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She and here and she's gonna 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:16.160 be helping me fix the mess. We're gonna jump straight 0:01:16.200 --> 0:01:18.480 into it again. We have no voice notes and I 0:01:18.520 --> 0:01:20.600 get why, but I already see this person can't spell, 0:01:20.800 --> 0:01:24.240 so bear with me, all right, All right, hey Girley, 0:01:24.400 --> 0:01:27.399 So I'm conflicted. I've been cool with these two guys 0:01:27.400 --> 0:01:30.039 since we were in diapers, damn near. But as we 0:01:30.080 --> 0:01:32.520 grew older, I started to realize one of them developed 0:01:32.600 --> 0:01:33.240 feelings for me. 0:01:33.360 --> 0:01:34.800 Oh my god. I was stuck in some shit like 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:37.280 that before. Let's say his name is Jake. 0:01:37.959 --> 0:01:41.679 I wasn't gonna turn him down nor agree because we're friends. 0:01:41.680 --> 0:01:42.000 First. 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:44.559 I didn't want to mess up the friendship. So once 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:46.640 the other boy found out, I'm gonna say his name 0:01:46.720 --> 0:01:50.160 is Aj. So once AJ found out his man's liked me, 0:01:50.480 --> 0:01:54.240 all hell broke loose. The friendship dynamic was no more. 0:01:55.080 --> 0:01:57.680 Now they both just try to prove who's better for me. 0:01:58.120 --> 0:02:01.320 But it's quite annoying because I don't want either one 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:04.400 of them. What so the other one I know, I'm 0:02:04.440 --> 0:02:06.800 almost I'm almost to the point of confusion as well. 0:02:07.320 --> 0:02:12.240 So there she has two friends she grew up with, yes, 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:15.280 basically since in diapers, like they've been cool as fuck, 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:18.720 but she said one of them started developing feelings for her, 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:20.880 and one of. 0:02:20.880 --> 0:02:21.760 Them she didn't want. 0:02:21.840 --> 0:02:23.280 I know, but now she's talking about the second one 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:25.960 development feelings as well, because both of them now were 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:28.519 trying to see who can win her over, like they're 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:30.520 in competition to get her. But she did say that 0:02:30.520 --> 0:02:32.600 Shane want to mess up the friendship with Jake, so 0:02:32.840 --> 0:02:34.960 Shane want to turn him down or agree to start 0:02:34.960 --> 0:02:37.720 dealing with him. So she just like kind of didn't 0:02:37.720 --> 0:02:39.520 do anything yet. I know, we got to finish, but 0:02:39.720 --> 0:02:43.240 I mean it's kind of a little weird. Yeah, like 0:02:43.240 --> 0:02:45.040 she said, I'm gonna take it from a few lines up, 0:02:45.080 --> 0:02:47.600 she said, now they both try to prove who's better 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:49.480 for me. Yeah, so both of them like yours, dummy, 0:02:49.919 --> 0:02:52.240 and it's quite annoying because I don't want neither one 0:02:52.240 --> 0:02:56.080 of them. Okay, Okay, I valued our friendship way more 0:02:56.160 --> 0:02:58.680 than anything. Now, don't get me wrong. I did like 0:02:58.720 --> 0:03:01.079 aj when we were younger, but it's like he's like 0:03:01.120 --> 0:03:03.320 a brother now, and how would I even be able 0:03:03.360 --> 0:03:03.760 to do that? 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:04.040 You know? 0:03:04.280 --> 0:03:07.200 Then Jake just fell back once he realized I wasn't budging. 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:10.560 Then he randomly texts me for a date. I'm not 0:03:10.600 --> 0:03:13.720 gonna lie. I actually replied and accepted the fuck you 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:23.120 just said, girl. Then he flaked girls, so that confused me. 0:03:23.800 --> 0:03:26.880 They just playing games? Oh my gosh, I don't know. 0:03:26.919 --> 0:03:29.200 I'm just here to ask should I choose one or 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:31.720 just try to keep them both in a friend zone 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:34.680 or just cut both of them off. It's hard to 0:03:34.720 --> 0:03:37.480 tell when your friends start to like you, and I 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:39.520 just don't know what to do, and I don't want 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:43.520 to lose them. Okay, so you don't want to lose them, 0:03:44.240 --> 0:03:47.600 but it's annoying that they like you. You don't like 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:50.280 neither one of them, but you did like one when 0:03:50.760 --> 0:03:52.560 you were younger, but you didn't want to fuck up 0:03:52.560 --> 0:03:53.040 the friendship. 