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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is John, your og Okay

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Speaker 2: My mom revealed that she hates my girlfriend right after

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Speaker 2: I started ring shopping.

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Speaker 1: Not the most opportune time say that earlier. I guess

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Speaker 1: we're not at all.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So, my girlfriend and I, twenty four male, have

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Speaker 2: been together for five and a half years. We're getting

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Speaker 2: ready to graduate professional school and finally join all of

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Speaker 2: our friends in the work and world. I feel like

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Speaker 2: it's the right time ask her to marry me. A

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Speaker 2: few weeks back, I told my parents this and they

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Speaker 2: expressed excitement. By the way, this comes from throw Away

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Speaker 2: five seven two, six' four nine to Seven and if

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Speaker 2: r Slash okay Story time zubrette and send it. In

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Speaker 2: fast forward to this, morning when my girlfriend was sitting

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Speaker 2: on my parents' couch and asked IF i could refill

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Speaker 2: her coffee AS i was already heading into the. Kitchen

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Speaker 2: my mom, says you know you can say no right

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Speaker 2: in an incredibly rude. Manner i'm flabberg acid AND i

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Speaker 2: can tell that my girlfriend is. Too she has never

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Speaker 2: once been rude to her and has always come across

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Speaker 2: as sweet and.

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Speaker 1: Welcoming, well maybe she realizes now like they're coming to the.

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Speaker 1: Gates they're storming the. Gates it's about to be. Cemented

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Speaker 1: there's no turning. Back she's, like all, RIGHT i gotta

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Speaker 1: get this this girl That i've been hating for all

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Speaker 1: this time out of my son's.

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Speaker 3: Face it's fine when they're like over on the across the.

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Speaker 1: Hills now they're at the castle, gates trying to barge

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Speaker 1: on in and steal your little, boy your prize, possessions

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Speaker 1: your family, jewel.

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Speaker 2: Tie down the. Walls NOW i let her all off my,

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Speaker 2: shoulder maybe thinking that she was just having a bad.

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Speaker 2: Day my mom was looking over some plans that she

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Speaker 2: has for a new house renovation and asked if she

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Speaker 2: had shown my girlfriend the new tabletop that she had picked,

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Speaker 2: out which was a very cool wood slab THAT i

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Speaker 2: know my girlfriend would. Love she, snaps, oh she's not

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Speaker 2: interested in. That my girlfriend responds that she'd love to see,

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Speaker 2: it and after a, sigh my mom begrudgingly shows her these.

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Speaker 2: Plans my girlfriend picks up the hint to that apparently

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Speaker 2: she isn't welcome, anymore and gets in a hurry to.

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Speaker 2: Leave she has to say an awkward go, bye made

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Speaker 2: worse by my mother being cold and acting like she

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Speaker 2: isn't interested in giving her the normal goodbye hug that

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Speaker 2: she usually. Does my girlfriend is even more uncomfortable and

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Speaker 2: rushes through saying goodbye to me right. Before we won't

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Speaker 2: see each other for the next five. Weeks we already

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Speaker 2: attend different schools an hour, apart and she has a

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Speaker 2: month long internship twelve hours away starting next.

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Speaker 3: Week my, goodness that's.

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Speaker 2: Distance so my dad fifty eight male leaves AND i

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Speaker 2: kind of cornered my mom and confronted her about her.

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Speaker 2: Behavior it's, like what are you doing? Here why are

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Speaker 2: you doing?

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Speaker 1: This and it's a switch, up, like, YEAH i think

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Speaker 1: you've been great for so many. Years now suddenly that

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Speaker 1: we're getting, married we're going ape epe, bananas what's the?

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Speaker 2: Dill what's the? Dill and saying that she's never acted

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Speaker 2: like this, before and that she had expressed excitement that

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Speaker 2: my girlfriend will be joining our family in not too

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Speaker 2: long so what? Gives my mom proceeds to tell me

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Speaker 2: that she feels like my girlfriend is incredibly jealous and

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Speaker 2: tries to alienate me for my. Friends her evidence is

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Speaker 2: THAT i no longer spend time with these two Girls

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Speaker 2: i've known since elementary.

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Speaker 1: School do these elementary school girls still want?

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Speaker 2: You that's the? Question WHO i reconnected with in. College,

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Speaker 2: also a couple of years, ago we went to a

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Speaker 2: party Where I'm my cousin and his friend were also,

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Speaker 2: there AND i said that it would be awkward IF

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Speaker 2: i just walked into their. Group re the. Cousin he

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Speaker 2: AND i are on good, terms talk whenever we see each,

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Speaker 2: other and just made plans to hang out. Soon his

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Speaker 2: friends not so. Much very different group with very different

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Speaker 2: when we went to the same high school. Together on

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Speaker 2: the other girls more than likely the real reason she's.

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Speaker 2: Upset i've known them, forever went through first through eighth

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Speaker 3: Them our moms are close.

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Speaker 2: the same university WHERE i met my girlfriend and hung

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Speaker 2: out pretty frequently for a. While since, graduating we've grown

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Speaker 2: until we went to a mutual a college friend's wedding last.

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Speaker 2: Night we were, friendly hugged and said it's been too.

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Speaker 2: Long caught up the whole nine yards my girlfriend was

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Speaker 2: regarding the. Grudge so for my twenty first, birthday my

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Speaker 2: girlfriend organized a big party and offered to be the

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Speaker 2: designated driver to. Everyone she hadn't even turned twenty one

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Speaker 2: yet and all that great. Stuff she made me some

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Speaker 2: neat wall, arts and since we were just a couple

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Speaker 2: of broke college, kids the girls in question were invited

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Speaker 2: and gave me a huge partionalized adult soda pong table

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Speaker 2: that they worked on together and their dad. Mate, wow

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Speaker 2: that's a Pretty, uh that's a lot of. Effort, yeah

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Speaker 2: that's a big. Gift my girlfriend was upset that they

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Speaker 2: didn't mention this to her and was definitely jealous at the.

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Speaker 2: TIME i promised not to tell, them got wasted at

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Speaker 2: the bar with my friends and told one of them

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Speaker 2: how my girlfriend. Felt, OOH i after a big, time

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Speaker 2: AND i portrayed her. TRUST i owned up to it

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Speaker 2: to the next day WHEN i realized what had, happened

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Speaker 2: and we worked through it had a little falling out

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Speaker 2: with the. Girls my girlfriend was mortified and things were

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Speaker 2: a big group after my girlfriend insisted that we shouldn't

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Speaker 2: lose our friendship over THIS q graduation and growing. Apart

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Speaker 2: thinking everyone had gotten over. It this specific incident was

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Speaker 2: brought up WHEN i confronted my mother AND i told

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Speaker 2: her that this was years ago AND i thought that

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Speaker 2: we had all moved, on that my girlfriend actively encouraged

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Speaker 2: us to hang, out but the friend group just dissolved.

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Speaker 2: Naturally she's still insistent on this and that other people

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Speaker 2: and even my dad feel the same.

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Speaker 3: Way small town everyone talks.

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Speaker 1: Me everyone is talking crap about the girlfriend and have

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Speaker 1: better things to.

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Speaker 2: Do from by the, way this incident that happened like

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Speaker 2: three to four years, ago and it's like such A.

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Speaker 1: Also friend groups naturally change and, evolve like it's not

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Speaker 1: necessarily any one incident or any one, thing like sometimes

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Speaker 1: they graduate will.

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Speaker 3: Grow, yeah that is like the most nat like it just.

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Speaker 1: Happens you're at different points in your, life you, know are.

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Speaker 3: Graduation, god dang, It.

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Speaker 1: Oh, god did you see your boy's new?

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Speaker 2: Merch not my? Boy not my merch and how long

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Speaker 2: DO i have to say? This, okay the password's been,

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Speaker 2: Changed riley doesn't know what it is now, anyways the new, computer,

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Speaker 2: ANYWAYS i do need to change that old. One keep

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Speaker 2: saying that, anyway so she sidetracks the conversation and runs.

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Speaker 2: Away never has done well with any. CONFRONTATIONS i asked

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Speaker 2: my dad later if he had palms with my, girlfriend

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Speaker 2: and he said, no that maybe she had a small jealous,

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Speaker 2: anything that he was concerned. About he, said it's one

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Speaker 2: hundred percent WHAT i. Want i'm a grown, man and

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Speaker 2: WHO i want to marry is up to. Me.

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Speaker 1: True good advice seems, good BUT i have a like

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Speaker 1: something under the under the hood right.

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Speaker 2: Yeah the fact that the whole town's still talking about

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Speaker 2: this three years, later for like a small it's very,

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Speaker 2: weird very. Weird the problem IS i still love my

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Speaker 2: parents and wish we could be. Closer it's hard SINCE

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Speaker 2: i moved out eight years ago and have always lived

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Speaker 2: at least two hours. AWAY i want to be A titania,

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Speaker 2: family but logistically it's been very hard between splitting time

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Speaker 2: with her, family who honestly gets the short end of

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Speaker 2: and not seeing each other during the, week and obviously

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Speaker 2: wanting a little time to. Ourselves we are spread very,

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Speaker 2: thin not really sure how to. Proceed but this really

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Speaker 2: feels like it comes down to my mom AND i

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Speaker 2: needing to hash this. Out of, course she ran away

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Speaker 2: to a neighbor's pool after escaping our previous. Conversation what

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Speaker 2: what is with? This? Mom?

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Speaker 1: Why, also of, course like that's a wild place to run,

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Speaker 2: Pool i've never heard. That tell me If i'm reading this,

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Speaker 2: just like weird culture and things, like, oh for some,

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Speaker 2: Reason mom always got us in a neighbors, pool people

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Speaker 2: bring up random Friend, yeah, YEAH i.

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Speaker 1: Mean there's nothing else to talk about over, THERE i.

