1
00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,080
Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for having my daughter write

2
00:00:02,120 --> 00:00:05,520
Speaker 1: a morbid family tree project? Her teacher is furious at

3
00:00:05,600 --> 00:00:08,640
Speaker 1: me morbid family tree? Like, is it just that they're

4
00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:12,080
Speaker 1: all dead? Sam? Through your family? Sam? How dare you

5
00:00:12,240 --> 00:00:15,800
Speaker 1: bring up your deceased great great great great grandfather in

6
00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:18,799
Speaker 1: this class? My biological family is dead. I was raised

7
00:00:18,840 --> 00:00:21,119
Speaker 1: in foster care, so my friends are my family. I

8
00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:23,720
Speaker 1: met my late husband in college. He was just raised

9
00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:26,560
Speaker 1: by his mother, who abandoned him and later passed away,

10
00:00:26,600 --> 00:00:29,120
Speaker 1: and he had no adoptive family. As an adult, I've

11
00:00:29,160 --> 00:00:34,000
Speaker 1: looked into both family trees and who our biological ancestors are,

12
00:00:34,080 --> 00:00:37,559
Speaker 1: to put it mildly, either really dangerous people and or

13
00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:41,320
Speaker 1: dead people. Also, my late husband and older son passed

14
00:00:41,320 --> 00:00:43,880
Speaker 1: away in a car crash. My daughter is in kindergarten

15
00:00:43,960 --> 00:00:46,680
Speaker 1: and she, and more accurately me, was supposed to do

16
00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:49,760
Speaker 1: a family tree for a school project. Stop rhyming, OP.

17
00:00:50,040 --> 00:00:52,120
Speaker 1: I tried speaking with her teacher that this was not

18
00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:54,920
Speaker 1: going to be a Pollyanna Pie in the sky report.

19
00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:57,600
Speaker 1: The teacher is one of those people that can't comprehend

20
00:00:57,720 --> 00:01:01,160
Speaker 1: that family sometimes is a dark subject and insisted that

21
00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:04,400
Speaker 1: it needed to be biological. So I did oh dang,

22
00:01:04,600 --> 00:01:06,319
Speaker 1: So it's okay, we're gonna get some dirt. You want

23
00:01:06,319 --> 00:01:08,360
Speaker 1: a darker part, We're going to give you one. Oh yeah.

24
00:01:08,400 --> 00:01:11,360
Speaker 1: For some of them, like my daughter's father and my son,

25
00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:14,800
Speaker 1: I have actual information for that aside from just the

26
00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:16,679
Speaker 1: fact that they've passed away. But for most of my

27
00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:20,760
Speaker 1: family and my daughter's paternal family, I literally only have birthdate,

28
00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:23,039
Speaker 1: birthdate when they would have had their kids, and some

29
00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:25,959
Speaker 1: cemetery information. It was supposed to have ten pictures, but

30
00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:28,679
Speaker 1: most of the pictures I have of my ancestors are

31
00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:31,640
Speaker 1: only headstones. I made a trip when my husband and

32
00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:34,000
Speaker 1: I were first married to take pictures of a headstone,

33
00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:36,839
Speaker 1: so I included those pictures in the report. I only

34
00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:40,360
Speaker 1: have three pictures total of my biological family, and most

35
00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:42,880
Speaker 1: of them were group shots where I could only label

36
00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:45,480
Speaker 1: maybe three people. I don't have any pictures of my

37
00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:48,280
Speaker 1: late husband's family from before me and my kids, but

38
00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:50,280
Speaker 1: I put some of the older ones in there too,

39
00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:53,320
Speaker 1: So while the other kids had long family trees, my

40
00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:56,840
Speaker 1: daughter was basically introducing the concept of death to our

41
00:01:56,920 --> 00:02:02,120
Speaker 1: kindergarten class. Now I'm getting slammed with calls from other parents, teachers,

42
00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:04,680
Speaker 1: and the principle. How all the kids are coming back?

43
00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:10,160
Speaker 1: I gonna die, boby. They were appalled that I allowed

44
00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:13,279
Speaker 1: such a morbid report, and they're saying that I traumatized

45
00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:15,920
Speaker 1: their children. Come on, I don't think I did anything wrong.

46
00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:19,560
Speaker 1: They wanted a report on her biological ancestors, so I

47
00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:21,840
Speaker 1: gave it, and I kept it g rated. I just

48
00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:24,920
Speaker 1: didn't lie that people were alive when they weren't. I

49
00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:27,480
Speaker 1: don't raise her to think that death is taboo or

50
00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:29,799
Speaker 1: something to be ashamed of. Anyways, death is a part

51
00:02:29,800 --> 00:02:32,800
Speaker 1: of life. Most of her slash my family has passed away,

52
00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:35,720
Speaker 1: So talking about family just means talking about death, and

53
00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:38,639
Speaker 1: it's just something you have to accept. So the question

54
00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:41,840
Speaker 1: is am I the a whole? So ladies and gentlemen,

55
00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:44,480
Speaker 1: the question is is Opie the ahole? Is the teacher

56
00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:46,920
Speaker 1: the a whole? And I think the big question is

57
00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:50,079
Speaker 1: what would you do if you were op in this situation?

58
00:02:50,240 --> 00:02:53,520
Speaker 1: I mean, I think you just do the present, let

59
00:02:53,520 --> 00:02:53,840
Speaker 1: it rip.

60
00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:55,919
Speaker 2: I was thinking back, did you do one of these

61
00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:58,079
Speaker 2: like genealogy projects and most things I ever did?

