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Speaker 1: decision decisions. It sounded like you was talking to cursing.

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Speaker 2: You definitely say to welcome, Welcome to the new podcast.

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Speaker 2: Oh wait, you want to say together Decisions Decisions.

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Speaker 3: Hey guys, welcome to another episode of Decisions Decisions.

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Speaker 1: I'm your girl, Mandy. Oh they don't get French. No,

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Speaker 2: So goo fry, I am so easy and we're going

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Speaker 1: That's right, that's right.

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Speaker 3: And before we get started with this week's episode, make

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Speaker 3: a dual manifesto of sexual exploration and power. All right,

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Speaker 3: let's start with catch up. Mine is gonna be real, grown, real, mature,

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Speaker 3: but happy news. If you guys were listening to the

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Speaker 3: podcast right around the time of the rebrand, right before

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Speaker 3: I moved to Atlanta, I was dealing with a lot

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Speaker 3: of fucking shit, the depression of moving, and then I

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Speaker 3: had two people close to me diagnosed with breast cancer,

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Speaker 3: and a friend of mine was dealing with fertility issues,

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Speaker 3: and so it's so amazing to say, but one of

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Speaker 3: those women recently beat breast cancer. I'm literally really really excited,

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Speaker 3: really and I'm grateful for I know them. No, I'm

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Speaker 3: grateful for my best friend Crystal, because she's been able

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Speaker 3: to be somebody that as other people connected to me

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Speaker 3: are going through their journey, that they have a resource

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Speaker 3: of someone who got it, beat it, came out of it,

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Speaker 3: and is willing to like share what she went through.

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Speaker 3: So got the double missectomy and now is dealing with

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Speaker 3: you know, in remission, being cancer free.

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Speaker 1: So really excited about that.

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Speaker 3: And then my other friend who although is still having difficulty,

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Speaker 3: I think is going right now. She's on a break

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Speaker 3: because it's so much to her body. But she's currently

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Speaker 3: gone through two rounds of IVF, looking to do another one,

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Speaker 3: I have a friend who is looking to literally be

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Speaker 3: this was something that in her mind, she's like about

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Speaker 3: so she's really moving forward with that, although she just

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Speaker 3: broke up with her nigga of a lot of years,

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Speaker 3: so I'm confused. So it's interesting now to see like

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Speaker 3: been a journey having those conversations.

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Speaker 2: I can imagine, because it's like in one world, of course,

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Speaker 2: sperm bank sounds crazy, you would think, But then I

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Speaker 2: heard something recently that I wonder what your friend would

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Speaker 2: think about it the sperm It's not like you can't

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Speaker 2: get someone. The sperm bank kind of alleviates the detachment,

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Speaker 2: have a friend who's great, it's willing to do this

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Speaker 1: Will it feel a little bit?

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Speaker 3: No, she's gonna have it. She's gonna have it. It's

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Speaker 3: just have what she's gonna have the baby.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, I'm saying as far as like choosing, do

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Speaker 1: Also, if you know.

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Speaker 2: A nigga, I gold you I'm gonna spend those twenty

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Speaker 2: But then also, why would I want to go to

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Speaker 3: Well, even with it doesn't always like she feels like

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Speaker 3: I don't want to call it the shallowness, but it

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Speaker 3: And that's been a conversation that's really weird because I'm

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Speaker 2: Attached to I've ever heard someone say it when they're

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Speaker 1: But if you could start from the beginning.

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Speaker 3: If you could choose your partner essentially either and sperm

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Speaker 3: sperm banks don't have a lot of options for black

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Speaker 2: Laughing because I'm just like, if you had what's you

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Speaker 3: I mean, I'm I'm and And here's why I say,

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Speaker 3: I've been having to uh feed affirmations to her. I

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Speaker 3: still get your genetics, like it ain't just gonna be

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Speaker 3: all demand genetics. So it's been interesting just being like, girl.

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Speaker 1: You're beautiful. If you have a healthy baby, that's all

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Speaker 3: And you trying to get these good looking against subjective

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Speaker 1: No, they're black men. They're all black men.

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Speaker 1: Can I make some money?

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Speaker 3: Y'all want these eggs, you have to be within a

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Speaker 3: to me, for her, it's definitely because we both battled weight.

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Speaker 3: a big nigga, that baby ain't got no hope.

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Speaker 1: The baby probably gonna be big. We big boned it together,

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Speaker 2: So it's so crazy when they say that, Like, I

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Speaker 2: The big bon No no, no, no, no bullshit it is, but

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Speaker 2: it isn't our whole life. We told Big Bone ain't real.

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Speaker 2: We just found out as bullshit. I used to say,

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Speaker 2: It's literally like heating things on your stomach to try

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Speaker 2: the woman's like, just get cool sculpting. I don't want

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Speaker 2: She goes, I see why you want to get rid

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Speaker 2: everybody's like, this is bullshit. She's like, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: Your stomach on a thicker girl is no stomach.

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Speaker 2: She's like, but because you're smaller, it makes you look pregnant,

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Speaker 2: like you're basically the birth controls making me very soft

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Speaker 2: it's your bones. It's your bone structure.

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Speaker 2: Got a wider hips, your bone structure can be quote

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Speaker 2: For example, when you lost your most weight, you still

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Speaker 2: Yeah, me gaining this weight, some of it's going to

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Speaker 2: Say this to say a friend of mine who's also bigger,

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Speaker 1: So it's like you really can't help it.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, to your point, you get a super slim nigga,

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Speaker 2: what if you're still that person. It's only so much

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So that's it's been interesting to know that, you know,

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Speaker 1: And it's not even that she wants to be with

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Speaker 3: She makes good enough money to be a single mom,

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Speaker 3: and she's looking forward to being a single mom. Really,

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Speaker 3: she wants to be a mother. She said, I just

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Speaker 1: Y'all gonna lap shout out to science.

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Speaker 3: But it's been really like dope to have these conversations

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Speaker 2: But still you aren't rushing yourself. You're freezing these eggs

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Speaker 2: You know? Like, it's just there's so much I saw

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Speaker 1: However, maybe that's because baby daddy. Shit.

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Speaker 2: It's just easier all around.

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Speaker 3: Dude, I got a whole lot of friends single mom

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Speaker 1: Oh, this isn't for me, I don't want to fucking

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Speaker 2: Just immediately, and even if the dad isn't around, just

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Speaker 1: Would it make a man feel different?

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Speaker 2: Cause sometimes it has to do with the fact that

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Speaker 1: I'm just curious. There's no real thing.

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Speaker 2: I'm just and if there's any men listening that have

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Speaker 1: Would love to talk about that.

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Speaker 2: What is it like, what does it feel like with

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Speaker 2: that do this and then they get into relationships? Are

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Speaker 1: M There's got to be so many questions.

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Speaker 3: I love that women are now choosing and getting into

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Speaker 3: talking to younger girls. So someone said, the actual reason

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Speaker 1: Workforce, but no one is ready for that discussion. Bitch.

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Speaker 3: Shout out to doctor Laura Robinson read fulfilth. She said, actually,

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Speaker 3: talk about right now?

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Speaker 1: What this to me?

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Speaker 2: I don't know if anyone saw the flavoring clip of

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Speaker 2: Pete boudiceg.

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Speaker 1: Adopted a kid? Have you seen this?

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Speaker 2: I'm going to just fast forward to this really quick.