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Speaker 2: GUESS i guess so like this is just such a

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Speaker 2: hearing some outside. Opinions AM i THE a? Hole? Well

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Speaker 2: first question is op THE a? HOLE i think in absolute, no,

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Speaker 2: no definitely. Not he seems to be the only same

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Speaker 1: But surrounded by just. CRAZIES i MEAN i would go

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Speaker 1: crazy IF i had all these people just talking crap around.

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Speaker 4: Me it feels like the movie Don't, Worry, darling or

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Speaker 4: all this crazy stuff is. Happening someone Was Scarlett johansson

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Speaker 4: And Harry, styles but all this crazy stuff's happening in

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Speaker 2: Like don't notice. It you're the crazy.

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Speaker 4: One you're going?

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Speaker 2: Crazy is it a is it a horror? Movie it's a.

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Speaker 2: Thriller it's kind of. Scary. Hmm that does feel like

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Speaker 2: this DOWN i remember seeing the, commercials BUT i didn't see.

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Speaker 2: It what do we THINK op should do?

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Speaker 1: HERE i, mean LIKE i don't know if we're at

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Speaker 2: YET i think before time out we need to have

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Speaker 2: or like tell them on, hey we really need to

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Speaker 2: like sit down and talk about AND i want to

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Speaker 2: hear like your perspective and start there m, hm BECAUSE

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Speaker 2: i feel like we're not getting the full.

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Speaker 1: And maybe there was some stuff that, happened you, know

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Speaker 1: three years ago that the mom doesn't fully, comprehend or

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Speaker 1: something that she's blowing out of proportion or maybe she

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Speaker 1: got like improper information through the mom grapevine m or

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Speaker 1: something like. That i'm not convinced that everyone has perfect information.

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Speaker 2: HERE i, agree and also low key conspiracy. THEORY i

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Speaker 2: think that the mom maybe WANTED opi to marry one

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Speaker 2: of one oh friends. Kids hey it was, arranged, merit

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Speaker 2: we've known. Her this Is i'm friends with the. MOM

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Speaker 2: i want to keep this little this fun little thing.

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Speaker 1: Going, yeah this is WHAT i. Want i'm the.

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Speaker 2: MOM i can see that now that he's getting, married it's,

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Speaker 1: That, oh, well it actually, happens.

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Speaker 3: And It's florence Pew.

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Speaker 4: Bad that's the. Movie that's the actress in the. Movie

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Speaker 4: that's the. Actress there we, go we got the real

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Speaker 4: the real. Data, also can.

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Speaker 2: Op move out of the. Town, oh that's like a perfect.

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Speaker 2: OPTION i don't. Know it sounds like the whole town

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Speaker 2: riot at that.

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Speaker 1: Point, yeah you must stay with, us live with us.

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Speaker 3: Forever, well let's find out.

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Speaker 2: Update both parents are making the trip tonight to talk

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Speaker 2: about this with. Us thank you all for your. THOUGHTS

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Speaker 2: i really appreciate. Them sorry IF i haven't been able

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Speaker 2: to get to everyone's. QUESTIONS i will update again AFTER

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Speaker 2: i sort this, out we got some relevant. Comments let's

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Speaker 2: hear it and real. Quick also From, bethanie there must

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Speaker 2: be nothing going on in this town for something LIKE

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Speaker 2: opi having a spat of jealousy being the topic.

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Speaker 3: Forever that is absolutely.

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Speaker 2: True and this feels like you're not good enough for

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Speaker 2: my son vibes and it's so Weird bethany spitting.

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Speaker 3: Facts onto these relevant comments.

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Speaker 2: Here coming to number one says if you speak with your,

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Speaker 2: message that they have a voice in your and your girlfriend's.

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Speaker 2: Relationship this isn't the message you want to. Send you

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Speaker 2: should not speak with your. Parents, first you're an. Adult

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Speaker 2: you make your own, decisions including who you want to,

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Speaker 2: marry agreed on that agreed on that your father recognizes.

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Speaker 2: This your mom is just going to have to accept.

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Speaker 2: It she gets on, board or she'll be seeing less

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Speaker 2: of YOU fdw future dear wife and any future children

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Speaker 2: you may. Have they got to get used to. It,

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Speaker 2: second what occurs in your and your girlfriend's relationship stays

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Speaker 2: between you and. Her, third you put your, parents especially your,

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Speaker 2: mother on an information. Diet they don't need to know

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Speaker 2: everything about your, finance's job, opportunities looking for your first,

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Speaker 2: home et. Cetera you share the wonderful news after the. Fact,

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Speaker 2: lastly when your mother's behavior towards your girlfriend is, rude,

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Speaker 2: disrespectful or, hateful you step in and, say don't speak

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Speaker 2: to my future wife like that.

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Speaker 3: Girlfriend it's time to.

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Speaker 2: Go your mother needs to know that your girlfriend is

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Speaker 2: your priority and you have her. Back your mother is

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Speaker 2: holding a grudge against your girlfriend from three years ago

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Speaker 2: for a situation that didn't even involve, her it's. Childish

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Speaker 2: if she brings it up, again tell her, so just really.

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Speaker 2: QUICKLY i, MEAN i think THINK op should still sit

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Speaker 2: down with, them just to, like, again it's, Communication, like,

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Speaker 2: yes they might be being, childish BUT i, think, well.

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Speaker 1: It's kind of like whenever you put a barrier up

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Speaker 1: having that line of communication to, say, hey this is

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Speaker 1: the behavior THAT i want from this. Relationship and they

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Speaker 1: might totally just not change at, all but at least

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Speaker 1: making known what you want could potentially make that relationship

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Speaker 1: better or at least give them the opportunity to.

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Speaker 2: CHANGE i think the communication can't, hurt especially at this. Point,

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Speaker 2: yeah especially comming number. Two who cares what your mother,

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Speaker 2: says especially if you don't have a very, special trusting

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Speaker 2: relationship with. Her, seriously you're. Grown you make the decision

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Speaker 2: you think is right. DONE i cringe so hard about

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Speaker 2: that adult soda pong table, though ooh yeaft, up BUT

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Speaker 2: i guess it's proof that your girl friend is normal

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Speaker 2: in human but is also reasonable in. Kind obi, said,

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Speaker 2: YEAH i have a big time on that, one no

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Speaker 2: doubt about. IT a comment to number three, says, yeah

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Speaker 2: your mom is jealous and this is going to sound.

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Speaker 3: Weird are you leading her?

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Speaker 2: On you talked about wanting the close knit family and

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Speaker 2: wanting to spend time with your. Parents is it possible

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Speaker 2: your mom has latched onto that and sees your girlfriend

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Speaker 2: as competition for your time and. Attention something is. Amiss

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Speaker 2: your mom is being a knucklehead to your girlfriend and

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Speaker 2: isn't being honest with you or herself about. Why you,

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Speaker 2: know how you handle this will set the time for

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Speaker 2: your potential. Marriage good, luck Op. Twitch opie, RESPONDS i

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Speaker 2: didn't really THINK i was leading her on at. ALL

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Speaker 2: i do want those, things but the reality is if

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Speaker 2: my school slash life situation is just that it can't

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Speaker 2: be around very, often don't even make it back for

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Speaker 2: good friends often unless there's a big event. Happening she

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Speaker 2: may very well see her as competition on some.

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Speaker 1: LEVEL i don't know if it's COMPETITION i. FEEL i, mean,

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Speaker 1: yes it's probably a little bit of, competition BUT i

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Speaker 1: think it's more like you're choosing someone WHO i don't approve,

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Speaker 1: of and like there's these two girls that are within

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Speaker 1: the family gossip circle that would have been better for.

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Speaker 1: You that's What i'm feeling a little bit.

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Speaker 3: More, yeah you're not doing what.

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Speaker 2: Mom mom, wants What mom has, ordained and now she's

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Speaker 2: not happy and Gossipin she's gonna get the whole town

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Speaker 2: into with her pitchforks at your, doorstep my. Friend but

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Speaker 2: we have an. Update let's see if the mom shows.

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Speaker 2: Up since my first post gained some, TRACTION i thought

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Speaker 2: i'd give you all an.

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Speaker 3: Update SO i did.

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Speaker 2: IT i told my MOM i wanted to talk to.

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Speaker 2: Her she tried to avoid it and say that she

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Speaker 2: wanted to talk in. Person you know, what, Whatever, sure that's,

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Speaker 2: fine but it has to be one of two days this.

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Speaker 2: Week she, says, okay then later plans to come down

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Speaker 2: the next, day so my mom comes into town and

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Speaker 2: just so happened to be the same day that my

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Speaker 2: girlfriend left for her month long. Internship went out to

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Speaker 2: see my girlfriend and ended up keeping mom, waiting not

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Speaker 2: really on, purpose. Though we talked later that evening AND

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Speaker 2: i told her in no uncertain terms that girlfriend is

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Speaker 2: my number one priority moving forward and that how she

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Speaker 2: responds to that will determine how close we can be

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Speaker 2: as a, family Right, Okay, yeah THAT i couldn't accept

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Speaker 2: any further. Rudeness basically just put my foot. Down as

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Speaker 2: many of you lovely commentary. Suggested fast forward one. Month

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Speaker 2: girlfriend AND i have been, communicating but it is. Strained

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Speaker 2: things just aren't the, same and the distance in our

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Speaker 2: schedules are not.

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Speaker 1: Helping well, YEAH i, mean not only are you guys

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Speaker 1: going to be you're doing a long distance, Relationship like

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Speaker 1: that's hard, enough but having your families at each other's, throats,

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Speaker 1: like or at least not your families but your. Mom,

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Speaker 1: yeah like that's going to put a lot of strain

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Speaker 1: on already a strained.

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Speaker 2: Situation that's going to be. Hard THIS i it's not

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Speaker 2: looking good right. Now we have a lot more story,

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Speaker 2: left But i'm a little. Worried i'm a little worried.

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Speaker 2: Too i'm a little. Worried things just aren't the same

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Speaker 2: and the distance between our and our schedules aren't.