62
00:02:58,120 --> 00:02:59,160
Speaker 1: I remember doing that.

63
00:02:59,320 --> 00:03:01,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was awesome because it's like I get to

64
00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:04,480
Speaker 2: ask my parents a lot about my family that I

65
00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:07,320
Speaker 2: actually even realize. And so I think it's more about

66
00:03:07,320 --> 00:03:10,120
Speaker 2: the kid learning about their history, yes, than it is

67
00:03:10,240 --> 00:03:14,120
Speaker 2: about like anything else. And so to lie about where

68
00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:17,680
Speaker 2: your family came from would actually be like disrespecting integrity

69
00:03:17,680 --> 00:03:18,239
Speaker 2: of the report.

70
00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:20,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think completely not the a hole. I guess

71
00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:24,720
Speaker 1: that's where we'll end. See you later. Parents trained my inheritance.

72
00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:26,520
Speaker 1: They give it to my sister just because she had

73
00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:31,000
Speaker 1: a fatherless baby. Yeah. I don't know this one, this one.

74
00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:33,079
Speaker 1: I feel like there might be a holes on both

75
00:03:33,120 --> 00:03:33,840
Speaker 1: sides here.

76
00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:37,360
Speaker 2: What be just because like a hole for the father

77
00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:40,520
Speaker 2: who deserted the sister. You know, it's a hold to

78
00:03:40,600 --> 00:03:43,840
Speaker 2: the parents who drained the funds and a hold o

79
00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:46,440
Speaker 2: P for dish the dirt on Reddit.

80
00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:50,800
Speaker 1: You know. Yeah that well, no one ever talks about that. Yeah.

81
00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:53,480
Speaker 2: Hey, you know, some family secrets need to be kept.

82
00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:56,800
Speaker 2: You don't need to actually spread your seed all over

83
00:03:57,000 --> 00:04:01,240
Speaker 2: like this fathered with the wind like some fertile Yeah, bro,

84
00:04:02,320 --> 00:04:06,240
Speaker 2: this sister's sister's baby daddy is just spreading his sea

85
00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:11,640
Speaker 2: like calling farmer Bob. Yeah, freaking wild oats. All right,

86
00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:15,080
Speaker 2: let's go. She's twenty three female. I'm eighteen female Grandma

87
00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:16,960
Speaker 2: died eight years ago, and she left more than enough

88
00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:20,279
Speaker 2: money to pay for all her grandkids colleges educations with

89
00:04:20,520 --> 00:04:22,400
Speaker 2: a few stipulations.

90
00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:25,320
Speaker 1: Yeah you love this, don't you, Granny ha ha. You

91
00:04:25,360 --> 00:04:27,360
Speaker 1: got all these benjamins, you just want to give them

92
00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:30,279
Speaker 1: away to your family because you're dead.

93
00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:33,720
Speaker 2: Alright, Granny got a few stipulations on if they can

94
00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:36,160
Speaker 2: get that money or not. You want to hear those stipulations,

95
00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:40,280
Speaker 2: Johnny boy hit me all right, So number one, don't

96
00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:43,640
Speaker 2: get arrested. If the pope poke coming after you, you

97
00:04:43,680 --> 00:04:48,560
Speaker 2: are punched in the face with no money, that's right.

98
00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:53,440
Speaker 2: Don't be a drunk, you know solid. Don't take too

99
00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:55,880
Speaker 2: many shots of fireball. I learned that the hard way.

100
00:04:57,160 --> 00:05:00,359
Speaker 2: Don't get pregnant or get someone else pregnant. What if

101
00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:04,440
Speaker 2: you like I want to have a kid, though, too bad.

102
00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:09,240
Speaker 2: Granny's like Greennye's like the bloodline ends with me.

103
00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:14,240
Speaker 1: No, too drinky. You keep that you keep that sausage

104
00:05:14,240 --> 00:05:15,480
Speaker 1: out of that sausage cave.

105
00:05:17,200 --> 00:05:19,479
Speaker 2: The money was put into accounts in the parents' names

106
00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:22,520
Speaker 2: since we were all kids then, and sophomore year my

107
00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:28,440
Speaker 2: sister got pregnant. Oh yeah, god shit, hit the fan.

108
00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:32,200
Speaker 2: Panicking about college. The baby Daddy left and she hasn't

109
00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:34,839
Speaker 2: tried to find him. Slash gets child support and the

110
00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:38,680
Speaker 2: stress from that caused a hard, complicated pregnancy, but both

111
00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:42,720
Speaker 2: are okay. Damn Duja is left. He wasn't ready for fatherhood.

112
00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:49,039
Speaker 2: Gone gone girl or gone dad. Mom and Dad still

113
00:05:49,120 --> 00:05:50,880
Speaker 2: let her go to college as long as she didn't

114
00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:54,640
Speaker 2: have another and maintained a three point five GPA.

115
00:05:55,600 --> 00:05:58,080
Speaker 1: Don't don't be popping out no more now, baby, to

116
00:05:58,120 --> 00:06:00,880
Speaker 1: make sure that GPA is high, and like, what if

117
00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:03,320
Speaker 1: she finds someone falls in love with them and they're like.

118
00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:08,800
Speaker 2: No, no more babies, you ain't Mormon, which she did.

119
00:06:08,839 --> 00:06:10,880
Speaker 2: She kept the three point five gpa, didn't pop out

120
00:06:10,880 --> 00:06:11,680
Speaker 2: any more kids.

