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Speaker 1: Welcome. You are now listening to the Professional Girl Professional

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Speaker 1: It's your girl, Ebena from the Professional Homegirl podcast, the

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Speaker 1: only place where you would hear interviews from women of

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Speaker 1: You never know these storylines can be someone else's lifeline. Now,

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Speaker 1: please keep in mind that all of my guests are anonymous.

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Speaker 1: So let's begin this week's episode. So, I am super

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Speaker 1: excited about talking to my guests today. She is one

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Speaker 1: of the best mail artists in the game, and today

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Speaker 1: she will be sharing her story on receiving gas fixed

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Speaker 1: sleeve surgery. So to my guests, how are you doing?

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Speaker 1: How you feeling? I'm doing well. I'm feeling really good, energized.

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Speaker 1: You know, skin is glowing, Harris flourishing. Okay, So before

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Speaker 1: you start, when I always think about you, I always

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Speaker 1: think about two things that come to mind. So the

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Speaker 1: one thing on the perst thing that comes to my eyes.

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Speaker 1: Remember when I can do. Get come get my nails

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Speaker 1: done by you. And I was high as hell, and

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Speaker 1: I brought up the whole Batman signal. Oh yeah, wait y'all.

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Speaker 1: So me and my best friend my best friends in

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Speaker 1: town and she came me and get my nails done

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Speaker 1: because this, uh, my guest is the only person I

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Speaker 1: goes to get my nails on whatever. And I was

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Speaker 1: high to tell y'all, and I asked, I'm like, y'all,

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Speaker 1: how long have you been in New York? Then she

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Speaker 1: was like pretty much like how long you saying over

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Speaker 1: ten years or like all your life or some ship. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And I was like seven eight years, right, So I

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Speaker 1: was like right, I'm like, how come we never said

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Speaker 1: a Batman signal? And the way she looked at me,

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Speaker 1: it was like this bitch is on something Like I

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Speaker 1: wasn't gonna judge. So it took you a minute to laugh.

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Speaker 1: But he was like what Yeah, I was like, what

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Speaker 1: is going on? Then the second thing I always remember

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Speaker 1: is so I'm always looking for story, is right? And

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Speaker 1: she told me she had a home girl that had

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Speaker 1: a sex dungeon. And my guests had me go all

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Speaker 1: the way out to Deep and Bush with oh man.

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Speaker 1: But that was a weird and wild nightmare. And I

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Speaker 1: am not shocked at all because that person is very eccentric,

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Speaker 1: very weird and owns their wilderness. So like, we didn't

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Speaker 1: talk about nobody's sex dungeon out. I don't even know

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Speaker 1: what the hell we were talking about. Like it was.

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Speaker 1: I was like, weight this girl, tell me and I'm like,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, it was I think I was at

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Speaker 1: the girl house for like four hours and take that home.

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Speaker 1: It was late, OK. I just remember afterwards just being

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Speaker 1: like damn, I really sent her out there, not knowing

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Speaker 1: knowing what could possibly happen, but also like at all,

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Speaker 1: I was like, now this girl don't like me because

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Speaker 1: that was a weird lass nightmare. I don't even know.

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Speaker 1: I really thought that she was going to give you

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Speaker 1: a lot of insight on everything, but it's it's a

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Speaker 1: hit or miss. Sometimes it was a miss girl. I

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Speaker 1: was so confused. Now, let's talk about who you were

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Speaker 1: before the surgery, because I definitely see a change in

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Speaker 1: your ore. How did you feel about yourself before you

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Speaker 1: had the surgery? Oh my god, I was in a

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Speaker 1: very very very dark place. Um, mainly because um, you

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Speaker 1: know now I'm currently going through a divorce. But at

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Speaker 1: the time, I was, you know, with someone that was

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Speaker 1: be a better day. You just you just got to

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Speaker 1: not think about it. Um, it's not that big of

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Speaker 1: and because in my family, I'm mainly the person that's

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Speaker 1: I didn't feel like myself even at work. Um. My

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Speaker 1: but my job became like a escape m h um,

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Speaker 1: go out. I would always take cards back and forth

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Speaker 1: because also not only was I embarrassed for my family

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Speaker 1: also embarrassed if I were to see someone out and

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Speaker 1: about in the world, if they would see me in

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Speaker 1: the place that I was in. So um, Yeah, it

