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Speaker 3: a dual manifesto of sexual exploration and power. All right,
Speaker 3: let's start with catch up. Mine is gonna be real, grown, real, mature,
Speaker 3: but happy news. If you guys were listening to the
Speaker 3: podcast right around the time of the rebrand, right before
Speaker 3: I moved to Atlanta, I was dealing with a lot
Speaker 3: of fucking shit, the depression of moving, and then I
Speaker 3: had two people close to me diagnosed with breast cancer,
Speaker 3: and a friend of mine was dealing with fertility issues,
Speaker 3: and so it's so amazing to say, but one of
Speaker 3: those women recently beat breast cancer. I'm literally really really excited,
Speaker 3: really and I'm grateful for I know them. No, I'm
Speaker 3: grateful for my best friend Crystal, because she's been able
Speaker 3: to be somebody that as other people connected to me
Speaker 3: are going through their journey, that they have a resource
Speaker 3: of someone who got it, beat it, came out of it,
Speaker 3: and is willing to like share what she went through.
Speaker 3: So got the double missectomy and now is dealing with
Speaker 3: you know, in remission, being cancer free.
Speaker 1: So really excited about that.
Speaker 3: And then my other friend who although is still having difficulty,
Speaker 3: I think is going right now. She's on a break
Speaker 3: because it's so much to her body. But she's currently
Speaker 3: gone through two rounds of IVF, looking to do another one,
Speaker 3: but she has gotten eggs and we are now.
Speaker 1: Semi family planning.
Speaker 3: I have a friend who is looking to literally be
Speaker 3: pregnant by the end of the year. It's interesting because
Speaker 3: this was something that in her mind, she's like about
Speaker 3: thirty five, bitch, I want to have a baby and
Speaker 3: so she's really moving forward with that, although she just
Speaker 3: broke up with her nigga of a lot of years,
Speaker 3: so I'm confused. So it's interesting now to see like
Speaker 3: he does want to have it naturally if possible, or
Speaker 3: with somebody that she at least knows and doesn't really
Speaker 3: want to go the sperm bank route. So it's just
Speaker 3: been a journey having those conversations.
Speaker 2: I can imagine, because it's like in one world, of course,
Speaker 2: sperm bank sounds crazy, you would think, But then I
Speaker 2: heard something recently that I wonder what your friend would
Speaker 2: think about it the sperm It's not like you can't
Speaker 2: get someone. The sperm bank kind of alleviates the detachment,
Speaker 2: the attachment. Excuse me, because if you, let's just say,
Speaker 2: have a friend who's great, it's willing to do this
Speaker 2: for you, do you then feel semi connected?
Speaker 1: Will it feel a little bit?
Speaker 3: No, she's gonna have it. She's gonna have it. It's
Speaker 3: just have what she's gonna have the baby.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I'm saying as far as like choosing, do
Speaker 2: you feel let's say you find a friend who will
Speaker 2: do this with you sperm donor do you then feel
Speaker 2: semi attached because you're like, damn, I did this thing
Speaker 2: with this person.
Speaker 1: Also, if you know.
Speaker 2: A nigga, I gold you I'm gonna spend those twenty
Speaker 2: five grand when I could just put my homeworn because
Speaker 2: that's naturally quote unquote.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I mean once we do that, are we
Speaker 1: then connected?
Speaker 2: But then also, why would I want to go to
Speaker 2: this firm bank because someone could be well.
Speaker 3: Well, even with it doesn't always like she feels like
Speaker 3: there's still like she's not infertile, so she could have
Speaker 3: sex naturally and potentially get pregnant, but there's not a
Speaker 3: lot of eggs there, so saving of the eggs is
Speaker 3: I guess she feels more confident in being able to
Speaker 3: go through IVF and actually getting it inseminated and with.
Speaker 1: A baby grown in it. Y'all know, I don't really
Speaker 1: know all the science, but it's been interested to talk to.
Speaker 3: I don't want to call it the shallowness, but it
Speaker 3: is a little bit of the shallowness of when you
Speaker 3: know you're ready to be a mom outside of wanting
Speaker 3: it to be healthy.
Speaker 1: One to have certain features.
Speaker 3: And that's been a conversation that's really weird because I'm
Speaker 3: just like she likes these real pretty ess niggas, and
Speaker 3: I'm like, just because you find them to be attractive
Speaker 3: and real pretty don't mean they make pretty babies. And
Speaker 3: it's been really interesting to kind of talk to her
Speaker 3: about realizing her own insecurities with her own features and
Speaker 3: things that she's changed through plastic surgery or other ways,
Speaker 3: and like now looking at the nose, the eyes, the hair,
Speaker 3: the weight of her partners and hoping that those genetics.
Speaker 2: Attached to I've ever heard someone say it when they're
Speaker 2: pregnant by a partner, because you're just like, oh, I'm
Speaker 2: taking what I'm getting.
Speaker 1: But if you could start from the beginning.
Speaker 3: If you could choose your partner essentially either and sperm
Speaker 3: banks normally do, but we know when we've had the
Speaker 3: conversation at least I've had it over on periodsis, Like
Speaker 3: sperm banks don't have a lot of options for black
Speaker 3: sperm donors, Like it's very minimal. A lot of time
Speaker 3: people have to get sperm sperm donations from the Caribbean
Speaker 3: or other countries to get black black sperm donors and
Speaker 3: so and then also genetic tests.
Speaker 2: Laughing because I'm just like, if you had what's you
Speaker 2: going with because I want, I wanna.
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm I'm and And here's why I say,
Speaker 3: I've been having to uh feed affirmations to her. I
Speaker 3: think it's a lot of how she felt growing up
Speaker 3: or like what her characteristics were about herself that she's
Speaker 3: since changed genetically that I'm like, but girl, they could
Speaker 3: still get your genetics, like it ain't just gonna be
Speaker 3: all demand genetics. So it's been interesting just being like, girl.
Speaker 1: You're beautiful. If you have a healthy baby, that's all
Speaker 1: that should matter.
Speaker 3: And you trying to get these good looking against subjective
Speaker 3: good looking men doesn't mean that that is it's not
Speaker 3: skin tone.
Speaker 1: No, they're black men. They're all black men.
Speaker 3: Oh, she's definitely with height and her ex she didn't
Speaker 3: like weight. She's also dealt with weight, so I know
Speaker 3: weight is a big thing. And to be honest, back
Speaker 3: when a bit was broke and I was like, how.
Speaker 1: Can I make some money?
Speaker 3: Y'all want these eggs, you have to be within a
Speaker 3: certain b of mine to even donate your eggs. So
Speaker 3: to me, for her, it's definitely because we both battled weight.
Speaker 3: She wants a slim, athletic build man, so that potentially
Speaker 3: she has the baby has hoped to not deal with
Speaker 3: like fat shaming and weight problems and weight issues, which
Speaker 3: is something that definitely brought about a lot of insecurities
Speaker 3: and depression throughout our life and mine. So I mean,
Speaker 3: I get it. I think I would want a slim
Speaker 3: baby daddy. Like if I have a baby ever with
Speaker 3: a big nigga, that baby ain't got no hope.
Speaker 1: The baby probably gonna be big. We big boned it together,
Speaker 1: all three of us.
Speaker 2: So it's so crazy when they say that, Like, I
Speaker 2: don't know. I recently found out that this is bullshit.
