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Speaker 1: Hello Sunshine, Hey fam Today on the bright Side, author,

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Speaker 1: Dancing with the Stars champ and former Bachelorette Hannah Brown

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Speaker 1: is here to talk about her latest book, her Self

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Speaker 1: Love Journey, and what it's like being reality TV royalty.

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Speaker 1: It's Thursday, June thirteenth. I'm Simone Boyce.

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Speaker 2: I'm Danielle Robe and this is the bright Side from

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Speaker 2: Hello Sunshine, Danielle.

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Speaker 1: I guess you could say our guest today has really

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Speaker 1: cracked the reality TV code.

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Speaker 3: For sure, she has.

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Speaker 1: It's wild, It's really wild how successful Hannah Brown has

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Speaker 1: been on television screens. First, she stole hearts as a

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Speaker 1: contestant on one of the buzziest seasons of the Bachelor,

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Speaker 1: when former football player Colton Underwood was the leading man

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Speaker 1: in the reality show. So a lot to talk about. There,

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Speaker 1: so much dramas, so much drama. Then she came back

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Speaker 1: as the bachelorette. So even though she was in seventh

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Speaker 1: place on Colton season, you could say she won because

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Speaker 1: she became the bachelor.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she was so beloved.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and just as a little refresher in that season.

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Speaker 1: It came down to two guys for Hannah, Tyler Cameron

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Speaker 1: and Jed Wyatt, who she ultimately gave the last rows too,

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Speaker 1: and we all know how that turned out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, Hannah broke up with Jed after she

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Speaker 2: found out he was actually in a relationship while they

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Speaker 2: were filming The Bachelorette.

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Speaker 3: So brutal, but that didn't stop her.

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Speaker 1: Later that same year, she went on Dancing with the

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Speaker 1: Stars and won the Mirror Ball Trophy. And then just

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Speaker 1: last year, she competed in and won Special Forces World's

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Speaker 1: Toughest Test, which is this insanely physical competition where she

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Speaker 1: was up against NFL players, NBA athletes, olympians, they were

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Speaker 1: all taking orders from former military guys. It is so intense.

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Speaker 1: I was so impressed with her performance on that show.

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Speaker 2: I actually was impressed that you watched that show because

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Speaker 2: I did not know that about you. You really loved it,

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Speaker 2: But it also sounds like you loved her mental fortitude,

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Speaker 2: which I have a lot of respect for.

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Speaker 1: One hundred percent. I mean, we've both watched The Bachelor.

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Speaker 1: It's unfortunately we have It's not often that you see

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Speaker 1: a former Bachelor contestant have this much longevity, you know,

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Speaker 1: like she's been able to parlay it into a successful

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Speaker 1: career and a successful enterprise.

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Speaker 2: I mean beyond her reality TV domination, Hannah has added

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Speaker 2: the title author and host to her resume. She has

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Speaker 2: a podcast, and then in twenty twenty one, she became

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Speaker 2: a published author. She wrote a memoir titled God Bless

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Speaker 2: This Mess, which became an instant New York Times bestseller, and.

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Speaker 1: Now she's released her debut romance novel titled Mistakes We

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Speaker 1: Never Made. So the story follows Emma and Finn, who

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Speaker 1: went from almost lovers to frenemies. Emma and Finn are

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Speaker 1: then reunited at a mutual friend's wedding when their friend,

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Speaker 1: the bride, goes missing. They're forced to work together to

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Speaker 1: find her, and then the old feelings spark all over again.

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Speaker 1: It's already a New York Times bestseller.

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Speaker 2: Simon and I are going to find out what it's

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Speaker 2: like for Hannah Brown to write her own happy ending.

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Speaker 3: Here, Hannah Brown, Welcome to the bright Side.

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Speaker 4: Welcome Hannah.

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Speaker 3: Hi, y'all, thanks for having me.

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Speaker 4: Well, Hannah.

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Speaker 1: Before we get into your book, I want to hear

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Speaker 1: more about this title, Mistakes We Never Made, And I

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Speaker 1: have kind of a fun retrospective question for you. What's

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Speaker 1: a mistake you never made that you kind of wish

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Speaker 3: I love the title of the book and like the

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Speaker 3: conversations that come from it, because I think a lot

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Speaker 3: of the mistakes that we don't make are just things

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Speaker 3: that we were like scared to do or to try.

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Speaker 3: And a lot of times that's in love, but also

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Speaker 3: in just taking risks for adventure and joy that we

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Speaker 3: sometimes just deprive ourselves from. And this is a very

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Speaker 3: silly one, but I think about it all the time.