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Speaker 3: HELPING i got off early.

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Speaker 2: TODAY i was Thinking i'd surprise her by calling her

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Speaker 2: so she would have someone to talk to you for

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Speaker 2: a little. Bit on the long drive, home things were very,

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Speaker 2: awkward but we plan on getting together this week to

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Speaker 2: celebrate my. Birthday then a few hours, later she calls and,

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Speaker 2: said now that she had really had time to think about,

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Speaker 2: it she doesn't know if she could ever feel comfortable

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Speaker 2: around my mother, again and just felt. Portrayed she felt

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Speaker 2: disappointed in HOW i handled the situation by not putting

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Speaker 2: my foot down earlier in the week when this all,

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Speaker 2: happened let my mother dictate when we would talk about.

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Speaker 2: It still had some reservations about the other strains on

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Speaker 2: our relationships from the past as. Well and now it's all.

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Speaker 2: Over what? What? Why away five and a half Years,

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Speaker 2: no down the, Drain, no And i've lost my.

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Speaker 3: Very Best oh What oh that's.

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Speaker 2: Tough Usually i'm excited about having correct. Predictions today not

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Speaker 2: one of those day, ones, rough not one of those

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Speaker 2: Days i'm completely devastat AND i just blamed myself and,

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Speaker 2: SORRY i don't have happier ending for you. All, which

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Speaker 2: by the, way this is literally not even halfway done

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Speaker 2: with this, story so there's a chance there's a chance hands.

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Speaker 1: To get back. Together but also you just LIKE i,

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Speaker 1: mean the long distance situation is already. Hard it's just

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Speaker 1: like we said. Before you, know you're having multiple things

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Speaker 1: sabotage in this relationship right. Now peyton's asking for a

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Speaker 1: LITTLE tldr right.

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Speaker 4: Now.

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Speaker 2: Yeah so Basically opie and what was his girlfriend had

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Speaker 2: been dating for five and ninfe. Years things seemed going.

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Speaker 2: Good he was going to get the. Ring all of a,

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Speaker 2: Sudden mom is super rude and basically, says, oh this

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Speaker 2: little thing that happened three years.

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Speaker 3: Ago i'm still mad about.

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Speaker 2: It really was that, basically two of his childhood friends

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Speaker 2: made this big grand gift for his twenty first and

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Speaker 2: the girlfriend was. Jealous he told them the girl the

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Speaker 2: girlfriend was. Jealous it was a spat. Ope he shouldn't

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Speaker 2: have said. It, yeah but They opie thought that was

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Speaker 2: all behind, him But mom is, like, no this is.

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Speaker 1: Well the mom took that As opie's girlfriend putting a

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Speaker 1: wedge between op he and his, Friends and, LIKE i

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Speaker 1: think the mom's probably, thinking at what point is she

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Speaker 1: go going to put a wedge between me and my?

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Speaker 2: Son, yes and maybe she wants who lives to marry

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Speaker 2: the childhood, friends who's? Next so many. Things the whole

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Speaker 2: town seems in on. It and basically all of that

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Speaker 2: pressure Caused opie and the girlfriend to break. Up and

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Speaker 2: that's where we're. At, okay and we have these relevant comments.

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Speaker 2: HERE a comment room number one, says CAN i give

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Speaker 2: you some tough? Love your mom didn't ruin your, relationship you.

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Speaker 2: Dido you have the chance to be the one that

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Speaker 2: sets the guides on how you grow the relationship between

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Speaker 2: your partner and your, parents including limiting or adding boundaries

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Speaker 2: if they don't get. Along but you chose not to

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Speaker 2: do that a little, unfair but we'll call it more

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Speaker 2: in Sec my mother last sounds a lot like your.

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Speaker 2: Mom but my husband knows how to balance this extended

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Speaker 2: family with our nuclear.

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Speaker 3: One he cushions our relationship.

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Speaker 2: And is in charge of maintaining the connection we have

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Speaker 2: with her as a. Grandmother skype Calls Mother's day, planning et.

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Speaker 2: Cetera granted it wasn't easy to get this into, place

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Speaker 2: but he AND i have worked as a team to

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Speaker 2: figure this out AND i feel LIKE i have a

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Speaker 2: decent relationship with her as a. RESULT i would advise

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Speaker 2: you to consider this a chance to really figure out

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Speaker 2: what you want from a. Wife and it's totally fine

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Speaker 2: to want someone who gets along with her mom and

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Speaker 2: perhaps is even someone local so you don't feel so

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Speaker 2: stretched out between family and. Friends BUT i think you

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Speaker 2: will miss the opportunity to find a partner for yourself

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Speaker 2: if you, don't they could take this opportunity to reflect

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Speaker 2: on how your choice has got you. Here you deserve

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Speaker 2: to have that love in your. Life take a, breath

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Speaker 2: pray a, little, regroup and find your path really. Quick

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Speaker 2: Before opie, RESPONDS i think that's a little, unfair just

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Speaker 2: Because opie did eventually and not that long, after sat

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Speaker 2: the mom, down put his foot, down set the.

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Speaker 3: Boundaries BUT i guess to the, girlfriend.

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Speaker 2: She just felt it was a little too, late and

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Speaker 2: she felt that that dynamic was forever, changed, which like in,

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Speaker 2: fairness if that's how she, feels.

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Speaker 1: YEAH i think she probably feels it's like a little bit,

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Speaker 1: yeah a little too, little too late and almost like

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Speaker 1: you did this with my prompting instead of doing it

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Speaker 1: just by, yourself.

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Speaker 2: And perhaps even To. Ope this is more of a,

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Speaker 2: surprise perhaps to. Girlfriend it was the straw that broke

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Speaker 2: the yes. Back, yeah could have been, So opie, says

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Speaker 2: responding to, That the reality of situation is That i'll

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Speaker 2: likely be away from my hometown for the next seven

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00:18:03,480 --> 00:18:05,840
Speaker 2: to ten years due to my future. Career i'm in medical.

436
00:18:05,840 --> 00:18:07,840
Speaker 2: SCHOOL i know THAT i could have handled this much,

437
00:18:07,880 --> 00:18:10,199
Speaker 2: better and this is a singular. Event didn't cause. It

438
00:18:10,200 --> 00:18:12,080
Speaker 2: it was just a straw that broke the camel's. Back

439
00:18:12,200 --> 00:18:14,560
Speaker 2: shout out to, me saying that two seconds, AGO i

440
00:18:14,680 --> 00:18:17,920
Speaker 2: accept the ultimate responsibility for this, folly which just makes

441
00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:20,520
Speaker 2: it sick that much. Worse comtore number two, says, WAIT

442
00:18:20,560 --> 00:18:22,480
Speaker 2: i feel Like i'm missing. SOMETHING i looked at the

443
00:18:22,520 --> 00:18:24,680
Speaker 2: prior story. Here your mother was rude for one. Night

444
00:18:24,720 --> 00:18:26,840
Speaker 2: you immediately confronted, her and she revealed she had a

445
00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:29,119
Speaker 2: grudge against your. Girlfriend how is this your faults and

446
00:18:29,160 --> 00:18:30,040
Speaker 2: your girlfriend blames?

447
00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:30,119
Speaker 5: You?

448
00:18:30,240 --> 00:18:31,760
Speaker 2: DUDE i hate to put it this, way BUT i

449
00:18:31,800 --> 00:18:34,520
Speaker 2: think this wouldn't have worked. Anyways your mom was a,

450
00:18:34,560 --> 00:18:37,560
Speaker 2: butt but pretty minor rudeness isn't, really we need to

451
00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:40,359
Speaker 2: break up material after five years. Together the truth is

452
00:18:40,440 --> 00:18:43,800
Speaker 2: probably that your girlfriend couldn't handle the physical. Distance, yeah

453
00:18:43,800 --> 00:18:46,600
Speaker 2: and this is just the excuse that she is going.

454
00:18:46,640 --> 00:18:49,199
Speaker 1: WITH i mean that's true. TOO i mean having a

455
00:18:49,240 --> 00:18:52,480
Speaker 1: long distance girlfriend that is. Tough, yeah at that age,

456
00:18:52,920 --> 00:18:55,000
Speaker 1: age it's a good call. Out and it seems like

457
00:18:55,040 --> 00:18:57,680
Speaker 1: the whole town is against. You, yeah kind of a, lot.

458
00:18:57,960 --> 00:18:59,080
Speaker 1: Dude you never had a.

459
00:18:59,240 --> 00:19:01,439
Speaker 2: Chance oh, Man, FRIDLY i feel like this is what

460
00:19:01,520 --> 00:19:03,080
Speaker 2: might happen if you had stayed in your.

461
00:19:03,080 --> 00:19:06,040
Speaker 4: Hometown oh my, gosh, Yes oh, absolutely.

462
00:19:06,160 --> 00:19:08,600
Speaker 2: Dude now you should go on a long walk with your. Mom.

463
00:19:08,640 --> 00:19:10,639
Speaker 2: Though she needs to see you as a separate person

464
00:19:10,680 --> 00:19:13,000
Speaker 2: and be able to understand that in the, future your

465
00:19:13,040 --> 00:19:16,120
Speaker 2: significant other will be your. Priority drop some clear boundaries

466
00:19:16,160 --> 00:19:18,399
Speaker 2: for her so she knows what you consider to be

467
00:19:18,680 --> 00:19:21,600
Speaker 2: the boundary. Line if she has, considerations listen and decide

468
00:19:21,600 --> 00:19:23,840
Speaker 2: if they're. Reasonable for, example my mother in law turned

469
00:19:23,840 --> 00:19:25,879
Speaker 2: out to have a fear THAT i would borrow my

470
00:19:25,920 --> 00:19:26,800
Speaker 2: significant other from.

471
00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:29,400
Speaker 3: Visiting once that fear was, addressed it made her much less.

