WEBVTT - Ep 26 "What Do Women Want" 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:07.080 We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion who 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:15.079 talked back. Hey guys, damn man and it's a j 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:18.280 Welcome to a new episode of We Talked Back. And 0:00:18.320 --> 0:00:23.279 we really appreciate you guys tuning in every Thursday. I 0:00:23.400 --> 0:00:30.360 missed y'all, man, I missed yallole. You know. Look, So 0:00:30.720 --> 0:00:33.680 a couple of weeks ago, we had some nice gentlemen 0:00:33.800 --> 0:00:36.680 on this show, right, and we were trying to figure 0:00:36.680 --> 0:00:43.080 out what it is that men really want, right um 0:00:43.120 --> 0:00:45.840 and it's it's only right that we understand what women want. 0:00:46.320 --> 0:00:48.080 We really didn't get a lot of clarity out of 0:00:48.080 --> 0:00:50.400 those two guys, like they did tell us for the 0:00:50.440 --> 0:00:53.400 most part, right, a little bit, a little bit. I'm 0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:58.360 still look ship vary from Nigga and Nigga because that's 0:00:58.400 --> 0:01:01.080 the way to guy like you. They want one thing 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:03.440 today and something else tomorrow. So who knows. You just 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:06.600 have to be real mutable and flexible for these niggas. 0:01:06.600 --> 0:01:12.000 But excuse me, these men, these niggles. So today we 0:01:12.160 --> 0:01:18.960 have two beautiful successful black women on this um uture 0:01:19.080 --> 0:01:25.160 feel of the Okay. I'm Lexi um. I am an investor. 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:29.720 I was born in Columbia, South Carolina, raised here in 0:01:29.880 --> 0:01:39.080 Charlotte seven okay, okay, and I am Mecca. I am 0:01:39.200 --> 0:01:43.440 um industry of hospitality. I own my own event company, 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:46.560 and I also am a lone officer for a company 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:50.040 called Better Um. Been in Charlotte for ten years. This 0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:54.160 is my city, um, queen city all day. UM. Love 0:01:54.200 --> 0:01:56.520 to travel, but excited to be here on the show 0:01:56.560 --> 0:01:59.960 with my girls. And yeah listen, So these are two 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:03.120 baddies to y'all exactly. So we're gonna get a lot 0:02:03.120 --> 0:02:05.600 of good input this show. So I wanted to start 0:02:05.600 --> 0:02:10.160 off with something I had posted online, just my observation 0:02:10.320 --> 0:02:13.160 in regards to men and women. So do you guys 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:16.600 think this is true or not? Men feel good when 0:02:16.639 --> 0:02:22.080 they're doing well. Women do well when they feel good. Yeah, 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:25.560 I mean I feel good when I'm doing well, bitch. 0:02:26.040 --> 0:02:27.640 I like when I got money on our pocket, I 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:29.600 feel good. I do agree. I think it goes both 0:02:29.600 --> 0:02:36.560 ways for females too. Yeah, but I also feel I 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:40.680 don't know, but well, you don't feel good sometimes that 0:02:40.760 --> 0:02:43.720 motivates you to do better. So true, So I mean 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:48.720 you can go both ways. But what's so I think? 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:51.800 More so like when I when I posted that it 0:02:51.880 --> 0:02:55.160 was in regards really just thinking about relationships and when 0:02:55.240 --> 0:02:57.800 you win a relationship with somebody, like women, you know 0:02:57.840 --> 0:03:00.680 they always say happy life, happy, happy wife, the life right. 