0:03:53.040 --> 0:03:54.000 And that was when you were younger. 0:03:54.040 --> 0:03:56.360 So now you get fast forward, you get older. You 0:03:56.400 --> 0:03:57.840 don't like me the one of them, but you accepted 0:03:57.880 --> 0:04:01.120 a fucking date right that one of them asked you 0:04:01.200 --> 0:04:01.600 out on. 0:04:03.000 --> 0:04:05.200 I think weird? 0:04:06.160 --> 0:04:08.080 What were they just trying to see? I don't know. 0:04:08.120 --> 0:04:12.400 I think with guys from in a sense what I've learned. 0:04:13.240 --> 0:04:13.760 I think they. 0:04:13.760 --> 0:04:16.000 Try to see if they can mm hmm. 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:17.440 How long they were friends for. 0:04:17.839 --> 0:04:20.120 She says, since they've been in diapers damn near, both 0:04:20.160 --> 0:04:22.000 of them. She's been friends with both of them, Like 0:04:22.080 --> 0:04:26.360 all three of them are friends, and she's been well, 0:04:26.400 --> 0:04:28.279 you know what. She actually didn't say whether AJ and 0:04:28.320 --> 0:04:31.200 Jake were close. She's just been both of their friends. 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:32.040 So I don't know. 0:04:32.920 --> 0:04:34.599 Hey, girl, I'm so complext that I've been cool with 0:04:34.640 --> 0:04:36.800 these two guys since we were in diapers damn near. 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:39.000 But as we grew older, I started to realize one 0:04:39.040 --> 0:04:40.200 of them developed feelings for me. 0:04:40.279 --> 0:04:41.760 Let's say his name is Jake. I wasn't going to 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:42.680 turn him down nor gread. 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:45.400 Yeah. She didn't say whether Jake and AJ were friends, 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:48.520 like all three of them were like collectively friends together 0:04:48.720 --> 0:04:49.279 as a group. 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:53.279 She's just friends with both of them. What if I mean, 0:04:53.560 --> 0:04:53.919 I don't know. 0:04:53.960 --> 0:04:57.960 I just feel like, depending on the circumstance, guy's gonna 0:04:57.960 --> 0:04:58.479 try it and. 0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:03.160 See absolutely, especially if you're attractive. But then he turned 0:05:03.200 --> 0:05:05.080 her down, so I don't know, and she said he flaked. 0:05:05.600 --> 0:05:08.680 So what she asking she wants to know whether she 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:12.080 should try with the other guy now. No, I want 0:05:12.080 --> 0:05:13.600 to know should I keep them both in a friend 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:15.680 zone or just cut both of them off? As hard 0:05:15.680 --> 0:05:17.240 as hell when your friends start to like you, I 0:05:17.279 --> 0:05:18.280 just don't know what to do, and. 0:05:18.240 --> 0:05:19.400 I don't want to lose them. 0:05:19.960 --> 0:05:23.080 Yes, keep them in the friend zone booth, But I 0:05:23.120 --> 0:05:25.359 think you owe both of them a conversation, you know, 0:05:25.480 --> 0:05:27.480 especially if you're writing you're to the point where you're 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:29.840 writing me about this, I think you should have a 0:05:29.880 --> 0:05:31.120 conversation with the both of them. 0:05:31.160 --> 0:05:33.200 Sit down with AJ. You sit down with Jake. 