WEBVTT - Miss Daddy 0:00:08.720 --> 0:00:16.079 Misspelling with Tory Spelling and iHeartRadio podcast. Hi you guys, 0:00:16.160 --> 0:00:23.239 So we just had a big holiday. It was Father's Day, yay. 0:00:23.760 --> 0:00:26.160 But you know, I have a question about that. So 0:00:26.800 --> 0:00:27.960 Daddy's everywhere. 0:00:28.080 --> 0:00:32.839 We love you so much. But I gotta say I 0:00:32.960 --> 0:00:35.880 kind of feel like, as a single mom of five 0:00:36.000 --> 0:00:41.160 now in my household, I'm kind of the daddy now too, 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:45.280 So I feel like I should have been celebrated for 0:00:46.360 --> 0:00:50.080 the father the daddy I am, but I wouldn't have 0:00:50.080 --> 0:00:53.080 put that on my kids. They were quite happy celebrating 0:00:53.159 --> 0:00:57.640 their father. But Father's Day is such a great day. 0:00:57.680 --> 0:01:01.160 And and I know, like my little guy Bo who's eight, 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:06.080 is always like what's the next holiday? He literally he's 0:01:06.120 --> 0:01:09.600 a time guy, totally not my son in that respect, 0:01:10.200 --> 0:01:14.560 and he's like a planner, not my kid in that respect. 0:01:14.600 --> 0:01:15.960 But creatively he's all me. 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:18.720 But he will always be like, you know, mom, I 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:20.959 need to know, like what is the next holiday coming 0:01:21.000 --> 0:01:24.800 up in the year. And you know there's the massive holidays. 0:01:24.840 --> 0:01:29.440 You know, there's Christmas and there's well, gosh, well, we 0:01:30.040 --> 0:01:34.640 celebrate all holidays basically, so you know, in winter, we 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:40.959 celebrate Christmas, but we also celebrate Hanukkah because my side 0:01:40.959 --> 0:01:44.520 of the family were Jewish, but growing up even we 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:49.320 always celebrated both holidays during you know, wintertime because my 0:01:49.440 --> 0:01:53.680 parents believed it wasn't from a religious standpoint, it was 0:01:53.800 --> 0:01:59.800 from a family celebrating getting together and being together and 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:03.640 learning about different holidays together. 0:02:04.200 --> 0:02:06.480 I loved that, so I really took that to. 0:02:06.440 --> 0:02:11.720 Heart when I was raising my kids. So we celebrate Easter, 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:16.320 we celebrate Passover, we sell you know, everything. So Bo 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:19.960 was very much like, he was like, so there's Mother's Day. 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:23.800 So in our house, here's the holiday timeline. It was 0:02:23.919 --> 0:02:27.880 Mother's Day, then it was my birthday, then it was 0:02:28.160 --> 0:02:32.720 Stella's birthday. And then he was like, what's the next holiday. 0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:35.600 And I was like, I should call it something else. 0:02:35.639 --> 0:02:37.440 It's not like a holiday. Well, it can be a 0:02:37.440 --> 0:02:41.040 holiday a to us birth our birthdays. But I was like, 0:02:41.120 --> 0:02:46.200 it's Father's Day. So anyway we as a family celebrate 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:49.919 it with Dean because I don't know, it's Father's Day, 0:02:49.960 --> 0:02:53.239 it's your day. But he and I in that respect. 0:02:53.360 --> 0:02:56.400 You know, there's different for moms, like you know, on 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:59.160 Mother's Day, some moms are like, you know, I want 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:02.760 my partner to take the kids. I want the day off, 0:03:02.840 --> 0:03:05.920 I want to go get a massage. I'm not that mom. 0:03:06.160 --> 0:03:10.000 I'm like, this is all about them, which is so 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:12.840 very tory, like it's all about everyone else, not about me, 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:17.760 But it's the truth in my brain. So for Mother's Day, 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:19.520 you know, it's kind of like whatever the kids want 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:22.400 to do. And it was really cute, like the kids 0:03:22.440 --> 0:03:27.280 wanted to grill. I'm a great cook. I'm a great 0:03:27.360 --> 0:03:31.120 like I'm a d iy home chef. I call myself 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:36.520 great baker, not a grill master. And that was one 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:39.360 of the things that Dean is really great at grilling. 