1 00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:06,400 Speaker 1: All right, buckle up and hold on tight. We got 2 00:00:06,400 --> 00:00:11,119 Speaker 1: it for you here. It is subject diagnosed a real 3 00:00:11,440 --> 00:00:17,360 Speaker 1: bona fide sex addict. Okay, I am losing my best 4 00:00:17,400 --> 00:00:21,280 Speaker 1: friend to a diagnosed sex addict. Before his diagnosis, my 5 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:24,960 Speaker 1: best friend's husband cheated on her repeatedly. She put him, 6 00:00:25,320 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: she put him in therapy, and he was diagnosed a 7 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:30,880 Speaker 1: sex addict. Months later, a date rape charge came up 8 00:00:30,920 --> 00:00:34,600 Speaker 1: against him. She convinced me of his innocence. I was 9 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:37,400 Speaker 1: asked to write him a character letter. I told myself, 10 00:00:37,440 --> 00:00:40,279 Speaker 1: just because he cheats doesn't make him a rapist. So 11 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:43,520 Speaker 1: I wrote the letter. Then a few months later, another 12 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:46,280 Speaker 1: date rape charge from a different woman in a different 13 00:00:46,360 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 1: state came up. My best friend once again try to 14 00:00:49,159 --> 00:00:53,160 Speaker 1: convince me of his innocent I wasn't buying it. Then 15 00:00:53,200 --> 00:00:57,400 Speaker 1: he made the fatal era of propositioning me at one 16 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 1: of their parties. I snap and he slithered away. She 17 00:01:02,480 --> 00:01:05,679 Speaker 1: told me I am a negative force, as she wants 18 00:01:05,680 --> 00:01:09,200 Speaker 1: her distance if I won't be supportive and accept that 19 00:01:09,240 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 1: he has a sex addiction. He's having plenty sex even 20 00:01:13,920 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 1: with men in parentheses, but never with her. Our friendship 21 00:01:18,360 --> 00:01:21,920 Speaker 1: is ruined because I spoke my mind. Signed. Truly don't 22 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:25,440 Speaker 1: know what to do. Okay, I don't know what to 23 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 1: do either for this letter. But my advice to you 24 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:31,360 Speaker 1: is just don't do anything. You know to me, you've 25 00:01:31,400 --> 00:01:33,560 Speaker 1: done all you can. I mean, you've even written a 26 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 1: letter for this jerk. Uh. Why are you all up 27 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:40,399 Speaker 1: in their business like this? Anyway? This is too much 28 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:43,959 Speaker 1: to me? Sex edition, date raping. I mean, what is 29 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:47,040 Speaker 1: going on here? It's just too much, you know. I say, 30 00:01:47,120 --> 00:01:49,560 Speaker 1: be glad that she wants her distance from you. And 31 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:51,960 Speaker 1: what does she want you to support? I mean, really, 32 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: what does she want you to accept? Does she want 33 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: you to accept the fact that he's date raped people 34 00:01:57,800 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: his sex edition? I don't get it. You don't have 35 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 1: to scept anything. What about these parties? He's even hit 36 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 1: on you. I don't understand anything that's going on in 37 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: this letter. This is their mess. Uh. You know, I 38 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:12,040 Speaker 1: don't care how hard she tries to convince you of 39 00:02:12,200 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 1: his innocence. This is a mess, and I think you 40 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 1: should be glad to be rid of her and him, 41 00:02:18,520 --> 00:02:22,400 Speaker 1: you know, as people. You know that's my answer? All right, Great, Shirley, 42 00:02:22,440 --> 00:02:24,600 Speaker 1: I agree with everything you say, but let's just go 43 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: and cut into this this letter, just saying that this 44 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:38,920 Speaker 1: letter is about three crazy people. Okay, everybody in this 45 00:02:39,040 --> 00:02:43,919 Speaker 1: letter crazy, the crazy, the wife crazy, and you crazy. 46 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:46,919 Speaker 1: This all this letter is just I'm with Shirley. I 47 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:49,000 Speaker 1: don't get that. I don't even like the letter. I 48 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 1: don't know what you're writing for. I don't know why 49 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:53,520 Speaker 1: you've made this your problem. I don't see why you 50 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:59,040 Speaker 1: even give a day because I showed them. I mean, 51 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:06,960 Speaker 1: I don't even to state. This letter is absolutely nutifying ignant. 