:40.040 life be like had I not done this? So what 0:07:40.160 --> 0:07:44.200 happens is you have that thought and you wallow in 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:50.360 it sadness, anger, frustration, confusion, And I was sharing with 0:07:50.400 --> 0:07:53.920 someone I believe you project that which you did not 0:07:54.080 --> 0:07:58.280 do you project fear of someone else doing what they 0:07:58.320 --> 0:08:01.040 want to do with their life to to embark on 0:08:01.080 --> 0:08:05.160 something amazing. You project your fears on them, or you 0:08:05.200 --> 0:08:09.400 project jealousy on them. You don't want them to have 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:13.240 it because you don't have it, and you feel like 0:08:13.360 --> 0:08:16.600 their life is going to take on a different path, 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:21.040 or you'll feel like, well, what is my place going 0:08:21.120 --> 0:08:23.080 to be in their life once they do their thing? 0:08:23.480 --> 0:08:27.640 So I know I went down a rabbit hole, but listen, 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:30.280 it was a good one. But I'm going back to 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:34.120 me making sure that you feel like you are taking 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:38.200 things a day at a time as best you can, 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:44.200 and how grieving takes on so many different forms. Next, 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:49.560 I want to say that I did a thing. I 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:53.920 did a thing. Who can dn me and tell me 0:08:54.400 --> 0:08:56.880 what I did? I don't know what I'm going to 0:08:56.960 --> 0:08:59.520 do for that person who condemn me and tell me 0:08:59.559 --> 0:09:04.719 what I did. But I did a thing. I'll say this. 0:09:05.240 --> 0:09:10.839 It required me to travel a long distance and then 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:16.040 come back home. And that's just what I'll end it with. 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:22.560 So use your good senses. Call Ms Cleo if you 0:09:22.640 --> 0:09:29.280 have to, call God if you have to, and see 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:35.640 if you can figure out this thing that I did. Okay, 0:09:36.520 --> 0:09:39.640 all right, I'm excited to see who can get that. 0:09:39.760 --> 0:09:43.000 So listen, we are still in the throes of the holidays. 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:45.880 Christmas has just passed. We got New Year's even coming 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:50.400 up in New Year's Day. So how have your holidays been? 0:09:51.080 --> 0:09:54.960 I will say that my holidays have been pretty chill. 0:09:55.600 --> 0:09:58.480 I like to chill. I don't do a lot of 0:09:58.840 --> 0:10:03.000 pomp and circumstances over the holidays. I rest, I sit 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:07.600 in gratitude, and I look forward to the possibilities of 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:08.320 the new year. 0:10:08.920 --> 0:10:09.640 That's what I do. 0:10:10.360 --> 0:10:13.480 I don't get stressed out Christmas shop and I go 0:10:13.520 --> 0:10:17.679 online and do what I need to do. God's been 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:21.440 good all as well. I'm all right, but I do 0:10:21.480 --> 0:10:26.280 love going online and getting gifts for folks. I'm doing 0:10:26.320 --> 0:10:29.079 the hustle and bustle. I've never really liked the hustle 0:10:29.120 --> 0:10:31.200 and bustle. Y'all hurt me say year of the year. 0:10:31.360 --> 0:10:33.959 It's not that I'm being by humbug. I just don't 0:10:34.000 --> 0:10:38.679 like the hustle and bustle of being in traffic. Now, 0:10:38.720 --> 0:10:42.840 y'all know Christmas comes around every December twenty fifth. Now, 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:44.840 some of y'all say, you know what I think I'm 0:10:44.840 --> 0:10:49.160 gonna start Christmas shopping in October, right after Halloween. Well, 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:51.199 I guess right after Halloween would not be October. It 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:54.120 would then be no November. But some of us do say, 0:10:54.360 --> 0:10:56.520 you know, I might just get stuff bit by bit 0:10:56.640 --> 0:11:00.360 throughout the year and just put it in a hand 0:11:00.400 --> 0:11:03.440 tree or put stuff, you know, in the back of 0:11:03.480 --> 0:11:06.960 my closet. So I just, you know, start Christmas shopping early. 