Speaker 2: The big bon No no, no, no, no bullshit it is, but
Speaker 2: it isn't our whole life. We told Big Bone ain't real.
Speaker 2: Right after we found out No, no, no, most recently Big Bones,
Speaker 2: I'm at thought, Yeah, big Bone, we hear our whole life.
Speaker 2: We just found out as bullshit. I used to say,
Speaker 2: my bones just be But I just did this laser
Speaker 2: LiPo shit where basically it's not cool sculpting.
Speaker 1: It's not the one where they suck it out.
Speaker 2: It's literally like heating things on your stomach to try
Speaker 2: to kill fat cells. So I'm doing it before workouts
Speaker 2: three times a week. To hope to burn more, and
Speaker 2: the woman's like, just get cool sculpting. I don't want
Speaker 2: to do that because my fibrod. Just get smart, lip bo.
Speaker 2: I don't want to fucking do the surgery. I'm like,
Speaker 2: fuck it, I can lose this weight. So while I'm
Speaker 2: in there, this Russian lady said something so interesting to me.
Speaker 2: She goes, I see why you want to get rid
Speaker 2: of this because your bones are small. I was like,
Speaker 2: everybody's like, this is bullshit. She's like, no, no, no,
Speaker 2: I'm feeling your stomach and it's it's not like it
Speaker 2: fits you right.
Speaker 1: Your stomach on a thicker girl is no stomach.
Speaker 2: She's like, but because you're smaller, it makes you look pregnant,
Speaker 2: like you're basically the birth controls making me very soft
Speaker 2: and doey. It's harder to retain the muscle. She's like,
Speaker 2: it's your bones. It's your bone structure.
Speaker 1: So because you.
Speaker 2: Got a wider hips, your bone structure can be quote
Speaker 2: unquote big bone. That's where it comes from. It's how
Speaker 2: your body is sitting naturally. It's not the real bones,
Speaker 2: it's how your body sits all right.
Speaker 1: Bone.
Speaker 2: For example, when you lost your most weight, you still
Speaker 2: had so many curves because you just have it, you.
Speaker 1: Know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Yeah, me gaining this weight, some of it's going to
Speaker 2: my button, my thighs, but it does kind of look
Speaker 2: weird because my body just doesn't have that shape. I
Speaker 2: can get some cheek, but it doesn't have that shape already.
Speaker 2: Say this to say a friend of mine who's also bigger,
Speaker 2: she's been in the two or three hundred range, lost
Speaker 2: some weight up and down when she had her daughter.
Speaker 2: She's like, bro, I just knew because of me and
Speaker 2: my husband going through these things, they're just predisposition for it.
Speaker 2: What's crazy about it is that apparently this is all
Speaker 2: from breastfeeding all the way down whatever habits. Mothers have
Speaker 2: food and tat this certain strait and the father it's
Speaker 2: not even like the meals you're cooking at home. It
Speaker 2: all starts when they're like in the womb, whatever's going
Speaker 2: in there.
Speaker 1: So it's like you really can't help it.
Speaker 2: So yeah, to your point, you get a super slim nigga,
Speaker 2: what if you're still that person. It's only so much
Speaker 2: we can alter before, like those habits. Actually I really
Speaker 2: didn't know that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So that's it's been interesting to know that, you know,
Speaker 3: she's now looking at all these features for what a
Speaker 3: potential baby daddy could look like.
Speaker 1: And it's not even that she wants to be with
Speaker 1: the man. She's willing to go.
Speaker 3: She makes good enough money to be a single mom,
Speaker 3: and she's looking forward to being a single mom. Really,
Speaker 3: she wants to be a mother. She said, I just
Speaker 3: I just need a baby daddy. But like she's looking
Speaker 3: forward kind of much like Ebanye K. Williams, who went
Speaker 3: through a similar process at forty. She literally just wants
Speaker 3: to be a mother. So she is going through the IVF,
Speaker 3: possibly going through a third IVF, and it's really just
Speaker 3: inspiring because she's like, I want to be a mom, y'all.
Speaker 1: Y'all gonna lap shout out to science.
Speaker 3: But it's been really like dope to have these conversations
Speaker 3: and see that she can do kind of whatever she
Speaker 3: wants to do with her body, with the role that
Speaker 3: she wants to play in society in terms of being
Speaker 3: a boss ass bitch and being a mom and not
Speaker 3: allowing the patriarchy to dictate what she do with it.
Speaker 2: I have a friend right now. She's actually been on
Speaker 2: our show. She's a dope podcaster and influencer. But she's
Speaker 2: freezing her eggs right now in a relationship. And I
Speaker 2: sat down with her, we were just having coffee at
Speaker 2: SOHO whatever, and I was like, damn, girl, this is like,
Speaker 2: it's just so powerful to me that you and your
Speaker 2: partner are like, hey, we're gonnabut.
Speaker 1: House, We're gonna be gonna do that.
Speaker 2: But still you aren't rushing yourself. You're freezing these eggs
Speaker 2: and you got the man. And there's just so much
Speaker 2: power in like women's choices because it's.
Speaker 1: Does he feel a way about that?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 2: Okay, I actually think she may be talking about it
Speaker 2: on her own pot. She's one of those type of people.
Speaker 2: I'll tell you what a letter. But she's just like, girl,
Speaker 2: like this is my life. You know, just because he's
Speaker 2: there doesn't mean we had to start the clock. Ticket
Speaker 2: let me take a second. I'm doing me too. And
Speaker 2: I find that really beautiful because we hear about freezing
Speaker 2: eggs so much in this scenario and it's always so
Speaker 2: woe is me, Oh, so bad, sorry for your friends.
Speaker 1: She can't get any this is anybody.
Speaker 2: You know? Like, it's just there's so much I saw
Speaker 2: it with Ebanie k Williams with people just trying to
Speaker 2: pity her a lot, and it made me feel really
Speaker 2: bad because it's just like there's a lot of power
Speaker 2: with figuring out how to have children solo, Like there
Speaker 2: really is for me personally.
Speaker 1: I think the thing that.
Speaker 2: Would scare me over thirty five versus forty. I think
Speaker 2: I thought thirty five was older.
Speaker 1: Than it was.
Speaker 2: But being this right there, I'm like, Oh, I'm still
Speaker 2: young and hot. I still am like going out often,
Speaker 2: Like I'm still doing my thing.
Speaker 1: Is it going to be.
Speaker 2: Something where I'm dating and looking for love while pregnant? Also, alternatively,
Speaker 2: hypothetically speaking, I know a lot of men don't want
Speaker 2: to date women with children.
Speaker 1: However, maybe that's because baby daddy. Shit.
Speaker 2: If I know a woman had a baby on her own,
Speaker 2: I feel like that'd be more of like a damn.
Speaker 2: Like it's almost like this turn on thing like go
Speaker 2: good for you? Like, think about how many men are
Speaker 2: really single moms having like dating. They normally date single dads.
Speaker 2: It's just easier all around.
Speaker 3: Dude, I got a whole lot of friends single mom
Speaker 3: and to daddy and nowhere to be seen, and they're
Speaker 3: still difficult with dating and they've been handling that shit
Speaker 3: on their own. And y'all already know that's my biggest
Speaker 3: friend life is to be a single mom. But whether
Speaker 3: a baby daddy's around or not, I've seen my friends
Speaker 3: still have difficulty with dating.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm just saying, like, I wonder if it would
Speaker 2: be different for the man dating, Like, for example, meeting
Speaker 2: a woman with a kid, some men already have a
Speaker 2: notion in their head like.
