1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:06,360 Speaker 1: Conversations on life, style, beauty, and relationships. It's The Velvet's 2 00:00:06,400 --> 00:00:09,719 Speaker 1: Edge podcast with Kelly Henderson. Well, look who's gracing us 3 00:00:09,720 --> 00:00:14,680 Speaker 1: in this presence on a Wednesday. I was just saying 4 00:00:14,720 --> 00:00:17,840 Speaker 1: to you, it's like one of those things because we're 5 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 1: recording in the morning today, and um, I'm not a 6 00:00:21,600 --> 00:00:25,560 Speaker 1: morning person, are you? I mean, I love the morning, 7 00:00:25,720 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 1: but I struggle with it sometimes. I've been trying to 8 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:30,000 Speaker 1: I've been trying to get up earlier and go to 9 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:32,640 Speaker 1: bed earlier, but it's hard. It's hard to switch and 10 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:35,600 Speaker 1: know if you get off, then you're like, I can't 11 00:00:35,720 --> 00:00:38,240 Speaker 1: find getting back and sync with that. I can get 12 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 1: up early, it's just like I can't necessarily form thoughts early, 13 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:46,120 Speaker 1: and so recording a podcast is a little tricky when 14 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:48,440 Speaker 1: all you have is your voice and your thoughts. Oh 15 00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 1: my gosh, that is and we will always have both 16 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:55,200 Speaker 1: of this, hopefully if we're like, that's something to be 17 00:00:55,200 --> 00:00:57,320 Speaker 1: grateful for every day that we have a voice in 18 00:00:57,320 --> 00:01:00,880 Speaker 1: our thoughts. So you look at that, what a transition. 19 00:01:02,400 --> 00:01:06,120 Speaker 1: The list gross this month is all about gratitude. Obviously, 20 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:09,399 Speaker 1: it was Thanksgiving last week, and um, you and I 21 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:12,399 Speaker 1: have just decided to put the focus on ways to 22 00:01:12,440 --> 00:01:16,880 Speaker 1: be grateful that weren't necessarily like the cheesy woo woo 23 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:21,320 Speaker 1: to use your word way of expressing gratitude, or like 24 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 1: the things that people usually talk about when they talk 25 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:24,720 Speaker 1: about gratitude. We try to do a little bit of 26 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 1: his twist this month, and I actually loved it. It 27 00:01:27,240 --> 00:01:30,600 Speaker 1: really kind of made me pause and think about that 28 00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:33,720 Speaker 1: stuff almost every day. Did you have a good experience 29 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:37,399 Speaker 1: with this month's topic? I did. Um. I had a 30 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:39,760 Speaker 1: really interesting thing happened to me on Sunday that I 31 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 1: started to text you about and then I was like, 32 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna save it because that's something that we um, 33 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 1: we're really guilty of. It's like we'll get on the 34 00:01:48,840 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 1: zoom and then we start talking about the podcast and 35 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:53,880 Speaker 1: then we don't record it, and we do the podcast 36 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 1: before the podcast. But on so Sunday was the end 37 00:01:57,840 --> 00:02:02,760 Speaker 1: of the Thanksgiving break, I'd basically um done nothing like 38 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 1: from when from Wednesday to Sunday, I went to friend 39 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:11,360 Speaker 1: a friend's house, which I'll come back to on Thanksgiving 40 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:14,560 Speaker 1: because there's a funny story there too. But other than 41 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 1: like going down to our friend's house for Thanksgiving dinner, 42 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 1: like I really didn't do anything, Like I gave myself 43 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 1: the space to like just sink into my couch catch 44 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:28,440 Speaker 1: up on TV, like be a blob. I did, like 45 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:30,359 Speaker 1: I power washed the back of my house. I did 46 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:36,079 Speaker 1: my deck like you know, okay, nothing, but I didn't 47 00:02:36,120 --> 00:02:39,120 Speaker 1: see anybody. I didn't make an effort to like go out, 48 00:02:39,320 --> 00:02:42,240 Speaker 1: like I just wanted to like disappear for a few 49 00:02:42,280 --> 00:02:46,920 Speaker 1: days and rest. And on Sunday evening I almost had 50 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:53,800 Speaker 1: a full boon planic attack because I started thinking about um, 51 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:56,720 Speaker 1: being alone and all of the things I could have 52 00:02:56,760 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 1: gotten done and all that time and all of because 53 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:02,640 Speaker 1: I still have left to do, and like it was 54 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 1: one of those things where it was like and I 55 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:06,560 Speaker 1: and I had to I knew I was preparing to 56 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 1: deliver some bad news too, so I think there was 57 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 1: that too, like um, and it just escalated and I 58 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:19,160 Speaker 1: was like, Okay, what did Kelly say about being gratitude 59 00:03:19,320 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 1: and stress? You can't mechanics, Yeah, like you can't have 60 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:27,399 Speaker 1: the same emotion at once. And I like I could 61 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:29,600 Speaker 1: feel a real and I don't have panic attacks, like 62 00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:31,760 Speaker 1: I've had two in my whole life, and I could 63 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:33,360 Speaker 1: feel that it was going there, and I was like 64 00:03:33,480 --> 00:03:35,160 Speaker 1: I know how this is gonna roll. Like I'm not 65 00:03:35,160 --> 00:03:37,160 Speaker 1: gonna sleep tonight, I'm gonna be in my head all night. 66 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 1: And I was like it made me realize in that moment, 67 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:44,200 Speaker 1: like I'm not I don't put enough thought into the 68 00:03:44,240 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 1: things that I'm grateful about, because like, um, I just 69 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:50,480 Speaker 1: don't put a lot of thought into a lot of things, 70 00:03:50,480 --> 00:03:53,880 Speaker 1: to be honest, you know, like I don't. Yeah, I 71 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 1: just go and I'm not one of those people that 72 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:58,120 Speaker 1: sits around and reflect my I didn't grow up in 73 00:03:58,360 --> 00:04:00,760 Speaker 1: a household where we talked about feeling and stuff like 74 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 1: I do feel. You know, I'm a deeply emotional person 75 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 1: and I feel, but I keep a lot of it 76 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:08,360 Speaker 1: to myself and I don't even have conversations with myself 77 00:04:08,400 --> 00:04:10,920 Speaker 1: about it. So but it made me realize in that moment, 78 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:16,040 Speaker 1: like I need to be better about like really recognizing 79 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 1: the things that I'm grateful for, because in that moment, 80 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:21,320 Speaker 1: I had to google, like what are things that I 81 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:24,440 Speaker 1: should be grateful for? Because I needed a guide. I 82 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:27,719 Speaker 1: needed like what are the things that like? And then 83 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:30,039 Speaker 1: I like it gave me that guide and I like 84 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 1: looked down and I'm like I just got to spend 85 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:35,080 Speaker 1: five days snuggling with my dogs. I've been in this 86 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:38,240 Speaker 1: beautiful home with the roof over my head. No one 87 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:41,360 Speaker 1: fucking bothered me, you know, like there were all these 88 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:44,359 Speaker 1: amazing things, and I kind of talked myself out of 89 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 1: a panic attack. I mean, I still ended up not 90 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:48,880 Speaker 1: sleeping because I had so much on my mind, but 91 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:52,480 Speaker 1: I was like, wow, this works. You're like, oh my god, 92 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 1: we're not just actually saying. And I was also able 93 00:04:56,600 --> 00:04:59,960 Speaker 1: to flip, like, the reason why you're sad isn't becau 94 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:02,719 Speaker 1: as you're alone. It's because you weren't with the people 95 00:05:02,760 --> 00:05:05,680 Speaker 1: that you love, like I wasn't able to be. I mean, 96 00:05:05,920 --> 00:05:07,880 Speaker 1: it was a choice that I didn't go home because 97 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:09,440 Speaker 1: the travel would have been a nightmare and all of 98 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:14,160 Speaker 1: the things. But you know, it wasn't that I was alone. 