0:03:01.200 --> 0:03:05.000 So automatically, when you pour into a woman, she's going 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:09.040 to automatically produce for the most part. You know, when 0:03:09.040 --> 0:03:11.800 you're making her feel good, it's gonna be easy for 0:03:11.840 --> 0:03:14.919 her to produce, easy for her to make major moves 0:03:15.480 --> 0:03:19.760 because she's feeling like loved. Men have a to me, 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:22.200 men have a hard time of they aren't where they 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:24.880 think they're supposed to be. They're not gonna make it 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:27.880 easy for you to even love them so that they 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:31.880 can do well. So they have to already be doing 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:35.600 well themselves, and then you come into the picture. You'll 0:03:35.640 --> 0:03:39.040 agree with that. Sometimes I excel because I just want 0:03:39.040 --> 0:03:42.680 to level up, because that goes for the single women 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:44.560 who I really don't have. I know a lot of 0:03:44.560 --> 0:03:48.400 single successful women that are not supported and loved and relationships. 0:03:48.400 --> 0:03:51.560 They just do it with themselves. For my instance, that's 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:53.520 been my case for the past four years, loving on 0:03:53.600 --> 0:03:56.440 myself because I haven't been in a consistent relationship. So 0:03:56.840 --> 0:03:59.200 it's at this point in my life like, hey, you 0:03:59.200 --> 0:04:01.480 want to level up, got do the work, stop up 0:04:01.520 --> 0:04:03.280 the tears, like you know, let go of whatever you 0:04:03.360 --> 0:04:06.800 got going on, and you know, keep moving. That's a fact. 0:04:08.000 --> 0:04:09.960 But ain't nothing. But like when you break up with 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:13.160 somebody and you want to get in shape, you want 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:16.080 to earn more money, you just want to take pictures 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:18.839 and let him follow you and see he saw that ship. 0:04:19.000 --> 0:04:21.719 You know, like women do well when they feel good. 0:04:22.200 --> 0:04:27.560 You see what I'm saying, Well, that's what do we 0:04:27.640 --> 0:04:31.960 need to make us feel good specifically in a relationship? 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:38.000 What do you guys mean that at question? And look 0:04:38.040 --> 0:04:40.800 that's what the guy said too. That's a loaded questions, right. 0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:43.440 I mean, my most important thing when it comes to 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:46.400 relationship is being in one with my best friend. You 0:04:46.440 --> 0:04:47.760 have to be my best friend, and I have to 0:04:47.760 --> 0:04:49.360 be able to talk to you. I have to be able. 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:51.120 You have to be able to listen because me, I'm 0:04:51.160 --> 0:04:53.360 gonna chop it up, I'm gonna talk all that. So 0:04:53.520 --> 0:04:55.600 you know, you gotta be able to listen. You gotta 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:59.719 be able to comfort, love, reassure. I mean, they're so 0:05:00.080 --> 0:05:02.120 there's just so much thing, so many things that you 0:05:02.120 --> 0:05:05.599 can do to make somebody feel good. Um, in a 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:08.159 world full of beautiful women to sure your girl shoot 0:05:08.160 --> 0:05:09.920 them prettiest woman in the world. You know you look 0:05:09.960 --> 0:05:13.200 over your shoulder, somebody like that girl look good but 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:17.279 cost right. But you got somebody that's constantly letting you 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:19.840 know how good you look, how good you are, how 0:05:19.880 --> 0:05:21.440 good you are to him, how you make how you 0:05:21.480 --> 0:05:24.279 mak him feel, making want to be better. That's a 0:05:24.279 --> 0:05:28.640 big thing too. But um, all those things make you 0:05:28.680 --> 0:05:47.279 feel good. Somebody say that's personally, I'm making it a weight. 