121
00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:15,800
Speaker 1: Smart. She graduated last December with about two grand in debt.

122
00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:20,360
Speaker 2: I'm mad, that's fine. I figured her money. I figured

123
00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:22,320
Speaker 2: her money must have been used to help raise her

124
00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:24,800
Speaker 2: kid and pay for pregnancy the past two and a

125
00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:26,680
Speaker 2: half years, so she had to get a bit of

126
00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:28,640
Speaker 2: a loan, which seemed totally understandable.

127
00:06:30,160 --> 00:06:31,360
Speaker 1: Boy was that wrong.

128
00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:34,960
Speaker 2: Oh I got accepted to my dream college on the

129
00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:37,320
Speaker 2: other side of the state, but Mom kept trying to

130
00:06:37,320 --> 00:06:39,240
Speaker 2: get me to go to a cheaper one near home,

131
00:06:39,440 --> 00:06:40,840
Speaker 2: so I don't need a dorm and it would be

132
00:06:40,880 --> 00:06:44,280
Speaker 2: a cheaper school. I asked her why she was so insistent.

133
00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:50,240
Speaker 2: Grandma left. Grandma left plenty of money, I thought. Turns

134
00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:52,520
Speaker 2: out they flushed all the money that was supposed to

135
00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:54,839
Speaker 2: go to me down the toilet to take care of

136
00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:58,320
Speaker 2: my sister and her kid and her expensive pregnancy. Turns

137
00:06:58,360 --> 00:07:00,200
Speaker 2: out it was a lot worse than I was led

138
00:07:00,240 --> 00:07:00,560
Speaker 2: to believe.

139
00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:03,440
Speaker 1: Oh my, if you got no money from granny, and

140
00:07:03,480 --> 00:07:06,120
Speaker 1: it's insane how they just pulled from her, like, oh

141
00:07:06,279 --> 00:07:06,919
Speaker 1: Pie's money.

142
00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:10,400
Speaker 2: Isn't there like a rule against that? Like, like I thought,

143
00:07:10,440 --> 00:07:12,640
Speaker 2: like there's like some kind of trust, dude, So what's

144
00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:16,280
Speaker 2: the point of putting Like, what's the point of allocating inheritance?

145
00:07:16,680 --> 00:07:18,440
Speaker 2: If like the parents can just take whatever they want to.

146
00:07:18,520 --> 00:07:20,360
Speaker 1: Do whatever they want with it, they could They could

147
00:07:20,440 --> 00:07:24,240
Speaker 1: go buy a giant floating penis that is like the

148
00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:27,520
Speaker 1: size of the purchase and just put it on the water,

149
00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:30,160
Speaker 1: just for no reason and laugh at their children who

150
00:07:30,240 --> 00:07:32,560
Speaker 1: have no college funds. What would you call that? What

151
00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:35,320
Speaker 1: would you name the penis yacht? Uh? It would be

152
00:07:36,080 --> 00:07:40,440
Speaker 1: moby dick. Oh that was quick. You've been thinking about

153
00:07:40,480 --> 00:07:44,120
Speaker 1: this one. I wasn't I had that solid you know,

154
00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:47,200
Speaker 1: like when a second lasts like one hundred years and

155
00:07:47,240 --> 00:07:48,360
Speaker 1: you're just like do do do do do do do

156
00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:51,680
Speaker 1: do and doing all the calculations. Great, great name for

157
00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:52,280
Speaker 1: a penis boat.

158
00:07:52,520 --> 00:07:55,800
Speaker 2: I broke down and just lost it, crying harder than

159
00:07:55,840 --> 00:07:59,200
Speaker 2: I ever have, shouting how they fricked me over and

160
00:07:59,280 --> 00:08:01,520
Speaker 2: ruined my life for the kid that fucked up.

161
00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:02,880
Speaker 1: Damn.

162
00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:07,400
Speaker 2: It's when you like though, it's like she did everything right. Yeah,

163
00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:11,160
Speaker 2: and then her sister who got pregnant and stole her money.

164
00:08:12,040 --> 00:08:16,880
Speaker 1: You know. Fuck. But also like what's the alternative, right,

165
00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:19,480
Speaker 1: that's the problem. That's the thing, like like the thing

166
00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:21,680
Speaker 1: you just let your sister die.

167
00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:26,640
Speaker 2: Well, not die, but well there's complications homeless, well, complications

168
00:08:26,640 --> 00:08:27,360
Speaker 2: from the pregnancy.

169
00:08:27,520 --> 00:08:30,440
Speaker 1: Yes, I love her, like yeah, let her be homeless. Yeah,

170
00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:34,120
Speaker 1: you know, God, little little little character, you know, a

171
00:08:34,160 --> 00:08:36,880
Speaker 1: little little sidewalks sidewalks and comfy.

172
00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:40,360
Speaker 2: Bro Yeah, sidewalk bro't get the you know, like the

173
00:08:40,440 --> 00:08:42,800
Speaker 2: old hobo thing, like get all your belongings, put it

174
00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:44,760
Speaker 2: on a stick, thick, yeah, carry.

175
00:08:44,520 --> 00:08:47,320
Speaker 1: It a little little he put the baby in the handkerchief. Yeah,

176
00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:50,920
Speaker 1: carry the baby start going on railroad cards. We have

177
00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:53,800
Speaker 1: like a nineteen twenties version of what a homeless person is.

178
00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:59,160
Speaker 1: Just cooking, cooking a canna beans over fire, yo, low key,

179
00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:01,840
Speaker 1: like nineteen twenty he's homeless, guys. I kind of had it.