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:44.400 So when we did separate households. 0:03:44.280 --> 0:03:46.720 And that was the one thing that kids would be like, oh, 0:03:46.800 --> 0:03:49.960 you know, we're used to, you know, grilling burgers and 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:53.240 grilling steaks and the grill and you know, hot dogs 0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:55.520 and stuff and going to the pool on weekends. And 0:03:55.600 --> 0:04:00.680 I was just like, ooh, now I have to be gosh, 0:04:01.560 --> 0:04:04.880 single mom. Now I'm becoming a daddy in my household, 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:09.200 and now I have to become a grill master. The 0:04:09.240 --> 0:04:12.200 grill used to be the bane of my existence. But 0:04:12.720 --> 0:04:16.920 I am happy to report anyone that knows me well 0:04:16.960 --> 0:04:19.600 knows that, like I was like, I can make anything, 0:04:20.279 --> 0:04:21.920 but I had like an. 0:04:21.760 --> 0:04:24.000 Aversion to the grill. I was always like. 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:25.960 Oh, no, no, no, I don't know anything about grilling. 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:30.840 Dean does that, Dad does that. But you know in 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:36.039 my house, you know, I now am for everything. So 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:43.120 I've officially learned a grill. I am pretty good at it. 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:46.599 I learned really quickly, thank you too. 0:04:47.120 --> 0:04:48.640 Of course, you know, I had to get like the 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:55.000 apron just because I'm not girl. Thank you Etsy. It 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:57.679 says grill me daddy instead of calling me daddy. Grilled 0:04:57.720 --> 0:05:01.919 me daddy, and I wore that. It was really cute. 0:05:02.400 --> 0:05:06.120 It also made me reflect on my dad because I 0:05:06.240 --> 0:05:09.880 was like, oh my gosh, I am a self professed 0:05:09.960 --> 0:05:11.000 daddy's girl. 0:05:10.880 --> 0:05:16.719 Which I feel like is a whole different meeting nowadays. Yeah, 0:05:16.760 --> 0:05:18.840 growing up, I was like, my dad's my hero. I'm 0:05:18.839 --> 0:05:20.440 a daddy's girl. I'm a daddy's girl. 0:05:20.920 --> 0:05:23.440 And now you have to be careful when you say 0:05:23.480 --> 0:05:25.600 you're a daddy's girl, because people are it can mean 0:05:25.640 --> 0:05:32.080 something completely different if you know, you know. And it 0:05:32.160 --> 0:05:35.920 was interesting because my son, who was in first grade, 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:39.200 he had his class party and it was the end 0:05:39.240 --> 0:05:41.360 of the year, and this was a few days before 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:46.240 Father's Day, and I took my teens with me to 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:49.839 his class party. Dean was working, he couldn't go. I 0:05:49.920 --> 0:05:53.359 went and took two of my teens and we're in 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:55.880 the class and we're helping both make cupcakes and a 0:05:55.880 --> 0:05:58.280 crown hat and all this. And there's this little first 0:05:58.360 --> 0:06:02.040 grader and it says daddy's girl. She's a daddy's girl. 