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Speaker 2: Stephen is on the phone today for our first Day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Yasmin.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we'll call her and see

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Speaker 2: if you'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe

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Speaker 2: get him a second date. But first, Stephen, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since your date?

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Speaker 3: So, uh, it's been like a week.

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Speaker 1: Just be that she's working.

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Speaker 3: No, I know she's working because we work together.

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Speaker 1: Oh that makes it awkward.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so you went out on a date with the coworker,

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Speaker 2: but now she's ghosting you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but you still see her at work, right, exactly awkward.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, let's figure out how we got here. So how

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Speaker 4: did you guys end up going on a date.

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Speaker 3: So I just kind of liked her. I always at work,

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Speaker 3: like I just you know, we were we were always

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Speaker 3: kind of vibing. It seemed like when we were at work,

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Speaker 3: and I was just thinking, like why not mix Maybe

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Speaker 3: we can mix them like some fall vibes and romance,

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Speaker 3: you know. And so I invited her over for pumpkin

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Speaker 3: carving and scary movies. Yeah, I thought it was I

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Speaker 3: thought it was a good idea.

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Speaker 1: What happened on the I mean.

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Speaker 3: It's uh, first, she looked so good by the way

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Speaker 3: she came over, like one of these oversized sweaters, like

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Speaker 3: of you know what I mean. She just looked, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: she's I really, I really did. She's awesome. So the

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Speaker 3: night it started out great. We had some whiskey, we

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Speaker 3: had some popcorn, and like before the first pumpkin even

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Speaker 3: made its appearance, things got kind of steamy on the couch,

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Speaker 3: Like it kind of just happened a little bit. But

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Speaker 3: since we worked together, we agree to like sort of

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Speaker 3: still having like a really fun, like a flirty night.

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Speaker 3: You know, we're still kind of like charged up from that. Anyway,

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Speaker 3: Then came the incidents, as I'd like to refer to it.

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Speaker 1: All Right, Yeah, so.

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Speaker 3: I was kind of like, you know, I was very

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Speaker 3: in a very like whiskey fueled creative mode, and I

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Speaker 3: ended up carving a lopsided grin into my pumpkin when

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Speaker 3: I was hiring the other it looked like flaws from

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Speaker 1: Kind of melt was probably meltown talking.

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Speaker 5: I mean like I was just like I was, I

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Speaker 5: may not have launched the pumpkin off the balcony.

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Speaker 3: Belted his mother, possibly.

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Speaker 1: In those situations before.

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Speaker 3: I worked. I worked so hard on the pump and

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Speaker 4: You know, sorry, what is she doing though, Like, while

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Speaker 3: Meanwhile her pumpkin looks perfect, It's great. She's like really

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Speaker 3: And she's just kind of like snipped her drink quietly

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Speaker 2: All right, well, we'll see if that is the reason

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Speaker 2: that you're getting ghosted. We'll play a song come back,

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Speaker 1: Okay, I got't really walk.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll see if we can patch that up before

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Speaker 2: you All right, we'll get your first day follow up next.

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of your first day fall up,

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Speaker 2: And if you're just joining us, Steven is on the

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Speaker 2: phone and he is getting ghosted by a woman named Yasmin.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call her in a second and

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Speaker 2: maybe get him a second date. But first, Stephen, why

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Speaker 2: don't you remind us about your date again?

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Speaker 1: Real quick?

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Speaker 3: Who I work with? My coworker invited her to come

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Speaker 2: That is pretty It might have been too much for

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Speaker 1: Might be a little high strung. All right, are you

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, here, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, I speak

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Speaker 2: to Yasmin. Please, Hey, Yasmin.

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Speaker 1: How are you? This is a radio show. It's called

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Speaker 1: The Jewbil Show. Hi, Yasmen, I'm na. Hi, I'm Victoria

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Speaker 1: and my name is Jewbul. What's up?

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Speaker 3: Okay, what's going on?

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Speaker 1: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 3: I have? I have caught it before.

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Speaker 1: Okay, cool.

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Speaker 3: Why are you calling me?