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:51.080 So to he get anything from me, my man had 0:05:51.120 --> 0:05:55.640 to wait months, and that's what separated me from pretty 0:05:55.720 --> 0:05:59.160 much every other woman he'd been around. So you know, 0:05:59.400 --> 0:06:01.880 you should have that foundation before you even got to 0:06:02.160 --> 0:06:04.720 know about the dick. So here's the day y'all waited 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:07.599 for months. Was the dick was trash, but you like 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:11.320 h him as a person though like everything stated, the 0:06:11.360 --> 0:06:18.720 dick is trash. You got state. Luckily, lucky I had 0:06:18.720 --> 0:06:20.920 to find out. I don't know what all it did. 0:06:23.560 --> 0:06:25.440 I don't know, And I don't think that that's a 0:06:25.480 --> 0:06:27.600 deal breaker. I think that you got me. You can 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:29.400 have sex the first night and end up with the 0:06:29.440 --> 0:06:31.680 love of your life. That's not a terminal factor. But 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:35.120 I mean if the dick was trash. You know, we're 0:06:35.120 --> 0:06:41.640 gonna have to talk about it. We're gonna have that 0:06:41.760 --> 0:06:43.600 was the best man you ever met in your life. 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:46.080 He the best man with trash dick, but he could 0:06:46.080 --> 0:06:48.839 have excelled in every other way. See if he excelled 0:06:49.000 --> 0:06:51.080 every other way, we can have we can have conversations 0:06:51.080 --> 0:06:54.560 about sex. You gotta we have to time unless unless 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:59.320 it's no like no size, no girth, no nothing, nothing. 0:07:00.760 --> 0:07:03.080 That's two different things. Like there's there's dick and then 0:07:03.080 --> 0:07:05.360 there's bad sex. And I feel like, if you don't 0:07:05.400 --> 0:07:08.640 have no dick, what can we work on? Ain't to 0:07:08.640 --> 0:07:16.360 work on? Trying stuff is making me chafe and get 0:07:16.360 --> 0:07:20.320 out of here. Yeah, I know what Lexi said. Honestly 0:07:20.400 --> 0:07:21.800 is the biggest thing I've been I think it's a 0:07:21.880 --> 0:07:25.640 challenge I faced being a single. Dating is having someone 0:07:25.680 --> 0:07:27.960 who could be really upfront with you. And that's the 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:30.440 biggest turn on for me is where a guy can 0:07:30.440 --> 0:07:31.960 comes to me. He was like, hook, Hey, I am 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:34.480 attracted to you sexually, mentally and physically, but I'm not 0:07:34.520 --> 0:07:36.640 ready to settle down. I'm not gonna lead you on. 0:07:37.000 --> 0:07:39.560 I'm not gonna do all this stuff. But it's I'm 0:07:39.560 --> 0:07:41.280 not gonna say it's rare, but it's not as common 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:43.080 for men to be upfront with what they really got 0:07:43.080 --> 0:07:46.680 going on, which leads us, which takes us, you know, 0:07:46.720 --> 0:07:50.160 takes our option away of either dating, fucking, you know, 0:07:50.240 --> 0:07:52.160 whatever we want to do with this person, you know, 0:07:52.200 --> 0:07:54.960 if we're misled. So that's my biggest me too, because 0:07:54.960 --> 0:07:57.960 the next nick that played with me, I'm taking this sledge. 0:07:58.120 --> 0:08:06.400 I'm I'm sick of me. Try it. If you're listening, bait, 0:08:06.600 --> 0:08:13.000 don't play with me, Okay, cut it off. But look, 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:15.960 that's you know often well, this is a perfect example 0:08:16.000 --> 0:08:20.400 to him, Like so you know, sometimes people act like 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:22.760 you're not supposed to wait to have things all go ahead, 0:08:22.800 --> 0:08:24.679 and funk I saw some sh online that was basically 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:26.480 telling women you might as well fucking and get him 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:28.840 out the way. No, if you make a nigga, weeight 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:31.280 nine times out of tend he gonna talk or do 0:08:31.280 --> 0:08:33.600 do something that's gonna talk yourself out the pussy anyway. 0:08:34.000 --> 0:08:36.600 That's importance to making somebody wait anyway, But it ain't 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:40.120 nothing worse than making a nigga weight you fuck them. 