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Speaker 1: Welcome to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. We're back. Thanks

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Speaker 1: for joining us. How are you doing, Susan.

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Speaker 2: I'm great.

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Speaker 3: And if you haven't listened to our episode from Wednesday yet,

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Speaker 3: check it out. We had my darling, little Rachel from

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Speaker 3: Joey season of The Bachelor on the pod and she

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Speaker 3: was amazing.

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Speaker 1: That girl is older than her years.

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Speaker 2: But before we get started, how about last week?

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Speaker 3: I'm still thinking about being at the iHeartRadio Music Awards.

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Speaker 1: Walking the gold carpet. It was it was amazing? Was

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Speaker 1: it not amazing?

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Speaker 2: And I think I learned how to say her name? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: not didn't.

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Speaker 1: It's Suh, Sisa, Sissa says, I love you, Okay.

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Speaker 2: I just couldn't say it.

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Speaker 1: The best part though, you know, we should have been

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Speaker 1: better prepared, Like we knew some of the musical guests.

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Speaker 1: We grew up with Cher and green Day. But when

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Speaker 1: they looked at us and asked us what we were wearing,

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Speaker 1: Susan and I looked at each other and we fringe

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Speaker 1: fringe because we both had fringe on our dresses. We

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Speaker 1: had no idea what we were wearing.

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Speaker 3: We just can't get it out of our heads. We

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Speaker 3: really had a good time and can't wait to do

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Speaker 3: it again.

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Speaker 1: But let's talk about Rachel. She was awesome, unbelievable. I mean,

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Speaker 1: that girl is beautiful, the relationship with her family.

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Speaker 3: Amazing, well spoken, and she was homeschooled and that was

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Speaker 3: quite interesting, I.

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Speaker 1: Know, and I was in education. I really wanted to

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Speaker 1: dig into that one.

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Speaker 2: Somehere traveling nurse going.

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Speaker 1: On, and she is ready to find love, absolutely sure.

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Speaker 1: And everybody out there that loves Rachel let her know.

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Speaker 1: She put up with a lot of bad, mean people.

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Speaker 1: Nice just be nice, kind and those and if you're

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Speaker 1: a nice guy out there, reach out to Rachel because

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Speaker 1: she absolutely deserves it. But today, yay Susan. We have

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Speaker 1: some really great fan questions. I can't even wait to

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Speaker 1: get into them. And I want to remind everyone if

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Speaker 1: you have questions for Susan and me, send them in.

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Speaker 1: Go to Bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour, send us

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Speaker 1: your comments, your thoughts, your questions. We are not short

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Speaker 1: of answers.

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Speaker 3: Yes, please do it. But first let's get started with

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Speaker 3: today's question of the day.

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Speaker 1: What's one thing you're grateful for in your romantic life

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Speaker 1: right now?

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Speaker 3: I don't really have a romantic life, but I am

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Speaker 3: grateful to be open and ready for one.

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Speaker 1: I got to say, you and I are going to

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Speaker 1: agree on that one. When I read that, I thought,

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Speaker 1: I'm grateful. I'm grateful. I'm standing up straight and breathing

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Speaker 1: because I sure don't have a romantic life right now?

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Speaker 1: What do you think?

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Speaker 3: Should we read the questions from We've finally got some

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Speaker 1: So are you so excited about the fan questions? All? Right?

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Speaker 1: Here we go? Courtney from California wrote this, Hi, Kathy

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Speaker 1: and Susan, good start. My mom and I have Oh

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Speaker 1: this one, I have to say, Okay, this hits home

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Speaker 1: have a good relationship for as long as I can remember.

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Speaker 1: We are very different and she is extremely critical of

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Speaker 1: and I made the decision together not to invite her.

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Speaker 2: Oh? I don't want to ruin her day, but it is.

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Speaker 1: Her, it's her mother. And I started out by saying

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Speaker 3: Well, some in some cases it's not just a matter

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Speaker 1: Well, here's an idea, what Courtney, how about if you

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Speaker 2: Is her wedding.

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Speaker 3: She wants to be happy on that day, and I

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Speaker 3: Or they haven't spoken in over a year, that's that's not.

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Speaker 1: But maybe this marriage, Susan, maybe this wedding we'll bring

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Speaker 2: I like it. I wish you luck with that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we wish you. And by the way, congratulations.

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Speaker 2: Oh and I can marry you in October.

