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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocatesla dot com. Jenna is on the phone

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Speaker 1: today for a first date follow up and she's getting

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Speaker 1: ghosted by a dude that she really liked. His name

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Speaker 1: is Nico. We'll call him in a few minutes and

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Speaker 1: see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting or maybe

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Speaker 1: get on another date. But first, Jenna, how long has

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Speaker 1: it been since you heard from Nico.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's been about five days since our date officially.

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Speaker 3: So what was your last interaction with him?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Well, we well, first I met him at this party

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Speaker 2: at a friends party, and I saw him across.

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Speaker 4: The room and it was just like.

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Speaker 3: Sparked, like it was he was like.

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Speaker 2: The hotted guy I'd seen in a minute and like

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Speaker 2: and I guess she kind of felt the same way

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Speaker 2: about me, because we spent pretty much the entire party

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Speaker 2: talking and.

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Speaker 4: Like to the point where everyone's like, okay, everyone has

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Speaker 4: to go home.

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Speaker 2: And so we decided to go on a date since

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Speaker 2: we were having such a good time, and he took

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Speaker 2: me to this restaurant which is his favorite, and it

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Speaker 2: was a Greek.

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Speaker 1: Restaurant and he was the same night as the party

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Speaker 1: or a different different night.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it was.

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Speaker 2: We made plans to go on a date and so yeah,

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Speaker 2: so he found this restaurant, but apparently he already knows

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Speaker 2: the restaurant because he knows the owner. And so we

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Speaker 2: got like the VIP treatment and he kept calling me,

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Speaker 2: he kept joking calling me his wifey, which like I'm

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Speaker 2: not taking.

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Speaker 4: Too seriously, but it was just like, okay, well he's

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Speaker 4: like he gets that, like this is a pretty cool

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Speaker 4: connection that we have.

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Speaker 2: And so like he was telling about his childhood and

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Speaker 2: like how connected he feels with his culture and like

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Speaker 2: how he never really knew his dad and his.

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Speaker 4: Dad's tide creak. So uh so as a way of

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Speaker 4: like trying.

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Speaker 2: To get to know him better, he really dove into

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Speaker 2: Greek culture and like, I don't know it just I

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Speaker 2: just really loved how vulnerable he was being on this

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Speaker 2: first date. And you know, like I said, he was

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Speaker 2: getting the VIP VIP treatment, so you know that the

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Speaker 2: uzza was flowing, like we were dancing and yeah, and

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Speaker 2: so afterwards I went back to his place and we

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Speaker 2: hooked up. And so yeah, then two days since I

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Speaker 2: texted him last, and like five days total.

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Speaker 4: Since that date.

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Speaker 3: What did you say in the text?

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Speaker 4: I don't know, because like, buz, you know, it was

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Speaker 4: just such a good date.

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Speaker 2: And it was just like I texted him and saying

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Speaker 2: like how how good of a time I had, and

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Speaker 2: how I kept replaying it over and over and he

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Speaker 2: responded with, you know, a hard eye emoji.

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Speaker 4: And then I didn't hear anything for like two days.

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Speaker 2: So I texted him again asking him when we were

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Speaker 2: going to go out, and I haven't heard anything.

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Speaker 4: So now I'm just like, what happened?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, even since she was a hearty eye emoji and

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Speaker 1: then nothing.

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Speaker 3: And it was calling you white right, But it.

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Speaker 2: Was just like, I mean, I wasn't I mean, I'm

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Speaker 2: not reading into it too much, but it was just like, yeah.

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Speaker 4: This is going great.

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Speaker 1: Is there anything you can think of that could possibly

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Speaker 1: be a reason that he wanted to would want to

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Speaker 1: go sto?

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Speaker 4: Well, since I've been over analyzing this over and over.

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Speaker 2: At one point he did ask me what my three

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Speaker 2: favorite things in my purse were, and so I said,

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Speaker 2: lip gloss, gum, and uh Anti bacterial gel. He said

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Speaker 2: that you got any thinks that he finds it really

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Speaker 2: unattractive when women shoe gum and so I was like, okay,

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Speaker 2: Roger not did Okay, Okay. If that's if that's like

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Speaker 2: your one red flag, I can deal with that.