180
00:09:01,920 --> 00:09:04,640
Speaker 1: Bro they're traveling not paying any taxes.

181
00:09:04,800 --> 00:09:09,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, you got a free transportation, free transportation uber when

182
00:09:09,559 --> 00:09:10,400
Speaker 2: you got the railroad.

183
00:09:10,480 --> 00:09:10,960
Speaker 1: Dude.

184
00:09:11,559 --> 00:09:14,079
Speaker 2: Now, I'll have at least seventy thousand dollars of debt

185
00:09:14,120 --> 00:09:16,720
Speaker 2: if I go to school. I guess this upset my sister,

186
00:09:17,000 --> 00:09:19,200
Speaker 2: and she asked, in a very upset tone, if I'd

187
00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:22,199
Speaker 2: rather have her be out in the streets, destitute and

188
00:09:22,400 --> 00:09:25,120
Speaker 2: unable to care for her kid, who, she reminded me,

189
00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:28,280
Speaker 2: was a living being because she didn't have an education

190
00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:30,600
Speaker 2: support system, just so I could go to college and

191
00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:33,480
Speaker 2: have a good life. John's answer is yes, how her

192
00:09:33,520 --> 00:09:34,080
Speaker 2: on the street?

193
00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:37,400
Speaker 1: Yep, yep? What are you doing in this nice comfy

194
00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:42,040
Speaker 1: house and apartment with your with your tuition paid? It discussed?

195
00:09:42,160 --> 00:09:45,679
Speaker 1: Does they get out on the street, work that street? Corner?

196
00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:54,760
Speaker 1: Go go right now? I said, yes, let's go.

197
00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:58,040
Speaker 2: How it's not fair that she got to f up,

198
00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:00,560
Speaker 2: get drunk and sleep with so many guys. She doesn't

199
00:10:00,559 --> 00:10:02,880
Speaker 2: know who the baby daddy is, something she told me

200
00:10:02,920 --> 00:10:06,920
Speaker 2: but apparently not Mom or Dad kept breaking rule after rule. Well,

201
00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:10,880
Speaker 2: I haven't even had sex with my boyfriend, bro. I

202
00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:14,000
Speaker 2: feel like Opie's just mad she's not getting laid true,

203
00:10:15,160 --> 00:10:17,000
Speaker 2: and now I'm the one who has to be punished

204
00:10:17,000 --> 00:10:20,280
Speaker 2: for it. Everything just kept evolving into more yelling and

205
00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:22,840
Speaker 2: fighting until I left. I've been staying with my boyfriend

206
00:10:22,960 --> 00:10:25,360
Speaker 2: for the past few I've been staying with my boyfriend

207
00:10:25,400 --> 00:10:29,600
Speaker 2: for the past few days. And now that everything's off

208
00:10:29,600 --> 00:10:33,600
Speaker 2: the hook, you might as well, Opie start riding that

209
00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:40,600
Speaker 2: cowboy sausage in. I know, with the rona, I shouldn't

210
00:10:40,640 --> 00:10:42,920
Speaker 2: go anywhere near, but I just wanted to be with

211
00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:45,240
Speaker 2: one person I feel like actually gets a damn about me.

212
00:10:46,040 --> 00:10:48,880
Speaker 1: True thang, Sorry, Opie, that sucks. Yeah, it sucks.

213
00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:51,240
Speaker 2: Mom's been texting, calling, trying to get me to come home,

214
00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:53,240
Speaker 2: saying if I could just be reasonable and not vilify

215
00:10:53,320 --> 00:10:55,640
Speaker 2: my sister, we could probably work something out. I told her,

216
00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:58,600
Speaker 2: unless she has money Grandma left for me, don't talk

217
00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:00,959
Speaker 2: to me until I have my college loans paid off

218
00:11:01,240 --> 00:11:05,440
Speaker 2: in fifty years. Did I go too far? A lot

219
00:11:05,440 --> 00:11:07,439
Speaker 2: of it was driven by emotion, but I really feel

220
00:11:07,440 --> 00:11:10,320
Speaker 2: fucked over here because I'm being punished despite the being,

221
00:11:10,559 --> 00:11:14,199
Speaker 2: despite being the one who followed the rules. And FYI,

222
00:11:14,720 --> 00:11:16,800
Speaker 2: I've since slept with my boyfriend.

223
00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:17,320
Speaker 1: Oh.

224
00:11:19,400 --> 00:11:21,160
Speaker 2: I figure, if I'm going to get punished the same

225
00:11:21,200 --> 00:11:23,559
Speaker 2: as if I would have I'm I figured, if I'm

226
00:11:23,559 --> 00:11:25,400
Speaker 2: going to get punished the same as if I would

227
00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:28,440
Speaker 2: broke I figured, if I'm going to get punished the

228
00:11:28,440 --> 00:11:30,680
Speaker 2: same way what have if I'd just broken the rules,

229
00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:32,400
Speaker 2: I can at least have some I.

230
00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:35,600
Speaker 1: Can at least have some fun. So edit. My sister

231
00:11:35,679 --> 00:11:39,520
Speaker 1: did offer to pay for a book or two. Wow Wow,

232
00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:40,280
Speaker 1: but not.

233
00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:42,920
Speaker 2: More since she wants to get out from under mom

234
00:11:42,920 --> 00:11:45,920
Speaker 2: and Dad's thumb. Probably party again, since she doesn't hide

235
00:11:45,920 --> 00:11:48,920
Speaker 2: how much she misses it. I did contact a lawyer.

