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Speaker 1: I was a donkey devil. Yes, Donke here today goes

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Speaker 1: to Gravity Diagnostics in Covington, Kentucky. All Right, this donkey

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Speaker 1: of the day to day is near and dear to

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Speaker 1: my heart because at the top of the year I

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Speaker 1: made a commitment to myself that twenty twenty two is

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Speaker 1: the year of boundaries. Okay, if you have never read

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Speaker 1: the incredible New York Times best selling book Set Boundaries,

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Speaker 1: Find Piece, do yourself the biggest favor and go do that.

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Speaker 1: It is by a Nedra Glover Towab She's been a

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Speaker 1: guest here on The Breakfast Club. She's been a guest

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Speaker 1: on my weekly show on Comedy Central. The book Set Boundaries,

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Speaker 1: Find Pieces a guide to reclaiming yourself. Okay. She has

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Speaker 1: a Set Boundaries workbook that you can purchase with the

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Speaker 1: book as well. And the reason I loved this book

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Speaker 1: is it because it because it's because it gives you

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Speaker 1: the language to express what it is you may be

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Speaker 1: feeling in regards to having boundaries. Okay, what does setting

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Speaker 1: healthy boundaries look like to you? Whether it's work, relationships, smoking,

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Speaker 1: a joint, anything that has to do with other people,

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Speaker 1: Boundaries have to be set, which is why I realized

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Speaker 1: one reason. That's one reason I don't like to be outside. Okay.

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Speaker 1: I took my old ass in these creeks this past

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Speaker 1: weekend to see my guy Andrew shows sell out Radio

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Speaker 1: City Music Hall here in New York City, two shows,

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Speaker 1: twelve thousand people, and I went to the second show.

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Speaker 1: The reason I went to the second show is because

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Speaker 1: he was having an after party. I'm like, Okay, I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna lay on the couch all day Saturday, get these naps,

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Speaker 1: to get these naps in so I can be ready

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Speaker 1: for the night's festivities. And what I realized about myself

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Speaker 1: is after this pandemic, I am very socially awkward, okay,

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Speaker 1: especially in the night life setting. And you know why

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Speaker 1: because I told y'all in twenty twenty two, that's the

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Speaker 1: year of boundaries for me. And I don't know if

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Speaker 1: y'all know or not, but there are no healthy boundaries

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Speaker 1: you can set in the club. Okay. In fact, you

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Speaker 1: actually look like a complete jerk setting boundaries in the club.

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Speaker 1: If you don't want to be bothered, Why in the

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Speaker 1: hell would you be at a club If you want

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Speaker 1: to be tucked away in a little section, just you

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Speaker 1: and your friends. You could be doing that in the

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Speaker 1: living room at your house. Okay, I want of your

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Speaker 1: friend's house. You can't really set boundaries at a club

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Speaker 1: are any setting where you are there to be social

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Speaker 1: and I need my boundaries now. I'm saying all that

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Speaker 1: to say the place where boundaries can be set is

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Speaker 1: at work, okay. In fact, work is the place other

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Speaker 1: than your relationship where you can set the most boundaries.

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Speaker 1: And healthy boundaries are absolutely a necessity in the workplace.

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Speaker 1: And Kevin Burling of Kentucky laid out a boundary for

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Speaker 1: his manager at Gravity Diagnostics. In fact, it was a

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Speaker 1: very simple request, and the request was he asked them

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Speaker 1: not to celebrate his birthday at work. Well, Gravity Diagnostics

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Speaker 1: did not respect their employees wishes and they threw a

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Speaker 1: birthday party anyway. And man, because of that, Kevin Burling

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Speaker 1: got the greatest bat a gift for his life. Let's

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Speaker 1: go to w KOs Local twelve for the report. Police.

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Speaker 1: Kevin Burling had worked at Gravity Diagnostics for about ten

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Speaker 1: months in twenty nineteen, and because he suffers from the

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Speaker 1: anxiety disorders and panic attacks, he asked the company not

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Speaker 1: to celebrate his birthday as it normally does for its workers,

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Speaker 1: and that's when things started to go south. According to

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Speaker 1: the lawsuit filed in Kenton County, the office manager forgot

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Speaker 1: his request and still held a birthday party for Burling.