99 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:16,720 Speaker 1: It was that I didn't go see my family, and 100 00:05:16,760 --> 00:05:19,080 Speaker 1: that was a choice, and I'm not alone, and I 101 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:21,839 Speaker 1: was able to sort of flip that script. But it 102 00:05:21,920 --> 00:05:26,320 Speaker 1: was a really interesting like exercise that made me realize, like, 103 00:05:26,520 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 1: you know, sometimes you just need to like stop and 104 00:05:28,680 --> 00:05:35,160 Speaker 1: look and um and make your problems go away, because 105 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 1: there's so many things that are not problematic. And I 106 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 1: know that's easier said than done, and people have much 107 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 1: bigger problems than I do. Um, but it was like 108 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: one of those things where I felt like I was 109 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:49,159 Speaker 1: about to lose control of it, and I, you know, 110 00:05:49,240 --> 00:05:51,920 Speaker 1: I never really feel out of control. So it's like 111 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: that's also like a scary loop to like feel like 112 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 1: you're once it starts to it just spirals because you're like, 113 00:05:57,960 --> 00:05:59,680 Speaker 1: oh my god, then I feel all these things and 114 00:05:59,720 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 1: I'm losing power and blah blah blah, started doubting yourself 115 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:06,159 Speaker 1: and it's yeah, it's like it could have been really nasty, 116 00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:09,400 Speaker 1: but um, I was able to just go to gratitude. 117 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: I was like, I have to think of the things 118 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:14,359 Speaker 1: that I'm grateful for, and it really helped. Yeah, that 119 00:06:14,560 --> 00:06:17,839 Speaker 1: is I'm so glad that we gave like an action stuff. 120 00:06:17,920 --> 00:06:20,200 Speaker 1: That's like my favorite thing when people can walk away 121 00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 1: from the podcast and they have a tangible thing to 122 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 1: apply to their life. And so I mean it was 123 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:29,080 Speaker 1: you that's me. That's even better. UM, I had a 124 00:06:29,120 --> 00:06:33,160 Speaker 1: similar experience. I think the interesting thing about like holidays 125 00:06:33,240 --> 00:06:36,080 Speaker 1: as you get older is it does become more difficult 126 00:06:36,160 --> 00:06:41,160 Speaker 1: to travel for both Thanksgiving and Christmas, and UM, for me, 127 00:06:41,400 --> 00:06:44,919 Speaker 1: I know, like Thanksgiving always is the busiest time, Like 128 00:06:45,160 --> 00:06:47,920 Speaker 1: November is just a busy month work wise, and so 129 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:51,480 Speaker 1: I had so much travel the week before Thanksgiving and 130 00:06:51,560 --> 00:06:54,360 Speaker 1: then like my mom is coming this week, so it's 131 00:06:54,360 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 1: like the week after Thanksgiving, so it just felt like 132 00:06:56,360 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 1: a lot to try to like fly home. I'm also 133 00:06:58,839 --> 00:07:01,640 Speaker 1: going home for Christmas. The last couple of years, I've 134 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 1: actually just spent Thanksgiving in Nashville, and um, last year 135 00:07:06,440 --> 00:07:09,480 Speaker 1: and this year, like I'm not in a relationship, you know, 136 00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:11,160 Speaker 1: like I mean you're by yourself and a lot of 137 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:13,320 Speaker 1: people go to their family stuff. I ended up going 138 00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 1: over to one of our friend's houses and it was 139 00:07:15,400 --> 00:07:18,200 Speaker 1: so great. But I've had to kind of switch the 140 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:20,360 Speaker 1: narrative in my head sort of like what you're saying, 141 00:07:21,080 --> 00:07:24,920 Speaker 1: um about you know, not being with my family or 142 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:26,640 Speaker 1: when you've done something for so long, it's just like 143 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:29,120 Speaker 1: the tradition is what you're so connected to, and then 144 00:07:29,120 --> 00:07:31,200 Speaker 1: you feel a little empty when you don't do it. 145 00:07:31,720 --> 00:07:35,000 Speaker 1: But it's also like a rewiring and a perspective switch, 146 00:07:35,280 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 1: because this year I was like great with it. Last 147 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:40,920 Speaker 1: year was a little tricky, but um, what you're talking 148 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:43,600 Speaker 1: about with gratitude, I really just think, you know, they're 149 00:07:43,600 --> 00:07:46,600 Speaker 1: are All those things are always there. We just don't 150 00:07:46,640 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: have the right or the perspective about it all the 151 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:53,200 Speaker 1: time to either notice or to like not get stressed 152 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 1: about the problems that we have or anything like that. 153 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:58,280 Speaker 1: So if we can just take a minute, like you said, 154 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 1: and just pause, it's life changing, truly. Yeah, I mean, 155 00:08:03,600 --> 00:08:08,400 Speaker 1: it really is life changing. Um. And it's also like 156 00:08:09,120 --> 00:08:12,880 Speaker 1: when you're on the other side of it, you feel better, like, yes, 157 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:16,559 Speaker 1: you know, suddenly you you can look at the people 158 00:08:16,600 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 1: that you thought about, or your pets or your house, 159 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:23,400 Speaker 1: like you can look at it differently after you've kind 160 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:27,720 Speaker 1: of given yourself the grace to even admit that you 161 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:30,880 Speaker 1: have those good things. You know, Like I think about 162 00:08:30,920 --> 00:08:32,600 Speaker 1: all the time, like when I'm like, why is my 163 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:34,160 Speaker 1: mom calling me during the middle of the day, And 164 00:08:34,160 --> 00:08:37,800 Speaker 1: I'm like, thank god my mom can still call me, 165 00:08:38,040 --> 00:08:40,079 Speaker 1: you know, like there will there will be a day 166 00:08:40,080 --> 00:08:42,160 Speaker 1: when I wish my mom will call me different to 167 00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:46,560 Speaker 1: day and she won't be around. So um, it's those 168 00:08:46,720 --> 00:08:48,720 Speaker 1: little moments in your life where you've got to be like, 169 00:08:49,559 --> 00:08:53,520 Speaker 1: you gotta be grateful for what you do have. That 170 00:08:53,559 --> 00:08:55,560 Speaker 1: doesn't mean that you can't want things that you don't 171 00:08:55,640 --> 00:08:57,719 Speaker 1: have either, Like I don't you know, it's like, well, 172 00:08:57,720 --> 00:09:00,240 Speaker 1: I think that's like part of even gratitude, as this 173 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:02,679 Speaker 1: is great and I want to expand on it, you know, 174 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:05,479 Speaker 1: but like noticing the things that make you feel so positive. 