Speaker 1: Oh, this isn't for me, I don't want to fucking
Speaker 1: do whatever.
Speaker 2: Just immediately, and even if the dad isn't around, just
Speaker 2: immediately knowing that woman is like, this is just my kid.
Speaker 1: Would it make a man feel different?
Speaker 2: Cause sometimes it has to do with the fact that
Speaker 2: it's not yours or some other man's. Like, there's so
Speaker 2: many little insecurities that people feel when dating people with
Speaker 2: children that I wonder if there would be more success
Speaker 2: for women that did this choice.
Speaker 1: I'm just curious. There's no real thing.
Speaker 2: I'm just and if there's any men listening that have
Speaker 2: dated a woman who had a kid on her own, I.
Speaker 1: Would love to talk about that.
Speaker 2: What is it like, what does it feel like with
Speaker 2: are the conversations like do you then feel like she's
Speaker 2: won and done. Does she want more? What about women
Speaker 2: that do this and then they get into relationships? Are
Speaker 2: they slightly regretful they didn't?
Speaker 5: Wait?
Speaker 1: M There's got to be so many questions.
Speaker 3: I love that women are now choosing and getting into
Speaker 3: motherhood thirty five plus. I ran into I ran into
Speaker 3: this goddamn tweet that had me dying laughing, especially since
Speaker 3: we've been talking about age difference and niggas being nasty
Speaker 3: talking to younger girls. So someone said, the actual reason
Speaker 3: for the birth rate decline is women entering the.
Speaker 1: Workforce, but no one is ready for that discussion. Bitch.
Speaker 3: Shout out to doctor Laura Robinson read fulfilth. She said, actually,
Speaker 3: about half the declining pregnancy rate is the steep decline
Speaker 3: of teen births. Seventy percent of fathers of babies born
Speaker 3: to teen mothers are over twenty one. We literally slashed
Speaker 3: and burned pedophilia, and men are so mad. I was like,
Speaker 3: got them, get you know what I really we did
Speaker 3: talk about right now?
Speaker 1: What this to me?
Speaker 2: I don't know if anyone saw the flavoring clip of
Speaker 2: Pete boudiceg.
Speaker 1: Adopted a kid? Have you seen this?
Speaker 2: I'm going to just fast forward to this really quick.
Speaker 2: I sent it to Alex today because doctor Rymore posted it.
Speaker 2: But Pete adopted a kid and the kid is black.
Speaker 2: He didn't know the kid was gonna be blent.
Speaker 6: We were just on a list. But you know, we
Speaker 6: said that we were willing to adopt, We wanted to adopt.
Speaker 6: We said that we wanted to adopt without regard for race.
Speaker 6: By the way, anybody who says race is not a
Speaker 6: thing in this country should experience an adoption process where
Speaker 6: there are literally different lists. If you say that you
Speaker 6: want a white kid only versus if you say that
Speaker 6: doesn't matter, literally a different list.
Speaker 1: What is that?
Speaker 6: What do you mean by the list for white it
Speaker 6: only is longer.
Speaker 1: M of course it is.
Speaker 6: And not only that there was actually discount or you
Speaker 6: didn't have to pay a deposit on the feet.
Speaker 1: This is like how it works. I couldn't believe it.
Speaker 6: So we didn't know anything about the racial identity of
Speaker 6: the kids until they started to look mixed race, which
Speaker 6: they are.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you, first of doctor Gumar posed this
Speaker 2: about why are white people adopting our children? Number one,
Speaker 2: and I'm ready to get angry too. I wouldn't be
Speaker 2: upset about that. But then I watched it and I.
Speaker 1: Was like, WHOA.
Speaker 2: First of all, started looking into my own statistics. Twenty
Speaker 2: three percent of children in foster care a black. Eight
Speaker 2: percent of black families are adopting children. Yes, some reason,
Speaker 2: white people are adopting them at higher risk. Its not
Speaker 2: for some reason, I mean just even money. Well, however, no,
Speaker 2: all of those things black families. The real reason is
Speaker 2: when they are adopting, they're adopting through kinship, which means
Speaker 2: it's someone in their family. Someone died, anti gone crazy,
Speaker 2: someone went to jail. This is all socioeconomic. But most
Speaker 2: people that are affluent nowadays are doing what your friend did.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have my own kid. I'm not gonna die right.
Speaker 2: Like, it's not a bad choice, to be honest, I
Speaker 2: don't think I would be able to adopt either. I
Speaker 2: don't know if I'm that selfless. But it's crazy because
Speaker 2: I really have for a long time been one of
Speaker 2: those people that are like, how many white celebrities are
Speaker 2: we gonna see with black babies?
Speaker 1: En f is ass But then when you see.
Speaker 2: That they're a quarter of the foster care system, it's
Speaker 2: like it's just so fucked up, because there really is
Speaker 2: a big effect when white families adopt black children on
Speaker 2: these black kids. Not only do they have to assimilate
Speaker 2: to a new family, you feel weird, shit looks weird,
Speaker 2: like you don't know your identity. God forbid, they ain't
Speaker 2: got no black friends to help you with show them.
Speaker 3: I'm not against I'm not against uh white people are
Speaker 3: any race adopting black like at all? I think that
Speaker 3: because of again socio economic reasons and whatnot.
Speaker 1: In knowing that it's.
Speaker 3: Difficult for again, I guess they'll steal economic reasons. Like,
Speaker 3: I'm not against any other race adopting black children, because
Speaker 3: I think they all deserve a home, a loving carrying home,
Speaker 3: and someone to raise them. I think that them growing
Speaker 3: up in the foster system would be hell in comparison
Speaker 3: to growing up with of course, of course, if you
Speaker 3: haven't seen it yet, white people that love them, not
Speaker 3: that lesbian couple in Georgia that drove them kids off
Speaker 3: the cliff, but ones that will give them a loving
Speaker 3: carrying home, like the family from Blindside.
Speaker 1: I was just what.
Speaker 3: Even even seeing what Angelina Joe Lee, who's the other one,
Speaker 3: who's the.
Speaker 2: Other Angelina only getting black. She must have went on
Speaker 2: the list and said, no, who's that real?
Speaker 1: Seton track?
Speaker 2: How you out all love the new No, No, it's
Speaker 2: a little black baby farm she got over there. It's
Speaker 2: a little too much. I feel like it's too much.
Speaker 2: I don't get a little too touched when they go
Speaker 2: to motherfucking Ghana and Kenya and they be like, oh,
Speaker 2: you know what, I think.
Speaker 1: I think we're gonna take one home. That's what it gives.