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:44.200 Realize the other nigga was his representative and now you 0:08:44.320 --> 0:08:50.920 still get played right now, now, Romeo really must die 0:08:51.080 --> 0:08:55.400 the fuck and hand. That's where it's communication, because like 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:58.600 I had, dude, I'm doing right now. We had sex 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:01.280 and I toys. I came doing shy and said, what 0:09:01.400 --> 0:09:04.080 is your expectations now? No? No, no, no no no, that's 0:09:04.280 --> 0:09:06.760 I'm sorry to interrupt your nigger. We need to put 0:09:06.800 --> 0:09:09.440 our expectations on the table before sex. If it's money, 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:11.640 you won't say that. If it's a relationship, you want 0:09:11.640 --> 0:09:13.600 to say that. If you want marriage, you need to 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:15.720 say that before you give your pussy. I'm not you 0:09:15.720 --> 0:09:18.280 don't want nothing though, then then then you sucking and 0:09:18.320 --> 0:09:21.280 you won't have these questions. Dick. So good, now you 0:09:21.320 --> 0:09:30.160 haven't expected talk. You girls like the dick made you 0:09:30.160 --> 0:09:34.840 want to have expectations and me, you know what, and 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:38.400 we have that conversation. Before I always asked them what 0:09:38.400 --> 0:09:40.000 do you want to do? What do you what do 0:09:40.000 --> 0:09:43.120 you want? What do you want? Before anything? Before it 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:45.680 were so good. Nike was like, hey, church, just open 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:47.480 back up and I want to receive. If you wanted 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:51.000 to go this sun no, but it was just like okay, 0:09:51.000 --> 0:09:53.880 when we know the energy is their energy is high. 0:09:54.040 --> 0:09:56.640 So we were just like, okay, so what were on? 0:09:56.880 --> 0:09:58.400 What were on? And I told him I want somebody 0:09:58.520 --> 0:10:01.680 can communicate with through this process. So if you feel 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:03.360 like you need to still have sex with other girls, 0:10:03.920 --> 0:10:07.120 let me know if you if you're having sex with me, 0:10:07.720 --> 0:10:10.760 and vice versa, and then we communicate through the process. 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:13.480 But a lot of men, just like you know, I 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:15.199 don't even want to have that conversation, don't even know 0:10:15.280 --> 0:10:18.680 how to have. Those are called little boys. They are 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:24.560 you know, those are grown boys. Those are adult boys. 0:10:27.320 --> 0:10:30.280 We talk about grown men. Yeah, So I guess you know, 0:10:30.840 --> 0:10:34.520 all men want is somebody that could be vulnerable with, right, 0:10:34.640 --> 0:10:38.319 but they still till he's half truths oftentimes. So what 0:10:38.360 --> 0:10:42.600 I'm hearing is that women, we really want honesty day one. 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:45.520 Because you don't know me. You don't know me, so 0:10:45.600 --> 0:10:47.280 you can tell me anything and all I can do 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:51.000 is accepted by being honest. You let me decide what 0:10:51.120 --> 0:10:53.280 I want to expose myself to. Don't put my life 0:10:53.280 --> 0:10:55.720 in your hands. So rule number one, we want honesty 0:10:55.840 --> 0:11:00.280 rights not just from our relationships with men. That's from everybody, right, 0:11:00.400 --> 0:11:04.840 that's best friend, a friend, everybody you know, honestly tell 0:11:04.880 --> 0:11:06.920 the truth. But is it how is it easy to 0:11:06.960 --> 0:11:10.240 tell a truth? It's not always easy to tell truth. 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:13.959 But I mean, well, and the Bible say life for 0:11:14.040 --> 0:11:23.959 peace sake, and do say that chapter. That must be 0:11:24.040 --> 0:11:28.280 the Queen James version. That's my version, the Lebron James version. 