WEBVTT - #197 I Would Never Wish This Pain On My Worst Enemy 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:02.559 Everyone that might be going through something, maybe a rocky 0:00:02.640 --> 0:00:05.520 time in their marriage. Maybe they're thinking about some things. 0:00:05.559 --> 0:00:08.520 Maybe they're they're wondering if maybe divorce is right for them. 0:00:08.840 --> 0:00:11.640 I want you to just here, Here are these words 0:00:12.480 --> 0:00:18.760 that this breed would never wish this pain on her 0:00:18.800 --> 0:00:32.800 worst enemy. What's up, everybody? Welcome back to the podcast, 0:00:32.840 --> 0:00:35.760 Episode one nine seven. Thank you for being here. I 0:00:35.920 --> 0:00:39.559 answer your questions. You send them to me Grangersmith podcast 0:00:39.600 --> 0:00:42.760 at gmail dot com. Make them about anything, it doesn't 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:45.080 matter the subject, and we'll kind of walk through it 0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:48.239 long form, like we're sitting in the truck. You got 0:00:48.240 --> 0:00:50.879 a question for me, and I'm like, man, that's a 0:00:50.880 --> 0:00:53.040 good question. Let's talk about it. Let's take a little 0:00:53.040 --> 0:00:55.520 bit of time, and we're gonna jump right into this 0:00:55.520 --> 0:00:58.240 first one here. Now these are, by the way, they're 0:00:58.280 --> 0:01:01.160 out of order, they're random. I haven't read them. I 0:01:01.160 --> 0:01:03.639 don't have notes. We're just going for it, so you're 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:06.720 gonna hear these as I hear them for the first time. 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:12.880 First one, Subjecline says, divorce. Hey Granger, I appreciate your music, 0:01:13.120 --> 0:01:15.280 love of God and your podcast. I enjoy listen to 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:17.240 them while I'm at work. To get to the point. 0:01:17.319 --> 0:01:20.360 My husband and I are going through a divorce. I 0:01:20.400 --> 0:01:23.800 feel like a failure. I have failed my husband, I've 0:01:23.800 --> 0:01:27.520 failed God, I've failed my marriage. I've failed as a wife. 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:32.600 There was infidelity on both ends. I know it's the 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:36.240 right thing to do, but I've never felt so hurt before. 0:01:36.720 --> 0:01:40.360 This feels like death. If I'm being honest, I don't 0:01:40.400 --> 0:01:42.600 want this divorce, but he has made it so clear 0:01:42.640 --> 0:01:46.320 that there is no going back. Papers have been signed. 0:01:46.800 --> 0:01:49.320 I lost it when the notary walked up to me 0:01:49.800 --> 0:01:53.800 to have them signed. I would never wish this pain 0:01:54.040 --> 0:01:58.040 on my worst enemy. Being a Christian, it's so hard 0:01:58.080 --> 0:02:01.680 to accept that I am at to that high divorce rate. 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:05.720 God bless Brie. All Right, Brie, thank you so much 0:02:05.840 --> 0:02:08.840 for the email and for being vulnerable. And there's not 0:02:08.880 --> 0:02:13.080 a question here. So interesting. It's very rare that I 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:15.160 get an email that's not a question. But I'm going 0:02:15.240 --> 0:02:18.720 to use this actually for this podcast because I think 0:02:20.320 --> 0:02:24.480 you not asking a question is just as powerful to 0:02:24.680 --> 0:02:28.640 tell your story out loud, to say it to anyone 0:02:28.680 --> 0:02:33.120 that's listening, so that either it's a warning to them, 0:02:33.400 --> 0:02:37.799 or it's encouragement for them, or it's reassurance for them 0:02:38.280 --> 0:02:44.359 either way, everyone listened to what she's saying. Imagine this moment, 0:02:44.400 --> 0:02:48.960 Imagine this scenario playing out, and we could almost picture it. 0:02:49.000 --> 0:02:53.040 Where she says, papers have been signed. I lost it 0:02:53.880 --> 0:02:57.160 when the notary walked up to me to have them signed. 0:02:57.680 --> 0:03:05.040 I would never wish this pain on my worst enemy. 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:10.120 I wish everyone could use that, everyone that might be 0:03:10.160 --> 0:03:12.720 going through something, maybe a rocky time in their marriage. 