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Speaker 1: Just call me always plugging. And by the way, she

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Speaker 1: So if you need a wedding efficient, you should reach out.

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Speaker 3: You know, it's funny when I look back at my mom,

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Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I hated things that she would tell

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Speaker 3: But our relationship was great. So for me, it's really

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Speaker 1: I guess for me that's a no reason. It hits

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Speaker 1: Cam, Okay, this is a true story. This is what

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Speaker 1: I love about Susan. She reads my mind. At my wedding,

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Speaker 1: I certainly hope not, Mom, I hope this is one

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Speaker 1: I get it, Courtney.

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Speaker 2: Okay, maybe don't invite her. Courtney, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: Like I said, have the conversation first and then make

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Speaker 2: So there's all kinds of moms out there.

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Speaker 3: There are, yep, grateful, and maybe some of them do

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Speaker 2: You know they don't.

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Speaker 1: But Courtney, I did invite her. I did invite her,

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Speaker 1: and I will admit I was a little bit nervous.

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Speaker 1: But other than with a torn.

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Speaker 2: Dress, Courtney, she ripped her dress.

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Speaker 1: But Susan, yeah, I was married almost forty six years ago,

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Speaker 1: so I mean forty six years of that one mad,

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Speaker 2: Okay, let's see what this says.

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Speaker 3: Anonymous from Texas says, I'm currently a junior in college

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Speaker 3: and I have a huge crush on a guy that

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Speaker 3: I met in class. We met at the beginning of

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Speaker 3: the year and since then we always sit next to

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Speaker 2: All right, that's.

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Speaker 1: Called thirty that the professor loves them.

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Speaker 3: He currently has a girlfriend out, though he shared with

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Speaker 3: me that they have a lot of relationship problems and

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Speaker 3: with her, but he says that he just hasn't found

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Speaker 3: the right moment. He told me that his girlfriend will

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Speaker 3: be out of town next weekend, and he invited me

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Speaker 2: What should I do? He's so hot?

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Speaker 1: Well, you know what he's said. He's he's hot and

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Speaker 1: he's a cheater. Yeah, no, shit, run do not. I

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Speaker 1: hate saying this. I'm from Texas, but anonymous from Texas.

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Speaker 1: I don't care how good he looks in jeans. I

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Speaker 3: You know what he's telling you, he has relationship problems

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Speaker 3: because he's trying to win you over. You know, who

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Speaker 3: knows if that's the truth. And it's like dating a

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Speaker 3: married man, They're always going.

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Speaker 1: To wait, have you dated a marri No?

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Speaker 2: No, no, But I hear it all the time.

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Speaker 3: You know one person that I met in the mansion

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Speaker 3: sharing that she was the mistress, you know, and they

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Speaker 3: fell in love him. They were together twenty some years.

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Speaker 3: But I don't know that I could do that.

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Speaker 1: I think I think I couldn't do it. First of all,

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Speaker 1: I think I think you're setting up a bad precedent

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Speaker 1: when you go over to his house. If he really

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Speaker 1: coffee to chit chat. But the fact that he invited

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Speaker 2: And when she comes back, you're the one that's a secret.

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Speaker 3: Like when we were talking to Rachel about open what

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Speaker 3: they do today, the feral relationships, Yeah, it's like crazy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. No, I would say this does not smell right.

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Speaker 1: And here's my advice to you. When a man shows

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Speaker 1: you who they are the first time, believe them. So

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Speaker 1: I would say he may look hot, but he's freezing

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Speaker 1: cold when it comes to relationship success.

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Speaker 2: And don't do something that you're gonna regret.

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Speaker 1: Your lead in short, in short, say no, run, do

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Speaker 1: not walk to the nearest exit. All right, Kathy, So

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Speaker 1: we move on to there let's go Anonymous. Come on, people,

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Speaker 1: that's okay. You don't have to say your name. That's friendly.

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Speaker 1: It's still a good question. Anonymous from Florida send us this. Hi,

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Speaker 1: Susan and Cathy. Thanks for all that you do. I

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Speaker 1: really love your podcast. Well, thank you so much. Anonymous

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Speaker 1: I hope you understand.

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Speaker 2: Not a problem, not a problem.

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Speaker 1: I am a fifty two year old woman and I've

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Speaker 2: Well guess what. Thank you so much for writing in.

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Speaker 3: I'll answer any of your questions of both of us,

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Speaker 1: Would you rather date a man who has twelve children

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Speaker 2: It did not work. All right?