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Speaker 2: I sent it to Alex today because doctor Rymore posted it.

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Speaker 2: But Pete adopted a kid and the kid is black.

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Speaker 2: He didn't know the kid was gonna be blent.

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Speaker 6: We were just on a list. But you know, we

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Speaker 6: We said that we wanted to adopt without regard for race.

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Speaker 6: there are literally different lists. If you say that you

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Speaker 6: What do you mean by the list for white it

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Speaker 6: And not only that there was actually discount or you

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Speaker 1: This is like how it works. I couldn't believe it.

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Speaker 6: So we didn't know anything about the racial identity of

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Speaker 2: Let me tell you, first of doctor Gumar posed this

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Speaker 2: and I'm ready to get angry too. I wouldn't be

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Speaker 2: First of all, started looking into my own statistics. Twenty

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Speaker 2: three percent of children in foster care a black. Eight

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Speaker 2: percent of black families are adopting children. Yes, some reason,

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Speaker 2: someone went to jail. This is all socioeconomic. But most

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Speaker 2: people that are affluent nowadays are doing what your friend did.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna have my own kid. I'm not gonna die right.

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Speaker 2: Like, it's not a bad choice, to be honest, I

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Speaker 2: don't think I would be able to adopt either. I

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Speaker 2: That they're a quarter of the foster care system, it's

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Speaker 2: like it's just so fucked up, because there really is

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Speaker 2: like you don't know your identity. God forbid, they ain't

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Speaker 3: I'm not against I'm not against uh white people are

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Speaker 1: In knowing that it's.

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Speaker 3: Difficult for again, I guess they'll steal economic reasons. Like,

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Speaker 3: I'm not against any other race adopting black children, because

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Speaker 3: I think they all deserve a home, a loving carrying home,

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Speaker 1: I was just what.

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Speaker 3: Even even seeing what Angelina Joe Lee, who's the other one,

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Speaker 2: Other Angelina only getting black. She must have went on

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Speaker 1: Seton track?

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Speaker 2: How you out all love the new No, No, it's

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Speaker 2: a little black baby farm she got over there. It's

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Speaker 2: a little too much. I feel like it's too much.

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Speaker 2: I don't get a little too touched when they go

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Speaker 2: you know what, I think.

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Speaker 1: I think we're gonna take one home. That's what it gives.

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Speaker 2: It very much gives Instagram hold the baby up with

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Speaker 2: We're fucked It's like it's such a vicious cycle of

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Speaker 2: the black family unit. Like people needed to give up

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Speaker 2: their kids, you know what I'm saying, People not choosing

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Speaker 1: Like all this shit is just hella fucked up. Now,

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Speaker 1: I agree, but.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell you right now, I ain't adopting a

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Speaker 2: them rescues baby. I couldn't go get one. My homegirl

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Speaker 2: Oh this poor girl.

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Speaker 1: We live in the same building. This white girl. She

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Speaker 2: All I saw I could see from the door the

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Speaker 1: Whatever the fuck. I don't know what this hole left out.

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, she just starts crying immediately,

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Speaker 2: And now I'm also being fishcacius, y'all.

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00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:04,160
Speaker 1: I know, not every rescues like that. There's so many

439
00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:05,960
Speaker 1: dope rescues. But yeah, she.

440
00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:07,760
Speaker 2: Wouldn't want to save them beating up dogs, them dogs

441
00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:09,520
Speaker 2: getting They asked, well, now the ain't not got body

442
00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:12,240
Speaker 2: from a crackheads, so and that's why he was sucking

443
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:12,480
Speaker 2: you up.

444
00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:14,720
Speaker 1: Oh and he fucked my boyfriend up so bad.

445
00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:19,560
Speaker 3: Oh my god, Like I had to play nurse ed

446
00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:21,639
Speaker 3: and even came over the other day and I had

447
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 3: immediately because I locked him up.

448
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:26,240
Speaker 1: Like are you having to lock him up like a pitbull?

449
00:22:26,240 --> 00:22:28,600
Speaker 1: That's why you shouldn't have got a damn crack baby. Well,

450
00:22:29,520 --> 00:22:30,960
Speaker 1: everyone be adopted.

451
00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 5: It is kind of a crack baby.

452
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:34,280
Speaker 1: It is a crack baby. He is a crack baby,

453
00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:35,240
Speaker 1: that's all. He's from the Bronx.

454
00:22:35,800 --> 00:22:40,600
Speaker 3: Literally from the Bronx. Forget from the Bronx, the cats

455
00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:43,080
Speaker 3: from the Bronx. From a crackhead.

456
00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:47,119
Speaker 1: It is a crack baby. Socio economic body is a

457
00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:47,600
Speaker 1: crack baby.

458
00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:50,280
Speaker 5: And I see all the babies from the Bronx crack.

459
00:22:50,880 --> 00:22:54,720
Speaker 3: I'm gonna hold you. I am just like an adopted parent.

460
00:22:54,800 --> 00:22:56,800
Speaker 3: And maybe this age she was an adopted parent, but

461
00:22:56,840 --> 00:23:00,359
Speaker 3: this would be me literally every time he acts up. Nigga,

462
00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:02,480
Speaker 3: you could have been in the slumps. You could have

463
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:05,280
Speaker 3: been in a dumpsun. I saved your motherfucking ass. Well,

464
00:23:05,280 --> 00:23:07,240
Speaker 3: he don't want to eat cat food, Nigga, you could

465
00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:08,399
Speaker 3: have been getting it out the garbage.

466
00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:10,040
Speaker 1: Can you better be happy?

467
00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:12,480
Speaker 2: This is why you should have been stopped hacking with

468
00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:14,399
Speaker 2: light skinned niggas. God tried to tell you it was

469
00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:15,720
Speaker 2: a black cat down the street, he.

470
00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:19,280
Speaker 3: Said, nay, I did. That's never happened. He's an orange cat.

471
00:23:19,320 --> 00:23:20,800
Speaker 3: I didn't know nothing about orange tappings.

472
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:22,399
Speaker 5: Man, he was gonna just pick up a cat from

473
00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:22,800
Speaker 5: the street.

474
00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:27,800
Speaker 3: Yeah no, no, shout out to our horre Hive member.

475
00:23:28,240 --> 00:23:30,600
Speaker 3: The story goes, we were talking. I was lonely during

476
00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:33,560
Speaker 3: the pandemic. She said, I know you've been wanting a cat.

477
00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:34,480
Speaker 3: Do you still want one?

478
00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:36,359
Speaker 1: There's a crackhead selling one for twenty dollars.

479
00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:38,720
Speaker 5: Well, I thought war member was I said, I said,

480
00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:40,480
Speaker 5: I was.

481
00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:44,680
Speaker 1: There was a crack subscribe regardless, and here I go,

482
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:47,960
Speaker 1: here I go, real petty, We'll send me a picture first.

483
00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:48,679
Speaker 5: Hey, that's not petty.

484
00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:52,320
Speaker 3: He actually looked cute. Think yeah, twenty dollars a free

485
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 3: what it looked like? Yeah, it was twenty dollars and

486
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:55,879
Speaker 3: I gave her forty Wow.

487
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,320
Speaker 5: I was real nice, paid really well for that cat.

