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Speaker 2: Lesha is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named James.
Speaker 2: So in a second, we're going to call him and
Speaker 2: see if I'll tell us why he's a ghostinger and
Speaker 2: maybe get her another date. But first, Lesia, how long
Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from James.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's been about a week.
Speaker 4: And then how many times have you reached out to
Speaker 4: him in that time?
Speaker 3: Yeah, like kind of a bunch.
Speaker 5: I was, uh, you know, I was texting a bunch.
Speaker 3: You know, we had a great connection and you know,
Speaker 3: you know, I was we were trying to get together
Speaker 3: and you know, I texted a few times and you know,
Speaker 3: we had a plan. He canceled. We felt like he
Speaker 3: needed the weekend to recover. I offered to make him soup,
Speaker 3: which he declined, and I, you know, and then after that,
Speaker 3: I texted him a couple of times. You know, he's
Speaker 3: feeling and like nothing.
Speaker 4: So did your date happen or this was after the date?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 3: Well, well we had a first date, okay, okay, but
Speaker 3: then after that nothing.
Speaker 6: Happened, Okay, Well, tell us about the date.
Speaker 3: Well, we met Unhinge first of all, and like we
Speaker 3: talked a little bit, and we wanted to go out
Speaker 3: because we both like really.
Speaker 5: Like food and travel and stuff.
Speaker 3: And he's in a band and I used to sing
Speaker 3: in a band, so we had like a lot of
Speaker 3: great connections. And so we met for cocktails and we
Speaker 3: like bounced around and got tacos and ended up at
Speaker 3: this like karaoke place, which was really fun. After karaoke,
Speaker 3: we went back to his place and we were hanging
Speaker 3: out and like cuddling and stuff. But we didn't look up,
Speaker 3: but there was like a lot of like affection myself.
Speaker 3: And in the morning we kissed and like we planned
Speaker 3: on seeing each other again like the next weekend. So
Speaker 3: that was the date.
Speaker 2: Is there anything that happened on the date that could
Speaker 2: have been awkward or something that would cause him to
Speaker 2: not want to talk to you again?
Speaker 3: So I talked this over a bit, and I think
Speaker 3: there might have been which I like won't apologize for,
Speaker 3: and like I've been feeling bad about it. So like
Speaker 3: when we were like hanging out and cuddling, he like
Speaker 3: pulled down his phone to play me like a rough
Speaker 3: edit of his band's new song, and I was excited
Speaker 3: to hear it. I was glad he wanted to share
Speaker 3: it with me, And you know, because I was on
Speaker 3: the music background, I didn't feel like I knew to
Speaker 3: hold back what I thought, you know, So I mean
Speaker 3: I told him, I was like, I think this is
Speaker 3: like a great idea for a song. I said, like
Speaker 3: some of the lyrics were a little cheesy, and you know,
Speaker 3: his voice was a little picky and certain points, and
Speaker 3: like one of the lyrics in particular was like about
Speaker 3: her love being like a sugar rush eating a box
Speaker 3: of Krispy cream or something.
Speaker 4: Okay, I like laughed at that, and.
Speaker 3: Then I guess like asking him if I made him
Speaker 3: feel like he was eating a box of Krispy cream.
Speaker 3: And I thought I was being funny, like I was joking,
Speaker 3: and like I.
Speaker 5: Think I may have crushed him.
Speaker 3: I don't know, maybe I took it too far.
Speaker 5: So I feel like he's.
Speaker 6: Apologize making fun.
Speaker 3: Of Yeah, but I mean it sounds like.
Speaker 4: You were being more playful. Yeah.
Speaker 3: No, I was just saying, like that's how I felt,
Speaker 3: like that's what.
Speaker 5: The intention was.
Speaker 1: Ju will you are doing music now? Too, So like,
Speaker 1: think about this scenario. Wouldn't it be just kind of cute,
Speaker 1: Like you're not are you going to be offended?
Speaker 6: No, I wouldn't be.
Speaker 2: I'm also a super harsh critic on myself, so I'd
Speaker 2: be like, you're right, the whole thing is craft. I'll
Speaker 2: throw it out, you're my call over it, I quit
Speaker 2: it all. So I would just totally be like, yeah,
Speaker 2: thanks for the honest feedback I saw.
Speaker 1: That would also be a major turnoff problem. Also, Okay,
Speaker 1: so maybe maybe he was a little but hurt. Maybe,
Speaker 1: I mean.
Speaker 3: It might be. So I feel like, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I feel like we need to get him on the phone,
Speaker 3: Like you need to get a third party and to
Speaker 3: get him on the phone phone because he's just ghosting
Speaker 3: me so like and I just want to apologize.
Speaker 6: Well, we'll try to figure it out for you.