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:04.960 I'm like, I was a daddy's girl growing up. Like 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:10.000 it's so funny that now, like everybody like, oh, your daddy, 0:06:10.040 --> 0:06:11.040 like call me daddy. 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:14.480 You know. It's just like it's a whole different. 0:06:15.480 --> 0:06:20.160 Sexual connotation now, but interesting, But growing up, I was 0:06:20.200 --> 0:06:21.320 a total daddy's girl. 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:25.599 My dad was my hero, still is my hero. And 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:27.560 I just remember. 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:30.880 Always Father's Day like we and he was like that too. 0:06:30.920 --> 0:06:33.440 My mom and dad were the same, like on Mother's Day. 0:06:33.480 --> 0:06:35.880 On Father's Day, they didn't say like, oh, I'm gonna 0:06:35.880 --> 0:06:39.120 go do my own thing and it's my day. They 0:06:39.120 --> 0:06:41.400 were like, whatever the kids want to do. So this man, 0:06:41.440 --> 0:06:47.679 who was such a workaholic, worked such crazy hours during 0:06:47.720 --> 0:06:51.080 the week and on the weekends, he would always be like, 0:06:52.120 --> 0:06:53.240 whatever you guys. 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:56.640 Want, I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm so him. 0:06:57.520 --> 0:07:02.000 But anyway, yeah, so growing up and it's no longer there, 0:07:02.040 --> 0:07:04.080 but it was like his I've talked about it before 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:09.440 on the podcast. A historical like restaurant landmark of like 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:16.520 Hollywood Royalty called Chasin's and it was like I don't 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:18.960 even know when it started, like in the twenties or something. 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:21.560 I don't know. It was there forever. 0:07:21.600 --> 0:07:26.360 And when they shut it down it's now a Bristol Farms. 0:07:27.320 --> 0:07:29.520 There was like mega. People were like, oh my god, 0:07:29.640 --> 0:07:32.640 freaking out. But that was like our jam. Like I 0:07:32.720 --> 0:07:36.160 grew up going there every Sunday night. We would go 0:07:36.200 --> 0:07:40.760 for dinner and it was like fancy but like and 0:07:41.000 --> 0:07:44.600 every Hollywood star would just like walk through, walk through 0:07:45.240 --> 0:07:47.200 and come up to the table and talk to my dad. 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:49.120 And if I could go back in time and be 0:07:49.280 --> 0:07:52.120 my age now and like do it now, I'd be like, 0:07:52.240 --> 0:07:56.120 oh my god, like, oh, I'd get selfies with all 0:07:56.200 --> 0:08:06.120 of them. But yeah, so Chasin's was a big thing. 0:08:06.280 --> 0:08:09.600 And Chasin's Chili. It was like a fancy, fancy restaurant 0:08:10.200 --> 0:08:15.120 and they had My dad went there so often that 0:08:15.240 --> 0:08:18.120 they had something called a Steak Diane and you can 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:20.520 look it up like it's a certain sauce that you 0:08:20.560 --> 0:08:22.760 put on a steak and the way they make it, 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:23.760 but he. 0:08:23.840 --> 0:08:27.440 Like altered it just a little bit for what he liked, so. 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:30.120 It was called a steak aaron, so it would I 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:34.120 would liken it too. How In and Out has a 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:36.760 secret menu and like if you know, you know, and 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:39.640 you can be like, you know, ps, I'll have that 0:08:39.800 --> 0:08:43.520 animal style, but it's like not on the menu. Well, 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:47.000 my dad like coined that shit, like in the seventies, 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:50.200 Like so if you knew about it, and like you know, 0:08:50.280 --> 0:08:52.160 of course he would tell all his stars like, oh, 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:53.720 you should try it this way, and they'd be like, 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:54.679 oh my gosh. 0:08:54.880 --> 0:08:57.000 So it became super famous. 