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Speaker 1: Would you rather show affection in public or private?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: I'm all about I like you. I'll hold your hand,

442
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Speaker 3: i'll kiss you, I hug you. I'm not going to

443
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Speaker 3: get nasty or anything.

444
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Speaker 1: It would okay, but isn't the affection I think for me,

445
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Speaker 1: the affection in public is a little looks a little.

446
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Speaker 1: Yeah it does.

447
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Speaker 2: President when you're home, I agree with that.

448
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Speaker 3: Would you rather give up cursing forever or give up

449
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Speaker 3: ice cream forever?

450
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Speaker 2: I would give up ice cream.

451
00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:13,320
Speaker 1: Oh, for me, I don't like ice cream. It's a

452
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Speaker 1: no brainer. I've given it up.

453
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Speaker 2: Look at that. Gods, they're on the same cage again,

454
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Speaker 2: you know.

455
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Speaker 3: One time it was this year. This year was potato chips.

456
00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:24,040
Speaker 3: Last year, two years in a row. I gave up

457
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Speaker 3: same bad words for lent. And my deal was to myself,

458
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Speaker 3: how it was actually the F bomb And I don't

459
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Speaker 3: do it at you, but it's just in my vocabulary.

460
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Speaker 3: With that being said, I promised myself every time I

461
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Speaker 3: said the F word, I would put a dollar and

462
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Speaker 3: I would donate it to the church.

463
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Speaker 2: One year it was fifty six.

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Speaker 1: Wait. Can I just tell you? Wait? Can I just

465
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Speaker 1: tell you? If you and Sondra from The Golden Bachelor

466
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Speaker 1: put a dollar, you could build a church. All right?

467
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Speaker 1: How about this one? Would you rather be married to

468
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Speaker 1: someone who is vegetarian or lactose intolerant?

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Speaker 2: Oh that's so easy for me. For me, I guess

470
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Speaker 2: it would be a meeting.

471
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Speaker 1: I was just gonna say, you're not giving up your

472
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Speaker 1: burgers and cheese.

473
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Speaker 3: And I don't know that i'd marry that guy now, Jesus,

474
00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 3: I'd figure it out.

475
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Speaker 1: Vegetarian for me. I love my veggies.

476
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Speaker 2: Would you rather your partner, oh, give you a massage

477
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Speaker 2: or a love note?

478
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Speaker 1: What the hell is a love note? Give me the massage.

479
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Speaker 2: I want it all, Susan.

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Speaker 3: I want that hopeless romantic leave me little love notes

481
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Speaker 3: that would just do it break.

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Speaker 1: You get the love No, don't get the massage. I

483
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Speaker 1: want some of that.

484
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Speaker 2: I love to be rubbed. Yes, all right.

485
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Speaker 1: Would you rather wear sweatpants for the rest of your

486
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:46,119
Speaker 1: life or oh? Or wear sparkles on every outfit?

487
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Speaker 3: I'm really comfortable in sweatpants. I just have to say

488
00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:53,920
Speaker 3: I don't need sparkles. I like playing dress up. Trust

489
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:56,880
Speaker 3: and believe me, that costs me the most in my life.

490
00:24:56,960 --> 00:25:00,320
Speaker 3: All my money goes to fashion and shoes, spark goals

491
00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:02,240
Speaker 3: on every overt not necessary.

492
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Speaker 1: Sweatpants are a must have. Yeah, but you're gonna wear

493
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Speaker 1: sweatpants for the rest of your life?

494
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Speaker 2: No, I'm not gonna wear sparkles for the rest of

495
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Speaker 2: my legs.

496
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:12,159
Speaker 1: Okay, Susan's walking around naked. Great, let's move on.

497
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Speaker 3: How about you, Missy talk to me. But no, you

498
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Speaker 3: don't do sweatpants. You do those type things. Yeah, I

499
00:25:19,600 --> 00:25:21,240
Speaker 3: don't do sweatpants. I do leggings.

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Speaker 2: I got to try them.

501
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Speaker 1: No, you know why I don't. I learned a long

502
00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:28,399
Speaker 1: time ago. You wear what looks good on you. I

503
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:32,120
Speaker 1: have very long legs and they're thin. I'm wearing the leggings.

504
00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, all you sweatpants makers.

505
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:37,680
Speaker 1: Send send me some samples.