488
00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:07,360
Speaker 3: All right, As you guys know, Noel's Bar, a dual

489
00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 3: manifesto of sexual exploration and how were is available. Now,

490
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 3: I am actually going to be reading and excerpt from

491
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:18,240
Speaker 3: one of my chapters that was a word every time.

492
00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:18,760
Speaker 6: This is.

493
00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:21,240
Speaker 3: This was one of the hardest chapters for me to write,

494
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:28,320
Speaker 3: and it's about my journey of what I guess I

495
00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:30,879
Speaker 3: guess would say would be sex work. Y'all won't be

496
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:33,800
Speaker 3: hearing this chapter much during any of our press runs,

497
00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:38,399
Speaker 3: but this is from the chapter What's Your Price. Throughout

498
00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:43,119
Speaker 3: my twenties, these transactional relationships continued. It became easier and

499
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:45,760
Speaker 3: easier for me to ask for exactly what I needed,

500
00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 3: while accepting that these surface relationships only existed because we

501
00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:53,199
Speaker 3: both needed something from one another. I needed and required

502
00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:58,359
Speaker 3: financial existence assistance in exchange for their simple need to

503
00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:01,719
Speaker 3: enter the depths of my pussy, which their thick wallet's

504
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:05,040
Speaker 3: allowed easy access to. I only asked for things that

505
00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:08,600
Speaker 3: I absolutely needed. I wasn't asking for shoes or handbags.

506
00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:10,400
Speaker 3: I would be damned if I was wearing a pair

507
00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:12,399
Speaker 3: of shoes or a bag that costs more than what

508
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 3: was in my bank account.

509
00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:14,560
Speaker 1: I was on my own.

510
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:17,399
Speaker 3: Well, I never solely depended on men because I always

511
00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:19,560
Speaker 3: had a job. It sures how made it a lot

512
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 3: easier for me. These relationships seemed equally balanced at the time,

513
00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:26,200
Speaker 3: and not one partner was like the next.

514
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:29,119
Speaker 2: It's so interesting in both our chapters we talk about

515
00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:32,640
Speaker 2: how we didn't want bags or shoes. I think it's

516
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 2: a big testimony to like how sugaring can look for

517
00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:40,960
Speaker 2: certain people. Like one of my homegirls right now has

518
00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:43,359
Speaker 2: a trick that just always buys her clothes. She loves it,

519
00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:46,760
Speaker 2: But there are moments where I'm like, damn, bit, you

520
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:50,000
Speaker 2: got a five thousand dollars dress, like your apartment is.

521
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 3: Not the accused those color spaders. I mean, I think

522
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 3: it depends on the man that you're dealing with. I

523
00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 3: know that because me and my friends had different types

524
00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:02,360
Speaker 3: of tricks. Like I had men that I could call

525
00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:05,200
Speaker 3: and ask for money without having to see them, without

526
00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:05,919
Speaker 3: having to fuck them.

527
00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:07,960
Speaker 1: I would just call and say, hey, I need this

528
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 1: night to have it sent.

529
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:12,560
Speaker 3: Other friends had to get on a flight and actually

530
00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:14,920
Speaker 3: had to fuck or see the guy because they needed

531
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 3: to put money in hand. I also have known men

532
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:21,440
Speaker 3: that were never okay with giving money. They were only

533
00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:24,080
Speaker 3: okay with buying gifts. So I remember at times where

534
00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 3: some of my homegirls would be like, bruh, I'm so

535
00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:28,399
Speaker 3: mad this think about me these fucking fifteen hundred dollars shoes,

536
00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 3: Like I would have just taken the fifteen hundred dollars

537
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:33,880
Speaker 3: in cash. Unfortunately, like that was always at the discretion.

538
00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 1: Of the man.

539
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:37,200
Speaker 2: It's also very difficult when they're like the gift giving type.

540
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:43,640
Speaker 2: Because she got any bag today and she's been struggling

541
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:47,560
Speaker 2: with cash a little bit, and she's like, do you

542
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 2: want to just take it for half? Because I do

543
00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:51,360
Speaker 2: love the bag. I was like, girl, I don't even

544
00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:53,360
Speaker 2: want to take this from you, like pay me back

545
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:54,160
Speaker 2: and you get pay me back.

546
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:57,560
Speaker 1: But I get how stuck you feel.

547
00:26:57,720 --> 00:27:02,720
Speaker 2: Because this particular guy, she he's gorgeous and she's just like, fuck,

548
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:04,840
Speaker 2: he just wants to take me around to show off

549
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:08,920
Speaker 2: to his friends whatever, and like he's basically this is

550
00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:09,440
Speaker 2: how it goes.

551
00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna lie.

552
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:12,280
Speaker 2: This is still fairytale shit to me. It's just this

553
00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 2: perfect fucking New York La girl. He loves to send

554
00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:19,639
Speaker 2: her a driver to dress her for the day. She

555
00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 2: doesn't have a budget, might be ten twenty whatever, could

556
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:25,440
Speaker 2: even be jewelry, and then whatever she's wearing. They go

557
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 2: out to some big event premiere, and she keeps and

558
00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:32,800
Speaker 2: she's like, fuck, I'm getting in this car backfay on rent,

559
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:34,360
Speaker 2: trying to get my gigs and shit.

560
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:38,880
Speaker 1: Up, and like she's mismanaging her pussy did I mean yes?

561
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 2: And no, she's not having sex with him, so she

562
00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:45,159
Speaker 2: isn't selling sex. Okay, She's trying to get out there

563
00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:47,680
Speaker 2: and do her thing, you know, la girl. But she's like, fuck,

564
00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 2: this really sucks because I don't even want to ask

565
00:27:51,080 --> 00:27:53,960
Speaker 2: for money because I know this is the allure for him.

566
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 1: He loves to do and spend the whole thing.

567
00:27:57,160 --> 00:27:59,960
Speaker 2: So I mean, yeah, I've been stuck once or twice

568
00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:02,320
Speaker 2: there before. I think I mentioned, like even in the

569
00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:05,120
Speaker 2: book what I do like to about these two chapters.

570
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:08,720
Speaker 2: Is a story of sex work that made a woman

571
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:11,840
Speaker 2: fel empowered, A sex work story where you talk about

572
00:28:11,840 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 2: self worth.

573
00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:13,560
Speaker 1: There's so many forms.

574
00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:17,520
Speaker 3: This chapter was hard for me. It's something I'm dealing

575
00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 3: with in therapy now. A lot of shame, a lot

576
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:21,879
Speaker 3: of things I told you on this podcast back in

577
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,040
Speaker 3: the day that I wouldn't tell you now. And I

578
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:28,120
Speaker 3: think that my ability to somewhat use my body as

579
00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:30,760
Speaker 3: a way to pay rent and get by and have

580
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:34,760
Speaker 3: school covered and kind of just survive in my twenties

581
00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:39,160
Speaker 3: now that I look back with literal I will go

582
00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:41,960
Speaker 3: out and spend the same amount of money on a

583
00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:43,600
Speaker 3: dinner or a pair of jeans.

584
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 1: That I used to give myself to a man for.

585
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 3: And because now my mindset on money is so different,

586
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:53,560
Speaker 3: I'm like, ooh, bitch, pathetic, Like oh my god, where

587
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:56,760
Speaker 3: is your worth? But of course my viewpoint on money

588
00:28:56,800 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 3: back then, bitch, I had two roommates, my rent was

589
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:01,720
Speaker 3: six hundred dollars, way different than my life today.