0:11:29.120 --> 0:11:42.640 I'm about to find it because that's ship crazy. No, honestly, 0:11:42.720 --> 0:11:47.360 is definitely number one, number one. I think sex is 0:11:47.440 --> 0:11:51.800 number two. Okay, what's the presented? What's the percentage y'all 0:11:51.840 --> 0:11:55.079 think sex is in a relationship? I say sex is 0:11:55.120 --> 0:11:59.040 like sixty. I would agree with you. I would say, 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:02.400 early on on that's the percentage. But as you grow, 0:12:03.000 --> 0:12:06.400 sex is not. Yeah, when I'm sixty, am I pussy 0:12:06.480 --> 0:12:09.400 and working on more? But prior to I don't even 0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:12.559 say sixty because I'm gonna be still sucking at sixty. Fact, 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:17.040 I don't know. I don't know. I don't know if 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:23.960 it's that, it's not, it's not. And I was joking sick. Yeah, Well, 0:12:24.120 --> 0:12:27.240 to me, like sex, sex should not be the only 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:30.480 way you and your mate communicate. But I believe it 0:12:30.600 --> 0:12:33.360 definitely is a form of communication. And if you disconnected 0:12:33.400 --> 0:12:37.959 in that way, it's gonna it's gonna be problems like Okay, sex, money, 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:40.520 What are other reasons why people get divorced or get 0:12:40.559 --> 0:12:47.080 cheated on? Kids and outside? Right? Financial number one and 0:12:47.120 --> 0:12:51.680 then losing desire for that partner why people are cheating? 0:12:51.720 --> 0:13:00.400 So okay, y'all, Maybe the Bible don't say this where 0:13:00.440 --> 0:13:05.959 I gotta I don't know where I came for me. 0:13:06.880 --> 0:13:09.000 I told you it was the Queen James version. Look, 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:10.840 we're gonna make a whole segment out of that ship. 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:13.679 Some ship the Bible don't say, but does say, let 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:19.080 me check the check a Buddha two and get back 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:27.439 with us. But then next girl, you are stupid. Look 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:30.440 before we move on to the next segment, let's have 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:38.040 a word for our sponsors. Sorry, if we made a 0:13:38.080 --> 0:13:44.600 total list of your perfect mate, what qualities would you 0:13:44.640 --> 0:13:48.480 put on that list? Physically and everything? Everything? Okay? Period, 0:13:48.840 --> 0:13:51.000 I got one. So after LEXI I'm gonna read my list. 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:53.679 I'm gonna go with I'm not in a little I'm 0:13:53.679 --> 0:13:55.480 not a little tiny girl, So I need my man 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:58.319 to be tall. You know, he need to have me, say, 0:13:58.320 --> 0:14:02.040 he need house some arms so he could pick me up. Um, 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:06.200 you know, good hair, nice smile, That's the first thing 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:14.079 I'm looking at. Your teeth, your smile. That's the first thing. Baby, 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:23.760 he's the prototype. He got a house style. Um, but 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:29.280 when it goes past physical, uh, I just you know, 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:32.440 you gotta be honest. Tell me everything straight up. Perfect 0:14:32.520 --> 0:14:36.160 man is honest period. Like if I ask you a question, 0:14:37.240 --> 0:14:39.160 give it to me. I don't care straight, I don't 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:47.920 care if it's gonna not um loyal of course, funny. 0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:50.040 I can't deal with you if you can't many laugh. 0:14:50.320 --> 0:14:52.200 If we're sitting in the room and we're not keikinging 0:14:52.240 --> 0:14:54.040 the whole time, we ain't it. That's what you're not 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:55.800 the one. I'm real silly. I was trying to date 0:14:55.840 --> 0:14:57.840 this guy from Baltimore one time and he was just 0:14:57.920 --> 0:15:03.040 so so just there, just waste of space. He waste space. 