236
00:11:49,440 --> 00:11:51,680
Speaker 2: He says, due to how it was set up, can't

237
00:11:51,679 --> 00:11:53,560
Speaker 2: be certain now that we have a good case, but

238
00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:56,560
Speaker 2: there might be a shot. Lawyer says they may have

239
00:11:56,640 --> 00:11:59,360
Speaker 2: violated the trust gramma set up, so he's contacting. So

240
00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:02,200
Speaker 2: he's contacted a trust lawyer friend of his to help

241
00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:04,440
Speaker 2: make sure he's reading it all right. There there's even

242
00:12:04,480 --> 00:12:07,120
Speaker 2: more tea. So Auntie got back to me. She's mad

243
00:12:07,120 --> 00:12:09,480
Speaker 2: at my parents. When she called to see what was

244
00:12:09,520 --> 00:12:12,440
Speaker 2: going on, all they did was try to justify it.

245
00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:14,319
Speaker 2: Turns out Mom and dad offered to pay for an

246
00:12:14,320 --> 00:12:18,160
Speaker 2: abortion and SIS didn't want one. Understandable I wouldn't either,

247
00:12:18,240 --> 00:12:21,320
Speaker 2: but still don't, but still don't always get what we want.

248
00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:25,320
Speaker 2: And SIS thought going on government assistance was trashy and refuse,

249
00:12:25,679 --> 00:12:27,520
Speaker 2: so Mom and dad felt like this was the only

250
00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:28,560
Speaker 2: way to keep her safe.

251
00:12:28,760 --> 00:12:29,280
Speaker 1: She says.

252
00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:32,080
Speaker 2: They still aren't sorry, and Mom said she'd do it

253
00:12:32,120 --> 00:12:33,800
Speaker 2: again if she had to do it all over. And

254
00:12:33,880 --> 00:12:35,880
Speaker 2: of course you might imagine they're mad at me for

255
00:12:35,960 --> 00:12:39,840
Speaker 2: telling people, but since it's just making others mad, I'm

256
00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:41,240
Speaker 2: just laughing at this point.

257
00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:47,920
Speaker 1: Wow. Okay, So here's the situation, right, Oh is it unfair? Yes,

258
00:12:48,400 --> 00:12:53,800
Speaker 1: totally unfair. It's totally unfair. But what are you going

259
00:12:53,840 --> 00:12:57,920
Speaker 1: to do? The daughter? The sister has a child, has

260
00:12:57,960 --> 00:13:01,040
Speaker 1: health complications, so what are they supposed to do? Just

261
00:13:01,120 --> 00:13:04,320
Speaker 1: let her not like they have or like die like no, yeah,

262
00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:07,640
Speaker 1: literally like like and it's like, I mean you're going

263
00:13:07,679 --> 00:13:10,560
Speaker 1: to sue your parents like like like that that's going

264
00:13:10,640 --> 00:13:11,319
Speaker 1: to be terrible.

265
00:13:11,360 --> 00:13:14,720
Speaker 2: I think like the I mean, yes, it's super unfair.

266
00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:17,640
Speaker 2: But I you know, I have friends that have like

267
00:13:17,640 --> 00:13:21,080
Speaker 2: two hundred thousand dollars of student debt. Yeah, like there is,

268
00:13:21,120 --> 00:13:22,960
Speaker 2: and you can get out from under it, but you're

269
00:13:23,000 --> 00:13:24,720
Speaker 2: you know, maybe don't choose a liberal arts.

270
00:13:24,640 --> 00:13:26,839
Speaker 1: Major and choose like an engineering degree. Yeah, I mean

271
00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:29,080
Speaker 1: that's like she said, I'll be in seventy K and debt.

272
00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:31,600
Speaker 1: It's like okay, like maybe yeah, two years of community

273
00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:34,080
Speaker 1: college or something like that. But what I would say,

274
00:13:34,760 --> 00:13:36,719
Speaker 1: what I would say, like, I actually don't know if

275
00:13:36,760 --> 00:13:40,040
Speaker 1: I blame her for trying to sue necessarily, because they'd

276
00:13:40,080 --> 00:13:42,720
Speaker 1: be like, Okay, look, you guys made the right decision

277
00:13:43,800 --> 00:13:47,440
Speaker 1: in terms of helping her, but you do still I

278
00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:50,880
Speaker 1: am still owed the money in my inheritance, so like

279
00:13:52,360 --> 00:13:54,840
Speaker 1: we need to figure out how to get me that

280
00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:57,480
Speaker 1: money back, so like at a bare minimum pay for

281
00:13:57,520 --> 00:13:59,520
Speaker 1: the schooling I want. Maybe maybe that's not the whole

282
00:13:59,559 --> 00:14:01,360
Speaker 1: Like let's say it was one hundred K. Maybe my

283
00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:03,760
Speaker 1: schooling is like seventy K or whatever, But like we

284
00:14:03,800 --> 00:14:05,640
Speaker 1: need to figure this out because you did it without

285
00:14:05,679 --> 00:14:07,760
Speaker 1: telling me, you know what I mean.

286
00:14:08,240 --> 00:14:13,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, I feel like I feel like if they

287
00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:17,640
Speaker 2: asked her, maybe she would have said like yes, like

288
00:14:17,720 --> 00:14:18,480
Speaker 2: I am.