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:16.200 Maybe they're thinking about some things. Maybe they're wondering if 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:18.600 maybe divorce is right for them. I want you to 0:03:18.680 --> 0:03:24.080 just hear, hear these words that this breed would never 0:03:24.760 --> 0:03:30.880 wish this pain on her worst enemy. I'm so sorry. 0:03:34.120 --> 0:03:38.640 Next question, subject line says, I'm so frustrated with the 0:03:38.680 --> 0:03:42.640 way you choose emails to read. Interesting says, last week 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:44.760 you read an email from a young woman whose mother 0:03:44.840 --> 0:03:47.880 said terrible things to her, and she forgave her mother. 0:03:48.200 --> 0:03:50.640 It was the perfect time to read my email, which 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:52.880 I was asking the same thing from the mother's point 0:03:52.920 --> 0:03:56.080 of view. I've been waiting a long time for an 0:03:56.120 --> 0:03:59.240 answer to my situation. The more time that passes, the 0:03:59.320 --> 0:04:02.960 less likely it will be seen. Just saying last week 0:04:03.000 --> 0:04:09.280 would have been perfect. Tricia okay, Tricia, I'm sorry. I don't. 0:04:10.520 --> 0:04:13.000 I don't have a specific order that I read these 0:04:13.000 --> 0:04:16.200 emails that come in random to me. I'm not screening them. 0:04:16.240 --> 0:04:18.880 I'm not. I'm not making subjects and going okay, now 0:04:18.920 --> 0:04:22.880 I'm gonna look for mother and daughter and have the 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:25.440 daughter the daughter forgives the mother. I'm gonna look for 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:29.000 those kind of emails and read them. I don't, don't. 0:04:29.440 --> 0:04:33.880 I don't have a plan. I'm sorry. There's I'm juggling 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:36.279 a lot of things in my life, and I try 0:04:36.320 --> 0:04:39.040 to do my best that I can through all of them. 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:44.440 But there's certain things that have to give with all 0:04:44.480 --> 0:04:47.920 the things, all the different jobs that I juggle, preparing 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:51.559 a lot for this podcasting, getting ready and not getting 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:54.840 all the emails in order. It's just not something I do. 0:04:55.200 --> 0:04:58.280 It's not something that I have time to do, and 0:04:58.360 --> 0:05:02.600 I don't think it's necessary. Podcast flows just fine without 0:05:02.680 --> 0:05:06.640 me needing to screen the emails or worry about what 0:05:06.680 --> 0:05:09.960 I'm gonna say. So I'm just I think, okay. My 0:05:10.040 --> 0:05:14.120 opinion is the appeal to me of this podcast is 0:05:14.760 --> 0:05:16.640 you never know what you're gonna get. Like, I don't 0:05:16.680 --> 0:05:19.000 cut it, I don't edit it. I just read it 0:05:19.040 --> 0:05:23.000 and I answer it like you asked me point blank 0:05:23.360 --> 0:05:25.480 in the cap of a truck a question, and I'm 0:05:25.480 --> 0:05:28.440 gonna answer it right or wrong. I'm gonna stumble through it. 0:05:28.480 --> 0:05:30.800 Sometimes I think that's the appeal to the podcast. I 0:05:30.800 --> 0:05:33.719 don't plan it. So I'm so sorry that you're frustrated, 0:05:35.880 --> 0:05:41.520 and I hope everything works out. Don't another point, maybe 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:46.240 don't don't wait for me to give you the answer 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:48.360 to move on with your life, all right, Like I'm 0:05:48.360 --> 0:05:55.800 not the guy, I'm just I'm just a friend. Okay, 0:05:56.480 --> 0:06:01.039 next question sub decline tithing. Good afternoon. My name is Blake. 