175 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:07,640 Speaker 1: Why did you just take a hot sip of coffee? God, 176 00:09:07,679 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 1: I thought I burned the roof of my mouth. He 177 00:09:10,280 --> 00:09:13,760 Speaker 1: just made the funny like whatever I'm saying is not 178 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:20,199 Speaker 1: that shock face. Um, I don't remember what I was 179 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:23,600 Speaker 1: talking about. Basically, just like the perspective of opening yourself 180 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:27,640 Speaker 1: up to gratitude, I think actually can make us realize 181 00:09:27,679 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 1: the things that we really enjoy in our lives too, 182 00:09:30,760 --> 00:09:33,640 Speaker 1: like and or the ways that we get in our 183 00:09:33,679 --> 00:09:37,200 Speaker 1: own way, Like I had an angiogram expert on this month, 184 00:09:37,280 --> 00:09:40,800 Speaker 1: Katie goose Stuffs and goose Stuffs and you guys listen 185 00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:42,560 Speaker 1: to the podcast and understand why that's funny that I 186 00:09:42,559 --> 00:09:46,560 Speaker 1: still can't pronounce it. Um. But anyway, she came on 187 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 1: and talked about the different numbers and like how there's 188 00:09:50,559 --> 00:09:53,199 Speaker 1: certain ways we get in our own way with gratitude, 189 00:09:53,240 --> 00:09:55,240 Speaker 1: and like my number, a lot of it is like 190 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:57,800 Speaker 1: sometimes I get stuck in the heart emotions and we 191 00:09:57,880 --> 00:09:59,800 Speaker 1: all know this about me, like all my friends is 192 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:04,080 Speaker 1: too um because I just feel so deeply and so 193 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:07,760 Speaker 1: like I and I'm comfortable feeling a range of emotions, 194 00:10:07,760 --> 00:10:10,839 Speaker 1: and so sometimes it can feel like I get stuck 195 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:13,440 Speaker 1: only thinking about the hard part. So for me, it's 196 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:16,959 Speaker 1: really important to actually take the pause that you're talking 197 00:10:16,960 --> 00:10:22,120 Speaker 1: about and say, like, Okay, this does suck, and there's 198 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:25,720 Speaker 1: like all of these other ways that my life is 199 00:10:25,720 --> 00:10:29,560 Speaker 1: great right now, or look at the things that like, Okay, 200 00:10:29,600 --> 00:10:33,120 Speaker 1: well this sucks, but I realized this, you know, I 201 00:10:33,240 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 1: love being in a relationship. To say I'm not in 202 00:10:35,400 --> 00:10:37,319 Speaker 1: a relationship, let's use that as example, and I'm like, 203 00:10:37,360 --> 00:10:40,400 Speaker 1: well this sucks. Breakup suck, this is painful. But what 204 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:42,960 Speaker 1: I realized is I love being in a relationship. Or 205 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:45,720 Speaker 1: you know, there's always a shift that you can kind 206 00:10:45,720 --> 00:10:48,720 Speaker 1: of tell yourself. And it was really helpful for me 207 00:10:48,800 --> 00:10:52,360 Speaker 1: to hear her talk through each number's way of like 208 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:54,840 Speaker 1: getting in their own way, because it's like you can't 209 00:10:54,880 --> 00:10:59,240 Speaker 1: change anything without awareness. So once you realize that, you're like, oh, 210 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:02,760 Speaker 1: I'm doing the thing. Yeah, how can I like shift 211 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:04,600 Speaker 1: the narrative in my head? And a lot of times 212 00:11:04,600 --> 00:11:08,040 Speaker 1: it's to go to gratitude. Yeah, I mean I also 213 00:11:08,120 --> 00:11:12,360 Speaker 1: realized in that moment that, like, I have a fear 214 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:17,920 Speaker 1: of negative, Like I never want the opposite of me, 215 00:11:18,880 --> 00:11:22,000 Speaker 1: like I I haven't. Yeah, I'm like I will power 216 00:11:22,120 --> 00:11:26,400 Speaker 1: through and make myself happy and sadness. Um. And I 217 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:29,520 Speaker 1: think it is really important to allow yourself to feel 218 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:34,840 Speaker 1: sad because it makes the happy times better. I mean, 219 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:39,560 Speaker 1: I like, I definitely don't like I don't ever feel 220 00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:42,400 Speaker 1: like I'm faking my happiness. Like I'm like it has 221 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:45,800 Speaker 1: never put on. But I have a way of like 222 00:11:45,960 --> 00:11:50,880 Speaker 1: seeing the bright side of everything and and so that. Yeah, 223 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:55,800 Speaker 1: so that means when I when negative emotions start to 224 00:11:55,840 --> 00:11:58,640 Speaker 1: come up, like I'm I've learned really how to push 225 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:02,840 Speaker 1: them down. Sometimes. I think it's important for growth to 226 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:05,320 Speaker 1: like recognize some of the things that you don't like 227 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:07,640 Speaker 1: about yourself, or that you're not proud about yourself, or 228 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:12,560 Speaker 1: things that do make you sad. And um, you know 229 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:14,360 Speaker 1: it's because then it does it makes the things that 230 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:17,840 Speaker 1: make you happy or so much more clear. Right. Um. 231 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:21,120 Speaker 1: So I was battling that too, because I, you know, 232 00:12:21,200 --> 00:12:23,480 Speaker 1: I kind of wanted to be a little sad, you know, 233 00:12:23,679 --> 00:12:26,600 Speaker 1: like I wanted to feel it. Yeah, I wanted to 234 00:12:26,679 --> 00:12:29,760 Speaker 1: feel it, but it's like it's scary, Like it feels 235 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:33,360 Speaker 1: like a panic attack. See that's so interesting that to me, 236 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:36,960 Speaker 1: that's like one of the benefits of my number that 237 00:12:37,040 --> 00:12:40,079 Speaker 1: I didn't necessarily see. And so since we're talking about gratitude, 238 00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:42,800 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna go ahead and bring this up. But like, 239 00:12:42,800 --> 00:12:46,720 Speaker 1: like as a four, I am really okay, Like I 240 00:12:46,720 --> 00:12:49,520 Speaker 1: don't want to feel sad, but it doesn't scare me. Like, 241 00:12:49,880 --> 00:12:52,960 Speaker 1: but I didn't realize not every Like I can't comprehend 242 00:12:53,520 --> 00:12:56,080 Speaker 1: that people are scared of that because I don't get it. 243 00:12:56,360 --> 00:13:00,120 Speaker 1: But I'm starting to understand. Oh, like this is overwhelming 244 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:03,080 Speaker 1: for other people to feel this way. Um, And so 245 00:13:03,120 --> 00:13:05,880 Speaker 1: it's a gift that I can actually give my friends 246 00:13:05,920 --> 00:13:08,040 Speaker 1: and people that I know that like I can sit 247 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:10,600 Speaker 1: with them and that and support them through that and 248 00:13:10,679 --> 00:13:12,480 Speaker 1: not be scared of it like a lot of other 249 00:13:12,520 --> 00:13:14,560 Speaker 1: people do and not need to like flip it for 250 00:13:14,600 --> 00:13:18,000 Speaker 1: a minute, like if you need to feel the heavy emotion, 251 00:13:18,360 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 1: like I'm not going to try to talk you out 252 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:24,520 Speaker 1: of it, like let's feel it, right, but are scared 253 00:13:24,559 --> 00:13:27,120 Speaker 1: of it? You know for me? And I don't know 254 00:13:27,120 --> 00:13:31,000 Speaker 1: if anyone shares this. But like I and I go 255 00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:33,760 Speaker 1: to this place like where I am worried that I 256 00:13:33,800 --> 00:13:36,360 Speaker 1: will be sad forever. You'll get stuck if you feel 257 00:13:36,360 --> 00:13:40,000 Speaker 1: like I'm like, hey, go cry this out like that 258 00:13:40,120 --> 00:13:42,719 Speaker 1: is cleansing, and then you actually moved through it. It's 259 00:13:42,760 --> 00:13:45,720 Speaker 1: like the funniest thing that people. To me, it's funny 260 00:13:45,760 --> 00:13:49,319 Speaker 1: that people get stuck on. Yeah, but if I feel it, 261 00:13:49,360 --> 00:13:52,720 Speaker 1: I'll get stuck. I get it, like logically, but like 262 00:13:52,800 --> 00:13:55,319 Speaker 1: to me, I'm like, no, Actually, if you don't feel it, 263 00:13:55,320 --> 00:13:58,200 Speaker 1: it's controlling you more because it stays with you. Like 264 00:13:58,760 --> 00:14:00,600 Speaker 1: like if you're angry and resent ful and you don't 265 00:14:00,640 --> 00:14:03,440 Speaker 1: go like process through all that stuff, that is going 266 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:05,960 Speaker 1: to drive the bus on so many of the things 267 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:09,600 Speaker 1: that you do. Versus if you just feel it and 268 00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:14,440 Speaker 1: let yourself like be angry and not like be scared 269 00:14:14,760 --> 00:14:17,400 Speaker 1: of getting stuck there like you're then you're actually letting 270 00:14:17,400 --> 00:14:20,280 Speaker 1: it go. Right. But it just as humans, I think 271 00:14:20,320 --> 00:14:24,200 Speaker 1: takes us a minute to be like especially anger. Seems 272 00:14:24,240 --> 00:14:26,040 Speaker 1: like with women, a lot of women are scared to 273 00:14:26,040 --> 00:14:28,440 Speaker 1: get angry because they're like, oh, we're not supposed to 274 00:14:28,480 --> 00:14:32,560 Speaker 1: be that, right, And because I'm like a jolly guy, 275 00:14:32,680 --> 00:14:36,360 Speaker 1: like I'm not supposed to be angry. Yeah, we're sad, 276 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 1: you know. And and then like I feel like when 277 00:14:40,200 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 1: I do open the door to that, like it's written 278 00:14:42,680 --> 00:14:44,520 Speaker 1: all over me people like what's wrong with you? And 279 00:14:44,520 --> 00:14:53,040 Speaker 1: then I actually love that you just use the word jolly. Yeah. Yeah, 280 00:14:53,080 --> 00:14:55,280 Speaker 1: but I noticed it about you more than I would 281 00:14:55,280 --> 00:14:57,760 Speaker 1: notice it about other people, probably because you are so 282 00:14:57,840 --> 00:15:00,400 Speaker 1: happy most of the