506
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Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell you. What's the soffice caddy. I've had

507
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Speaker 2: some awesome I want.

508
00:25:42,280 --> 00:25:44,120
Speaker 1: I want the spanks leggings. They're the best.

509
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Speaker 2: Oh no, the soft great?

510
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:51,520
Speaker 1: All right. Would you rather be invisible or be able

511
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Speaker 1: to read someone's mind?

512
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:58,400
Speaker 2: God? Oh I don't. I don't want to be invisible ever.

513
00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:00,440
Speaker 2: Well no, we don't mean like Ken.

514
00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:04,480
Speaker 1: We don't mean like Casper the ghosts here, like invisible

515
00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 1: where you're sitting there watching what's going on? Oh, not

516
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:11,440
Speaker 1: be seen, so they wouldn't say it like I can't

517
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 1: see you, but you're watching what I'm doing.

518
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 2: Would you like to read somebody's mind?

519
00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:18,640
Speaker 1: I'm trying to read my own mind most of the time.

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00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:22,880
Speaker 3: I don't think i'd like reading somebody's mind. It would

521
00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:26,400
Speaker 3: scare me. Can you read my mind? No, I'm thinking

522
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:30,960
Speaker 3: how lucky you are to be my friend. Okay, I

523
00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 3: wouldn't mind. I always used to phrase, I'd like to

524
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:36,800
Speaker 3: be a fly on the wall. That's the invisible part.

525
00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:37,880
Speaker 3: I'd like to be invisible.

526
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 1: And the way you like bugs, you'll be squashing about

527
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:43,320
Speaker 1: ten susy, it'd be a fly, all right. Would you

528
00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:46,919
Speaker 1: rather go on a beach vacation or explore a new city? Oh?

529
00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 2: I want a little of both. Definitely.

530
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Speaker 3: The beach comes firstst I like my toes in the sand,

531
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Speaker 3: but I love seeing new place.

532
00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:56,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, you and I totally have nothing dad to that.

533
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Speaker 2: When I went to Paris, I thought, first time I

534
00:26:59,040 --> 00:26:59,879
Speaker 2: went to Paris.

535
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:02,440
Speaker 1: Was a first test how many times you went to Paris.

536
00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:06,200
Speaker 3: So the first time I went, it was beautiful, it

537
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 3: was all city, and the one thing I said on

538
00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:12,600
Speaker 3: the way home was I didn't get to relax. So

539
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:15,119
Speaker 3: the next time, when I took my daughter, actually we

540
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 3: were in the south of France, I wish I could

541
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:20,240
Speaker 3: do a little bit of boats like you either start

542
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:22,440
Speaker 3: in the city and then go to the coast and

543
00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:23,320
Speaker 3: chill and.

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00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:25,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, ah wait, I got to tell you my husband,

545
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:29,159
Speaker 1: when he was alive, we took our kids actually to

546
00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:33,480
Speaker 1: Europe once and they were young teenagers, and literally he

547
00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:36,880
Speaker 1: had a scheduled, like, you know, you had five minutes

548
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:40,119
Speaker 1: to see Notre Dame. Let's go nice to Yeah, now

549
00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:42,240
Speaker 1: we're running up the Eiffel Tower. It was like I

550
00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 1: needed a vacation from that vacation.

551
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 2: It's about being in the moment, you know. It's funny.

552
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:50,320
Speaker 3: My granddaughter, I promised her since the day she was born.

553
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:53,560
Speaker 3: And Bella, if you're out there listening to this, yes,

554
00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:55,720
Speaker 3: Mimi is going to take you to Paris.

555
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:57,600
Speaker 1: Oh that'll be trip number four for those of you

556
00:27:57,640 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 1: who are accounting.

557
00:27:58,680 --> 00:27:58,920
Speaker 2: Listen.

558
00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 3: She said it to me this birthday, right, she became

559
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:06,920
Speaker 3: double digits. Now, Mimi, are we ever going? And I said, Bella,

560
00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:09,960
Speaker 3: we are going, but I want you to write me

561
00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:12,520
Speaker 3: a list of the things that you would like to

562
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:15,760
Speaker 3: experience and see in Paris. Oh I can answer that

563
00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:18,200
Speaker 3: right now, I said, Okay, go I want to see

564
00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:19,080
Speaker 3: the Eiffel Power.

565
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:21,280
Speaker 1: I said, well, you could do that in Vegas.