472
00:19:29,440 --> 00:19:32,560
Speaker 2: Hostile overall aggression that had nothing to do with visiting,

473
00:19:32,600 --> 00:19:35,560
Speaker 2: cease AND i would have never thought that it was connected,

474
00:19:35,600 --> 00:19:38,119
Speaker 2: anyways good luck with all of, This opie. Response to be,

475
00:19:38,160 --> 00:19:40,359
Speaker 2: FAIR i didn't completely put my foot down from the

476
00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:42,399
Speaker 2: get go and let my mom dictate the terms of

477
00:19:42,440 --> 00:19:45,040
Speaker 2: the boundary setting conversation that we. HAD i THOUGHT i

478
00:19:45,119 --> 00:19:47,040
Speaker 2: made a point WHEN i blew off my mom on

479
00:19:47,119 --> 00:19:49,320
Speaker 2: her time to spend it with my girlfriend BEFORE i,

480
00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:51,359
Speaker 2: left but it was too, little too. Late it isn't

481
00:19:51,400 --> 00:19:53,560
Speaker 2: like we've had a perfect relationship up until, now but

482
00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:55,920
Speaker 2: it's always something that we could work. Through, this, however

483
00:19:56,200 --> 00:19:58,400
Speaker 2: was just the final straw we are about to get

484
00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:00,719
Speaker 2: into up to. Two we are just just about halfway

485
00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:02,960
Speaker 2: through the. Story do we think at this point there's

486
00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:05,480
Speaker 2: any hope of reconnecting and getting back? Together any?

487
00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:09,399
Speaker 4: Hope oh, YEAH a grand gesture of romance would definitely

488
00:20:09,480 --> 00:20:12,080
Speaker 4: make this come back. Together come on and a half, YEARS.

489
00:20:11,920 --> 00:20:13,679
Speaker 1: I don't think, so you don't think? So you know

490
00:20:13,680 --> 00:20:15,119
Speaker 1: WHAT i think this development is going to. BE i

491
00:20:15,119 --> 00:20:17,159
Speaker 1: think she's, Cheating that's WHAT i think the development's going to.

492
00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:20,800
Speaker 1: Be or she already has another man's she monkey, branched,

493
00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:23,240
Speaker 1: dude she monkey BRAND i think he tries to do

494
00:20:23,280 --> 00:20:26,760
Speaker 1: a grand gesture and then it's like outside her medical

495
00:20:26,760 --> 00:20:28,760
Speaker 1: school dorm or where she's not a medical.

496
00:20:28,760 --> 00:20:29,520
Speaker 2: School where she was she?

497
00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:33,000
Speaker 1: Doing she, said some, INTERNSHIP i, think outside of her

498
00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:36,360
Speaker 1: internship with. Flowers and she walks out smooching a new

499
00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:37,080
Speaker 1: guy at her.

500
00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:40,040
Speaker 2: INTERNSHIP i think that's. What let's put up a pole

501
00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:43,320
Speaker 2: as a. Tiebreaker get back together or? Nah, Nah i'm very.

502
00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:44,879
Speaker 2: Curious riley thinks it's a.

503
00:20:44,960 --> 00:20:48,440
Speaker 4: Chance remember your, Friend, WELL i guess this is a horrible,

504
00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:50,480
Speaker 4: example but remember your friend that went To New york

505
00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:53,399
Speaker 4: to you, know make a make something. Happen remember the

506
00:20:53,440 --> 00:20:57,280
Speaker 4: guy that died in a helicopter basketball, Player, yes the

507
00:20:57,280 --> 00:20:58,080
Speaker 4: one that has the same.

508
00:20:58,119 --> 00:21:00,400
Speaker 2: Thing oh, yeah, yeah.

509
00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:02,720
Speaker 3: YEAH i, mean let's just say it worked.

510
00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:04,600
Speaker 4: Out THOUGH i would use that, example BUT i.

511
00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:05,960
Speaker 2: Can't that's, yeah it didn't work.

512
00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:06,960
Speaker 1: Out it didn't work.

513
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:10,399
Speaker 4: Out OH i, know, guys Tif riley points for, trying.

514
00:21:10,520 --> 00:21:12,679
Speaker 4: Y'all thing is last half of the.

515
00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:15,520
Speaker 2: Day what was the? Pull get get back together or.

516
00:21:15,520 --> 00:21:16,920
Speaker 3: Back together or, no whichever's?

517
00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:19,600
Speaker 2: Better you got? It update number two to me, again, folks.

518
00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:22,040
Speaker 2: Apologies some of you may think That i'm just a

519
00:21:22,119 --> 00:21:24,879
Speaker 2: karma witch at this. Point SO i, THOUGHT i thought

520
00:21:24,960 --> 00:21:27,439
Speaker 2: as hard AS i know, how AND i asked her

521
00:21:27,440 --> 00:21:29,280
Speaker 2: if it was okay IF i stopped by this evening

522
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:30,960
Speaker 2: after getting off, work and she said.

523
00:21:30,800 --> 00:21:34,600
Speaker 1: Yes grand, gesture grand. Gesture. Alert oh, oh.

524
00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:38,639
Speaker 2: Went to a, florist grabbed the largest bunch of her favorite.

525
00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:39,800
Speaker 2: Flowers bur, Ruh.

526
00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:42,480
Speaker 1: DID i not call? It DID i not call?

527
00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:42,680
Speaker 2: It?

528
00:21:42,800 --> 00:21:44,200
Speaker 3: Well, also you said they're not getting back.

529
00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:46,720
Speaker 1: Together well, yeah BUT i said she he would come

530
00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:48,359
Speaker 1: and get with it like a bunch of, flowers and

531
00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:49,880
Speaker 1: she would already be seeing someone Even.

532
00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:52,399
Speaker 2: Still, oh that's WHY i. Said you did say. That

533
00:21:52,440 --> 00:21:52,840
Speaker 2: you did say.

534
00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:55,320
Speaker 3: That let the record show that is. True we have the.

535
00:21:55,359 --> 00:21:57,760
Speaker 3: Tape we have the. TAPE i drove two, hours ready

536
00:21:57,800 --> 00:21:59,440
Speaker 3: to pour my heart and soul.

537
00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:03,880
Speaker 1: Out, dude he's gonna get absolutely smacked.

538
00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:06,960
Speaker 2: DOWN i get there AND i tell her about how

539
00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:09,679
Speaker 2: she means everything to me and THAT i want to

540
00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:12,239
Speaker 2: put the work in into whatever it takes for us

541
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:12,560
Speaker 2: to move.

542
00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:13,960
Speaker 1: Forward you're, Screwed you're.

543
00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:14,800
Speaker 2: Screwed you're.

544
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:16,400
Speaker 1: Screwed you're, Done.

545
00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:20,200
Speaker 2: Kimberly, fine says did he bring? Luggage? Oh did?

546
00:22:20,240 --> 00:22:21,639
Speaker 1: He oh, wow that's a call that's.

547
00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:27,160
Speaker 3: Break no bags bringing about.

548
00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:28,679
Speaker 1: It he is, dude so.

549
00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:31,560
Speaker 3: Rough no, bags But bro brought, backs so bro bo.

550
00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:33,720
Speaker 2: Backs Then i'm so incredibly sorry THAT i let her,

551
00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:35,840
Speaker 2: down But i'm committed to be, better and THAT i

552
00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:38,679
Speaker 2: choose her over anyone else and that she is my

553
00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:39,840
Speaker 2: very Best.

554
00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:41,800
Speaker 1: Oh, dude, Dude i'm ready for the clap. Back come,

555
00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:42,520
Speaker 1: on come.

556
00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:43,520
Speaker 2: On and it didn't.

557
00:22:43,520 --> 00:22:46,480
Speaker 1: Matter, YEAH i, Mean i'm. Sorry Oh, Peter i'm. Sorry

558
00:22:46,560 --> 00:22:49,880
Speaker 1: that's not really that really that really. Sucks BUT i was.

559
00:22:50,080 --> 00:22:51,920
Speaker 2: Right let's.

560
00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:55,359
Speaker 1: Go, yeah when you when you're so.

561
00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:58,199
Speaker 2: Right but it's so, wrong but it's so. Great she

562
00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:02,119
Speaker 2: reiterated that she can't be a reason to split up

563
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:04,359
Speaker 2: my family and that even if it wasn't her, fault

564
00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:06,760
Speaker 2: she would always feel. Guilty that there's been other times

565
00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:08,720
Speaker 2: WHERE i haven't fought hard enough for her over our,

566
00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:11,119
Speaker 2: relationship and that she shouldn't have to tell me what

567
00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:13,159
Speaker 2: to do to make me care even more shout to

568
00:23:13,200 --> 00:23:15,560
Speaker 2: What sam said earlier THAT i led her along thinking

569
00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:17,760
Speaker 2: everything was great and THAT i was proposing to her

570
00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 2: in the near future AND i, was but she feels

571
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:22,639
Speaker 2: LIKE i was too easily, dissuaded and most, importantly that

572
00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 2: she doesn't have the emotional energy anymore to, fight and

573
00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:28,600
Speaker 2: that she feels like up until now she's always done

574
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:30,840
Speaker 2: all the. FIGHTING i tried to show How i've, changed

575
00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:32,639
Speaker 2: THAT i put my foot down on my mother and

576
00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:35,679
Speaker 2: THAT i was here now actually fighting for our, relationship

577
00:23:35,720 --> 00:23:37,760
Speaker 2: that going FORWARD i would continue to do. So but

578
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:40,760
Speaker 2: for the first time in, forever she was decisive and

579
00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:43,000
Speaker 2: NOTHING i could do Would butcher.

580
00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:45,800
Speaker 1: Her called, It i'm still waiting for the boy toy

581
00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:49,199
Speaker 1: that she's been she's been. HIDING i THINK i think there's, something,

582
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:51,760
Speaker 1: well something stirrying around the.

583
00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:52,760
Speaker 2: Corner seventy three.