0:08:57.120 --> 0:08:59.720 I have to find the recipe. It's somewhere online, I bet. 0:09:01.080 --> 0:09:04.640 But it became super famous and people would come in 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:07.120 and be like, not on the menu, but I'll have 0:09:07.520 --> 0:09:12.080 the steak erin and the you know, they would be 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:14.960 like gotcha, and they knew about it. So that was 0:09:15.000 --> 0:09:16.520 a big thing. But I was a kid, so I 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:21.480 need steak aaron. But the chili. They were known for 0:09:21.559 --> 0:09:24.280 their chili, which is so funny because you would have 0:09:24.360 --> 0:09:27.760 like mater D's and waiters and waitresses dressed. 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:30.800 In like black almost black tie service. 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:34.960 And they were serving like a comfort food chuli. 0:09:35.280 --> 0:09:38.760 But it was the best chili over God. Anyway. 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:42.000 I loved it so much that we went there on 0:09:42.080 --> 0:09:44.240 Father's Day for sure every year. 0:09:45.040 --> 0:09:47.840 But we would also play this game because. 0:09:47.559 --> 0:09:50.880 My dad and I very like creative, like visionaries, like 0:09:51.360 --> 0:09:54.000 you know, and kids want to do like make believe 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:56.800 and play this, and most kids are like, I want 0:09:56.840 --> 0:10:00.520 to play make believe and I you know, you're you know, 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:03.800 you're the prince and I'm the princess, and like you know, 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:07.240 or a fairy tale or like silly things like your 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:08.640 Monster's coming to get me. 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:11.240 No. I've always been a foodie. 0:10:11.280 --> 0:10:15.200 So my favorite thing to do, and we would do 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:18.360 this on the weekends is we would get in our 0:10:18.440 --> 0:10:21.840 jacuzzi at our house and I'd be like, Okay, we're 0:10:21.840 --> 0:10:25.080 going to play Chasins and my dad would pretend to 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:27.079 be a patron coming into Chasins. 0:10:27.480 --> 0:10:28.880 I would take his order. 0:10:30.760 --> 0:10:32.640 And I'd be like can I get you this? And 0:10:32.679 --> 0:10:36.079 I'd be like, oh, sir, I know you regular customer. 0:10:36.840 --> 0:10:40.320 You want the off the menu steak erin And He's like, 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:43.959 why yes, please, And I'd be like great, to start with, 0:10:44.640 --> 0:10:46.720 would you would you like to start with a Caesar 0:10:46.760 --> 0:10:49.000 salad or a cup of our famous chili. Like it 0:10:49.040 --> 0:10:51.040 was just such a funny thing for like a five 0:10:51.160 --> 0:10:54.200 six year old to be playing at the pool with 0:10:54.280 --> 0:10:57.760 her father. But yeah, we would go on and on 0:10:57.840 --> 0:11:00.880 and play Chasins for days. I'd have friends over and 0:11:00.920 --> 0:11:03.000 they'd be like, what's this Chasen's Like, we just want 0:11:03.040 --> 0:11:06.200 to like do backflips off the diving board. I know 0:11:06.360 --> 0:11:10.240 there's no diving boards anymore. Those were dangerous, but it 0:11:10.280 --> 0:11:14.680 was like the seventies and eighties. Anyway, we would do 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:18.240 that or this was like a big thing on our weekends. 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:21.400 And you know, father says always on a Sunday, So 0:11:21.960 --> 0:11:25.800 I'm just likening this. Two things we would do on 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:29.280 the weekends is and it was always around the pool 0:11:29.880 --> 0:11:33.360 because we had a great pool and my dad loved 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:36.680 relaxing at the pool and I loved doing that with him. 