Speaker 2: It very much gives Instagram hold the baby up with
Speaker 2: dust all over them. You're clean, and you'r Chanelle Scarf
Speaker 2: saving the world because you donated books. Sometimes there is
Speaker 2: a bit of a weird I'm doing more because I
Speaker 2: got this black baby. I'm this type of person. I
Speaker 2: can't say that. We all don't feel it. Bro we
Speaker 2: know it's there in this particular clip. Just to even
Speaker 2: know that, like it's cheaper or whatever. Like it's just
Speaker 2: sad because the end of the day, we are this
Speaker 2: country that is so obsessed with making sure abortion is illegal,
Speaker 2: making sure that number two not too many kids are
Speaker 2: being born. You can't get this, you can't have welfare,
Speaker 2: you can't do this. Too many notches but look at this,
Speaker 2: We're fucked It's like it's such a vicious cycle of
Speaker 2: what we have going on in America that like, I
Speaker 2: don't really know how you even get on top or
Speaker 2: out of it, or one of the only countries where
Speaker 2: we have forty percent of adoptions at transracial. Like it's
Speaker 2: just really fucked up. And I feel really sad to
Speaker 2: watch this clip. I feel very sad for who are
Speaker 2: you said for? I feel really sad for just honestly
Speaker 2: the black family unit. Like people needed to give up
Speaker 2: their kids, you know what I'm saying, People not choosing
Speaker 2: those children, Black families not adopting those children.
Speaker 1: Like all this shit is just hella fucked up. Now,
Speaker 1: I agree, but.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell you right now, I ain't adopting a
Speaker 2: dog and I ain't adopted no baby. Uh ah, because
Speaker 2: them rescues baby. I couldn't go get one. My homegirl
Speaker 2: just rescued a dog. We came back from wrench bandy.
Speaker 2: Oh this poor girl.
Speaker 1: We live in the same building. This white girl. She
Speaker 1: always hits me up. I just had any puppy, any
Speaker 1: little bak the puppies going crazy. Girl. We got up
Speaker 1: them stairs.
Speaker 2: All I saw I could see from the door the
Speaker 2: toilet paper and like corn flakes.
Speaker 1: Whatever the fuck. I don't know what this hole left out.
Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, she just starts crying immediately,
Speaker 2: and she's like, I just try to do the right
Speaker 2: And now I'm also being fishcacius, y'all.
Speaker 1: I know, not every rescues like that. There's so many
Speaker 1: dope rescues. But yeah, she.
Speaker 2: Wouldn't want to save them beating up dogs, them dogs
Speaker 2: getting They asked, well, now the ain't not got body
Speaker 2: from a crackheads, so and that's why he was sucking
Speaker 2: you up.
Speaker 1: Oh and he fucked my boyfriend up so bad.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, Like I had to play nurse ed
Speaker 3: and even came over the other day and I had
Speaker 3: immediately because I locked him up.
Speaker 1: Like are you having to lock him up like a pitbull?
Speaker 1: That's why you shouldn't have got a damn crack baby. Well,
Speaker 1: everyone be adopted.
Speaker 5: It is kind of a crack baby.
Speaker 1: It is a crack baby. He is a crack baby,
Speaker 1: that's all. He's from the Bronx.
Speaker 3: Literally from the Bronx. Forget from the Bronx, the cats
Speaker 3: from the Bronx. From a crackhead.
Speaker 1: It is a crack baby. Socio economic body is a
Speaker 1: crack baby.
Speaker 5: And I see all the babies from the Bronx crack.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna hold you. I am just like an adopted parent.
Speaker 3: And maybe this age she was an adopted parent, but
Speaker 3: this would be me literally every time he acts up. Nigga,
Speaker 3: you could have been in the slumps. You could have
Speaker 3: been in a dumpsun. I saved your motherfucking ass. Well,
Speaker 3: he don't want to eat cat food, Nigga, you could
Speaker 3: have been getting it out the garbage.
Speaker 1: Can you better be happy?
Speaker 2: This is why you should have been stopped hacking with
Speaker 2: light skinned niggas. God tried to tell you it was
Speaker 2: a black cat down the street, he.
Speaker 3: Said, nay, I did. That's never happened. He's an orange cat.
Speaker 3: I didn't know nothing about orange tappings.
Speaker 5: Man, he was gonna just pick up a cat from
Speaker 5: the street.
Speaker 3: Yeah no, no, shout out to our horre Hive member.
Speaker 3: The story goes, we were talking. I was lonely during
Speaker 3: the pandemic. She said, I know you've been wanting a cat.
Speaker 3: Do you still want one?
Speaker 1: There's a crackhead selling one for twenty dollars.
Speaker 5: Well, I thought war member was I said, I said,
Speaker 5: I was.
Speaker 1: There was a crack subscribe regardless, and here I go,
Speaker 1: here I go, real petty, We'll send me a picture first.
Speaker 5: Hey, that's not petty.
Speaker 3: He actually looked cute. Think yeah, twenty dollars a free
Speaker 3: what it looked like? Yeah, it was twenty dollars and
Speaker 3: I gave her forty Wow.
Speaker 5: I was real nice, paid really well for that cat.
Speaker 3: All right, As you guys know, Noel's Bar, a dual
Speaker 3: manifesto of sexual exploration and how were is available. Now,
Speaker 3: I am actually going to be reading and excerpt from
Speaker 3: one of my chapters that was a word every time.
Speaker 6: This is.
Speaker 3: This was one of the hardest chapters for me to write,
Speaker 3: and it's about my journey of what I guess I
Speaker 3: guess would say would be sex work. Y'all won't be
Speaker 3: hearing this chapter much during any of our press runs,
Speaker 3: but this is from the chapter What's Your Price. Throughout
Speaker 3: my twenties, these transactional relationships continued. It became easier and
Speaker 3: easier for me to ask for exactly what I needed,
Speaker 3: while accepting that these surface relationships only existed because we
Speaker 3: both needed something from one another. I needed and required
Speaker 3: financial existence assistance in exchange for their simple need to
Speaker 3: enter the depths of my pussy, which their thick wallet's
Speaker 3: allowed easy access to. I only asked for things that
Speaker 3: I absolutely needed. I wasn't asking for shoes or handbags.
Speaker 3: I would be damned if I was wearing a pair
Speaker 3: of shoes or a bag that costs more than what
Speaker 3: was in my bank account.
Speaker 1: I was on my own.
Speaker 3: Well, I never solely depended on men because I always
Speaker 3: had a job. It sures how made it a lot
Speaker 3: easier for me. These relationships seemed equally balanced at the time,
Speaker 3: and not one partner was like the next.
Speaker 2: It's so interesting in both our chapters we talk about
Speaker 2: how we didn't want bags or shoes. I think it's
Speaker 2: a big testimony to like how sugaring can look for
Speaker 2: certain people. Like one of my homegirls right now has
Speaker 2: a trick that just always buys her clothes. She loves it,
Speaker 2: But there are moments where I'm like, damn, bit, you
Speaker 2: got a five thousand dollars dress, like your apartment is.
Speaker 3: Not the accused those color spaders. I mean, I think
Speaker 3: it depends on the man that you're dealing with. I
Speaker 3: know that because me and my friends had different types
Speaker 3: of tricks. Like I had men that I could call
Speaker 3: and ask for money without having to see them, without
Speaker 3: having to fuck them.
Speaker 1: I would just call and say, hey, I need this
Speaker 1: night to have it sent.
Speaker 3: Other friends had to get on a flight and actually
Speaker 3: had to fuck or see the guy because they needed
Speaker 3: to put money in hand. I also have known men
Speaker 3: that were never okay with giving money. They were only
Speaker 3: okay with buying gifts. So I remember at times where
Speaker 3: some of my homegirls would be like, bruh, I'm so
Speaker 3: mad this think about me these fucking fifteen hundred dollars shoes,
Speaker 3: Like I would have just taken the fifteen hundred dollars
Speaker 3: in cash. Unfortunately, like that was always at the discretion.