584
00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:55,280
Speaker 4: Percent of, you, guys seventy three percent said.

585
00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:57,720
Speaker 2: NO i, mean, listen you guys are looking. RIGHT i

586
00:23:57,760 --> 00:24:00,160
Speaker 2: know what's sam is like four for four right, now,

587
00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:02,280
Speaker 2: guys if you're keeping, track, editor give them a.

588
00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:04,360
Speaker 1: Board.

589
00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:07,080
Speaker 2: Board it hurts so much more because there's still so

590
00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:09,480
Speaker 2: much love. HERE i was so ready to continue to

591
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:11,439
Speaker 2: improve myself as a partner in light of all of,

592
00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:13,960
Speaker 2: this but now THAT i, have she just feels like

593
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:15,800
Speaker 2: she can't. Anymore too, little.

594
00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:19,800
Speaker 1: Too, late sounds like someone really smart. Earlier sounds like

595
00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 1: someone really smart earlier said that called.

596
00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:22,199
Speaker 2: It.

597
00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:24,960
Speaker 3: Yeah maybe very enthusiastic About.

598
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:28,320
Speaker 1: Big Brain Stephen, Hawking Size brain.

599
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 2: Predicted the very tragic downfall of your. Relationship they may

600
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:33,680
Speaker 2: not celebrate always. Right, Yes.

601
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:36,199
Speaker 3: I've already signed up for.

602
00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:38,879
Speaker 2: THERAPY i will still continue to hold my mother to

603
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:42,080
Speaker 2: the same expectations going. Forward maybe time will change something

604
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 2: in my now ex BUT i know that it likely.

605
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:47,040
Speaker 2: Won't in the, Meantime i'll just try to grow as a.

606
00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:49,760
Speaker 2: Person not really looking for, advice just giving you all

607
00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:51,280
Speaker 2: some finality to the.

608
00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:54,119
Speaker 1: Story it's not over. Right there's a, chunk, dude there's a.

609
00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:56,920
Speaker 1: Chunk just you, wait there's a. Chunk just you. Wait

610
00:24:57,000 --> 00:24:57,600
Speaker 1: there's something.

611
00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:02,159
Speaker 2: Common but now her mom just texted me saying that

612
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:04,320
Speaker 2: she didn't want to, meddle but she knows her daughter

613
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:08,280
Speaker 2: still loves me and needs time to. Heal whoa future

614
00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:10,879
Speaker 2: mommy in law stepping? In dang, it you, Guys as

615
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:13,879
Speaker 2: if this wasn't hard, enough more willing to take advice

616
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 2: Now quick edit number two copy to comment of. Mine

617
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:18,280
Speaker 2: so there is a fundamental flaw with a lot of

618
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:20,439
Speaker 2: the comments. Here so so many people are jumping on

619
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:22,960
Speaker 2: the hole your mother has been sneaking around and being

620
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:25,200
Speaker 2: mean to your ex girlfriend and you only have now noticed.

621
00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:26,680
Speaker 2: IT i just want to clear the air and say

622
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:29,320
Speaker 2: that this is absolutely not. True she really loved my

623
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:31,959
Speaker 2: mom and felt the love in. Return this came out

624
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:33,679
Speaker 2: of left field for both of. Us, now this is

625
00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:35,440
Speaker 2: not me saying That i'm not at fault. HERE i

626
00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:37,479
Speaker 2: should have made more of an effort during hard times

627
00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:39,919
Speaker 2: even before this whole debacle. OCCURRED i shouldn't have let

628
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:42,440
Speaker 2: my mother dictate any terms to have the conversation WHERE

629
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:44,879
Speaker 2: i put my foot. DOWN i accept total responsibility for

630
00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:47,160
Speaker 2: all of those Things i've hurt because before she, left

631
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:49,320
Speaker 2: we decided that we would work through this, together with

632
00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:51,879
Speaker 2: the expectation THAT i would continue to make good on

633
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:54,440
Speaker 2: setting boundaries for my mother and that under known certain,

634
00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:56,879
Speaker 2: terms THAT i would now have my exes back in the.

635
00:25:56,920 --> 00:26:01,239
Speaker 1: Future but then she Met chad And brad the. Internship yea.

636
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:04,120
Speaker 2: Too but when she came, back she had obviously had

637
00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,119
Speaker 2: time to think and changed her, mind WHILE i had

638
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:08,639
Speaker 2: been following through on everything that we had already agreed.

639
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:11,160
Speaker 2: UPON i understand why she's made this, CHOICE i really.

640
00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:13,439
Speaker 2: DO i didn't live up to her expectations, repeatedly and

641
00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:15,679
Speaker 2: she hit a breaking. Point i'm just so disappointed in

642
00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:17,639
Speaker 2: myself THAT i couldn't be the man she HOPED i

643
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:19,560
Speaker 2: could be when she needed me to.

644
00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:23,479
Speaker 1: Be it dang, DUDE, opi he's putting too much of

645
00:26:23,520 --> 00:26:26,720
Speaker 1: this burden on. HIM i think she simply didn't want

646
00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:30,719
Speaker 1: to do the distance And chad And brad are chatting her.

647
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:34,440
Speaker 2: Up, YEAH i truly it's like just one of those situations, where,

648
00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:37,440
Speaker 2: Yes opie's just absolutely trying his best and putting his best,

649
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:41,200
Speaker 2: befoward but she just doesn't align with wanting to stay

650
00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:43,879
Speaker 2: in the. Relationship it's just not necessarily just because of.

651
00:26:43,960 --> 00:26:46,320
Speaker 2: HIM i think it's all of the factors all. Combined,

652
00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:48,280
Speaker 2: she's like she, said all.

653
00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:50,359
Speaker 1: The blame on. Him, yeah he's, like come, on, like

654
00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:53,679
Speaker 1: lift some of that that off your. Shoulders, yeah, yeah forgive.

655
00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:57,160
Speaker 2: Yourself AND i truly don't think he did that bad

656
00:26:57,240 --> 00:26:57,800
Speaker 2: of a. Job he.

657
00:26:57,840 --> 00:27:00,800
Speaker 1: Did he he, Grew he, Grew he he. Grows all

658
00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:03,679
Speaker 1: we ever, asked which is anyone in these stories just to,

659
00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:05,879
Speaker 1: grow and quite honestly more than we see a lot

660
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:08,639
Speaker 1: of the thyeah. Exactly i'm just, saying he grows and he.

661
00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 2: Shows oh, god that's fine as Strong now onto some.

662
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 2: Comments comment to number one, SAYS i honestly don't think

663
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 2: this has to do with your mother. Anymore it sounds

664
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:19,479
Speaker 2: like you had a pattern of disrespecting your ex and

665
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:21,399
Speaker 2: she checked out a while. Ago strange to me that

666
00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:23,680
Speaker 2: your mother knows about all the details of your relationship

667
00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:26,359
Speaker 2: and is using them against YOUR. X the whole relationship

668
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:29,440
Speaker 2: with your two girlfriends feels like there's information. Missing Maybe

669
00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 2: i'm just jealous, Too but if two girls if my

670
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:34,760
Speaker 2: boyfriend a very personal and probably expensive, GIFT i would

671
00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 2: raise an. EYEBROW i know my boyfriend would be weirded

672
00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:39,119
Speaker 2: out if two guys gave me a gift like that as.

673
00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:41,200
Speaker 2: Well is it possible that those girls also had a

674
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:44,240
Speaker 2: pattern of disrespecting your girlfriend and or you and your? Relationship?

675
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:47,439
Speaker 2: Maybe how many people do you allow to disrespect your?

676
00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 2: Relationship continuing to pile on, Opi obie, says not, really

677
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 2: she had a very legitimate reason to be. Jealous they

678
00:27:52,520 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 2: had a history of treating me like a, brother complete

679
00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:57,199
Speaker 2: with baby talk and other nonsense that was just not.

680
00:27:57,280 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 2: ACCEPTABLE i hated, it but we tried to tolerate it

681
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:02,280
Speaker 2: for old. Times quickly got fed up AFTER i started

682
00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:04,879
Speaker 2: dating my now. Ex didn't ask for or want the

683
00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:07,840
Speaker 2: table understood when THE x got, mad completely betrayed her

684
00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:10,159
Speaker 2: trust that night by telling them how she, felt and

685
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:12,360
Speaker 2: after the, incident, though things calmed down quite a bit

686
00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:14,919
Speaker 2: and there wasn't much interaction or tension. There from what

687
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:17,080
Speaker 2: girlfriend told me when we broke, up they're a non

688
00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:19,680
Speaker 2: factor in this whole. Thing they've only been mentioned because

689
00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:21,920
Speaker 2: my mom brought them. Up my mother most likely knows

690
00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:24,919
Speaker 2: from these girls telling their mothers back when it. Happened

691
00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:27,440
Speaker 2: who is on and off again friends with my. Mother,

692
00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:30,720
Speaker 2: however since this incident happened four years, ago today my,

693
00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:35,119
Speaker 2: Birthday oh, god it is. Open, no this is just

694
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 2: keeps getting.

695
00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:40,680
Speaker 1: Worse, wow oh, Buddy i'm, sorry, dude body boo for your,

696
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 1: birthday you get a broken.

697
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:45,920
Speaker 2: Heart oohoo. Woooo it's obvious that my mother has been

698
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 2: harboring a grudge for years while putting on a facade

699
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 2: the whole, time which obviously led to distrust and a

700
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:54,640
Speaker 2: feeling of betrayal that ex girlfriend understandably doesn't want to.

701
00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:57,360
Speaker 2: Tolerate moving, forward mother decided to go fishing and came

702
00:28:57,440 --> 00:28:59,400
Speaker 2: up with any reason at all to dislike.

703
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:01,000
Speaker 3: Her in, reality she.

704
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 2: Was nothing but supportive UNTIL i started talking about the.