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Speaker 1: was a dark time. Yeah. And you know what, you

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Speaker 1: never know what people going through because I was going

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Speaker 1: to Herd like on a regular basis, and I never

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Speaker 1: knew that. You Like, I knew that certain things were

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Speaker 1: going on, especially as we got closer, but I didn't

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Speaker 1: know it was to that state with your husband. Mm hmm. Well,

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Speaker 1: because I am, you know, a very private person a

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Speaker 1: lot of a lot of times, like I especially it's

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Speaker 1: the sirens, y'all we in New York child, ye, but yeah,

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Speaker 1: like I I'm always very private when it comes to

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Speaker 1: hard for me to finally, you know, say to anyone like, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm not okay like I UM, but I feel like

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Speaker 1: was even talking about and I would just start talking

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Speaker 1: gibberish and nonsense. Um. And it was one of my

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Speaker 1: clients when times it just kind of was just like

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Speaker 1: don't seem like yourself to hide it, like for some

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Speaker 1: your health? Oh? My god, it affected my health in

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Speaker 1: the sense that I because I became resentful towards this person,

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Speaker 1: like for example, and my my husband and I first

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Speaker 1: got together, I loved cooking and everything um for him,

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Speaker 1: but then because they kind of became um. For one,

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Speaker 1: But for me, it's like, I sometimes work from nine

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Speaker 1: am to nine pm, um. And because nigga, you need

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Speaker 1: to cook exactly. So it's like if you got home

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Speaker 1: at five and I'm getting home at nine, then maybe

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Speaker 1: be like, oh, so what are you making. So because

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Speaker 1: I became so resentful and so annoyed by that, what

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Speaker 1: and even also at work, like because I didn't have

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Speaker 1: ordering fast food. And then because I wasn't getting any

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Speaker 1: wasn't you know, I wasn't being active. It affected my

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Speaker 1: I remember just looking at myself one day and being

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Speaker 1: red flag to me. Walking I couldn't walk more than

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Speaker 1: And it just became to a point where I was

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Speaker 1: like miss, where I was like, you know, like, um,

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Speaker 1: this is not who you are. Yeah. Um, you are

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Speaker 1: someone that enjoys exploring the city. You enjoy um finding

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Speaker 1: stuff like this. And because of your health and because

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Speaker 1: the surgery? Yes? And um, when so normally before you

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Speaker 1: Like what do you need to look nice for? You

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Speaker 1: work at a salon, what does it matter? Um? If

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Speaker 1: I would have appointments to go see like a I

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Speaker 1: remember one time I had to go see a cardiologist,

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Speaker 1: like all of a sudden, something would happen with him

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Speaker 1: my soul focused him. Um. Because you know, anytime anything

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Speaker 1: so you know it was and the doctor that was

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Speaker 1: going to do my surgery actually kind of um. One

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Speaker 1: like you keep moving the appointments, um, or you don't go,

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Speaker 1: or you're not doing the blood work we're asking for,

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Speaker 1: blocked to something because I couldn't just stay to anyone

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Speaker 1: like I have a person that is sabotaging that every

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Speaker 1: like I would make a plan to like have a

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Speaker 1: healthy week and everything. This man would then all of

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Speaker 1: a sudden decide he wanted to cook, and he would

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Speaker 1: was the hardest part. I would say, there's two weeks

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00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:39,320
Speaker 1: to just complete liquid UM. The first two days it

431
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:42,159
Speaker 1: was like literally going through a detox. I was just

432
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:45,560
Speaker 1: I purposely took those days off from work because I

433
00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:48,640
Speaker 1: was like, I know, I'm gonna be a nightmare. Because

434
00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:54,240
Speaker 1: I'll be hungry. Yeah right, so yeah, so like that

435
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:56,320
Speaker 1: process was hard. But then after like the third or

436
00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:58,040
Speaker 1: fourth day, like your body just kind of a just

437
00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:01,240
Speaker 1: and you know, you get used to it. And then

438
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 1: after the surgery, you're still again for two additional weeks

439
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:09,200
Speaker 1: on just liquid. That's really when you lose the majority

440
00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 1: of the way. I feel like in a month, I

441
00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 1: lost thirty pounds. Yeah, and then after those two weeks

442
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:19,480
Speaker 1: that you do just a liquid, then you do two

443
00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:24,359
Speaker 1: weeks of pure mhm. NAT was hard for me because

444
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 1: I'm a texture person and I'm weird about stuff. And

445
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 1: also because you go through this change your taste buds

446
00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:35,480
Speaker 1: change a lot of the things I used to like before.