590
00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:06,000
Speaker 1: But it's just like having to go back and revisit

591
00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 1: at what.

592
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 3: Those moments look like, or having to laugh in the

593
00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:11,280
Speaker 3: face of a guy that I really wasn't interested or

594
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:15,720
Speaker 3: even having to have relations ongoing with someone that I

595
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:18,160
Speaker 3: couldn't see myself being in a relationship for I wasn't

596
00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 3: that attracted to just for the money.

597
00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 2: You know what I actually wish I talked about in

598
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:27,360
Speaker 2: the book that I didn't when Scissors and I were together,

599
00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:30,400
Speaker 2: I had a corporate job, I was doing well. She

600
00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:36,120
Speaker 2: wasn't really tripping about sugar daddy shit. But I had

601
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:39,000
Speaker 2: this crazy offer from a guy that I slept with

602
00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 2: for money in the past that wanted me to come

603
00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 2: and see him, and she was so fucking but hurt

604
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:51,880
Speaker 2: that I considered it. And I'm like, Yo, we're sitting

605
00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:54,480
Speaker 2: here talking about bringing a man into our relationship. You

606
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 2: knew me when I was fucking this nigga, and now,

607
00:29:57,200 --> 00:30:01,360
Speaker 2: for some reason in this not even monogamous at the time.

608
00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 2: But she was just like saying how basically like she

609
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 2: it made her feel like we never really moved up anywhere.

610
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:13,240
Speaker 2: And so this is why the sex work chapter for

611
00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:18,080
Speaker 2: me is pretty interesting. For example, today I'm partnered, I

612
00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 2: don't really need to do any of this.

613
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:22,080
Speaker 1: But would I?

614
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:25,320
Speaker 2: In my chapter I talked about how I didn't need

615
00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:27,480
Speaker 2: to have sex with that guy like, he gave me

616
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:29,720
Speaker 2: this apartment, he gave me all these things without sex,

617
00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:32,040
Speaker 2: and I did it because I wanted to. And so

618
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:34,960
Speaker 2: I think our conversation from what I remember, I don't

619
00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:37,360
Speaker 2: want to misquote her, but there was this big discrepancy

620
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 2: of how she viewed sex work and how I viewed it,

621
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 2: of course, and that kind of started to fuck with

622
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:44,200
Speaker 2: my head a little bit because I was like, damn,

623
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:46,640
Speaker 2: I never I hated feeling less than I think that

624
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:49,680
Speaker 2: you pitied me from my story, That's what I'm telling her,

625
00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 2: when really I was having fun, because right now, let's

626
00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:56,240
Speaker 2: just say I was single, kicking it in some rich

627
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 2: hot not some old middle Easter. Me give me Rihanna's

628
00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:01,400
Speaker 2: who's that billion nigga she was with, Give me that one?

629
00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:03,720
Speaker 2: And he called me and was like, you know what,

630
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:05,840
Speaker 2: I want you to eat pussy and they both all day.

631
00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 2: I give you one million.

632
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 1: One million is crazy. You can give me ten What

633
00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 1: do pussy look like?

634
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 3: I mean, based on what I know, to go and

635
00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 3: race to be is very tough. The bitches ain't getting

636
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 3: ten bands anymore. Bitches ain't getting fat, you know, getting fine?

637
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:27,479
Speaker 1: Damn oh bitch, drop now.

638
00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:30,080
Speaker 3: And because they have the access to just get all

639
00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 3: these young bitches. The young bitches just want pictures on

640
00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 3: the yachts. They just want to be a nice hotel rooms.

641
00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:38,560
Speaker 1: Do you know it's crazy because, like I feel like

642
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 1: today my caveat.

643
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:41,960
Speaker 2: If I was gonna get out there and schlet my

644
00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:44,440
Speaker 2: shop out of the back, this would be my caveat,

645
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:48,080
Speaker 2: just because I'm so in this world of industry, right,

646
00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 2: We're always going to things like no matter where I'm working,

647
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 2: whoever can't be no entertainment, can't be athlete, can't be

648
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 2: anything like that.

649
00:31:56,880 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 1: Because these are people in my room.

650
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 2: You give me an old man on an oxygen takee,

651
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:03,760
Speaker 2: I'm taking him at all, pretend like he's my dad

652
00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 2: the whole time.

653
00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 1: That's crazy. I'm in a rub his hand and everything

654
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:07,120
Speaker 1: I could not.

655
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:11,240
Speaker 3: I will say, for the most part, the men that

656
00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:13,480
Speaker 3: I dealt with with money where it wasn't like a

657
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 3: sex work act and it was more like a sugaring act,

658
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:19,800
Speaker 3: they're all fairly good looking.

659
00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:22,959
Speaker 1: They're all not bad because they just rich let niggas.

660
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 3: But I'm just saying, but I'm talking about like then

661
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 3: I had, like the African diplomat, I had like some

662
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:34,200
Speaker 3: that wasn't cute at all, and I was like, fuck,

663
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 3: I gotta go see him.

664
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Speaker 1: Bitch, you got you got, you got your renild. Do

665
00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:43,040
Speaker 1: you remember? Oh my god, fuck this ship. I gotta

666
00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 1: tell y'all to see.

667
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:46,080
Speaker 2: Do you remember the girl that I was fucking that

668
00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:48,600
Speaker 2: we had on years ago and then she started tripping

669
00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 2: because I didn't want to date her.

670
00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 1: The one who tried to sue us?

671
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 5: Yes, okay, whoa okay, well.

672
00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 1: Talk about her. She tried to defame us child.

673
00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:01,959
Speaker 3: She her a Wheezy broke up she had and then

674
00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:05,200
Speaker 3: her episode dropped, but they were already broken up. So

675
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,160
Speaker 3: she tried to say her coming on our whole ass

676
00:33:07,240 --> 00:33:09,560
Speaker 3: podcast took away brand deals from her, so she was

677
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:12,120
Speaker 3: gonna suit the poe. So Weezy come on, like, uh,

678
00:33:12,320 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 3: she's gonna sue us? I said no, but she's she's

679
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:17,440
Speaker 3: suing you and your pussy. She's not suing this goddamn podcast.

680
00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 1: I was like, what the fu? I said?

681
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 3: And this is why to this day, Weezi has wanted

682
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:24,720
Speaker 3: to bring our lovers on this show. Not interested, bitch,

683
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:26,360
Speaker 3: make a whole new show. Have all your lovers on there.

684
00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 3: I don't give a fuck, but they not coming on

685
00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:30,520
Speaker 3: this show. Do not bring nobody you put on this

686
00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:34,920
Speaker 3: show we got you know, Okay, I like the content.

687
00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:40,040
Speaker 2: But anyway, so randomly right, you could someone, anybody could

688
00:33:40,040 --> 00:33:42,160
Speaker 2: sue us, any single person we've ever had.

689
00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:43,800
Speaker 1: What is sex up to do with it? You put

690
00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:44,080
Speaker 1: it too?

691
00:33:45,440 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 2: So okay, what fucking pussy? And now I'm a problem anyway,

692
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:51,880
Speaker 2: So let me tell you the tea. You had a

693
00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:54,560
Speaker 2: lot more than one pussy that that that I don't

694
00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 2: say what this whole I'm on Instagram and I randomly

695
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:01,600
Speaker 2: just see her pop up and.