0:06:01.040 --> 0:06:04.000 I'm twenty three years old. I've been a longtime fan 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:05.839 of your music in the podcast, just had a quick 0:06:05.920 --> 0:06:09.720 question regarding tithing. So I recently began tithing and gave 0:06:09.839 --> 0:06:12.960 ten percent each month to each month to the church 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:15.599 I attend. My question is this, is it okay to 0:06:15.680 --> 0:06:20.760 give to other charitable causes, nonprofit organizations, individuals who need help, 0:06:20.839 --> 0:06:24.400 et cetera. Or was tithing only meant to be given 0:06:24.440 --> 0:06:27.240 to the church. I love giving to my church, but 0:06:27.240 --> 0:06:28.839 I would also be able to love to give to 0:06:28.880 --> 0:06:32.560 other charitable organizations, individuals on occasion if I can. I 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:35.080 really appreciate all the wisdom you give on the podcast 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:38.880 and would love to intend a live podcast show someday. 0:06:39.360 --> 0:06:41.920 And he says, add Saint Louis to that tour. That's 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:48.160 cool live podcast tour. And Saint Louis, that sounds like 0:06:48.200 --> 0:06:50.800 a good city to add it to, says Yee Blake. Blake, 0:06:50.800 --> 0:06:55.560 appreciate the email, brother, Okay, a couple things. There's nothing 0:06:55.800 --> 0:06:58.719 to in depth here. A couple of things to ten percent. 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:03.279 That's an Old Testament idea and it doesn't have to 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:07.320 correlate into modern day tithing. In fact, the New Testament 0:07:07.400 --> 0:07:09.320 is going to say a little bit different. Is it 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:16.640 gonna say give generously, give cheerfully. Right, So give generously 0:07:16.680 --> 0:07:20.480 and cheerfully and whatever you feel is right. You know, 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:24.800 if you're if you're in your Bible and you're you've 0:07:24.800 --> 0:07:28.160 got a good prayer life, go at that point, go 0:07:28.240 --> 0:07:30.560 with what your heart tells you to go because that's 0:07:30.600 --> 0:07:34.520 probably a good desire. And it's great to give your church, 0:07:34.560 --> 0:07:38.040 it's great to give to other charitable organizations. There's nothing 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:41.280 wrong with that. And there's to think any other way 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:44.040 would be legalistic about it, to be like, oh, you're 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:46.640 not a good Christian unless you give this amount to 0:07:46.760 --> 0:07:49.600 this organization and not this one and only to the 0:07:49.720 --> 0:07:52.720 church for this Like that's just not it's not a 0:07:52.760 --> 0:07:55.400 healthy way to put that kind of those kind of parameters, 0:07:55.440 --> 0:07:59.360 that kind of box around it would be unhealthy. Instead, 0:07:59.800 --> 0:08:05.120 they about it more rationally, with love, with generosity, with cheerfulness. 0:08:05.360 --> 0:08:07.760 Just think of it in terms of I'm gonna give 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:12.480 to my church because I I believe that my church 0:08:12.560 --> 0:08:17.000 is a good steward of this money, and I believe 0:08:17.000 --> 0:08:18.720 that it could do this, this and this, and I 0:08:18.760 --> 0:08:22.560 believe in this this body, this local congregation that I 0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:25.920 pour into and they pour into me, and we were 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:28.800 a family together in that way. Okay, So so I'm 0:08:28.800 --> 0:08:32.800 gonna give to them because of that. But I'm not 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:35.640 because of an obligation that I have to, not because 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:38.320 I'm a bad person if I don't. And saying with 0:08:38.400 --> 0:08:40.040 given a little bit over here and a little bit 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:43.440 over here, do it because because you're a good steward 0:08:43.760 --> 0:08:46.760 of money that was given to you as a gift 0:08:46.800 --> 0:08:50.400 as well. Nothing is ours, it's all. We're all stewards 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:53.520 of our of all the gifts here, So give and 0:08:53.559 --> 0:08:56.920 give and give according to what your heart desires and 0:08:56.960 --> 0:09:01.240 what you think is responsibly good for your community for 0:09:01.320 --> 0:09:04.640 you to serve back to it. Okay, there's no scientific 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:11.199 formula at all to this, even no ten percent. It's 0:09:11.240 --> 0:09:13.760 a pretty good rule of thumb, right, it's a pretty 0:09:13.760 --> 0:09:16.520 good guide. If you have no guide, that's a good guide. 