Speaker 1: Of the man.
Speaker 2: It's also very difficult when they're like the gift giving type.
Speaker 2: Because she got any bag today and she's been struggling
Speaker 2: with cash a little bit, and she's like, do you
Speaker 2: want to just take it for half? Because I do
Speaker 2: love the bag. I was like, girl, I don't even
Speaker 2: want to take this from you, like pay me back
Speaker 2: and you get pay me back.
Speaker 1: But I get how stuck you feel.
Speaker 2: Because this particular guy, she he's gorgeous and she's just like, fuck,
Speaker 2: he just wants to take me around to show off
Speaker 2: to his friends whatever, and like he's basically this is
Speaker 2: how it goes.
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 2: This is still fairytale shit to me. It's just this
Speaker 2: perfect fucking New York La girl. He loves to send
Speaker 2: her a driver to dress her for the day. She
Speaker 2: doesn't have a budget, might be ten twenty whatever, could
Speaker 2: even be jewelry, and then whatever she's wearing. They go
Speaker 2: out to some big event premiere, and she keeps and
Speaker 2: she's like, fuck, I'm getting in this car backfay on rent,
Speaker 2: trying to get my gigs and shit.
Speaker 1: Up, and like she's mismanaging her pussy did I mean yes?
Speaker 2: And no, she's not having sex with him, so she
Speaker 2: isn't selling sex. Okay, She's trying to get out there
Speaker 2: and do her thing, you know, la girl. But she's like, fuck,
Speaker 2: this really sucks because I don't even want to ask
Speaker 2: for money because I know this is the allure for him.
Speaker 1: He loves to do and spend the whole thing.
Speaker 2: So I mean, yeah, I've been stuck once or twice
Speaker 2: there before. I think I mentioned, like even in the
Speaker 2: book what I do like to about these two chapters.
Speaker 2: Is a story of sex work that made a woman
Speaker 2: fel empowered, A sex work story where you talk about
Speaker 2: self worth.
Speaker 1: There's so many forms.
Speaker 3: This chapter was hard for me. It's something I'm dealing
Speaker 3: with in therapy now. A lot of shame, a lot
Speaker 3: of things I told you on this podcast back in
Speaker 3: the day that I wouldn't tell you now. And I
Speaker 3: think that my ability to somewhat use my body as
Speaker 3: a way to pay rent and get by and have
Speaker 3: school covered and kind of just survive in my twenties
Speaker 3: now that I look back with literal I will go
Speaker 3: out and spend the same amount of money on a
Speaker 3: dinner or a pair of jeans.
Speaker 1: That I used to give myself to a man for.
Speaker 3: And because now my mindset on money is so different,
Speaker 3: I'm like, ooh, bitch, pathetic, Like oh my god, where
Speaker 3: is your worth? But of course my viewpoint on money
Speaker 3: back then, bitch, I had two roommates, my rent was
Speaker 3: six hundred dollars, way different than my life today.
Speaker 1: But it's just like having to go back and revisit
Speaker 1: at what.
Speaker 3: Those moments look like, or having to laugh in the
Speaker 3: face of a guy that I really wasn't interested or
Speaker 3: even having to have relations ongoing with someone that I
Speaker 3: couldn't see myself being in a relationship for I wasn't
Speaker 3: that attracted to just for the money.
Speaker 2: You know what I actually wish I talked about in
Speaker 2: the book that I didn't when Scissors and I were together,
Speaker 2: I had a corporate job, I was doing well. She
Speaker 2: wasn't really tripping about sugar daddy shit. But I had
Speaker 2: this crazy offer from a guy that I slept with
Speaker 2: for money in the past that wanted me to come
Speaker 2: and see him, and she was so fucking but hurt
Speaker 2: that I considered it. And I'm like, Yo, we're sitting
Speaker 2: here talking about bringing a man into our relationship. You
Speaker 2: knew me when I was fucking this nigga, and now,
Speaker 2: for some reason in this not even monogamous at the time.
Speaker 2: But she was just like saying how basically like she
Speaker 2: it made her feel like we never really moved up anywhere.
Speaker 2: And so this is why the sex work chapter for
Speaker 2: me is pretty interesting. For example, today I'm partnered, I
Speaker 2: don't really need to do any of this.
Speaker 1: But would I?
Speaker 2: In my chapter I talked about how I didn't need
Speaker 2: to have sex with that guy like, he gave me
Speaker 2: this apartment, he gave me all these things without sex,
Speaker 2: and I did it because I wanted to. And so
Speaker 2: I think our conversation from what I remember, I don't
Speaker 2: want to misquote her, but there was this big discrepancy
Speaker 2: of how she viewed sex work and how I viewed it,
Speaker 2: of course, and that kind of started to fuck with
Speaker 2: my head a little bit because I was like, damn,
Speaker 2: I never I hated feeling less than I think that
Speaker 2: you pitied me from my story, That's what I'm telling her,
Speaker 2: when really I was having fun, because right now, let's
Speaker 2: just say I was single, kicking it in some rich
Speaker 2: hot not some old middle Easter. Me give me Rihanna's
Speaker 2: who's that billion nigga she was with, Give me that one?
Speaker 2: And he called me and was like, you know what,
Speaker 2: I want you to eat pussy and they both all day.
Speaker 2: I give you one million.
Speaker 1: One million is crazy. You can give me ten What
Speaker 1: do pussy look like?
Speaker 3: I mean, based on what I know, to go and
Speaker 3: race to be is very tough. The bitches ain't getting
Speaker 3: ten bands anymore. Bitches ain't getting fat, you know, getting fine?
Speaker 1: Damn oh bitch, drop now.
Speaker 3: And because they have the access to just get all
Speaker 3: these young bitches. The young bitches just want pictures on
Speaker 3: the yachts. They just want to be a nice hotel rooms.
Speaker 1: Do you know it's crazy because, like I feel like
Speaker 1: today my caveat.
Speaker 2: If I was gonna get out there and schlet my
Speaker 2: shop out of the back, this would be my caveat,
Speaker 2: just because I'm so in this world of industry, right,
Speaker 2: We're always going to things like no matter where I'm working,
Speaker 2: whoever can't be no entertainment, can't be athlete, can't be
Speaker 2: anything like that.
Speaker 1: Because these are people in my room.
Speaker 2: You give me an old man on an oxygen takee,
Speaker 2: I'm taking him at all, pretend like he's my dad
Speaker 2: the whole time.
Speaker 1: That's crazy. I'm in a rub his hand and everything
Speaker 1: I could not.
Speaker 3: I will say, for the most part, the men that
Speaker 3: I dealt with with money where it wasn't like a
Speaker 3: sex work act and it was more like a sugaring act,
Speaker 3: they're all fairly good looking.
Speaker 1: They're all not bad because they just rich let niggas.
Speaker 3: But I'm just saying, but I'm talking about like then
Speaker 3: I had, like the African diplomat, I had like some
Speaker 3: that wasn't cute at all, and I was like, fuck,
Speaker 3: I gotta go see him.
Speaker 1: Bitch, you got you got, you got your renild. Do
Speaker 1: you remember? Oh my god, fuck this ship. I gotta
Speaker 1: tell y'all to see.
Speaker 2: Do you remember the girl that I was fucking that
Speaker 2: we had on years ago and then she started tripping
Speaker 2: because I didn't want to date her.
Speaker 1: The one who tried to sue us?