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:34.680 Sit down with Jake first, because he's the one that 0:05:34.720 --> 0:05:37.520 came on to you first, and you actually didn't tell 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:38.320 him yeah or nay. 0:05:38.440 --> 0:05:42.440 You know, you just decided to go on a date 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:42.960 with Jake. 0:05:43.040 --> 0:05:45.560 I mean with AJ, and AJ flaked on you, so 0:05:47.000 --> 0:05:49.040 you said at one point they were in competition to 0:05:49.080 --> 0:05:52.120 see who can get you first, like who can prove 0:05:52.120 --> 0:05:55.840 themselves I guess to be the best for you. I 0:05:55.880 --> 0:05:59.600 feel like you need to sit down with Jake and say, yo, 0:05:59.720 --> 0:06:02.600 we've been friends since diapers and shit, I don't want 0:06:02.600 --> 0:06:03.280 to mess up anything. 0:06:03.279 --> 0:06:04.800 When you first told me that you did like. 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:07.480 Me, and you you know, we realized that you had 0:06:07.520 --> 0:06:11.440 developed feelings for me. I didn't know what to tell you. 0:06:11.480 --> 0:06:12.960 I didn't want to say yes, I didn't want to 0:06:12.960 --> 0:06:13.400 say no. 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:14.720 I love you. 0:06:14.760 --> 0:06:17.120 We we you know. I've grown to know who you are. 0:06:17.160 --> 0:06:19.280 I know you inside and out. We're friends, We're really 0:06:19.320 --> 0:06:23.480 really good friends. I just don't want to risk the 0:06:23.680 --> 0:06:28.840 entirety of our friendship if this doesn't work out, because 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:31.960 some friends actually do that. They come on to their 0:06:32.000 --> 0:06:34.400 friends and they actually start dating, and they realize that 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:36.880 the shit is not what you know, they thought it 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:38.440 would be, and then now they can't even go back 0:06:38.480 --> 0:06:42.240 to being friends because they've already explored more intimately what 0:06:42.520 --> 0:06:43.840 a relationship would be like. 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:48.400 I think she should keep it as friends. 0:06:48.440 --> 0:06:49.840 I think they should keep it as friends. 0:06:49.960 --> 0:06:52.720 Yeah, and she didn't feels aj the same thing. 0:06:52.800 --> 0:06:54.120 She said she used to like one of them when 0:06:54.120 --> 0:06:56.280 they were younger, when they were all younger, but. 0:06:56.200 --> 0:06:56.880 Then they grew up. 0:06:57.000 --> 0:06:58.080 Yeah, that's what I'm saying. 0:06:58.080 --> 0:07:01.840 Like this, it's too many people out here, there's too 0:07:01.920 --> 0:07:05.080 many men out here to try to choose between two 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:07.680 really good friends. And then also good friends are very 0:07:07.720 --> 0:07:11.400 very hard to come by. So I think if there 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:14.920 were if there were if there wasn't anything going on, 0:07:15.440 --> 0:07:18.080 like anything wrong with the friendship at all, don't fuck 0:07:18.120 --> 0:07:20.200 it up by trying to fuck with each other. Also, 0:07:20.240 --> 0:07:22.680 at the same time, I know she's enjoying that attention 0:07:22.920 --> 0:07:25.800 that both of them are basically competing for her love. 0:07:26.080 --> 0:07:27.920 Because what woman wouldn't like that. 0:07:28.120 --> 0:07:30.280 I mean, she did say it's annoying, but she also 0:07:30.320 --> 0:07:32.720 didn't put a fucking stop to it either and tell 0:07:32.760 --> 0:07:33.440 either one of them. 0:07:33.480 --> 0:07:34.800 Look, I don't want either one of y'all. 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:37.320 This is crazy. We've been friends for a long time. 0:07:37.680 --> 0:07:40.640 I've been you'all homegirl, you know what I'm saying. Let's 0:07:40.640 --> 0:07:42.800 just keep it at that. Aj, I did like you 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:44.320 when I was younger. I know you probably know that, 0:07:44.360 --> 0:07:45.160 but we were younger. 0:07:45.200 --> 0:07:46.040 We're grown now. 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:48.400 I don't know how old you are, but you know, 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:52.520 if you all are adults, we're adults. We're young adults. 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:55.480 Like No, it's too many efficient tocyy. I just don't 0:07:55.480 --> 0:07:57.560 want to fuck our friendship up. We all three of 0:07:57.640 --> 0:08:01.520 us have a great friendship. I don't want to a period. 0:08:01.560 --> 0:08:04.280 And that's the point blank. I needn't have a story. 