0:09:16.640 --> 0:09:22.880 We'll end with that. Next question, Sepucline says read on 0:09:23.000 --> 0:09:26.800 podcast please says I'm a big I'm in a big 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:29.960 problem right now. I met this girl five years ago. 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:32.640 We became really close, and then we dated for only 0:09:32.679 --> 0:09:37.480 about three months, and then things just ended. She said, 0:09:37.640 --> 0:09:42.400 We're never getting back together, but we are only sixteen 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:45.679 and I still love her just the same. I don't 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:48.280 know what to do. I was thinking of just waiting 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:53.520 it out and seeing what the future holds. Buddy, it's 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:56.800 time to let it go. It's time to let it go. 0:09:57.360 --> 0:10:00.640 She said, we're never getting back together. Take her word 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:05.120 for it. Anything more than that, you're stalking in your borderline, psycho. 0:10:05.280 --> 0:10:14.440 Let her go. Next question subject line relationship trouble. Please help, 0:10:14.520 --> 0:10:17.440 Hey grangeer like to stay anonymous here. I'm in a 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:23.160 training I am a in training youth preacher at my 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:26.160 local church. And there's a girl that is one of 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:28.680 a kind in my eyes. I believe in Jesus and 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:32.080 asked him if she is going to be a good 0:10:32.160 --> 0:10:36.200 choice for me, because my center in a relationship is 0:10:36.240 --> 0:10:40.720 God and all my signs I asked from God is 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:45.160 green flags. So I told my pastor above me about it, 0:10:45.200 --> 0:10:47.680 and he said I should talk to her about my 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:50.760 signs I got from him. So then I told her 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:54.480 all about my signs I got. But then she does 0:10:54.520 --> 0:10:57.760 not feel the same connection between us, but her actions 0:10:57.760 --> 0:11:00.320 tell a different story. I have tried to move on, 0:11:00.400 --> 0:11:03.560 but our paths keep crossing every time. I don't know 0:11:03.600 --> 0:11:06.199 what to do with my current situation and I'm in 0:11:06.280 --> 0:11:10.240 on a breaking point. Please help, Any advice would be appreciated. 0:11:10.640 --> 0:11:14.199 Thank you for your music. I love it. Thank you Anonymous. Okay, Anonymous, 0:11:15.800 --> 0:11:18.200 I'm gonna go with this last sentence you said, please help. 0:11:18.360 --> 0:11:21.960 Any advice would be appreciated. Brother. I hope you're listening. 0:11:22.440 --> 0:11:29.880 I hope you're listening. Let her go, Let her go. Yeah, 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:35.840 it's interesting, right, like you're saying, this is a little 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:38.280 bit psycho, buddy, This is a little bit psycho, Just 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:41.079 like the email right before it. I don't know how 0:11:41.080 --> 0:11:43.600 old you are, but I'm assuming you're around a teenager, right, 0:11:43.960 --> 0:11:47.000 maybe a little older. But it's a little bit scary 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:49.199 to be honest with you. Makes me a little uncomfortable 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:53.760 because this is what's going on. You say, First of all, 0:11:54.240 --> 0:11:56.600 you know Jesus is gonna say this wicked generation that 0:11:56.679 --> 0:12:01.880 asked for signs. Did you know that, ye, youth, pastor 0:12:01.880 --> 0:12:06.400 and training, stop asking for signs. You have a book, 0:12:06.600 --> 0:12:09.400 a Bible, that is the living, breathing word of God, 0:12:09.960 --> 0:12:13.880 sharper than any two edged sword. That is your sign. 0:12:15.679 --> 0:12:19.839 It has been spoken, it has finished. Okay, don't look 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:26.920 for signs. Second, you asked God and he gave you 0:12:26.960 --> 0:12:32.400 green lights. Huh. Okay. You told her about this and 0:12:32.440 --> 0:12:35.600 she says she doesn't feel the same connection. That means 0:12:35.640 --> 0:12:38.200 that's not a green light, that's a red light. You 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:41.760 read it wrong. You're getting signs from the wrong thing. 