Speaker 2: We'll play a song and we'll come back, and then
Speaker 2: we'll call him and see if it tell us why
Speaker 2: he's ghosting you and maybe get you another date with
Speaker 2: Krispy Kreme Boy.
Speaker 6: Okay, all right, should we not call him Krispy Creme Boy?
Speaker 4: Disappear?
Speaker 6: All right? Well, pleas I'll come back. Get your first
Speaker 6: a follow up next.
Speaker 2: Right in the middle of our first date follow up
Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Lesha is on the phone
Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a guy named James. So
Speaker 2: we're about to call him and see if you'll tell
Speaker 2: us why is ghostinger and maybe get her another date.
Speaker 6: But first, Lisha, why don't you catch us up on
Speaker 6: your situation?
Speaker 3: Yeah, so, I when I a date with this guy James,
Speaker 3: it like went really well. We had cocktailed and tacos,
Speaker 3: and we had karaoke and all this stuff, and you know,
Speaker 3: we bonded because he's in a band and I used
Speaker 3: to sing in a band, and you know, we have
Speaker 3: a lot of common interests. And I feel like and
Speaker 3: he hasn't tested me back in a week, so and
Speaker 3: I feel like something might have gone wrong the night
Speaker 3: we were on the date. I feel like I might
Speaker 3: have kind of heard his feelings making fun of one
Speaker 3: of his lyrics which involves Christy, which I kept springing up. No,
Speaker 3: I don't know. I feel like I might have.
Speaker 5: Sent him and I need to apologize. And also he's
Speaker 5: ghosting me.
Speaker 3: So that's where we are, all.
Speaker 6: Right, are you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 5: Sure?
Speaker 2: Okay, here we go Hello him, I speaking to James. Please, yeah,
Speaker 2: speaking James.
Speaker 6: How are you?
Speaker 3: Man?
Speaker 6: My name is Jubell. I'm calling from a radio show.
Speaker 6: It's called the Jebel Show.
Speaker 4: Hi, James. I'm Nina also on the show.
Speaker 6: Hi, and I'm Victoria. How are you?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 7: Cool, wonderful. I'm doing good man, I'm getting ready calls
Speaker 7: on radio?
Speaker 5: But what's up?
Speaker 6: Have you ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Yeah, okay, thank you? Yeah. Have you ever heard of
Speaker 6: first date follow up before?
Speaker 5: Oh? Yeah, yeah I have? This? Is this one of
Speaker 5: these things?
Speaker 6: First day follow up?
Speaker 2: You know that's a segment where if you're ghosting somebody,
Speaker 2: they can email us and then ask us to call
Speaker 2: you and ask why you're ghosting them. Somebody tolled us
Speaker 2: about you, James, Oh boy, any idea?
Speaker 6: Who would be?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 7: Maybe someone I met someone online, like a little more
Speaker 7: than a week ago.
Speaker 6: Is that someone's name? Lisha?
Speaker 5: Yeah? Yeah, Lisha?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah yeah. Well Lisia emailed us and told us
Speaker 2: about your day. She said she really liked you, but
Speaker 2: she's confused. Can you tell us why you're ghostinger?
Speaker 7: I really liked her, but man, she's too much. She
Speaker 7: texted me on Saturday, to ask about. Well, first of all,
Speaker 7: I got sick, right, so, like I got sick a
Speaker 7: little bit afterwards, but not the runa nothing, But like,
Speaker 7: you know, she texted me on Saturday to ask me
Speaker 7: about soup.
Speaker 5: And then again to tell me good night, and.
Speaker 7: Then text me a list of vitamins I should be taking.
Speaker 4: Because you were sick.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, it was like it was like.
Speaker 7: A trip or a DoorDash GNC, you know, the whole
Speaker 7: bag fall.
Speaker 5: And then like not soon after asking if I missed her.
Speaker 7: This this whole thing about like if I wanted Krispy Kremes,
Speaker 7: Like asking if I wanted Krispy Kreme.
Speaker 5: It's a it's a joke about some stupid lyric.
Speaker 7: I made, and and and I mean just more text
Speaker 7: on and on and on.
Speaker 5: I'm not even giving you all.
Speaker 4: That was one day. That happened all on the same day.
Speaker 7: Yeah, and this is someone I had just talked to online.
Speaker 5: They came over, we cuddled, I mean, the sweet it
Speaker 5: was great, you know, don't get me wrong.
Speaker 7: But after all this just piling on and just happening
Speaker 7: so soon I just stopped responding because like I needed
Speaker 7: to rest and I wake up, and it was like,
Speaker 7: I mean, I lose like twelve text messages from her.
Speaker 5: I don't respond, but I get even more the next day.