705
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:06,440
Speaker 2: Engagement no one else had ever gotten close to getting

706
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:08,520
Speaker 2: between the two of. Us the main reason other than

707
00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:10,920
Speaker 2: my mother that she cited to me for the breakup

708
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:13,360
Speaker 2: are that ONE i mentioned THAT i wanted to get

709
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:16,160
Speaker 2: engaged soon and then didn't do. It my stances is

710
00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:18,320
Speaker 2: THAT i pushed back BECAUSE i had to push my

711
00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:20,840
Speaker 2: boards back a month to prepare and wanted to get

712
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 2: the ball rolling AFTER i was done with my test

713
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:25,320
Speaker 2: again opece in medical, school still going through a lot

714
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 2: of exams and. Stuff then my mom did what she

715
00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:30,960
Speaker 2: did and my girlfriend went, away which further delayed my. Plans.

716
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:33,640
Speaker 2: Two in previous times of hardship in our, RELATIONSHIP i

717
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:35,800
Speaker 2: would freeze up and not know how to. Proceed these

718
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:38,600
Speaker 2: instances do not involve my. Mother for, example she felt

719
00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 2: like she would have to tell ME i should feel

720
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:42,280
Speaker 2: or WHAT i should do in order to fix, things

721
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:44,560
Speaker 2: which made her feel LIKE i didn't care. Enough she's absolutely.

722
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:46,600
Speaker 2: RIGHT i shut down during those times and just kind

723
00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:48,880
Speaker 2: of accepted my fate and, like if she wanted to leave,

724
00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:50,960
Speaker 2: ME i was going to be incredibly, Upset BUT i

725
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:52,920
Speaker 2: had no idea how to fight or what to say

726
00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:55,200
Speaker 2: in order to keep that from happening on my, Own

727
00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:57,160
Speaker 2: and who the heck wants? That it's no wonder why

728
00:29:57,200 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 2: she got fed UP a major area THAT i can

729
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 2: work on is self.

730
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:04,000
Speaker 1: EXPRESSION i do feel LIKE opi Is, yes he was,

731
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 1: blind BUT i do feel like he's.

732
00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:06,719
Speaker 2: Too being too.

733
00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 1: Hard he's doing, yeah BUT i do think he's, like

734
00:30:09,400 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 1: at least he's owning up to a little bit of. It,

735
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:14,080
Speaker 1: MAN i think he's. Like but everyone's SAYING opi is so.

736
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:17,760
Speaker 1: Blind op he's an unreliable. Narrator op he is painfully.

737
00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:21,560
Speaker 1: Unaware chats AGAINST. OPI i kind of, says someone give

738
00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:24,120
Speaker 1: me the GIRLFRIENDS. POV i, mean, hey the OTHER pov

739
00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 1: is always. Helpful BUT i do feel he's on the.

740
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:29,320
Speaker 2: Path that's WHAT i feel, too feel he's on the.

741
00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:32,120
Speaker 2: Path come on chat, chat you, know write your paragraphs

742
00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:33,840
Speaker 2: in the. Comments please let me. Know but What i'm,

743
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:36,400
Speaker 2: Feeling we'll keep. Going So i'm a therapy now recently

744
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 2: diagnosed with either cyclothymia or. Dysthymia if you could help

745
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 2: me out there what that, is And i'm working on getting. Better,

746
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 2: luckily the main treatment is plenty of cardiovascular exercises and

747
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 2: it gives me an excuse to get my, lethargic, apathetic

748
00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:54,360
Speaker 2: frankly lazy butt back in the. Gym they're both mood.

749
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 4: Disorders cyclothymia is a mild case of bipolar, disorder and

750
00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 4: disli thine is a mild and chronic form of. Depression

751
00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:06,600
Speaker 4: so it's like depression And, mike mild bipolar got You,

752
00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 4: Okay i've gained thirty to forty pounds during the.

753
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 2: Relationship, currently that was, me, BRO i feel you.

754
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:12,560
Speaker 1: Man.

755
00:31:12,720 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 2: Thanks, currently no contact with mom for some, time who

756
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:18,240
Speaker 2: ironically posted a baby picture of me for my birthday

757
00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:21,120
Speaker 2: on social. Media she's fronting just for the virture signaling going,

758
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:23,800
Speaker 2: crazy further confirming she doesn't think of me as an,

759
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:27,680
Speaker 2: adult and also temporarily no contact with her with ex

760
00:31:27,920 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 2: per therapist's. Recommendations we'll see what. Happens just trying to stay,

761
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:33,840
Speaker 2: busy stay, consistent and focus on me right.

762
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:36,200
Speaker 1: Now At, hey It's, sam your og host. Here we're

763
00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 1: gonna get back to the. Stories but here's three minutes

764
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 1: of ads from our. Sponsors i'm, Sorry i've edited this

765
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 1: like five. Times try not to leave anything, out WHICH

766
00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 1: i did in my post by. Accident but now it's

767
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,400
Speaker 1: too late to change because it'll be buried and we

768
00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 1: have another Updaty we have another. One Sassy sin says

769
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:51,440
Speaker 1: he's on the path but too late to say the.

770
00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:53,520
Speaker 1: RELATIONSHIP i agree with, that BUT i do think he's

771
00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 1: on the, path like to say that he's just like

772
00:31:56,400 --> 00:32:00,120
Speaker 1: terrible and, blind, like, yes maybe he, Was BUT i

773
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:01,400
Speaker 1: do think he's, growing which is.

774
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 2: Good. YEAH i think we're like bringing down the hammer

775
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 2: on him too, hard not recognizing he's he's getting. There

776
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 2: how old is? He? Hell does he twenty? Four? Yeah?

777
00:32:08,880 --> 00:32:11,440
Speaker 1: Dude come, on come? On who Was who wasn't a

778
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 1: dumb bud at twenty?

779
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:12,960
Speaker 2: FOUR i?

780
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 1: WAS i was, Hello, Hello, yeah man's. RAISED i feel acne.

781
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 3: Right, Now i'm but doing't freaking.

782
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 2: Eat. Well we've got update number, Three ladies and. Gentlemen

783
00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:27,160
Speaker 2: is it the last we shall? See jesus swear to?

784
00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:29,360
Speaker 2: BEGIN a number of you have probably seen my previous.

785
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:31,840
Speaker 2: Post does the automatically link everything or is that only

786
00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 2: for its particular? Flayers but, anyways this saga. Continues things

787
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 2: are going pretty. Well still been working on some self.

788
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 2: Improvement UNFORTUNATELY i haven't been able to attend regular. Therapy

789
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 2: my therapist has been required to take medical leave of,

790
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:45,400
Speaker 2: absence and there's anyone ELSE i can see for free

791
00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:48,240
Speaker 2: that works with my rigorous school. Schedule the school is

792
00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 2: actively searching for a temporary. Replacement i've still been following

793
00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 2: through with his advice of frequent cardiovascular exercise for my mood,

794
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:57,720
Speaker 2: disorder and went no contact with my mother and x

795
00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:00,520
Speaker 2: for a couple of. WEEKS i also love the xie

796
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 2: as like.

797
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:04,160
Speaker 1: Therapy, hey you know, what it's the iron Iron.

798
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:05,200
Speaker 2: Church she gotta.

799
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:06,960
Speaker 1: Pump those weights to get the sadness.

800
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:08,640
Speaker 3: Out, yeah, No riley knows about.

801
00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 4: That talk about, it, Brother let's go up and pick

802
00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:14,840
Speaker 4: up those. Chairs was get our rep inchoir and get.

803
00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 4: It get on her knees and start.

804
00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 3: Praying that's The, Riley, yes.

805
00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:21,000
Speaker 2: SIR i went back to my hometown where my ex

806
00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 2: was staying for another month long, internship dropped off a

807
00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:25,080
Speaker 2: few of her things with a note saying why it

808
00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:26,720
Speaker 2: didn't feel right to hold on to them and THAT

809
00:33:26,760 --> 00:33:29,080
Speaker 2: i missed. Her, AFTERWARDS i had a great weekend staying

810
00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:32,360
Speaker 2: with my incredibly supportive friends and avoided my mother UNTIL

811
00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 2: i picked up my dog That. Sunday BEFORE i left that,

812
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:36,400
Speaker 2: day my mother tried to talk to, me AND i

813
00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 2: told her and know uncertain, terms THAT i was unwilling

814
00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:40,479
Speaker 2: to talk to her unless she was ready to accept

815
00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 2: some responsibility and take some actions to right her. Wrongs

816
00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:45,560
Speaker 2: she said she Was we spoke about what happened between

817
00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:47,480
Speaker 2: me and my ex and how she doesn't see how

818
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 2: there could be a future with me if my mother

819
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:52,120
Speaker 2: continued to feel that way about, her that she had

820
00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 2: no right interfering with my, relationship et, cetera et. CETERA

821
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 2: i got an, apology but wasn't really buying. It she

822
00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:59,120
Speaker 2: said she had always hoped that the WOMAN i wanted

823
00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 2: to marry would be it's super close to her since

824
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,200
Speaker 2: it's always just been me and my father in our,

825
00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:08,320
Speaker 2: family and she's always wanted to have a girlfriend in the. Family,

826
00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:11,480
Speaker 2: mmmmm sounds like you're just saying.

827
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:13,319
Speaker 3: You wanted it to be your, Pick that's What i'm

828
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:13,799
Speaker 3: reading this.

829
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:16,239
Speaker 2: Ass, wait what do you mean by? That because basically she's, like,

830
00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:18,280
Speaker 2: oh you, know it's such a small. FAMILY i wanted

831
00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:20,759
Speaker 2: to bring one of the girlfriends into the. FAMILY i,

832
00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 2: think like as in one of the friends that the family,

833
00:34:23,160 --> 00:34:26,880
Speaker 2: friends you, Know AND i think the mom is basically saying, like,

834
00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:29,760
Speaker 2: OH i didn't pick, her SO i don't like basically

835
00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:31,719
Speaker 2: the mom is not viewing her as like part of

836
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:34,759
Speaker 2: this like dream vision family unit that mom had in her.