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:11.520 That way, I'm not rushing in these streets stressing out. 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:14.520 You know, I've done that, y'all. I've stressed out about 0:11:14.679 --> 0:11:17.640 Christmas so much that I even forgot to get gifts 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:21.559 for people. So there is something to be said about 0:11:22.040 --> 0:11:25.400 starting your Christmas a little early, especially if you have 0:11:25.679 --> 0:11:29.360 a lot of people to shop for. I'm so thankful 0:11:29.400 --> 0:11:33.200 that I have family members who just like money. And 0:11:33.240 --> 0:11:35.160 I don't mean that in a bad way. I just 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:38.000 mean like, I don't have to like get gifts for them. 0:11:38.320 --> 0:11:40.720 I have family and friends who like, girl, just get 0:11:40.760 --> 0:11:43.240 me a gift card somewhere, and I'm like, say, less, 0:11:43.600 --> 0:11:46.000 here's a gift carp You get a gift carp. You 0:11:46.040 --> 0:11:48.640 get a gift carp you get a cash app. I 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:52.360 just know what Christmas does to people I know the 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:56.480 stress that people are in. I participated in a toy 0:11:56.600 --> 0:11:59.959 drive here in Atlanta. My church is called Change Church, 0:12:00.760 --> 0:12:06.400 and we did a toy drive. Y'all. People they came 0:12:06.480 --> 0:12:10.400 in not knowing, probably that week prior, not knowing if 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:14.520 their family would have a Christmas And so I always 0:12:14.640 --> 0:12:18.880 keep that in the back of my head. I get it, 0:12:19.000 --> 0:12:22.480 you want your children and loved ones to have a 0:12:22.559 --> 0:12:25.360 gift under the tree. I get it. But y'all know, 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:28.280 there's been so much emphasis placed on like gifts, and 0:12:28.320 --> 0:12:30.960 it stresses people out. It makes people feel horrible if 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:35.800 they're not able to provide a humongous Christmas. So for me, 0:12:36.640 --> 0:12:38.600 I didn't put up a tree this year. I did 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:41.640 not put up a tree. I lit a candle. I 0:12:41.679 --> 0:12:44.840 didn't do nothing this year. Plus my home is still 0:12:44.880 --> 0:12:49.600 in the process of being decorated, so deliveries keep coming 0:12:49.720 --> 0:12:51.920 in for that. So there's a box here or a 0:12:51.960 --> 0:12:54.200 box there, or I gotta wait till this is painted 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:57.800 before I can put this decorative piece up. I just 0:12:57.840 --> 0:13:00.800 didn't feel like putting a tree up. Doing all that 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:05.360 and being overwhelmed with cardboard boxes that I got to 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:10.400 break down and I just not this year. But next year, 0:13:10.400 --> 0:13:13.240 I'm going to make sure that I act like God 0:13:13.280 --> 0:13:17.160 has been good and put up a tree some Christmas 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:21.040 decorl outside. We'll get there. We'll get there. So, like 0:13:21.080 --> 0:13:24.520 I said, I like to look forward to the possibilities 0:13:24.760 --> 0:13:31.480 of a new year. Speaking of the new year, does 0:13:31.520 --> 0:13:36.280 anybody still do resolutions? Do people still do them? Let 0:13:36.320 --> 0:13:40.760 me think I haven't done a resolution in years. Well, 0:13:40.880 --> 0:13:45.920 let's figure out what is a resolution. A resolution is 0:13:46.880 --> 0:13:52.440 a firm decision to do or not to do something. 