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Speaker 2: Well, we're calling you because we got an email about

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Speaker 1: Okay, So I don't know how.

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Speaker 2: Much you've listened to the show, but we do a

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Speaker 2: segment that's called the first Date follow Up.

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Speaker 1: That's where if you.

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Speaker 2: Go out on a date with somebody and you would

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Speaker 2: up ghosting them, that person can email us to get

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Speaker 2: you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 2: So we got an email about you from somebody that

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. Okay, do you have any ideas here?

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Speaker 1: It might be?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm pretty sure, okay, Stephen.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it is your coworker, Stephen, and we talked to

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Speaker 1: He told us a little bit about it.

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Speaker 2: He said, it's been very awkward at working out because

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Speaker 2: and he's wondering why he's getting ghosted.

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Speaker 1: Would you mind telling us?

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Speaker 3: Okay, this is kind of weird to explain.

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Speaker 6: There was a song in his laundry hamper like hanging

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Speaker 1: Like a female.

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Speaker 3: It's not. That's not what you think it was. Hold

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and that's Stephen. He's on the phone. Listen.

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Speaker 1: He wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, but you're here. Okay, this is we are.

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Speaker 3: That song is not what you think like that? Oh man,

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Speaker 3: I can't believe. Okay.

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Speaker 2: So it wasn't the pumpkin thing because Stephen told us

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Speaker 1: You thought that was it, and I could have been it.

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Speaker 3: No, it's not. It is not. It was a song

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Speaker 3: like it wasn't. I mean it wasn't just a song.

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Speaker 4: Wait, hold on, just so we can all have a

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Speaker 1: Where did you see this thong yasmine?

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Speaker 6: Well, I was going to the bathroom and it was

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Speaker 1: Oh all right, all right now, Stephen.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so this is also going to sound strange, but

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Speaker 3: that was part of my Halloween costume. I was going

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Speaker 6: It was shining halfway out of the hamper like a trophy.

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Speaker 6: If I didn't know if it was bad or evidence.

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Speaker 1: Season's fine. Do you believe him?

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Speaker 3: I don't know what to believe. I mean, does he

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Speaker 6: You have random girls come by. I don't know if

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Speaker 3: It's just kind of weird. It was really a costume. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it was just like, why didn't you say anything like

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Speaker 6: I mean we worked together, and the second I saw

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Speaker 3: Look, I promise you it was I don't have a girlfriend,

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Speaker 3: I don't have visitors other than like door dash or whatever.

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Speaker 3: Like the Tholl thing. It wasn't. It wasn't like I

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Speaker 3: I don't want things to be awkward to work. But

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Speaker 3: I also really like you, like we have there's a reason,

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Speaker 3: you know you came over in the first place. We

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Speaker 3: like each other. We've had a good time at work.

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Speaker 3: We were having a good time that night. Like, don't

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Speaker 3: I don't want this silly, stupid, little costume malfunction to

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Speaker 2: Well, yes, then would you like to go on another

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Speaker 2: date with Steven? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, this is so insane. But I don't.

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Speaker 6: I mean, seriously, I I am just you're really something.

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Speaker 6: I don't know what to think.

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Speaker 1: Should you try it again and find out it's not

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Speaker 3: Listen, I'm it's just I swear to the costume, like

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Speaker 3: Like I I'll dig through my trash and find the

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Speaker 3: I'll let you, you know, help me figure out what

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Speaker 3: you know, underwear. It looks good with the costume thing.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I mean if that's not incentive to go on

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Speaker 2: another date, I don't know what it is.

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Speaker 3: Well, you know what, Let's do it friends. That's it.

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Speaker 3: Let's start just hanging out.

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Speaker 6: No whiskey, no pumpkins, no war drum alsumptions, and let's

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Speaker 6: do that.

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Speaker 3: Okay, thank you fair, I'm terrible at just being friends.

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Speaker 6: Okay, then start practicing because we're going slow.

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Speaker 3: This is great. I'm so excited. This is the happiest

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Speaker 3: I've ever been to get friend zoned. Jub first Fall