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:06.800 It's very serious all the time. You like, Yo, I'm 0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:12.080 for boltible. So that's a waste. That's It's like sad 0:15:12.120 --> 0:15:16.600 in Baltimore. They are actually are you guys listen? Are 0:15:16.600 --> 0:15:21.440 you guys Baltimore? Are y'all blue? No? I have a 0:15:21.440 --> 0:15:25.440 whole full love list I created January thirty one, and 0:15:26.000 --> 0:15:28.120 did you finish your list? I mean, I feel like 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:30.120 there's so many things you can name in a perfect 0:15:30.120 --> 0:15:35.160 man it is. I just feel like it. Oh you 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:41.400 got a lonely right the should say lights Siracha on 0:15:41.480 --> 0:15:47.800 his ead detailed because you know I was taught you 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:50.040 gotta pray for details. You know you want something, you 0:15:50.040 --> 0:15:53.200 got to pray for it all A man that prays. 0:15:53.240 --> 0:15:54.840 You have to be a believer. That's my number one. 0:15:54.960 --> 0:15:56.800 I believe you gotta believe in something. You know we 0:15:56.920 --> 0:16:00.200 might not believe in the same things, but higher our 0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:04.600 But um, yeah, Mom, that starts. It's very simple like committed, fun, compassionate, 0:16:05.080 --> 0:16:10.120 for giving, always family, man and a husband mm hmmm, 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:14.960 constantly growing, mentally healthy. UM loves to travel the world, 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:21.120 makes me feel confident, entertains my weirdness, supports my mom 0:16:21.160 --> 0:16:25.160 and sister. UM loves God, defends me no matter what, 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:29.160 allows me to be who I am. UM and loves 0:16:29.160 --> 0:16:32.720 to help others. And then I put foreign and tall 0:16:32.360 --> 0:16:39.400 so no so no black Americans, y'all. Yeah, I don't 0:16:39.440 --> 0:16:44.840 like black American. Damn y'all. You don't want to let 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:47.080 me tell you ain't nothing wrong with that. I said 0:16:47.120 --> 0:16:50.520 this before. One of my best friends, she's white and 0:16:50.600 --> 0:16:54.400 she has only ever dated black men. She has two kids, 0:16:54.480 --> 0:16:58.520 one from a Biracier, got other Haitian and she's done 0:16:58.520 --> 0:17:01.440 with Black American men, So ain't in us because she's 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:03.800 white and she's six. This bu be going to the 0:17:03.840 --> 0:17:08.000 Dominican Republic for a current nigger. It's just the morals 0:17:08.080 --> 0:17:10.560 in America and you knowed the Black American men are 0:17:10.560 --> 0:17:13.679 completely different when it comes to overseas people. It's just different. 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:17.160 It's a different mindset. And I could be biased, but 0:17:17.920 --> 0:17:21.960 being raised in a Nigerian American household, there's different qualities 0:17:21.960 --> 0:17:25.800 with foreigners versus Black Americans. Is that a deal breaker 0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:28.560 for you? Like, it's not a breaker man a black man, 0:17:29.000 --> 0:17:32.480 that's everything else that you described putting on for him. 0:17:32.480 --> 0:17:34.879 Oh no, absolutely, if he's if he's you know, if 0:17:34.920 --> 0:17:38.000 somebody that really really truly am liking digging re Vibe 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:46.520 embodies that list is a good list girl, So yeah, 0:17:47.080 --> 0:17:49.520 that can't be the worry off. The only thing I 0:17:49.520 --> 0:17:52.440 had a question about. I need that that's important because 0:17:52.640 --> 0:17:54.600 all those things that you say are important to me 0:17:54.640 --> 0:17:59.240 as well. However, sex is very it's very important. It 0:17:59.359 --> 0:18:01.359 is you know, that's not on this list, but it's 0:18:01.359 --> 0:18:05.520 definitely in my journal. Like okay, like, how are you 0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:07.439 going to know that right off the back. We're not 0:18:07.440 --> 0:18:09.080 gonna know none of that ship right off the bed. 0:18:09.119 --> 0:18:11.280 It's gonna take time to learn all that stuff. So 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:14.439 what about the part about supporting your mom and sister? 