837
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:37,040
Speaker 1: Mind the mom had it all planned out from like.

838
00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:41,399
Speaker 2: Birth, yes, yes Totallys opie, says because it's me who

839
00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:43,759
Speaker 2: wants to marry this, woman not my, mother and what

840
00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:46,640
Speaker 2: she wants doesn't really. Matter not to, mention she's, rarely if,

841
00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:49,279
Speaker 2: ever reached out to spend one on one time with my.

842
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:50,960
Speaker 2: Ex yet you could have had that with. Her she

843
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 2: is a nice, woman, yeah it seems with a.

844
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:53,719
Speaker 1: Family with a.

845
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:55,960
Speaker 2: FAMILY i told her if she's really, sorry and she

846
00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:57,759
Speaker 2: could write an apology to my, ex to which she.

847
00:34:57,800 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 1: Agreed, okay but, AGAIN i don't know if that. Looks,

848
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:02,400
Speaker 1: YEAH i don't even know if that's a.

849
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:05,640
Speaker 3: MOVE i like. THAT i guess she's doing, something but,

850
00:35:05,719 --> 00:35:06,239
Speaker 3: LIKE i don't like.

851
00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 1: That it's, This, YEAH i know this IS i think

852
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:10,239
Speaker 1: this is like asking mommy to fix your.

853
00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 2: Problems and ALSO i feel like she's gonna be like

854
00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:15,040
Speaker 2: trying to move. On yeah you, know let me let

855
00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:17,239
Speaker 2: me be With brad And. Chad yeah, yeah oh. God,

856
00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:19,600
Speaker 2: anyways the NOTE i left at my ex's parents' house

857
00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 2: with her things rekindled some conversation and started making her

858
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:23,719
Speaker 2: rethink some.

859
00:35:23,920 --> 00:35:25,719
Speaker 1: Things no, way no.

860
00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:27,480
Speaker 2: WAY i told her THAT i was going to be

861
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:30,080
Speaker 2: town again that next, weekend and you, know if she wanted,

862
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:31,279
Speaker 2: to we could beat up for some.

863
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 1: Coffee no, way no, way she, Agreed no, way no.

864
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:37,680
Speaker 1: Way we're getting a happy, ending AND i don't believe.

865
00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:39,960
Speaker 1: It and Since riley you might have your come up

866
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:43,520
Speaker 1: into my, friend no breaking. Way and since she was.

867
00:35:43,520 --> 00:35:45,680
Speaker 2: Coming off a call, ship we just went ahead and

868
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:49,360
Speaker 2: got breakfast slash. Bunch we talked for a long long.

869
00:35:49,560 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 2: Time she feels, confused still loves and missus get out of,

870
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:56,640
Speaker 2: here and she wants us to, work but it's having

871
00:35:56,640 --> 00:36:00,399
Speaker 2: a hard time seeing. Away woh everything that happened with my? Mother,

872
00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:05,360
Speaker 2: yes easy, solution break up with, mother.

873
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:09,600
Speaker 4: Go to wherever she is and do medical school.

874
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 2: There i'm dumping you mommy and getting a new.

875
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:12,560
Speaker 3: Mommy that's, right.

876
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:15,960
Speaker 1: That's, right Bubbles, MARIE i don't watch. Her gosh dang happy.

877
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:19,440
Speaker 2: End and come, on, Bubbles, marie come.

878
00:36:19,239 --> 00:36:22,720
Speaker 1: On, nothing he, says, no, girlfriend he needs to grow. First,

879
00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 1: yeah give, it give him a couple of. Years he is,

880
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:26,279
Speaker 1: Growing he's not growing enough.

881
00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:27,359
Speaker 2: Yet it is.

882
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:29,759
Speaker 1: Time he needs.

883
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:32,480
Speaker 4: Time he's grown up and he, can like you, know

884
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:33,239
Speaker 4: figure this out with.

885
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 2: Her are you?

886
00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:35,120
Speaker 3: Ready are you? Ready are you?

887
00:36:35,160 --> 00:36:38,400
Speaker 1: Ready he kept putting in the work when he's still

888
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:40,560
Speaker 1: when he kind of accepted and knew that that work

889
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 1: would get her, back he wasn't doing just to show. Her,

890
00:36:43,040 --> 00:36:46,560
Speaker 1: oh then he's, like he, ACCEPTED i need to work on.

891
00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:49,279
Speaker 1: ME i like, it so he's doing it for, her

892
00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:50,680
Speaker 1: BUT i don't like it.

893
00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 2: So and that when she broke up with, me she meant.

894
00:36:53,080 --> 00:36:54,880
Speaker 2: IT i told Her i've been making some changes and

895
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 2: really fighting for us in the, meantime and THAT i

896
00:36:57,200 --> 00:36:59,200
Speaker 2: want us to work to that if it came to it,

897
00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:02,279
Speaker 2: Again i've already chosen her over my. Mother it ended

898
00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:04,600
Speaker 2: in an agreement to keep in touch and see if

899
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:06,560
Speaker 2: she can come back to the Level i'm at right

900
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 2: now with some time and space sort out her. Thoughts

901
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 2: she's left town again for a last, internship so that's

902
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 2: about the best we can do for. Now, anyways my

903
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 2: mom tried to reach out for a normal, conversation BUT

904
00:37:16,239 --> 00:37:18,320
Speaker 2: i stopped her short and ask her how that apology

905
00:37:18,360 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 2: note was, coming to which she responded still working on,

906
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:22,720
Speaker 2: it which of course means that she's either been avoiding

907
00:37:22,719 --> 00:37:25,239
Speaker 2: it or had no intention of following. THROUGH i ended

908
00:37:25,280 --> 00:37:28,520
Speaker 2: the conversation. IMMEDIATELY a couple of days, later my dad

909
00:37:28,560 --> 00:37:31,160
Speaker 2: called and said that she came crying to, him saying

910
00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:33,080
Speaker 2: that no matter what she, does it won't be. Enough

911
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:35,799
Speaker 2: he responded, with, well have you tried DOING i don't

912
00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:38,719
Speaker 2: know anything at, all. Savage have you tried? That savage,

913
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:42,960
Speaker 2: dude daddy's letting his cohone. Hag, yes he's seriously been

914
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 2: awesome through this whole. Thing the next, day my mother

915
00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 2: says she sent the apology. Over fast forward to when

916
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 2: my ex receives the letter and tells me and asks

917
00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:53,080
Speaker 2: IF i can see. It it reads the, following with

918
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:55,879
Speaker 2: names of active of, course DEAR. X it seems you're

919
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:58,759
Speaker 2: obset with my response and reactions to you and your

920
00:37:58,800 --> 00:37:59,560
Speaker 2: relationship with.

921
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 1: Myself rewrite, it try and try.

922
00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:05,960
Speaker 2: AGAIN i apologize if you FEEL i have offended you

923
00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:08,840
Speaker 2: in any way with my. Actions oh. Words we have

924
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 2: always encouraged and valued honest and open communication with. SON

925
00:38:13,400 --> 00:38:16,520
Speaker 2: i have hoped for a warm and friendly relationship with

926
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 2: you as. WELL i am hopeful that all issues will

927
00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:21,040
Speaker 2: be resolved in a positive.

928
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:24,720
Speaker 1: Y this is, terrible best, mother not an. Apology zero

929
00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:27,560
Speaker 1: sorry if you got, HURT i didn't do. Anything i'm

930
00:38:27,560 --> 00:38:28,759
Speaker 1: sorry that you took it the wrong.

931
00:38:28,840 --> 00:38:33,319
Speaker 2: Way, Hey i'm sorry WHEN i forgete this shmacked you

932
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Speaker 2: in the, face got it like? Hurt, yeah that you

933
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:36,480
Speaker 2: felt like you.

934
00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:37,759
Speaker 3: Hurt i'm sorry you felt that.

935
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 2: WAY i hate. THIS i hate this so.

936
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Speaker 3: Much My god wanted.

937
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Speaker 2: To froddle the most insincere at, LEAST i don't know

938
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Speaker 2: any other way to say it that wouldn't get flagged

939
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Speaker 2: the most, insincere least insightful way she could have apologized

940
00:38:51,120 --> 00:38:54,000
Speaker 2: quote unquote with minimal. Effort clearly she still doesn't accept

941
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 2: any responsibility or realized that opinions don't matter and that

942
00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 2: she was wrong to act and feel the way she.

943
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Speaker 2: Does by the, a you are wrong if you, think

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Speaker 2: act and feel a way about not listening to full

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Speaker 2: Them in your ear. Holes put them in your ear

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Speaker 2: holes right, in gobble them. Up we are nearing the

953
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:29,759
Speaker 2: end of our, journey, okay do we think they're gonna make?

954
00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:30,920
Speaker 3: It we still have a little bit.

955
00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:32,440
Speaker 2: LEFT i don't believe. It, riley.

956
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:35,320
Speaker 4: Dude, yes we're still. There i'm all still. There we

957
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Speaker 4: Might i'm gonna check for an. Update might not happen

958
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:38,440
Speaker 4: Now i'm.

959
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:41,080
Speaker 2: Move we'll. See this is like it's the end of

960
00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:44,000
Speaker 2: the fourth. Quarter we're like twenty yards from the end. Zone,

961
00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:47,200
Speaker 2: YEAH i, know, football d of and let's. See, Okay

962
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:48,680
Speaker 2: so at this Point i've called her out on it

963
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 2: three times and had some serious sit, downs But i'm

964
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:53,280
Speaker 2: clearly not getting through to. Her my dad has also

965
00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:55,680
Speaker 2: tried to talk to her about these, things and she

966
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:58,520
Speaker 2: tells him that this is all between me and my

967
00:39:58,640 --> 00:40:00,839
Speaker 2: ex and has nothing to do With i'm at my wits.