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:08.240 This was boring, crazy, because girl, why you come on? 0:08:08.320 --> 0:08:11.920 Answer your old question, answered your own goddamn question. Now 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:14.320 we got a commercial, and if you click off this podcast, 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:15.640 I swear I'm ana beat your ass. 0:08:15.920 --> 0:08:22.200 Listen. All right, so this is the story? Do you 0:08:23.240 --> 0:08:24.240 do you have a story? 0:08:25.600 --> 0:08:25.760 No? 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:28.560 All right, good, that's fine. That's fine because we got 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:31.440 another one. Okay, hey ja, So let me tell you 0:08:31.440 --> 0:08:35.200 about my baby daddy. So he got his new little girlfriend. Okay, cool. 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:37.360 I have no problem with that, but our seven year 0:08:37.440 --> 0:08:40.160 old daughter does. And not to get me started, when 0:08:40.160 --> 0:08:42.840 he bought the girlfriend around my daughter without even asking 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:45.520 me how I would feel about it, which is a 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:46.480 big no no for me. 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:49.160 But that's a story for another day. 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:51.720 My daughter isn't comfortable with her yet, or just not 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:54.120 even comfortable with the fact that her father is seeing 0:08:54.160 --> 0:08:58.600 someone else, so I suggested we give her time. He agreed, 0:08:59.040 --> 0:09:02.120 then proceeds to do it again and lied, knowing that 0:09:02.200 --> 0:09:04.800 my daughter has to come back home to me and 0:09:04.880 --> 0:09:08.160 tell me. Of course, we had arguments about it, but 0:09:08.240 --> 0:09:10.360 he just feels he can do what he wants and 0:09:10.480 --> 0:09:12.760 come to find out, it's two different women. 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:15.240 Okay, nil, Jess. 0:09:15.400 --> 0:09:17.199 I don't want to keep her from seeing her father, 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:19.679 but it comes to a point especially when it has 0:09:19.720 --> 0:09:23.680 to do with my child and her comfortability. I have 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:27.920 I haven't let her over there in two weeks, but 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:31.640 she asked about him. I'm just not sure how I 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:34.000 should go about this. I know this is a lot, 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:35.920 but do you have any suggestions? 0:09:36.280 --> 0:09:42.319 Oh my, aha? Now what is this? 0:09:42.760 --> 0:09:45.520 What you said that the baby daddy agreed? 0:09:46.040 --> 0:09:49.800 The baby daddy agreed, I guess to you know, she said, 0:09:50.480 --> 0:09:53.320 the fact that our father isn't is seeing someone else, 0:09:53.520 --> 0:09:55.440 like the daughter has a problem with that. So I 0:09:55.480 --> 0:09:58.920 suggest that we give her time. And he agreed, but 0:09:58.960 --> 0:10:01.200 then yeah, but then proceeds to do it again. And 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:04.920 then he lied, like you know, because he knows that 0:10:04.960 --> 0:10:07.760 the daughter, I mean, the daughter's going to go back 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:09.760 and tell the mom everything that happened at the dad's house. 0:10:09.760 --> 0:10:11.079 Anyway, she's seven years old, and the. 0:10:11.040 --> 0:10:15.040 Mom honestly probably asks her, like what's going on? 0:10:15.360 --> 0:10:15.880 You know what I mean? 0:10:15.920 --> 0:10:19.040 Like she sounds like she's already exposed to a lot. Anyway, 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:22.160 Has daughter told him? Has a daughter told him what 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:26.480 she felt? I don't think the daughter told the mom, 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:28.680 I mean told the dad. I think the daughter tells 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:32.080 the mom and then the mom then goes to the 0:10:32.160 --> 0:10:35.079 