Speaker 7: Eventually, I just I just block her because I feel
Speaker 7: like that kind of energy I felt it gives me
Speaker 7: a lot of anxiety, like and I'm gonna go with
Speaker 7: the flow kind of. And when I just kissed raw Raw,
Speaker 7: it's like, first off, it doesn't know, we feel better,
Speaker 7: but then it's like this is someone I just met.
Speaker 7: Sweet girl. I mean, she came over, it was great,
Speaker 7: the day was amazing, Karaoke was fun, and yeah, like
Speaker 7: we talked that it was going to turn into something.
Speaker 7: But then the text, just the messaging, well it was
Speaker 7: just nah, nah, it was just a note going.
Speaker 1: I mean, it sounds like she was just concerned because
Speaker 1: you were sick. Now, granted, twelve and maybe twenty four
Speaker 1: text messages might be a lot in two days, but
Speaker 1: the initial reached out probably was kind of nice.
Speaker 4: Though.
Speaker 7: No, I mean, I get it, she's very sweet, but
Speaker 7: is this someone I just started talking to online and
Speaker 7: it just started giving me the vibe that this is
Speaker 7: the kind of person that's going to give me a.
Speaker 5: Whole lot of anxiety. I don't okay, I just wanted peace.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, speaking of peace, James, I will let you
Speaker 2: know that Lisa's actually on the phone listing and wants
Speaker 2: to talk to you.
Speaker 3: H oh hih Arisha do a problem getting close to people.
Speaker 3: But do you know how to ask when someone cares
Speaker 3: about you? Like I was just trying to show you
Speaker 3: that I cared and I'm like actually a good caretaker
Speaker 3: in like times like this.
Speaker 7: I get it, but it's just we just had one
Speaker 7: date after a little bit of online conversation, and I
Speaker 7: just feel, well, you're sweet, wonderful, but I just feel
Speaker 7: that we're nowhere close to the come over and make
Speaker 7: me soup stage of this relationship.
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, you said on your hind that you wanted
Speaker 3: to be intentional about the time we spend together and
Speaker 3: to prioritize the growth, and I feel like I was
Speaker 3: doing that. So I don't know what there is about
Speaker 3: this that you don't you wouldn't like, can.
Speaker 7: We go further than or can we have a relationship first?
Speaker 7: Can we like have some other there's there's steps to.
Speaker 3: This before Okay, wait wait, I'm not ready to in
Speaker 3: a relationship with you.
Speaker 7: Oh look, that's that's that's not what I said. Okay,
Speaker 7: that's that's not what I said. It's I feel there's
Speaker 7: a little miscommunication here.
Speaker 3: Well, I mean I'm not well, you just mentioned wanting
Speaker 3: to have a relationship first, Like you talk about me
Speaker 3: texting a lot, and you're already talking about a relationship.
Speaker 3: So I don't know what the problem is with my
Speaker 3: texting when you're like, I want a relationship right now? What.
Speaker 5: No, I'm not I'm not saying right now.
Speaker 7: It's just that I just don't want to jump into
Speaker 7: things that just lead to anxiety. And just like already
Speaker 7: we're checking each other's mental health. Like I'm just trying
Speaker 7: to just go go with the vibe that we had
Speaker 7: that was that was real good. It just felt like
Speaker 7: this was this was just in a different place, and
Speaker 7: I was just like I don't want to grow with this.
Speaker 3: You are living way too fast, James.
Speaker 7: Look, I just I just I'm I'm all for like
Speaker 7: all those texts in the soup, but I just feel
Speaker 7: that there's there's just a sequence to it that just
Speaker 7: you know, rocks my boat a certain way. And like
Speaker 7: I'm sorry for for miscommunicating or or like you know,
Speaker 7: just going outside the vibe that we had, and I
Speaker 7: just feel I just feel like we want the wrong
Speaker 7: direction with that.
Speaker 2: Well, James, would you like another date with Lisa? We'll
Speaker 2: pay for it, James, I just so.
Speaker 3: You know, I will go on another date with you,
Speaker 3: But I just want to let you know, like I'm
Speaker 3: not gonna get together with you right now, just so
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 7: So, like I said, I'm not interested in rushing into
Speaker 7: getting together right now. I'm sorry about the miscommunication, but
Speaker 7: I'm willing to give this another go, just as long
Speaker 7: as you don't mention the Krispy Kremes.
Speaker 3: Okay, but we're not going to be like dating yet,
Speaker 3: Like this is just a date date, not like a
Speaker 3: dating date.
Speaker 5: Look, don't worry, I'm not trying to wipe you up.
Speaker 5: Yeah wait a minute, you want.
Speaker 2: To wipe me up like that?
Speaker 5: Hold on, why are we jumping to marriage?
Speaker 2: I don't think James wants to marry you yet. I
Speaker 2: think you guys should just go out one more day
Speaker 2: and see how it goes.
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