52 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:12,120 Speaker 1: It's this ignorant man, but this my ignorant wife, she 53 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 1: sitting up in here. Look at him. You're losing your 54 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:20,160 Speaker 1: best friend. This your best friend, This best friend you 55 00:03:20,360 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 1: come up with that's married to the dude that has 56 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:28,880 Speaker 1: cheated on her repeated Not only has he cheated on 57 00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 1: her repeatedly, he doesn't let her. She cares so much 58 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:38,720 Speaker 1: she had to put him in third. Come to find out, 59 00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:41,960 Speaker 1: somebody sitting on the couch with a legal path that 60 00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:46,720 Speaker 1: decided to tell you that he's a sex at the hell, 61 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:49,480 Speaker 1: y'all pay your money to figure this out, for who 62 00:03:49,560 --> 00:03:54,720 Speaker 1: is't no this keep cheating on you? But then months 63 00:03:54,920 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 1: later a date, great charge get put on the man. 64 00:03:58,160 --> 00:04:00,720 Speaker 1: She coming as you her best friend to write a 65 00:04:00,800 --> 00:04:03,800 Speaker 1: letter for him. You decide, well, just cause he's sex 66 00:04:03,880 --> 00:04:07,560 Speaker 1: at it, don't make him a raper. Well makes sense. 67 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:12,360 Speaker 1: You write the letter two months later, can come another 68 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:16,200 Speaker 1: damn call in another state. I would be leave. Women 69 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 1: ain't got together down at the job and done this. 70 00:04:19,720 --> 00:04:24,000 Speaker 1: So homeboy then took the sex addiction to the level 71 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:29,400 Speaker 1: of if you won't get to me, I'm taking. Now 72 00:04:29,480 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 1: she comes to you for a second letter. You don't 73 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 1: want to write the letter. Now she's mad at you 74 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:41,000 Speaker 1: because this hell for crazy. You know, I got standing 75 00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 1: by your man, but standing by your line asks no 76 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:50,680 Speaker 1: good trifle raping man, it's a whole another stand by 77 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:54,960 Speaker 1: me at one point in time, should not he try 78 00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:59,600 Speaker 1: to do something for you, like straighten up, like get 79 00:04:59,640 --> 00:05:02,480 Speaker 1: some here After he went to therapy, what was accomplished 80 00:05:02,520 --> 00:05:05,440 Speaker 1: at the therapy setting? Or was he just going just 81 00:05:05,520 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 1: to keep your iggna behind on the hook because he 82 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:14,240 Speaker 1: liked the idea of having no one he's slicking anyway. Uh, 83 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:18,560 Speaker 1: then you go to a party and he hits on you. Snap, 84 00:05:19,600 --> 00:05:24,719 Speaker 1: he slithers away, slips. Only thing that slithers w he 85 00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:28,880 Speaker 1: slithers away. Now your girlfriend and told you you a 86 00:05:28,920 --> 00:05:32,599 Speaker 1: negative face because she won't her distance if you won't 87 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:37,160 Speaker 1: be supportive and accept that he has a sex. Except 88 00:05:37,200 --> 00:05:40,480 Speaker 1: one what I got to except you know, if one 89 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:42,479 Speaker 1: of my boys come to me and see Steve Man, 90 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:45,400 Speaker 1: I'm gonna talking about what's up? Man? Man, I'm addicted 91 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 1: to Okay, me too, Okay, what what? What? What's wrong? 92 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:55,320 Speaker 1: I'm hooked on it, but clinically, but I ain't got 93 00:05:55,440 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 1: to go hound there and know that. I know. I 94 00:05:57,520 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 1: had to have it myself, so I got stay this yourself. Yeah, 95 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 1: but don't. I got some rape charges on me. Two? Um, okay, 96 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 1: hold on point. See you asked where my boy and 97 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:19,239 Speaker 1: I had to start re evaluating. Okay, I'm addicted to say, 98 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:22,239 Speaker 1: I got you. You are too? You did what? Don't? 99 00:06:22,839 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 1: I got two rape charge? Hello Steve, Hello, Steve. I'm 100 00:06:32,760 --> 00:06:36,200 Speaker 1: gonna see it's time for you. And when I come back, 101 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:39,479 Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you what your next move has to be. 102 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:42,720 Speaker 