Speaker 5: Yes, okay, whoa okay, well.
Speaker 1: Talk about her. She tried to defame us child.
Speaker 3: She her a Wheezy broke up she had and then
Speaker 3: her episode dropped, but they were already broken up. So
Speaker 3: she tried to say her coming on our whole ass
Speaker 3: podcast took away brand deals from her, so she was
Speaker 3: gonna suit the poe. So Weezy come on, like, uh,
Speaker 3: she's gonna sue us? I said no, but she's she's
Speaker 3: suing you and your pussy. She's not suing this goddamn podcast.
Speaker 1: I was like, what the fu? I said?
Speaker 3: And this is why to this day, Weezi has wanted
Speaker 3: to bring our lovers on this show. Not interested, bitch,
Speaker 3: make a whole new show. Have all your lovers on there.
Speaker 3: I don't give a fuck, but they not coming on
Speaker 3: this show. Do not bring nobody you put on this
Speaker 3: show we got you know, Okay, I like the content.
Speaker 2: But anyway, so randomly right, you could someone, anybody could
Speaker 2: sue us, any single person we've ever had.
Speaker 1: What is sex up to do with it? You put
Speaker 1: it too?
Speaker 2: So okay, what fucking pussy? And now I'm a problem anyway,
Speaker 2: So let me tell you the tea. You had a
Speaker 2: lot more than one pussy that that that I don't
Speaker 2: say what this whole I'm on Instagram and I randomly
Speaker 2: just see her pop up and.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh shit, she's look cute. So I'm looking
Speaker 1: at her ig and I'm like, damn, this hole all
Speaker 1: over the place. What the fuck? She got a new
Speaker 1: bitch girl? I googled a bitch she dating maybe forties.
Speaker 2: Or fifties children. Okay, I can't even say the company name.
Speaker 2: Let's just say if you had to think of the
Speaker 2: top three biggest companies in the world.
Speaker 1: Sure, okay, that lady just stepped down, outsided to retire. Okay,
Speaker 1: just give us all the tea.
Speaker 2: Oh I don't this is not suitable period, which I'm
Speaker 2: really thinking to myself. We were fucking in my two
Speaker 2: hundred and fifties with square fit apartment.
Speaker 1: And you leveled.
Speaker 3: I'm mean not gonna lie though. That was ten years ago.
Speaker 3: Look how we've leveled it ago, No, eight years ago.
Speaker 1: Yeah, anyway, she came on like we're the first thing
Speaker 1: these sugar marbles was. I was out here on Western
Speaker 1: Price dot com. They were married. Oh a lot they
Speaker 1: were married to men, and a lot of them now
Speaker 1: don't step down from the CEO positions, but they had
Speaker 1: men that didn't support them.
Speaker 3: And now they're all lesbians. When I tell you, we're
Speaker 3: seeing it even with Kyle Richard's on Beverly Hills.
Speaker 1: She love her some Morgan child. She's like, y'all can't
Speaker 1: talk away in the selling sunset. Now she's dating the
Speaker 1: girl they all go to. Like women.
Speaker 2: You got to wait, tied to white women that taken
Speaker 2: change that bitches are selling sunset time.
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry to the best drink my friend. Let
Speaker 1: yo just shut up. Oh I'm just a watch No.
Speaker 1: When I saw that vich was on the yacht, I
Speaker 1: was really like the old white lady. Oh oh.
Speaker 3: Okay, I want to play clip a quick clip. I
Speaker 3: know we're doing it's reactionary, but it's agree to disagree.
Speaker 3: And because we just got from the what's your price
Speaker 3: conversation and sex work, I want to know if you
Speaker 3: agree with fifty cent Okay, this is what you have
Speaker 3: to say.
Speaker 2: If your appearance is your largest asset, you're gonna do
Speaker 2: some whole.
Speaker 3: Ship if your appearance, If your appearance is your largest asset,
Speaker 3: you gonna do some whoslet shit.
Speaker 1: Do you agree or disagree if your height is your
Speaker 1: largest asset or you gonna play basketball? Nope, not the same.
Speaker 1: They have to have a bit though, Okay, okay, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: I see, I see, I see where you going.
Speaker 2: Also, the hotter you are, the more you get hos
Speaker 2: You gotta think about this. Think of every fine ass
Speaker 2: nigga you met, Think of every fine ass bitch you met.
Speaker 1: Think of everybody that got a price.
Speaker 3: Like you may not go into wanting to do whosle shit,
Speaker 3: but a man may approach you with whole shit. Now
Speaker 3: I'll tell you now, I just had a conversation about
Speaker 3: privilege and the pros and cons of privilege. We had
Speaker 3: this conversation on a selective ignorance. Shout out to Reezy
Speaker 3: and Sid and one of the things that they don't
Speaker 3: talk about pretty privilege often is the unfortunate a you
Speaker 3: may you may be at more risk to get sexually assaulted,
Speaker 3: sexually harassed, and unfortunately end up in a lifestyle that
Speaker 3: was forced upon you because maybe because you're so attractive,
Speaker 3: you didn't really have to be smart, So the direction
Speaker 3: for you wasn't to go to school. You never was
Speaker 3: you never were forced to be in position of competition because.
Speaker 1: You always won.
Speaker 3: Or like like me, where I don't think I was
Speaker 3: at all the prettiest in my teens. My circle was
Speaker 3: full of pretty girls and they did a lot of
Speaker 3: whole shit, and they brought me in the whole shit.
Speaker 1: We brought each other into whole shit, you know.
Speaker 2: So I think it's also you're a circle thinking of
Speaker 2: the baddest bitch ause I know, I'm like, this is
Speaker 2: why meeting women that are abnormally attractive and are just
Speaker 2: decent people like Cammy Crawford.
Speaker 1: When we had her on, I was very confused, bitch,
Speaker 1: you really is great?
Speaker 2: Fuck you talking about her goddamn foundation. I'm talking to you, Gammy.
Speaker 3: Oh, I'm helping these kids and doing this like cue
Speaker 3: now he didn't good say, he did say, ever, when
Speaker 3: your biggest asset is your appearance.
Speaker 1: So for people who have other skills.
Speaker 2: No, no, And of course to me, biggest asset is
Speaker 2: like if someone when I'm hearing that, just like you
Speaker 2: see someone in.
Speaker 1: There and they're gorgeous, right, I'm not gonna hold you. Yeah.
Speaker 3: We find out based on environment and reach and probably
Speaker 3: what gets proposition to you and what becomes very hard
Speaker 3: to turn down in this economy when Eggs has started
Speaker 3: six times a film, I will just say.
Speaker 1: I do think and do agree with him.
Speaker 3: I do agree that the more attractive you are, not
Speaker 3: that you're going to be a hope forever, but I
Speaker 3: do believe that within your lifetime people, you will do
Speaker 3: some whole ship.
Speaker 2: You Knoweople tell us about Naomi Campbell recently, and I
Speaker 2: was like, fighting this conversation to the death.
Speaker 1: What wait, what do they tell you about allegedly that
Speaker 1: you see she talked about you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: that's what they say. You don't know if it's true? No,
Speaker 1: I don't, Okay, So and this is why I was talking.
Speaker 2: The point basically that Naomi Campbell has been a high
Speaker 2: end escort for years. I'm like, bro, she's one of
Speaker 2: those famous models in the world. If you had to
Speaker 2: tell me, think fast, name three models she going.