289
00:14:18,559 --> 00:14:23,000
Speaker 1: I don't know how so hard lined and crazy she

290
00:14:23,080 --> 00:14:25,520
Speaker 1: is at their stance, like yeah, she'd probably have the

291
00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:29,360
Speaker 1: that same reaction of like maybe if they told her

292
00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:32,560
Speaker 1: the health complications, yeah, which also why didn't they? That's

293
00:14:32,600 --> 00:14:36,640
Speaker 1: fucking crazy. They should definitely say the health complication. What.

294
00:14:36,880 --> 00:14:39,200
Speaker 2: I just feel like like she was, so I feel

295
00:14:39,200 --> 00:14:41,800
Speaker 2: like the main issue it's not like that they tried

296
00:14:41,800 --> 00:14:42,680
Speaker 2: to save their other daughter.

297
00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:43,440
Speaker 1: That's not the issue.

298
00:14:43,440 --> 00:14:46,720
Speaker 2: It's like they didn't tell this daughter that they were

299
00:14:46,720 --> 00:14:49,120
Speaker 2: taking all this money that was owed to her, Like

300
00:14:49,920 --> 00:14:50,760
Speaker 2: that was bad.

301
00:14:51,280 --> 00:14:53,960
Speaker 1: And but you know, I don't know.

302
00:14:53,960 --> 00:14:56,720
Speaker 2: What you do differently, it's like it's pretty rough because

303
00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:59,760
Speaker 2: like you can't tell your daughter to get an abortion

304
00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:06,440
Speaker 2: A one one yeah, right, and like you can't, uh,

305
00:15:08,040 --> 00:15:10,560
Speaker 2: you can't just let your daughter die. Yeah, And if

306
00:15:10,560 --> 00:15:12,080
Speaker 2: you don't have the money and you see this money

307
00:15:12,080 --> 00:15:13,880
Speaker 2: sitting in account, like what.

308
00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:15,840
Speaker 1: Do you get any anyone would do that? I would

309
00:15:15,880 --> 00:15:18,680
Speaker 1: send the OP down and be like listen, I would

310
00:15:18,720 --> 00:15:21,480
Speaker 1: probably I don't know, this op does sound like a

311
00:15:21,520 --> 00:15:24,040
Speaker 1: little crazy, so I might withdraw the money first and

312
00:15:24,080 --> 00:15:27,080
Speaker 1: be like, listen, this is what's happening to this is

313
00:15:27,080 --> 00:15:31,480
Speaker 1: what's happening with your sister. We need to use this money,

314
00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:34,480
Speaker 1: and we're going to Yeah, but we'll try and figure

315
00:15:34,480 --> 00:15:37,560
Speaker 1: out something or like well, you know, we'll do whatever

316
00:15:37,600 --> 00:15:39,720
Speaker 1: we can to like like make make it work in

317
00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:42,000
Speaker 1: the best case scenario, but like we're not gonna just

318
00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:46,480
Speaker 1: let your sister die. And I think also, who knows

319
00:15:46,520 --> 00:15:48,880
Speaker 1: how much of that was the medical expenses? And was

320
00:15:49,320 --> 00:15:52,240
Speaker 1: her schooling and housing? Oh no, she was with her parents,

321
00:15:52,240 --> 00:15:54,320
Speaker 1: but I do I am curious on how much was

322
00:15:54,320 --> 00:15:56,640
Speaker 1: paid for because the school. I don't think they should

323
00:15:56,680 --> 00:15:57,320
Speaker 1: have used.

324
00:15:57,160 --> 00:15:59,200
Speaker 2: It for well, she probably had her own money for

325
00:15:59,240 --> 00:16:01,240
Speaker 2: the school if she had inheritance too.

326
00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:06,120
Speaker 1: Well, I think that the inheritance, like, yeah, it'd be

327
00:16:06,120 --> 00:16:08,400
Speaker 1: I would. I would like to see the breakdown of financials.

328
00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:12,280
Speaker 1: But it is a crap situation. Oh terrible, terrible. Today,

329
00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:17,080
Speaker 1: fed up by finding my boyfriend's bank bank the update,

330
00:16:17,360 --> 00:16:19,480
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, we got we got an update from from

331
00:16:19,560 --> 00:16:22,400
Speaker 1: that faithful story that we left off on. Let's hear it.

332
00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:25,520
Speaker 1: So first little context from op. I wanted to break

333
00:16:25,600 --> 00:16:28,800
Speaker 1: up with him because I e ft up violated his

334
00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:31,480
Speaker 1: privacy by snooping. Yeah, I agree with this spank bank

335
00:16:31,520 --> 00:16:35,360
Speaker 1: a spank bank is a man's private property. That's right.

336
00:16:35,680 --> 00:16:39,720
Speaker 1: Even if it's not FDIC insured, it's still so locked down,

337
00:16:39,760 --> 00:16:42,440
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I agree with the lot

338
00:16:42,560 --> 00:16:46,600
Speaker 1: of Yeah, it was eft up, way worse than finding

339
00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:50,120
Speaker 1: old nudies. Kind of like cheating because of the trust thing.