dad like, yo, look, this is a problem. I want 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:37.559 to know how long they've been broken up though, because honestly, 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:39.840 let me say, yeah, she doesn't say how long they've 0:10:39.840 --> 0:10:42.240 been broken up. She just says it's her baby daddy 0:10:42.240 --> 0:10:45.400 and he got a new little girlfriend. But listen, I'm 0:10:45.400 --> 0:10:47.800 a woman. And then I you know, I read, I 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:49.679 read into contacts and she said he got a new 0:10:49.720 --> 0:10:52.200 little girlfriend. That tells me that there is some type 0:10:52.200 --> 0:10:56.280 of intimidation or jealousy there, or they may whether they 0:10:56.280 --> 0:11:00.200 have been broken up long or a shorter short pairiod 0:11:00.240 --> 0:11:00.680 of time. 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:04.560 She's not past her baby daddy. I get that. 0:11:05.360 --> 0:11:10.280 I get that she's not fully moved on from him. 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:11.160 And he probably is not either. 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:14.240 He probably probably makes passes at the baby mom. But 0:11:14.280 --> 0:11:18.360 before we get there, if y'all are not together, he 0:11:18.440 --> 0:11:21.200 certainly can do what he wants to do. I understand 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:24.440 the concerns for your child safety, the concerns for you know, 0:11:24.559 --> 0:11:28.560 exposing too many women too quickly to your daughter. She 0:11:28.679 --> 0:11:34.720 is only seven. I understand that. However, you kept baby 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:37.120 girl away from him from two for two weeks, and 0:11:37.160 --> 0:11:39.000 you said that she asked about her dad. Why not 0:11:39.040 --> 0:11:43.560 have her dad come to your house? Why not just say, look, 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:46.360 can you just not have them around? Can you just 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:50.160 take her out somewhere? Like take the daughter out? I 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:53.680 don't you know you can still there are still ways 0:11:53.679 --> 0:11:56.720 that she can be around her father without being around 0:11:56.760 --> 0:11:59.719 those women. And you know, keeping her away from him 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:02.600 from for two weeks. As you can see, that hurts 0:12:02.640 --> 0:12:06.600 the daughter. That doesn't hurt Hugh. It doesn't hurt you know, 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:08.600 the dad as much as it hurts the daughter. 0:12:09.040 --> 0:12:10.560 I think the docter say something. 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:13.560 You think, Yeah, I mean I think that the dad 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:16.200 should step in and have one on one with his daughter. 0:12:16.240 --> 0:12:18.000 I don't think the mom should have anything to do 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:20.520 with it. I think he should also explain to her 0:12:20.840 --> 0:12:24.120 that sometimes mommy's and daddies don't say together. I know 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:26.880 you probably want to see because baby girl probably want 0:12:26.880 --> 0:12:29.120 to see her mom and her dad together. Yeah, which 0:12:29.240 --> 0:12:32.080 is something that she probably already saw. And now she's confused. 0:12:32.320 --> 0:12:35.679 There's not one. There's not only this one new woman 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:37.360 that my dad is introducing me to her that I'm 0:12:37.400 --> 0:12:38.319 seeing around my father. 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:42.679 But there are two women. Okay. I honestly had reservation 0:12:42.800 --> 0:12:46.200 about it when they said neo. When neo, baby mom 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:47.000 was like, yo, you. 0:12:47.320 --> 0:12:50.000 Got these four women around my kids, like you introduced 0:12:50.000 --> 0:12:51.320 them and then you know what I'm saying, like this 0:12:51.400 --> 0:12:53.840 is crazy. You have daughters and you have sons and 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:55.720 you're letting them know that this is okay in life. 0:12:56.080 --> 0:12:57.360 Yeah. 0:12:57.440 --> 0:13:02.800 And Neil, so you're like, because like live how you 0:13:02.760 --> 0:13:03.280 wouldn't live. 0:13:03.320 --> 0:13:05.480 But it's just how he just is going about it. 