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Speaker 4: So so I didn't choot gum at all when I

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Speaker 4: was with him, But I don't know. Maybe he was

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Speaker 4: just maybe he just hated the fact that I had

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Speaker 4: it at all. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if that's If that's the reason he's

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Speaker 1: not calling you back, that would be ridiculous, ridiculous, and

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Speaker 1: that would be a flag on your Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Well that's I'm calling you, guys. I don't understand what happened.

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Speaker 1: Well, we'll figure it out. We'll play a song come back,

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Speaker 1: and then call him and see if you tell us

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Speaker 1: why is ghosting you and maybe get you another day

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Speaker 1: of Okay, cool, thanks, all right, place, I come back,

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Speaker 1: Get your first DA follow up?

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Speaker 5: Next?

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Speaker 3: Friends, what of your first day follow up?

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Speaker 1: If you're just joining us at Jenna is on the

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Speaker 1: phone and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Nico.

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Speaker 1: So we're about to call him and see if you'll

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Speaker 1: tell us why he's a ghostinger. But before we do that, Jenna,

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Speaker 1: why don't you refresh everybody's memory on your situation.

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Speaker 2: I met Nico at a party and we really hit

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Speaker 2: it off, so we decided to go out on a date.

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Speaker 4: And it was to this awesome Greek restaurant.

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Speaker 2: Why he knew the owners, and we had a great

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Speaker 2: time and you've been joke, even joking calling me blafey,

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Speaker 2: and we ended up hooking up. And now I haven't

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Speaker 2: heard from him, and I don't.

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Speaker 4: Know if it's because I have.

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Speaker 2: I said I loved gum, but I decided not to

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Speaker 2: chew it when I was around him, so I don't.

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Speaker 4: I just don't know what happened.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we'll see if that is it. We're gonna call

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Speaker 1: him right now.

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Speaker 5: Are you ready?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: All right, here we go.

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Speaker 5: Cool.

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Speaker 3: Hey is this Nico?

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Speaker 1: Yes, Nico was something?

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Speaker 5: How are you?

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Speaker 1: My name is Jewbell from a radio show. It's called

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Speaker 1: The Jewbel Show.

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Speaker 3: Hi, Nico, whole show's here. My name is Nina, Hi,

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Speaker 3: and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 1: How are you?

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Speaker 5: Hi? Am good?

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Speaker 3: What is it?

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Speaker 4: What is it about?

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 1: Have you ever listened to the show before at all?

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Speaker 5: I believe I have. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: We do a segment on our show that's called the

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Speaker 1: first eight follow Up. That's where if you go out

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Speaker 1: on a date with somebody and then you end up

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Speaker 1: ghosting them. They can email us to get you on

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Speaker 1: the phone and ask why you're ghosting them. So we

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Speaker 1: got an email about you from somebody that you went

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Speaker 1: out with recently. Okay, her name is Jenna right, and

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Speaker 1: Jenna wants to know why you ghosting her.

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Speaker 5: I just I just think it didn't didn't work out.

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Speaker 5: I don't think it's a good long term matchup with Jenna.

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Speaker 3: Why do you say that?

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Speaker 5: I mean, it's kind of like.

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Speaker 4: I am maybe embarrassing.

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Speaker 5: I don't want to be rude to or anything, but

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Speaker 5: I don't know. It's just kind of smelly.

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Speaker 1: For me, say smelly.

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Speaker 5: You know, it's just a bad breath. Man Like she

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Speaker 5: had bad breath. I could you know. I could deal

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Speaker 5: with it for a night, but future wifey material can't

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Speaker 5: be smelly, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 4: Excuse I think, are you kidding me?

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Speaker 5: You and me.

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Speaker 4: Eating garlic dip all night. I'm not a wizard. I

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Speaker 4: can't not make my breast all beat after eating a

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Speaker 4: bunch of garlic.