time. But that's that's like it's 283 00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:02,720 Speaker 1: not fair to do to you, Like you need to 284 00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:05,880 Speaker 1: be allowed to have any all emotions totally. But it's 285 00:15:05,920 --> 00:15:08,560 Speaker 1: also really nice to recognize when something like if you 286 00:15:08,560 --> 00:15:10,960 Speaker 1: think your friend is in crisis or I mean, obviously 287 00:15:10,960 --> 00:15:13,440 Speaker 1: it's not it's never been that for me, but like 288 00:15:13,800 --> 00:15:15,600 Speaker 1: if you're like, well, so my friend is off, I 289 00:15:15,640 --> 00:15:19,000 Speaker 1: think it is important to like like, hey, is everything okay? 290 00:15:19,080 --> 00:15:21,840 Speaker 1: Hey you don't seem like yourself, because it does it 291 00:15:22,920 --> 00:15:26,480 Speaker 1: opens up the opportunity for conversation, Like you know, you're 292 00:15:26,520 --> 00:15:28,480 Speaker 1: never forceful about it. If I was like, yeah, I'm 293 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:30,160 Speaker 1: an abatment, but I really don't want to talk about 294 00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:33,320 Speaker 1: it right now. You don't, okay, yeah, but it would 295 00:15:33,360 --> 00:15:35,040 Speaker 1: give me the opportunity to be like, hey, do you 296 00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:38,240 Speaker 1: have a second to talk? Yeah, you know, whereas a 297 00:15:38,280 --> 00:15:40,320 Speaker 1: lot of people are scared to reach out, like when 298 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:44,280 Speaker 1: they were partying or whatever. So yeah, look at us, 299 00:15:44,360 --> 00:15:51,800 Speaker 1: we're all learning. We also talked a lot about um or. 300 00:15:51,880 --> 00:15:54,120 Speaker 1: We did a whole podcast on the update of My 301 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:57,240 Speaker 1: Sober Curious Journey because you were kind of like contemplating, 302 00:15:57,400 --> 00:15:59,920 Speaker 1: I just want to cut back this month. Um, how's 303 00:16:00,000 --> 00:16:03,480 Speaker 1: it going for you? Well, it's December, so not rightly, 304 00:16:04,600 --> 00:16:12,120 Speaker 1: isn't it. Um? Well, I actually did fairly good, I 305 00:16:12,160 --> 00:16:18,160 Speaker 1: mean good. Yeah, how do you feel? Um, I've been 306 00:16:18,240 --> 00:16:20,480 Speaker 1: going to bed earlier and trying to wake up earlier. 307 00:16:20,520 --> 00:16:22,600 Speaker 1: I mean, I feel fun. I've gotten back on my peloton, 308 00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:27,200 Speaker 1: which is good, been really fun. It's not just a 309 00:16:27,280 --> 00:16:30,040 Speaker 1: dust collector anymore. Oh my god, I'm so jealous. You 310 00:16:30,160 --> 00:16:33,240 Speaker 1: have one. Oh my god. Well you can come use it. 311 00:16:33,520 --> 00:16:36,200 Speaker 1: But there's the whole house house done to so it's cool. 312 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:40,520 Speaker 1: And getting to me to the gym is the harder part. 313 00:16:40,640 --> 00:16:43,240 Speaker 1: I know, having to leave the house is the hard part. Yeah. 314 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:48,200 Speaker 1: Um yeah, I actually I said that I've been drinking again, 315 00:16:48,400 --> 00:16:51,040 Speaker 1: but I'm it's like an interesting I'm trying to find 316 00:16:51,080 --> 00:16:53,880 Speaker 1: my balance like this week. For instance, I had a 317 00:16:53,920 --> 00:16:55,680 Speaker 1: friend be like, hey, let's go grab drinks, and I 318 00:16:55,680 --> 00:16:57,160 Speaker 1: was like, you know what, I'm not drinking this week, 319 00:16:57,200 --> 00:17:00,320 Speaker 1: Like I just need a reset because I had a 320 00:17:00,360 --> 00:17:02,120 Speaker 1: couple of parties that I went to last week and 321 00:17:02,120 --> 00:17:04,359 Speaker 1: then I was traveling and I just feel off and 322 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:07,560 Speaker 1: so like I'm realizing, like, oh, one of the things 323 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:10,600 Speaker 1: I can remove to kind of like get back to myself, 324 00:17:11,040 --> 00:17:14,159 Speaker 1: even even like emotionally connected to myself. As silly as 325 00:17:14,160 --> 00:17:16,840 Speaker 1: that might sound to some people, I realized, like drinking 326 00:17:16,920 --> 00:17:20,399 Speaker 1: kind of um inhibits that a little bit, like my 327 00:17:20,520 --> 00:17:22,199 Speaker 1: own connection to self. And I don't know if it's 328 00:17:22,200 --> 00:17:24,879 Speaker 1: because I'm just going through the motions a lot of 329 00:17:24,880 --> 00:17:26,960 Speaker 1: times of life, like we talked about and not pausing, 330 00:17:27,520 --> 00:17:30,200 Speaker 1: but there's something about when I don't drink, then I 331 00:17:30,280 --> 00:17:32,960 Speaker 1: sleep better than I wake up, and I'm like, okay, 332 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:35,199 Speaker 1: I want to meditate and like connect, you know, have 333 00:17:35,280 --> 00:17:38,760 Speaker 1: my quiet time, whereas when I drink it becomes a 334 00:17:38,760 --> 00:17:41,800 Speaker 1: little harder. I'm just more lethargic, i don't sleep as well. 335 00:17:42,000 --> 00:17:45,520 Speaker 1: Just all of that stuff. So um, but mostly like 336 00:17:45,840 --> 00:17:49,040 Speaker 1: it's physically and it's also mentally like emotionally like my 337 00:17:49,119 --> 00:17:51,840 Speaker 1: anxiety just goes up when I drink, and it's just 338 00:17:51,880 --> 00:17:55,240 Speaker 1: not worth it to me that much. So I'm finding 339 00:17:55,240 --> 00:17:57,840 Speaker 1: this new balance of like, Okay, there are times when 340 00:17:57,840 --> 00:17:59,600 Speaker 1: i want to go do it because it's like I'm 341 00:17:59,600 --> 00:18:03,280 Speaker 1: having a blast with you guys, or we're celebrating, and 342 00:18:03,280 --> 00:18:05,679 Speaker 1: like there are times where it's just like, okay, it's fun. 343 00:18:06,200 --> 00:18:09,959 Speaker 1: But the second it becomes like not fun, or if 344 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:12,240 Speaker 1: I'm doing it because it's the thing to do, or 345 00:18:12,280 --> 00:18:16,080 Speaker 1: someone's pressuring me, or I'm not thinking about it, like 346 00:18:16,080 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 1: it's not a conscious decision, i don't want to do 347 00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:21,840 Speaker 1: it anymore. So I'm just trying to like walk into 348 00:18:21,880 --> 00:18:24,359 Speaker 1: it differently. And it feels really good, Like I feel 349 00:18:24,440 --> 00:18:27,000 Speaker 1: great not drinking this week, and then I'm sure, like 350 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:29,080 Speaker 1: I have a part of Christmas party next week and 351 00:18:29,119 --> 00:18:31,200 Speaker 1: I'll have, you know, a couple of drinks or something, 352 00:18:31,240 --> 00:18:34,800 Speaker 1: and that's okay. Well, I mean, I think it's important 353 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:36,959 Speaker 1: to recognize when you're just doing something to do it. 354 00:18:37,240 --> 00:18:39,679 Speaker 1: It's like in the same way that you wouldn't just 355 00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:43,239 Speaker 1: eat because they's food sitting there. But we do. Mean 356 00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:46,120 Speaker 1: there's like Dirk's not talk about this all the time. 357 00:18:46,160 --> 00:18:48,840 Speaker 1: There's craft services and it's just like when food is 358 00:18:48,880 --> 00:18:50,959 Speaker 1: out and you just start like picking, You're like, I'm 359 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:54,159 Speaker 1: not even hungry, But it is that same mentality of 360 00:18:54,240 --> 00:18:57,160 Speaker 1: like do I even want a drink? Like those are 361 00:18:57,200 --> 00:18:59,120 Speaker 1: just I just want to ask my question that all 362 00:18:59,119 --> 00:19:01,120 Speaker 1: the time do I at this right now? And if 363 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:05,080 Speaker 1: I do, okay, If I don't, though, like it's okay, 364 00:19:05,119 --> 00:19:08,200 Speaker 1: not too and like I just want to normalize that decision. 365 00:19:08,800 --> 00:19:14,440 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, So, um, was there anything else that you 366 00:19:14,800 --> 00:19:20,399 Speaker 1: left this month with like gratitude wise, Well, you know, 367 00:19:20,480 --> 00:19:22,800 Speaker 1: it's funny because like this is gonna sound cheesy and 368 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:25,560 Speaker 1: I'm not normally on the Wednesday one. So for the 369 00:19:25,600 --> 00:19:32,120 Speaker 1: listeners that don't listen a Friday, I'm Chip, but hello, Hi, 370 00:19:32,240 --> 00:19:38,399 Speaker 1: I'm Chip. So I mentioned like Thanksgiving, so um we 371 00:19:38,560 --> 00:19:40,560 Speaker 1: I went down some of our friends Brian and Tyler's 372 00:19:40,600 --> 00:19:42,960 Speaker 1: house and I met um. They had that there was 373 00:19:43,000 --> 00:19:46,639 Speaker 1: another couple there and um, I hadn't met them before, 374 00:19:46,800 --> 00:19:48,800 Speaker 1: and Michelle, one of the girls, was like like right 375 00:19:48,800 --> 00:19:50,840 Speaker 1: out of the gate, was like I just have to 376 00:19:50,880 --> 00:19:55,000 Speaker 1: admit it, I'm a fan. I listen and um and 377 00:19:55,080 --> 00:19:56,680 Speaker 1: it's really nice to put a face with the name. 378 00:19:56,960 --> 00:20:00,879 Speaker 1: And I was blushed because I've said before like I 379 00:20:00,960 --> 00:20:03,120 Speaker 1: kind of forget that people listen. You know, it's like 380 00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:05,920 Speaker 1: we do it and then we're it's like it's I'm 381 00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:08,439 Speaker 1: chatting with a friend, you know, and um, and I 382 00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:10,440 Speaker 1: forget that there's actually people they're listening. And then last 383 00:20:10,520 --> 00:20:12,880 Speaker 1: night I ran into some people and I ran into 384 00:20:12,920 --> 00:20:14,760 Speaker 1: Margaret and she was just like, oh my god, like 385 00:20:14,880 --> 00:20:16,320 Speaker 1: because I said there. I was like, I don't think 386 00:20:16,320 --> 00:20:19,720 Speaker 1: i've seen you since we did that, like that confessional 387 00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:22,960 Speaker 1: thing that we did. I was like, and it was 388 00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:26,040 Speaker 1: like you've had a baby since then, like a lot 389 00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:29,520 Speaker 1: of times passed, and she was like, I know. She's 390 00:20:29,520 --> 00:20:31,320 Speaker 1: like that's so crazy. She's like, but I feel like 391 00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:35,000 Speaker 1: I'm all caught up because I listened and I just like, 392 00:20:35,160 --> 00:20:38,000 Speaker 1: oh my god, like and it just made me like grateful, 393 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:42,080 Speaker 1: like they're they're like, I know, my friend Sarah listens 394 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:44,600 Speaker 1: and Mallory at work listens, and it's just like it's 395 00:20:44,600 --> 00:20:47,280 Speaker 1: so sweet and like, you know, I want to call 396 00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:49,280 Speaker 1: them out and say thank you. It's like it gives 397 00:20:49,280 --> 00:20:53,560 Speaker 1: it purpose and you know, like this was not like 398 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:56,159 Speaker 1: a goal of mine to like be on a podcast, 399 00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:59,320 Speaker 1: but it's fun and you know, like if there's any 400 00:20:59,400 --> 00:21:02,760 Speaker 1: joy that I'm bringing into people's lives, Like that gives 401 00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:06,600 Speaker 1: me gratitude, like to know that like my friend Sarah 402 00:21:06,640 --> 00:21:09,760 Speaker 1: in New York like looks forward every week to hear 403 00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:13,000 Speaker 1: my voice and it keeps us connected. Like that's locking awesome. 404 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:15,560 Speaker 1: So I just wanted to give a shout out to 405 00:21:15,600 --> 00:21:19,600 Speaker 1: the friends that listen, like Oh and Sean, Sean and Ashville, 406 00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:23,800 Speaker 1: Like I love when Sean's references something that we Sean 407 00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:28,080 Speaker 1: is our friend Mary's boyfriend, and he'll randomly drop He's 408 00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:30,520 Speaker 1: he like randomly, He's like real subtle about it is 409 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:33,800 Speaker 1: the best because he's so clever, drops in a little 410 00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:39,200 Speaker 1: note about his busting and listening to the podcast at work. 411 00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:44,240 Speaker 1: By the way, it's so true though, and like when 412 00:21:44,240 --> 00:21:46,000 Speaker 1: you were just talking about that, I got teary and 413 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:51,320 Speaker 1: not surprising for me. It's also been a really weird week. 414 00:21:51,359 --> 00:21:53,320 Speaker 1: I don't know, I'm just a little email but like, 415 00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:55,679 Speaker 1: but it is true. I mean I'm sort of the 416 00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:58,719 Speaker 1: same as you, Like I never thought about doing a podcast. 417 00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:01,399 Speaker 1: It was like something that was I was approached about 418 00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:03,840 Speaker 1: and thought that I can never do, and it has 419 00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:10,200 Speaker 1: turned into the biggest healing experience for me. And the best, Like, um, 420 00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:12,960 Speaker 1: it's given me the best understanding of how important human 421 00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:16,399 Speaker 1: connection is. Like truly, I've always i think known it 422 00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:19,920 Speaker 1: in some capacity, but like having this platform and being 423 00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:22,600 Speaker 1: able to connect with people from all over the world. 424 00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:24,640 Speaker 1: I was going to say country, but literally we get 425 00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:28,640 Speaker 1: messages from Germany, like all these other Canada, all these 426 00:22:28,680 --> 00:22:30,879 Speaker 1: other places that were like, oh my god, we have 427 00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:35,320 Speaker 1: listeners and these like this is the weirdest thing. Um, 428 00:22:35,359 --> 00:22:38,240 Speaker 1: But it's like such a gift to get to connect 429 00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:39,879 Speaker 1: with you guys. It's such a gift to get to 430 00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:43,639 Speaker 1: meet people, Like when we do meet people, but knowing 431 00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:47,159 Speaker 1: that anything that we're saying and then getting feedback on 432 00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:50,320 Speaker 1: like that other people are experiencing this. Like I don't 433 00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:53,720 Speaker 1: know of a better gift in this world to start 434 00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:56,800 Speaker 1: understanding that we're all like in this together, you know, 435 00:22:56,880 --> 00:22:59,199 Speaker 1: like we're all we all have shipped, we all have 436 00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:02,199 Speaker 1: stuff going on, and then we all have good stuff 437 00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:04,000 Speaker 1: too that we can share with each other and like 438 00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:07,760 Speaker 1: the journey that we're on growing and evolving and all 439 00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:10,520 Speaker 1: that stuff, and so it's so it's just it is 440 00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:12,400 Speaker 1: such a gift. I feel the same with you, like 441 00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:14,919 Speaker 1: so much gratitude for you guys. I've met actually a 442 00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:17,440 Speaker 1: couple of listeners this month too. Or I went home 443 00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:18,960 Speaker 1: to an L s U Game two and a lot 444 00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:21,480 Speaker 1: of people messaged me after that they saw me and 445 00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:22,960 Speaker 1: they were they didn't want to bother me. I'm like, 446 00:23:23,000 --> 00:23:27,360 Speaker 1: it never bothers me. Come say hi, like it asked 447 00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:33,520 Speaker 1: for your autograph? Oh my god. You guys love to 448 00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:36,600 Speaker 1: haze me that. I will say, like when people ask 449 00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:39,520 Speaker 1: for pictures or autographs and my friends are around, like 450 00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:43,040 Speaker 1: we take pictures of the picture getting taken. Yeah, I'm 451 00:23:43,040 --> 00:23:45,080 Speaker 1: going to start making y'all get in a picture with me, 452 00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:49,880 Speaker 1: just to funk with y'all because they literally will start 453 00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:52,880 Speaker 1: taking pictures of the pictures. Yeah, like you just said, 454 00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:58,840 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm like, it's um, it reminds me. I can't. 455 00:23:59,080 --> 00:24:00,680 Speaker 1: I don't know. It's an a, but it's a really 456 00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:03,200 Speaker 1: good Instagram handle. I think he was on the Sweet 457 00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:06,720 Speaker 1: Life of Zack and Cody. It's one of those guys 458 00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:11,080 Speaker 1: reference to I know, and he's got his Instagram handle 459 00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:15,439 Speaker 1: is all photos of fans taking sneaking. Yes, it was 460 00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:17,760 Speaker 1: one of those. It's like Dylan or one of those 461 00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:21,440 Speaker 1: twins you know that we're talking about figure it out. 462 00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:23,520 Speaker 1: And it makes me think of that when I'm like 463 00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:26,960 Speaker 1: sneaking a photo of love, photo of you getting a 464 00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:30,520 Speaker 1: photo taking and I love that. Boston was like there 465 00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:34,520 Speaker 1: was so many requests I love. Oh my god, it 466 00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:38,880 Speaker 1: like threw me off. But what up to everyone in Boston? Also, 467 00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:41,800 Speaker 1: we had so much fun in Boston. What a month 468 00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:45,720 Speaker 1: that was a different month? Well, well it was about 469 00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:49,160 Speaker 1: a month ago. Yeah, I got did get a message. 