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:40.959 So I would run to his briefcase and grab one 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:44.280 of his scripts, or my mom had all of his 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:49.280 like already made scripts like that were like TV series, movies, 0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:54.440 movies of the week, all leather bound in the entire room. 0:11:54.480 --> 0:11:57.720 So I would grab one of those and like come 0:11:57.760 --> 0:12:01.760 to the pool and be like I'll be the lead female, 0:12:02.000 --> 0:12:05.720 you be the lead male, and yeah, we would like 0:12:05.760 --> 0:12:08.640 read through his script and then I'd give notes and 0:12:08.679 --> 0:12:10.440 he'd always be like that is a good idea. 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:12.679 Wow, Okay. 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:16.559 He always listened to me. That's what's crazy. Like I 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:22.200 used to I used to watch movies and even kids movies, 0:12:22.760 --> 0:12:26.360 and from the time I could start writing, I would 0:12:26.400 --> 0:12:28.320 always take into the movies. 0:12:28.880 --> 0:12:31.720 Well, we had a movie theater at our house. Don't 0:12:31.760 --> 0:12:33.920 judge me, you can judge me. 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:37.120 But even when I went out to the movies, I 0:12:37.160 --> 0:12:40.319 would always take a little pad and I would always 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:44.400 take a little pencil because every time I watched a movie, 0:12:44.920 --> 0:12:47.880 I would wait for the credits and I would write 0:12:47.960 --> 0:12:52.080 down actors, actresses, even kids that I saw in a movie, 0:12:52.360 --> 0:12:55.240 even people that had like two lines, but I was like, 0:12:56.040 --> 0:12:58.880 they'd be good. And I'd write down things, and i'd 0:12:58.880 --> 0:13:01.160 bring it home to my dad like an offering. Like 0:13:01.400 --> 0:13:03.720 you know, most kids, like you know, they make like 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:07.240 painted rocks and like scribbles and hand them to their 0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:09.600 parents and be like, look what I made you. I'd 0:13:09.640 --> 0:13:14.520 come home with like a casting list always, like starting 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:17.120 back when I was five, I'm not kidding, and I'd 0:13:17.120 --> 0:13:18.400 be like, oh, how was the movie. 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:20.640 I'd be like, oh, the movie was great, but I 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:23.200 just found you somebody. Anyway. 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:26.400 We know how that all progress because you know, we've 0:13:26.400 --> 0:13:29.440 talked about and Jason's talked about and Shannon talked about it. 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:34.040 How I had suggested them for nine oh two and zero, 0:13:34.040 --> 0:13:37.720 but I would do that and like Emma Sam's for 0:13:38.360 --> 0:13:43.640 Dynasty Colby's anyway. But yeah, it's just so funny to 0:13:43.760 --> 0:13:48.600 think of the relationship we had at such a young age, 0:13:48.720 --> 0:13:50.960 going back to talking about a daddy's girl and you 0:13:50.960 --> 0:13:52.959 think of a little girl, I'm thinking of this first 0:13:53.000 --> 0:13:56.839 grader going back that I saw sitting there with a 0:13:56.920 --> 0:14:01.120 Daddy's Girl t shirt on in first grade, and it's like, gosh, 0:14:01.240 --> 0:14:04.160 the things my brain was doing in the first grade, 0:14:04.320 --> 0:14:08.680 like just creating. Like he and I were just so 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:13.760 aligned on that and that was really our thing. Like 0:14:13.840 --> 0:14:16.160 my dad was not the guy, like he didn't want 0:14:16.160 --> 0:14:18.160 to hear