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:59.800 A firm decision to do or not do something. That 0:14:00.480 --> 0:14:06.600 is the definition of resolution. Let's check out some of 0:14:06.640 --> 0:14:11.640 the top resolutions. I Am going to go through them 0:14:11.679 --> 0:14:17.719 to see which ones I'll do, and maybe some resolutions 0:14:17.760 --> 0:14:21.760 I might list and name off, or maybe something that 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:24.800 you feel like, Hey, you know what, I'm gonna do 0:14:24.880 --> 0:14:27.680 that with you, Michelle, I won't leave you hanging now. 0:14:27.720 --> 0:14:32.600 According to Goodhousekeeping dot com, this says, create a list 0:14:32.680 --> 0:14:37.600 of attainable New Year's resolutions that allow you to make 0:14:37.720 --> 0:14:42.120 healthier lifestyle tweaks every day. You'll start the year with 0:14:42.160 --> 0:14:46.320 a stronger, well nourished body and an enrich mind. If 0:14:46.360 --> 0:14:50.080 you adopt any of the daily objectives, we are sharing here. 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:54.359 Our resolutions help you calm down, ease stress and anxiety 0:14:54.400 --> 0:14:58.320 while taming the crazy ebb and flows of daily life, 0:14:58.480 --> 0:15:01.440 featuring some of the best tips and life saving tricks 0:15:01.640 --> 0:15:08.000 from our Good Housekeeping Institute experts. So listen, this time, 0:15:08.320 --> 0:15:12.480 it's time to put you first, all right, twenty twenty three, 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:17.160 Put yourself first, according to Goodhousekeeping dot Com, build a 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:21.960 better budget. Okay. I always feel like you know, I'll 0:15:21.960 --> 0:15:25.000 have a moment where I feel like, Okay, pipe down, 0:15:25.040 --> 0:15:30.400 syst save, and I do it. I follow my intuition, 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:33.840 I follow as the spirit leads, and so I'm not 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:38.760 gonna do anything crazy. But I worked really, really hard. 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:41.200 Don't we always say that when we want to spend money. 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:43.560 I worked hard. I should be able to buy this. 0:15:44.240 --> 0:15:47.000 And guess what you might be right? Is it something 0:15:47.040 --> 0:15:50.440 you need or is it something you want? Oprah says 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:54.840 now when she was still on air, she said, if 0:15:54.840 --> 0:15:59.080 you can't get your mind off of it, do it? 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:01.160 Is that what she said? She say, if you have 0:16:01.200 --> 0:16:04.520 to think about it twice, Lord Jesus, see, that's why 0:16:04.520 --> 0:16:09.040 I need to stick to the budget. All right. Practice mindfulness. 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:17.440 I love practicing mindfulness, being more self aware Sabrina Romanov says, 0:16:17.520 --> 0:16:21.200 practicing mindfulness means doing everything you can to be grateful 0:16:21.280 --> 0:16:24.640 for what you have in the moment, where you are 0:16:24.640 --> 0:16:30.360 in life, and who you are right now. So if 0:16:30.400 --> 0:16:32.480 we can be grateful for what we have in the 0:16:32.520 --> 0:16:35.240 moment and where we are in life, guess what, we'll 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:39.040 also be able to stick to our budget. Okay, this 0:16:39.080 --> 0:16:45.080 one says cook something new each week. Now, My mama 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:48.880 threw some shades some weeks ago when she said, I 0:16:48.960 --> 0:16:51.840 want to come to your house for Christmas because I 0:16:51.880 --> 0:16:55.680 want to break in your stove because I know you 0:16:55.760 --> 0:16:58.520 ain't gonna use it. That's exactly what she said. She said, 0:16:58.520 --> 0:17:01.880 because I know you ain't gonna use it. I was like, Shade, 0:17:02.200 --> 0:17:04.960 I can't commit to that. I cannot commit to cooking 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:07.679 something new each week. I know me, So I'm not 0:17:07.760 --> 