447
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 1: I no longer wanted nothing to do with um. For example,

448
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:45,399
Speaker 1: like I used to love um, like soup, like Dominican soup.

449
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 1: Time for puree. My grandma remember she made me Dominican

450
00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:54,080
Speaker 1: soup and she purded like the carrots and all the

451
00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:56,840
Speaker 1: vegetables in it and like the meat or whatever, and

452
00:26:56,920 --> 00:26:59,040
Speaker 1: she sat it in front of me and girl like

453
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:04,399
Speaker 1: I meld it and it was like I can't, Like

454
00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:06,879
Speaker 1: I don't know what it is, but I cannot. And

455
00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:10,480
Speaker 1: I remember calling my mom because also to like because

456
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 1: you your body is changing and everything, like you're kind

457
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:16,800
Speaker 1: of hormonal in a way, and I'm like crying on

458
00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:19,320
Speaker 1: the phone. I'm like, I don't want to hurt Grandma's feelings,

459
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:24,119
Speaker 1: but I can't eat O. God, I don't want her

460
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:25,399
Speaker 1: to cry. I don't want her to think that I

461
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 1: don't want her food. And it was literally just my

462
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:32,080
Speaker 1: body no want, like rejected it and no longer even

463
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:34,840
Speaker 1: now it was like fried food like that used to

464
00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:37,240
Speaker 1: be my jam, Like you bring me some fried chicken,

465
00:27:37,359 --> 00:27:39,880
Speaker 1: like I was throwing down Now I can't even look

466
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:45,399
Speaker 1: at it. What yeah, like you're not gonna mess with

467
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 1: this body. Child. And then again like McDonald's one of

468
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:52,479
Speaker 1: my biggest vices, you know, before my surgery, Like I

469
00:27:52,520 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 1: would go to McDonald's every day if I could, right,

470
00:27:56,000 --> 00:28:02,639
Speaker 1: I haven't. I haven't had McDonald's and seven months and

471
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 1: the same thing, like I can't even smell it now.

472
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:08,119
Speaker 1: It smells sour to me. And I know that he

473
00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:10,800
Speaker 1: was to love some McDonald's too, exactly. That's what I'm

474
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:14,480
Speaker 1: saying my clients that like we're shocked because when we

475
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 1: would come here, there would always be a bag of

476
00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:19,920
Speaker 1: McDonald's in the trash, like she don't leave us damn

477
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:23,879
Speaker 1: McDonald's alone, and now like you can't get me to

478
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 1: even get like eat a fry from McDonald's. I'm just curious,

479
00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:34,159
Speaker 1: why did you pick this one over the bypass or

480
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: the band or the bloom Because the balloon and the band. Uh.

481
00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:43,120
Speaker 1: From what I understand, a lot of people will lose

482
00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:47,160
Speaker 1: a significant amount of weight, but then they'll gain it

483
00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 1: back shortly after because it's not permanent. Um. I also

484
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:53,720
Speaker 1: had a family member that had a band and it

485
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:59,920
Speaker 1: like nothing happened. Wow. Um, So for me, I was

486
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:02,200
Speaker 1: just like, you know, if I'm gonna make the commitment

487
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:04,960
Speaker 1: and do the two weeks of you know, just liquid

488
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 1: and everything, I'm just gonna go for the entire thing. Um.

489
00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:13,040
Speaker 1: I'm ready to completely change my lifestyle anyway, Like it

490
00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 1: is what it is, right. So how so, how many

491
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:19,040
Speaker 1: months has it been since you had the surgery? And

492
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 1: how much weight heavy lost? Now? Because if you lost

493
00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 1: thirty pounds and one month, then I know it's crazy. Hmm.

494
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 1: It's been five months and I've lost sixty nine. Oh

495
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:34,520
Speaker 1: that's amazing. And how do you feel? Oh my god,

496
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 1: I feel so good. I was telling people like I

497
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 1: when I found my apartment, Um it was on the

498
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 1: fourth floor, and a year ago I would have been like,

499
00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 1: I'm not going to look at that place like for

500
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 1: what Like my I look forward to running up to

501
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:54,400
Speaker 1: my apartment when I come home, go to my cardios.