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Speaker 1: And you go, that's she's on the phone and listening

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Speaker 1: and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 4: I got that I had garlic breath, are you not?

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Speaker 4: I just didn't you told me him like gum chewing.

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Speaker 4: I would have I would have had if.

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Speaker 5: You, oh yo yo, come down. That was that was

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Speaker 5: like darlic mixed, was mixed with like a trash cand

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Speaker 5: like would have been.

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Speaker 2: No way, no guy, No one has ever told me,

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Speaker 2: I think before this is the ass, no way, like

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Speaker 2: whatever this is, this is, this is, this is the

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Speaker 2: I can't no ways.

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Speaker 5: Yes, it's not like a funeral home in there going on, like.

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Speaker 2: It's not able to sell anything over that mountain of coloney.

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Speaker 2: Dout yourself in beforehand you've worked.

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Speaker 5: On you didn't.

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Speaker 2: It nice, really charming relation, freshing up that breath and

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Speaker 2: get you some Colgate? Well, if you weren't such a weirdo,

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Speaker 2: it didn't allow you gum then I thought it last.

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Speaker 5: I don't think you should be. I mean, if you

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Speaker 5: need to chew gum because your breath is that bad,

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Speaker 5: you've got bigger issues. You know, you got to see

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Speaker 5: a professional.

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Speaker 1: You you hooked up with her too, Like if it

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Speaker 1: was so bad, how did you get through that?

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Speaker 5: I mean, like I said, one night, it was you know,

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Speaker 5: I dealt with it, you know, I closed the deal.

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Speaker 5: But yeah, I don't think it's the only thing. I'm sorry,

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Speaker 5: just being real.

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Speaker 3: Jenna, you're dodging bullets.

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Speaker 4: Man, this can't really be the reason. What else? What

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Speaker 4: else happened? Why else? It can't because it can't be

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Speaker 4: my braath, It can't. That isn't what it is? What else?

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Speaker 4: What else happened? What else? Aren't you not telling me?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 5: Girls, you're braud well, like a like a locker room

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Speaker 5: in there, like I don't know what, like like I

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Speaker 5: don't know what, like a gym stock, like you had

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Speaker 5: a gym stock in your mouth. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I'm hit a shock.

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Speaker 6: But like if it was chronic what you have noticed

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Speaker 6: that the first night you were talking to her, So

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Speaker 6: if she had garlic mixed with whatever else she ate

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Speaker 6: that night, like that could be a side effect of that,

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Speaker 6: which would mean that next time that wouldn't be an issue.

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Speaker 5: No, it was an issue. It was always an issue.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 5: I need somebody who can eat garlic and not and

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Speaker 5: not smell like a foot even if it was garlic.

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Speaker 3: Who is carlican doesn't smell like a scarlet.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't even know how you were able to taste

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Speaker 2: the gar like every time I opened my mouth, I

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Speaker 2: would just get wasked or whatever bad cologne that your grandpa.

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Speaker 4: Has expired from his shelf.

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Speaker 2: Those things expire, buddy, You're not supposed to be wearing.

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Speaker 4: Cologne for fifty years. You should be getting a new

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Speaker 4: model by now is worth. It doesn't matter.

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Speaker 2: I'm not interest shit on going out with your broke anyway.

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Speaker 5: Broke? How am I broke?

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Speaker 2: I don't know. Maybe you had to take me to

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Speaker 2: your friend's restaurant so that they could hook us up

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Speaker 2: because you can't pay.

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Speaker 4: For a normal meal on your own.

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Speaker 1: I still have to ask the question, Nico, would you

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Speaker 1: like to go out with Jenna again on another date?

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Speaker 1: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 5: No, I'd rather date someone who doesn't smell like there's

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Speaker 5: a toilet in her mouth.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, was this harsh?

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Speaker 4: That's fine with me. I'd rather go on a date

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Speaker 4: with someone I didn't have to fake it with.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 4: Juble's first date follow up