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Speaker 3: And I also don't know why people find that to

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Speaker 1: Do people not? No, Like, even when you say plussy, plussy,

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Speaker 3: And I really was looking at them comments like oh,

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Speaker 3: And one of the things that made me feel really

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Speaker 1: Just to turn this into an evergreen topic, right and

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Speaker 3: me sometimes is the fact that, like, I have cared

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Speaker 3: so much in the past because it actually ruined how

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Speaker 3: I felt about that person, because in the beginning. In

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Speaker 3: the beginning of my relationship, everyone compared him to old

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Speaker 3: Bay just because I was non monogamous, thinking it wasn't

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Speaker 3: my choice, okay, and putting their own ideas of what

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Speaker 3: non monogamy is. And now that they realize he's a

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Speaker 3: good man and an honest man, it's like, oh, okay, well,

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Speaker 3: now Wheezy did right, And so eventually people have to

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Speaker 3: fall in line. Everybody's always gonna have a fucking opinion, bitch.

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Speaker 3: They are opinions of my ex girlfriend. They felt like

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Speaker 3: she was too jealous, Okay, so what am I gonna

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Speaker 3: do date another woman who isn't sorry, But I'm like,

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Speaker 3: I'm not even trying to be a dick here, but

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Speaker 3: like there's always going to be something, and like we gotta.

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Speaker 2: Cut the shit, like and it could never be me, bitch,

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Speaker 2: You've been worse. So yeah, like when you feel good,

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Speaker 2: when you're happy.

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Speaker 3: One of my homeboys started dating a white girl and he's, uh,

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Speaker 3: he's famous, I guess popular, and he's like, I know,

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Speaker 3: bitches be looking at me, and I'm like, bro, I'm

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Speaker 3: gonna talk shit about you as a joke, but like, if.

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Speaker 1: You a bitch, that makes you happy. What do you

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Speaker 1: give a fuck? Bro? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Like, and I just I just think that it worked too,

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Speaker 2: you know, like, what can you do?

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Speaker 1: What are you supposed to do? I think you just

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Speaker 1: have to be at a place where you're like also

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Speaker 1: willing to sit in the I told you so like.

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Speaker 1: And when I say that is like, if there's stories

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Speaker 1: about a person for being a whole, being a cheater,

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Speaker 1: being an abuser, and you choose to move forward, there

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Speaker 1: has to be to where if you become something or

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Speaker 1: hurt by that same bubble, just being able to sit

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Speaker 1: in the eye I told you so like, but willing

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Speaker 1: to be the ignorance is bliss when it comes to

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Speaker 1: the thoughts and opinions of what someone else may have

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Speaker 1: on the person you choose.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, agreed, use are a little different, but.

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Speaker 1: I mean it is a little different. However, out by

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Speaker 1: the way, only because when does this come out? I'll

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Speaker 1: make sure this comes out the same week. I only

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Speaker 1: say that because I don't know why I've been sitting

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Speaker 1: on thoughts about our episode with Winter and Shy, But

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Speaker 1: a part of the conversations around the domestic violence, like

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Speaker 1: you know, when we do episodes, and you know, I

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Speaker 1: know the notes just got sent to us. So I'm

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Speaker 1: sitting on like what the conversation was, and I just

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Speaker 1: wish I asked harder questions around the comfortability of both

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Speaker 1: of them admitting to laying hands on partners, just because

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Speaker 1: I don't think that there is enough of those accountability

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Speaker 1: type conversations amongst women.

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Speaker 3: So like, literally, I will tell you, and I don't

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Speaker 3: know if she said it publicly. Actually I think she

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Speaker 3: has shy, had really taken responsibility. Okay, I don't know

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Speaker 3: about Winter. I couldn't be and I don't know what

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Speaker 3: happened with Winter, but.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm talking about even just the story they shared

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Speaker 1: on our podcast.

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Speaker 3: When she spoke about it, she was like, but and

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Speaker 3: there's no sorry I could say, like, there's nothing I

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Speaker 3: could do, like letting my emotions like it was.

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Speaker 2: She was very self aware.

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Speaker 3: I'll say that, I don't know if that's the best

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Speaker 3: word I could use. It was like talking with someone

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Speaker 3: that it already unders like they're just like, hey, this

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Speaker 3: is the wrong I did. I'm going to tell you

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Speaker 3: the story, but like, fuck, I fucked up, and it's

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Speaker 3: something we would wish we'd hear more often from women.

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Speaker 2: I think, yeah, exactly, a winter did the I.

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Speaker 1: Mean, well, it was her story on our show, and

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Speaker 1: as I'm looking through the notes and I'm like, damn,

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Speaker 1: like a part of me like wish I would have

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Speaker 1: been like I don't know. I just think that that's

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Speaker 1: a conversation where even when a woman says, damn that

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Speaker 1: I was fucked up, I did it. A lot of

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Speaker 1: times when women are the abusers, there's a past, there's

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Speaker 1: a level of excuse, there's a level of they do

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Speaker 1: it again, and they do it again with multiple partners,

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Speaker 1: and there's just no level of accountability. And there's really

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Speaker 1: not that conversation amongst women as to how we need

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Speaker 1: to not even think we can lay our hands on men.

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Speaker 1: And then that's not even the conversation. I think it's

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Speaker 1: even a deeper, darker conversation with the lesbians because that

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Speaker 1: Girl, the girls be fighting. It's almost on a fight.

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Speaker 2: And I remember I was saying something in the car

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Speaker 2: and I'm like, bitch, what you want to do.

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Speaker 1: Wait? Where do we go? You said fight? Did we

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Speaker 1: not talking about this? Oh?

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Speaker 3: I was just like, let's let's go to Nexica. I

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Speaker 3: don't even want to get in my feelings about how

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Speaker 2: Girl wanted to fight.

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