502
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:57,240
Speaker 1: Let's get it. Um I just I feel so good.

503
00:29:57,280 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 1: And then even like, um my, my joy and getting

504
00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 1: dressed every day has coming. Before I didn't care. I'd

505
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 1: wear a T shirt and some sweatpants and call it

506
00:30:08,280 --> 00:30:10,479
Speaker 1: a day, or a hoodie and call it today. And

507
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 1: now it's like I've done away with all that, Like

508
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:17,200
Speaker 1: I love to dress up even like now too, I've

509
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 1: been like getting in to finally put a makeup on

510
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,280
Speaker 1: my face again. I know I see it. I'm like

511
00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:25,960
Speaker 1: she got a got a little blush. I feel very good.

512
00:30:26,240 --> 00:30:31,520
Speaker 1: I cannot complain very good. Good, thank you. Listen, my

513
00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:35,960
Speaker 1: bitch got a new body, a new apartment, a year

514
00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:40,920
Speaker 1: about to have a new nigga. Okay, right, God was like, listen,

515
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:44,240
Speaker 1: if you, if you do this and for yourself, you're

516
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 1: gonna see it's just gonna be up from here. And

517
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:52,680
Speaker 1: truly the moment I broke away, like everything has just

518
00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:58,800
Speaker 1: been going so well for me, and I'm so happy

519
00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 1: for you. Now, do you have to do certain things

520
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:05,480
Speaker 1: to maintain the surgery? Like obviously know you have to

521
00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 1: eat good, but do you have a fighting start working

522
00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:11,360
Speaker 1: now or like or does it really matter. Yeah, it's

523
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:15,680
Speaker 1: recommended that you walk a lot so that like blood

524
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:20,200
Speaker 1: clots um also UM. One of the things they tell

525
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:23,160
Speaker 1: you once you have surgeries that you will be taking

526
00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 1: vitamins for life because you eat so much less now

527
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 1: your body doesn't um take in as much protein and

528
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:36,800
Speaker 1: um iron and things like that. So now I do

529
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 1: have to have like a little alarm where I have

530
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:41,280
Speaker 1: to take vitamins all the time and just make sure

531
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:43,960
Speaker 1: that I'm getting my you know, the right portion of

532
00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 1: protein and UM. But yeah, as far as that, like,

533
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:52,600
Speaker 1: you know, it's the UM. The main difference is when

534
00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:55,240
Speaker 1: you eat as well too, Like you have to paste

535
00:31:55,240 --> 00:32:00,480
Speaker 1: yourself and eat really slowly, and once you have the surgery,

536
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 1: like you kind of get used to doing that anyway,

537
00:32:03,080 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 1: because you don't want to over eat because that ship

538
00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 1: is painful as hell. I've never gone through it, but

539
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:11,400
Speaker 1: I've heard from other people that have the surgery and

540
00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:13,320
Speaker 1: they thought in their mind, like, oh, I'm still gonna

541
00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:17,000
Speaker 1: eat the same, I'll just eat less or whatever, and

542
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 1: they end up in the hospital because it hurts that much.

543
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:24,200
Speaker 1: Oh my god, any of that. Because as soon as

544
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 1: I feel full, like I'm done, I'm like, all right,

545
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 1: I'm not even know more. Have you had any complications

546
00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:34,040
Speaker 1: so far or just no? Thank god, I've been really

547
00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 1: good about um. And like I said, like, uh, for

548
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 1: some people, it doesn't their taste. Budds don't change like

549
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 1: minded me thankfully. Like I don't want any of the

550
00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 1: fried food or any of that stuff, Like for a snack.

551
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:49,120
Speaker 1: I want something small that I can like nibble on,

552
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:53,360
Speaker 1: like whereas before, like a snack to me would be

553
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 1: like some fries. Like now I would much rather have

554
00:32:57,040 --> 00:33:02,680
Speaker 1: like almonds or those like little uh cheeses that come

555
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:09,160
Speaker 1: in those little packages whatever, strawberries, pineapples, like more for

556
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:16,040
Speaker 1: fruit and um nuts versus jump food. Right, I'm just curious.