696
00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:04,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh shit, she's look cute. So I'm looking

697
00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 1: at her ig and I'm like, damn, this hole all

698
00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:08,759
Speaker 1: over the place. What the fuck? She got a new

699
00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:15,040
Speaker 1: bitch girl? I googled a bitch she dating maybe forties.

700
00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 2: Or fifties children. Okay, I can't even say the company name.

701
00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:21,520
Speaker 2: Let's just say if you had to think of the

702
00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:23,080
Speaker 2: top three biggest companies in the world.

703
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:27,479
Speaker 1: Sure, okay, that lady just stepped down, outsided to retire. Okay,

704
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:28,520
Speaker 1: just give us all the tea.

705
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:32,319
Speaker 2: Oh I don't this is not suitable period, which I'm

706
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:35,120
Speaker 2: really thinking to myself. We were fucking in my two

707
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,760
Speaker 2: hundred and fifties with square fit apartment.

708
00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:38,360
Speaker 1: And you leveled.

709
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Speaker 3: I'm mean not gonna lie though. That was ten years ago.

710
00:34:40,280 --> 00:34:42,719
Speaker 3: Look how we've leveled it ago, No, eight years ago.

711
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:45,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, anyway, she came on like we're the first thing

712
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:47,320
Speaker 1: these sugar marbles was. I was out here on Western

713
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Speaker 1: Price dot com. They were married. Oh a lot they

714
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 1: were married to men, and a lot of them now

715
00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:57,279
Speaker 1: don't step down from the CEO positions, but they had

716
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Speaker 1: men that didn't support them.

717
00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:00,160
Speaker 3: And now they're all lesbians. When I tell you, we're

718
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:03,320
Speaker 3: seeing it even with Kyle Richard's on Beverly Hills.

719
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:05,640
Speaker 1: She love her some Morgan child. She's like, y'all can't

720
00:35:05,640 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 1: talk away in the selling sunset. Now she's dating the

721
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:09,759
Speaker 1: girl they all go to. Like women.

722
00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:12,000
Speaker 2: You got to wait, tied to white women that taken

723
00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:14,200
Speaker 2: change that bitches are selling sunset time.

724
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:17,239
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry to the best drink my friend. Let

725
00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:22,400
Speaker 1: yo just shut up. Oh I'm just a watch No.

726
00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 1: When I saw that vich was on the yacht, I

727
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:27,960
Speaker 1: was really like the old white lady. Oh oh.

728
00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 3: Okay, I want to play clip a quick clip. I

729
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 3: know we're doing it's reactionary, but it's agree to disagree.

730
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:46,040
Speaker 3: And because we just got from the what's your price

731
00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:49,279
Speaker 3: conversation and sex work, I want to know if you

732
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:53,840
Speaker 3: agree with fifty cent Okay, this is what you have

733
00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 3: to say.

734
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:57,440
Speaker 2: If your appearance is your largest asset, you're gonna do

735
00:35:57,520 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 2: some whole.

736
00:35:57,840 --> 00:36:02,720
Speaker 3: Ship if your appearance, If your appearance is your largest asset,

737
00:36:03,280 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 3: you gonna do some whoslet shit.

738
00:36:05,400 --> 00:36:08,359
Speaker 1: Do you agree or disagree if your height is your

739
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 1: largest asset or you gonna play basketball? Nope, not the same.

740
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 1: They have to have a bit though, Okay, okay, okay, okay,

741
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:19,160
Speaker 1: I see, I see, I see where you going.

742
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:22,960
Speaker 2: Also, the hotter you are, the more you get hos

743
00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:25,919
Speaker 2: You gotta think about this. Think of every fine ass

744
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:28,880
Speaker 2: nigga you met, Think of every fine ass bitch you met.

745
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:30,279
Speaker 1: Think of everybody that got a price.

746
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:33,279
Speaker 3: Like you may not go into wanting to do whosle shit,

747
00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 3: but a man may approach you with whole shit. Now

748
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 3: I'll tell you now, I just had a conversation about

749
00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:41,319
Speaker 3: privilege and the pros and cons of privilege. We had

750
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:44,480
Speaker 3: this conversation on a selective ignorance. Shout out to Reezy

751
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:47,959
Speaker 3: and Sid and one of the things that they don't

752
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:52,920
Speaker 3: talk about pretty privilege often is the unfortunate a you

753
00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 3: may you may be at more risk to get sexually assaulted,

754
00:36:56,440 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 3: sexually harassed, and unfortunately end up in a lifestyle that

755
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 3: was forced upon you because maybe because you're so attractive,

756
00:37:05,239 --> 00:37:07,960
Speaker 3: you didn't really have to be smart, So the direction

757
00:37:08,080 --> 00:37:10,279
Speaker 3: for you wasn't to go to school. You never was

758
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:15,600
Speaker 3: you never were forced to be in position of competition because.

759
00:37:15,640 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 1: You always won.

760
00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:20,480
Speaker 3: Or like like me, where I don't think I was

761
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:24,800
Speaker 3: at all the prettiest in my teens. My circle was

762
00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:27,480
Speaker 3: full of pretty girls and they did a lot of

763
00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:29,200
Speaker 3: whole shit, and they brought me in the whole shit.

764
00:37:29,280 --> 00:37:31,360
Speaker 1: We brought each other into whole shit, you know.

765
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:33,400
Speaker 2: So I think it's also you're a circle thinking of

766
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:37,279
Speaker 2: the baddest bitch ause I know, I'm like, this is

767
00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:40,640
Speaker 2: why meeting women that are abnormally attractive and are just

768
00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:42,720
Speaker 2: decent people like Cammy Crawford.

769
00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:45,080
Speaker 1: When we had her on, I was very confused, bitch,

770
00:37:45,160 --> 00:37:46,000
Speaker 1: you really is great?

771
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 2: Fuck you talking about her goddamn foundation. I'm talking to you, Gammy.

772
00:37:50,400 --> 00:37:53,440
Speaker 3: Oh, I'm helping these kids and doing this like cue

773
00:37:53,920 --> 00:38:00,799
Speaker 3: now he didn't good say, he did say, ever, when

774
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:04,560
Speaker 3: your biggest asset is your appearance.

775
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:09,200
Speaker 1: So for people who have other skills.

776
00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:11,920
Speaker 2: No, no, And of course to me, biggest asset is

777
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:15,840
Speaker 2: like if someone when I'm hearing that, just like you

778
00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:16,840
Speaker 2: see someone in.

779
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:20,120
Speaker 1: There and they're gorgeous, right, I'm not gonna hold you. Yeah.

780
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 3: We find out based on environment and reach and probably

781
00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:28,160
Speaker 3: what gets proposition to you and what becomes very hard

782
00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:31,359
Speaker 3: to turn down in this economy when Eggs has started

783
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:33,880
Speaker 3: six times a film, I will just say.

784
00:38:33,920 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 1: I do think and do agree with him.

785
00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:40,800
Speaker 3: I do agree that the more attractive you are, not

786
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:43,000
Speaker 3: that you're going to be a hope forever, but I

787
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:46,320
Speaker 3: do believe that within your lifetime people, you will do

788
00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 3: some whole ship.

789
00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:50,120
Speaker 2: You Knoweople tell us about Naomi Campbell recently, and I

790
00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:52,239
Speaker 2: was like, fighting this conversation to the death.