0:17:14.600 even gonna Yeah, I'm good. Read more books now. I'm 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:18.399 going to say this. I think earlier this year I 0:17:18.480 --> 0:17:21.800 said I was gonna get off of social media and 0:17:21.840 --> 0:17:25.840 I'm going to read more books. That didn't happen. But 0:17:25.920 --> 0:17:29.040 because I'm singing this right now, I am going to 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:31.840 read more books. I don't need to get off of 0:17:31.840 --> 0:17:35.760 social media totally. And I'm so glad for things to 0:17:35.840 --> 0:17:39.119 come in twenty twenty three so that I can spend 0:17:39.200 --> 0:17:44.240 less time trying to create content that's not my strong suit. 0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:48.920 And we thank the Lord for gifting people here on 0:17:49.000 --> 0:17:53.080 earth that do it very well. Create a cleaning schedule 0:17:53.119 --> 0:17:54.960 you'll stick to. Oh that's me, I can do that. 0:17:55.320 --> 0:17:55.520 Yeah. 0:17:55.760 --> 0:18:00.520 I love a cleanhouse. I don't like clutter. Something about clutter, 0:18:00.640 --> 0:18:03.479 by the way, when you want to keep a clean 0:18:03.600 --> 0:18:08.639 bill of mental health, create a cleaning schedule. I love 0:18:08.960 --> 0:18:12.960 that I get up every day and make up my bed. 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:18.680 There was probably only maybe maybe one day this year 0:18:18.840 --> 0:18:21.679 where I got up and didn't make my bed the 0:18:21.840 --> 0:18:24.560 entire day. Now, I'm not saying that for brownie points. 0:18:24.600 --> 0:18:26.679 I'm just saying that that is something that I have 0:18:26.720 --> 0:18:34.159 been sticking to for four years now, and it's been amazing. 0:18:35.080 --> 0:18:39.520 First thing, get up, straighten up the sheets, make them 0:18:39.600 --> 0:18:42.560 look nice, and I put all eighty pillows back on there. 0:18:42.600 --> 0:18:45.560 It's something about, you know, even if you might have 0:18:45.680 --> 0:18:48.600 clothes to fold or something, it's something about the bed 0:18:48.720 --> 0:18:52.280 being made. That's the biggest piece of furniture in your room. 0:18:52.800 --> 0:18:55.639 So if that's all clutter, that's also maybe one of 0:18:55.640 --> 0:18:58.399 the first things you look at when you walk into 0:18:59.000 --> 0:19:03.359 your bedroom. So I prefer that. So, yes, create a 0:19:03.359 --> 0:19:07.280 cleaning schedule. I love cleaning. See now, listen to my 0:19:07.440 --> 0:19:10.680 future husband. I just want you to know I might 0:19:10.720 --> 0:19:15.359 not cook all the time. The babae, your house gonna 0:19:15.359 --> 0:19:18.080 be clean. You hear me, It's gonna be clean. So 0:19:18.200 --> 0:19:20.359 this is a resolution I can stick to create a 0:19:20.359 --> 0:19:22.760 cleaning schedule. I don't need to create a cleaning schedule 0:19:22.960 --> 0:19:26.879 because I just like to clean. Okay, And doing the 0:19:26.920 --> 0:19:31.360 cleaning schedule, they say that it doesn't suck up endless 0:19:31.400 --> 0:19:34.480 hours of time on weekends anymore. So some people are 0:19:34.560 --> 0:19:37.680 so overwhelmed. So if you do one room at a time, 0:19:37.840 --> 0:19:41.439 I've read that for years, where you do one room 0:19:41.560 --> 0:19:44.600 at a time, don't overwhelm yourself by trying to say, 0:19:44.640 --> 0:19:47.480 you know, on Saturday, I'm gonna get up and clean. No, 0:19:47.640 --> 0:19:49.200 cause you don't know what kind of week you're gonna 0:19:49.240 --> 0:19:51.960 have at work or at school. You just don't know 0:19:52.000 --> 0:19:54.399 what it's gonna be like in Saturday. That might be 0:19:54.480 --> 0:19:57.880 your day to just rest. Okay, so do something bit 0:19:58.000 --> 0:20:02.280 by bit, day by day. Just let me know. Woo. 0:20:02.320 --> 0:20:07.560 This says drink less alcohol that's easy, breezy. I don't 0:20:07.600 --> 0:20:10.959 even drink like that, So y'all know me. I love 0:20:11.040 --> 0:20:14.880 red wine. So all right. It says if you drink 0:20:14.960 --> 0:20:19.480 less alcohol, it can improve your mood, sleep, skin, and 0:20:19.680 --> 0:20:26.679 your immune system. All right. Number eight Weekly meal prep Planner. 