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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocuslaw dot com. Maya is on the phone

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Speaker 1: today for a first date follow up, and she's getting

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Speaker 1: ghosted by a guy named Aaron. So in a second

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Speaker 1: we're going to call him and see fields house, why

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Speaker 1: is ghostinger? And maybe get her another date if she

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Speaker 1: still wants one. But first, Maya, how long has it

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Speaker 1: been since you heard from Aaron?

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Speaker 2: It's been a month.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I know, a long time. Why do you want

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Speaker 1: to get a hold of him if it's been a

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Speaker 1: whole month?

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Speaker 2: Well, I just really it felt like we had a

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Speaker 2: really good connection. You know. The conversation was really effortless,

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Speaker 2: and we had a lot in common, and he just

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Speaker 2: felt really special. And you know, it's kind of hard

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Speaker 2: to find that some nowadays, you know, and like's hard

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Speaker 2: to meet people and it's hard to really feel that

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Speaker 2: genuine connection. So I thought it was special and I

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Speaker 2: wish she's thinking about him.

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Speaker 1: Have you tried to reach out to him in this time?

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Speaker 2: I have. I reached out to him three times, but

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Speaker 2: I haven't heard to you.

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Speaker 1: What do you say when you reach out?

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Speaker 2: Well, first time, it was like, oh, I had a

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Speaker 2: great time, it was it was really great getting to

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Speaker 2: know you, like to see you again. And then the

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Speaker 2: second time it was pretty much the same, like oh,

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Speaker 2: just you know, just reach out again, you know, just

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Speaker 2: seeing how you're doing. And then the third time I

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Speaker 2: was kind of concerned for his well being because I

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Speaker 2: was like, well, maybe something happened to him, you.

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Speaker 3: Know, and I was thing, it's okay, but I still haven't.

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Speaker 4: Heard anything, and why don't you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 1: How did all of that go?

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Speaker 2: It was great. We had this really cool jazz bar.

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Speaker 2: It was a really romantic atmosphere, and we both were

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Speaker 2: both really into music, so you know, we were listening

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Speaker 2: to music and talking about the music, and then we

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Speaker 2: just really clicked. We shoul had a huge dreams. We

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Speaker 2: had this really nice little boost, so it was really

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Speaker 2: easy to talk and that's about our work of traveling

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Speaker 2: and our where we want to go, like what kind

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Speaker 2: of places we want to go to, and we talked

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Speaker 2: about uh, you know, our pets and our passions and

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Speaker 2: it was really just great.

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Speaker 3: And he was really funny. He was making the laugh

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Speaker 3: and it just kind of felt like we'd known each

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Speaker 3: other for years, you.

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Speaker 2: Know, and we did, uh, we did share a kids

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Speaker 2: at the end of the night.

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Speaker 3: It's asy to you, but I was it was going

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Speaker 3: so well so you know.

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Speaker 1: You sound so giddy right now just reliving it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, I think I could just really felt for him,

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Speaker 5: you know, and then and it was a really good kiss.

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Speaker 1: Do you know like he felt too.

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Speaker 3: I think so.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I I think he I think he did,

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Speaker 2: you know, could be in his eyes and and and

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Speaker 2: he and he said, you know, I had a really

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Speaker 2: great time and I'd like to see you again and

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Speaker 2: just and just really know just the way that uh,

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Speaker 2: the kiss, well, you know it was you know, it

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Speaker 2: started out he had tentative and then got you know,

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Speaker 2: we got kind of into it and and and it

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Speaker 2: just felt so you know, so so natural. You just

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Speaker 2: kind of figure out the angles and everything, and.

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Speaker 1: It just why do you think you're getting ghosted?

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Speaker 2: Well, okay, this is embarrassing, but you know, he was really.

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Speaker 6: Funny, and he was you know, you know, I'm just

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Speaker 6: like taking jokes the whole night and cracking me up.

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Speaker 6: I love a guy with some of humor, you know,

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Speaker 6: And he made this one really funny joke and I

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Speaker 6: laughed so hard, like some smack came out of myself.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if you saw it. I he was

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Speaker 2: kind of looking away, but it's kind of It was

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Speaker 2: dark in the clubs, so maybe he didn't see it

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Speaker 2: and I walked into us real quick. But uh, maybe

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Speaker 3: Maybe he was like, oh, like sorts.

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Speaker 1: A little embarrassing. I mean, I wouldn't go somebody for that,

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Speaker 1: you know. I just take it as a compliment that

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Speaker 1: I made them laugh so hard that they couldn't control

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Speaker 1: their snot Oh that's so cute. All right, Well, we'll

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Speaker 1: see if we can figure it out. We'll play a

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Speaker 1: song come back, and then call him and see if

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Speaker 1: he'll tell us why he is ghosting you and maybe

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Speaker 1: get you another date. Okay, oh, thank you, I appreciate it.

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Speaker 1: Pla us on come back and get your first day

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Speaker 1: follow up the next Right in the middle of today's

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Speaker 1: first date follow up, if you're just joining us, Maya

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Speaker 1: is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a

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Speaker 1: dude named Aaron. So we're about to call him and

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Speaker 1: see if he'll tell us why is ghosting her and

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Speaker 1: maybe get her another date. But first, Maya, why don't

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Speaker 1: you refresh everybody's memory about your date with Erin.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, well it.

