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Speaker 1: you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. All right, thank enough,

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Speaker 1: you subject a whole lot of give and take. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, I'm a twenty eight year old female and

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Speaker 1: I was dating a man for three years and we

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Speaker 1: broke up after Valentine's Day because he found out I

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Speaker 1: went to dinner with an old male friend. It wasn't

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Speaker 1: like I was hiding anything, but I didn't tell him

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Speaker 1: because I didn't want to ruin our Valentine's Day. He

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Speaker 1: gave me a diamond necklace and a set of expensive luggage. Later,

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Speaker 1: his sister told me he was going to take me

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Speaker 1: up since I chose to be a cheater. I assured

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Speaker 1: her and my boyfriend that it was a simple dinner

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Speaker 1: with an old friend who was happily married. I think

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Speaker 1: it was his sister that snitched on me. My soon

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Speaker 1: to be fiance told me that he's glad he found

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Speaker 1: out about me before he proposed to me. I thought

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Speaker 1: that was extreme, but then things got worse and I

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Speaker 1: realized how lucky I was for getting dumped. This man

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Speaker 1: came to my house to gather up every gift he

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Speaker 1: over for reinforcement. In the end, he left with a

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Speaker 1: the necklace back and to get his name off our lease.

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Speaker 1: He knew that I could not afford the apartment on

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Speaker 1: my salary, so that was pure evil. He looked me

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Speaker 1: in my eyes in court and said he does not

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Speaker 1: love me anymore. I couldn't believe what was happening. My

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Speaker 1: and I have tried to move on and date again,

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Speaker 1: but recently my ex popped up at my apartment, apologizing

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Speaker 1: and crying. My old feelings for him came rushing back

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Speaker 1: and we made love that night. Seems like he's truly sorry.

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Speaker 1: Should I give him a second chance or see if

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Speaker 1: he's changed? Please advise? Well, you know I love a

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Speaker 1: diamond necklace and an expensive set of luggage just as

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Speaker 1: much as the next person. I'm not gonna lie about that.

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Speaker 1: But give him a second chance to do what hurt

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Speaker 1: you again, humiliate you again. I mean, you know you

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Speaker 1: cannot You have to know this. I know you're only

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Speaker 1: twenty eight, but you cannot tell if someone's changed just

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Speaker 1: because you slept with them for one night and it

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Speaker 1: was good and you all were all lovey dubby, and

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Speaker 1: you know, a one time crying an apologizing incident that

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Speaker 1: certainly does improve anything. What does that prove? And let's

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Speaker 1: be clear, let's be clear on this. It's not that

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Speaker 1: I don't believe in second chances, because I do. It's

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Speaker 1: just that you can't be so quick to forgive him

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Speaker 1: because of how he treated you. I mean, you got

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Speaker 1: to remember that he tried to get you out of

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Speaker 1: to get his things. He wanted to get his diamond

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Speaker 1: necklace back. You cannot give in so easily. I mean,

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Speaker 1: right now, it's just words that he's saying. You have

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Speaker 1: to pay attention to his actions, and you have to

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Speaker 1: do this over time, not just one time. So if

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Speaker 1: I mean, he was really nasty to you. You have

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Speaker 1: to think with your head, not with your heart. In

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Speaker 1: He took you to court, he did all of those things.

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Speaker 1: What what letter did you read? My lord? A whole

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Speaker 1: just glazed over what this woman did. Now, it's all

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Speaker 1: if I'm having a married what is I'm doing? A valatar?

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Speaker 1: Didn't want another wal wil No, no, Shirley, I disagree

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Speaker 1: with everything you said in this letter. Lord, have mercy.

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Speaker 1: Let me harry up. And maybe maybe you misleave, maybe

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Speaker 1: you blacked out. I forgive it. Yes you did. This

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Speaker 1: So now letting me if his sister didn't tell him,

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Speaker 1: so that make it right. You gotta be consistent. You

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Speaker 1: This twenty eight year old woman that wrote this letter says,

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Speaker 1: I'm dating a man for three years and we broke

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Speaker 1: to dinner with an old male friend. And what was

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Speaker 1: like I was hading anything. Now watch this. It wasn't

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Speaker 1: like I was hiding anything. But I didn't tell him.

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to ruin our Valentine's Day. He gave

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Speaker 1: up since I chose to be a cheetah. What the

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Speaker 1: hell you want this man to do? She bought all

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Speaker 1: this on herself. When we come back, I'm gonna try

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Speaker 1: to calm this, explain the rest of this letter. Day.

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Speaker 1: part two of Steve's response at twenty three minutes after

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Speaker 1: the hour. The subject of today's strawberry letter a whole

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Speaker 1: lot of give and take. Give me the money. Come

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Speaker 1: right back. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter of the

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Speaker 1: subject a whole lot of give and take. My response,

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Speaker 1: I've decided to calm down a little bit. It's in

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Speaker 1: direct response Shirley's reading of the letter. She told the

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Speaker 1: girl to be careful. You can't trust help. He did

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Speaker 1: you wrong. Shirley ignored the fact that This woman, twenty

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Speaker 1: know what she did? She mad because she'd been dating

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Speaker 1: It wasn't like I was hiding anything, she said, But

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Speaker 1: The woman says, up front, I am a cheater. His

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Speaker 1: messed all that up since I chposed to be a Cheatah.

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Speaker 1: This is the woman talking, Shirley. This is called sister Shirley.

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Speaker 1: This is called reading comprehension. It's called comprehension. Somebody Joe asked,

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Speaker 1: posed to know something about it. I do, Shirley. I

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Speaker 1: happened to be an expert storyteller, and I tell stories

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Speaker 1: for a living, and I know how to follow a story.

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Speaker 1: If I can do that. You have obviously missed this information.

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Speaker 1: Please admit that because the woman says I chose to

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Speaker 1: to be a cheating His sister ain't cheat, lady. She

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Speaker 1: and chose to become a Cheatah. I assured her, talking

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Speaker 1: said I chose to be a Cheatah. I with an

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Speaker 1: I assured her. My boyfriend it was a simple dinner

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Speaker 1: This man came to my house to gather up every

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Speaker 1: He ain't got to do all that, but he wanted

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Speaker 1: He wrote all this back. You're sitting up eating with

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Speaker 1: cheating with your appy was a simple ass dinner. We're

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Speaker 1: she needed to be killed, took her to court. Really,

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Speaker 1: She don't even know how to man found out. She

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