470 00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:51,359 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go through a couple of listener messages really fast, 471 00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:53,159 Speaker 1: but I got a message that said, slid ship on 472 00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:59,879 Speaker 1: the red carpet on TV at the c Mas Boom, okay, wether. 473 00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:02,000 Speaker 1: I don't know if you remember this. Heather had written 474 00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:04,320 Speaker 1: in a couple of months ago and she was having 475 00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:06,920 Speaker 1: a really big fear of flying, and so we gave 476 00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,879 Speaker 1: her these tips and she messaged me to say she 477 00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:12,000 Speaker 1: was going to Peru with a really long trip and 478 00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:13,520 Speaker 1: I had just gone to Bolli, so she was like 479 00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:16,400 Speaker 1: looking for some feedback on how to get over her anxiety. 480 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:18,800 Speaker 1: And I told her the thing that Dirk's taught me 481 00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:21,960 Speaker 1: about when you hit turbulence, like you just got to 482 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:23,800 Speaker 1: think about it like you're in a boat and you're 483 00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:25,919 Speaker 1: just riding the waves, like when you ride a wave, 484 00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:30,119 Speaker 1: it's bumpy, right, that's all turbulences. And so like for me, 485 00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:33,680 Speaker 1: whatever understanding that narrative, changing that narrative in my head 486 00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:37,359 Speaker 1: really like I don't ever even get nervous with turbulence anymore, 487 00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:39,960 Speaker 1: Like it just totally calmed it. And so she wrote, Kelly, 488 00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:41,800 Speaker 1: oh my god, I just listened to the podcast. I'm 489 00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:44,359 Speaker 1: so excited that you share my comment about flying with Chip. 490 00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:46,919 Speaker 1: So the update. I went to Peru and I actually 491 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:49,639 Speaker 1: had to take two short flights on a really small plane. 492 00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:51,960 Speaker 1: I did not feel scared at all. And I kept 493 00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:54,840 Speaker 1: listening to your analogy about the waves in a boat. Um. 494 00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:57,280 Speaker 1: She sent me a video and she was it's beautiful 495 00:25:57,320 --> 00:25:59,679 Speaker 1: the video she sent me. Um, but she was just like, 496 00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:02,080 Speaker 1: thanks so much, you guys. Are you guys are moving 497 00:26:02,119 --> 00:26:07,080 Speaker 1: mountains here? Hey? Well you know it's funny too. Is 498 00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:10,000 Speaker 1: I follow? I mean, all the ladies and any gay 499 00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:14,239 Speaker 1: listeners should follow this guy. His name's Pilot John and 500 00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:19,280 Speaker 1: his Instagram is no he's so hot, and I thought 501 00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:22,879 Speaker 1: and I thought he was gay and um, but one 502 00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:24,679 Speaker 1: day you did a story. He's like, Hey, that's all 503 00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:27,760 Speaker 1: you gay dude sliding into my DM. It's like I'm straight, 504 00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:32,880 Speaker 1: but thanks. And and he's like he's like this young 505 00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:37,600 Speaker 1: hot pilots. It's pilot, it's period pilot John. But he 506 00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:40,000 Speaker 1: also does a lot of like videos from the cockpit 507 00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:43,640 Speaker 1: explaining like how the plane works too. He's like obsessed 508 00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:45,520 Speaker 1: with it. And he's showed a turbulence button. He's like 509 00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:47,440 Speaker 1: this button like if we hit turbulence, we can hit 510 00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:50,280 Speaker 1: this and it causes the plane to like sort of 511 00:26:50,320 --> 00:26:52,679 Speaker 1: swim with the turbulence. So it's not like trying to 512 00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:58,520 Speaker 1: brace itself. Yeah, this is yeah for some reason that 513 00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:02,320 Speaker 1: literally just think of it that way. It's completely shifted everything. 514 00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:05,680 Speaker 1: So if anybody has travel anxiety or flight anxiety, try 515 00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:07,720 Speaker 1: to switch that narrative in your head and just lean 516 00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:10,640 Speaker 1: in and ride the waves. And then follow Polo John 517 00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:13,080 Speaker 1: because he's a cute a smile you've ever seen, Okay, 518 00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:19,640 Speaker 1: well worth its Yeah, I'm like, well, honestly though, if 519 00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:21,600 Speaker 1: the gay boys think you're cute, I know you're cute 520 00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:24,560 Speaker 1: because I feel like you guys are like the harshest critics. 521 00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:27,560 Speaker 1: He's so cute, Like he's just got the sweetest long 522 00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:33,639 Speaker 1: like like like googly eye, like trying to tell me. 523 00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:39,800 Speaker 1: But he's like cut let me see, he is cute. 524 00:27:39,840 --> 00:27:44,280 Speaker 1: He's a mustache and he doesn't now he got his 525 00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:48,439 Speaker 1: hair blonde. Oh you really like and I like him 526 00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:53,720 Speaker 1: better as a brunette personally. That's what I'm gonna slid 527 00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:57,359 Speaker 1: into his deams about what if? Oh my god, let 528 00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:04,960 Speaker 1: me try your hair back? Another message I wanted to 529 00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:10,800 Speaker 1: He's still going. He is real cute. How old is he? 530 00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:13,440 Speaker 1: What's the adrain here? I mean I think he's probably 531 00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:16,359 Speaker 1: you know what, though, I kind of decided I might 532 00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:22,160 Speaker 1: start cooking it out. I don't know. I'm good. Be grateful, yeah, 533 00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:27,199 Speaker 1: be grateful. You still can be grateful that you're still hot, 534 00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:30,920 Speaker 1: like you can still score a young hot man. We'll see. 535 00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:36,080 Speaker 1: I'll keep you guys listed. Um. This one came from Sarah, 536 00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:38,480 Speaker 1: and so I went to New York. I had a 537 00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:41,600 Speaker 1: trip this or had work trips this month to New York, 538 00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:44,960 Speaker 1: and then I went straight to Canada. Um did my 539 00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:46,960 Speaker 1: I think it was just for his fir A second? Sorry? 540 00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:50,880 Speaker 1: Um and Durst did Colbert in New York. And then 541 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:52,880 Speaker 1: I had Jordan Davis at the Gray Cup in Canada. 542 00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:54,760 Speaker 1: And it was so interesting because I was like, oh 543 00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:58,880 Speaker 1: my god, this is my first time literally since COVID 544 00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:02,760 Speaker 1: where I've had this like multiple travel thing, but also 545 00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:05,160 Speaker 1: like even going back into and shows like cold Beer, 546 00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:07,959 Speaker 1: like we used to do that all the time, and 547 00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:10,560 Speaker 1: I'm not even kidding. I would be like we have 548 00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:13,120 Speaker 1: like Letterman or something, because it would be getting so 549 00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:16,440 Speaker 1: tired because we were so busy, and like you really 550 00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:19,480 Speaker 1: realized after COVID, like, oh my god, I was never 551 00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:22,200 Speaker 1: more excited to have work like that, you know, because 552 00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:24,960 Speaker 1: there's this is so fun and what a cool experience. 