566
00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:24,720
Speaker 2: I could do a lot cheaper I can do, and

567
00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 2: I want to go. Mimi, it's like the biggest mall

568
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:30,360
Speaker 2: in the world. I said, well, truly, not a mall.

569
00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:32,680
Speaker 1: You cant do that. It was at Missouri, the mall

570
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 1: of America. Forget it, forget it. You're not going like.

571
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 3: City blogslog I said, what about Notre Dame. She goes

572
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 3: that burned down? I go, not all the way and

573
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:46,600
Speaker 3: they've rebuilt it. To watch the news so much more so,

574
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:49,200
Speaker 3: I said, okay, honey, I'm going to start that envelope

575
00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:51,600
Speaker 3: and I have it to this minute. I put money

576
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:54,040
Speaker 3: in it every week and it's Bella's trip to Paris.

577
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:57,240
Speaker 3: I said, probably by the time you're thirteen.

578
00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:57,840
Speaker 1: She goes.

579
00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:02,680
Speaker 2: Like that is so ever away and she's twelve eleven.

580
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:05,680
Speaker 1: You know that's youth that it's best right there.

581
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 2: And then what do you do with the other grandchildren?

582
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 2: You got to make special something.

583
00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 1: Wait, can I just tell you? Yeah, but I went

584
00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:13,360
Speaker 1: to private school. I didn't think that went through. You

585
00:29:13,520 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 1: put the first one in private school. You gotta do

586
00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:17,600
Speaker 1: it all, yeah, rethink it.

587
00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:21,400
Speaker 2: No, Okay, Oh, Cathy, let me ask you this one. Please.

588
00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 2: This is great. Guys, wait to hear this.

589
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 3: Would you rather give up caffeine or alcohol forever?

590
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:32,000
Speaker 1: You know what, Susan, I'm going to answer that question

591
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 1: as soon as I have a sip of coffee and

592
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:38,600
Speaker 1: pour some tequila. I would definitely give up alcohol. I

593
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 1: need my caffeine. Yeah, absolutely, I Actually, I think you're

594
00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 1: gonna be surprised at my answer. What do you think?

595
00:29:46,080 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 1: My answer? But I had to give up one?

596
00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:49,200
Speaker 2: What do you think you do need your caffeine? I know?

597
00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:51,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right. I could give up alcohol long for.

598
00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:56,360
Speaker 1: I could give up caffeine. All right, would you listen,

599
00:29:57,480 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 1: I'm just going to preface this last question here.

600
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Speaker 2: I'm reading along with her. She had the balls here.

601
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:05,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, because Susan, I'm going to tell you right now,

602
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:10,360
Speaker 1: you may not say both. Okay, you may not. Would

603
00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 1: you rather get a foot rup or a shoulder massage

604
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 1: from your partner?

605
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:17,040
Speaker 2: It's only if he's.

606
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 3: Good at it, though She's foot rob is important, like

607
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 3: the foot massage is.

608
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:25,720
Speaker 2: I stood on my feet for forty years.

609
00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:26,840
Speaker 1: So you take a foot massage.

610
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:27,520
Speaker 2: Absolutely?

611
00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:29,040
Speaker 1: I would take a shoulder massage.

612
00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:31,480
Speaker 2: All right, Good day, good, that's great. I won't have

613
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Speaker 2: to waste time.

614
00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 1: Excuse me, we're not having We're not sureing to say partner,

615
00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 1: so you know what, forget it.

616
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Speaker 3: Okay, However, I don't want dms for all you crazy

617
00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:42,560
Speaker 3: people out there.

618
00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 1: I'll take a DM from somebody who wants to give

619
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Speaker 1: me a good shoulder massage because you have other fabulous traits.

620
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Speaker 3: So I hope everybody's enjoying this as much as I am,

621
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:55,240
Speaker 3: because I just have a great time sitting here going

622
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Speaker 3: back and forth.

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Speaker 1: If anyone's any question, this friendship is real.

624
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 2: If you can't tell by this, you can't make this

625
00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:02,280
Speaker 2: shit up.

626
00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:08,000
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining us today on Bachelor

627
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:11,840
Speaker 1: Happy Hours Golden Hour, and please be sure to follow us.

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631
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Speaker 1: Oh I'm sorry, did you just say send them to Kathy?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 1: If you're going to prove good looking, kind smart, come

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Speaker 1: my way. In the meantime, we've enjoyed this. Listen to

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Speaker 2: We sure will ye

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