791
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:56,120
Speaker 1: What wait, what do they tell you about allegedly that

792
00:38:57,640 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 1: you see she talked about you know what I mean,

793
00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:04,200
Speaker 1: that's what they say. You don't know if it's true? No,

794
00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:06,640
Speaker 1: I don't, Okay, So and this is why I was talking.

795
00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:09,839
Speaker 2: The point basically that Naomi Campbell has been a high

796
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:12,480
Speaker 2: end escort for years. I'm like, bro, she's one of

797
00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:14,480
Speaker 2: those famous models in the world. If you had to

798
00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:17,319
Speaker 2: tell me, think fast, name three models she going.

799
00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: To be in that. You know what's crazy about that?

800
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:21,640
Speaker 1: I know she's made money over the decades.

801
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 3: However, we grew up thinking rappers, actors, all these niggas

802
00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:28,759
Speaker 3: was richer than they really were. I think a lot

803
00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:33,080
Speaker 3: of our favorite celebrities have done some strange things.

804
00:39:33,920 --> 00:39:36,160
Speaker 2: But I was reading this article right about how much

805
00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:41,600
Speaker 2: the highest paid models get just one fashion runway walk

806
00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 2: could be one point five. But she's black, and she

807
00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:46,359
Speaker 2: was the I'm talking about black women. By the way,

808
00:39:46,760 --> 00:39:48,440
Speaker 2: Joan Small's is one of them, one of the richest

809
00:39:49,440 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 2: models today. Yeah, back, I mean Latina, like Naomi Campbell,

810
00:39:53,640 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 2: black up there.

811
00:39:55,520 --> 00:39:58,760
Speaker 1: Like Naomi Campbell's Naomi. She actually, in my opinion, almost

812
00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 1: it's past the what we think black girls getting today.

813
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:05,960
Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna hold you. You can't get a

814
00:40:06,040 --> 00:40:07,520
Speaker 1: quick ten twenty me. No, no, no.

815
00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:10,400
Speaker 3: But that's my point though she's probably being off for

816
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 3: the things. It's it's exactly what fifty just said.

817
00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:13,319
Speaker 1: Don't matter.

818
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:15,880
Speaker 3: How Like, at that point, it's not about how much

819
00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:18,800
Speaker 3: money you make. Your attraction equals.

820
00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:20,920
Speaker 1: You gonna do some whole shit. Okay, So basically.

821
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,880
Speaker 3: So basically we both agree that if you're a little attractive,

822
00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:25,719
Speaker 3: you might, in some time in your life end up

823
00:40:25,719 --> 00:40:28,840
Speaker 3: doing some hohot shit by proximity because of friends, pure pressure,

824
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:29,799
Speaker 3: or opportunity.

825
00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:31,360
Speaker 1: I only want to say yesterday because it makes me

826
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Speaker 1: feel better about my Oh shit, Oh, it was so cute.

827
00:40:35,480 --> 00:40:38,880
Speaker 1: I was a hope on it for a time, not

828
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 1: long ago. I was out. We used to come out

829
00:40:41,080 --> 00:40:43,480
Speaker 1: to that song. We really did not really coming out

830
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:44,160
Speaker 1: to Mariolan.

831
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 3: It was we.

832
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:48,800
Speaker 1: But was she saying nigga back then? Ghetto? Well, she

833
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Speaker 1: said she Puerto Rican girl, just like what's the name

834
00:40:52,760 --> 00:40:55,200
Speaker 1: of Senner said? She was many talking about. She's not

835
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Speaker 1: right at.

836
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:59,399
Speaker 3: All, honestly, Oh, I did. I did the math throng.

837
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:02,080
Speaker 3: I thought she was quarter black, but she said.

838
00:41:01,880 --> 00:41:05,560
Speaker 1: Her great grand she said her great granddaddy was half black,

839
00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:08,600
Speaker 1: so I didn't realize that made her an eighth black. However,

840
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:09,880
Speaker 1: it was the nineteen thirties, but.

841
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:10,880
Speaker 5: Which I will see here.

842
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:16,319
Speaker 1: Hold on, I'm double downing one drop role, one drop roll,

843
00:41:16,480 --> 00:41:23,160
Speaker 1: no biracial? Can she say it? I don't, Yeah, she

844
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 1: said it? Did she say it in the goddamn movie?

845
00:41:25,280 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 1: You crazy been talking about it. She said, boy, Yeah,

846
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:33,480
Speaker 1: that was boy. She shouldn't have said. But we know

847
00:41:33,640 --> 00:41:35,479
Speaker 1: she was married to a cracker. That was her lingo.

848
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:37,920
Speaker 1: She probably just she hadn't been around her peoples in

849
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:41,560
Speaker 1: a while. Graham, I'm gonna hold you. She could say,

850
00:41:41,640 --> 00:41:45,839
Speaker 1: if y'all keep letting crazy, she's she has she's one

851
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 1: eighth black. Yes, she could say it. Fucking kidding me.

852
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 4: I don't even want logic to say nigga and he's

853
00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:52,719
Speaker 4: half black, he's actually like half.

854
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:54,880
Speaker 1: No, well that's you, that's not.

855
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:58,680
Speaker 3: Not you say her judging how a biraciald Hallie.

856
00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:03,680
Speaker 2: Shanfield from Sinners, the Caucasian lady we saw all on

857
00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:04,320
Speaker 2: the screen.

858
00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 3: Caucas it's crazy. She's not full Caucasian. This is crazy

859
00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:11,840
Speaker 3: she this is she is not full Caucation. No, you

860
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:15,480
Speaker 3: need to stop reaching her from the back, all y'all

861
00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:18,560
Speaker 3: real quick before we get out of here. Decisions decisions.

862
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:23,360
Speaker 3: We are talking about Afro Dzas through the agent Afro.

863
00:42:23,560 --> 00:42:26,320
Speaker 1: She would know about it as she is one ah.

864
00:42:27,760 --> 00:42:30,200
Speaker 3: So afrodz As if y'all go back to horrible decisions

865
00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:32,400
Speaker 3: we talked about, it's shit you eat that make your

866
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:33,320
Speaker 3: pussy thumb.

867
00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:34,920
Speaker 1: Maybe yo, dick a little rock hard or whatever.

868
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:39,239
Speaker 3: This is my decisions way of explaining afro Dziak, however,

869
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:42,600
Speaker 3: helps we're now decisions decisions, So we're gonna get into

870
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:45,560
Speaker 3: the history of it and how it came about across

871
00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:49,440
Speaker 3: different parts of the world, and like always, because it's

872
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:54,120
Speaker 3: where human creation started, because we was here first.

873
00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:56,080
Speaker 1: We're starting in ancient Egypt.

874
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Speaker 3: In ancient Egypt, these are the things that made them

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Speaker 3: a little spicy. So we're starting with honey and crocodile hearts.

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Speaker 3: I know the Egyptians were early fans of love potions.

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Speaker 3: Cleopatra herself was rumored to blend honey, wine and exotic

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Speaker 3: herbs to seduce lovers. Meanwhile, more daring Egyptians believed ground

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Speaker 3: crocodile hearts could stoke passion, like artichoke could stoke passion.

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Speaker 1: Not artichoke, just stoke passion. I don't know. That's what

881
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:32,920
Speaker 1: it says, stoke passion, risky romance. I'm not gonna lie

882
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:36,960
Speaker 1: in Florida. My mama used to go to this bar.