0:18:14.520 --> 0:18:18.000 What's that about? Because that's my only family, Like, I 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:20.800 don't have grandparents uncles, So when it comes down to 0:18:20.880 --> 0:18:24.040 like my family, family, that's all I got. So they 0:18:24.119 --> 0:18:26.200 have to be a part of the whole situation as well. 0:18:26.520 --> 0:18:30.600 About support, I sorry, support meaning like um, you know, 0:18:30.760 --> 0:18:33.920 making sure they're good, asking about them. So he gotta 0:18:33.920 --> 0:18:37.280 be their nigga too. No, not even those, but just 0:18:37.440 --> 0:18:39.359 he's got to know that because sometimes family is a 0:18:39.400 --> 0:18:42.520 reason why people don't work out too And so when 0:18:43.520 --> 0:18:47.240 when people have different sides and feelings about people's families, 0:18:47.560 --> 0:18:51.200 you know, like that canter marriages and relationships, and that's 0:18:51.200 --> 0:18:52.600 not going to be an option for me and my man, 0:18:52.680 --> 0:18:55.359 Like my family is your family and vice versa. Like 0:18:55.840 --> 0:18:59.280 I thought Nigerian's head like always had big families because 0:18:59.320 --> 0:19:03.919 everybody was tea and there y'all don't really be relating. Um, 0:19:03.960 --> 0:19:05.199 so I do have a big feeling. But a lot 0:19:05.200 --> 0:19:07.439 of my uncle's aunts are passed away. My dad had 0:19:07.520 --> 0:19:10.120 nine brothers and sisters, there's only like three of them left, 0:19:10.160 --> 0:19:12.520 three or four of them left. That's okay, No, but 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:14.800 most of them do come from big families, and yes, 0:19:14.840 --> 0:19:17.760 that is true. A lot of us, say Auntie cousin, 0:19:17.880 --> 0:19:21.399 just based off from the same tribe and we just 0:19:21.480 --> 0:19:24.880 really really the parents might be up at the same 0:19:24.920 --> 0:19:28.479 school together or something like that. Okay, so y'all learn something. 0:19:29.440 --> 0:19:32.560 Y'all want to hear my list? So hi, So how 0:19:32.560 --> 0:19:34.800 this list was compiled? Because you know, my little stock 0:19:34.840 --> 0:19:37.639 should I be doing? Tim one of the ladies on there, 0:19:37.680 --> 0:19:39.919 we were just talking on Zoom one day and I 0:19:40.000 --> 0:19:41.679 was telling her different stuff. She was like, you know, 0:19:41.760 --> 0:19:45.080 she's one of those I AM people like putting out 0:19:45.119 --> 0:19:48.080 in the universe. You're not trying either doing or you're 0:19:48.080 --> 0:19:51.199 not doing type people. So she compile the list for me, 0:19:51.280 --> 0:19:53.320 bitch while I was talking and then sent it to 0:19:53.400 --> 0:19:58.439 me on Instagram. So here's my list, and it starts 0:19:58.480 --> 0:20:03.200 with I now have a and that is mentally clear, spiritual, 0:20:03.640 --> 0:20:08.239 A choosy lover loves me for me, monogamous, good with 0:20:08.359 --> 0:20:11.480 his hands, fit, nice body, with a broad back. I 0:20:11.520 --> 0:20:14.480 love a black man's back. That's my favorite part. Of 0:20:14.520 --> 0:20:17.160 a black man. That's how I know God is real. 0:20:17.640 --> 0:20:21.760 Attractive to me between the ages of thirty five and fifty, 0:20:22.119 --> 0:20:28.359 can have kids between five and twenty. A dog, lover, grateful, secure, confident, 0:20:28.800 --> 0:20:36.760 reformed whore. Yes good, we're ship even though we're reformed 0:20:36.960 --> 0:20:39.879 hood nigga. I love those hood niggas who made it. 0:20:40.680 --> 0:20:45.520 Um A good provider, respectful, and a protector. That's that's 0:20:45.560 --> 0:20:55.399 my list? Is that a Yes, it's high maintenance. It 0:20:55.560 --> 0:20:57.680 was just like if we could have the perfect person, 0:20:58.000 --> 0:21:04.240 you have the perfect everybody's anny, you're gonna get you 0:21:05.200 --> 0:21:10.440 want to get, you'd be grateful to get. That's real, 0:21:10.600 --> 0:21:14.920 Are you right? No, that's fine. What if he got 0:21:14.960 --> 0:21:18.800 all that ship but a little back? First of all, 0:21:18.880 --> 0:21:23.800 I don't fun tadpoles or sperm, no, everything else, but 0:21:24.000 --> 0:21:26.919 his back ain't strong. You ain't gonna you're gonna talk, sorry, 0:21:27.680 --> 0:21:31.359 because if that if that strong, you know that know 0:21:31.680 --> 0:21:36.600 that's that's real. I believe my man coming is gonna happen. 