Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.
Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.
Speaker 1: Today's tip is to prune your goals. You may be
Speaker 1: holding onto goals or intentions that you don't actually intend
Speaker 1: to do, or that no longer makes sense for your life.
Speaker 1: Best to acknowledge that and let them go so you
Speaker 1: can focus on the ones that do matter. Around this
Speaker 1: time of year, late summer, my yard starts looking a
Speaker 1: little overgrown. The bushes along the front walkway grows so
Speaker 1: thick that it is almost impossible to walk through them.
Speaker 1: They are lovely bushes, but not in that form. Time
Speaker 1: to prune them back. The same thing happens in a
Speaker 1: way with goals. Lots of people make New Year's resolutions
Speaker 1: in late December or early January. Some people set a
Speaker 1: lot of goals just in the course of life, like
Speaker 1: let me read fifty books this year, or meditate for
Speaker 1: thirty minutes a day, or pick up my watercolor paints again.
Speaker 1: Whether people keep these goals is a different matter. Sometimes
Speaker 1: we don't even think about them after a while, but
Speaker 1: they're kind of there as expectations, lovely in some form,
Speaker 1: but blocking up the sidewalk when there are too many
Speaker 1: of them left untended. If that sounds familiar, the middle
Speaker 1: of the year is a great time for a reckoning.
Speaker 1: Not because I want anyone to feel bad about whether
Speaker 1: they are harboring unmet expectations for themselves, but because it's
Speaker 1: good to be honest about whether goals are actually goals
Speaker 1: or not. Let's say that in Anuary, you decided to
Speaker 1: read fifty books this year. You pull out your list
Speaker 1: of resolutions and realize you can only remember finishing a
Speaker 1: handful of books since winter. How do you feel about that?
Speaker 1: If you feel somewhat oppressed by this resolution and start
Speaker 1: explaining to yourself why it just hasn't been able to work, well,
Speaker 1: how about deciding to prune this goal from your list.
Speaker 1: You can decide that there are lots of ways to
Speaker 1: spend your time. Maybe reading isn't a top priority right now.
Speaker 1: It's fine. You don't have to walk around with the
Speaker 1: expectation that you will read any more books this year.
Speaker 1: If you read a book, it's just because you want
Speaker 1: to read that particular book, not because you are aiming
Speaker 1: for a particular number. On the other hand, if seeing
Speaker 1: this resolution reminds you that there are a ton of
Speaker 1: books you actually do want to read, including one that's
Speaker 1: on your nightstand right now. Well, why not take that
Speaker 1: as a nudge, set a revised goal of reading for
Speaker 1: at least twenty minutes a day, four days per week.
Speaker 1: It's not your original goal, but it might be more reasonable,
Speaker 1: And then put the list down and go pick up
Speaker 1: that book you thought looked good. A little progress is
Speaker 1: often enough to get back in the habit. Fresh starts
Speaker 1: are great, but they often make us think we are
Speaker 1: going to change everything, And the truth is that we
Speaker 1: aren't going to change everything. Indeed, we don't need to
Speaker 1: change everything because I am guessing that your life is
Speaker 1: pretty good. Taking a few minutes to consider which goals
Speaker 1: still inspire you and which just don't can allow you
Speaker 1: to focus your energy on the ones that you do
Speaker 1: feel like going all in on. Prune your goals and
Speaker 1: you'll make a beautiful garden. I will mention here that
Speaker 1: revisiting your goals may also reveal that you're doing better
Speaker 1: than you think you are. I recently did a Midsummer
Speaker 1: check in on my Summer fun list. Every year, I
Speaker 1: make a list of activities that makes summer feel like summer.
Speaker 1: To me, I felt like maybe I wasn't making progress
Speaker 1: on this list, but it turned out that I pretty
Speaker 1: much was. There were only a few items on the
Speaker 1: list that weren't on my calendar yet, so I can
Speaker 1: choose to focus on those, and since there are only
Speaker 1: a few of them, they will probably get done. So today,
Speaker 1: check in with any goals that you are holding onto,
Speaker 1: just like a gardener, see if a little pruning would
Speaker 1: improve matters. If the list is overgrown and unwieldy, then
Speaker 1: it won't serve you. But if it is well pruned,
Speaker 1: you can see the flowers with enough space around them
Speaker 1: to highlight them. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks
Speaker 1: for listening, and here's to making the most of our time.
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