553 00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:27,320 Speaker 1: But it just goes to show that, like, no matter 554 00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:29,840 Speaker 1: what your gig is and how cool it is, if 555 00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:32,440 Speaker 1: we get bogged down or we don't take a minute 556 00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:35,400 Speaker 1: to like appreciate all the things happening and you're just 557 00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:38,680 Speaker 1: so busy that your body is physically so exhausted that 558 00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:41,719 Speaker 1: you're like griping about ship like that. You know. I'm 559 00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:47,400 Speaker 1: like the Grammys, like, no, it's amazing. So I just 560 00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:51,120 Speaker 1: had this like big perspective switch with that with COVID obviously, 561 00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:54,280 Speaker 1: and so this month I got to do those two 562 00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:57,040 Speaker 1: trips back to back, and it was so amazing. I 563 00:29:57,080 --> 00:30:00,920 Speaker 1: haven't been to New York. Since COVID, I can't even express, 564 00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:02,920 Speaker 1: like I forget how much I love that city and 565 00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:05,760 Speaker 1: just the energy and all of it. Um. And then 566 00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:08,440 Speaker 1: it's just like also getting to travel with people that 567 00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:11,400 Speaker 1: I love and have so much fun with, Like it's 568 00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:14,280 Speaker 1: just such a gift. And so I posted about that, 569 00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:16,920 Speaker 1: like how much I used to take for granted all 570 00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:19,880 Speaker 1: of that stuff, and like I literally could not be 571 00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:22,840 Speaker 1: more grateful to have those experiences and that I get 572 00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:27,280 Speaker 1: to do stuff like that. It just feel very very lucky. Um. 573 00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:29,560 Speaker 1: So Sarah rode into that post that I did, and 574 00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:31,760 Speaker 1: she said, you were so right. Nothings should be taken 575 00:30:31,800 --> 00:30:34,960 Speaker 1: for granted. I am in consulting, so pre COVID, I 576 00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:36,720 Speaker 1: would travel a lot each week. I would fly on 577 00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:40,280 Speaker 1: Sunday and be back on Thursday. I despised it, dreaded 578 00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:43,320 Speaker 1: it because it was so exhausting. But then COVID happened 579 00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:46,600 Speaker 1: and we started working from home and all work travel stopped. 580 00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:49,480 Speaker 1: It's been three years and I have not traveled once 581 00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:51,880 Speaker 1: for work. I don't know if I ever will, and 582 00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:53,840 Speaker 1: even if I do, it won't be the same extent 583 00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:56,880 Speaker 1: as pre COVID. I took work travel for granted. And 584 00:30:56,880 --> 00:30:58,720 Speaker 1: now that we don't do work travel, I miss it 585 00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:01,400 Speaker 1: so much. I wish that I travel again. You're so 586 00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:04,360 Speaker 1: right that we should appreciate what we have, for it 587 00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:07,360 Speaker 1: does not take long for things to change. I just 588 00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:09,880 Speaker 1: thought this, It's just like a point because no matter 589 00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:13,360 Speaker 1: what you're doing right now, like I don't think, I 590 00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:15,240 Speaker 1: don't know that my work life will ever look the 591 00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:18,960 Speaker 1: same as it did before COVID, but getting glimpses of it, 592 00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:21,360 Speaker 1: I'm so appreciative now and it just makes me want 593 00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:24,120 Speaker 1: to look around to things like getting to do this 594 00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:27,120 Speaker 1: podcast or anything that I'm doing and be like, Okay, 595 00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:29,640 Speaker 1: what can I look at here and like, holy sh it, 596 00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:32,560 Speaker 1: this is my wife. This is awesome. Yeah, you know. 597 00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:35,840 Speaker 1: And I went to a birthday party last night and um, 598 00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:38,479 Speaker 1: I walked in and I still have a little bit 599 00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:42,520 Speaker 1: of like social anxiety, like post COVID. I mean, I 600 00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:45,720 Speaker 1: I I'm a really social person and I just stopped 601 00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:48,800 Speaker 1: being and so like now I'm like forgotten everybody's names, 602 00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:50,960 Speaker 1: you know, Like and I'm walking to a room where 603 00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:53,000 Speaker 1: I'm like I might have to introduce somebody whose name 604 00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:56,440 Speaker 1: I've forgotten, And I like started to feel that coming 605 00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:58,120 Speaker 1: up as I walked into the room because it was 606 00:31:58,200 --> 00:32:00,520 Speaker 1: like everyone was crowded in there, and I was like, 607 00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:03,480 Speaker 1: but wait a minute, Like these are all really fun 608 00:32:03,520 --> 00:32:05,120 Speaker 1: people that you get to hang out with and just 609 00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:07,680 Speaker 1: like dive in. So it's like it was really nice 610 00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:09,880 Speaker 1: to kind of be out back in a crowd. And 611 00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:12,240 Speaker 1: I mean, I've met like I was. I was thinking 612 00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:14,280 Speaker 1: about it the other day because you all were always 613 00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:16,360 Speaker 1: like ragging me, like Chip's got a show tonight, He's 614 00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:21,440 Speaker 1: going to another show. Many shows. I never got to 615 00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:24,960 Speaker 1: shows anymore. So it's like it's weird, and it's weird. 616 00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:29,360 Speaker 1: I know you're not even I don't hear about you 617 00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:32,920 Speaker 1: mowing your grass that much either. I'm like, where I 618 00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:34,840 Speaker 1: still do it, but you know it's winter, so I 619 00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:36,920 Speaker 1: did it the last time. This is actually this weekend. 620 00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:40,800 Speaker 1: That's another thing I did this weekend. You love that. 621 00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:43,560 Speaker 1: I've never met someone who loves mowing their grass more 622 00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:48,760 Speaker 1: than you. Power washing and mowing the grass added to 623 00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:52,920 Speaker 1: your resume. Yes, Okay, I'm gonna read one more listener email. 624 00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:55,280 Speaker 1: This one comes from Laura. This is about the drinking podcast. 625 00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:57,120 Speaker 1: She said, I stopped drinking when I got pregnant with 626 00:32:57,160 --> 00:32:59,640 Speaker 1: my oldest son, who was fourteen now, and I was 627 00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:02,480 Speaker 1: a huge, each social drinker. My husband is not a 628 00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:04,640 Speaker 1: huge drinker, and I grew up with a father similar 629 00:33:04,680 --> 00:33:07,000 Speaker 1: to yours. I've talked to Emily about my father, UM, 630 00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:09,880 Speaker 1: my father. I've never called him now that felt so weird. 631 00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:15,000 Speaker 1: My dad UM is a recovering alcoholic, but he's been 632 00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:19,200 Speaker 1: sober for thirty two years, actually two days ago. He's awesome, 633 00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:22,880 Speaker 1: but anyway, that's been a part of my story. Um. 634 00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:26,120 Speaker 1: He said he her dad would come with a pharmacist 635 00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:28,000 Speaker 1: and would come home and drink every day after work, 636 00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:29,880 Speaker 1: which is fine. He was a wonderful father, but a 637 00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:33,400 Speaker 1: functioning alcoholic for sure. I still drink occasionally with friends 638 00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:37,040 Speaker 1: and thoroughly enjoy myself while file partaking in the festivities. 