about boys. He didn't want to hear. You know, 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:21.520 I would talk to my mom about that, but he 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:25.360 didn't want to hear. Probably why Donna Martin State of 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:29.560 virgin for eight seasons, like not probably I'm sure why, 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:33.720 but yeah, you know, we would always talk about creatively 0:14:34.840 --> 0:14:38.520 creating things and what that would look like and I 0:14:38.560 --> 0:14:41.280 don't know, and I really I really value that and 0:14:43.320 --> 0:14:50.120 I think kids sometimes are not undervalued. But it's a 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:52.880 different dynamic. And we think our kids like stay in 0:14:52.920 --> 0:14:55.520 their lane like they're kids, they're young, they don't know, 0:14:56.160 --> 0:14:58.920 and it's like if we really listen to our kids, 0:14:58.960 --> 0:15:02.800 like really listen to them, I think, no matter what 0:15:02.960 --> 0:15:07.360 workplace we're in, we'll learn stuff. And I think my 0:15:07.480 --> 0:15:09.960 dad was really good at that. He you know, he 0:15:10.000 --> 0:15:12.760 didn't treat me. He treated me like a kid like 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:17.560 you know, but he also treated me like a valued 0:15:19.280 --> 0:15:23.400 human that had it that it was smart, that you know, 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:27.000 was creative, that had something to offer. And I think 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:33.040 to some degree that's why I talk a lot about 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:38.880 this about my confidence. And I think on a personal level, 0:15:38.960 --> 0:15:41.760 my confidence, I'm working on that and it's trying to feel 0:15:41.760 --> 0:15:46.480 better about that. But on a business level, I am 0:15:46.560 --> 0:15:50.200 like super confident. And you know, I always say like, 0:15:52.040 --> 0:15:54.560 I don't know, I'm always like I don't know, I'm 0:15:54.600 --> 0:15:58.240 not worth anything. I don't feel good about myself, my looks, 0:15:58.360 --> 0:16:02.320 my but you get me in a business room, and 0:16:02.360 --> 0:16:07.120 I'm like, I will rule that room. I will go 0:16:07.240 --> 0:16:11.680 in and I will know exactly what I'm doing. I 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:14.160 am super kind because that's the only thing I know 0:16:14.280 --> 0:16:16.600 to do. And my dad was super kind, like he 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:19.840 led with his heart but ruled with his brain, if 0:16:19.880 --> 0:16:23.120 that makes sense, and that's what I do. And I 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:34.600 don't know, just feeling like nostalgic and really grateful for him. 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:38.720 Like growing up, my dad was like everything literally like 0:16:38.760 --> 0:16:42.480 summer vacations. Other kids wanted to go to camp, other 0:16:42.560 --> 0:16:45.320 kids wanted to, you know, do different things. I just 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:48.360 wanted to go to work with my dad, like take 0:16:48.400 --> 0:16:50.560 your kid to work day. That was like my summers. 0:16:50.640 --> 0:16:54.960 And I would like literally hide under his desk. He 0:16:55.000 --> 0:17:00.000 would have like a massive office with executives. 0:16:59.280 --> 0:17:00.000 In all the time. 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:03.560 I'm you know, stars and Starlet's coming in and out. 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:05.359 It was like everything. 0:17:05.640 --> 0:17:08.080 But as a five year old, I was just like 0:17:08.240 --> 0:17:10.640 I knew, like I knew there was like a higher 0:17:10.720 --> 0:17:14.040 purpose for me. And I was like, yeah, I just 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:18.560 want to lay under his desk and listen. So I'd 0:17:18.560 --> 0:17:20.960 be like that's I'm just going to lay here, and 0:17:21.119 --> 0:17:24.119 he was. He had a hard time saying no to me. 0:17:25.080 --> 0:17:28.960 I would like, bat my eyes, my big brown eyes, 0:17:29.520 --> 0:17:31.880 which are getting smaller now because they're sinking in because 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:32.600 I'm fifty two. 0:17:32.680 --> 0:17:35.600 But when I was little, oh my god, not proportioned. 