0:12:43.120 --> 0:12:45.480 That's a scary thing in itself. I'm gonna divide this 0:12:45.600 --> 0:12:49.000 up into many scary things with this email. Remember that 0:12:49.040 --> 0:12:53.400 old analogy. Maybe you don't. There's this old story that 0:12:53.440 --> 0:12:55.640 people used to tell, and that said, there's a man 0:12:56.320 --> 0:12:58.840 and he's on a desert island and He's stranded on 0:12:58.880 --> 0:13:03.440 the desert island and he said, God, God, please help me, 0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:08.280 Please help me. God, I'm stranded on this island. Had 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:14.920 a boat floats up to the island and he goes, ah, 0:13:15.240 --> 0:13:20.160 there's a boat, but I prayed that God would save me. Later, 0:13:20.960 --> 0:13:24.280 a helicopter comes and they're like, hey, man, are you stranded. 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:27.520 He's like, yeah, I'm stranded here, but don't worry. God's 0:13:27.559 --> 0:13:29.520 gonna save me. And they're like, okay, by let me leave. 0:13:30.240 --> 0:13:33.760 He died. The man dies, He starves to death, and 0:13:34.080 --> 0:13:36.360 one day he faces judgment and he goes, God, where 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:38.040 were you? And God says, I sent you a boat 0:13:38.040 --> 0:13:41.120 in helicopter. What's up? Man, that's what your story is? 0:13:42.280 --> 0:13:43.840 Got it? You said, God, give me a sign and 0:13:43.880 --> 0:13:47.480 she said no, I don't want a relationship. And you said, okay, 0:13:47.559 --> 0:13:51.960 so I'm waiting for this sign from God. She said no, bro, 0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:55.920 let her go. Let her go. The guys listen to me. 0:13:55.960 --> 0:13:58.839 Second email in a row. I'm a little frustrated. I'm 0:13:58.840 --> 0:14:03.439 a little frustrated. I've got a daughter. I've got three sons, 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:06.080 but I've also I have a daughter and I love her, 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:09.360 and right now she's gonna turn twelve this year. Stop it, guys, 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:14.040 We're gonna have some serious conversations. If this happens to 0:14:14.120 --> 0:14:17.000 my daughter and there's a guy that doesn't take no, 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:19.800 she doesn't want to be in a relationship, he doesn't 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:22.720 take that for an answer. God has nothing to do 0:14:22.760 --> 0:14:27.520 with this at that point, right, God has spoken. You're 0:14:27.560 --> 0:14:33.960 making this up. Maybe I'm hey, tough love, man. Maybe 0:14:34.000 --> 0:14:35.600 I'm going a little too far. Maybe I'm being a 0:14:35.640 --> 0:14:39.120 little too tough on you. Maybe you're only nineteen and 0:14:39.400 --> 0:14:43.400 this is your first relationship and I'm and I'm maybe 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:45.840 I'm going a little too tough. But listen, tough love. 0:14:45.880 --> 0:14:49.840 I think tough love is better than me giving you 0:14:49.880 --> 0:14:58.000 a softball. Okay, let's hit another one here, man, let's 0:14:58.040 --> 0:15:02.200 hit another one. Subject line on this one says choosing 0:15:02.400 --> 0:15:05.960 between music and home. Hey, Grandeur, First, I'd like to 0:15:05.960 --> 0:15:08.520 say I'm a huge fan of yours, and I'm so 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:10.200 happy the Lord has called you on a mission to 0:15:10.240 --> 0:15:13.720 serve and step away from music. I am a country singer, 0:15:13.840 --> 0:15:17.440 songwriter and a new father. Lately, I've been battling with 