968
00:40:00,960 --> 00:40:01,080
Speaker 4: End.

969
00:40:01,120 --> 00:40:03,840
Speaker 2: Folks my dad AND i are tighter than. Ever my

970
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:07,040
Speaker 2: mother is full on no contact essentially has been since

971
00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:09,399
Speaker 2: the whole thing, started barring these sit downs that we've,

972
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:12,359
Speaker 2: had and my ex AND i are talking. Again only

973
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:14,880
Speaker 2: time will, TELL i. Suppose and we have some prelevent.

974
00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:17,160
Speaker 2: Comments hey It's john, here og host. Here we're gonna

975
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:18,600
Speaker 2: get back to the. Stories but here's a quick three

976
00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:21,200
Speaker 2: minute break of ads from more. Sponsors common number one,

977
00:40:21,239 --> 00:40:22,799
Speaker 2: says would you be okay with your? Ex being a

978
00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:24,719
Speaker 2: full no contact with your mom if you guys got back,

979
00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 2: together if that's what she, wanted would you be okay

980
00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:29,279
Speaker 2: with remaining no contacts less low contact with your mother

981
00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:32,279
Speaker 2: for an indeterminate period of time under those, circumstances and

982
00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 2: having a unstompable boundary that should you choose to speak

983
00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:38,200
Speaker 2: with your mother at, all the instance she brings up your,

984
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:40,160
Speaker 2: ex you have to tell her that the conversation is,

985
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:42,759
Speaker 2: over hang, up or leave her. Presence i'm just thinking

986
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:45,279
Speaker 2: about what might make your ex have some confidence that

987
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:48,760
Speaker 2: your mother won't be able to insinuate herself back into your.

988
00:40:48,600 --> 00:40:50,680
Speaker 3: Life and relationship should it, resume.

989
00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:53,520
Speaker 2: Because it sounds like that is her hill to pass away,

990
00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 2: on which is. Unreasonable but that means you need to

991
00:40:56,600 --> 00:40:58,719
Speaker 2: find a way to reassure her that the condition will

992
00:40:58,760 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 2: be met going forward with, you and THAT i THINK

993
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:02,680
Speaker 2: x is a much better person to have in your

994
00:41:02,719 --> 00:41:05,359
Speaker 2: life than your, mom unless your mom suddenly gets her act.

995
00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:07,280
Speaker 2: Together just saying to which, up.

996
00:41:07,120 --> 00:41:09,279
Speaker 1: He, Responds you're one hundred percent. Right i've said as.

997
00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:11,319
Speaker 1: Much he's taking this really well.

998
00:41:11,120 --> 00:41:13,080
Speaker 3: Again he's growing on.

999
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:17,320
Speaker 2: Straight it's clear that mother has put what she wants

1000
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:19,440
Speaker 2: over my own, Happiness so it's up to her to

1001
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:21,799
Speaker 2: make an effort to repair a, relationship not. Me i'm

1002
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:23,759
Speaker 2: just so over. IT x is a genuinely good person

1003
00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:25,920
Speaker 2: and feels guilty about being the point of contention for

1004
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 2: my now strained relationship with my. Mother says THAT i

1005
00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:30,960
Speaker 2: should be able to have a relationship with my partner

1006
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:32,960
Speaker 2: and my, mother AND i, agree but it's my mother

1007
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:35,279
Speaker 2: who's forcing me to make a, choice NOT, x and

1008
00:41:35,320 --> 00:41:37,560
Speaker 2: That i've already chosen Who i'd rather have my.

1009
00:41:37,680 --> 00:41:40,000
Speaker 1: Life and that is where that story.

1010
00:41:40,360 --> 00:41:41,239
Speaker 2: Ends we leave on a.

1011
00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:42,279
Speaker 3: Cliffhanger did they get?

1012
00:41:42,320 --> 00:41:46,360
Speaker 2: Together? No but is it seeming like is there potential there.

1013
00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 1: Apps potentially Potentially yes for.

1014
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:50,719
Speaker 2: Potential, yeah we're at like fifty three.

1015
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:54,440
Speaker 3: MINUTES i could down seven to.

1016
00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:56,880
Speaker 1: Eleven, yeah, yeah IT'S i think we end. THERE i

1017
00:41:56,920 --> 00:41:59,360
Speaker 1: think we end. There, well that was a doozy of a,

1018
00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:04,200
Speaker 1: story absolute. Doozy but, again we love, Growers we love growers.

1019
00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:06,040
Speaker 2: Women wait a, minute, What i'm?

1020
00:42:06,120 --> 00:42:06,560
Speaker 1: Sorry?

1021
00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:08,319
Speaker 2: Sorry what was the title of The.

1022
00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:11,400
Speaker 1: We're finding That i'll read some? Dono, yes, sir so,

1023
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:11,880
Speaker 1: sorry so.

1024
00:42:11,960 --> 00:42:13,600
Speaker 2: Sorry my mother field her grudge against my.

1025
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:17,719
Speaker 1: Girlfriend jen De simeo has been a member of the

1026
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:21,480
Speaker 1: nights for six. Months thank you for being a night.

1027
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:25,719
Speaker 1: Member Sha Cheetah. Luida thanks for the two. Bucks my

1028
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:29,360
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1029
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1030
00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:34,480
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1031
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1032
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:39,480
Speaker 1: god we just.

1033
00:42:39,440 --> 00:42:40,160
Speaker 3: Still got to buy a house.

1034
00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 1: There hey, Yeah, hannah thanks for the fifteen. Bucks it

1035
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:44,840
Speaker 1: might be in and out, tomorrow But i'll try to

1036
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 1: make as much of the live as. Possible you made

1037
00:42:46,719 --> 00:42:51,080
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00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:54,279
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1039
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Speaker 1: Op he shouldn't have brought. Luggage should we give a

1040
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Speaker 1: little A happy?

1041
00:42:57,480 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 5: Birthday happy birthday To happy birthday to. You happy, birthday Dear,

1042
00:43:05,160 --> 00:43:07,799
Speaker 5: Kelsey happy birthday to.

1043
00:43:08,120 --> 00:43:10,920
Speaker 2: You oh, YEAH i love a.

1044
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:13,560
Speaker 1: Birthday? Yeah and righty do we got more of the?

1045
00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:14,960
Speaker 2: STORY i think we? Do we.

1046
00:43:15,040 --> 00:43:18,840
Speaker 4: Do i'm just trying to figure out, one, two three.

1047
00:43:18,760 --> 00:43:21,359
Speaker 2: Or bethany, says. Yeah even if it's too late for this,

1048
00:43:21,440 --> 00:43:23,400
Speaker 2: relationship it could be good for the next that he

1049
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:26,400
Speaker 2: is still learning and, growing which is WHAT i was

1050
00:43:26,560 --> 00:43:31,200
Speaker 2: saying in that it does seem he's taking. Responsibility HE'S

1051
00:43:31,320 --> 00:43:33,759
Speaker 2: i think for, me the big thing is he was

1052
00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:36,000
Speaker 2: trying to grow and improve on, himself even when he

1053
00:43:36,080 --> 00:43:39,480
Speaker 2: knew and accepted that wouldn't be getting the girlfriend. Back

1054
00:43:39,520 --> 00:43:41,520
Speaker 2: he knew, like, HEY i have to just as a

1055
00:43:41,520 --> 00:43:44,200
Speaker 2: person just to, GROW i need to accept responsibility for.

1056
00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:46,239
Speaker 2: This AND i know it might not you, KNOW i

1057
00:43:46,320 --> 00:43:48,319
Speaker 2: might not be able to leverage it to just get

1058
00:43:48,320 --> 00:43:50,400
Speaker 2: WHAT i, want BUT i should still do it. Anyways

1059
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:53,719
Speaker 2: that is. Matured that to, me is is. Something and

1060
00:43:53,760 --> 00:43:56,400
Speaker 2: you're freaking, Welcome Kelsey hoff because you. Rock shout out to,

1061
00:43:56,440 --> 00:43:59,240
Speaker 2: You shout out To peyton and our whole wonderful. Community

1062
00:43:59,320 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 2: just give a round of applause for yourself in the

1063
00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:03,640
Speaker 2: chat and the, comments could we just like clap it

1064
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:06,160
Speaker 2: up for you guys being the greatest people on Planet.

1065
00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:08,400
Speaker 3: Earth because you. Are congratulations you?

1066
00:44:08,480 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 2: Are that's?

1067
00:44:09,239 --> 00:44:09,439
Speaker 3: Right?

1068
00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:12,839
Speaker 4: Yeah, NO i mean is he posted a different one

1069
00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:15,279
Speaker 4: asking is there anything he could do to make it?

1070
00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:17,400
Speaker 4: Work and it just seems like they're they're, Done and

1071
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:20,080
Speaker 4: then he asked questions Like, tinder how DO i swape

1072
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:22,799
Speaker 4: appearing as a top pick after already being swiped and

1073
00:44:22,960 --> 00:44:25,560
Speaker 4: what are some fun getting to know you. Dates he's

1074
00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 4: been a new, woman SO i THINK i think the girlfriend,

1075
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 4: asked are there any new updates about the mom and

1076
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:32,080
Speaker 4: he was like, No so that's.

1077
00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:35,759
Speaker 2: It so it seems like it's over, Now, yeah it's it's.

1078
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:38,960
Speaker 2: Over he's On. Tender, yeah, sorry, right, DUDE i, WAS i,

1079
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Speaker 2: WAS i was rooting for.

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Speaker 1: You, okay well we donkind of have an. Update man's On.

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Speaker 1: Tender he's trying to find love, again and maybe he's still.

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Speaker 2: Growing, maybe and maybe he comes back with an update of, like,

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Speaker 2: HEY i grew as a person in here's here's what happened.

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Speaker 3: There that's someone new about five years.

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Speaker 1: Ago, WELL i think that's where this story and this episode.

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