0:17:35.760 --> 0:17:38.719 So I was like this tiny, little like girl with 0:17:38.760 --> 0:17:43.000 these huge, like et brown eyes. With those eyes got 0:17:43.040 --> 0:17:45.879 me everything. I would bat my eyes and be like Dad, please, 0:17:45.920 --> 0:17:47.960 and he'd be like, okay, okay, just be quiet. I 0:17:47.960 --> 0:17:51.800 have really important meetings. Like there's like network executives. 0:17:52.880 --> 0:17:53.080 You know. 0:17:53.160 --> 0:17:55.600 This is like when I was little. He was at 0:17:55.600 --> 0:18:00.880 ABC predominantly, and they would all joke he would sell 0:18:01.080 --> 0:18:06.000 so many series to ABC that they like off the record, 0:18:06.080 --> 0:18:10.720 titled it Aaron's Broadcasting Company. My dad's name is Aaron 0:18:10.800 --> 0:18:14.600 Aaron spelling, so you know. And he had on like 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:16.320 Fancy Island and. 0:18:16.320 --> 0:18:17.560 Love Bowed and Charlie s. 0:18:17.800 --> 0:18:21.440 It was like everything right during that era. So yeah, 0:18:21.480 --> 0:18:23.879 I would be under his desk and I would just listen, 0:18:24.280 --> 0:18:28.159 and I feel like my little brain was just like 0:18:28.320 --> 0:18:32.440 taking in so much. I definitely felt like for what 0:18:32.560 --> 0:18:35.119 I wanted to go into in life, and it was 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:38.480 very different back then. Like now, our kids decide what 0:18:38.560 --> 0:18:40.440 they want to be at a young age. We see 0:18:40.480 --> 0:18:44.119 if you know they're creative, they're academic if they you know, 0:18:44.480 --> 0:18:47.840 and we kind of go with that flow. Well, you know, 0:18:48.000 --> 0:18:50.080 I was born in nineteen seventy three. Like when I 0:18:50.119 --> 0:18:53.919 went to school, it was like it wasn't talked about, 0:18:54.000 --> 0:18:57.080 like like you're five, like what do you want to 0:18:57.080 --> 0:19:00.720 be when you grow up? But you know, I my 0:19:00.760 --> 0:19:04.639 little brain like knew something. I knew that I was like, well, 0:19:05.080 --> 0:19:07.920 they say that apple doesn't fall far from the tree, 0:19:07.960 --> 0:19:09.160 and it's really true. 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:11.080 Like I have a producer's brain. 0:19:11.800 --> 0:19:17.199 I literally go through life kind of seeing everything that 0:19:17.280 --> 0:19:20.560 happens in my life and everybody else's life through a 0:19:20.640 --> 0:19:25.000 producer's lens, like through a TV lens. It's kind of wild. 0:19:26.240 --> 0:19:28.200 It's a wild place in my brain. It's kind of 0:19:28.240 --> 0:19:30.359 fun to pick my brain sometimes if you ever have 0:19:30.440 --> 0:19:33.520 the chance in person. But yeah, I feel like I 0:19:33.600 --> 0:19:37.800 just took in so much intel and knowledge that it 0:19:37.880 --> 0:19:42.199 was like I subconsciously it wasn't talked about, but I 0:19:42.280 --> 0:19:43.520 knew what I wanted to be. 0:19:43.960 --> 0:19:45.480 Like did I want to be an actress? 0:19:45.600 --> 0:19:45.840 Yes? 0:19:46.320 --> 0:19:47.440 Am I an actress? 0:19:47.560 --> 0:19:53.320 Yes? Do I love making people happy and smile and 0:19:54.119 --> 0:19:56.280 you know, take them out of their day to day 0:19:56.440 --> 0:20:01.960 by you know, giving them joy I watching, well, you 0:20:02.000 --> 0:20:04.680 would gather on your TV and watch in the living room. 0:20:05.119 --> 0:20:08.000 Now everyone's like, I'm watching it from my phone, I'm 0:20:08.000 --> 0:20:12.840 watching it from my laptop whatever. It's still about taking 0:20:12.880 --> 0:20:18.400 the outside and kind of minimizing that chaos that they're 0:20:18.440 --> 0:20:21.000 going through in the hard lives they're leading and whatever 0:20:21.080 --> 0:20:23.560 is going on in the world, and still giving them 0:20:23.640 --> 0:20:28.360 pure joy, entertainment and escapism. And that was my dad's goals. 