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Speaker 2: Was really great. We met up at this really nice

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Speaker 2: jazz bar. We heard some great music, we had a booth,

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Speaker 2: was a really nice intimate date, and we had a

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Speaker 2: nice conversation and he was really funny, and we really

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Speaker 2: hit it off, being a lot in common, and you

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Speaker 2: didn't have a really nice kids at the end of

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Speaker 2: the day. And I'll love to see him again. And

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Speaker 2: I even texted him the shoot time and I just

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Speaker 2: never heard anything back. And it's been about a month.

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Speaker 1: Okay, you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, a little nervous then already.

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Speaker 1: And you think the reason you're getting ghosted is because

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Speaker 1: you blew us, not rocket. I'm saying that. She just

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Speaker 1: said a little came out with big different All Right,

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Speaker 1: here we go. I'm gonna dolla this one number. Hello, Hi,

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Speaker 1: I speak to Aaron. Please.

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Speaker 2: This is Aaron.

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Speaker 1: Aaron, Hey man, how are you? My name is Jewbell.

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Speaker 1: I'm calling from a radio show. It's called the Jebel Show. Hi, Aeron,

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Speaker 1: I'm Nina. Also on the show. Hey, I'm Victoria. How

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Speaker 1: many people live this three?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 1: Okay, and it's a radio show. I don't know if

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Speaker 1: you heard that part. I did okay's have you ever

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Speaker 1: listened to the show before?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 2: Sometimes on my way to work?

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Speaker 1: Okay, cool? Have you ever heard of first date follow

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Speaker 1: up before?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I guess Okay, that's good. Well, guess what erin?

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Speaker 2: I'm on it.

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Speaker 1: You are now the star of one.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 1: Do you have any idea who would email us about you?

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Speaker 7: I might have an idea.

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Speaker 1: I don't really date many people. Okay, who do you

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Speaker 1: think it is?

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Speaker 7: Probably Maya?

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Speaker 1: Guess what erin? You're absolutely correct. My emailed us and

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Speaker 1: told us about your date, and she wants to know

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Speaker 1: why your ghost would you tell us?

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Speaker 7: I'm sure it's kind of crazy timing. So I have

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Speaker 7: real bad anxiety and I'm kind of working through it

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Speaker 7: with my therapist, and we actually in my last session

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Speaker 7: just talked about Maya, And you know, I feel bad

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Speaker 7: for not reaching out and possibly hurting her feelings. But I,

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Speaker 7: you know, I try to, I find myself figure up

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Speaker 7: her text messages, but I just.

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Speaker 3: I just can't.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So your therapist is helping you with that, Like,

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Speaker 4: do you think that you're going to reach out to her?

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 1: Was that part of the plan?

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Speaker 2: That was it.

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Speaker 7: I just haven't been able to you know, forsh that

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Speaker 1: Oh, they just can't call her.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just I don't know what to say.

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Speaker 7: And now it's been about a month and it.

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Speaker 1: Just makes things a little worse.

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Speaker 7: And now I'm on the radio.

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Speaker 4: Maybe it's good timing though, because maybe this will put

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Speaker 4: you in a position to not have to worry about

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Speaker 4: what to say because she wants to know why you're

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Speaker 4: not calling.

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Speaker 1: I guess that helps anxiety or what.

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I have fear of rejection, I guess is what.

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Speaker 2: My therapists said.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Like I said, I.

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Speaker 1: Don't really date much, so when I do date Aaron,

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Speaker 1: have you ever heard of the term cognitive behavior therapy?

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Speaker 1: Uh no, okay, cool, Well I'm going to tell you

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Speaker 1: what it is. So Cognitive behavioral therapy is when if

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Speaker 1: So like if you're scared of jumping into water, does

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Speaker 1: and then you'll be like, Okay, it's not that scary.

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Speaker 2: That sounds terrifying.

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Speaker 1: And the reason that I bring that up to explain

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Speaker 1: and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 8: So okay, hey, good to hear your sorry.

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Speaker 2: I have, you know, well hearing your reason it, I mean,

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Speaker 2: it makes sense, and it doesn't make me relieve because

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Speaker 2: I thought.

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Speaker 3: That you just lost interests and or you.

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Speaker 2: Just didn't want to see me, or I'm theres to myself.

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Speaker 3: No, but it's more of the opposite.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I have you know, I care about you, or

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Speaker 7: I have strong feelings and I'm not sure how to

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Speaker 2: Well, well, I care about you too, and I understand,

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Speaker 2: but just you know, it did really hurt my feelings

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Speaker 2: when I never heard anything from you, and then, I know,

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Speaker 2: anxiety very hard to work through, you know. I sometimes

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Speaker 2: I think it can be an excuse, you know, not

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Speaker 2: to tell your true feelings.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I just.

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Speaker 7: I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings or my own.

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Speaker 3: U So I just yeah, So so is it an you?

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Speaker 7: I mean no, No, I really liked you. I really

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Speaker 7: like you, and I'd like to, you know, hang out.

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Speaker 3: But it's it's tough. Oh, I understand, and I don't

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Speaker 2: I didn't think you were awkward at all when we

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Speaker 2: had our date. I thought it was great and the

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Speaker 2: conversation was great, and you were really charming and funny

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Speaker 2: and and i'd like to see you again. And I'm

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Speaker 2: willing to work with you, you know, and the understanding.

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Speaker 3: Just seeing how much I was sweating.

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Speaker 1: To go out with Mia again. We'll pay for it. Yeah, absolutely,

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Speaker 1: you look at that. That's exciting. You got a second date, Maya,

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Speaker 1: and we here to Aaron's fear of rejection. Isn't that amazing?

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Speaker 3: Maybe I should pay you guys.

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Speaker 2: Dole's first Date follow up