WEBVTT - Prune your goals

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to prune your goals. You may be

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<v Speaker 1>holding onto goals or intentions that you don't actually intend

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<v Speaker 1>to do, or that no longer makes sense for your life.

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<v Speaker 1>Best to acknowledge that and let them go so you

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<v Speaker 1>can focus on the ones that do matter. Around this

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<v Speaker 1>time of year, late summer, my yard starts looking a

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<v Speaker 1>little overgrown. The bushes along the front walkway grows so

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<v Speaker 1>thick that it is almost impossible to walk through them.

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<v Speaker 1>They are lovely bushes, but not in that form. Time

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<v Speaker 1>to prune them back. The same thing happens in a

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<v Speaker 1>way with goals. Lots of people make New Year's resolutions

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<v Speaker 1>in late December or early January. Some people set a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of goals just in the course of life, like

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<v Speaker 1>let me read fifty books this year, or meditate for

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<v Speaker 1>thirty minutes a day, or pick up my watercolor paints again.

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<v Speaker 1>Whether people keep these goals is a different matter. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>we don't even think about them after a while, but

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<v Speaker 1>they're kind of there as expectations, lovely in some form,

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<v Speaker 1>but blocking up the sidewalk when there are too many

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<v Speaker 1>of them left untended. If that sounds familiar, the middle

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<v Speaker 1>of the year is a great time for a reckoning.

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<v Speaker 1>Not because I want anyone to feel bad about whether

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<v Speaker 1>they are harboring unmet expectations for themselves, but because it's

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<v Speaker 1>good to be honest about whether goals are actually goals

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<v Speaker 1>or not. Let's say that in Anuary, you decided to

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<v Speaker 1>read fifty books this year. You pull out your list

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<v Speaker 1>of resolutions and realize you can only remember finishing a

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<v Speaker 1>handful of books since winter. How do you feel about that?

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<v Speaker 1>If you feel somewhat oppressed by this resolution and start

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<v Speaker 1>explaining to yourself why it just hasn't been able to work, well,

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<v Speaker 1>how about deciding to prune this goal from your list.

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<v Speaker 1>You can decide that there are lots of ways to

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<v Speaker 1>spend your time. Maybe reading isn't a top priority right now.

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<v Speaker 1>It's fine. You don't have to walk around with the

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<v Speaker 1>expectation that you will read any more books this year.

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<v Speaker 1>If you read a book, it's just because you want

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<v Speaker 1>to read that particular book, not because you are aiming

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<v Speaker 1>for a particular number. On the other hand, if seeing

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<v Speaker 1>this resolution reminds you that there are a ton of

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<v Speaker 1>books you actually do want to read, including one that's

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<v Speaker 1>on your nightstand right now. Well, why not take that

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<v Speaker 1>as a nudge, set a revised goal of reading for

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<v Speaker 1>at least twenty minutes a day, four days per week.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not your original goal, but it might be more reasonable,

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<v Speaker 1>And then put the list down and go pick up

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<v Speaker 1>that book you thought looked good. A little progress is

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<v Speaker 1>often enough to get back in the habit. Fresh starts

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<v Speaker 1>are great, but they often make us think we are

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<v Speaker 1>going to change everything, And the truth is that we

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<v Speaker 1>aren't going to change everything. Indeed, we don't need to

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<v Speaker 1>change everything because I am guessing that your life is

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<v Speaker 1>pretty good. Taking a few minutes to consider which goals

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<v Speaker 1>still inspire you and which just don't can allow you

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<v Speaker 1>to focus your energy on the ones that you do

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<v Speaker 1>feel like going all in on. Prune your goals and

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<v Speaker 1>you'll make a beautiful garden. I will mention here that

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<v Speaker 1>revisiting your goals may also reveal that you're doing better

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<v Speaker 1>than you think you are. I recently did a Midsummer

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<v Speaker 1>check in on my Summer fun list. Every year, I

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<v Speaker 1>make a list of activities that makes summer feel like summer.

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<v Speaker 1>To me, I felt like maybe I wasn't making progress

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<v Speaker 1>on this list, but it turned out that I pretty

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<v Speaker 1>much was. There were only a few items on the

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<v Speaker 1>list that weren't on my calendar yet, so I can

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<v Speaker 1>choose to focus on those, and since there are only

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<v Speaker 1>a few of them, they will probably get done. So today,

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<v Speaker 1>check in with any goals that you are holding onto,

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<v Speaker 1>just like a gardener, see if a little pruning would

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<v Speaker 1>improve matters. If the list is overgrown and unwieldy, then

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<v Speaker 1>it won't serve you. But if it is well pruned,

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<v Speaker 1>you can see the flowers with enough space around them

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<v Speaker 1>to highlight them. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening, and here's to making the most of our time.

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