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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need

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Speaker 1: advice and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. Please

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Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM dot com

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Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. Anything you want to add

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Speaker 1: to that, Steve like you did yesterday.

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Speaker 2: No, not really, just you know knowing that when you

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Speaker 2: ask Shirley for advice, hers will be advice. I'm not

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Speaker 2: here for that all the time. Sometime it's just tag

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Speaker 2: you it buck.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, if you do send us a letter,

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Speaker 1: we could be reading it on the air.

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Speaker 3: Just like we're going to read this one live right now.

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Speaker 4: That is for me. Shame.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's for you.

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Speaker 4: Buggle up, hold on tight, We got it for you.

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Speaker 4: Here it is Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 3: Subject.

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Speaker 1: There's no way to bless this mess. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I've been kicked out of my church and I need

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Speaker 1: some advice. I attended a very messy church, and if

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Speaker 1: you did not do the things the way the pastor

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Speaker 1: thought you should, he would call you out. I have

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Speaker 1: had a few run INDs with him over stuff I

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Speaker 1: post on my personal Facebook page, and I told him

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Speaker 1: I could post what I want on my Facebook page,

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Speaker 1: and it has nothing to do with him or the church.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure the real problem was the fact that I

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Speaker 1: was sleeping with one of the deacons. But the pastor

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Speaker 1: couldn't say anything because everybody knew he was having an affair.

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Speaker 1: So the pastor and I had words, and I cursed

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Speaker 1: him out, and he excommunicated me.

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Speaker 3: I did not care, and I joined a new.

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Speaker 1: Church, but I was still messing with the deacon at

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Speaker 1: my old church. Then I found out the deacon was

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Speaker 1: messing with two more ladies that I was real cool

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Speaker 1: with that church. All of us found out about each

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Speaker 1: other and we were mad. I told them that I

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Speaker 1: would handle the deacon, and that's just what I did.

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Speaker 1: I went through my phone and found several pictures of

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Speaker 1: the deacon's male part and texted the pictures to the

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Speaker 1: pastor and the other deacons.

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Speaker 3: I waited all what.

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Speaker 1: I waited a few days, and I called the pastor

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Speaker 1: to see if the deacon was going to be excommunicated

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Speaker 1: like I was. He told me that I was the problem,

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Speaker 1: not the deacon. Because of that, I marched right back

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Speaker 1: up to my old church this past Sunday, and I

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Speaker 1: dared the pastor to say anything to me the horrors

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Speaker 1: deacon has found a new church, but all of the

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Speaker 1: other deacons were looking all scared when they saw me

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Speaker 1: after service. This pastor said he would have me arrested

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Speaker 1: if I came back. Do you think he has the

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Speaker 1: right to do that. I should be able to worship

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Speaker 1: wherever I want to, and this is my church home,

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Speaker 1: no matter how messy it is. What should I do?

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Speaker 4: Wow?

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Speaker 3: You want?

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Speaker 4: You want?

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Speaker 1: You want advice from us? You want you want? What

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Speaker 1: can we tell you? How can we advise you? You

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Speaker 1: don't even listen to your pastor. You don't even listen

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Speaker 1: to him in your own home church. As you put it,

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Speaker 1: I can't believe you. I mean, you, your pastor and

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Speaker 1: the deacon, you're all just just a mess.

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Speaker 3: That church too. It is crazy.

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Speaker 1: If you're a member of a church, you should at

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Speaker 1: least and you go regularly, you call that your church home.

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Speaker 1: You should at least be getting something out of it,

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Speaker 1: some kind of Jesus, something out of the servants. Something

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Speaker 1: you sound like. You know, you're proud and not the

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Speaker 1: least bit of shame that you're sleeping with a deacon

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Speaker 1: in the church, or that you cursed out the pastor

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Speaker 1: of the church, or that you texted the deacons naked

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Speaker 3: This what are you doing?

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Speaker 4: What are you doing?

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Speaker 1: What would you say, Tommy, that's not God? No, absolutely not,

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Speaker 1: absolutely not. I mean you need to stop. Seriously, you

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Speaker 1: need to stop. You need to get yourself together. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you need you really need Jesus.

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Speaker 3: You really need Jesus.

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Speaker 1: You don't need to go to any more churches if

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Speaker 1: it's not helping you. Okay, Uh, you know, I gotta

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Speaker 1: tell you, like I said, get yourself together. Come on, sister, repent,

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Speaker 1: ask for forgiveness for what all the stuff you have

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Speaker 1: done before you get kicked out of this new church,

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Speaker 1: because if you can, you know, if you keep doing

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Speaker 1: the same stuff, you're gonna kicked out until you get it.

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Speaker 1: And yes, the pastor can ask you not to post

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Speaker 1: certain things on your Facebook page if you know, if

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Speaker 1: they're not no matter what they are, but if they

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Speaker 1: don't reflect who you should be as a Christian, all right.

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Speaker 4: You're gonna give me.

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Speaker 2: I agree technically with what you said, and I think

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Speaker 2: you were correct in what you were saying if we

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Speaker 2: were talking about a real situation.

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Speaker 4: But this ain't real.

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Speaker 2: There is no way to bless this mess. The whole

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Speaker 2: letter screams of what the hell is? Then Stephen Sheldy,

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Speaker 2: I've been kicked out of my church and I need

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Speaker 2: some advice right there. When a person is kicked out

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Speaker 2: of a church, you think, oh my god, what does

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Speaker 2: she do?

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Speaker 4: Well? Then she said it, I attend a very messy church.

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Speaker 2: And if you don't do things and wait till the

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Speaker 2: pastor thought you should, he'll call you out. So you're

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Speaker 2: sitting up there, it's Sunday. You don'et got dressed, You

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Speaker 2: don'na come down there. I want to bring to your attention,

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Speaker 2: sister parnell Or, who is a disruptive force in our congregation.