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Speaker 1: That triggered a panic attack, and he left and spend

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Speaker 1: his lunch hour in his car. His bosses held a

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Speaker 1: meeting about the incident, triggering another attack. At that point,

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Speaker 1: company managers told him to leave for the weekend and

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Speaker 1: then subsequently fired him, telling him they were worried about

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Speaker 1: him being angry and possibly becoming violent. Burling declined interview requests.

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Speaker 1: His lawyer, Tony Bucker, says the company apparently was more

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Speaker 1: concerned about others than his client's well being. A jury

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Speaker 1: believed Burling, and this week awarded him four hundred and

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Speaker 1: fifty thousand dollars in damages, including three hundred thousand for

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Speaker 1: mental anguish. I want my money, Okay, if factsons, y'all

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Speaker 1: want to celebrate b days, and I told y'all not

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Speaker 1: to put it all in a birthday card. Right to

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Speaker 1: check for the false and put it in a birthday card. Okay,

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Speaker 1: everybody not with all that noise on their B day.

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Speaker 1: That man told y'all I didn't want no cake. I

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Speaker 1: don't want no balloons. I don't want everybody gathering around

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Speaker 1: singing me Happy Birthday, even if it's a Stepee one diversion.

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Speaker 1: And it was Kentucky, so you know it wasn't the

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Speaker 1: Stevie one diversion. Okay. You don't know what the reasons

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Speaker 1: were for not wanting to celebrate his born day, all right.

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Speaker 1: Kevin might have had religious reasons. Maybe he just didn't

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Speaker 1: rock with y'all like that and would rather do that

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Speaker 1: with his friends and loved ones. And actually he did

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Speaker 1: have a reason. His reason was because he said a

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Speaker 1: b day celebration would bring back childhood memories surrounding his

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Speaker 1: parents the voice. Look, he don't even owe y'all an explanation.

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Speaker 1: He told y'all he didn't want no birthday celebration. Y'all

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Speaker 1: can debate all day on whether this man overreacted or not,

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Speaker 1: but there's no such thing as an overreaction. When I

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Speaker 1: said a boundary, and you overstep said boundary, okay, And

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Speaker 1: these are actually the worst boundaries to overstep, because this

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Speaker 1: is really all about you. You think that what you

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Speaker 1: are doing, you know, for me, is so great that

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Speaker 1: it has to be done there for You're not really

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Speaker 1: thinking about me. You're thinking about yourself and how it's

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Speaker 1: gonna make you look, and how it's gonna make you feel.

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Speaker 1: You're not thinking about me. So now eat this lawsuit

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Speaker 1: and run me my four hundred and fifty thousand. Okay.

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Speaker 1: All boundary violations aren't physical. Most are mental and emotional.

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Speaker 1: Kevin said. His supervisor chastized him for stealing his coworker's

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Speaker 1: joy and for him and called Kevin said to him,

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Speaker 1: stop being a little girl. Look at those keywords, stealing

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Speaker 1: his coworker's joy. What about my joy? It's my birthday.

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Speaker 1: You don't care about me. You care about yourself. Imagine

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Speaker 1: going to someone on their birthday and saying, if you

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Speaker 1: don't let us have a party for you, then you

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Speaker 1: will be stealing our joy. Come on, man, the nerve.

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Speaker 1: When someone oversteps your boundaries, they are letting you know

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Speaker 1: that what you want doesn't matter. Let me tell y'all

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Speaker 1: something else. No is a complete sentence, And you know

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Speaker 1: what else is a complete sentence? Run me my money. Okay?

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Speaker 1: Please give gravity diagnostics and in Kentucky, the sweet shouts

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Speaker 1: of hammatones. Oh now you are the dogee of the day.

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Speaker 1: Who you are the dog gee all the day? Ye

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Speaker 1: all right, Kevin Burlin, get your coins, every red set,

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Speaker 1: all the money. Thank you for that dokey of the day. Yes,

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Speaker 1: four hundred and fifty thousand. The Breakfast Club