Speaker 1: To be in that. You know what's crazy about that?
Speaker 1: I know she's made money over the decades.
Speaker 3: However, we grew up thinking rappers, actors, all these niggas
Speaker 3: was richer than they really were. I think a lot
Speaker 3: of our favorite celebrities have done some strange things.
Speaker 2: But I was reading this article right about how much
Speaker 2: the highest paid models get just one fashion runway walk
Speaker 2: could be one point five. But she's black, and she
Speaker 2: was the I'm talking about black women. By the way,
Speaker 2: Joan Small's is one of them, one of the richest
Speaker 2: models today. Yeah, back, I mean Latina, like Naomi Campbell,
Speaker 2: black up there.
Speaker 1: Like Naomi Campbell's Naomi. She actually, in my opinion, almost
Speaker 1: it's past the what we think black girls getting today.
Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna hold you. You can't get a
Speaker 1: quick ten twenty me. No, no, no.
Speaker 3: But that's my point though she's probably being off for
Speaker 3: the things. It's it's exactly what fifty just said.
Speaker 1: Don't matter.
Speaker 3: How Like, at that point, it's not about how much
Speaker 3: money you make. Your attraction equals.
Speaker 1: You gonna do some whole shit. Okay, So basically.
Speaker 3: So basically we both agree that if you're a little attractive,
Speaker 3: you might, in some time in your life end up
Speaker 3: doing some hohot shit by proximity because of friends, pure pressure,
Speaker 3: or opportunity.
Speaker 1: I only want to say yesterday because it makes me
Speaker 1: feel better about my Oh shit, Oh, it was so cute.
Speaker 1: I was a hope on it for a time, not
Speaker 1: long ago. I was out. We used to come out
Speaker 1: to that song. We really did not really coming out
Speaker 1: to Mariolan.
Speaker 3: It was we.
Speaker 1: But was she saying nigga back then? Ghetto? Well, she
Speaker 1: said she Puerto Rican girl, just like what's the name
Speaker 1: of Senner said? She was many talking about. She's not
Speaker 1: right at.
Speaker 3: All, honestly, Oh, I did. I did the math throng.
Speaker 3: I thought she was quarter black, but she said.
Speaker 1: Her great grand she said her great granddaddy was half black,
Speaker 1: so I didn't realize that made her an eighth black. However,
Speaker 1: it was the nineteen thirties, but.
Speaker 5: Which I will see here.
Speaker 1: Hold on, I'm double downing one drop role, one drop roll,
Speaker 1: no biracial? Can she say it? I don't, Yeah, she
Speaker 1: said it? Did she say it in the goddamn movie?
Speaker 1: You crazy been talking about it. She said, boy, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was boy. She shouldn't have said. But we know
Speaker 1: she was married to a cracker. That was her lingo.
Speaker 1: She probably just she hadn't been around her peoples in
Speaker 1: a while. Graham, I'm gonna hold you. She could say,
Speaker 1: if y'all keep letting crazy, she's she has she's one
Speaker 1: eighth black. Yes, she could say it. Fucking kidding me.
Speaker 4: I don't even want logic to say nigga and he's
Speaker 4: half black, he's actually like half.
Speaker 1: No, well that's you, that's not.
Speaker 3: Not you say her judging how a biraciald Hallie.
Speaker 2: Shanfield from Sinners, the Caucasian lady we saw all on
Speaker 2: the screen.
Speaker 3: Caucas it's crazy. She's not full Caucasian. This is crazy
Speaker 3: she this is she is not full Caucation. No, you
Speaker 3: need to stop reaching her from the back, all y'all
Speaker 3: real quick before we get out of here. Decisions decisions.
Speaker 3: We are talking about Afro Dzas through the agent Afro.
Speaker 1: She would know about it as she is one ah.
Speaker 3: So afrodz As if y'all go back to horrible decisions
Speaker 3: we talked about, it's shit you eat that make your
Speaker 3: pussy thumb.
Speaker 1: Maybe yo, dick a little rock hard or whatever.
Speaker 3: This is my decisions way of explaining afro Dziak, however,
Speaker 3: helps we're now decisions decisions, So we're gonna get into
Speaker 3: the history of it and how it came about across
Speaker 3: different parts of the world, and like always, because it's
Speaker 3: where human creation started, because we was here first.
Speaker 1: We're starting in ancient Egypt.
Speaker 3: In ancient Egypt, these are the things that made them
Speaker 3: a little spicy. So we're starting with honey and crocodile hearts.
Speaker 3: I know the Egyptians were early fans of love potions.
Speaker 3: Cleopatra herself was rumored to blend honey, wine and exotic
Speaker 3: herbs to seduce lovers. Meanwhile, more daring Egyptians believed ground
Speaker 3: crocodile hearts could stoke passion, like artichoke could stoke passion.
Speaker 1: Not artichoke, just stoke passion. I don't know. That's what
Speaker 1: it says, stoke passion, risky romance. I'm not gonna lie
Speaker 1: in Florida. My mama used to go to this bar.
Speaker 3: It wasn't crocodile, but it was alligator alligator meats, some
Speaker 3: motherfucking fire. It kind of tastes like fishy chicken, but
Speaker 3: in a good way, kind of like frog legs kind
Speaker 3: of taste that way.
Speaker 1: You and I ate a. We did it in Oklahoma City.
Speaker 1: We did it. Wasn't it good that we had gator bite?
Speaker 1: Bro the gator the gator bytes were fired. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. I would do crocodile hearts. I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: hold you.
Speaker 2: When I'm in New Orleans, I want to go a little.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to be with all them white people just
Speaker 2: sound like that. You're Frona Value and the agents. I
Speaker 2: want to eat all that meat that's questionable with a
Speaker 2: little scale on it.
Speaker 1: I want. I don't want no possum. I don't want
Speaker 1: no road kill, no rat, no road kill like whatever
Speaker 1: they got backstage in essence, I don't want that. Get
Speaker 1: me the other ship, no ship. They're coming to bad
Speaker 1: newspaper down.
Speaker 3: As it's gonna do us, right, y'all, Just bring me
Speaker 3: the gumbo, the the shrimp at two fee, the crap fish,
Speaker 3: all of that, all right, number two. We're going to
Speaker 3: ancient Greece, now, Bitch, this might this might be why
Speaker 3: I be horny all the time. Bitch, what girl water water?
Speaker 3: All of them oysters don't do that whole all of
Speaker 3: the oysters, bitch. I love an extra dirty martini, filthy
Speaker 3: with blue cheese, stuffed alive.
Speaker 1: So alives and oysters.
Speaker 3: Greeks gave us the word afrodisiac, actually from afro Diey,
Speaker 3: the goddess of love. They swore by olives and oysters
Speaker 3: for libido boosts, and Aristotle praised the oysters erotic potential,
Speaker 3: and science later confirmed that they're rich in zinc.
Speaker 1: Which actually does help to sasceron.
Speaker 2: I think that the thing about olives and oysters, I
Speaker 2: have a theory, go ahead, theory. I think the way
Speaker 2: that you eat certain food is what makes it afrod easiet.
Speaker 4: Fair because you got it well, like roy oysters compared
Speaker 4: to bike oysters.
Speaker 5: Like I think the raw oysters.
Speaker 1: Gonna make it.
Speaker 2: I don't really think it's something in it. I think
Speaker 2: it's like the way you have to put yourm mouth
Speaker 2: the same.