340
00:16:50,120 --> 00:16:51,920
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's the actly like I wouldn't

341
00:16:51,960 --> 00:16:54,560
Speaker 1: call it cheating, but snooping on the phone is a violation. Yeah,

342
00:16:54,600 --> 00:16:56,520
Speaker 1: snooping on the phone is not. But also like you

343
00:16:56,560 --> 00:16:58,920
Speaker 1: should have I don't know, me and my partner, we

344
00:16:58,960 --> 00:17:01,440
Speaker 1: have open access to each other's phones because there's no

345
00:17:02,480 --> 00:17:07,480
Speaker 1: worry about So we talked. I came clean. I told

346
00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:10,280
Speaker 1: him that I know I violated his trust and I

347
00:17:10,320 --> 00:17:13,200
Speaker 1: should not have snooped, and I would understand if he

348
00:17:13,240 --> 00:17:16,840
Speaker 1: didn't want anything to do with me anymore. So I

349
00:17:16,960 --> 00:17:20,040
Speaker 1: was breaking up with him. Damn. It's an interesting way

350
00:17:20,080 --> 00:17:21,520
Speaker 1: to phrase it. I don't know if I would phrase

351
00:17:21,560 --> 00:17:24,560
Speaker 1: it like that, but it's just like like, hey, I

352
00:17:24,560 --> 00:17:26,000
Speaker 1: don't know if you want to have anything to do

353
00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:30,520
Speaker 1: with me and you yeah, yeah, anyways, the deed is

354
00:17:30,560 --> 00:17:33,679
Speaker 1: done at any rate. I told him I'd stay in

355
00:17:33,680 --> 00:17:35,639
Speaker 1: a hotel or something if he didn't want to be

356
00:17:35,680 --> 00:17:39,119
Speaker 1: near me after this, but I couldn't allow him to

357
00:17:39,240 --> 00:17:41,720
Speaker 1: be with me when I'm so effed up.

358
00:17:41,920 --> 00:17:44,520
Speaker 2: Because like she snooped, so she's like, she just feels

359
00:17:44,560 --> 00:17:45,600
Speaker 2: really bad about snooping.

360
00:17:45,880 --> 00:17:49,359
Speaker 1: All right, man, it's really taking it to heart here. Yeah.

361
00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:52,840
Speaker 1: He told me I was reaching and he didn't feel

362
00:17:52,840 --> 00:17:55,879
Speaker 1: like his privacy was violated. He said he had nothing

363
00:17:55,920 --> 00:17:59,000
Speaker 1: to hide. He knew my capabilities and said he expected

364
00:17:59,040 --> 00:18:01,720
Speaker 1: it years ago but was surprised that it didn't happen

365
00:18:01,800 --> 00:18:02,359
Speaker 1: until now.

366
00:18:02,480 --> 00:18:05,800
Speaker 2: When she when he says capabilities like in the first post,

367
00:18:05,800 --> 00:18:08,080
Speaker 2: he was like, yeah, I can work things out on

368
00:18:08,080 --> 00:18:09,959
Speaker 2: the internet. She likes something like crazy hacker.

369
00:18:10,160 --> 00:18:12,560
Speaker 1: Yeah maybe she yeah, maybe she's like yeah, some sort

370
00:18:12,600 --> 00:18:16,000
Speaker 1: of like super super genius. Usually white hat hacker. But

371
00:18:16,119 --> 00:18:20,600
Speaker 1: this time we turned the other direction. The white turned

372
00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:25,600
Speaker 1: into black hair. Bless you, thank you. That's why I

373
00:18:25,640 --> 00:18:28,199
Speaker 1: didn't just ask him, and I told him that I

374
00:18:28,240 --> 00:18:31,239
Speaker 1: didn't know. I didn't have an excuse. He asked if

375
00:18:31,280 --> 00:18:33,760
Speaker 1: I ever felt like he lied, and I told him

376
00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:36,000
Speaker 1: about a few things. Yeah, but yeah, I think I

377
00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:38,119
Speaker 1: think you lied about a thing or two. My friends.

378
00:18:38,200 --> 00:18:40,080
Speaker 1: He didn't lie. He said he had his spank bank

379
00:18:40,280 --> 00:18:43,520
Speaker 1: he's but he was fucking his boss so who demoted her,

380
00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:45,000
Speaker 1: like like fucked her over.

381
00:18:45,200 --> 00:18:47,080
Speaker 2: But it sounds like he was he was doing that

382
00:18:47,160 --> 00:18:50,119
Speaker 2: before they were together. Oh, it was like a past

383
00:18:50,160 --> 00:18:51,720
Speaker 2: relationship with an ex boss.

384
00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:56,399
Speaker 1: I mean, like that's dicey because it happened the uh

385
00:18:56,600 --> 00:19:02,200
Speaker 1: the boss uh fucked with op during the relationship maybe

386
00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:05,479
Speaker 1: maybe during during Oh it sounded like yeah, like like

387
00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:06,960
Speaker 1: he was like, oh, like, oh, you're not going.

388
00:19:06,920 --> 00:19:09,440
Speaker 2: To get like it seems at the very least, there

389
00:19:09,480 --> 00:19:13,840
Speaker 2: was some intentional uh things left out that he didn't

390
00:19:14,080 --> 00:19:17,480
Speaker 2: come forward with full omission, yes, thoughtful emissions.

391
00:19:18,080 --> 00:19:20,440
Speaker 1: I brought up some of my findings and he said

392
00:19:20,560 --> 00:19:23,440
Speaker 1: he was telling the truth when he said he wasn't

393
00:19:23,480 --> 00:19:26,920
Speaker 1: into it. He said he lied about his inexperience because

394
00:19:26,920 --> 00:19:29,960
Speaker 1: he didn't feel like accounted since he wasn't into it.

395
00:19:30,080 --> 00:19:32,399
Speaker 2: Oh like like all the sexual partners he had in

396
00:19:32,440 --> 00:19:34,240
Speaker 2: his spank bank, He's like, oh, like, you know, it

397
00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:37,160
Speaker 2: doesn't really count because I'm not bro. That's not sexual experience.