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Speaker 2: What so you have some running ins with him? You've

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Speaker 2: had run with your pastor over some stuff I post

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Speaker 2: on my personal Facebook page.

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Speaker 4: How he no? I told him I can post what

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Speaker 4: I want on my page. It ain't got nothing to

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Speaker 4: do with him on the church.

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Speaker 2: And then you said, I'm sure that the real problem is.

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Speaker 4: The fact that I'm sleeping one of the DEACONSU It's crazy.

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Speaker 2: Wait a minute, you diagnosed the problem with your Facebook page.

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Speaker 2: I got so much to say in this letter. This

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Speaker 2: whole thing is a mess, and I have a solution

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Speaker 2: for it.

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Speaker 3: All right, Steve, will hang on.

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Speaker 1: We'll be back with part two of your response at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Subject of today's strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: there's no way to bless this mess, and we'll get

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Speaker 1: back into it right after this.

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Speaker 3: You're listening hard morning show.

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter

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Speaker 1: subject there's no way to bless this message.

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Speaker 2: This lady is a member of a messy church. Her

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Speaker 2: and the pastor had some run ins over stuff she posted.

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Speaker 2: He told she told him, I post what I want

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Speaker 2: on my page.

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Speaker 4: I ain't got nothing with you all the church.

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Speaker 2: But then she diagnosed that the reason that they having

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Speaker 2: a real problem with her is because she's sleeping one

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Speaker 2: of the deacons. But then she say, but the pastor

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Speaker 2: couldn't say anything to you about you sleeping with the

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Speaker 4: So the pastor and I had words.

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Speaker 2: Okay, now they've had several run ins about the postings.

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Speaker 4: Right then she turns around and.

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Speaker 2: Says, the pastor and I had words, and I cussed

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Speaker 2: him out. Wow, man, cussed your pastor out. But he's

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Speaker 2: pastor that's having the affair that fronts people out in church.

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Speaker 2: So as he leads, y'all follow. So see, since he

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Speaker 2: People follow like they lead. I cussed him out, he

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Speaker 4: I ain't care. I joined the new church. I ain't care.

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Speaker 2: Because I went and got a new church, but I

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Speaker 2: was still messing with the deacon at my old church.

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Speaker 2: Then she found out that the deacon was messing with

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Speaker 2: and all y'all found out about each other. We was mad.

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Speaker 2: So then you, being the ring leader, had helper. You said,

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Speaker 2: I told you help when you messing, you heard help

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Speaker 2: find I told them I would handle the deacon, and

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Speaker 2: that's just what I did.

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Speaker 4: I went through my phone.

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Speaker 2: Found several pictures of the deacons male parts.

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Speaker 4: Wait a minute, what kind of deacon is this? The

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Speaker 4: church you go to?

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Speaker 2: You found some pictures of male parts and text the

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Speaker 2: pictures to the pastor and the other deacons. Now, hold on,

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Speaker 2: let me tell you something. Just being a man, if

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Speaker 2: you get a message from a woman. You go, okay,

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Speaker 2: all right, what's coming and it says, you know, download

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Speaker 3: Oh my good lord.

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Speaker 2: We really don't know how to respond in either way,

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Speaker 2: the happy position or the sad position. We don't know

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Speaker 2: it is not us. We're very from the us. Of course,

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Speaker 2: I waited a few days and I called the pastor

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Speaker 2: to see if the deacon was gonna be excommunicated like

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Speaker 2: I was. So you want the old pastor that's having

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Speaker 2: the affair, there's boys with his deacon board that you

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Speaker 2: just sent a picture of your deacon lover's male parts

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Speaker 2: call see if he gonna get excommunicated like I was.

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Speaker 2: He told me that I was the problem.

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Speaker 3: God, dog, we gotta getta get here.

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Speaker 4: It's going up. You the problem, not the deacon.

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Speaker 3: Where is Jesus did She said.

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Speaker 4: That I'm mark right back up to my old church.

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Speaker 4: This was let's do this in this letter. Stop saying church.

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Speaker 4: This is not a church.

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Speaker 2: This is a gathering spot that has a cross hanging

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Speaker 2: up in it somewhere.

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Speaker 4: This is not a church.

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Speaker 2: This is a gathering spot that has a cross hanging

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Speaker 4: This is not a church.

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Speaker 2: This is not the Lord's house, the Lord and in

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Speaker 2: it sure is absolutely right. Well, ain't no Jesus there.

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Speaker 2: You ain't mentioned the word. He a good preacher, he

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Speaker 2: lead us.

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Speaker 4: He'll do nothing. So you went back.

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Speaker 2: Up to my old church and to dad the pastor,

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Speaker 2: to say anything to me.

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Speaker 4: You say it.

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Speaker 2: The horrish deacon, the whole deacon.

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Speaker 4: He has found a new church.

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Speaker 2: But all the other deacons was looking all scared when

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Speaker 4: Oh, here she come on.

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Speaker 2: She after service pastor said he would have me arrested

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Speaker 2: if I came back here all this and he go

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Speaker 2: to course, She said, do you think he has the

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Speaker 4: A minute?

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Speaker 2: You so messy, you don't even worry about the mess

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Speaker 2: Do you think he has the right to do that?

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Speaker 2: Have your rested? I should be then then that can

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Speaker 2: he do that? I should be able to worship wherever

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Speaker 2: I want to worship.

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Speaker 4: Worship where have.

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Speaker 2: Y'all worshiped in this entire letter? Unless the name of

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Speaker 2: this church is Sodom and Gomorro, This is oh my

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Speaker 2: God the worship.

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