639 00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:40,040 Speaker 1: But for the next week, I feel like shit. Here 640 00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:43,400 Speaker 1: I hear that the anxiety and and the oh god, 641 00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:45,920 Speaker 1: did I make a fool of myself statements play out 642 00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:48,120 Speaker 1: for the next week. I'd just rather not drink at all. 643 00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:50,880 Speaker 1: I also hate that if you don't drink, people automatically 644 00:33:50,920 --> 00:33:53,120 Speaker 1: assume you have a problem with it. I just don't 645 00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:55,040 Speaker 1: like how it makes me feel anymore. I'm forty two 646 00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:56,760 Speaker 1: and i'd rather wake up on a Saturday and work 647 00:33:56,800 --> 00:33:59,640 Speaker 1: out and feel great, not nursing a hangover all day. 648 00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:03,400 Speaker 1: You might have a wonderful and beautiful week. This is 649 00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:05,959 Speaker 1: exactly what I've been saying. It's like, it is so 650 00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:07,640 Speaker 1: weird when you're like, yeah, I'm not going to drink, 651 00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:12,080 Speaker 1: people are like what, Like that's the weird thing versus 652 00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:15,000 Speaker 1: like people binge drinking Like that is just it's like 653 00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:17,080 Speaker 1: so I think it's like we just have to switch 654 00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:20,560 Speaker 1: the narrative and normalize these kind of conversations. And just 655 00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:22,880 Speaker 1: because you don't drink, it doesn't mean you have a problem. 656 00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:24,640 Speaker 1: Maybe you just want to take care of yourself and 657 00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:27,759 Speaker 1: for you, that's you know, better to not drink every 658 00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:31,319 Speaker 1: day or whatever. Everyone's on their own journey with it. 659 00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:37,799 Speaker 1: I really do believe that. But uh, your microphone dad, 660 00:34:38,120 --> 00:34:40,040 Speaker 1: my microphone dad for a second in the middle of 661 00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:43,279 Speaker 1: my right, I'm back. Don't worry. Um. But as long 662 00:34:43,320 --> 00:34:46,120 Speaker 1: as you're in touch with you and like what feels good, 663 00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:49,160 Speaker 1: I think that's that's the deal. That's like the whole 664 00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:51,920 Speaker 1: sober curious moment. You're just curious, like what makes you 665 00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:54,160 Speaker 1: feel good, what makes you feel bad? You have to 666 00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:56,960 Speaker 1: listen to your body too, Like some people's body processes 667 00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:59,719 Speaker 1: it very differently than others. So mine is one of those, 668 00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:03,920 Speaker 1: like real sensitive to it, you know, very delicate over here. Okay, 669 00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:07,279 Speaker 1: your little flower. Um, you can go listen to My 670 00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:09,400 Speaker 1: dad did come on the podcast and talk about his story, 671 00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:11,840 Speaker 1: which I think was interesting for a lot of people 672 00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:16,239 Speaker 1: because they heard, you know, either people they know or 673 00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:20,440 Speaker 1: themselves and they're like, wait, your dad identifies as an alcoholic? 674 00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:23,279 Speaker 1: Like that is just like because he was very high 675 00:35:23,360 --> 00:35:27,759 Speaker 1: functioning and you know, very successful, and it's not necessarily 676 00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:31,040 Speaker 1: what you think. And so I like that they're changing 677 00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:34,239 Speaker 1: it to alcohol use disorder versus alcoholism because I think 678 00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:36,480 Speaker 1: there's just such a stigma around that word and it's 679 00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:39,960 Speaker 1: just like what are you using alcohol for? Though? And 680 00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:42,680 Speaker 1: my dad, you know, feels like he can't use it 681 00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:46,240 Speaker 1: in a productive way in his life and so, um, anyway, 682 00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:48,680 Speaker 1: he was really great and came and told his story 683 00:35:48,680 --> 00:35:50,120 Speaker 1: and it was really interesting. So if you guys want 684 00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:52,719 Speaker 1: to go listen to that podcast, UM check it out. 685 00:35:52,920 --> 00:36:00,319 Speaker 1: My dad Rex Henderson, Rex Rex Rex, and Rhonda what 686 00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:06,520 Speaker 1: epic names? Anyway? All right, Chip, anything else you would 687 00:36:06,560 --> 00:36:09,400 Speaker 1: like to tell the listeners about the month of November 688 00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:13,200 Speaker 1: for you. Um No, I think I've said it all. 689 00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:15,719 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm gonna stop asking that question because 690 00:36:15,760 --> 00:36:22,720 Speaker 1: I always you're like, Nope, I'm kind of glad it's December. 691 00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:27,160 Speaker 1: I cannot believe it's December almost. It's crazy, but I'm glad, 692 00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:33,040 Speaker 1: Like I'm ready for I'm having good energy vibes about three. Yeah. 693 00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:35,880 Speaker 1: I feel like this year's ending on a good note. 694 00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:37,680 Speaker 1: I don't know, I just feel like a shift in 695 00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:41,160 Speaker 1: the energy. It feels lighter, and like everyone's kind of 696 00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:43,880 Speaker 1: feeling that, like it's just more fun and light and 697 00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:49,840 Speaker 1: moving into feels good. I agree. I'm excited about that. 698 00:36:51,040 --> 00:36:54,560 Speaker 1: Al Right, Well, we love you guys. Thanks Chip for 699 00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:59,640 Speaker 1: gracing us with your presence on a Wednesday, and as 700 00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:03,600 Speaker 1: you go into the weekend. I'm waiting to finish your 701 00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:08,920 Speaker 1: hot coffee. Are we doing this one on Wednesday? It 702 00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:13,160 Speaker 1: is Wednesday? Um, okay, you know what, this week has 703 00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:16,920 Speaker 1: actually been a little wild, and the astrology is wild 704 00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:20,680 Speaker 1: as well. I have this Chawny app and she was like, 705 00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:25,160 Speaker 1: with good luck you guys. Um, just like Mars and 706 00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:27,600 Speaker 1: like communication and relationships, and I'm like, oh my god, 707 00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:29,920 Speaker 1: I feel like all the ghosts of my past have resurface. 708 00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:33,719 Speaker 1: This week has been wild, um so there has been 709 00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:36,000 Speaker 1: a little heavy energy. So you know, as you guys 710 00:37:36,040 --> 00:37:38,640 Speaker 1: are like making your way through the rest of the week, 711 00:37:38,680 --> 00:37:41,080 Speaker 1: if you've been feeling that as well, I hope you 712 00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:43,759 Speaker 1: can find some gratitude and I hope you walk into 713 00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:50,080 Speaker 1: your weekend living on the edge and always remember to yeah, 714 00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:55,160 Speaker 1: your mike cut out, as I was so proud of 715 00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:57,799 Speaker 1: yourself for how good eyes did it and your mic 716 00:37:57,840 --> 00:38:01,520 Speaker 1: cut out? How else pol possible? I don't know. I 717 00:38:01,560 --> 00:38:03,440 Speaker 1: can't do it again this. I hope you always remember 718 00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:07,520 Speaker 1: to schudule. Bye.