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Speaker 3: My family owned a summer camp for girls, and I

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Speaker 3: could have gone at any time for free, for the

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Speaker 2: Hannah, you went from living your love story publicly on

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Speaker 2: The Bachelor and The Bachelorette to writing a love story

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Speaker 2: in your new novel. It felt kind of like a

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Speaker 2: perfect next step from the outside looking in. What inspired

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Speaker 2: you to write a romance novel? And are we talking

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Speaker 2: like something that I've put on my goals of twenty

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Speaker 2: of wild that that is where my start was from.

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Speaker 3: But I always wanted to write a novel one day,

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Speaker 3: Like I remember talking to my mom in like high school,

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Speaker 3: catalyst I'm so grateful for. Did you always love love?

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Speaker 3: It's actually funny. I used to say I wanted to

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Speaker 3: marry myself when I was little, So yeah, I've always

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Speaker 3: loved the idea of love, but I haven't always been

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Speaker 3: like consumed. That's why it's so funny that I was

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Speaker 3: the girl that went on a TV show to find

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Speaker 3: I think once I got in college, and I think

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Speaker 3: my girlfriends in college got engaged their senior year, and

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Speaker 3: so I do remember during that time of my life,

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Speaker 4: Isn't that so wild? Looking back?

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Speaker 3: It's so wild.

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Speaker 4: You're so young.

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Speaker 3: You have plenty of time, I know, and I was

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Speaker 3: the young fungus Bachelorette that they've had. I thought it

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Speaker 3: like really understanding what love is. You know, people followed

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Speaker 3: and kind of coming to more conclusions daily of what

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Speaker 4: We're going to take a quick break.

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Speaker 1: We'll be right back with more Hannah Brown.

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Speaker 3: And we're back.

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Speaker 4: Hannah.

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Speaker 2: You talked about how young you were during the Bachelorette,

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Speaker 2: and I didn't even realize when I was watching the

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Speaker 2: show that you were just twenty four when you were filming.

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Speaker 2: You were pretty mature for a twenty four year old

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Speaker 2: on reality TV?

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Speaker 3: Oh was I? I mean there's some moments we could

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Speaker 3: question the maturity level. But kind of what I want

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Speaker 2: You know, we think about reality TV now, I think

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Speaker 2: we're like twenty years into reality TV and we think

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Speaker 3: Or written, but there are moments that are real. Okay,

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Speaker 3: here's the thing I love when people ask me, like,

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Speaker 3: is it all real? Like? Yes, it actually really is. Now,

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Speaker 3: are there certain things that the television show or the

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Speaker 3: series like has that you do? Like, first of all,

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Speaker 3: you're not dating thirty people at a time, but you're

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Speaker 3: also not giving out roses at a rose ceremony that

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Speaker 3: lasts like hours long, Like yes, that is definitely scripted,

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Speaker 3: even like who I Call First? Like that is scripted,

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Speaker 3: but the feelings and the conversation is not as much.

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Speaker 3: It's just you're in a bubble that is not reality.

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Speaker 3: So it's real in that realm that is not real life.

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Speaker 3: Even though it's very unconventional. I do not like advise

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Speaker 3: dating that many people at one time. You do learn

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Speaker 3: be like surprised that you like, and things that you

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Speaker 3: surprisingly you don't about a relationship. So I'm grateful for

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Speaker 3: it in a way, and it really helped and I

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Speaker 3: that really helps me moving forward too.

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Speaker 1: I remember watching your season and what you went through

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Speaker 1: in the aftermath with Jed and everything, and it was

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Speaker 1: it was so hard to watch from afar, so I

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Speaker 1: can only imagine it was. It must have been horrible.

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Speaker 1: It was horrible, but you handled it. You handled it

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Speaker 1: so well. I mean I loved watching you on the Bachelorette.

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Speaker 1: But Hannah, I have to say I think my favorite

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Speaker 1: reality TV role of yours is on Fox's Special Forces

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Speaker 1: World's Toughest Test, because girl talk about defining things, perceptions

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Speaker 1: that people have of you, probably perceptions that you have

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Speaker 1: of yourself. How did you surprise yourself? I mean, you won.

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Speaker 1: We need to just put it out there that she won.

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Speaker 1: Still impressive, thank you.