Speaker 1: Don't look topsicle. Actually no, that's your theory. Science confirmed.
Speaker 1: It's the zinc, which you don't believe that.
Speaker 5: I can definitely see that they.
Speaker 1: Just said it. Science confirms, So go ahead, which your theory? Girl? Wait,
Speaker 1: let me ask a question.
Speaker 4: Do you like olives. Oh so you both like olives?
Speaker 4: Do you guys know about the olive theory? The fact
Speaker 4: that it's like compatibility between two people. One person should
Speaker 4: like olives and the other person should like olives. Yeah,
Speaker 4: that's the whole thing. I want to pick a bone
Speaker 4: with you though, Oh pick that what? Because Shorty was
Speaker 4: coming at me right, you don't call me short because
Speaker 4: we came. We came through to Knife. We went to Knife.
Speaker 1: Oh oh no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: this ain't even about he nickering. He a nickel. So
Speaker 1: any who, so we go to Knife. Shout out.
Speaker 3: I'm with Knife as a restaurant in Atlanta because we
Speaker 3: all just wanted to keep going out after the black
Speaker 3: Effect event.
Speaker 1: Okay, so I'm with Bitch the team. It's the team,
Speaker 1: it's me, It's and a king. So we all go
Speaker 1: out to eat and bitch, I'm I want to look cute. Drink.
Speaker 3: So I'm like, oh, do you have stuffed olives? I'd
Speaker 3: like a dirty mark stuffed So my drink, My drink comes,
Speaker 3: My drink comes, and he's like, I have never in
Speaker 3: my life seen a woman order blue cheese stuffed olives.
Speaker 1: And I said, hold on you ready, I think I it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's delicious, And I said, are you dating girls
Speaker 3: the same as Shark? Because maybe you need to deal
Speaker 3: with some more mature women.
Speaker 1: Hold on, wait wait wait, you were eating it out?
Speaker 5: It was in the martini is so crazy, it's so weird.
Speaker 1: I said, how old are you also.
Speaker 5: Judging the age of the woman I dated?
Speaker 2: Because let me tell you, first of all, maybe you
Speaker 2: ain't never being nowhere. That's what I said, very much
Speaker 2: like when I go out certain places and be just
Speaker 2: be like, what's the fresio death that you sound like?
Speaker 1: No I have.
Speaker 4: I've had a lot of good drinks, right brone, speak easy,
Speaker 4: and that.
Speaker 5: Don't mean I haven't done.
Speaker 1: And it's on the Upper East drinks.
Speaker 4: But that's what I'm saying. I've gone to speaking a
Speaker 4: blue rabbit, blue cheese. All of it is a fucking martini.
Speaker 4: Sounds ridiculous, just because what no, no, no, it's delicious.
Speaker 5: That looks crazy. I've never you know, at that moment,
Speaker 5: I had never seen anybody order that in real life.
Speaker 1: Did you eat it? Fuck?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: I order for something a savory tongue.
Speaker 5: I just had a tikila something.
Speaker 2: About a martini. Okay, this sounds so bad because we're
Speaker 2: talking about sexpert. Okay, when I'm in a hotel, can
Speaker 2: I order martini? I just feel like a high end prostitute.
Speaker 1: That's right. What, No, it's not. I don't ever drink.
Speaker 5: You don't got to be a high.
Speaker 1: Prote You watch a movie and a hot girls alone
Speaker 1: at the bar if she is not drinking a mother
Speaker 1: fucking margarita. You know what I feel. You know what
Speaker 1: I feel like a woman in her mid thirties period.
Speaker 5: When when was the last time you ordered a blue
Speaker 5: cheese martini with a side of wings?
Speaker 2: Well, no, no, no, I've had in the last year
Speaker 2: where I just asked for bluechees. Always want to get
Speaker 2: to martini some places?
Speaker 1: Oh no, I put them in the thing.
Speaker 3: All right, let's get let's get on this episode. We
Speaker 3: got India baby Comma Sutras spicy secrets. In ancient India,
Speaker 3: the Kamma Sutra wasn't just about positions. It included recipes, which,
Speaker 3: by the way, if you haven't yet check out our episode,
Speaker 3: we dive into the history of Kamasutrup. Saffron, ginger, and
Speaker 3: nutmeg were blended into tonics for arousal and ash wa Ganda,
Speaker 3: still used today, was their go to for stamina. In
Speaker 3: China we have gensing and gecko wine, and in the
Speaker 3: Middle Ages, risky love potions.
Speaker 1: In the medieval Europe turned to man drake root. It's
Speaker 1: say Spanish lit. But we already know, y'all.
Speaker 3: Y'all can't do Spanish line nom and wine mixed with
Speaker 3: goat testicles. The wine mixed with goat texticles, texticles. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: That just reminded me of fear Factor. It might be
Speaker 3: the only thing I couldnot I'm not doing no testicles, bro.
Speaker 1: This is all by the way I lick them, but
Speaker 1: I'm not. I don't care like I get so engulfed
Speaker 1: in somebody on a date.
Speaker 4: Sometimes they'd be like, this is a delicate you guys
Speaker 4: ever had rocky Mountain oysters?
Speaker 1: Those are fucking tests. Yeah, I saw that on fear Factor.
Speaker 1: Don't want them never did.
Speaker 3: They look disgusting and they're big. They're like big balls,
Speaker 3: like balls like this big that you gotta cut over
Speaker 3: and eat with a knife, and it looks just a ball.
Speaker 3: I don't want a ball. Uh, last one too, Victorian era.
Speaker 3: Now this one I can get with bitch again, might
Speaker 3: be why be horny in the Button Up eighteen hundreds,
Speaker 3: public modesty clashed with private experimentation. Champagne, Vanilla and Celery
Speaker 3: were popular. Now, bitch, First off, we shouldn't be giving
Speaker 3: kids a little answer on the lag, not if it's
Speaker 3: gonna make them horny. But I love me a little
Speaker 3: motherfucking crude te and be fucking up Champagne, Vanilla and Celery.
Speaker 3: Our prodiziaks were tucked into medicinal tonics or whispered about
Speaker 3: in Scandalous women's magazine.
Speaker 1: That sounds like shit you can get right now. No,
Speaker 1: you can't get Vanilla, Celery, Champo, the you know what
Speaker 1: is it? Double chicken please.
Speaker 2: It's like the most famous world's prost sam Is Bar
Speaker 2: now in New York. Like, I feel like they have
Speaker 2: such weird concoctions.
Speaker 1: They probably put this inn.
Speaker 2: Honestly, whenever I go to these nice places down and
Speaker 2: I'll be looking at the menu and the shit just
Speaker 2: be looking nuts.
Speaker 1: All I look for is the main mezcal tequila. What
Speaker 1: the hell is it? Because I don't know none of
Speaker 1: this other shit with the frise for mouth. I'm just playing.
Speaker 1: And of course, as y'all know, because we've talked about
Speaker 1: it before. Chocolate is one. Of course, you have hornygoat,
Speaker 1: hornygoat weed.
Speaker 3: And then today it's literally in here is the twentieth
Speaker 3: century bitch viagra or blue Choo or one of them
Speaker 3: motherfucking pink pills from the gas station.
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Speaker 1: Wow, horrible. That was almost mad at me on stage
Speaker 1: talking about creative. Oh my god.