0:15:17.520 --> 0:15:19.960 the question of how can I be a good father 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:23.880 and a touring musician. I am not dating or married 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:26.000 to the mother of my child, so it makes things 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:29.120 a little difficult. Lately, I've had a great deal of 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:32.520 success with music, and I have a song that's almost 0:15:32.680 --> 0:15:35.680 one million streams in less than six months, Glory to God. 0:15:36.240 --> 0:15:39.040 I've been praying and seeking guidance on if I need 0:15:39.080 --> 0:15:42.040 to step away from music, or if there's a better 0:15:42.200 --> 0:15:46.040 way to present and to be present in my daughter's 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:51.200 life and on tour. The greatest gift God can give 0:15:51.400 --> 0:15:55.160 a man, besides salvation, is to be a father. I 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:57.960 don't want to regret not being present for my daughter, 0:15:58.800 --> 0:16:00.640 but I also have to I want to be I 0:16:00.680 --> 0:16:04.520 don't want to regret not chasing my dreams when I 0:16:04.560 --> 0:16:08.360 feel like I'm so close to achieving them. Thanks for 0:16:08.360 --> 0:16:10.600 being such a good example for us musicians and fathers. 0:16:10.640 --> 0:16:16.640 God bless your pal. Sequoia. All right, my man, let's 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:22.240 dive into this. I'm a little worked up, to be honest, 0:16:22.240 --> 0:16:24.440 the last last couple of emails. You know, guy, I'm 0:16:24.480 --> 0:16:26.320 a little worked up. Got a daughter, got a daughter 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:32.080 at home, right, and so tough love, Sequoia, tough love. Okay, 0:16:32.800 --> 0:16:34.400 you know I love you. Gotta start out with that. 0:16:34.440 --> 0:16:38.200 You know I love you. Right, Okay, let's dive into 0:16:38.240 --> 0:16:44.160 your email. First thing, I'm gonna say, you say, I've 0:16:44.200 --> 0:16:47.520 had a great deal of success with music, with a 0:16:47.600 --> 0:16:52.440 song almost one million streams in less than six months, 0:16:52.480 --> 0:17:01.880 success according to who, success in relation to what are you? 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:05.320 Are you trying to relate yourself to Justin Bieber because 0:17:06.119 --> 0:17:11.680 Taylor Swift, because she just got a billion in a week, right, 0:17:11.880 --> 0:17:17.520 So I don't. My point is your dream is unattainable. 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:20.719 You don't know what success is if you're measuring it 0:17:20.760 --> 0:17:25.600 by streams. One million streams, that's nothing. If you want 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:28.119 to play you want to play Major League ball, that's nothing. 0:17:29.240 --> 0:17:31.560 That's struggling. Six took you six months to get a 0:17:31.560 --> 0:17:35.080 million stream that's struggling. They're never gonna get a record 0:17:35.119 --> 0:17:38.960 deal on that coming, right, I'm that low of a stream, right, 0:17:39.040 --> 0:17:42.840 I'm I'm I'm messing with you here, and I'm half serious. 0:17:44.440 --> 0:17:46.959 Just to tell you, I want to put in perspective that, bro, 0:17:47.080 --> 0:17:49.080 you're not gonna find this dream if you're looking for 0:17:49.119 --> 0:17:56.400 it in numbers and streams and and chart positions. You're 0:17:56.400 --> 0:17:59.680 not gonna find it this way. Because it might seem 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:02.200 like cess now, but five years from now, if you're 0:18:02.240 --> 0:18:06.880 still doing that. You're spinning your wheels doing nothing. I'm 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:10.320 trying to help with that perspective. Second thing I'm wan 0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:13.560 to dig on a little bit is man, anyone that 0:18:13.600 --> 0:18:17.440 emailed me today, I'm sorry because I'm in a mood. Okay. 0:18:17.480 --> 0:18:20.040 The second thing I want to dig on is this 0:18:20.119 --> 0:18:23.720 last paragraph. The greatest gift God can give a man 0:18:23.880 --> 0:18:28.320 besides salvation is to be a father. That's not biblical 0:18:28.680 --> 0:18:31.119 at all. That's not in the Bible. You heard that 0:18:31.280 --> 0:18:37.280 somewhere you you either. I don't think you made it up. 0:18:37.400 --> 0:18:41.640 You just heard it. It's like, sounds nice, but that's 0:18:41.680 --> 0:18:44.920 not biblical at all. The greatest gift God could give 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:48.480 first of all, the greatest wouldn't be salvation, and the 0:18:48.520 --> 0:18:53.400 second surely wouldn't be to be a father. If you're 0:18:53.400 --> 0:18:56.600 going to start ranking gifts, well, first and foremost, it 0:18:56.640 --> 0:18:59.280 would be in the presence to know and be in 0:18:59.320 --> 0:19:04.440 the presence of the Glory of God, Creator, Father, Almighty, right, 0:19:06.680 --> 0:19:11.080 to be in the presence of Jesus Christ, to absorb 0:19:11.640 --> 0:19:15.199 the Almighty, the Alpha and the Omega, the King of Kings, 0:19:15.359 --> 0:19:18.320 the Lord of lords, to be in his presence. That 0:19:18.359 --> 0:19:21.959 would be enough. Okay, like, that's first, and then we're 0:19:22.000 --> 0:19:24.320 gonna go wait on the list. And you know what's 0:19:24.400 --> 0:19:29.640 way higher than being a father, being a faithful husband? 0:19:30.320 --> 0:19:34.399 What happened to that? Where's that, buddy? That's ahead of 0:19:34.440 --> 0:19:40.600 being a father? And you have you're not with the girl, 0:19:40.760 --> 0:19:44.440 you're not dating or married to the mother of your child. 0:19:45.040 --> 0:19:47.040 And you say it makes things a little difficult. Of 0:19:47.040 --> 0:19:50.119 course it does. What are you doing? You're chasing a 0:19:50.200 --> 0:19:53.159 music dream. You're trying to get a million streams for what? 0:19:55.359 --> 0:19:58.280 Who cares? What are you gonna get out? You don't 0:19:58.280 --> 0:20:02.760 get paid from that. Spotify doesn't pay you that much 0:20:02.840 --> 0:20:06.359 money for this. You're you gonna make a few bucks? 0:20:08.560 --> 0:20:12.200 What are you doing? You you're not with the girl, 0:20:12.840 --> 0:20:16.160 You're not with Are you with another girl? Maybe? Are 0:20:16.160 --> 0:20:17.800 you out? Are you not in the same city? You're 0:20:17.800 --> 0:20:22.360 touring away from your child that you already left the mom, right, 0:20:22.840 --> 0:20:27.639 that's an irresponsibility to leave the mother with the child. 0:20:27.960 --> 0:20:29.879 And you're gonna go out on tour to chase a 0:20:29.960 --> 0:20:35.200 dream that we've already established to have success in is unattainable. 0:20:36.720 --> 0:20:42.920 M brother, are you feeling me? You're feeling me here? 0:20:43.240 --> 0:20:45.520 You know who you emailed, right like you emailed the 0:20:45.600 --> 0:20:50.640 guy that's giving it up because he is realized it's 0:20:50.680 --> 0:20:54.720 a rat race. You're spinning your wheels. There is nothing 0:20:54.880 --> 0:21:01.120 you can grab onto. It's a vapor. It's a mist. 0:21:02.800 --> 0:21:11.959 Only things done for Christ matter. You have left a child, 0:21:12.520 --> 0:21:15.320 you've gone on tour, you've left the baby mama. You 0:21:15.400 --> 0:21:20.240 have no intention of reconciling that at all. That's a problem. 0:21:21.280 --> 0:21:26.840 You've misidentified gifts from God. That's a problem. You've been 0:21:26.840 --> 0:21:32.200 praying and seeking guidance. Here I am here, I am 0:21:32.760 --> 0:21:37.280 brother tough love. I wouldn't be this tough on you 0:21:37.320 --> 0:21:40.280 if I didn't understand where you're coming from. If I 0:21:40.320 --> 0:21:43.440 couldn't sympathize with you, I wouldn't be this tough. I 0:21:43.480 --> 0:21:47.840 would say, wow, I don't know how that feels, but 0:21:47.960 --> 0:21:53.399 I do. That's why I could say, wake up, do 0:21:53.520 --> 0:21:57.040 the right thing you did for the child. I let 0:21:57.200 --> 0:22:02.600 take a break here back. If you want to get 0:22:02.600 --> 0:22:04.560 a hold of me for any reason, get a video 0:22:04.680 --> 0:22:07.800 message from me and send it to someone else, maybe 0:22:07.880 --> 0:22:11.000 as a gift, maybe to someone that has everything. What 0:22:11.000 --> 0:22:14.080 do you get them for their birthday or anniversary? Well, 0:22:14.200 --> 0:22:16.800 you can get them a cameo for me that's super 0:22:16.880 --> 0:22:21.280 simple at cameo dot com slash Granger Smith, or you 0:22:21.280 --> 0:22:24.600 can