0:20:28.440 --> 0:20:31.080 He's like even then, he'd be like, you know what, 0:20:31.240 --> 0:20:34.160 people have really hard days, Like they want to come home, 0:20:34.760 --> 0:20:37.919 they want to be you know, with their family and 0:20:38.040 --> 0:20:40.760 be able to gather around and watch TV. I mean, obviously, 0:20:40.800 --> 0:20:43.480 you know he did shows like Dynasty. It wasn't family shows. 0:20:43.520 --> 0:20:46.840 There was adult viewing as well, but he was like, 0:20:46.880 --> 0:20:48.880 you know, they want an escapism. 0:20:49.560 --> 0:20:51.679 So I don't know, I just always learned that. 0:20:51.920 --> 0:20:55.640 And I'm still like climbing that hill and like kind 0:20:55.680 --> 0:20:59.199 of finding myself in my second chapter now. But I 0:20:59.400 --> 0:21:02.000 definitely I was gonna say, I hope I make my 0:21:02.119 --> 0:21:06.800 dad proud, but I actually know I make my dad proud, 0:21:07.400 --> 0:21:12.280 and I can't wait to be a version of him, 0:21:12.760 --> 0:21:15.639 Like you know, you kind of go with what the 0:21:15.760 --> 0:21:19.760 known is until you can make the unknown happen. And 0:21:20.000 --> 0:21:24.320 you know, what's the known? Like I'm a recognizable actress. 0:21:24.400 --> 0:21:26.960 I you know, got famous in the nineties, nine o 0:21:27.040 --> 0:21:30.360 two and oh Donna Martin, and so I always kind 0:21:30.359 --> 0:21:33.240 of put myself into things. But I can't wait one 0:21:33.320 --> 0:21:38.159 day to be like a full fledged producer like my dad, 0:21:38.600 --> 0:21:41.560 to you know, have my own production company, to be 0:21:41.680 --> 0:21:44.720 making things for other people to be in and I 0:21:44.760 --> 0:21:48.639 can just be behind the camera. I mean, let's face it, 0:21:49.119 --> 0:21:54.960 let's face and bodies. It's like, not gonna be young forever. Well, 0:21:55.000 --> 0:21:57.240 I guess it can be with all the plastic surgery 0:21:57.280 --> 0:22:03.359 out there nowadays, but I don't choose that. And I 0:22:03.960 --> 0:22:06.879 can't wait to be a version of him that everyone's 0:22:06.960 --> 0:22:10.600 like we knew it. We knew like she was like 0:22:11.160 --> 0:22:15.760 his mini me, am, and now I will be me 0:22:16.080 --> 0:22:18.359 but a version of my dad. This is this is 0:22:18.400 --> 0:22:21.639 all very I'm just like, I'm talking out of my 0:22:21.720 --> 0:22:22.360 brain right now. 0:22:22.359 --> 0:22:24.720 I don't know, it's all my feels. Like I had 0:22:24.760 --> 0:22:26.159 all these feelings. 0:22:25.720 --> 0:22:28.000 Yesterday with Father's Day, like the first of the you know, 0:22:28.080 --> 0:22:30.560 viewing it from my kid's standpoint, But then I had 0:22:31.160 --> 0:22:34.200 you know, all those moments of being like thinking about 0:22:34.240 --> 0:22:36.320 my dad, really thinking. 0:22:36.400 --> 0:22:37.600 About my dad. 0:22:37.720 --> 0:22:42.640 And it was interesting because my dream I don't dream 0:22:42.680 --> 0:22:45.400 a lot. I'm not a big dreamer when they say 0:22:45.400 --> 0:22:48.520 we dream every night, so maybe I don't remember them, 0:22:48.840 --> 0:22:54.000 but anytime I do dream, they're very like I wish 0:22:54.080 --> 0:22:57.480 I could remember them, Like I last night, I don't know. 0:22:57.720 --> 0:23:00.560 I in my mind I. 0:23:00.480 --> 0:23:07.560 Wrote like the craziest coolest like series ever. I was like, God, 0:23:07.600 --> 0:23:11.040 if I could just wake up wait you guys, I 0:23:11.080 --> 0:23:12.800 saw this thing on Instagram. I don't know if it's 0:23:12.800 --> 0:23:16.399 true that there's now a device that they're starting to 0:23:16.480 --> 0:23:19.400 put out there that can record your dreams. 0:23:20.160 --> 0:23:22.800 That's not even possible, right, Like that's just. 0:23:22.760 --> 0:23:26.280 Like I don't know, but if there was a way, 0:23:26.320 --> 0:23:28.280 that would be great, because we can like wake up 0:23:28.320 --> 0:23:31.200 in the morning in journal and like write down our dreams. 0:23:31.240 --> 0:23:34.399 But my dreams aren't about like you know, they say, like, 0:23:34.480 --> 0:23:35.520