883
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Speaker 3: It wasn't crocodile, but it was alligator alligator meats, some

884
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:44,080
Speaker 3: motherfucking fire. It kind of tastes like fishy chicken, but

885
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Speaker 3: in a good way, kind of like frog legs kind

886
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Speaker 3: of taste that way.

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Speaker 1: You and I ate a. We did it in Oklahoma City.

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Speaker 1: We did it. Wasn't it good that we had gator bite?

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Speaker 1: Bro the gator the gator bytes were fired. I'm not

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Speaker 1: gonna lie. I would do crocodile hearts. I'm not gonna

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Speaker 1: hold you.

892
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Speaker 2: When I'm in New Orleans, I want to go a little.

893
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Speaker 2: I'm trying to be with all them white people just

894
00:44:11,400 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 2: sound like that. You're Frona Value and the agents. I

895
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Speaker 2: want to eat all that meat that's questionable with a

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Speaker 2: little scale on it.

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Speaker 1: I want. I don't want no possum. I don't want

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Speaker 1: no road kill, no rat, no road kill like whatever

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Speaker 1: they got backstage in essence, I don't want that. Get

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Speaker 1: me the other ship, no ship. They're coming to bad

901
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Speaker 1: newspaper down.

902
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Speaker 3: As it's gonna do us, right, y'all, Just bring me

903
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Speaker 3: the gumbo, the the shrimp at two fee, the crap fish,

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Speaker 3: all of that, all right, number two. We're going to

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Speaker 3: ancient Greece, now, Bitch, this might this might be why

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Speaker 3: I be horny all the time. Bitch, what girl water water?

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Speaker 3: All of them oysters don't do that whole all of

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00:44:49,080 --> 00:44:53,000
Speaker 3: the oysters, bitch. I love an extra dirty martini, filthy

909
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Speaker 3: with blue cheese, stuffed alive.

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Speaker 1: So alives and oysters.

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Speaker 3: Greeks gave us the word afrodisiac, actually from afro Diey,

912
00:45:00,400 --> 00:45:03,840
Speaker 3: the goddess of love. They swore by olives and oysters

913
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:08,080
Speaker 3: for libido boosts, and Aristotle praised the oysters erotic potential,

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Speaker 3: and science later confirmed that they're rich in zinc.

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Speaker 1: Which actually does help to sasceron.

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Speaker 2: I think that the thing about olives and oysters, I

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Speaker 2: have a theory, go ahead, theory. I think the way

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Speaker 2: that you eat certain food is what makes it afrod easiet.

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Speaker 4: Fair because you got it well, like roy oysters compared

920
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Speaker 4: to bike oysters.

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Speaker 5: Like I think the raw oysters.

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Speaker 1: Gonna make it.

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Speaker 2: I don't really think it's something in it. I think

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Speaker 2: it's like the way you have to put yourm mouth

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Speaker 2: the same.

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Speaker 1: Don't look topsicle. Actually no, that's your theory. Science confirmed.

927
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Speaker 1: It's the zinc, which you don't believe that.

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Speaker 5: I can definitely see that they.

929
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Speaker 1: Just said it. Science confirms, So go ahead, which your theory? Girl? Wait,

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Speaker 1: let me ask a question.

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Speaker 4: Do you like olives. Oh so you both like olives?

932
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Speaker 4: Do you guys know about the olive theory? The fact

933
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Speaker 4: that it's like compatibility between two people. One person should

934
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Speaker 4: like olives and the other person should like olives. Yeah,

935
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Speaker 4: that's the whole thing. I want to pick a bone

936
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Speaker 4: with you though, Oh pick that what? Because Shorty was

937
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Speaker 4: coming at me right, you don't call me short because

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Speaker 4: we came. We came through to Knife. We went to Knife.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: this ain't even about he nickering. He a nickel. So

941
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Speaker 1: any who, so we go to Knife. Shout out.

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Speaker 3: I'm with Knife as a restaurant in Atlanta because we

943
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Speaker 3: all just wanted to keep going out after the black

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Speaker 3: Effect event.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so I'm with Bitch the team. It's the team,

946
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Speaker 1: it's me, It's and a king. So we all go

947
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Speaker 1: out to eat and bitch, I'm I want to look cute. Drink.

948
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Speaker 3: So I'm like, oh, do you have stuffed olives? I'd

949
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Speaker 3: like a dirty mark stuffed So my drink, My drink comes,

950
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Speaker 3: My drink comes, and he's like, I have never in

951
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Speaker 3: my life seen a woman order blue cheese stuffed olives.

952
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Speaker 1: And I said, hold on you ready, I think I it.

953
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's delicious, And I said, are you dating girls

954
00:47:03,640 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 3: the same as Shark? Because maybe you need to deal

955
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Speaker 3: with some more mature women.

956
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Speaker 1: Hold on, wait wait wait, you were eating it out?

957
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Speaker 5: It was in the martini is so crazy, it's so weird.

958
00:47:14,320 --> 00:47:16,160
Speaker 1: I said, how old are you also.

959
00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 5: Judging the age of the woman I dated?

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Speaker 2: Because let me tell you, first of all, maybe you

961
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Speaker 2: ain't never being nowhere. That's what I said, very much

962
00:47:27,040 --> 00:47:29,920
Speaker 2: like when I go out certain places and be just

963
00:47:30,000 --> 00:47:32,440
Speaker 2: be like, what's the fresio death that you sound like?

964
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Speaker 1: No I have.

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00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:36,840
Speaker 4: I've had a lot of good drinks, right brone, speak easy,

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00:47:36,920 --> 00:47:37,440
Speaker 4: and that.

967
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Speaker 5: Don't mean I haven't done.

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Speaker 1: And it's on the Upper East drinks.

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00:47:43,880 --> 00:47:46,719
Speaker 4: But that's what I'm saying. I've gone to speaking a

970
00:47:46,800 --> 00:47:50,040
Speaker 4: blue rabbit, blue cheese. All of it is a fucking martini.

971
00:47:50,160 --> 00:47:53,880
Speaker 4: Sounds ridiculous, just because what no, no, no, it's delicious.

972
00:47:54,440 --> 00:47:56,640
Speaker 5: That looks crazy. I've never you know, at that moment,

973
00:47:56,760 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 5: I had never seen anybody order that in real life.

974
00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:00,600
Speaker 1: Did you eat it? Fuck?

975
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:00,759
Speaker 3: No?

976
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:03,799
Speaker 1: I order for something a savory tongue.

977
00:48:04,200 --> 00:48:05,600
Speaker 5: I just had a tikila something.

978
00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:08,399
Speaker 2: About a martini. Okay, this sounds so bad because we're

979
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:11,799
Speaker 2: talking about sexpert. Okay, when I'm in a hotel, can

980
00:48:11,880 --> 00:48:14,200
Speaker 2: I order martini? I just feel like a high end prostitute.

981
00:48:14,280 --> 00:48:17,040
Speaker 1: That's right. What, No, it's not. I don't ever drink.

982
00:48:17,200 --> 00:48:18,120
Speaker 5: You don't got to be a high.

983
00:48:19,560 --> 00:48:23,160
Speaker 1: Prote You watch a movie and a hot girls alone

984
00:48:23,160 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 1: at the bar if she is not drinking a mother

985
00:48:25,120 --> 00:48:26,880
Speaker 1: fucking margarita. You know what I feel. You know what

986
00:48:27,000 --> 00:48:30,600
Speaker 1: I feel like a woman in her mid thirties period.