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:10.280 It's just disappointing. Like all of your songs were lies. 0:13:11.440 --> 0:13:13.800 I know, and I still be but I don't care. 0:13:15.200 --> 0:13:16.520 I know it is crazy. 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:20.440 He was saying too that like he tells his kids like, yeah, 0:13:20.600 --> 0:13:22.360 this one, you know, she'll take you to work. 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:26.400 This one, Yeah, this one's gonna cook your gonna But 0:13:26.440 --> 0:13:30.720 it's like they have rules, but you're teaching yes because 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:33.680 you have daughter. Neil has daughters and sons. He does 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:37.679 I think he just has sons. No, he has daughters too, 0:13:37.720 --> 0:13:42.840 I believe, m hmm. But yeah, So I mean I'm 0:13:42.960 --> 0:13:46.080 with I'm totally with keeping it real with your kids, 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:48.160 Like you shouldn't lie to your children, know that's what Like, 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:52.920 that's what black families have done up until now. Like 0:13:52.960 --> 0:13:54.320 you know what I'm saying, Like back in the day, 0:13:54.640 --> 0:13:56.880 they always swept shit under the rug. They lie to 0:13:56.920 --> 0:13:59.920 different you know, trying to parents would make it seem 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:02.360 like everything is great in the house. 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:05.120 Yeah, and it's not, you know what I mean. 0:14:05.280 --> 0:14:08.560 Like even me growing up with two married parents, there's 0:14:08.559 --> 0:14:10.200 a lot of shit going on that I didn't find 0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:12.560 out about until I was an adult, and that was 0:14:12.600 --> 0:14:16.520 their way of protecting us, you know, and do I 0:14:16.520 --> 0:14:18.800 think they should have done it another way, just for 0:14:18.840 --> 0:14:21.680 the sake of themselves not being happy in a marriage 0:14:21.720 --> 0:14:23.720 that long with each other, you know what I mean. Yeah, 0:14:24.200 --> 0:14:28.760 I don't feel that you should sacrifice your happiness just 0:14:28.800 --> 0:14:33.760 so your kids can see a traditional family dynamic growing up. No, 0:14:33.840 --> 0:14:36.560 everything is not the normal. Everything is different for different families. 0:14:36.800 --> 0:14:40.000 I would absolutely prefer that my mom put her happiness 0:14:40.040 --> 0:14:45.560 before you know, yeah, before hours, honestly, because kids are 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:46.600 gonna adapt. 0:14:46.800 --> 0:14:49.600 We we're kids, We're gonna adapt. You know what I'm saying. 0:14:49.680 --> 0:14:50.960 You don't have to live a lie. 0:14:51.760 --> 0:14:54.160 Don't live a lie so long, you know, because then 0:14:54.560 --> 0:14:55.840 your life then passed you by. 0:14:56.320 --> 0:14:57.000 You know what I'm saying. 0:14:57.760 --> 0:14:59.480 Up, Hold up, I know this shit getting good, But 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:01.880 listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. If 0:15:01.920 --> 0:15:05.280 you love me, you'll listen. I was a kid we didn't. 0:15:05.400 --> 0:15:08.200 We would have adapted the fun you know what I'm saying. 0:15:08.440 --> 0:15:10.520 My dad was never a bad daddy, just wasn't a 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:13.800 good husband, you know, so that that's just what it was. 0:15:14.040 --> 0:15:16.600 He was the greatest father I could have had ever, 0:15:16.880 --> 0:15:20.160 and we would have definitely adapted to them living separate 0:15:20.440 --> 0:15:20.880 or whatever. 0:15:21.120 --> 0:15:23.680 You know what I'm saying. But back to this shit, 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:25.800 What the fuck was the story about again? 0:15:25.920 --> 0:15:28.440 Because girl, I'm like the fire know what to do 0:15:28.720 --> 0:15:30.000 when it comes to her. 