557
00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:17,600
Speaker 1: So if you were to get pregnant, how would that

558
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 1: affect your surgery or does it? They recommend after you

559
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:25,640
Speaker 1: have the surgery, like to commit to not getting pregnant

560
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:28,280
Speaker 1: for a year. If you do get pregnant, then you

561
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 1: have to just be monitored because you know, you're not

562
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 1: getting the amount of vitamins a normal person would get

563
00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:39,400
Speaker 1: during And I knew because I was going through a

564
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 1: divorce and everything like that. I was like, I'm not

565
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:43,000
Speaker 1: gonna I'm not about to be pregnant in a year anyway.

566
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:45,959
Speaker 1: So but imagine if you were to stay and then

567
00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 1: they go to try to get you try to get

568
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:56,120
Speaker 1: you pregnant. Crazy because you know it's true, right y'all

569
00:33:56,320 --> 00:34:01,360
Speaker 1: niggas as wow mm So how it has weight loss

570
00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:03,720
Speaker 1: surgery changed your life? Because I feel like you are

571
00:34:03,760 --> 00:34:08,719
Speaker 1: more confident than ever child, I'm like, yes, um, it

572
00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:11,160
Speaker 1: has changed my life in the sense that it's um,

573
00:34:11,200 --> 00:34:17,000
Speaker 1: I am more confident and I'm less afraid to speak

574
00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:21,080
Speaker 1: um or put myself out there. UM. For a long

575
00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 1: time during you know, my weaking and everything, like, I

576
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 1: had trouble even putting certain content online because I would

577
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:33,640
Speaker 1: analyze it too much and just kind of like I

578
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:36,319
Speaker 1: don't like how I look, and I'm people are going

579
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:39,240
Speaker 1: to be you know, picking apart my skin or whatever.

580
00:34:39,320 --> 00:34:42,439
Speaker 1: And now it's just kind of like I don't really care.

581
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:46,160
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna put it out there. Whoever likes it,

582
00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:48,799
Speaker 1: likes it, who doesn't kiss my ass, I don't care

583
00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:53,799
Speaker 1: right right. Um My sister was like, you are very

584
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:58,839
Speaker 1: mean season right now, and yeah, yeah, a very long

585
00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:02,360
Speaker 1: time living for somebody else and you know, caring for

586
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:07,520
Speaker 1: someone else's opinion. So now it's like, I don't y'all

587
00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:12,800
Speaker 1: look together for a long time, right? Three years? Yeah? Okay,

588
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:17,400
Speaker 1: what makes me happy? Right? What is gonna you know,

589
00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:23,359
Speaker 1: give me joy? That's right? Good for you, man, I'm

590
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 1: so happy for you, y'all. I wish I could see her,

591
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 1: like the skin is on point that. I mean, you

592
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:30,960
Speaker 1: always had nice hair, but it is like flourishing, like

593
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 1: it's growing nice and full. So like I can definitely

594
00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:38,080
Speaker 1: see a change within your demeanor, your or just everything.

595
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:41,279
Speaker 1: Is there anything else that you're looking forward to on

596
00:35:41,320 --> 00:35:46,640
Speaker 1: your new journey? Are you excited about dating? I mean

597
00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:50,799
Speaker 1: I kind of have started dating, but okay, is it

598
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:56,680
Speaker 1: is no secret that New York dating is trash. But

599
00:35:57,000 --> 00:35:59,480
Speaker 1: I you know you know this about me, I always,

600
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:03,600
Speaker 1: you know, am a very positive person and I have faith,

601
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 1: so you know, I know that my soulmate is out

602
00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 1: there and when it happens, it happens. But for right now,

603
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:13,759
Speaker 1: I'm just you know, focused on being the best meat

604
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:20,279
Speaker 1: I feel like that and itself will radiate um so

605
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 1: that when that person does come along, like they're gonna

606
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:27,359
Speaker 1: see that, right, just gonna make them fall in love

607
00:36:27,400 --> 00:36:32,279
Speaker 1: with me. So right right, I'm having fun, but it

608
00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:34,640
Speaker 1: is what it is. I'm just curious. Are you at

609
00:36:34,680 --> 00:36:37,200
Speaker 1: your desire weight? Are you? Are you still going like

610
00:36:37,239 --> 00:36:38,760
Speaker 1: are you do you still want to lose more weight?