0:20:26.760 --> 0:20:29.800 Now there's sixty five of these resolutions, honey, and I 0:20:29.880 --> 0:20:32.399 just don't know I'm gonna do all sixty five. Commit 0:20:32.480 --> 0:20:37.239 to a healthier sleep routine. Now I'll say this. I 0:20:37.440 --> 0:20:41.439 notice that when I go to sleep earlier and I 0:20:41.520 --> 0:20:44.680 wake up earlier, this is the person you want to 0:20:44.720 --> 0:20:48.640 be with. Okay. Now, don't talk about me when I'm 0:20:48.680 --> 0:20:55.320 sleep by ten o'clock at night, ten maybe eleven, and 0:20:55.400 --> 0:21:00.760 I get a good six seven hours in. You can't 0:21:00.880 --> 0:21:05.840 tell me nothing I would say, do that. Join a club. 0:21:06.800 --> 0:21:10.200 Quit smoking? Okay, some of y'all might say quit smoking. 0:21:10.280 --> 0:21:14.439 Learn to love vegetables. Oh mg, I love vegetables, y'all. 0:21:14.600 --> 0:21:20.480 What y'all? I have a confession. I am addicted to 0:21:21.359 --> 0:21:27.719 many sweet bell peppers. Yes, many sweet bell peppers. They 0:21:27.840 --> 0:21:31.239 come in a bag at the grocery store. There's a 0:21:31.280 --> 0:21:34.040 certain brand that I like from a certain store. They're 0:21:34.160 --> 0:21:39.080 crunchy and great water content. So learn to love vegetables. 0:21:39.359 --> 0:21:44.359 I've learned to love blackberries. I didn't love blackberries. I've 0:21:44.400 --> 0:21:50.040 come to love blueberries. I didn't like blueberries. What people like, Ooh, 0:21:50.080 --> 0:21:53.200 give me blueberry pancakes. I'd be like, ugh, butter, milk, 0:21:53.240 --> 0:21:56.560 me honey, with just butter and syrup, but blueberry. I'll 0:21:56.600 --> 0:22:01.960 eat the whole plastic container of bla blueberries along with 0:22:02.440 --> 0:22:06.280 the bell peppers. So yes, it could be something that 0:22:06.320 --> 0:22:08.879 my body was craving. The bell peppers, the red ones. 0:22:09.160 --> 0:22:13.159 They're very high in vitamin C. Bell peppers are high 0:22:13.200 --> 0:22:15.080 and if I'm thinking right at the top of my head, 0:22:15.160 --> 0:22:25.000 vitamin C, D and K. All right. Another resolution, prioritize 0:22:25.040 --> 0:22:30.360 your annual health screenings. Ladies. We got to get our 0:22:30.480 --> 0:22:34.800 pap smears. We've got to get up pep smears in 0:22:34.960 --> 0:22:39.600 the year. Get that Ryan, all right. I don't know, ladies, 0:22:39.920 --> 0:22:42.800 get your pap smears. I know they say you do 0:22:42.840 --> 0:22:45.480 not have to do your pap smears yearly if you 0:22:45.600 --> 0:22:51.080 are not sexually active. I say, do your pap smears 0:22:51.280 --> 0:22:57.800 yearly anyway, all kinds of cancers, ovarian uterine. Come on, 0:22:58.320 --> 0:23:02.680 let's do our pap smears. Sorry, guys, sorry, that wasn't free. 0:23:03.760 --> 0:23:08.280 But let's make sure that our reproductive health is good. 0:23:08.840 --> 0:23:12.280 Make sure your sexual health is good. Ladies. If you 0:23:12.680 --> 0:23:18.160 realize that your periods are heavier, painful, those aren't normal. 0:23:18.640 --> 0:23:22.679 Periods are not supposed to be heavy or painful. Just 0:23:22.720 --> 0:23:25.639 because we saw mama with a heating pad and she 0:23:25.680 --> 0:23:30.879 would take medication, that's not normal. You might have pcos, 0:23:31.119 --> 0:23:35.280 you might have endometriosis, you might have fibroids. Not normal, 0:23:35.800 --> 0:23:40.639 not normal. That's a whole other podcast. But please, please 0:23:40.680 --> 0:23:45.919 please mammograms, colonoscopies. Whatever age you're in, y'all, there have 0:23:46.040 --> 0:23:49.400 been people younger and younger and younger getting colon cancer. 0:23:49.960 --> 0:23:55.200 So please get your teeth clean. Yes Lord, yes, Lord, hallelujah. 0:23:55.600 --> 0:23:59.480 Get your teeth clean and treat yourself. Get your teeth whiten. Okay, 0:23:59.520 --> 0:24:02.719 I know I'm going to going crazy. Exercise your brain. 0:24:03.400 --> 0:24:08.520 That's another resolution. Okay, become a plant owner. Okay, let's 0:24:08.600 --> 0:24:13.160 do that. Take the stairs. Do yoga with your partner. Ooh, 0:24:14.040 --> 0:24:17.240 some of y'all that got a party, you might, all right, 0:24:17.480 --> 0:24:19.959 let me talking about you started off doing yoga and 0:24:20.000 --> 0:24:25.160 then all right, ooh, this is my kind of resolution. 