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Speaker 2: Now I'm telling you, make a full.

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Speaker 3: Toddler tantrum onum.

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Speaker 1: Yes, that's a good one because I feel like they're

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Speaker 3: Or like bark at them. I think I saw on

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Speaker 3: TikTok someone barked and that worked. Whatever.

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Speaker 2: Oh I got y'all. These are good.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but come for me in the Trader Joe's parking lot.

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Speaker 1: See I guess on twitter BA podcast and let us know,

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Speaker 1: like what ways do you like get out of like

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Speaker 3: took a turn there, But thank you for your question

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Speaker 3: and thanks for listening to the show. We appreciate y'all.

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