987
00:48:30,680 --> 00:48:33,520
Speaker 5: When when was the last time you ordered a blue

988
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:37,000
Speaker 5: cheese martini with a side of wings?

989
00:48:38,000 --> 00:48:39,759
Speaker 2: Well, no, no, no, I've had in the last year

990
00:48:40,480 --> 00:48:43,239
Speaker 2: where I just asked for bluechees. Always want to get

991
00:48:43,239 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 2: to martini some places?

992
00:48:44,680 --> 00:48:46,000
Speaker 1: Oh no, I put them in the thing.

993
00:48:46,040 --> 00:48:49,279
Speaker 3: All right, let's get let's get on this episode. We

994
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Speaker 3: got India baby Comma Sutras spicy secrets. In ancient India,

995
00:48:54,360 --> 00:48:58,759
Speaker 3: the Kamma Sutra wasn't just about positions. It included recipes, which,

996
00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:02,840
Speaker 3: by the way, if you haven't yet check out our episode,

997
00:49:02,880 --> 00:49:07,040
Speaker 3: we dive into the history of Kamasutrup. Saffron, ginger, and

998
00:49:07,160 --> 00:49:11,440
Speaker 3: nutmeg were blended into tonics for arousal and ash wa Ganda,

999
00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:15,320
Speaker 3: still used today, was their go to for stamina. In

1000
00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:19,279
Speaker 3: China we have gensing and gecko wine, and in the

1001
00:49:19,400 --> 00:49:21,800
Speaker 3: Middle Ages, risky love potions.

1002
00:49:21,960 --> 00:49:28,040
Speaker 1: In the medieval Europe turned to man drake root. It's

1003
00:49:28,080 --> 00:49:29,719
Speaker 1: say Spanish lit. But we already know, y'all.

1004
00:49:29,800 --> 00:49:32,840
Speaker 3: Y'all can't do Spanish line nom and wine mixed with

1005
00:49:33,000 --> 00:49:40,520
Speaker 3: goat testicles. The wine mixed with goat texticles, texticles. I'm sorry.

1006
00:49:40,920 --> 00:49:42,840
Speaker 3: That just reminded me of fear Factor. It might be

1007
00:49:42,920 --> 00:49:45,440
Speaker 3: the only thing I couldnot I'm not doing no testicles, bro.

1008
00:49:45,640 --> 00:49:47,320
Speaker 1: This is all by the way I lick them, but

1009
00:49:47,360 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 1: I'm not. I don't care like I get so engulfed

1010
00:49:54,239 --> 00:49:55,359
Speaker 1: in somebody on a date.

1011
00:49:55,440 --> 00:49:57,200
Speaker 4: Sometimes they'd be like, this is a delicate you guys

1012
00:49:57,200 --> 00:49:59,000
Speaker 4: ever had rocky Mountain oysters?

1013
00:50:00,120 --> 00:50:05,160
Speaker 1: Those are fucking tests. Yeah, I saw that on fear Factor.

1014
00:50:05,719 --> 00:50:06,960
Speaker 1: Don't want them never did.

1015
00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:10,160
Speaker 3: They look disgusting and they're big. They're like big balls,

1016
00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:13,120
Speaker 3: like balls like this big that you gotta cut over

1017
00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:16,040
Speaker 3: and eat with a knife, and it looks just a ball.

1018
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:20,120
Speaker 3: I don't want a ball. Uh, last one too, Victorian era.

1019
00:50:20,600 --> 00:50:23,520
Speaker 3: Now this one I can get with bitch again, might

1020
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Speaker 3: be why be horny in the Button Up eighteen hundreds,

1021
00:50:28,400 --> 00:50:35,440
Speaker 3: public modesty clashed with private experimentation. Champagne, Vanilla and Celery

1022
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Speaker 3: were popular. Now, bitch, First off, we shouldn't be giving

1023
00:50:39,160 --> 00:50:40,960
Speaker 3: kids a little answer on the lag, not if it's

1024
00:50:40,960 --> 00:50:43,520
Speaker 3: gonna make them horny. But I love me a little

1025
00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:48,840
Speaker 3: motherfucking crude te and be fucking up Champagne, Vanilla and Celery.

1026
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Speaker 3: Our prodiziaks were tucked into medicinal tonics or whispered about

1027
00:50:53,800 --> 00:50:55,320
Speaker 3: in Scandalous women's magazine.

1028
00:50:55,360 --> 00:50:57,080
Speaker 1: That sounds like shit you can get right now. No,

1029
00:50:57,200 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 1: you can't get Vanilla, Celery, Champo, the you know what

1030
00:51:00,880 --> 00:51:01,920
Speaker 1: is it? Double chicken please.

1031
00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:04,520
Speaker 2: It's like the most famous world's prost sam Is Bar

1032
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Speaker 2: now in New York. Like, I feel like they have

1033
00:51:06,600 --> 00:51:07,640
Speaker 2: such weird concoctions.

1034
00:51:07,680 --> 00:51:08,600
Speaker 1: They probably put this inn.

1035
00:51:08,920 --> 00:51:11,200
Speaker 2: Honestly, whenever I go to these nice places down and

1036
00:51:11,200 --> 00:51:12,560
Speaker 2: I'll be looking at the menu and the shit just

1037
00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:13,240
Speaker 2: be looking nuts.

1038
00:51:13,920 --> 00:51:16,480
Speaker 1: All I look for is the main mezcal tequila. What

1039
00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:17,840
Speaker 1: the hell is it? Because I don't know none of

1040
00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:20,200
Speaker 1: this other shit with the frise for mouth. I'm just playing.

1041
00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:24,719
Speaker 1: And of course, as y'all know, because we've talked about

1042
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Speaker 1: it before. Chocolate is one. Of course, you have hornygoat,

1043
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Speaker 1: hornygoat weed.

1044
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Speaker 3: And then today it's literally in here is the twentieth

1045
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Speaker 3: century bitch viagra or blue Choo or one of them

1046
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Speaker 3: motherfucking pink pills from the gas station.

1047
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Speaker 1: But you can actually go into all of these natural

1048
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Speaker 1: remedies that have been used over.

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Speaker 2: That's time before you spend money on anything, go over

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Speaker 2: to NHB Tour dot com.

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Speaker 1: Money on us.

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Speaker 3: Ho shit, We go on on tour. We are on

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Speaker 3: tour till September. Make sure y'all see us. And if

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Speaker 3: you haven't, yeah, I know some of y'all. I think

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Speaker 3: about fifteen of y'all are joining me so far. I

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Speaker 3: will be in Jamaica Labor Day weekend.

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Speaker 1: Join me there.

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Speaker 3: We're gonna get Nancy Freaky Deey all the things, and yeah,

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Speaker 3: just see us on the road. God damn it, see

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Speaker 3: our Patreon Patreon dot com back slash Horrible Decisions, Thank.

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Speaker 1: Y'all for listening. God damn im out of breath, bitch

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Speaker 1: this pot.

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Speaker 3: I'll be right and dick either to another episode of

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Speaker 3: Decisions decisions.

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Speaker 1: Wow, horrible. That was almost mad at me on stage

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Speaker 1: talking about creative. Oh my god.