398
00:19:37,160 --> 00:19:40,320
Speaker 2: This seems like a lie. The logic, Yeah, that's a lie, dude,

399
00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:41,040
Speaker 2: that's a lie.

400
00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:43,679
Speaker 1: Bro. I mean, if you ask like someone a are

401
00:19:43,720 --> 00:19:45,880
Speaker 1: you experienced or like you know, what if your partners

402
00:19:45,880 --> 00:19:50,880
Speaker 1: been in like I feel like, uh, oh I didn't

403
00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:53,200
Speaker 1: like it, so like it? So does it count? Yeah? Yeah,

404
00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:56,480
Speaker 1: it's like like like you you uh you know, you

405
00:19:56,560 --> 00:19:58,439
Speaker 1: fuck your girl's best friend, and it's like, oh, I

406
00:19:58,480 --> 00:20:01,399
Speaker 1: didn't like it. It was a I wasn't cheating. It

407
00:20:01,400 --> 00:20:04,680
Speaker 1: was fine. It was chilling, hilarious. He said he didn't

408
00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:06,400
Speaker 1: want to break up and felt like he could move

409
00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:08,680
Speaker 1: past it because it wasn't as big of a deal

410
00:20:08,760 --> 00:20:11,240
Speaker 1: as I have made it. But I couldn't get past it,

411
00:20:11,320 --> 00:20:12,800
Speaker 1: so then so be it.

412
00:20:13,440 --> 00:20:17,560
Speaker 2: I feel like, oh, he is way too hard on

413
00:20:17,600 --> 00:20:24,200
Speaker 2: herself and not hard enough on the boyfriend. Bing go, yes, absolutely, bingo,

414
00:20:24,359 --> 00:20:28,640
Speaker 2: fuck yourself boyfriend right. He said he didn't know he

415
00:20:28,920 --> 00:20:32,480
Speaker 2: liked girls like me until he met me and crushed

416
00:20:32,520 --> 00:20:35,119
Speaker 2: on me the whole time we were friends, even with

417
00:20:35,240 --> 00:20:37,639
Speaker 2: all of my crazy.

418
00:20:37,320 --> 00:20:41,360
Speaker 1: Because of his use only in like white blonde girls before. Yeah,

419
00:20:41,400 --> 00:20:44,440
Speaker 1: apparently he told me he thought those girls he dated

420
00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:47,520
Speaker 1: before was what he was supposed to like because of

421
00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:52,040
Speaker 1: where he grew up. Hmmm. I don't know, man, this

422
00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:54,400
Speaker 1: guy's this guy is getting worse and worse in my house,

423
00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:58,640
Speaker 1: he says. He wasn't settling me because of his reasons

424
00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:02,640
Speaker 1: that I'm not right out. Okay, okay, I asked him

425
00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:05,560
Speaker 1: to I read. I asked him to sit I thought

426
00:21:05,680 --> 00:21:08,239
Speaker 1: was I asked him to say all my face and

427
00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:10,760
Speaker 1: it was all better. It was all better. I asked

428
00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:12,800
Speaker 1: him to sit in on my first therapy session with

429
00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:15,960
Speaker 1: a new therapist because my old one passed from COVID. Wow,

430
00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:20,560
Speaker 1: this is a train wreck, crazy. Everything's just going wrong. Brophy. Uh.

431
00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:24,800
Speaker 1: He said he's thinking about it because it's not his thing. Yeah.

432
00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:28,160
Speaker 2: Well, it's also a little odd to go to someone

433
00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:29,760
Speaker 2: else's therapy session, isn't it.

434
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:33,439
Speaker 1: Ah y, Yeah, I mean, I mean if it's in

435
00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:36,000
Speaker 1: the context of like a couple's thing. Oh yeah, it's

436
00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:38,240
Speaker 1: couples therapy. Yeah, that is a little bit. Yeah, that's

437
00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:39,760
Speaker 1: a bit strange. And she's like, hey, come to my

438
00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:44,119
Speaker 1: personal thing. Let me dish my dirt out. I guess

439
00:21:44,119 --> 00:21:46,679
Speaker 1: we're not broken up, but only time will tell you

440
00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:49,120
Speaker 1: broke up with him? Yeah, if that's what you want,

441
00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:52,199
Speaker 1: then then this is weird. I'm into it. I'm not

442
00:21:52,280 --> 00:21:53,880
Speaker 1: into it. There's so many things that are going wrong.

443
00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:56,399
Speaker 1: I still effed up though I'm not dismissing it. I

444
00:21:56,400 --> 00:21:58,520
Speaker 1: should probably add it here that I eft up by

445
00:21:58,520 --> 00:22:01,159
Speaker 1: posting this on effing Reddit. No O P no p

446
00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:04,679
Speaker 1: O P. You are not in like, you are not

447
00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:07,040
Speaker 1: the wrong A little bit, a little bit, not the

448
00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:10,560
Speaker 1: most by far, I mean, by far. You are giving

449
00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:13,480
Speaker 1: him way too, and he's he's just he's taking advantage

450
00:22:13,520 --> 00:22:15,600
Speaker 1: of He's like, oh, well, you know, uh, you know,

451
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:18,840
Speaker 1: it's just I have to work past it and stuff,

452
00:22:18,880 --> 00:22:21,840
Speaker 1: but you know, like I'll be okay, like we can still.

453
00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:24,360
Speaker 1: You know, this is messed up, dude. This is messed up.

454
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:24,760
Speaker 1: Not it