1: If you don't follow this advice, then cool, write us 103 00:06:42,760 --> 00:06:45,760 Speaker 1: next week. I'm just gonna be some most stupid man. 104 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:48,800 Speaker 1: We'll be back first. Steve. Finish your response to part 105 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:51,839 Speaker 1: two up Today's Strawberry Letter. Let's do it right now, 106 00:06:52,480 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 1: right now, all right, Steve, Okay, this woman's got this 107 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:03,400 Speaker 1: best friend husband and and cheated on her, repeated, and 108 00:07:03,480 --> 00:07:05,440 Speaker 1: she put the man in therapy. He gotta dieing off 109 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:08,799 Speaker 1: since a sex attic. Then montlated. Some date grape charges 110 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 1: came up against him. She convinced her girlfriend of his 111 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:15,560 Speaker 1: incident and asking me about a Calcu letter, she said, okay, 112 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 1: since he cheats and don't make him a rape so 113 00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:19,440 Speaker 1: she wrote the letter. Did a few minutes later, another 114 00:07:19,560 --> 00:07:23,400 Speaker 1: date rape charge come up in another state. Best friend 115 00:07:23,480 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 1: came to again. She didn't want to write him on 116 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:28,080 Speaker 1: letters for this dude. Then he made the mistake of 117 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 1: proposition and her at a party, she snapped, He slithered away. 118 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:37,200 Speaker 1: Now the wife of the husband is telling the lady 119 00:07:37,200 --> 00:07:39,520 Speaker 1: that you're a negative force and she wants her distance 120 00:07:39,840 --> 00:07:42,560 Speaker 1: if you won't be supportive and accept that he has 121 00:07:42,600 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 1: a sex addiction. Sherley and I both agree that ain't 122 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:48,320 Speaker 1: nobody got to accept nothing you are. You're done that 123 00:07:48,440 --> 00:07:50,640 Speaker 1: dumb white. You ain't got to set up here and 124 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 1: deal with this hill. He got a sexual addiction here, dude, 125 00:07:55,080 --> 00:07:58,160 Speaker 1: I know its addicted to Why to hear you think 126 00:07:58,160 --> 00:08:01,600 Speaker 1: we've been in a situation where we all addicted to it. 127 00:08:01,960 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 1: That you got it? It's cool. Who in addicted to that? Hey, 128 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 1: I'm addicted to sugar? Several addictions sugar, you know, yeah, 129 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:24,920 Speaker 1: I need that, you know, addicted to clothe you are? 130 00:08:25,440 --> 00:08:38,319 Speaker 1: You know? Nice calls underwell you're to yes, yes, all 131 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:40,600 Speaker 1: that right here. I'm addicted to the cooking. I just 132 00:08:40,640 --> 00:08:44,960 Speaker 1: got eight anyway, Okay, we got all of that now. 133 00:08:45,160 --> 00:08:48,800 Speaker 1: She says he's having plenty of sex, even with men, 134 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:55,640 Speaker 1: but never with her. This came, this rock boulder that 135 00:08:55,800 --> 00:08:57,599 Speaker 1: slapped me on the head, came but didn't know that. 136 00:08:58,600 --> 00:09:01,520 Speaker 1: I don't know. Listen to me, Stay out of it. 137 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:05,840 Speaker 1: Don't let her drag you back into this. You wrote 138 00:09:05,880 --> 00:09:08,960 Speaker 1: one letter, you didn't write the second. He didn't hit 139 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:13,040 Speaker 1: on you. He sleeps with men and women, not huh. 140 00:09:13,360 --> 00:09:16,319 Speaker 1: You don't know what to do. Here's what you do. 141 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:20,520 Speaker 1: Leave Let her have it. Let her have him. The 142 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:26,280 Speaker 1: sexual addiction problem, the men, the women, the bisexual that 143 00:09:26,400 --> 00:09:29,600 Speaker 1: I have all that. I mean, well, what why are 144 00:09:29,640 --> 00:09:31,920 Speaker 1: you writing this letter crying about this woman? Does she 145 00:09:32,080 --> 00:09:36,880 Speaker 1: complete you or something? This woman? Let her go because 146 00:09:36,960 --> 00:09:40,200 Speaker 1: you need time to do you and don't worry about 147 00:09:40,200 --> 00:09:42,440 Speaker 1: nobody else. Man, if you got a friend in your life, 148 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:46,559 Speaker 1: that's that funky. That ain't your friends going about your bids? 149 00:09:46,920 --> 00:09:49,200 Speaker 1: All right, Steve, we have to go great answer though, 150 00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:52,360 Speaker 1: email or Instagram. That's your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter. 151 00:09:52,559 --> 00:09:55,520 Speaker 1: Go to my Girls, Shirley. Okay, speaking of Instagram. Earlier, 152 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:58,679 Speaker 1: go to My Girls Shirley. You're listening to the Steve 153 00:09:58,800 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show.