611
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:42,120
Speaker 1: I do, but I want to, Like I like being

612
00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:47,400
Speaker 1: thick righty, Like my goal is to get into the

613
00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:52,360
Speaker 1: one hundreds and get to like maybe like one seventy

614
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:56,520
Speaker 1: one sixty between. My doctor's goal is for me to

615
00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:58,239
Speaker 1: get down to one forty. And I'm like, I don't

616
00:36:58,280 --> 00:37:04,640
Speaker 1: know about all that we'll see And how long do

617
00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:06,479
Speaker 1: you think? Like do they give you like a time

618
00:37:06,480 --> 00:37:09,840
Speaker 1: frame when it can happen or it just happens. Usually

619
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 1: it's within a year you get to your desired weight?

620
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:18,799
Speaker 1: So in so yeah, and you know every day like

621
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:24,720
Speaker 1: I feel um differences, Like my hands have completely shrunk,

622
00:37:24,760 --> 00:37:26,960
Speaker 1: like so many of my rings. I've had to get resized,

623
00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:29,319
Speaker 1: so many rings that didn't fit me. I'm able to

624
00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:34,800
Speaker 1: wear now again because my hands are shrunk, my shoulders

625
00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 1: like I can, you know, feel my bones in my

626
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:44,719
Speaker 1: face and my skin is super clear, and um, like

627
00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:47,840
Speaker 1: just how like my clothing fits like in the past obviously,

628
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:50,959
Speaker 1: like sometimes the shirts and stuff to fit kind of tight.

629
00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:53,960
Speaker 1: Now like I don't really have that issue, Like I

630
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:55,919
Speaker 1: can actually buy a size and know that it's gonna

631
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:59,160
Speaker 1: fit me right right right? I know what you look

632
00:37:59,200 --> 00:38:01,200
Speaker 1: in the mirror. You just like like it must feel

633
00:38:01,200 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 1: good to finally see yourself. Yeah, it does, Like I

634
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:08,359
Speaker 1: can't even lie like it feels good to you know,

635
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:12,160
Speaker 1: finally have made the decision, go through the process and

636
00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:16,720
Speaker 1: just see the results and just finally just start seeing

637
00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:21,120
Speaker 1: that light in myself again him and go out and

638
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 1: it's like now it's like bright as ever, right child,

639
00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:31,759
Speaker 1: I know he tight? Oh my god, all like I well,

640
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:34,560
Speaker 1: I blocked him on my phone, so he's still every

641
00:38:34,600 --> 00:38:37,920
Speaker 1: now and then try to contact me on WhatsApp. He

642
00:38:38,040 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 1: makes fake pages constantly because he's blocked on my Instagram.

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Speaker 1: So um, very bitter and upset, but I don't care.

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Speaker 1: You would have done what you were supposed to do

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Speaker 1: and treated me right, It would have never happened. These

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Speaker 1: are your consequences, not mine. And last but not least,

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Speaker 1: what is an advice you would give to those listeners

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Speaker 1: out there that are interested in starting their weight lost journey. UM,

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Speaker 1: make sure you're doing it for yourself first and foremost. UM.

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Speaker 1: Just take it day by day and start the process. Um,

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Speaker 1: just start the process. That's the hardest part is starting. Um.

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Speaker 1: But I you know, if it's something, if your weight

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Speaker 1: has been bothering you, and it's something that, UM, you've

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Speaker 1: been thinking about, do it. Just do it. Because it's

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Speaker 1: the best thing I ever did. Ye do it. No

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Speaker 1: good for you, man, I'm so happy for you. Man.

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you, I see such a big difference in

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Speaker 1: her life, just everything, like how she is on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: Now I'm like, wow, she makes a video she chatting

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Speaker 1: this ship. Yea. Even even like my family, they're like,

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Speaker 1: oh yeah, you're more talkative now, like you're not a shot.

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, well yeah, because now it's like Okay, one,

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Speaker 1: I'm by myself at my house and I'm like, I

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Speaker 1: gotta entertain myself somehow. Right. Well, thank you so much

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Speaker 1: for sharing your story. I'm pretty sure that this is

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Speaker 1: going to resonate with somebody out there because I always

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Speaker 1: do chow. But if I have questions, comments, concerns, and

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Speaker 1: you want to say hey girl, hey hey, Please email

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Speaker 1: me a hello at the PSD podcast dot com. And

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Speaker 1: until next time, everyone, Later, you're not gonna say bye

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Speaker 1: bye everybody,