0:21:37.040 --> 0:21:39.959 I believe so. He may not be everything on the list, 0:21:40.000 --> 0:21:42.480 but it's gonna be a majority. I think everything on 0:21:42.560 --> 0:21:46.200 your list is absolutely a trouble. Um. It's only long 0:21:46.280 --> 0:21:48.280 because you had the time to sit down and write 0:21:48.320 --> 0:21:51.680 it down. But you find out You're find out man. Yeah, 0:21:51.760 --> 0:21:54.720 I agree, but listen some of that your list though, 0:21:55.960 --> 0:22:01.480 persisted money, money, and did got to create a living. 0:22:02.160 --> 0:22:04.159 Money and dick. That's why you're gonna get what the 0:22:04.200 --> 0:22:07.880 fun you want because money and dick that's the top. 0:22:09.920 --> 0:22:13.639 Want other things like that. Okay, I need all right? 0:22:13.680 --> 0:22:16.280 So I would like a man who has some type 0:22:16.320 --> 0:22:19.440 of spirituality. He needs to have some type of relationship 0:22:19.520 --> 0:22:22.399 with God and be growing in that. He don't have 0:22:22.520 --> 0:22:25.200 to be on the quiet or nothing like that. You 0:22:25.320 --> 0:22:28.760 need to have something. I mean, he can't be I 0:22:28.840 --> 0:22:34.879 don't know. Do past the smoke weed? Imagine being the 0:22:34.920 --> 0:22:37.280 first lady you don't have to go to. I'd be 0:22:37.359 --> 0:22:38.880 the first lady of the church. No, it's a church 0:22:38.920 --> 0:22:41.000 in New Orleans where they smoke weed and they praise 0:22:41.040 --> 0:22:42.320 God while they smoke a weed. I could be the 0:22:42.359 --> 0:22:47.280 first lady there. How high make sense? My friends go 0:22:47.359 --> 0:22:51.040 to that church and maybe outside maybe songs and smoking. 0:22:51.359 --> 0:22:53.880 God did not Jesus and God whoever, he didn't say 0:22:53.920 --> 0:22:56.240 nothing about weed being bad. So I don't see why not. 0:22:58.600 --> 0:23:00.439 But most of the decaus I know, don't you smoking. 0:23:00.480 --> 0:23:02.840 They don't. They don't smoke at church, they definitely smoke 0:23:02.880 --> 0:23:07.480 at the house. A lot of money and sex definitely matters. 0:23:07.560 --> 0:23:09.359 That's why a lot of females are staying single because 0:23:09.400 --> 0:23:11.439 if they're not getting that, I don't need so if 0:23:11.480 --> 0:23:20.280 you you what else? I like some swag um, someone 0:23:20.320 --> 0:23:23.280 who's not too flashy. I hate a flashy if you 0:23:23.359 --> 0:23:26.600 got a seventeen chains around your neck too much, and 0:23:26.640 --> 0:23:29.840 that ship could all be real chunky ass bracelets up 0:23:30.000 --> 0:23:35.600 two watches. I would like niggers like that because yourself, Yeah, 0:23:36.359 --> 0:23:39.160 because it's kind of like that. I can't stand. I mean, 0:23:39.880 --> 0:23:42.159 be confident, but if you're too cocky with it. And 0:23:43.880 --> 0:23:45.720 I just feel like men who have on all that 0:23:45.840 --> 0:23:49.879 ship is sure making up for something they're lacking. Right, 0:23:50.320 --> 0:23:52.240 they can and you could tell like most of them 0:23:52.320 --> 0:23:56.120 ain't came from Like is this new to you? Most 0:23:56.119 --> 0:23:59.240 of us? If we had a party, why are you 0:23:59.320 --> 0:24:01.600 doing all that? If we had a party where it 0:24:01.760 --> 0:24:03.720 was like a no jewelry party, it would be no 0:24:03.880 --> 0:24:12.520 niggers dead like that. Say we've naked without his bracelet, 0:24:13.240 --> 0:24:15.959 my black asshole, I'm not going to No, No, we've party. Now, 0:24:22.840 --> 0:24:31.760 y'all go to head rocking the natural puffs I still have. 0:24:31.960 --> 0:24:35.720 I'll come with him, a we've that look natural. I'm 0:24:35.800 --> 0:24:40.840 like Samson now he is from the Bible. Men are 0:24:41.000 --> 0:24:44.400 getting so caught up in is the physical pants of females. 0:24:44.800 --> 0:24:46.280 If I can't have like if you want me to 0:24:46.359 --> 0:24:47.919 correct anything in my body, like I had a guy 0:24:48.000 --> 0:24:50.720 something the other day, like, only you had a tummy tuck, 0:24:50.760 --> 0:24:54.280 you put that all in your like you can put 0:24:54.280 --> 0:24:56.160