download the Cameo app and search for me Granger Smith, 0:22:24.640 --> 0:22:27.760 and I will make a video a selfie video on 0:22:27.840 --> 0:22:30.160 my phone according to what you want me to say 0:22:30.359 --> 0:22:33.399 to who you want me to say it to. So 0:22:33.520 --> 0:22:36.800 this is like happy birthday, or happy anniversary, or Merry 0:22:36.840 --> 0:22:40.440 Christmas or whatever it might be. Maybe just a word 0:22:40.440 --> 0:22:43.480 of encouragement. It could be also to you. I could 0:22:43.480 --> 0:22:45.840 send the message to you. But I use cameo all 0:22:45.840 --> 0:22:49.160 the time and it has been a very good tool 0:22:49.240 --> 0:22:51.640 for me to keep in touch with you guys over 0:22:51.680 --> 0:22:54.560 the last four years that I've been using it. And 0:22:54.640 --> 0:22:57.600 sitting here as I record this, we're only a couple 0:22:57.720 --> 0:23:02.359 weeks away from the release of my book Like a River. Now, 0:23:02.720 --> 0:23:06.760 as a podcast listener, I hope that you are on 0:23:06.800 --> 0:23:10.960 another level from just the average listener, the average fan, 0:23:11.119 --> 0:23:16.040 because you have my heart on this podcast and if 0:23:16.080 --> 0:23:19.360 you listened this far in to hear what I'm saying now, 0:23:19.440 --> 0:23:22.640 that means you are invested in what I'm doing, and 0:23:22.720 --> 0:23:27.000 I appreciate that so much. What you could do to 0:23:27.040 --> 0:23:29.480 help me with Like a River is, first of all, 0:23:29.520 --> 0:23:32.800 pre order that book, and I hope you know that 0:23:32.840 --> 0:23:35.280 it's coming out on audio version, it's coming out on 0:23:35.320 --> 0:23:38.879 digital version, it's coming out on hardback. And to be 0:23:38.960 --> 0:23:42.880 able to review it on whatever website, Barnes and Noble, Amazon, 0:23:42.920 --> 0:23:45.680 wherever you get it, Walmart dot com. To be able 0:23:45.720 --> 0:23:49.520 to review it really helps that book because my goal 0:23:49.560 --> 0:23:52.760 is to get it into as many hands as possible, 0:23:52.920 --> 0:23:55.880 especially the people that need to read the message inside 0:23:55.920 --> 0:24:00.399 of it, someone that's hurting, going through grief or heartbreaks, stuck, 0:24:00.600 --> 0:24:04.080 they're lost. I want this book to be a beacon, 0:24:04.240 --> 0:24:06.400 a light at the end of the tunnel that someone 0:24:06.440 --> 0:24:09.399 could see there is purpose on the other side of 0:24:09.480 --> 0:24:13.040 this suffering of this pain. Again, the book is called 0:24:13.160 --> 0:24:15.520 like a River. It comes out August first, and you 0:24:15.560 --> 0:24:19.000 could help me by reviewing it or pre ordering it, 0:24:19.440 --> 0:24:23.280 and especially word of mouth on social media and telling 0:24:23.320 --> 0:24:26.800 your friends all about this book. Back to the podcast, 0:24:31.600 --> 0:24:35.080 all right, Obviously I released these every single Monday morning, 0:24:36.119 --> 0:24:40.040 and obviously I pre record them, so it is currently 0:24:40.119 --> 0:24:46.200 eleven fifty three PM while I'm recording this, and maybe 0:24:46.200 --> 0:24:49.919 there's a correlation. I do better recording these in the morning, 0:24:50.320 --> 0:24:53.719 and I have less patience because I've been dealing with 0:24:53.800 --> 0:24:56.200 life during the day, I have a little bit less patience. 0:24:56.280 --> 0:25:00.840 Maybe that's a lesson for me. Be careful with the podcast. 0:25:01.359 --> 0:25:04.040 If you're answering at night, you might be a little 0:25:04.040 --> 0:25:06.240 more frisky. That's what I'm telling That's the advice I'm 0:25:06.240 --> 0:25:08.520 giving myself if I'm sitting in a truck driving down 0:25:08.520 --> 0:25:14.640 the road. Right, let's got another question here, subdecline says 0:25:14.920 --> 0:25:18.720 X relationship question. Hey grangeer, my name is Zach and 0:25:18.760 --> 0:25:21.760 I've been going through a really tough time recently regarding 0:25:21.760 --> 0:25:25.439 one of my exes. So, first off, little backstory. My 0:25:25.480 --> 0:25:28.280 girlfriend and I were both seventeen and we both felt 0:25:28.320 --> 0:25:31.400 that we were meant to be together, but her parents 0:25:31.680 --> 0:25:34.760 didn't like me, even though I was always respectful to 0:25:34.800 --> 0:25:38.800 her and her family. So nine months into our relationship, 0:25:39.119 --> 0:25:42.000