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:34.920 Okay, yeah, okay, that's all. 0:15:34.920 --> 0:15:36.400 I don't want to keep her from saying her father, but 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:38.440 it comes to a point, especially when it has to 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:41.560 do with my child and her comfortability. Yes, but I 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:45.600 do want you to update me on this because I 0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:47.160 want to know did you move on from your baby 0:15:47.240 --> 0:15:47.760 daddy yet? 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:49.920 You know what I mean? I feel like you haven't. 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:55.760 I feel like there is maybe. I don't know. 0:15:55.800 --> 0:15:59.320 I just feel like because because how she describes the 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:02.480 girlfriend the beginning, the new little girlfriend is very telling, 0:16:03.440 --> 0:16:04.080 you know what I mean. 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:07.920 It sounds a little yeah, a little new little. 0:16:07.640 --> 0:16:10.520 Girlfriend like and then she didn't even say little she 0:16:10.760 --> 0:16:13.760 l I l yeah, oh bitch here that was me 0:16:13.800 --> 0:16:16.240 all that when when I was back back, back, end 0:16:16.240 --> 0:16:19.120 of the day, Rome had a new little bitch. I 0:16:19.120 --> 0:16:21.280 would definitely sound like that, you know what I mean, 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:24.360 rather like now it's more so like oh, Rome's friend 0:16:24.440 --> 0:16:26.800 or Rome's girlfriend or you know he's in a relationship now, 0:16:26.800 --> 0:16:27.240 you know whatever. 0:16:27.400 --> 0:16:31.040 So I would I refer to Mariah as from. 0:16:31.160 --> 0:16:34.320 Friend when you were back in the day, did he 0:16:34.360 --> 0:16:34.640 bring me? 0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:37.920 I never kept him. I never kept him from ash 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:40.960 was bad ship. Please get him? No, but you can 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:42.880 have him around ten bitches please. 0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:44.640 He didn't care he was around other girls. 0:16:44.720 --> 0:16:44.880 No. 0:16:44.960 --> 0:16:50.360 You know why because Rome loves his children, has always 0:16:50.560 --> 0:16:54.200 loved even when it was just Ashton, like loved my son, 0:16:54.320 --> 0:16:57.880 loved his son. So I always trusted that Rome would 0:16:57.920 --> 0:17:01.680 never ever put Ashton in harm's way intentionally. 0:17:02.000 --> 0:17:04.600 And then I was like over roam very early and. 0:17:06.119 --> 0:17:10.960 Like my last time even looking at Rome in any 0:17:10.960 --> 0:17:14.720 type of way that would give me butterflies was Ashton 0:17:14.800 --> 0:17:19.040 was maybe what three months? Oh wow, yeah, like our 0:17:19.040 --> 0:17:22.520 baby was young, and the last time we'd actually tried 0:17:22.560 --> 0:17:26.880 to get together Ashton was two. And after twenty four hours, 0:17:26.920 --> 0:17:28.960 I was like, oh fuck no, it's literally a day 0:17:29.280 --> 0:17:31.000 like and I was in a relationship with somebody, and 0:17:31.040 --> 0:17:32.800 I left that nigga to try to make it work 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:34.639 again because I wanted to ask you to see the 0:17:34.760 --> 0:17:36.720 traditional family dynamic. 0:17:36.800 --> 0:17:37.119 Okay. 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:38.720 I wanted to give it a chance. I'm like, okay, 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:40.399 I want my family. He was saying the same shit, 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:44.160 and that nigga cheated on me. Oh yeah, saying that 0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:46.160 in twenty. 0:17:45.840 --> 0:17:47.920 Four hours, and I was like, what the fuck? 0:17:48.760 --> 0:17:48.960 Girl? 0:17:48.960 --> 0:17:50.399 When I went to try to go get the nigga back, 0:17:50.400 --> 0:17:51.800 and the nigga was like, oh, I'll stay over, and 0:17:51.800 --> 0:17:53.600 I was like, no, I don't got a grace period, 0:17:53.840 --> 0:17:54.840 like the fun. 0:17:57.720 --> 0:18:03.040 Girl m So that's why, that's that's why I'm say. 0:18:03.119 --> 0:18:05.440