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Speaker 3: I talk about mental health quite a bit, because you know,

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Speaker 3: I was on three reality shows in a year, and

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Speaker 3: before that had never like I went to college in

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Speaker 3: always been pretty active and was not like didn't work

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Speaker 3: out for like a full year and basically just did

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Speaker 3: like physical therapy. And I haven't talked about it much

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Speaker 3: the reason I said yes to it is I really

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Speaker 3: needed to prove to myself that I was so much

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Speaker 3: that I was just completely broken and I really needed

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Speaker 3: doctors and they're like, I really think you can do this,

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Speaker 3: And I did like hypnosis type things, like a lot

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Speaker 3: of preparing for pain. Mentally, I still wasn't at the

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Speaker 3: can do this. Like I genuinely was like, I'm miserable,

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Speaker 3: but I can. I can make it one more day.

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Speaker 3: I can make it one more day. And just that

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Speaker 3: I was able to prove to myself how strong I

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Speaker 3: That was something that like camera, you know, can't fully

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Speaker 3: capture how that made me feel. But it was so hard.

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Speaker 2: Wait, Hannah, I have a question about that, because when

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Speaker 2: you said that you were in a really tough place

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Speaker 1: And she's hydrating, she's reading her books, she's glowy. You

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Speaker 1: All Right, we got to take a quick break with

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Speaker 1: I have a have a have a spicy question. We

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Speaker 3: We talk about this so much.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why when it always comes up, and

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Speaker 1: It's I think it's totally different than most relational dynamics.

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Speaker 3: But for them to be like at your barbecues in

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Speaker 3: No, I totally agree. Yeah, I mean I do too,

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Speaker 3: I'm not saying that maybe it can happen, but I

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Speaker 4: Surgeon General's warning is don't do it.

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Speaker 2: It depends how like serious the relationship was and where

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Speaker 2: the bachelorette's bachelorette party looks like?

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Speaker 4: Is it a.

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Speaker 4: Are you more chill?

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Speaker 3: Like? What is this looking?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I really am thinking like the Bahamas would be

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Speaker 2: Simone, and I realized today as we were thinking about

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Speaker 2: the Bachelor, you technically won because you became the Bachelorette.

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Speaker 2: You one Dancing with the Star, You won Special Forces.

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Speaker 3: What is the secret? What is secret skill? The special sauce?

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Speaker 3: I genuinely don't. I never like think I'm gonna win,

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Speaker 3: but I've now figured out my special secret sauce in therapy,

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Speaker 3: Are you super competitive some people? Yes, I don't think

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she's the one to watch.

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Speaker 1: I agree, you are on a reality show with Hanna Brown,

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Speaker 2: I normally would never ask somebody this because the idea

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. Well, I'm working on book two now,

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Speaker 3: big screen. So that would be awesome, That's fabulous. I

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Speaker 3: I'm in a good place of just being like hungry

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Speaker 3: opportunities that I've had I never could have dreamt of

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Speaker 3: just pursuing that. It's great to be a healed Hannah.

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Speaker 3: I sometimes miss the chaotic because like she was hilarious

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Speaker 2: Well, thanks for sharing your big dream with us. That's

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Speaker 2: not easy to say out loud sometimes, yeah, but I.

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Speaker 3: Think you have to, you know. I think that's like

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Speaker 3: one of the things that I've realized so much. You

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Speaker 3: just got to ask and sometimes people are going to

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Speaker 3: or you never like say what the thing is, then

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Speaker 3: you're kind of giving yourself an out. And I don't

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Speaker 3: really want to out either.

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Speaker 1: Hannah Brown never takes an out. If I know one

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Speaker 1: thing about Hannah, She's never going to take an out. Hannah,

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Speaker 1: thanks for coming on the bright side and being so

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Speaker 1: open with us.

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Speaker 4: This was so much fun.

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Speaker 3: It was so much fun. Thank you guys so much.

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Speaker 1: Hannah Brown is a New York Times bestselling author and

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Speaker 1: television personality. Her debut romance novel, Mistakes We Never Made,

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Speaker 2: That's it for today's show. Tomorrow, writer and comedian Chelsea

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Speaker 2: Davontes is joining us for our first edition of Popping Off,

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Speaker 2: our pop culture segment where we break down the biggest

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Speaker 2: stories on our radar and on yours. Listen and follow

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Speaker 2: the bright side on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or

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Speaker 2: wherever you get your podcasts.

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Speaker 4: I'm Simone Boye.

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Speaker 1: You can find me at Simone Voice on Instagram and TikTok.

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Speaker 2: I'm Danielle Robe on Instagram and TikTok.

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Speaker 3: That's oro.

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Speaker 1: V ay see you tomorrow, folks. Keep looking on the

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