0:24:25.560 --> 0:24:31.800 Plan a vacationt plan a vacation head to a day spot. 0:24:32.359 --> 0:24:39.159 These are attainable. Vacation day spa, eat vegetables, budget clean, 0:24:39.320 --> 0:24:44.920 make time for cuddling. It says cuddling just for fun 0:24:45.000 --> 0:24:47.800 can fight stress and improve both of your moods by 0:24:47.840 --> 0:24:55.040 increasing oxytoastin hormones, which research ads may also bolster blood pressure. Ooh. 0:24:55.240 --> 0:24:59.120 When you're regularly physically affectionate with your partner, they're more 0:24:59.240 --> 0:25:02.160 likely to see you as trustworthy and likable. 0:25:02.400 --> 0:25:02.600 Ooh. 0:25:02.720 --> 0:25:08.639 Jessica o'riley's sex and relationship expert. Okay, this kind of 0:25:08.680 --> 0:25:13.360 attraction doesn't always need to result in sex or erotic exchanges. Okay, 0:25:13.520 --> 0:25:16.879 can you just cuddle? Okay, let's see how many of 0:25:16.920 --> 0:25:19.439 y'all can do that make that result? Can you just 0:25:19.520 --> 0:25:23.320 cuddle and not end up thirty minutes later in regret? 0:25:24.280 --> 0:25:28.080 All right, water, this is what I gotta do. Ooh, jesus, 0:25:28.359 --> 0:25:30.800 I'm dehydrated as we speak. Hold up, I mean take 0:25:30.840 --> 0:25:38.040 a sip of water. Hold up. Yes, this says you 0:25:38.240 --> 0:25:41.040 know you need to hydrate, but it's especially important. When 0:25:41.080 --> 0:25:43.879 you get only six hours of sleep or less. You 0:25:43.920 --> 0:25:46.800 are more likely to be dehydrated the day after a 0:25:46.880 --> 0:25:49.639 disrupted night of sleep because a hormone that regulates your 0:25:49.680 --> 0:25:53.080 body's water conservation is released during later stages of sleep. 0:25:53.480 --> 0:25:55.960 So down some extra water on those days if you can, 0:25:56.080 --> 0:25:58.199 and remember that too much water can be tricky for 0:25:58.280 --> 0:26:01.239 your gut too. Baby, I need all the water I 0:26:01.320 --> 0:26:06.800 can get. Another resolution, chill out, let go of all 0:26:06.920 --> 0:26:09.639 that anger. Y'all know what that means. I don't have 0:26:09.680 --> 0:26:12.639 to do it. It says chronic anger can induce headaches, anxiety, 0:26:12.760 --> 0:26:17.200 digestion problems in high blood right sure, all right, if 0:26:17.240 --> 0:26:19.879 you want to let go of the anger, let me know, Michelle, 0:26:20.000 --> 0:26:22.240 I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna release this anger, jump 0:26:22.280 --> 0:26:25.159 start a new career. Shout out to Good Housekeeping. This 0:26:25.240 --> 0:26:30.360 is amazing. Ooh. Another resolution, consider therapy all right. I've 0:26:30.359 --> 0:26:34.040 done enough. I think I've done a good list. It 0:26:34.160 --> 0:26:36.080 says you don't have to leave the house to start. 0:26:36.160 --> 0:26:39.879 Some of the best digital offerings are absolutely free. Start 0:26:39.920 --> 0:26:42.639 by checking out a few apps on your phone. But 0:26:42.800 --> 0:26:44.960 if you're ready, reach out to a care provider with 0:26:45.000 --> 0:26:48.119 the help of our guide right here. So this was 0:26:48.160 --> 0:26:52.040 found on Good Housekeeping dot Com number twenty four. Consider 0:26:52.160 --> 0:26:57.560 therapy all right, So how exciting. Is this volunteer regularly 0:26:58.240 --> 0:27:02.200 get in a body positive mind? Said lift weights? Ooh ooh. 0:27:02.240 --> 0:27:04.080 How many of us said we gonna work out at 0:27:04.080 --> 0:27:06.399 twenty twenty three? And how you ain't gonna be able 0:27:06.440 --> 0:27:10.800 to tell me nothing? Try a guided workoutter class. Now 0:27:10.800 --> 0:27:13.160 I'm gonna tell you this. There is a place here 0:27:13.200 --> 0:27:18.199 in Atlanta called Kika Kika. They do guided stretching, So 0:27:18.280 --> 0:27:22.440 instead of yoga, it's guided stretching. And I promise you 0:27:22.760 --> 0:27:25.919 like you grow like an inch or two by the 0:27:25.960 --> 0:27:29.520 time you leave there the first day. I know I 0:27:29.680 --> 0:27:32.840 did it, y'all again, they are like sixty five of these. 0:27:33.160 --> 0:27:36.400 Add more citrus to your grocery cart. Wait a minute, now, 0:27:36.440 --> 0:27:40.440 wait a minute. Oh okay, I see this says bathed 0:27:40.720 --> 0:27:43.520